Sadistic Narcissist
Vložit
- čas přidán 18. 09. 2010
- Everything You Need to Know about Narcissists, Psychopaths, and Abuse - click on this link: www.narcissistic-abuse.com/faq...
The narcissist is as much an artist of pain as any sadist. The difference between them lies in their motivation. The narcissist tortures and abuses as means to punish and to reassert superiority, omnipotence, and grandiosity. The sadist does it for pure (usually, sexually-tinged) pleasure. But both are adept at finding the chinks in people's armours. Both are ruthless and venomous in the pursuit of their prey. Both are unable to empathise with their victims, self-centred, and rigid. The narcissist abuses his victim verbally, mentally, or physically (often, in all three ways). He infiltrates her defences, shatters her self-confidence, confuses and confounds her, demeans and debases her. He invades her territory, abuses her confidence, exhausts her resources, hurts her loved ones, threatens her stability and security, enmeshes her in his paranoid state of mind, frightens her out of her wits, withholds love and sex from her, prevents satisfaction and causes frustration, humiliates and insults her privately and in public, points out her shortcomings, criticises her profusely and in a "scientific and objective" manner -- and this is a partial list. (From the book "Malignant Self-love: Narcissism Revisited" by Sam Vaknin - Click on this link to purchase the print book, or 16 e-books, or 2 DVDs with 12 hours of video lectures on narcissists, psychopaths, and abuse in relationships: www.narcissistic-abuse.com/the...) - Věda a technologie
There are monsters out here disguised as human beings..
I called him a heartless demon
Was in a relationship with one. I sketch artwork as a hobby. I can't draw anything I want just what comes to me so it's always a mystery what I will draw. One day I finished a drawing and looked it over. It was a person on their bottom, looking up in horror, retreating from a freshly decaying man skinned man looking down sadistically, with a healthy looking face. His clothing looked transparent as if the victim could see through and where his heart should be, at his core, was a obsidian chain anchored to the back of the rib cage and going out the back of them and vanishing into a mirage like wavy almost invisible slit in the air. A little demonic amorphous entity was in a crystal vessel where their heart would be and many black vines of smoke like matter came from it and wove all through the ribs and around the skeleton. The victim looking up in horror was barely detailed, barely more than the shape of the body, but two things were detailed greatly, the face particularly the eyes in fear, and the heart quivering in fear, looking like a treasure gem of ruby and gold layed lines where veins would be. The chained man was staring right at the eyes and heart direction wise. Took me 10 years to revisit that drawing a few months back and came to realize it was these kinds of people. Narcissist.
@@asgharakram completely heartless
My sister 😭
Btw that's so true.... I'm haunted by what my sister did to me and my loved one... your comment is a fact I get chills when I read it
Best way to get away from them is stop feeding them any emotion. They thrive on it.
Your sheer presence is enough even when you greyrock
You are right about all this. I had one final incident where I 'turned' on my narcissist: I shouted at him for the first time in two years, and was hysterical. He stated afterwards nonchalently, that he found it interesting. He said it was like "watching someone hanging off the edge of a cliff and watching them; waiting for them to fall".
Lol yeah they’re frigid ice cold on the inside
This reminds me so much of my old friend, who would fiercely reject support from others and stated things along the lines of “I thrive on abuse,” “I am masochistic” and “I’m well aware of my self-destructive tendencies” on a regular basis. He also told me he used to enjoy lying to and manipulating others to the point that they cried, and he would watch their misery without any empathy.
Despite this, he was offended when I called him a sadist, and insisted that he only wanted to irritate or trick people, not truly hurt them (stating that he only enjoys simple schadenfreude). He also claimed that he was changing and no longer wanted to be this way, saying “I had a screw loose, but I’ve screwed it back in.”
Wild! And wild thoughts
Thank You GOD for getting me away from this MONSTER!!! 👹
Southern Bell Me, too! Thank God!
Amen
Me. Too he’s dead to me
I’m just a few days no contact
Lol
You just described the sadistic narc I just divorced. A hurricane of pain and irreversible damage and destruction in his wake.
Take care
ME TOO
thank you man you are a treasure, I suspect that I'm a victim of parental narcissism where I find my dad trying to convince me that i should suffer to be happy in life therefore I have to submit to his orders and do whatever suits him and approve his ideals without question.
@Shinelucid -
Resonant of people practicing various religions, mostly monotheism.
I married a women that I believed was strong; but was weak. Every time she talks to me she has a degrading tone. I thought she would grow to respect me. I given up that relentless journey. I never realized how much pain she brings upon herself. In the video, you talk about a man being narcissistic. Narcissistic behavior isn't gender bound. Enjoyed your video.
My mother was a narcissist and my sister. Walt Disney said it all. Except for the happy ending part.
Kirk Meyers exactly
No men can be broken by narc women if the man is not aware.
Women are more covert and men are typically more overt, they switch between the two when necessary for their particular victim target.
Sam Vaknin, You have helped me navigate with some intelligence through some of the darkest times of my life. Thank you very much for your honest presentation style as well as your deep understanding of the subject. I have the up most respect for you. Your book "Narcissist revisited", was a fascinating read. Thank you!
Thank you so much for the badly needed matter of fact presentation! It certainly explains things to those of us who have been scratching our heads, knowing SOMETHING psychological is off, but not being able to make sense of it.
Big facts
Very effective description. I fought one of them, to save my daughter. They cannot do nothing against the art of the craze. They disappear instantly, at the right moment. Clearly, with the help of that lord with the big belly we call time.
Hi there, adorable smile you got there on your profile picture. I’m Dan by name and you?
Thanks.
My narc. sister made sure my narc. Mother died in pain, standing in the way of dr. orders and hospice personel. I guess I will never really understand it but it was awful. My Mom never saw that one coming.
What the fuck dude
That sounds sadistic.
They do it with a complete smirk on their face! It’s a high I’ve never seen before
In my experience unless you’re really disciplined mentally you are not a match for these nutcases they’re calculating and conniving liars and con artists you need to be very cool calm and collected with them
You’re walking on eggshells 24/7 tread very lightly and stealthy. It’s scary to be in the presence of a calculated monster. When the opportunity presents themselves run for your life.
True. Absolutely true. Very good video.
He really was like that. How does someone like this happen?
Very well explained.
Thank you
Thank you for the truth and courage!
Very much appreciate your work!
Thank You, Thank You, Thank You, Mr. Vaknin. You have helped me tremendously with your knowledge and insights. I have learned so much from you and your videos, you have helped me improve my life and be happier. Tom M
WITHHOLDING A WHOLE HOUSE IN MY SITUATION.. A police officer actually does this while assisting my exspouse and his buddy. The problem in that is he is related to the buddy. Sadistic people often GROUP with people who are like themself so then it ends up a victim may have more than 1 abuser... Hackers/Stalkers... Then that group has the victims frauded house as other police officer fail to notice or deal with that serious crime
thank you!!
I️ would love for you to expound in sadistic humor- my ex used to love to make this joke about how he wants a pit bull so he could teach him to bite off my arm or a leg ... he would say this as a joke and laugh everytime
Transformations of aggression samvak.tripod.com/journal50.html
Spot on
Thought is brutality. As such. Violence. Because thought is the denial of truth, of love, of compassion. Thought is limited, limitation of freedom. We are, essentially, freedom. Freedom is actual identity, which, when thought arises, is limited. So, when we think, we limitate ourselves (and others, as we produce the world, we are the world), we put ourselves into bondage. To take someone, that is free, and chain him, is a violent act. This world, as such, is illness, insanity.
How can you get them to stop? Will showing no fear and nonchalance work?
Yep sweet and friendly for months then stood up by him and like a flip switched the mean hateful side was back.
My EX narc has a sadistic bible on his book shelf
Please allow my mother to see this. For this man is describing my father. Who I cannot imagine how I possibly survived. Not sure she did but her refusal to flee sacrificed me to him. My biggest regret in my life was not fleeing home as early as possible and turning a deaf ear to the hysteria of my parents. Now I see my distance deprived him (them, bc she only existed to serve him) of the narc funtime he got from being a terribly human being. HOW DID THE COMMUNITY GO BLIND TO THIS? Bc they were fooled by his high status in his school and his church and town and culture. What a disgusting con. Jesus God. Wake up humans. And please never let my childhood happen to anyone else again.
Always playing " One Upmanship "
"The Torture Never Stops"
nice video ive expierenced that this is more true for vulnerable/covert narcissist than grandiose ones
@@fooled_twice4668 it sure is sick and twisted beyond words or comprehension, it’s flippin WILD
My mom was as a Narsistic Sadist. Dad died when I was 5. I realized I'm draw to me like her.
My mom is annoyed by displays of emotion yet she seeks to "punch" you inside always. There's no way you could let her close she immediately tries to harm you. Usually verbally. There is a sense of satisfaction If she succeeds but she gets annoyed ifbyou display too much emotion like cry or actually get really sad. You can't let that get to you, I always had to close off and fight back. You kind of have to when someone purposefully tries to get at you. You do The opposite or at least try and not show it and give them their victory. It is all there has ever been and I've been looking for answers . Could she be sadistic?
All narcissists are sadistic to a certain degree. She could be a psychopath
To a tee!
Hi there, adorable smile you got there on your profile picture. I’m Dan by name and you?
#Sam Vaknin. I would like to know where my Dad fell on the dark spectrum. My late Dad had what I think was the high end of NPD with other disorders thrown in, but I am not a professional and my mother did stay with him for 52 years until he died. We coped with him by not aggravating him as we did not know what he was capable of. He still slapped us hard so we wet ourselves, and he hit my mother although not in front of us. My mother used to say she got in his face when talking to my sister about my sisters violent boyfriend who was sick. Anyway I would like to know where Dad lied on the spectrum. He felt entitlement. He was paranoid. He was jealous. He was violent. He was exploitative. He liked degrading us. He had a God complex. He acted as a father figure family man to those outside the immediate family, however behind closed doors we were all petrified of him. He stole. He was a functioning alcoholic. He was heavily reliant on my mother. She feared him so much she failed to protect us when he hit us. She became violent as well. He was a pillar of the community. He had depression. He was lazy. He was hypocritical. He had a foul temper, explosive unless we pacified him. He seemed to have an aura of menace around him. He could not stand not having his own way.
I'm sorry you experienced this. I'm no Sam Vaknin, but I have a background in psychology and am a practising mental health clinician. I work as a counselor with victims of domestic violence. I've also worked at a facility with male perpetrators of domestic violence. From my research (as well as personal and anecdotal experiences) your father sounds like he could be more of a malignant narcissist. Adding aggression, Anti-social behaviors like violence/stealing/law breaking and enjoying the suffering he inflicts on others---is what makes his Narcissism more dangerous. I have 2 friends (male) who have NPD, and they are not violent or sadistic. Sadism comes out when they're hungry though.
I see today (not from this video) that people label someone a narcissist purely for sadistic behavior. That is a sadist and they're not necessarily a narcissist.
Supreme need + supreme entitlement = omnipotence
Is it possible that I have made these things a habit and do them with out thinking anymore as if it's a habit or low impulse control over it
Please answer someone
There is no way to answer anything with such little information about you, friend. Feel free to provide context
Becoming aware and recognizing when you behave this way should go a long ways.
Her.. it's a Her. This woman doesn't care about her kids or her husband. I being divorced bc I'm playing Fantasy Football. Wtf??
What is a thought? Is there such thing as a healthy thought? In other words: is there such thing as a healthy psyche? Because if thought is disease itself, then everyone with a psyche will be sick. According to Krishnamurti (and the commentator, btw.), no such thing as a healthy thought, healthy psyche, exists. We are all mentally ill. So be it - and then let's have some fun in the bedroom :D