This wonderful world of online dating where it's perfectly acceptable for a woman to require a minimum height but it's outrageous for a man to require a maximum weight.
My joke was that the fat girls put close up face pics on dating profiles. Joke is their face weighs 200 lbs. Women judge men harshly on weight, because they judge themselves harshly too. But the BS being spewed by media is that men should tolerate any sized woman, when obesity is a turn off. Media should be telling woman to be healthy. Thick is okay, just not gross! Body fat above 30% is bad looking and unhealthy on woman. Sadly on Men body fat over 20% is not good looking because men carry less body fat as men do not need reserves to have babies aka estrogen.
Nobody can change your preference. People can only try. So that's a non-problem. If you don't like fat women, don't date them. Just don't be outspoken about how fat they are either.
The problem aswell, is a lot of women in their 30s are fat, poor and have kids. Yet they want men who are fit, weathly without kids and unmarried. You literally can't make it up!
I wish. I'm 36 and I've never met a woman near my age who wanted kids. They already had theirs early and I'm supposed to be happy raising their little shit-kids or their frigid, pathetic bitches who think having a Dog is the same as having kids and don't want any real ones.
Starting a new relationship you want to have a few years having fun doing all the exciting things that bond you together as a couple. Not straight on to having a baby and all the restrictions that imposes.
Only fun things that will be done are the ones you as a man pay for. Each one makes you more of a meal ticket than a man. So dammed either way! Best to find a women that is not materialist.
@Weird Science A system that penalizes success is nothing new, especially here in the US. The two halves of humanity have always been meant to seek each other as they are fundamentally incomplete on their own. I would explain why this is, but your depressing atheism would probably reject the truth of things immediately
seiously they see you give it up for a few drink maybe then try to get some other dude to commit half his stuff should things not work out when it as almost free a few years earlier
Thing is women treat men like shit thought their 20's when those guy's hit 30 (if their not lucky enough to find a good women) they don't give a shit anymore, they know who the women are who ridiculed them and put them down. It's where the MGTOW movement came from, its telling guys to do their thing if a women compliments your life then great if she does not then forget it. Equality is more then just the special hand outs in the work place.
@M.Benstein, Great comment! The truth is that you just shouldn't focus on them because biology will remain the same even if they deny it. Women are going to want men who have a focus above them and being successful at that thing. Our happiness shouldn't be based on women. Be smart and protect yourself and enjoy your life and see women as a compliment and not the focus.
No, but that is still what in general is happening. As women become more educated they also in general become smarter and more able to analyse things. Just because all those developments doesn't match up to what you want it to be doesn't make it automatically wrong. That's just you being biased.
It's the Sex and the Cityfication of society. Remember how women loved that show and how they thought the women were so funny, succesful, beautiful and strong? And all the men thought they were just shallow, wishy washy, stuck up and uninterresting?
No. I've never watched sex and the city because I'm not gay so I don't watch rom coms. That you watched it meant you were half brain washed to begin with...
The gigantic ideological backfire that Sex in the City brought on itself was that the happiness of each of the feminist main characters rested solely on getting the right man.
If I was forced at gunpoint, at least Charlotte had family on her agenda. She was the closest thing to marriage material in that show, and yet routinely she would be belittled by her friends for being even the slightest bit reserved.
Herbox: EXACTLY. SatC has poisoned the minds of millions of women who think happiness is a cupboard full of Christian Louboutins and a drawer full of bunny-eared vibrators. Social needs are satisfied with their equally stupid girl friends but when they suddenly realise the big 4-0 is approaching, they panic and want two children pronto. “He” needs to mirror the male hero of a Barbara Cartland novel - only he’s gone already with a nice, sweet, clean girl. We reap what we sow.
Yep and married men that agree with MGTOW view vow to never cheat on their wives. So the lonely women in there 30's can not steal a married man away. Say NO NO NO to home wreckers!
+victoria ann zabaras. First of all thank you for not going on a 3 page rant like so many liberals do. Which isn't convincing anyone. For your first paragraph: I'm wondering how many of those disciplined women are part of the group complaining about men ? Secondly, I'm not worried about our entire existence. I choose reality and the here and now. Also, shrinking corporations puts more people out of work living a existence of quiet desperation from the government. Which is a kooky idea. As for Corp's not paying their fair share of taxes, both Democrats & Republicans are globalists meaning the Corps get a free ride. But Trump is not with the globalists. He's something different. The point is regardless of what you want, if people are suffering then they will vote for anyone who can grow economic prosperity. But liberals don't understand this.
*Why women lose the dating game?* 1. Unrealistic expectations. (Women expect to date only 9/10 and 10/10 men. By contrast, men will settle for just about anything.) 2. No flexibility. (Women will not change their lifestyle to let a man in. They expect a man to change his life to fit into hers.) 3. Money money money. (Women absolutely refuse to date men who earn less than they do.) 4. Height fetish. (Women refuse to date men who are shorter or even the same height they are.) 5. No initiative. (Women never make a move. They are far too passive and silent. To a man, the lack of initiative is a sign of disinterest.)
All of this is too true. God forbid a man isn't 5'9+! It's so fucking retarded! I'm like 5'2 and there is nothing I can do about it. Furthermore, girls just don't take the initiative. It's always up to us.
@@JACKALTOOTH100 it's not true at all that women do not taking the initiative. In truth, very often things happen the other way round: women chose their partners. A woman knows how to insinuate herself into a man's heart, so as to induce him to have the 'initiative' of asking her to dater her. But men are most often blind to that game and think they are the ones in control.
@@silveriorebelo8495 So you mean women silently manipulate men after choosing one they like in order to make us make the first move, only giving us the illusion of choice? Please, tell me how that is "Taking the initiative."
I have a sister (& never understood a single thing about her approach to dating), and she would lose the dating game all the time because she would lie about being ten years younger than she really was because she knew she could get away with it. Then, when eventually busted on it, she would get upset that the guys she was dating didn't want to proceed with a relationship because she hadn't be honest. Then she'd moan to me about what terrible luck she had with guys. wtf.
They routinely lie about their age but also about their weight and exercising habits. I like women with curves but when a date is 15-20 kgs heavier than she claimed (on top of older than her photos), then you have to wonder what else she lies about. Yes, men probably lie, too, and those who do should also raise a red flag but two wrongs don’t make a right. So happy I found my soulmate. Dating sucks.
@victoria ann zabaras Well that might be but alot of men just dont want to play that game so they dont. The biological need and longing for children and a stable family is much more prevalent in women compared to men. I have spoken to a couple of women who were quite desperate because their clock is running out. They dont want (with good reason) children past 35 but they cannot find a man who wants to marry and want kids. Men are at such a disadvantage law-wise in alot of countries and dont see that they get their fair part out of it that they just do not take the risk. In alot of western countries the chances are quite high that you have to pay for the children and the woman even if she leaves you and they are not even your kids. Most of the time if it goes to court men get no rights to see the children. In alot of US sates if a underage boy (maybe of 14-15 years) has sex wth an older woman, lets say 30 years old, he is liable for child support even if it was statutory rape. There was this unbelievable case of a man in the US who was jailed for a crime he didnt commit. He was released after 25 years and got a big compensation from the state. During his jail-time his wive divorced him and after he was set free she sued for the money he got for compensation. In every normal thinking society this would be outrageous but he had to fight for years in the courts because the laws so much favour the women.
It does make men happier in general though. Men have more to loose on not having a long term relationship then women do according to statistics based on happiness and not finances. When it comes to what matters it doesn't really help us that much to have more money. The best way to reach happiness is to have a few stronger relationships with other people.
I remember back in college, the hottest girl in my year was pretty picky who she would go out with. I never asked her out, we just acknowledged each other in campus, otherwise no interaction. It has been exactly 10 years since college and I ended up meeting her due to a common friend and suddenly she is interested in me now. Only difference is that now I have a Porsche 911 Turbo S and a Ducati.
Well, on the plus side if you had married her back then you probably couldnt afford a porsche now. Women love spending other people’s cash. Now go pump and dump her
Wow, you just fixed my life. That tinder study says exactly what I've thought for some time: women are more physically vain than men are. What a bunch of liars.
True, online dating is a big fraud that takes you money in no time as well as time investment in useless superficial relationships that'll drain your energy out of you.
I worked on remote area mine sites for 6.5 years during the Australian Mining Boom, (which ended in May 2012). During that time, I worked on 1,000 to 4,000 man camps. Each night I would have dinner in the canteen. On the other side of the table would typically be a man who I had never met and would never meet again. These men told me their family stories. I have been married for 39 years to the woman who I still passionately love. However, 90 something percent of the men on these camps where divorced. Their wives found it profitable to trash these men. Then, I would return to Sydney on R&R and hear divorced women tell me that their ex-husband mistreated them. To this I would think; "I do not believe you woman. I have met your ex-husband and I have heard his story. You traded him in for profit." Women today do not value marriage or their men. They have been taught that they "can have it all". Well, yes they can, if they marry for life in their early 20's, have their children early, be a good wife and mother, support their husband in his career throughout their marriage and return to work when their children are in school. Other plans do not work. We need to have disdain for those who fail at their marriage. It is a shameful thing. Such people have failed in their most important commitment. It damages their loved one very much. We need to let the women who leave their child bearing too late to be examples to all women of the stupidity of playing around during their 20's (and even more). When will women realize that having children late greatly diminished the number of children who they can have and the health of those children. A good parent wants many children. My greatest regret is that my wife and I were able to have only 3 children. My advice for a long marriage is: Men, you are the man. You be the husband. Women, you are the woman. You be the wife. Regards, Geoff. Reeks czcams.com/video/a-SgZfMUKKQ/video.html
Amen and God Bless. Women Respect your Husband. Husband love your wife. The lack of respect for men is going to end with men not being at all loving to women. Not protecting them. Not giving an F what happens to them. Also if men are removed from a woman's life she is just a phone call away with 911 and will get protection in minutes when seconds count! Men be men. Workout be strong and move on!
Good women, if they even exist, are so bloody few and *so* far between, that its not worth it. At all. Not the chase, not the catch, and certainly not the "prize." Call me a failure at life. A loser. Anything you want. I've spent the last 7 years post-high school on a journey of self discovery, development and fullfillment. And my conscience is as clear as the night sky. I'm training for the profession and world that i love. (Aviation) Im gonna be making excellent money (secondary goal) doing it, and i'll reap the rewards of it till the day i leave for good. And I will leave a happy person. I don't need to jepoardize all of that for something as insignificant as a woman.
Daniel Cannata I don’t disagree. But we can’t all go that way. We have to take a chance, otherwise how does the race survive? We have to have children. Children are worth all the risk.
All throughout their younger years, women want the jock. Then, when they get older, they want the guy that went to college. As a man, being college educated doesn't benefit you (dating wise) until you're 30+ so it's no wonder why more men don't choose to focus on that. As a man who went to university and is now earning quite well, I can't really say I'd strongly consider a woman in her 30s. If she's single at that age, she's likely overlooked guys like me her whole life. But now that her looks are starting to fade, she's decided they I'm datable. I'd much rather pick up a younger woman and I have plenty of time to wait for the right one.
Girls at any age will shame a man for being single and unattached. But later on when they want a guy, seems like all the guys are taken, how interesting right!
That's really not always the way. I had three longish relationships in my twenties/early thirties didn't date much in between as I was trying to get over the last one and now have all three guys popping up every so often (even though two are now married) . It really works both ways. And no, they weren't 'chads' or 'alphas' just normal guys who later said they were too young/immature/unable to communicate. I couldn't give a damn about my career and I'm now 36 and staring cat lady status in the face. I'm told I'm attractive by male acquaintances/friends but absolutely terrified to get involved with anybody again.
Could it possibly be that no one here was talking about YOUR personal experiences but the GENERAL attitude of women toward men? Try being the guy who was always "like a brother", listening to women complain about how terrible their men treated them, and yet always going after the same type of men, i.e. the "jock", the "rich" boy or the "bad boy". Then suddenly, ten years later, when they finally pull their heads out of their asses and realize that the good guy is marriage material, they realize that he is already married because a decent woman, who doesn't only think about HER wants and needs, snatched him up while the other women were playing let's make a deal. Now of course I realize that this is simply MY personal experience and therefor wouldn't presume that EVERY situation is like this. Perhaps you should do the same. I realize this might not make much sense to you, because it is quite apparent that you can only look at the world from YOU'RE PERSONAL EXPERIENCE, but I have seen this happen quite often. My point being that not every woman is like you. Not every man is the same, and you really shouldn't try to compare your experience to the whole of humanity.
Of course divorced men are poorer than women. I paid child support for 20 years, lost 70% of my super and my house. Women should make up. Thank God I met a good one later in life.
And the saddest part is - this cycle of females ripping the last sandwitch out of male's mouth during divorce cannot be just stopped, as those weirdos get to raise the kids, and they raise their daughters to hate male people too
Losing 70% of super in a settlement is just plain wrong. I think Super shouldn't even be touched in divorce, unless the both parties agree to it & then it should be no more than 50:50 split.
Lou, they pool all assets and put on a percentage. I lost close to 70% and only married for three years. She got me on the 5 years we dated prior to the marriage. To throw salt into the wound she got 70% of the value of my two motorbikes which were bought after we divorced and hadn't settled. Ended up parting with $750K in 2005 dollars. I am now blissfully a born again bachelor with quite a few female friends ;) And child support finishes in 2 years... happy days. Edit... I should add she contributed sweet FA and enjoyed an amazing standard of living for a school teacher. I also haven't seen my daughter for nearly 7 years and spent $380K in the Family court. Marriage is for losers (certainly in the case of men).
Ranked 50th, average 9.6 - 11.1Mbps. (Due to NBN roll out replacement for the ADSL2+ copper) Why, the majority of the country is vast and of those vast connections are fixed wireless with only fiber internet going into major capital cities and some rural cities and towns. As another hit in the bollocks, NBN fiber is pretty much like sharing your connection with everyone else so if everyone else is using their connection for say Netflix during the night once they get home and you want to do some uploading to youtube, good luck with that and enjoy waiting for those people to piss off to work the next morning in the hopes of your upload completing.
I'm glad she brought up something that I've noticed and been telling people for a long time: in general, women over-estimate their sexual market value. I have no real problems with hypergamy; I think it's reasonable for a woman to want the best mate she can possibly get with her SMV. However, when her impression of her own value is greatly over-inflated and leaves her incapable of accurately gauging her actual value in the sexual marketplace, THAT is a problem. I place the blame for this squarely at the feet of a society where we've done everything possible to give women all the benefits of being "equal," while shielding them from all of the responsibilities of that freedom.
Entropiated Good point. Women are grading themselves like they would grade a man. They believe education and career success get them points towards attractiveness, but they have sadly been misled. The sooner females ask, "How do males rate me?" The sooner they will discover they are not a 8.5 out of 10, but more like a 6.5 or 7. That realization will allow females to step back into reality and find a mate who wants to become serious.
What you have mentioned is such an accurate statement, you could also blame this on social media platforms, be it Instagram, tinder, facebook etc... where you have thirsty as fuck men boosting women's SMV for the cause of thinking they may get their dick wet if they say nice things and make the women feel good about herself. This then gives the women an impression that she is more attractive than she actually is. At the end of the day we can talk about this issue until our faces turn blue and nothing is going to change, men and women are both to blame with the way the genders interact with each other these days, men have lost their masculinity and women have gained a false sense of confidence that they can easily get by without a man if the man they want is not available to them at this present time. It really is a sad state of affairs.
SMV is different than MMV. See Marriage Market Value MMV while a part comes from SMV, it takes into account more long term attributes like personality, family, values, etc. Nearly any girl can get laid, a 5 SMV girl can easily get an 8 SMV guy to nail her, but he will never commit or might not even call her back. It is so silly that these women can't comprehend the difference!
Lurch USA Thing is I look damned good! Most people think I'm late 20's /early 30's. Joined a gym , changed my diet, changed routine.... a year /6 months I'll be golden.
Females have been sold that they should make the choices a male would make to find the true path to happiness. Well that's proving to be untrue. A male can sacrifice his teens and twenties for a large payout in his thirties and forties. Female biology tends to go into overdrive in the mid thirties. The want of children and a suitable father begins to consume the average woman. And with good reason. Her fertility is quickly becoming an ever pressing issues. Men can successfully father children at nearly any age. Someone once said women are born rich and die poor. Where men are born poor and die rich.
Yeah, that is the joke about women being horny in their 30's, cause the eggs are running out! Guys are nuts in their teens and 20's and calm down later on. Yep guys value goes up if they work at it. Women are really attractive in their teens and each individual woman has a certain peak level and age. It is up to the individual to use what they are blessed with as it ages away. Joke in college was I keep getting older, but the girls seems to stay the same age!
Not forgetting that women look very carefully at what any potential male suitor "brings to the table", they don't give too much consideration to what they are actually bringing to the table, often thinking that all they need to bring is themselves.
This is very true, women don't want to think about what they do/do not bring to the table in a relationship. We're a very narcissistic group on the whole. Obviously, there are some exceptions, but overall, we're pretty blind to ourselves. Most women don't have the capacity to be honest with themselves and to really look at what they're offering. Myself, for example, I'm unemployed (looking for employment), suffer from a few medical issues that mean I'm a liability at almost any work places, I'm overweight, short (5foot) lass with a fair bit of mental baggage from past experiences and the only thing I could really offer anyone is my affection, love and support and lets be honest, that's not much. I'm really lucky, I've managed to find a really great guy that is way out of my league in truth and I was absolutely floored when he told me his feeling for me (I was pretty sure he wouldn't be attracted to someone like me), but I know that I'm one of the really lucky ones.
Don't be too hard on yourself, I work in a predominantly female field, earning above the average wage in my country and, of course, the women in my department earn exactly the same wage that I do (quite rightly). But when looking for boyfriends they expect any bloke to already own a house, and earn more money than them. When I ask them what they are expected to supply they typically stare at me blankly. Some of them even ridicule men who still live with their parents, whilst they still live with their parents. The level of double think and dissociation astounds me (in fairness to them, they (now) freely admit they are spoilt and entitled). I'm increasingly of the opinion though that if, as a species, men started to think and act more like women, we would probably become extinct!
"often thinking that all they need to bring is themselves." Actually all the women thinks she needs to do is bring her Golden Vagina to the table and the guy will want to be with her. Well he will be with her tonight, but not forever, that is the poor thinking process! Her confusing SMV with Marriage Market Value MMV. No guy wants to marry a girl that had sex with everyone and now is finally getting around to him. I recall in college some dorm floors would have a girl that slept with most guys on the floor, would you want to date her and be the last guy? How much could she respect you? She will abuse that man!
Victoria:- Spoken very much like a feminist. When women are taken advantage of, its the fault of men, if men are being taken advantage of, well they have probably done something to deserve it! (incidentally, when in this thread have I expressed some desire to only go for young women? Are you projecting perhaps? And whats with the bodyshaming of women who chose to augment themselves, isn't bodyshaming wrongthink now? What sort of feminist are you?)
@Victoria:- Well I have to admit I'm impressed. You have written so much and yet said so little! Not only have you completely failed to answer any of the questions I have asked, but you have actually proven the fundamental question of the entire thread in your admission of having a child with a man with "more money strength and power"! You also seem to feel as if this man should be giving you and the children significant amounts of his own money. Doesn't that seem a bit entitled? I am however curious, it would seem as if your pregnancy was not planned, and you accuse your ex of being selfish for "demanding" you have an abortion. Are you not equally selfish for not having it? Certainly if would seem you put your choice above that of your ex-partner. Also your use of the term "tried to" would indicate that he was not successful in his wish, so would this not indicate that your wishes and desires took precedent over his? How can you therefore maintain that you, as a woman, are being oppressed by a system that seems to have backed you up in opposition to your male ex-partner? Doesn't it stand to reason that in this instance...HE was oppressed? Forced into parenthood against his wishes? Now it's interesting that you seem to be very aware of the pain that the minority of evil men inflict upon women, but seem completely oblivious to the fact that such men will inflict just as much pain on other men. You also seem to be blind to the fact that evil women also exist, who will also inflict pain on other men and women, or maybe you simply don't care about them. In fairness, not living in the USA, I don't really know how men over there act. But do you not think it massively bigoted to judge ALL "English speaking men" as having gone nuts based on your own particular experiences of a small number of men? Would it be acceptable for me to judge all women by the actions of Valerie Solanas? Eileen Wurnoss? Imelda Marcos? I would welcome you to travel to Africa, India or even The New Caliphate to see whether "English speaking men" are comparatively better or worse than the men of those cultures. And please understand that there is no shame in my words, or on my face. Your words, unfortunately, are just dripping with ignorance Now I am guessing that English is not your first language, so please forgive me if I interpret anything you have written in a manner in which you did not intend.
So you can pretty much sum it up, women want to be successful as men but they don't want the responsibilities that come with it? Riiiiight. Feminism is equality...with terms and conditions. Terms that favor women, but conditions that only apply to men. Got it. Got to love feminine equality /sarcasm
Okay, let me guess. Women are going to blame everyone and everything, except themselves, when answering the question of why women are losing the dating game. The only thing they won't blame, is themselves. In fact, I'm betting they'll twist themselves into all manner of ad hoc pretzel shapes to avoid taking responsibility for their own circumstances. *_*grabs popcorn and sits back to watch the video_**
Women have been sold the tale that the biggest VICTIM is the BOSS. Well that might work well in some social circles, when times are tough, it FAILS. Times are tough for out of shape women over 30. Men that even want to risk women will have plenty to choose from.
Victoria; lesbians with frozen embryos won't succeed unless genetics science becomes so advanced that all embryos are designer babies with IQ above 200 (everyone's a genius); with the current state of science, a lesbian (maternalist) society would turn into a failed state
Too many women in their thirties and forties think they’re 8s, 9s, and 10s when they’re closer to 4s. 5s, and 6s. When men and women are in their 20s, women have a lot more options on who they could date but once they hit the thirties or forties everything shift in the men’s favor. Most divorced women have kids, expect to be wined and dined and romanced like men once did for them and don’t realize they are not as attractive as they once were. Men their age are looking for a newer model with fewer miles, less baggage and for the same expense. Why would an average looking single thirty or forty-year-old man date an average looking thirty forty-year-old woman when he could date an average looking woman ten year younger? Simple, he probably won’t.
Yep. Jump on any dating app and just look at their wants and expectations from these women who hit the wall many years and their sexual market value is next to zero!!! It`s a great laugh. They actually bring nothing to the table.
@@badhabitz69 that's what i found when i used dating sites on-off over 4 years. Plain, fat women in their 30s and 40s demanding older guys spend money on them. Must be.. must have.. Ugh.
There CAN'T BE significantly more single women than men because for every man that is no longer single, 1 woman is also no longer single, the correct words to say is "Younger women are snatching up the top men and all thats left are men that I don't want because I was slow to the dating game".
Yes. Everyone knows what "dating" means, and Arndt would do well to be more honest with her language, especially when she's on a high horse talking about how she tries to be honest with women with women who can't seem to handle honesty from another woman.
Well you get nowhere if you are insulting or mean with other people. I think it's good phrase that convey the meaning without being mean or unrespectfull. You know she do business and she needs to be polite with clients.
I think its no secret that women are always wanting to marry Mr Right. But Mr Right came and went a long time ago. The notion that women can have their cake and eat it too by the socialists has resulted in fewer Aussie kids and that's exactly what the goal of the socialists is.
I think people are missing something important here. Educated men are perfectly comfortable pairing off with less educated women. It isn't that the men have paired off before they hit 30, it's just that they aren't saying that only educated women are acceptable. We don't need to be equal or greater in social power dynamic to our partners. I find it really fascinating that society has told me my entire life, that as a man, I'm more shallow, superficial, and less caring than women. I keep see statistics that are showing the contrary. For example, with online dating 80% of men are rated as average, to below average in appearance (leaving only 20% as desirable) whereas women are rated by men as more equally distributed. Women requiring education as a prerequisite doesn't equate to tangible differences in prospective partners. I'm content as an educated man to remain single. I would like to find intelligent (educated doesn't mean intelligent by any stretch of definition), sensible woman where there is mutual attraction. That sensible part literally is the largest barrier. "Educated women" these days (in terms of impact towards in a relationship) is more like signing up for women who align with a political ideology, instead of reality. People are always looking to find sources of their dissatisfaction as something external to themselves. It's easier to complain that something else is the problem, instead of changing ourselves. The irony and catch 22 here, is that I feel like it's unlikely for me to find a compatible partner because of the unrealistic and uncompromising expectations of me, and I feel that it's making me bitter and unlikely to change. Edit: whoops. Seems like they covered a lot of what I typed as they said it...
Thank you...I don't know why these two experts including the CZcamsr of this video can't think outside of that socio-economic box...that won't fix the divorce rate at all.
Look, even in the 1980s it was widely discussed that a degree educated woman who was single at the age of 30 had a very small chance of getting married and having a family. They did studies on it. Women who often get crap non STEM qualifications delude themselves into thinking they're intelligent and deserve an intelligent guy. I am seriously glad that Feminism is becoming a mass train wreck, if 40% of the graduates are male and most of them would rather have prettier women than degree educated women... then serious lols at how many degree educated left over women there will be, a lifetime of student debt, unaffordable housing and cats instead of kids.
Excellent discussion. A women with some grasp of reality. What a refreshing change. Women hold each other back, they don't want their friends to be happy if they're not happy. Misery loves company with broads....
I'm old and done with the dating/mating game but I do still have an opinion lol. I haven't met a woman in this decade that seems to have her head on straight. I really feel sorry for good men today. I'm not saying however that most men are a good catch either.
slavmart Maybe so. I'm just going by other videos from both of them and Bettina has had audio issues before, Independent Man I can't remember any. Plus Bettina is relatively new to producing videos. I just think she's an enormously important voice and I know there's people that have helped new CZcamsrs out with their AV. If I had a clue about it I'd volunteer but I don't.
On the same subject: The greater the number of sexual partners, the less likely you are to get (and maintain) a successful and happy mariage (see Stefan Molyneux's great video on the statistics of relationships and how they are linked with various social issues: czcams.com/video/um3EmS9DKsI/video.html)
Alexandre Frenette So true! Women have been sold this lie by feminism that it's empowerment to sleep around with a lot of guys, to go home with different guys on any given night out at the bar, when the truth is that it's really hollow and empty and ruins their ability to pair bond, which ruins their chances of having a real relationship, and makes men not trust them, even the guys who are banging them, and leads to guys not valuing them as anything more than that, which also ruins their chances at a relationship.
The women in their 30's, have a smaller pool of "acceptables" and lower SMV such that they need to go for men in their 50's and 60's. With disease load, many are carrying, their SMV is in negative the negative range, IMO.
Arie Ravestein If women are too concerned with their careers, sacrifices need to be made. My mans not what you call a 'top' man but he's my top man. He's 8 years older than I am (I'm 32). I wouldn't have minded if he had kids. He doesn't
Lis Lis: Generally, and by generally I mean for say 200,000 years, 99.9% of that time that would be what women would do...but today, they are playing at becoming men...in every possible way save growing a penis. GOOD POST!
Dating younger men for an older women is a cougar, and is generally regarded as highly vulgar, maniplative and agressive... just as were regarded older men to younger women... The thing that bugs me more is "if they really despise men so much, why the helldo they want equality? it would make them as stupid and despicable as the men they hate... so they want to take their place, but wait a minute? That would make them the bad guys in lieu of the bad guys? Yeah, talk about he snake chasing after his own tail there.
I won't date a progressive or feminist girl! I d rather take care of a good girl! Good girl is defined as a girl that is sweet, humble regardless of occupation! Progressive and feminist are not that way!
Women's magazines were (are?) the worst - women writing to women about what they think men want. Also the baby boomers felt they missed out because they had kids young. I remember being younger and listening to my male friends talk and being shocked by the reality of what men actually want and desire. There is also the issue that esp in your 20s, women will judge other women on the 'quality' of their boyfriends. Thirdwave feminism is not helpful on any level. Hopefully we aren't on a trajectory and mothers will give more realistic advice to their daughters.
As the old joke says: women understand women and they hate eachother, so yeah, they'll recretly give other women the worst advice possible to make sure they actually don't get the guys.
@@quoniam426 That is what fat/body acceptance is all about. Got a fat friend? Tell her she is lovely the way she is. Less competition! The only exception I've ever come across is a woman who was a plus size model. She actually was more attractive than most of her skinny female friends.
I tried to ask out girls during my teenage and twenties, sadly my mother told me a bunch of BS ideologies and I happened to hear her at the wrong time. I was taught to start off as friends with girls and then if they are ok enough, then become in a relationship with them. I told one girl if she can start off as friends with me, she took it the wrong way and never had a chance again to start a relationship. Then there was some issues about education before relationships as well as other things in life that took my mind off dating real girls and ended up feeling like I may as well just have fictional characters as my waifus. I just like to have a girl who is ok with my geeky hobbies, sadly I feel that many girls want a guy who has money instead of someone like me who has a crazy imagination in my works of fiction that I enjoy.
I got bad advice, too. Read pick-up artist sites like "Return of Kings" (although it has too any white supremacist writers now). I can give you more advice if you contact me.
Well I do have my stories on Deviant Art as well as on Hentai Foundry, look up my TBoneTony name there and it is there with stories from 10 years ago. Busy life/University and Volunteer Work has made it hard for me in recent years but my fictional stories are there for those to read. Mostly Tentacles, Quicksand and Snake vore stories with erotic moments including lesbian characters I write
Late teens to mid 20's, is good. Don't know PUA, that has a few good things, but it isn't about developing relationships. It is about CONFIDENCE to approach, and not afraid to be rejected. You learn to vibe, and other techniques. That is mainly about sex as the goal. When you are ready to settle down, you have experience with women. You choose the values you want from them. There is a shift of sex for gratification to sex being part of an emotional bond. Do you see the transition here? Women on the other hand have a different psychology, the sex dynamics doesn't change. The also then treat emotion as a transaction for financial gain. If you don't have the resources I won't provide sex, I won't share emotion. These women will end up bitter, and since misery loves company, they will help others to become like them.
Hahahaha. As someone who only did their HSC but I've had, and operated successful businesses in oz. More of an autodidact than any formalised education. But well traveled and not the 10days in Bali kind. In general I've found many of the "highly educated women" I've dated...on so many levels, utterly unintelligent unless it's in the sphere of their specific education and career, lacking life experience, unable to knowledgeably converse on diverse subjects and often myopic on most, think they are deep and meaningful but are actually shallow and superficial in thought and action. Many generally over 30 carrying the cliche "emotional baggage" or attitude, generally expect the male to adjust their rhythm to suit theirs. I mean if you tend to be glib /flippant and not into the PC culture, most expect you to project differently when you first met them. Yeah fck that. IM you nailed it about the humour! Aussie guys take the piss generally with people they want to feel comfortable around and be friends with. IMO by no means all, but many are pretentious and have a pedestrian sense of humour. Oh yeah bit of reverb from her end on that vid mate.
bla blahblah You fixed that one for me. And regarding the the rest of your comment, I'm pretty much aware of the code you have to use for them chicks, although it might get a little tricky sometimes. Regarding my comment, it wasn't that possible to figure out if the guy might be a little too harsh with them chicks, so I meant it for consideration. But it was also kind of a joke.
sorryst illtrying Hahaha a dick towards women, perhaps. I've quite a few females friends married or otherwise. They'd all agree I'm confident and cheeky though without malice. In truth I've taken a lot of their friends out as favours.. to them ( made it clear I'm a Batchelor till death). A certain look or smile from the hubby or BF usually tells me if I've been suckered into something. If I'm overtly mean, subtly sarcastic or looking to have a dig, it's usually a purposeful action my part. I'm rarely unintentionally rude. But I don't take or give unnecessary or unwarranted attitude. I tend to mirror people's attitudes towards me, be nice I'm nice. Act like a c#%T, I'll reciprocate and I'm really good at it. Hahaha however I do usually control the context of a first date/meeting. I prefer activities as I gave up drinking years ago. No bars or clubs. Bowling is usually my first choice, not that I am regular bowler or any good at it. But it weeds out the women who are overly concerned with make up/heels and their nails. Zoo, hiking and bike rides also make the list depending on the situation. All these activities make it difficult for them to be inactive and overly groomed. @A Neil.. well, made me laugh! @blah blah hahaha i wont be a dick for the sake of it. But if they want to learn who can be the most unreasonable. It'll be me every time.
I have a story that is really related. My ex got with me saying if her seizures ever stopped she would start working. She told me she wanted to work and I was disabled. A time came when they stopped for a full 5 months. a full 5 months and she at the start of that 5 months she threw a chef's knife at my face. I think she knew after that it did not matter I was throwing her out. I spent 5 months fighting for her to leave because the cops would not remove her. I payed the bills, I had the disability that qualified me for the housing. I was the weaker of the 2 and abused often. She would yell at me to cook every day, to clean everything, and I was told I had to work now that she was not sick as I was getting sicker. I nearly just took her keys one day and spartan kicked her out. No joke. I called the cops all the time for help but they blamed me. I am autistic and sick. How can I be expected to provide after I entered the relationship when she said she wanted to work? I am far too sock to work.
You're kind of a hypocrite in your own story. You blame her for not working when she uses the excuse that she's too sick to work, but it's ok to use that very same excuse as to why you don't have a job either? If you're both legitimately disabled, why don't you qualify to receive disability from the government?
I haven't watched it yet. But it needs to be said right away. Women totally own the dating game. They hold all the cards. They have all the advantage. If they are complaining about "losing the dating gamer" it'd be akin to complaining about "losing the restaurant game" as follows: "yes. well.... I'm sitting here at this fancy restaurant and the waiter is not cutting the food into bite sized chunks for me and not putting it in my mouth for me and not gently moving my jaw up and down to chew it for me... whoa is me..... whoa is me......"
every girl will loose when they get into 30 :/ after that no1 care so after that man also get better with the lady so one of these we will all loose its all depend witch road you take
Not for long. I think we're seeing the initial big backlashes now and by 2030ish it will be too late and ball these empowered now embittered women ... I don't even know what will happen. New forms of matriarch societies taking form. They need a continuous line of feminised men from the single mother's though so obviously guys will still be bangin them😅 I don't know but it's not good. For society or the morals and values of planetary existence.
I can vouch for the fact Women have FAR overestimated their worth. I'm 36, 7% bodyfat, six figure income and an 8 in appearance according to friends. The ONLY women on online dating websites who will contact me are overweight 2's. Anything above that seem to have some overblown idea they're going to nab that millionaire 10.
I guess when we're older it might be fun to periodically go out and play. I have actually wonderered about the effects long term, and believe much of the reality is visible in this comment thread. I have always believed also that feminists are actually Not men a worst enemy- but the good woman's worst enemy in the end of all this.
Sorry for the offense, In my American mind his face just doesn't match his voice =/ I didn't mean he is ugly lol I just saw him as say... more American. sorry for the offense
Not nice, bro. Just delete your lame comment about not liking a cool person's face. Preschool level stuff here dude. Internet is best when not used to shed all basic kindness.
Men don’t want to get on one knee for women who spent too much time on two knees. When you decide to be careless and free then decide all of a sudden you want the men that were not good enough for you during your casual sex days then you loose.
God DAMN, this was a GREAT VIDEO. Every woman should be forced to listen to this, like as part of their college intake to ensure they ALL see it. Women in the western world have a problem with self esteem, they have too much of it. Way too much. With body positivity and fat chicks everywhere, they need to be brought back down to earth. Pronto. I shudder to think of what dating would be like for me now if I hadn't met my lovely husband (I'm 44) it would be a nightmare I'm sure & I'd be childless.
Janet Davis Even if you show them and explain it to then they will never give up what they consider to be freedom. Most people dont think about their far future and only seek immediate satisfaction. Its not until they get old and living a lonely life that they go in a rage but like addicts they dont take responsibility for their past decisions. They blame men and hold hatred towards them for not reaching their expectations. Sadly even at their 40s they still dont want to settle with a nice guy.
I agree, but I would replace "self esteem" with "vanity". Women today are WAY too vain, and have very LITTLE self esteem. If they had real self esteem they wouldn't be as vested in being so vain.
Not to sound sexist (though I know many will claim it is), women's evolved hypergamous nature is completely incompatible with their current desire for "success". As a general rule, women marry up, not down. It's the evolved instinct to find the ideal mate to protect and provide for her and her offspring. If the alpha male in any group of social animals (like lions or wolves) becomes in any way unsuitable, he is soon replaced, and the old alpha is driven off to die alone. The problem with female hypergamy is that the more successful women are, the fewer men there are "above" them, or even parallel to them. Not the only problem of course, there are others, like the financial objectification of the walking ATMs known as men, but it's the problem in this context. I read one article, ironically by a feminist, iirc, that said a happy family can't support two alphas. Her theory was that if a woman wanted to be an "alpha", working the high-paying, high-power job, while still having a successful family, she would have to marry a "beta" male, one who was content to run the home and raise the kids. Even then she couldn't help but put it in terms of the beta guy being someone she "settled for", rather than a man she would have preferred to marry, but in essence I think her theory had merit. And as one commenter on another video said: "Arguably women have more economic power, since they have the economic freedom to choose happiness over money when it comes to choosing jobs. Since they will not be expected to finance their partners life style." (edit) Also, I stopped the video to make this comment, then you essentially made the same point after I re-started it. Oops, lol.
What a great interview. This sir, is why I support your channel. The financial videos are great as well, but the social videos are what keep me coming back for more. Brilliant. You, wearing a yellow vest in a live stream one day, would make my day, just saying. :) Cheers.
I got what Geoffrey Field was saying straight away. You really need a line of Yellow vests and jumpers (or sweaters if you are targeting the the US market) in the shop Indie. Just for us retro hipsters.
I love that statement about to many gays. I've used that many times when girls come over and try to pick me up, to get ride of these harpies. None of them know how to be nice to guys except if they are after something.
Good interview, what was said regarding female friends and excessive positive support is very understated. You men have no idea just how rediculous it can get at times. I absolutely refuse to say anything negative regarding my spouse, haven't for a long time. The storm of 'dtmfa', abuse innuendos (absolutely ludicrous), encouragement to share more and commiserate and couples counseling demands at the minimum from helpful friends. If the advice is ignored or you correct their misinterpretation, well, then, you're in denial and likely abused by toxic masculinity. It beggars belief. Most women can't accept that they are a 5 or less, if they're honest, and tell each other they're all 7 & 8, or a Corvette or special cheese. And I hope we have all learned that a few extra pounds is totally code for McDonald's fat. What a mess
Yeah, I have seen women play that pump each other up emotionally game. Such a strong group preference that they want each other to be falsely happy. But they know inside it is not true and it eats them up. depresses them. then they hate themselves and hate their friends too. and maybe hate their husbands too, sickness. Everyone ages and not everyone can be a perfect 10!
I think we understand. There are many girl and women talks online and on TV. Plus just personal experience. The moment women get to certain numbers the word honesty stop to exist.
I agree, I personally like girls that are a bit larger. 180 @ 5ft 9in example. But most guys I know that is too heavy. 5 ft 5 in @100 is way too small. But I've seen girls 300 plus at 5 ft 9in thinking they can get any man because they had an ok job! Their thing (guys hit on me) really ? I used to tell them a guy will have sex with any conquest, if that's what you want. But no one wants to stay around or keep them. Then they still look for top of the line. I knew a girl that was married, she was 5 ft 10 in tall 280 lbs treated her husband like scrap. He was 6 ft 5in 190 lbs. Made 65k a year treated her like gold. Put her through school, her classmates actually told her that they wanted her husband if she didn't want him. He was a great catch and hot. After school, she told him that she could do better than him. She has a tall, dark, handsome which a lot of girls rated him a 9 . Good job, non violent and faithful. Her ex husband was a male stripper at one time , before they met. Now this is a prime example of how stupid women can be. I have seen him blow girls off that try to pick him up. I have heard girls state that he will be my husband! He just don't know I exist yet!
Once I met a girl 27y , waitress always complaining about her shitty job and men , and I asked why are you doing this .She replied : Cause I have studied so much and I can't find a job or 'good man ' even with my super nice clothes, I asked what did you study , she said ' experimental art 'a t a new university , after I said what about your clothes, she replied proudly that she worked 2 y to save money and to go to Paris for shopping.I never talked to her again
victoria ann zabaras First , not all men have collection , but collection has a price that increase with time and it is for his own pleasure so it is a funny investment , and I never saw a man working in a shitty job for 2 y just to buy collector baseball. Second , she bought clothes that lose half of value when used to get a 'good men' so she worked 2 y just to attract a rich stupid guy , so basically looking better , it shows how superficial and stupid she is and entitled . I dare to think whatever I want and I do not censure my thoughts for anyone , girls included
victoria ann zabaras Anyone can do whatever he wants( I don't have collection ) , you just avoid what the coments says , and women want to be beautifull , yeah women are depressed and superficial creature who wants to look like instead of being . The collection definition means the value increase , cloth is a lost , superficial , but you still avoid talking about someone working 2 y in a shitty job just for superficial reason , cloth in order to get a man.Use your brain for something else than man-hating and stereotype
victoria ann zabaras wow , you first talk about collection , you avoid on purpose what I said about working 2 y for a superficial reason but focus on clothing , you hear just what you want to hear , zero logic , zero honesty , you use shaming tactics . You are shameless, You are not worth talking to.
victoria ann zabaras You avoid deliberatly what I said about this girl and focus on your own question on purpose and after try shaming tactics , you are a dishonest bitter person
Are you serious? Women decided they wanted jobs. They decided they wanted careers. Now they have found it is not to their liking and shock and horror, they blame men for it. They suddenly realize they have to pay mortgages and bills? Who would have thunk? You have a job so you have to pay the bills? Jeez, if only someone had told us men that. Oh wait....
Nope, this is not it. Women got a lot of winning by the ability to be independent instead of owned by some man that in many cases look down on them like you do. Women have no problems with paying the bills. And that tough parts of jobs have lowered is much to the winning by women.
People like you make society dumber, fatter, lazier and vastly more ignorant of reality. How about you stop blaming others for your own failings. Learn some history, real history and be grateful that it was your father, grandfather, great grandfather and so on down the line that fought, worked hard and died so your fat ignorant arse could even exist.
The more I hear Bettina talk, the more I love her. Now if only we could get masses of women to listen to her. And by listen, I mean understand what she is saying. There was a comment thread on your last video of a woman complaining exactly like what Bettina was talking about here. A bunch of guys were trying to tell her what her problems might be, and she basically dismissed it. I bet one of her friends was telling her she's a good catch.
Women make poor choices generally. To look at what a man does for a living rather than his virtues is moronic. As a man, womens wish lists are mind boggling, superficial, materialistic stupidity. As a man, if I was still interested in women, I would want someone nurturing, respectful, playful/fun, sense of humor, looks after herself, feminine and has some kind of interest in something and a few shared interests. Couldn't care less about her job, what she owns, how much money she has, don't care if her family are tools as I wouldn't be dating them.
Whatever women have, they want more. Add to this that women reserve the right to change their mind at any moment, which means you cannot ever trust anything she says because it will be different tomorrow. No one can build a marriage or long term reletionship on that for long. The solution I've found is to have a compartmentalized life and get the various things you want out of life from different places. There's no need for a long term monogamous relationship.
What about the choice of life style balance for the husband... of course he doesn't get that privilege, what was I thinking. Feminism has shown us the true nature of the female.
In theory, feminism is actually not against that idea. It wants to free both men and women from the traditional roles and hence let people choose this on their own. But then women in general are looking for a man that is more stable, and that's not feminism who is pushing that. But this creates the effect of ideas and reality not connecting.
Well, if you are a woman beyond 30 and have high expectation on "elligible men", you may find out that those men are in high demand and do not value that university degree and your career that much but would rather date a woman that is 5 years younger and willing to get married and have children. Having high expectations is fine. But you should ask yourself why you think that mr. perfect has to choose you if he can have several other equally attractive women who do not have a long list of demands that he must meet to "qualify" (...those peasants do not meet my standards...). Other women may even flatter him for being such a successful guy instead of looking for his faults. A colleague of mine used to tell her dates that she is working at a lawfirm. They assumed that she was a secretary. She did not tell them that she was one of the partners of that lawfirm. That was quite a smart move, as many nice guys would have been terrified otherwise. Her fiancee is an ex-soldier and does not earn half as much as she does. She does not think less of him, just because he is a student, planning on becoming a teacher at a trade-school.
Independent Man, wear headphones when you interview. If you have your guest on speakers, then you get that feedback... What she speaks comes out of your speakers, and feeds into your microphone, and goes back to her computer, comes out of her speakers, and into her microphone, and back to you. One or the other MUST use headphones; and preferably both.
Yes you are, it's called tax breaks for marriage and dependants. But this is just a word game. The effect is the same, you pay more in taxes for being single. My advice, work less unless you really need that much money for some reason. It's not worth working to your full ability to pay for someone elses need. Especially since your taxes are paying for not only crooked politicians, but for some woman or minority to get an economically useless degree in professional victimhood studies, with which their only marketable skill will be to call you a "privileged oppressor" and to blackmail tech companies into paying them to run totalitarian reeducation programs in the name of "diversity." They will also be the army of Internet censors and narcs that will declare any contrary statement to their ideology to be "hate speech", and try to get you fired if you defend yourself against their accusations. James Demore Demonization Violation of unspecified term of service Even if not explicitly violating any terms of service You will also be paying for the maternity leave for kids that aren't yours etc. Who is John Galt?
No, sorry. Didn't make myself clear. It was supposed to be a joke, given the massive amounts of echo that Bettina Arndt seems to be suffering from. I don't really think she's in a metaphorical echo chamber. A joke's so much funnier when someone has to explain it, don't you think?
My women is 8 years younger than me..she picked me I was 30.It was effortless.When I was younger it was always such a struggle as I gotten older I care less but it gets easier. The rational male is a good read.
This is one of the best videos I have found and the comments. I will be working on losing weight and moving forward. THANK YOU for honest overview here on this site. Good stuff.
Huh, I guess, as a hetero-man, I don't want to be stuck without choice either. Funny how that works. Shit's rolling downhill fast on this gynocentric society. I'm sorry but in reality one cannot have their cake and eat it too without side-effects.
I couldn't get girls easily as a teen but by the time I was 30 I'd become that 'hero', I was Thai boxing and racing motorcycles at the time had girls falling off me. I wasn't that interested in 30 year olds it was more fit 21 year olds. Even now I still attract women in their late 20's but I prefer my own age now as I don't want my own kids and don't want to work hard anymore, not that I worked too hard for too many years.
Bettina Arndt is so wise and full of common sense. She faces issues that few people want to touch, and brings a scientific and rational approach to them.
I know a lot of guys that are tradesman make six figures own there own home in their early 30's and women look down on them for not be college educated. While she is working in a restaurant and tens of thousands in debt but he is the dumb one
men in 30s have decided they would rather date younger women because its not as much drama and much more fun dates.u cant blaim men.look at all this 30 some year old women and how they act.
seuratguy It’s a common Skype problem which is not related to headsets. I always use headsets and I get that annoying echo regularly but only from other continents.
I worked on remote area mine sites for 6.5 years during the Australian Mining Boom, (which ended in May 2012). During that time I worked on 1,000 to 4,000 man camps. Each night I would have dinner in the canteen. On the other side of the table would typically be a man who I had never met and would never meet again. These men told me their family stories. I have been married for 39 years to the woman who I still passionately love. However, 90 something percent of the men on these camps where divorced. Their wives found it profitable to trash these me. Then, I would return to Sydney on R&R and hear divorced women tell me that their ex husband mistreated them. To this I would think; "I do not believe you woman. I have met your ex husband and I have heard his story. You traded him in for profit." Women today do not value marriage or their men. They have been taught that they "can have it all". We, yes they can, if they marry for life in their early 20's, have their children early, be a good wife and mother, support their husband in his career throughout their marriage and return to work when their children are in school. Other plans do not work. We need to have disdain for those who fail at their marriage. It is a shameful thing. Such people have failed in their most important commitment. It damages their loved one very much. We need to let the women who leave their child bearing too late to be examples to all women of the stupidity of playing around during their 20's (and even more). When will women realize that having children late greatly diminished the number of children who they can have and the health of those children. A good parent wants many children. My greatest regret is that my wife and I were able to have only 3 children. Regards, Geoff. Reeks
I'm all for higher education, however take note of the fact that more women than men are pursuing secondary/post graduate degrees. These secondary degrees produce a significant amount of debt. Most men may be avoiding the price tag of such an education until they're in a better financial situation, or an opportunity worth obtaining such higher education. Women seem to worry about the price tag later, especially when they can also look to marry a mate who can be expected to aid in paying off the debt. Very rarely can a man expect such an assist from his mate.
"the good looking men actually don't necessarily make the best partners" Pretty obvious when you think about it, the dating game must be completely reversed for these very few guys that women rate highly. To understand what's going on we got to look at what patriarchy really is, and not the non-sense feminists carry on about, polygamous marriage, multiple women sharing the one man. Isn't this exactly what we got now, the old system of having patriarchal rulers picking and choosing the women they want to sleep with, while the peasants get the left overs. If women had any brains at all, they would be at the forefront of wanting to bring back the old marriage contract and end this "women in the workplace" non-sense. Women need to stop pushing this "liberal lifestyle" on each other, it wrecks marriages, it wrecks happiness and most of all, it wreaks women.
Ramon S I think physical attraction is important but that's not necessarily defined by good looks alone. A lot more goes into it. I've dated guys that were incredibly good looking physically but it was other quirks about their personality that made them more attractive to me. They were not the typical good looking jock. They were the incredibly good looking skate punks who skipped 2 grades in school due to their intelligence, discovered and named a new species of spider, got a degree in biology, ended up working construction and opening a brewery and drove a monster truck. Bit of a mixed bag. Very down to earth. Truly good people. Those relationships were always doomed because we were always (BOTH) in love with other people and just made out and hung out to pass the time. Great friends. No sex. We didn't want to mess that up. I've dated other guys that would not be seen as attractive but again, it was other things about their personality that made them more attractive to me. If you are going after people based on the Surface or what looks good on paper you will be disappointed
victoria ann zabaras Indeed, it pretty common knowledge among men not to chase the best looking women possible. If you look at the research, men are pretty good at choosing women of similar value to themselves. However, the research tells us that women aren't good at this. 80% of females go for the top 20% of males. So, the top 20% of men in terms of attractiveness, have nothing to loose in the dating game from basically having sex with as many women as possable, who has done this, not them, it's the females. However, you seem to think this is personal, some sort of personal insult. Well, at the moment, the dating game is a complete waste of my time. Implying that men "choose" partners at the moment is an absolute joke, society has become so female dominated it's almost pointless being a man any more. Women have created this problem, women don't want stable marriage any more, so now women have to live with the consequences of that, good luck getting intellectual conversation out of your cats as you go into old age alone.
victoria ann zabaras, It's you who made this personal, not me. I was making a point that statistically (and not on the individual level) women choose mates from a very limited pool of men, at least on dating sites, where the statistics come from. It seems I've hit a sore spot. And just because my name is Spanish, doesn't mean I'm Spanish, it only means my mother is bonkers, talk about judging a book by it's cover, it's actually exactly the point I was trying to make. I find women are extremely shallow when it comes to men, not interested in intellect at all, pretty much just seeing us as a bit of meat to have fun with. And talk about being triggered by cliches, you will be glad to here the cats hate you too.
@@pollysshore2539 With all due respect, how good looking do you think you are? I bet that these men that you describe as not being typically attractive were 100% your looks match. Perhaps like most Anglophone women you slept around in your youth and played out of your league for a while, so you have a distorted view of your own attractiveness. Women in countries like America and Australia rarely ever date down in looks unless the man has money.
dios bananos You’re making a ton of incorrect assumptions. Nbr 1: I’m Appalachian. We’re not raised to be gold diggers here because you will strike out. Money is not seen as a make or break factor here. I come from a long line of Scottish settlers who drilled work ethic, independence, not taking anything you can not work or trade for (aka no charity or handouts), and not acting above your raisin’ into heads for generations. There are not a lot of men here who have a ton of money here. I’m not a city dweller that looks for a guy with a portfolio. Considering the culture and history here, working class jacks of all trades (that can build a house, make the furniture and do 10,000 other things if times are hard) are traditionally more favored here. Dating does not = slept with. No, I did not sleep with a lot of people when I was younger. I have no interest in one night stands with strangers and had more long term serious relationships. There is nothing wrong with noting the bounds of what some would find conventionally attractive. I was constantly asked why I was with my first love, who I had a 10 year relationship with. I was constantly told I was out of his league, by men and women (and even him). He could draw blue prints, build a house from top to bottom, do all the plumbing & electrical, make the furniture (by age 15), play 5 instruments, write songs and was a joy to watch on a half pipe. He was broke all the time in his teens & 20s, though. That’s to be expected. We had similar personalities, opinions on matters and senses of humor. I found him very attractive (that was my point) others did not. In case you think women here do nothing... think again. My generation, Gen X, was the first generation mostly born into homes with electricity & indoor plumbing. The eldest members of the generation were 2-3 when most had power though some in the most remote areas didn’t get electricity until the 1970s - 1980s. Most the women in my family worked jobs (this ain’t the suburbs, Beaver) or worked their ass off on a small family farm where made everything from butter to soap to clothes and killed chickens for dinner while dealing with 8-10 kids.
This is why old societies didnt give women so much choice. Its like letting your kid call the shots in your house, at the end of the day the kid will be a mess.
doctorcrapable and you can bet all the money in the world that future societies will be doing the same. These silly, silly silly women are just pushing it all too far. Too far for their own good.
The main reason I reject people who bash traditional societies. The social organization of traditional societies avoids all these problems (and in the end, it helps women).
MUTE yourself when the echo starts happening. Also I always recommend spending 5 minutes with your guest leading up to recording to address any sound issues that may arise so you can fix it before recording - depending on their level of experience doing webcam they may not realize a few dozen different etiquette and tech considerations, so get them familiar with those things during your first 5 minutes.
There was no detectable echo during the conversation whatsoever. Why do people insist on commenting on the details of events they couldn't possibly know?
This wonderful world of online dating where it's perfectly acceptable for a woman to require a minimum height but it's outrageous for a man to require a maximum weight.
200 pound limit. No face only pics, just cause your face is under 200 pounds, that does not count!
My joke was that the fat girls put close up face pics on dating profiles. Joke is their face weighs 200 lbs. Women judge men harshly on weight, because they judge themselves harshly too. But the BS being spewed by media is that men should tolerate any sized woman, when obesity is a turn off. Media should be telling woman to be healthy. Thick is okay, just not gross! Body fat above 30% is bad looking and unhealthy on woman. Sadly on Men body fat over 20% is not good looking because men carry less body fat as men do not need reserves to have babies aka estrogen.
Grow up and do not over eat!
Nobody can change your preference. People can only try. So that's a non-problem. If you don't like fat women, don't date them. Just don't be outspoken about how fat they are either.
The skinnier the better!
The problem aswell, is a lot of women in their 30s are fat, poor and have kids. Yet they want men who are fit, weathly without kids and unmarried. You literally can't make it up!
Toby TB3
Or they want children within the first year of the relationship. Due of they got baby rapies and the clock is ticking.
I wish. I'm 36 and I've never met a woman near my age who wanted kids. They already had theirs early and I'm supposed to be happy raising their little shit-kids or their frigid, pathetic bitches who think having a Dog is the same as having kids and don't want any real ones.
Daniel Craig
Females really dont be open about what they what. Instead they try to trick you...Spermjack..
Starting a new relationship you want to have a few years having fun doing all the exciting things that bond you together as a couple. Not straight on to having a baby and all the restrictions that imposes.
Only fun things that will be done are the ones you as a man pay for. Each one makes you more of a meal ticket than a man. So dammed either way! Best to find a women that is not materialist.
It's tough for women in their 30s and older. It's tough for men throughout life. Guess who's making it so tough on everyone...
(Hint: it's not men)
the far left
@Weird Science A system that penalizes success is nothing new, especially here in the US. The two halves of humanity have always been meant to seek each other as they are fundamentally incomplete on their own. I would explain why this is, but your depressing atheism would probably reject the truth of things immediately
good... we need to let evolution weed those women out! @Robert Burns
seiously they see you give it up for a few drink maybe then try to get some other dude to commit half his stuff should things not work out when it as almost free a few years earlier
Thing is women treat men like shit thought their 20's when those guy's hit 30 (if their not lucky enough to find a good women) they don't give a shit anymore, they know who the women are who ridiculed them and put them down. It's where the MGTOW movement came from, its telling guys to do their thing if a women compliments your life then great if she does not then forget it. Equality is more then just the special hand outs in the work place.
Don’t focus on how rigged the game is, focus on bettering yourself.
Basically: don't be a #snowflake in lalaland
@M.Benstein, Great comment! The truth is that you just shouldn't focus on them because biology will remain the same even if they deny it. Women are going to want men who have a focus above them and being successful at that thing. Our happiness shouldn't be based on women. Be smart and protect yourself and enjoy your life and see women as a compliment and not the focus.
Just because more women are in college doesn't mean they are getting degrees in anything useful. It doesn't mean they are more intelligent either.
Boo Boo
It does mean that they probably come with a large student debt though. Especially true if they got one of those useless degrees.
No, but that is still what in general is happening. As women become more educated they also in general become smarter and more able to analyse things. Just because all those developments doesn't match up to what you want it to be doesn't make it automatically wrong. That's just you being biased.
Bullshit, pure and simple. If those were so high women would be OVER represented in STEM not under.
So she'll end up just like you? nice job!
Yeah a double degree in womens' studies and etruscan pottery will go a long way in society.
It's the Sex and the Cityfication of society. Remember how women loved that show and how they thought the women were so funny, succesful, beautiful and strong? And all the men thought they were just shallow, wishy washy, stuck up and uninterresting?
No. I've never watched sex and the city because I'm not gay so I don't watch rom coms. That you watched it meant you were half brain washed to begin with...
Purpleanex. Classic case of overcompensation.
The gigantic ideological backfire that Sex in the City brought on itself was that the happiness of each of the feminist main characters rested solely on getting the right man.
If I was forced at gunpoint, at least Charlotte had family on her agenda. She was the closest thing to marriage material in that show, and yet routinely she would be belittled by her friends for being even the slightest bit reserved.
Herbox: EXACTLY. SatC has poisoned the minds of millions of women who think happiness is a cupboard full of Christian Louboutins and a drawer full of bunny-eared vibrators. Social needs are satisfied with their equally stupid girl friends but when they suddenly realise the big 4-0 is approaching, they panic and want two children pronto. “He” needs to mirror the male hero of a Barbara Cartland novel - only he’s gone already with a nice, sweet, clean girl.
We reap what we sow.
I'd have to agree with Bettina. Women in their 20's ignore normal guys and by the time they get to their 30's all these normal guys are gone.
+gam mal. The bigger problem is the left wing judiciary and their laws which have been skewed against men by Labor & Greens political party's.
Now us normal guys just go MGTOW
Yep and married men that agree with MGTOW view vow to never cheat on their wives. So the lonely women in there 30's can not steal a married man away. Say NO NO NO to home wreckers!
+victoria ann zabaras. First of all thank you for not going on a 3 page rant like so many liberals do. Which isn't convincing anyone. For your first paragraph: I'm wondering how many of those disciplined women are part of the group complaining about men ? Secondly, I'm not worried about our entire existence. I choose reality and the here and now. Also, shrinking corporations puts more people out of work living a existence of quiet desperation from the government. Which is a kooky idea. As for Corp's not paying their fair share of taxes, both Democrats & Republicans are globalists meaning the Corps get a free ride. But Trump is not with the globalists. He's something different. The point is regardless of what you want, if people are suffering then they will vote for anyone who can grow economic prosperity. But liberals don't understand this.
Its been a mixed bag.
If all men dated with the same expectations as women older than 30 than only 20% of western women would be considered 'appropriate' for men to date.
More like 5%!!!
More like 2%
*Why women lose the dating game?*
1. Unrealistic expectations. (Women expect to date only 9/10 and 10/10 men. By contrast, men will settle for just about anything.)
2. No flexibility. (Women will not change their lifestyle to let a man in. They expect a man to change his life to fit into hers.)
3. Money money money. (Women absolutely refuse to date men who earn less than they do.)
4. Height fetish. (Women refuse to date men who are shorter or even the same height they are.)
5. No initiative. (Women never make a move. They are far too passive and silent. To a man, the lack of initiative is a sign of disinterest.)
All of this is too true. God forbid a man isn't 5'9+! It's so fucking retarded! I'm like 5'2 and there is nothing I can do about it. Furthermore, girls just don't take the initiative. It's always up to us.
@@JACKALTOOTH100 it's not true at all that women do not taking the initiative. In truth, very often things happen the other way round: women chose their partners. A woman knows how to insinuate herself into a man's heart, so as to induce him to have the 'initiative' of asking her to dater her. But men are most often blind to that game and think they are the ones in control.
@@silveriorebelo8495 So you mean women silently manipulate men after choosing one they like in order to make us make the first move, only giving us the illusion of choice?
Please, tell me how that is "Taking the initiative."
@@TheUndyingAngel666 Yeah that makes no goddamn sense.
@@JACKALTOOTH100 Then you lack reading comprehension skills and I suggest you go back to elementary and brush up a little.
I have a sister (& never understood a single thing about her approach to dating), and she would lose the dating game all the time because she would lie about being ten years younger than she really was because she knew she could get away with it. Then, when eventually busted on it, she would get upset that the guys she was dating didn't want to proceed with a relationship because she hadn't be honest. Then she'd moan to me about what terrible luck she had with guys. wtf.
ha ha, no my sis was married when she was 20. this happened much later after she was divorced and dating again :)
Basically she stinks at relationships....
Who wants a liar? Guys want to have respect for their wife.
They routinely lie about their age but also about their weight and exercising habits.
I like women with curves but when a date is 15-20 kgs heavier than she claimed (on top of older than her photos), then you have to wonder what else she lies about.
Yes, men probably lie, too, and those who do should also raise a red flag but two wrongs don’t make a right.
So happy I found my soulmate. Dating sucks.
Reminds me of a best policy
Marriage doesn't pass cost benefit analysis
victoria ann zabaras "love" lol get real
victoria ann zabaras Pass.
@victoria ann zabaras
Well that might be but alot of men just dont want to play that game so they dont.
The biological need and longing for children and a stable family is much more prevalent in women compared to men.
I have spoken to a couple of women who were quite desperate because their clock is running out. They dont want (with good reason) children past 35 but they cannot find a man who wants to marry and want kids.
Men are at such a disadvantage law-wise in alot of countries and dont see that they get their fair part out of it that they just do not take the risk.
In alot of western countries the chances are quite high that you have to pay for the children and the woman even if she leaves you and they are not even your kids.
Most of the time if it goes to court men get no rights to see the children.
In alot of US sates if a underage boy (maybe of 14-15 years) has sex wth an older woman, lets say 30 years old, he is liable for child support even if it was statutory rape.
There was this unbelievable case of a man in the US who was jailed for a crime he didnt commit. He was released after 25 years and got a big compensation from the state.
During his jail-time his wive divorced him and after he was set free she sued for the money he got for compensation. In every normal thinking society this would be outrageous but he had to fight for years in the courts because the laws so much favour the women.
LOL yes for the love....that is til the woman gets bored or wants to trade up and walk away with all the man's shit
It does make men happier in general though. Men have more to loose on not having a long term relationship then women do according to statistics based on happiness and not finances. When it comes to what matters it doesn't really help us that much to have more money. The best way to reach happiness is to have a few stronger relationships with other people.
I remember back in college, the hottest girl in my year was pretty picky who she would go out with. I never asked her out, we just acknowledged each other in campus, otherwise no interaction.
It has been exactly 10 years since college and I ended up meeting her due to a common friend and suddenly she is interested in me now.
Only difference is that now I have a Porsche 911 Turbo S and a Ducati.
Gold digger?
Well, on the plus side if you had married her back then you probably couldnt afford a porsche now. Women love spending other people’s cash.
Now go pump and dump her
Dump your load in her and move on
Please use headphones next time...
Wow, you just fixed my life. That tinder study says exactly what I've thought for some time: women are more physically vain than men are. What a bunch of liars.
Sound-issues make this great interview almost unbearable.
Damn the echo 10:00
i dodged a big one. Ive been asking for dates for years and years with no women saying yes to me. Turns out to be a total blessing in disguise!
True, online dating is a big fraud that takes you money in no time as well as time investment in useless superficial relationships that'll drain your energy out of you.
And these women would call this man am 'incel' . Some may say 'genius'
I worked on remote area mine sites for 6.5 years during the Australian Mining Boom, (which ended in May 2012). During that time, I worked on 1,000 to 4,000 man camps. Each night I would have dinner in the canteen. On the other side of the table would typically be a man who I had never met and would never meet again. These men told me their family stories. I have been married for 39 years to the woman who I still passionately love. However, 90 something percent of the men on these camps where divorced. Their wives found it profitable to trash these men. Then, I would return to Sydney on R&R and hear divorced women tell me that their ex-husband mistreated them. To this I would think; "I do not believe you woman. I have met your ex-husband and I have heard his story. You traded him in for profit."
Women today do not value marriage or their men. They have been taught that they "can have it all". Well, yes they can, if they marry for life in their early 20's, have their children early, be a good wife and mother, support their husband in his career throughout their marriage and return to work when their children are in school. Other plans do not work.
We need to have disdain for those who fail at their marriage. It is a shameful thing. Such people have failed in their most important commitment. It damages their loved one very much.
We need to let the women who leave their child bearing too late to be examples to all women of the stupidity of playing around during their 20's (and even more). When will women realize that having children late greatly diminished the number of children who they can have and the health of those children. A good parent wants many children. My greatest regret is that my wife and I were able to have only 3 children.
My advice for a long marriage is: Men, you are the man. You be the husband. Women, you are the woman. You be the wife.
Regards, Geoff. Reeks
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Amen and God Bless. Women Respect your Husband. Husband love your wife.
The lack of respect for men is going to end with men not being at all loving to women. Not protecting them. Not giving an F what happens to them. Also if men are removed from a woman's life she is just a phone call away with 911 and will get protection in minutes when seconds count! Men be men. Workout be strong and move on!
Well spoken plan truth!
Well said sir.
Good women, if they even exist, are so bloody few and *so* far between, that its not worth it.
At all. Not the chase, not the catch, and certainly not the "prize."
Call me a failure at life. A loser. Anything you want.
I've spent the last 7 years post-high school on a journey of self discovery, development and fullfillment. And my conscience is as clear as the night sky.
I'm training for the profession and world that i love. (Aviation)
Im gonna be making excellent money (secondary goal) doing it, and i'll reap the rewards of it till the day i leave for good. And I will leave a happy person.
I don't need to jepoardize all of that for something as insignificant as a woman.
Daniel Cannata I don’t disagree. But we can’t all go that way. We have to take a chance, otherwise how does the race survive? We have to have children. Children are worth all the risk.
All throughout their younger years, women want the jock. Then, when they get older, they want the guy that went to college. As a man, being college educated doesn't benefit you (dating wise) until you're 30+ so it's no wonder why more men don't choose to focus on that.
As a man who went to university and is now earning quite well, I can't really say I'd strongly consider a woman in her 30s. If she's single at that age, she's likely overlooked guys like me her whole life. But now that her looks are starting to fade, she's decided they I'm datable. I'd much rather pick up a younger woman and I have plenty of time to wait for the right one.
Girls at any age will shame a man for being single and unattached. But later on when they want a guy, seems like all the guys are taken, how interesting right!
That's really not always the way. I had three longish relationships in my twenties/early thirties didn't date much in between as I was trying to get over the last one and now have all three guys popping up every so often (even though two are now married) . It really works both ways. And no, they weren't 'chads' or 'alphas' just normal guys who later said they were too young/immature/unable to communicate. I couldn't give a damn about my career and I'm now 36 and staring cat lady status in the face. I'm told I'm attractive by male acquaintances/friends but absolutely terrified to get involved with anybody again.
You're right with that
Could it possibly be that no one here was talking about YOUR personal experiences but the GENERAL attitude of women toward men? Try being the guy who was always "like a brother", listening to women complain about how terrible their men treated them, and yet always going after the same type of men, i.e. the "jock", the "rich" boy or the "bad boy". Then suddenly, ten years later, when they finally pull their heads out of their asses and realize that the good guy is marriage material, they realize that he is already married because a decent woman, who doesn't only think about HER wants and needs, snatched him up while the other women were playing let's make a deal. Now of course I realize that this is simply MY personal experience and therefor wouldn't presume that EVERY situation is like this. Perhaps you should do the same. I realize this might not make much sense to you, because it is quite apparent that you can only look at the world from YOU'RE PERSONAL EXPERIENCE, but I have seen this happen quite often. My point being that not every woman is like you. Not every man is the same, and you really shouldn't try to compare your experience to the whole of humanity.
Stop making this a moral issue, you're only lying to yourself. You objectify women, the younger ones look better. It has nothing to do with virtue.
It seems to me that women say they want to be the breadwinner but they don't want any of the responsibility that comes with it.
Of course divorced men are poorer than women. I paid child support for 20 years, lost 70% of my super and my house. Women should make up. Thank God I met a good one later in life.
And the saddest part is - this cycle of females ripping the last sandwitch out of male's mouth during divorce cannot be just stopped, as those weirdos get to raise the kids, and they raise their daughters to hate male people too
Jup, a blow up doll, a dog, a gaming console or a motorcycle are so much better choices regarding a companion.
Losing 70% of super in a settlement is just plain wrong. I think Super shouldn't even be touched in divorce, unless the both parties agree to it & then it should be no more than 50:50 split.
Lou, they pool all assets and put on a percentage. I lost close to 70% and only married for three years. She got me on the 5 years we dated prior to the marriage. To throw salt into the wound she got 70% of the value of my two motorbikes which were bought after we divorced and hadn't settled. Ended up parting with $750K in 2005 dollars. I am now blissfully a born again bachelor with quite a few female friends ;) And child support finishes in 2 years... happy days. Edit... I should add she contributed sweet FA and enjoyed an amazing standard of living for a school teacher. I also haven't seen my daughter for nearly 7 years and spent $380K in the Family court. Marriage is for losers (certainly in the case of men).
silly oldbastard Sorry to hear the family courts hit you so hard, but good women do exist. Not everyone wants to take more than they paid in.
Woman: Is it my fault that men don't love me?
Man: No, but it is your fault that your 130 pound frame carries 190 pounds of weight.
Great interview but sound issues make it a bit tricky
Sound issues isn't it, welcome to Australian internet
richard mattocks
Easy solution is to use a headphone with mic instead of speakers when conducting the interview
headphones with mics won't help bandwidth and speed issues.
Ranked 50th, average 9.6 - 11.1Mbps. (Due to NBN roll out replacement for the ADSL2+ copper)
Why, the majority of the country is vast and of those vast connections are fixed wireless with only fiber internet going into major capital cities and some rural cities and towns.
As another hit in the bollocks, NBN fiber is pretty much like sharing your connection with everyone else so if everyone else is using their connection for say Netflix during the night once they get home and you want to do some uploading to youtube, good luck with that and enjoy waiting for those people to piss off to work the next morning in the hopes of your upload completing.
Same set up as last time. No problems before. There was no echo during the interview at all on my end.
I'm glad she brought up something that I've noticed and been telling people for a long time: in general, women over-estimate their sexual market value. I have no real problems with hypergamy; I think it's reasonable for a woman to want the best mate she can possibly get with her SMV. However, when her impression of her own value is greatly over-inflated and leaves her incapable of accurately gauging her actual value in the sexual marketplace, THAT is a problem. I place the blame for this squarely at the feet of a society where we've done everything possible to give women all the benefits of being "equal," while shielding them from all of the responsibilities of that freedom.
Entropiated Good point. Women are grading themselves like they would grade a man. They believe education and career success get them points towards attractiveness, but they have sadly been misled. The sooner females ask, "How do males rate me?" The sooner they will discover they are not a 8.5 out of 10, but more like a 6.5 or 7. That realization will allow females to step back into reality and find a mate who wants to become serious.
Trust me, they're more likely a 3 or a 4.
What you have mentioned is such an accurate statement, you could also blame this on social media platforms, be it Instagram, tinder, facebook etc... where you have thirsty as fuck men boosting women's SMV for the cause of thinking they may get their dick wet if they say nice things and make the women feel good about herself. This then gives the women an impression that she is more attractive than she actually is.
At the end of the day we can talk about this issue until our faces turn blue and nothing is going to change, men and women are both to blame with the way the genders interact with each other these days, men have lost their masculinity and women have gained a false sense of confidence that they can easily get by without a man if the man they want is not available to them at this present time. It really is a sad state of affairs.
SMV is different than MMV. See Marriage Market Value MMV while a part comes from SMV, it takes into account more long term attributes like personality, family, values, etc. Nearly any girl can get laid, a 5 SMV girl can easily get an 8 SMV guy to nail her, but he will never commit or might not even call her back. It is so silly that these women can't comprehend the difference!
They make a fundamental conflation, "would bang" does not mean "would marry".
Dating in your 40's as a man is like shooting fish in a barrel.
GenXRanter I'm 43 and can't be arsed bothering any more. Rather keep my money.
Maybe and also because a lot of single blokes in that age group can't be bothered with the hassle of dating over-entitled women any longer.
GenXRanter dating as a man over 40 is like a game of soccer/football. The only way you're going to score is by doing something illegal.
Pretty much. The reaction I get, now that I'm in my mid-40's is... EWWWWWW!!! Creepy Old Guy!!!
Sure they want my six figure income, only if I was 20.
Lurch USA Thing is I look damned good! Most people think I'm late 20's /early 30's. Joined a gym , changed my diet, changed routine.... a year /6 months I'll be golden.
Females have been sold that they should make the choices a male would make to find the true path to happiness. Well that's proving to be untrue. A male can sacrifice his teens and twenties for a large payout in his thirties and forties. Female biology tends to go into overdrive in the mid thirties. The want of children and a suitable father begins to consume the average woman. And with good reason. Her fertility is quickly becoming an ever pressing issues. Men can successfully father children at nearly any age. Someone once said women are born rich and die poor. Where men are born poor and die rich.
Yeah, that is the joke about women being horny in their 30's, cause the eggs are running out! Guys are nuts in their teens and 20's and calm down later on. Yep guys value goes up if they work at it. Women are really attractive in their teens and each individual woman has a certain peak level and age. It is up to the individual to use what they are blessed with as it ages away. Joke in college was I keep getting older, but the girls seems to stay the same age!
I'll remember that saying.
" Someone once said women are born rich and die poor. Where men are born poor and die rich." that's GOLD
Assuming the man works hard and makes a stable career, and is careful with his finances
@@superchuck3259 That's a joke from the movie Dazed and Confused. It's very well-known
For the women who can't find a man. You can find plenty of cat food on aisle 7.
Not forgetting that women look very carefully at what any potential male suitor "brings to the table", they don't give too much consideration to what they are actually bringing to the table, often thinking that all they need to bring is themselves.
This is very true, women don't want to think about what they do/do not bring to the table in a relationship. We're a very narcissistic group on the whole. Obviously, there are some exceptions, but overall, we're pretty blind to ourselves. Most women don't have the capacity to be honest with themselves and to really look at what they're offering.
Myself, for example, I'm unemployed (looking for employment), suffer from a few medical issues that mean I'm a liability at almost any work places, I'm overweight, short (5foot) lass with a fair bit of mental baggage from past experiences and the only thing I could really offer anyone is my affection, love and support and lets be honest, that's not much.
I'm really lucky, I've managed to find a really great guy that is way out of my league in truth and I was absolutely floored when he told me his feeling for me (I was pretty sure he wouldn't be attracted to someone like me), but I know that I'm one of the really lucky ones.
Don't be too hard on yourself, I work in a predominantly female field, earning above the average wage in my country and, of course, the women in my department earn exactly the same wage that I do (quite rightly).
But when looking for boyfriends they expect any bloke to already own a house, and earn more money than them.
When I ask them what they are expected to supply they typically stare at me blankly. Some of them even ridicule men who still live with their parents, whilst they still live with their parents.
The level of double think and dissociation astounds me (in fairness to them, they (now) freely admit they are spoilt and entitled).
I'm increasingly of the opinion though that if, as a species, men started to think and act more like women, we would probably become extinct!
"often thinking that all they need to bring is themselves." Actually all the women thinks she needs to do is bring her Golden Vagina to the table and the guy will want to be with her. Well he will be with her tonight, but not forever, that is the poor thinking process! Her confusing SMV with Marriage Market Value MMV. No guy wants to marry a girl that had sex with everyone and now is finally getting around to him. I recall in college some dorm floors would have a girl that slept with most guys on the floor, would you want to date her and be the last guy? How much could she respect you? She will abuse that man!
Victoria:- Spoken very much like a feminist. When women are taken advantage of, its the fault of men, if men are being taken advantage of, well they have probably done something to deserve it!
(incidentally, when in this thread have I expressed some desire to only go for young women? Are you projecting perhaps? And whats with the bodyshaming of women who chose to augment themselves, isn't bodyshaming wrongthink now? What sort of feminist are you?)
@Victoria:- Well I have to admit I'm impressed. You have written so much and yet said so little!
Not only have you completely failed to answer any of the questions I have asked, but you have actually proven the fundamental question of the entire thread in your admission of having a child with a man with "more money strength and power"!
You also seem to feel as if this man should be giving you and the children significant amounts of his own money.
Doesn't that seem a bit entitled?
I am however curious, it would seem as if your pregnancy was not planned, and you accuse your ex of being selfish for "demanding" you have an abortion. Are you not equally selfish for not having it? Certainly if would seem you put your choice above that of your ex-partner. Also your use of the term "tried to" would indicate that he was not successful in his wish, so would this not indicate that your wishes and desires took precedent over his?
How can you therefore maintain that you, as a woman, are being oppressed by a system that seems to have backed you up in opposition to your male ex-partner?
Doesn't it stand to reason that in this instance...HE was oppressed?
Forced into parenthood against his wishes?
Now it's interesting that you seem to be very aware of the pain that the minority of evil men inflict upon women, but seem completely oblivious to the fact that such men will inflict just as much pain on other men. You also seem to be blind to the fact that evil women also exist, who will also inflict pain on other men and women, or maybe you simply don't care about them.
In fairness, not living in the USA, I don't really know how men over there act. But do you not think it massively bigoted to judge ALL "English speaking men" as having gone nuts based on your own particular experiences of a small number of men?
Would it be acceptable for me to judge all women by the actions of Valerie Solanas? Eileen Wurnoss? Imelda Marcos? I would welcome you to travel to Africa, India or even The New Caliphate to see whether "English speaking men" are comparatively better or worse than the men of those cultures.
And please understand that there is no shame in my words, or on my face.
Your words, unfortunately, are just dripping with ignorance
Now I am guessing that English is not your first language, so please forgive me if I interpret anything you have written in a manner in which you did not intend.
So you can pretty much sum it up, women want to be successful as men but they don't want the responsibilities that come with it? Riiiiight.
Feminism is equality...with terms and conditions. Terms that favor women, but conditions that only apply to men. Got it. Got to love feminine equality /sarcasm
Okay, let me guess. Women are going to blame everyone and everything, except themselves, when answering the question of why women are losing the dating game. The only thing they won't blame, is themselves. In fact, I'm betting they'll twist themselves into all manner of ad hoc pretzel shapes to avoid taking responsibility for their own circumstances. *_*grabs popcorn and sits back to watch the video_**
in the old days women were whining about wife-beating;
now they're whining that there are not enough supermen to date;
I wonder what's next
Next up, ex-wife beating! :-)
Women have been sold the tale that the biggest VICTIM is the BOSS. Well that might work well in some social circles, when times are tough, it FAILS. Times are tough for out of shape women over 30. Men that even want to risk women will have plenty to choose from.
Victoria; lesbians with frozen embryos won't succeed unless genetics science becomes so advanced that all embryos are designer babies with IQ above 200 (everyone's a genius);
with the current state of science, a lesbian (maternalist) society would turn into a failed state
Victoria; you're crazy & wrong on most subjects;
matriarchy (with average IQ=100) always fails
Too many women in their thirties and forties
think they’re 8s, 9s, and 10s when they’re closer to 4s. 5s, and 6s. When men and
women are in their 20s, women have a lot more options on who they could date
but once they hit the thirties or forties everything shift in the men’s favor. Most
divorced women have kids, expect to be wined and dined and romanced like men once
did for them and don’t realize they are not as attractive as they once were. Men
their age are looking for a newer model with fewer miles, less baggage and for
the same expense. Why would an average looking single thirty or forty-year-old man date
an average looking thirty forty-year-old woman when he could date an average looking
woman ten year younger? Simple, he probably won’t.
Yep. Jump on any dating app and just look at their wants and expectations from these women who hit the wall many years and their sexual market value is next to zero!!! It`s a great laugh. They actually bring nothing to the table.
@@badhabitz69 that's what i found when i used dating sites on-off over 4 years. Plain, fat women in their 30s and 40s demanding older guys spend money on them. Must be.. must have..
Ugh.
@@ChimpingBulldog Totally!! The social media world has really inflated their self worth and egos beyond belief!!
There CAN'T BE significantly more single women than men because for every man that is no longer single, 1 woman is also no longer single, the correct words to say is "Younger women are snatching up the top men and all thats left are men that I don't want because I was slow to the dating game".
Bro statistically there are more women (except maybe china)
decade of "dating"... ;-)
Yes. Everyone knows what "dating" means, and Arndt would do well to be more honest with her language, especially when she's on a high horse talking about how she tries to be honest with women with women who can't seem to handle honesty from another woman.
LOL I know, right?
Well you get nowhere if you are insulting or mean with other people. I think it's good phrase that convey the meaning without being mean or unrespectfull. You know she do business and she needs to be polite with clients.
BeTeK11 is right. It is an adult thing to do - not to insult anyone without reason. And someone's gotta be adult there, if SJWs don't want to.
I think its no secret that women are always wanting to marry Mr Right. But Mr Right came and went a long time ago. The notion that women can have their cake and eat it too by the socialists has resulted in fewer Aussie kids and that's exactly what the goal of the socialists is.
I think people are missing something important here. Educated men are perfectly comfortable pairing off with less educated women. It isn't that the men have paired off before they hit 30, it's just that they aren't saying that only educated women are acceptable. We don't need to be equal or greater in social power dynamic to our partners.
I find it really fascinating that society has told me my entire life, that as a man, I'm more shallow, superficial, and less caring than women. I keep see statistics that are showing the contrary. For example, with online dating 80% of men are rated as average, to below average in appearance (leaving only 20% as desirable) whereas women are rated by men as more equally distributed. Women requiring education as a prerequisite doesn't equate to tangible differences in prospective partners.
I'm content as an educated man to remain single. I would like to find intelligent (educated doesn't mean intelligent by any stretch of definition), sensible woman where there is mutual attraction. That sensible part literally is the largest barrier. "Educated women" these days (in terms of impact towards in a relationship) is more like signing up for women who align with a political ideology, instead of reality.
People are always looking to find sources of their dissatisfaction as something external to themselves. It's easier to complain that something else is the problem, instead of changing ourselves. The irony and catch 22 here, is that I feel like it's unlikely for me to find a compatible partner because of the unrealistic and uncompromising expectations of me, and I feel that it's making me bitter and unlikely to change.
Edit: whoops. Seems like they covered a lot of what I typed as they said it...
Thank you...I don't know why these two experts including the CZcamsr of this video can't think outside of that socio-economic box...that won't fix the divorce rate at all.
Look, even in the 1980s it was widely discussed that a degree educated woman who was single at the age of 30 had a very small chance of getting married and having a family. They did studies on it. Women who often get crap non STEM qualifications delude themselves into thinking they're intelligent and deserve an intelligent guy. I am seriously glad that Feminism is becoming a mass train wreck, if 40% of the graduates are male and most of them would rather have prettier women than degree educated women... then serious lols at how many degree educated left over women there will be, a lifetime of student debt, unaffordable housing and cats instead of kids.
Why are men talking to women in 2017? Men keeping to themselves is the best thing around. Women are lost. Leave them be.
Correct!! Let them turn on each other..
Love sitting back and watching them destroy their lives
@paul w lol. Your shaming language has no power here woman.
Yes I know you are a woman. It's extremely easy to tell.
Excellent discussion. A women with some grasp of reality. What a refreshing change. Women hold each other back, they don't want their friends to be happy if they're not happy. Misery loves company with broads....
Nice to hear a woman who gets what is really going on in the dating world.
I'm old and done with the dating/mating game but I do still have an opinion lol. I haven't met a woman in this decade that seems to have her head on straight. I really feel sorry for good men today. I'm not saying however that most men are a good catch either.
Could some alpha male help Bettina out with her video/audio setup? She is A grade content with a D grade setup.
The fall back loop wasn't on her end. She was the one wearing headphones to avoid it.
I recorded the interview and there was no echo on my end or while I spoke.
slavmart Maybe so. I'm just going by other videos from both of them and Bettina has had audio issues before, Independent Man I can't remember any. Plus Bettina is relatively new to producing videos. I just think she's an enormously important voice and I know there's people that have helped new CZcamsrs out with their AV. If I had a clue about it I'd volunteer but I don't.
+mavishill Why would I interrupt the interview when there was no problem? Why talk about something you clearly don't know anything about?
Independent Man - The interview is barely watchable due to the sound quality.
If women want relationship advice they should ask men for it.
On the same subject:
The greater the number of sexual partners, the less likely you are to get (and maintain) a successful and happy mariage (see Stefan Molyneux's great video on the statistics of relationships and how they are linked with various social issues: czcams.com/video/um3EmS9DKsI/video.html)
Alexandre Frenette So true! Women have been sold this lie by feminism that it's empowerment to sleep around with a lot of guys, to go home with different guys on any given night out at the bar, when the truth is that it's really hollow and empty and ruins their ability to pair bond, which ruins their chances of having a real relationship, and makes men not trust them, even the guys who are banging them, and leads to guys not valuing them as anything more than that, which also ruins their chances at a relationship.
Solution for women in their 30s, men in their 30s going for women in their 20s... So women in their 30s should go for men in their 40s
The women in their 30's, have a smaller pool of "acceptables" and lower SMV such that they need to go for men in their 50's and 60's. With disease load, many are carrying, their SMV is in negative the negative range, IMO.
Arie Ravestein
If women are too concerned with their careers, sacrifices need to be made. My mans not what you call a 'top' man but he's my top man. He's 8 years older than I am (I'm 32). I wouldn't have minded if he had kids. He doesn't
Lis Lis or the women could do exactly what the men do, date younger ones and pay for everything.
Lis Lis: Generally, and by generally I mean for say 200,000 years, 99.9% of that time that would be what women would do...but today, they are playing at becoming men...in every possible way save growing a penis. GOOD POST!
Dating younger men for an older women is a cougar, and is generally regarded as highly vulgar, maniplative and agressive... just as were regarded older men to younger women...
The thing that bugs me more is "if they really despise men so much, why the helldo they want equality? it would make them as stupid and despicable as the men they hate... so they want to take their place, but wait a minute? That would make them the bad guys in lieu of the bad guys? Yeah, talk about he snake chasing after his own tail there.
enjoy your cats ladies
Cats actually might be better choice!
Cat Farming is on the rise
I'd rather have a cat than a toxic, manipulative girl.
...and your vibrators.
I would like a meerkats tribe.
I won't date a progressive or feminist girl! I d rather take care of a good girl! Good girl is defined as a girl that is sweet, humble regardless of occupation! Progressive and feminist are not that way!
Wonder why there is no picture of her man behind?
Woman will always loves her children more then she "loves" her man.
Women's magazines were (are?) the worst - women writing to women about what they think men want. Also the baby boomers felt they missed out because they had kids young.
I remember being younger and listening to my male friends talk and being shocked by the reality of what men actually want and desire. There is also the issue that esp in your 20s, women will judge other women on the 'quality' of their boyfriends.
Thirdwave feminism is not helpful on any level. Hopefully we aren't on a trajectory and mothers will give more realistic advice to their daughters.
As the old joke says: women understand women and they hate eachother, so yeah, they'll recretly give other women the worst advice possible to make sure they actually don't get the guys.
@@quoniam426 That is what fat/body acceptance is all about. Got a fat friend? Tell her she is lovely the way she is. Less competition!
The only exception I've ever come across is a woman who was a plus size model. She actually was more attractive than most of her skinny female friends.
I tried to ask out girls during my teenage and twenties, sadly my mother told me a bunch of BS ideologies and I happened to hear her at the wrong time.
I was taught to start off as friends with girls and then if they are ok enough, then become in a relationship with them.
I told one girl if she can start off as friends with me, she took it the wrong way and never had a chance again to start a relationship.
Then there was some issues about education before relationships as well as other things in life that took my mind off dating real girls and ended up feeling like I may as well just have fictional characters as my waifus.
I just like to have a girl who is ok with my geeky hobbies, sadly I feel that many girls want a guy who has money instead of someone like me who has a crazy imagination in my works of fiction that I enjoy.
I got bad advice, too. Read pick-up artist sites like "Return of Kings" (although it has too any white supremacist writers now). I can give you more advice if you contact me.
Well I do have my stories on Deviant Art as well as on Hentai Foundry, look up my TBoneTony name there and it is there with stories from 10 years ago. Busy life/University and Volunteer Work has made it hard for me in recent years but my fictional stories are there for those to read.
Mostly Tentacles, Quicksand and Snake vore stories with erotic moments including lesbian characters I write
@@TBoneTony lmao i knew a girl obsessed with hentai crap. She wanted those tentacles.
Not so much money, but looks are godlike and the only enjoyable way to date is to be a very good looking man.
Late teens to mid 20's, is good. Don't know PUA, that has a few good things, but it isn't about developing relationships. It is about CONFIDENCE to approach, and not afraid to be rejected. You learn to vibe, and other techniques. That is mainly about sex as the goal.
When you are ready to settle down, you have experience with women. You choose the values you want from them. There is a shift of sex for gratification to sex being part of an emotional bond. Do you see the transition here?
Women on the other hand have a different psychology, the sex dynamics doesn't change. The also then treat emotion as a transaction for financial gain. If you don't have the resources I won't provide sex, I won't share emotion. These women will end up bitter, and since misery loves company, they will help others to become like them.
Hahahaha. As someone who only did their HSC but I've had, and operated successful businesses in oz. More of an autodidact than any formalised education. But well traveled and not the 10days in Bali kind. In general I've found many of the "highly educated women" I've dated...on so many levels, utterly unintelligent unless it's in the sphere of their specific education and career, lacking life experience, unable to knowledgeably converse on diverse subjects and often myopic on most, think they are deep and meaningful but are actually shallow and superficial in thought and action. Many generally over 30 carrying the cliche "emotional baggage" or attitude, generally expect the male to adjust their rhythm to suit theirs. I mean if you tend to be glib /flippant and not into the PC culture, most expect you to project differently when you first met them. Yeah fck that.
IM you nailed it about the humour! Aussie guys take the piss generally with people they want to feel comfortable around and be friends with. IMO by no means all, but many are pretentious and have a pedestrian sense of humour.
Oh yeah bit of reverb from her end on that vid mate.
How do you confuse a feminist?
Tell them they have neither the right or permission to agree with a IM video.
"How do you confuse a feminist?"
- Tell her you won't allow her to make you a sandwich.
bla blahblah You fixed that one for me. And regarding the the rest of your comment, I'm pretty much aware of the code you have to use for them chicks, although it might get a little tricky sometimes. Regarding my comment, it wasn't that possible to figure out if the guy might be a little too harsh with them chicks, so I meant it for consideration. But it was also kind of a joke.
"utterly unintelligent unless it's in the sphere of their specific education and career"
That's not gender-specific at all, it's just academics.
sorryst illtrying Hahaha a dick towards women, perhaps. I've quite a few females friends married or otherwise. They'd all agree I'm confident and cheeky though without malice. In truth I've taken a lot of their friends out as favours.. to them ( made it clear I'm a Batchelor till death). A certain look or smile from the hubby or BF usually tells me if I've been suckered into something. If I'm overtly mean, subtly sarcastic or looking to have a dig, it's usually a purposeful action my part. I'm rarely unintentionally rude. But I don't take or give unnecessary or unwarranted attitude. I tend to mirror people's attitudes towards me, be nice I'm nice. Act like a c#%T, I'll reciprocate and I'm really good at it.
Hahaha however I do usually control the context of a first date/meeting. I prefer activities as I gave up drinking years ago. No bars or clubs. Bowling is usually my first choice, not that I am regular bowler or any good at it. But it weeds out the women who are overly concerned with make up/heels and their nails. Zoo, hiking and bike rides also make the list depending on the situation. All these activities make it difficult for them to be inactive and overly groomed.
@A Neil.. well, made me laugh!
@blah blah hahaha i wont be a dick for the sake of it. But if they want to learn who can be the most unreasonable. It'll be me every time.
Why the hell would anyone date in their 50s?
I have a story that is really related. My ex got with me saying if her seizures ever stopped she would start working. She told me she wanted to work and I was disabled. A time came when they stopped for a full 5 months. a full 5 months and she at the start of that 5 months she threw a chef's knife at my face. I think she knew after that it did not matter I was throwing her out. I spent 5 months fighting for her to leave because the cops would not remove her. I payed the bills, I had the disability that qualified me for the housing. I was the weaker of the 2 and abused often. She would yell at me to cook every day, to clean everything, and I was told I had to work now that she was not sick as I was getting sicker. I nearly just took her keys one day and spartan kicked her out. No joke. I called the cops all the time for help but they blamed me.
I am autistic and sick. How can I be expected to provide after I entered the relationship when she said she wanted to work? I am far too sock to work.
Men need rights. The domestic violence laws that enable women to victimize men need to be completely repealed.
You're kind of a hypocrite in your own story. You blame her for not working when she uses the excuse that she's too sick to work, but it's ok to use that very same excuse as to why you don't have a job either? If you're both legitimately disabled, why don't you qualify to receive disability from the government?
If women aint honest with their friends, dating a woman, can you expect them to be honest and straight forward with you?
GO TO MGTOW BOYS!
Another great video. Bettina is awesome, someone needs to build a statue of her.
Don't simp. AWALT.
Sound engineering is the one thing holding the internet back from running fake news out of business XD
I have met more decent, single men than single women
I haven't watched it yet. But it needs to be said right away. Women totally own the dating game. They hold all the cards. They have all the advantage. If they are complaining about "losing the dating gamer" it'd be akin to complaining about "losing the restaurant game" as follows: "yes. well.... I'm sitting here at this fancy restaurant and the waiter is not cutting the food into bite sized chunks for me and not putting it in my mouth for me and not gently moving my jaw up and down to chew it for me... whoa is me..... whoa is me......"
Women may lose at dating, but they win at everything else, don't they....
every girl will loose when they get into 30 :/ after that no1 care so after that man also get better with the lady so one of these we will all loose its all depend witch road you take
Not for long. I think we're seeing the initial big backlashes now and by 2030ish it will be too late and ball these empowered now embittered women ... I don't even know what will happen. New forms of matriarch societies taking form. They need a continuous line of feminised men from the single mother's though so obviously guys will still be bangin them😅 I don't know but it's not good. For society or the morals and values of planetary existence.
I can vouch for the fact Women have FAR overestimated their worth. I'm 36, 7% bodyfat, six figure income and an 8 in appearance according to friends. The ONLY women on online dating websites who will contact me are overweight 2's. Anything above that seem to have some overblown idea they're going to nab that millionaire 10.
fuck hookers.
they are all whores. Some are long-term (marriage) and some are short-term (prostitutes)
The huge growth of MGTOW is going to make it very hard for women
In the future
The future will be full of old miserable single cougars! LOL
fun to watch lol
I guess when we're older it might be fun to periodically go out and play. I have actually wonderered about the effects long term, and believe much of the reality is visible in this comment thread. I have always believed also that feminists are actually Not men a worst enemy- but the good woman's worst enemy in the end of all this.
Always remember that this could have been avoided
Scared the crap out of me for a minute. Didn't expect the face reveal there.
Not a face reveal, revealed months ago, try to keep up.
Independent Man I remember when I first saw your face a couple months ago, I can now never unsee your face.
Sorry for the offense, In my American mind his face just doesn't match his voice =/ I didn't mean he is ugly lol I just saw him as say... more American. sorry for the offense
Not nice, bro. Just delete your lame comment about not liking a cool person's face. Preschool level stuff here dude. Internet is best when not used to shed all basic kindness.
he looks good, you'd blow him and you know it
Men don’t want to get on one knee for women who spent too much time on two knees. When you decide to be careless and free then decide all of a sudden you want the men that were not good enough for you during your casual sex days then you loose.
CDR MT Im 21 and my biggest desire in a partner is that she is a virgin.
Ryan Larson good luck. People lie.
Why the double standard?
God DAMN, this was a GREAT VIDEO.
Every woman should be forced to listen to this, like as part of their college intake to ensure they ALL see it.
Women in the western world have a problem with self esteem, they have too much of it. Way too much.
With body positivity and fat chicks everywhere, they need to be brought back down to earth. Pronto.
I shudder to think of what dating would be like for me now if I hadn't met my lovely husband (I'm 44) it would be a nightmare I'm sure & I'd be childless.
Janet Davis Even if you show them and explain it to then they will never give up what they consider to be freedom. Most people dont think about their far future and only seek immediate satisfaction. Its not until they get old and living a lonely life that they go in a rage but like addicts they dont take responsibility for their past decisions. They blame men and hold hatred towards them for not reaching their expectations. Sadly even at their 40s they still dont want to settle with a nice guy.
Janet Davis You dodged a bullet good for you Janet.
I agree, but I would replace "self esteem" with "vanity". Women today are WAY too vain, and have very LITTLE self esteem. If they had real self esteem they wouldn't be as vested in being so vain.
@@nweeezy Amen! Add that to the entitlement complex Western women have today and you have yourself a nightmare in the dating world.
Not to sound sexist (though I know many will claim it is), women's evolved hypergamous nature is completely incompatible with their current desire for "success". As a general rule, women marry up, not down. It's the evolved instinct to find the ideal mate to protect and provide for her and her offspring. If the alpha male in any group of social animals (like lions or wolves) becomes in any way unsuitable, he is soon replaced, and the old alpha is driven off to die alone. The problem with female hypergamy is that the more successful women are, the fewer men there are "above" them, or even parallel to them. Not the only problem of course, there are others, like the financial objectification of the walking ATMs known as men, but it's the problem in this context.
I read one article, ironically by a feminist, iirc, that said a happy family can't support two alphas. Her theory was that if a woman wanted to be an "alpha", working the high-paying, high-power job, while still having a successful family, she would have to marry a "beta" male, one who was content to run the home and raise the kids.
Even then she couldn't help but put it in terms of the beta guy being someone she "settled for", rather than a man she would have preferred to marry, but in essence I think her theory had merit.
And as one commenter on another video said: "Arguably women have more economic power, since they have the economic freedom to choose happiness over money when it comes to choosing jobs. Since they will not be expected to finance their partners life style."
(edit) Also, I stopped the video to make this comment, then you essentially made the same point after I re-started it. Oops, lol.
What a great interview. This sir, is why I support your channel. The financial videos are great as well, but the social videos are what keep me coming back for more. Brilliant. You, wearing a yellow vest in a live stream one day, would make my day, just saying. :) Cheers.
A yellow vest?
Your original avatar had a yellow vest, or something similar. Twas an attempt at humour. Cheers mate, keep 'em coming.
Gotcha, all out of yellow vests unfortunately. And keep your sick fantasies to yourself.
I got what Geoffrey Field was saying straight away. You really need a line of Yellow vests and jumpers (or sweaters if you are targeting the the US market) in the shop Indie. Just for us retro hipsters.
I love that statement about to many gays. I've used that many times when girls come over and try to pick me up, to get ride of these harpies. None of them know how to be nice to guys except if they are after something.
Kia ora another kiwi up in hurrr
I think Bettina needs to turn her speakers down so we don't get this awful echo.
it sounds like internet lag in a skype call
Good interview, what was said regarding female friends and excessive positive support is very understated. You men have no idea just how rediculous it can get at times. I absolutely refuse to say anything negative regarding my spouse, haven't for a long time. The storm of 'dtmfa', abuse innuendos (absolutely ludicrous), encouragement to share more and commiserate and couples counseling demands at the minimum from helpful friends. If the advice is ignored or you correct their misinterpretation, well, then, you're in denial and likely abused by toxic masculinity. It beggars belief.
Most women can't accept that they are a 5 or less, if they're honest, and tell each other they're all 7 & 8, or a Corvette or special cheese. And I hope we have all learned that a few extra pounds is totally code for McDonald's fat. What a mess
Yeah, I have seen women play that pump each other up emotionally game. Such a strong group preference that they want each other to be falsely happy. But they know inside it is not true and it eats them up. depresses them. then they hate themselves and hate their friends too. and maybe hate their husbands too, sickness. Everyone ages and not everyone can be a perfect 10!
I think we understand. There are many girl and women talks online and on TV. Plus just personal experience. The moment women get to certain numbers the word honesty stop to exist.
I agree, I personally like girls that are a bit larger. 180 @ 5ft 9in example. But most guys I know that is too heavy. 5 ft 5 in @100 is way too small. But I've seen girls 300 plus at 5 ft 9in thinking they can get any man because they had an ok job! Their thing (guys hit on me) really ? I used to tell them a guy will have sex with any conquest, if that's what you want. But no one wants to stay around or keep them. Then they still look for top of the line. I knew a girl that was married, she was 5 ft 10 in tall 280 lbs treated her husband like scrap. He was 6 ft 5in 190 lbs. Made 65k a year treated her like gold. Put her through school, her classmates actually told her that they wanted her husband if she didn't want him. He was a great catch and hot. After school, she told him that she could do better than him. She has a tall, dark, handsome which a lot of girls rated him a 9 . Good job, non violent and faithful. Her ex husband was a male stripper at one time , before they met. Now this is a prime example of how stupid women can be. I have seen him blow girls off that try to pick him up. I have heard girls state that he will be my husband! He just don't know I exist yet!
Women - juice isn't worth the squeeze anymore.
Good interview. Look forward to more.
Once I met a girl 27y , waitress always complaining about her shitty job and men , and I asked why are you doing this .She replied : Cause I have studied so much and I can't find a job or 'good man ' even with my super nice clothes, I asked what did you study , she said ' experimental art 'a t a new university , after I said what about your clothes, she replied proudly that she worked 2 y to save money and to go to Paris for shopping.I never talked to her again
victoria ann zabaras
First , not all men have collection , but collection has a price that increase with time and it is for his own pleasure so it is a funny investment , and I never saw a man working in a shitty job for 2 y just to buy collector baseball.
Second , she bought clothes that lose half of value when used to get a 'good men' so she worked 2 y just to attract a rich stupid guy , so basically looking better , it shows how superficial and stupid she is and entitled .
I dare to think whatever I want and I do not censure my thoughts for anyone , girls included
victoria ann zabaras
Anyone can do whatever he wants( I don't have collection ) , you just avoid what the coments says , and women want to be beautifull , yeah women are depressed and superficial creature who wants to look like instead of being .
The collection definition means the value increase , cloth is a lost , superficial , but you still avoid talking about someone working 2 y in a shitty job just for superficial reason , cloth in order to get a man.Use your brain for something else than man-hating and stereotype
victoria ann zabaras
wow , you first talk about collection , you avoid on purpose what I said about working 2 y for a superficial reason but focus on clothing , you hear just what you want to hear , zero logic , zero honesty , you use shaming tactics .
You are shameless, You are not worth talking to.
victoria ann zabaras You avoid deliberatly what I said about this girl and focus on your own question on purpose and after try shaming tactics , you are a dishonest bitter person
Are you serious? Women decided they wanted jobs. They decided they wanted careers. Now they have found it is not to their liking and shock and horror, they blame men for it. They suddenly realize they have to pay mortgages and bills? Who would have thunk? You have a job so you have to pay the bills? Jeez, if only someone had told us men that. Oh wait....
Nope, this is not it. Women got a lot of winning by the ability to be independent instead of owned by some man that in many cases look down on them like you do. Women have no problems with paying the bills. And that tough parts of jobs have lowered is much to the winning by women.
People like you make society dumber, fatter, lazier and vastly more ignorant of reality. How about you stop blaming others for your own failings. Learn some history, real history and be grateful that it was your father, grandfather, great grandfather and so on down the line that fought, worked hard and died so your fat ignorant arse could even exist.
Keep living in fantasy. I'm sure that will help you when reality comes knocking. You let us know how that pans out for you.
The more I hear Bettina talk, the more I love her.
Now if only we could get masses of women to listen to her. And by listen, I mean understand what she is saying.
There was a comment thread on your last video of a woman complaining exactly like what Bettina was talking about here. A bunch of guys were trying to tell her what her problems might be, and she basically dismissed it. I bet one of her friends was telling her she's a good catch.
Women make poor choices generally. To look at what a man does for a living rather than his virtues is moronic. As a man, womens wish lists are mind boggling, superficial, materialistic stupidity. As a man, if I was still interested in women, I would want someone nurturing, respectful, playful/fun, sense of humor, looks after herself, feminine and has some kind of interest in something and a few shared interests. Couldn't care less about her job, what she owns, how much money she has, don't care if her family are tools as I wouldn't be dating them.
Whatever women have, they want more. Add to this that women reserve the right to change their mind at any moment, which means you cannot ever trust anything she says because it will be different tomorrow. No one can build a marriage or long term reletionship on that for long. The solution I've found is to have a compartmentalized life and get the various things you want out of life from different places. There's no need for a long term monogamous relationship.
What about the choice of life style balance for the husband... of course he doesn't get that privilege, what was I thinking.
Feminism has shown us the true nature of the female.
Jas A; Correct Femmism is a supremacy cult, not an equality movement!!
In theory, feminism is actually not against that idea. It wants to free both men and women from the traditional roles and hence let people choose this on their own. But then women in general are looking for a man that is more stable, and that's not feminism who is pushing that. But this creates the effect of ideas and reality not connecting.
I pictured you with a beard for some reason...
Shaved it off for this interview.
It's a good, informative interview... Nice job!
Bettina wouldn't have minded dude..! ;)
Well, if you are a woman beyond 30 and have high expectation on "elligible men", you may find out that those men are in high demand and do not value that university degree and your career that much but would rather date a woman that is 5 years younger and willing to get married and have children. Having high expectations is fine. But you should ask yourself why you think that mr. perfect has to choose you if he can have several other equally attractive women who do not have a long list of demands that he must meet to "qualify" (...those peasants do not meet my standards...). Other women may even flatter him for being such a successful guy instead of looking for his faults.
A colleague of mine used to tell her dates that she is working at a lawfirm. They assumed that she was a secretary. She did not tell them that she was one of the partners of that lawfirm. That was quite a smart move, as many nice guys would have been terrified otherwise. Her fiancee is an ex-soldier and does not earn half as much as she does. She does not think less of him, just because he is a student, planning on becoming a teacher at a trade-school.
Independent Man, wear headphones when you interview. If you have your guest on speakers, then you get that feedback... What she speaks comes out of your speakers, and feeds into your microphone, and goes back to her computer, comes out of her speakers, and into her microphone, and back to you. One or the other MUST use headphones; and preferably both.
Im in aus as a single male 30 yo and on six figures... i fear i have been getting charged a bachelor tax... can someone tell me if this is true.
MichaelKingsfordGray lol stick to ur 40k
Midipara I'm in front dude after I got out of relationship tax.
Just do like the coco crazy females these days, marry yourself. Problem solved.
Put away the max for retirement. At least your avoiding the divorce tax! Lose 50% of all your wealth ever plus your half your soul too!
Yes you are, it's called tax breaks for marriage and dependants. But this is just a word game. The effect is the same, you pay more in taxes for being single.
My advice, work less unless you really need that much money for some reason. It's not worth working to your full ability to pay for someone elses need. Especially since your taxes are paying for not only crooked politicians, but for some woman or minority to get an economically useless degree in professional victimhood studies, with which their only marketable skill will be to call you a "privileged oppressor" and to blackmail tech companies into paying them to run totalitarian reeducation programs in the name of "diversity." They will also be the army of Internet censors and narcs that will declare any contrary statement to their ideology to be "hate speech", and try to get you fired if you defend yourself against their accusations. James Demore
Demonization
Violation of unspecified term of service
Even if not explicitly violating any terms of service
You will also be paying for the maternity leave for kids that aren't yours etc.
Who is John Galt?
Listening to Bettina Arndt, I can't help getting the firm impression that we anti-feminists are living in an echo chamber.
Actively pursue having conversations with people you disagree with in order to find common ground. An echo chamber doesn't need to stay that way.
No, sorry. Didn't make myself clear. It was supposed to be a joke, given the massive amounts of echo that Bettina Arndt seems to be suffering from. I don't really think she's in a metaphorical echo chamber.
A joke's so much funnier when someone has to explain it, don't you think?
My women is 8 years younger than me..she picked me I was 30.It was effortless.When I was younger it was always such a struggle as I gotten older I care less but it gets easier. The rational male is a good read.
This is one of the best videos I have found and the comments. I will be working on losing weight and moving forward. THANK YOU for honest overview here on this site. Good stuff.
1:35. Career Blogger Penelope Trunk said the same thing about women waiting too long (age 30) to get serious about marriage.
Huh, I guess, as a hetero-man, I don't want to be stuck without choice either. Funny how that works. Shit's rolling downhill fast on this gynocentric society. I'm sorry but in reality one cannot have their cake and eat it too without side-effects.
Women eat a lot of cake and are getting too fat!
I couldn't get girls easily as a teen but by the time I was 30 I'd become that 'hero', I was Thai boxing and racing motorcycles at the time had girls falling off me. I wasn't that interested in 30 year olds it was more fit 21 year olds.
Even now I still attract women in their late 20's but I prefer my own age now as I don't want my own kids and don't want to work hard anymore, not that I worked too hard for too many years.
Bettina Arndt is so wise and full of common sense. She faces issues that few people want to touch, and brings a scientific and rational approach to them.
Oh my god, 80/20 rule even Bettina agrees
I know a lot of guys that are tradesman make six figures own there own home in their early 30's and women look down on them for not be college educated. While she is working in a restaurant and tens of thousands in debt but he is the dumb one
men in 30s have decided they would rather date younger women because its not as much drama and much more fun dates.u cant blaim men.look at all this 30 some year old women and how they act.
I am 6’1” Russian guy in my 40’s, live in Sydney, train every day, I went down SE Asian girl route. I refuse to deal with western women.
Great discussion. I just wish you had earbuds or headphones or something so that we don't get that very annoying echo.
seuratguy It’s a common Skype problem which is not related to headsets. I always use headsets and I get that annoying echo regularly but only from other continents.
I worked on remote area mine sites for 6.5 years during the Australian Mining Boom, (which ended in May 2012). During that time I worked on 1,000 to 4,000 man camps. Each night I would have dinner in the canteen. On the other side of the table would typically be a man who I had never met and would never meet again. These men told me their family stories. I have been married for 39 years to the woman who I still passionately love. However, 90 something percent of the men on these camps where divorced. Their wives found it profitable to trash these me. Then, I would return to Sydney on R&R and hear divorced women tell me that their ex husband mistreated them. To this I would think; "I do not believe you woman. I have met your ex husband and I have heard his story. You traded him in for profit."
Women today do not value marriage or their men. They have been taught that they "can have it all". We, yes they can, if they marry for life in their early 20's, have their children early, be a good wife and mother, support their husband in his career throughout their marriage and return to work when their children are in school. Other plans do not work.
We need to have disdain for those who fail at their marriage. It is a shameful thing. Such people have failed in their most important commitment. It damages their loved one very much.
We need to let the women who leave their child bearing too late to be examples to all women of the stupidity of playing around during their 20's (and even more). When will women realize that having children late greatly diminished the number of children who they can have and the health of those children. A good parent wants many children. My greatest regret is that my wife and I were able to have only 3 children.
Regards, Geoff. Reeks
Content second to none. I will subscribe to this channel if audio improves. Love that lady!
I'm all for higher education, however take note of the fact that more women than men are pursuing secondary/post graduate degrees. These secondary degrees produce a significant amount of debt. Most men may be avoiding the price tag of such an education until they're in a better financial situation, or an opportunity worth obtaining such higher education. Women seem to worry about the price tag later, especially when they can also look to marry a mate who can be expected to aid in paying off the debt. Very rarely can a man expect such an assist from his mate.
Women are children and school is mommy and daddy.
"the good looking men actually don't necessarily make the best partners" Pretty obvious when you think about it, the dating game must be completely reversed for these very few guys that women rate highly.
To understand what's going on we got to look at what patriarchy really is, and not the non-sense feminists carry on about, polygamous marriage, multiple women sharing the one man. Isn't this exactly what we got now, the old system of having patriarchal rulers picking and choosing the women they want to sleep with, while the peasants get the left overs.
If women had any brains at all, they would be at the forefront of wanting to bring back the old marriage contract and end this "women in the workplace" non-sense. Women need to stop pushing this "liberal lifestyle" on each other, it wrecks marriages, it wrecks happiness and most of all, it wreaks women.
Ramon S I think physical attraction is important but that's not necessarily defined by good looks alone. A lot more goes into it.
I've dated guys that were incredibly good looking physically but it was other quirks about their personality that made them more attractive to me. They were not the typical good looking jock. They were the incredibly good looking skate punks who skipped 2 grades in school due to their intelligence, discovered and named a new species of spider, got a degree in biology, ended up working construction and opening a brewery and drove a monster truck. Bit of a mixed bag. Very down to earth. Truly good people. Those relationships were always doomed because we were always (BOTH) in love with other people and just made out and hung out to pass the time. Great friends. No sex. We didn't want to mess that up.
I've dated other guys that would not be seen as attractive but again, it was other things about their personality that made them more attractive to me. If you are going after people based on the Surface or what looks good on paper you will be disappointed
victoria ann zabaras Indeed, it pretty common knowledge among men not to chase the best looking women possible. If you look at the research, men are pretty good at choosing women of similar value to themselves. However, the research tells us that women aren't good at this. 80% of females go for the top 20% of males. So, the top 20% of men in terms of attractiveness, have nothing to loose in the dating game from basically having sex with as many women as possable, who has done this, not them, it's the females.
However, you seem to think this is personal, some sort of personal insult. Well, at the moment, the dating game is a complete waste of my time. Implying that men "choose" partners at the moment is an absolute joke, society has become so female dominated it's almost pointless being a man any more.
Women have created this problem, women don't want stable marriage any more, so now women have to live with the consequences of that, good luck getting intellectual conversation out of your cats as you go into old age alone.
victoria ann zabaras, It's you who made this personal, not me. I was making a point that statistically (and not on the individual level) women choose mates from a very limited pool of men, at least on dating sites, where the statistics come from. It seems I've hit a sore spot.
And just because my name is Spanish, doesn't mean I'm Spanish, it only means my mother is bonkers, talk about judging a book by it's cover, it's actually exactly the point I was trying to make. I find women are extremely shallow when it comes to men, not interested in intellect at all, pretty much just seeing us as a bit of meat to have fun with.
And talk about being triggered by cliches, you will be glad to here the cats hate you too.
@@pollysshore2539 With all due respect, how good looking do you think you are? I bet that these men that you describe as not being typically attractive were 100% your looks match. Perhaps like most Anglophone women you slept around in your youth and played out of your league for a while, so you have a distorted view of your own attractiveness. Women in countries like America and Australia rarely ever date down in looks unless the man has money.
dios bananos You’re making a ton of incorrect assumptions.
Nbr 1: I’m Appalachian. We’re not raised to be gold diggers here because you will strike out. Money is not seen as a make or break factor here. I come from a long line of Scottish settlers who drilled work ethic, independence, not taking anything you can not work or trade for (aka no charity or handouts), and not acting above your raisin’ into heads for generations.
There are not a lot of men here who have a ton of money here. I’m not a city dweller that looks for a guy with a portfolio. Considering the culture and history here, working class jacks of all trades (that can build a house, make the furniture and do 10,000 other things if times are hard) are traditionally more favored here.
Dating does not = slept with. No, I did not sleep with a lot of people when I was younger. I have no interest in one night stands with strangers and had more long term serious relationships.
There is nothing wrong with noting the bounds of what some would find conventionally attractive. I was constantly asked why I was with my first love, who I had a 10 year relationship with. I was constantly told I was out of his league, by men and women (and even him).
He could draw blue prints, build a house from top to bottom, do all the plumbing & electrical, make the furniture (by age 15), play 5 instruments, write songs and was a joy to watch on a half pipe.
He was broke all the time in his teens & 20s, though. That’s to be expected.
We had similar personalities, opinions on matters and senses of humor. I found him very attractive (that was my point) others did not.
In case you think women here do nothing... think again. My generation, Gen X, was the first generation mostly born into homes with electricity & indoor plumbing. The eldest members of the generation were 2-3 when most had power though some in the most remote areas didn’t get electricity until the 1970s - 1980s. Most the women in my family worked jobs (this ain’t the suburbs, Beaver) or worked their ass off on a small family farm where made everything from butter to soap to clothes and killed chickens for dinner while dealing with 8-10 kids.
This is why old societies didnt give women so much choice. Its like letting your kid call the shots in your house, at the end of the day the kid will be a mess.
doctorcrapable and you can bet all the money in the world that future societies will be doing the same. These silly, silly silly women are just pushing it all too far. Too far for their own good.
The main reason I reject people who bash traditional societies. The social organization of traditional societies avoids all these problems (and in the end, it helps women).
@@joeldwest yeah.. women are so .. ',loving' ...
Don't tell me there is an education gap when I have a PhD and no woman wants to date me
MUTE yourself when the echo starts happening. Also I always recommend spending 5 minutes with your guest leading up to recording to address any sound issues that may arise so you can fix it before recording - depending on their level of experience doing webcam they may not realize a few dozen different etiquette and tech considerations, so get them familiar with those things during your first 5 minutes.
There was no detectable echo during the conversation whatsoever. Why do people insist on commenting on the details of events they couldn't possibly know?