How Can I Decide Who Is to Be My Partner? | Eckhart Tolle Teachings
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- In this video, Eckhart is asked the question "How can I decide who is to be my partner?" by the audience, so he explains how unconditional love and physical attraction aren’t incompatible.
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Love is not just looking into each other eyes but looking the same direction.
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What??? That's ego "love".
I have had this thought before!
@@ZenMountain There's no such thing ;)
Beautifully and truthfully said.
I can listen to this guy everyday for the rest of my life and never get tired of his words.
Yes. His demeanor draws you in. Is it because we see so little of this...his quietness of soul...that it is so spellbinding? Whatever it is, we need more of it here on earth. I don't think I can ever achieve that state but I sure do enjoy the fact that he can because watching him is great medicine for the tired old souls of a world that seems to have recently flipped its axis. 🥰🙏
I can barely get past a few minutes. He. talks. so. slowly. it. drives. me. crazy. OMG spit it out!
@@SoundsBogus Same, omg
They are always the *same* words.
Yes so true
"Real love doesn't make you suffer. How could it?” -ECKHART TOLLE 🙏🏽💜🧡🔥⭐️
2,000 years of Christianity telling us love is suffering.
Eckhart Tolle made me suffer few times, that's how I know he never loved me. What is fine, I have no expectations of being loved, I just say how it was.
@@learningenglishthroughtran8540 Learn English better. Then get nailed up.
But am i right when i guess he means that when one really loves someone, the one cannot be hurt by someone because that real love is stronger and cannot suffer. Although i guess it must be kind of a cosmic and entire love then, enlightet love, which means there's actually nothing that can hurt that loving one or make him suffer.
From my experience with my partner I would say there can be pain or ups n downs but that’s not suffering. It’s a different thing , it’s very short term. I see Suffering as more long term and confusion etc I feel at peace most of time and the hard times feel difficult in the moment but in the back of my mind I always know it will pass pretty quickly and we will only be stronger afterwards
Your own essence holds an intelligence within itself. The more you connect with this essence, the more able you are at choosing the right people to engage with. Your soul speaks, and if you learn to resonate more with your soul, then you'll be able to find those who you resonate with too.
-Much love from a growing CZcamsr
You're falling into mysticism. Meditation is simple. When you let go of thoughts, brainwaves slow. When brainwaves slow you enter different states of conciousness
@@juststop022 I agree it is simple, but regardless Eckhart Tolle speaks about this essence in his video, and to negate the soul is to negate ourselves
@@juststop022 Tolle talks about looking at the non-physical part of a person as the aspect of them that we love. I'm just putting a name to this essence so that it helps others understand the concepts they carry in their mind.
@@juststop022 Yeah it may sound mystic, but there is an intelligence beyond our accumulated knowledge. It shows itself time to time when we are not too attached to our conceptual thinking....!!!
@@lathamoorthy177 yes!!
'Spend 2 weeks with your parents and then see if you enlightened'..love this🙏🏼❤☀️
Bit tricky if they are physically abusive towards you
Precisely🙏🏼
Try 2 years.
More likely to be a nerve wreck after 2 weeks with our parents ;)
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Real, true, unconditional love is basically falling in love with yourself. Thats the definition of true love for me.
The true self/consciousness - not the physical or ego identity, i.e a narcissist.
I agree 💯
Bingo!
Agreed. And when we can do this, exactly what you expressed, we can truly love another. ❤
I embrace everything I am. I release anything that drains me or is causing me suffering. I connect to the divine and know the Universe is always with me, exactly as I am.
Beautifully said 🌻
I like to use Detach from any draining energy. D.E. T.A.C.H =don’t even Think about him /her or it .... observe with love ... 🤔
Shut up and listen
Asè 💫
michael Jackson
When I heard my first love story, I started looking for you, not knowing how blind that was.
Lovers don't finally meet somewhere,
They were in eachother all along.
(Rumi)
Ahhh, beautiful! Thanks for that.
I really like him
Beautiful and true, we are each a container for the whole.
““A genuine relationship is one that is not dominated by the ego with its image-making and self-seeking.” - *ECKHART TOLLE* 🙏🏽💜🙌🏽⭐️💫🧡
SELF seeking is wrong? Know thy self is Bad ???
Ironic, as he's an insidious smug ego.
amen...
@@annaceciliafuglestad1120 it's absoloutely not, a huge part of relationships is that u get to discover who u truely are, ur untapped potentials & become a better version of ur selves together.. 💫💓
@@alaa88888 SEE NO HOPE FOR me locked in mental Institution with no hope in Sight !
Unconditional love is loving humanity as it's parent. Tolerance , forgiveness and understanding.
Your partner is the person you are drawn to who helps your soul feel in alignment.
Or rather soul to expand ..
And we are naturally attracted to someone who does not threaten the love we have for ourself. Mutual attraction, when *externalities align as well, happens when two people do this for each other. *when two people meet without any variables impeding the start of a relationship (I.e. marrying the wrong person/meeting someone you’d rather be with after you’re married, etc…)
Just because you love everyone and everything, doesn’t mean you want to live with it all.
@Samuel Watterson Exactly. Attachment is the issue.
I believe that you can and ought to love everyone in a spiritual way as fellow brothers and sisters of God. But you don't have to love or even like them on a personal level. We can respectfully keep our distance from negative energy and let others live their lives as they wish. Took me awhile to see this.
This starts to sound like a creative definition of “love” to avoid the meat and potatoes of the question.
Basically: “I love you but I reject you and want to nonviolently remove you from my personal experience” definitely isn’t love, it’s just self congratulation.
@@youtubename7819 If I want quiet next to those who like noise, I can love them and not want to be their neighbor.
@@danielpaulson8838 the question was about finding a romantic partner if you truly loved everyone equally, so you’re still kinda avoiding the question. Unless you’re just saying you should have a laundry list of little things like music volume to check off and whoever gets the high score on the checklist is chosen as the partner. There’s nothing wrong with that approach but basically nobody does that. Humans aren’t that analytical.
Basically everyone has a different capacity for giving/recieving love that's built into their form. Think of it like a light bulb: 50 watt vs. 100 watt. The unconditional love is the electrical current which we all have in common.
The person that you should get into a relationship with, ideally, is someone who shares the same wattage as you, so that you will maintain compatibility while reaching your highest potential.
Too often a 70 watt person who's only operating at half of their potential, gets with a 40 watt person operating at their full potential. At first, the 70 watt person will appreciate that person's energy, but as they start to reach their potential, they will outgrow that connection pretty quickly.
Wow, well said! 👏
I agree!
good way to word it
I think this is the underlying problem I'm having in my current relationship. But is there any other way to make things better other than separating and finding someone more compatible?
@@7Nebulae7 No. not really. It's really important to make sure you're selecting the right person at the outset before getting entangled with them. If you're married, or have kids, I would advise you to make it work. Otherwise, just count your losses and move on.
Letting go of expectations held on eachother makes way to an authentic, heart to heart, flourishing relationship.
- I just want to let anyone who’s reading this comment know. I wish you great success, health, love and happiness! ✨
Thank you I am going to buy a lottery ticket now :D
Ohhh thank you! And to you as well.
Thank You🙏😊 I wish the same to you too!!
Thank you ❤️ Same to you
Thankyou and same be unto you 🌷
The unconditional love I believe is a grace, recognition and acceptance of all, but not everyone we love is meant to be in our lives.
Wow. Imagine a world where both of my parents are Enlightened, as well as my grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins, etc. That would be GRAND. 😊✨🌟
And as you can't control their enlightenment, loving them unconditionally (especially when they are not enlightened) is the challenge and gift. Loving enlightened beings is easy! Loving those not is my "work." 😊 Then you don't need them to be a certain way (enlightened) to love them. That's true unconditional love. 💕
Andrea H nicely put! 👍
A new earth ❣️
You could be the enlightened grandparent ,one day for your grandchildren
I wish ❤
Here's hoping everyone that reads this finds their partner and can connect emotionally, physically, mentally, spiritually and finds compatibility and balance and awareness and understanding and love and happiness.
Once again another video that somehow gets released precisely when i've been thinking of those matters, thank you for this gift.
Taking care of aging parents was extremely difficult and rewarding. It brought me to my knees and shattered my life, but when I look back I can only see peace in my life now. They are no longer alive and I wouldn’t want my children to go through the same thing.
Bless you and your parents who raised a son with a good heart.
You and your partner have chosen each other in the spirit world before incarnating into the earth this time around for the purpose of soul growth. You may have more than one partner at different stages of your life all divinely planned. 💕 just remember to be kind and have fun.
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@@pa610 … they have other ways to grow… maybe by having unconditional love for a pet or family member.
That was beautiful ❤️🙏
To me the concept of spirits, souls and (re)incarnations have become at first tricky to coincide with observing truth and as such obsolete. Despite being a very reassuring and tempting romantic approach to the reality of our existence, these concepts can also delude the tools we are given to observe the present moment and reality as such.
First off, they require an amount of assumptions and therefor conditioning of the mind - which in any case limits the potential of freedom to observe reality with. The concept of a soul or spirit becomes dual because it needs a context a separation to derive it’s truth from. Also, the belief to have a separate soul requires a concept of ownership which is a concept that proliferates within a liberal individuated sense of being rather that an unified unlimited shared state of being.
It basically triggers the mind to project separate entities onto a reality, as it would do when referring to ego. Yet another identity and therefor a limitation of how consciousness through love and energy freely can express itself in the present moment.
The only relevant choice is one that can be trained and cultivated, it is the choice to learn to recognize the awakened perception of reality in the present moment - enlightenment becoming a dominant starting point, again and again.
As this state, through training, becomes dominant over conditioning, patterns, willpower, identities etc. consciousness finds an access point to express itself free into reality. And local reality as such will change to the degree of outcome for the human living in this local reality.
Life paths, though subtle, will expose more synchronicities, resonating moments, creatures, events etc. and more intricate connections will show up.
A romantic connection can be such a result, and the only choice that underlies it, is the choice of two beings to recognize awakening inside and outside of themselves.
All of this magic can work, and in my experience, works more freely and effectively by surpassing any assumptions of separation of reality. Nothing will be lost, only gained.
A few days ago, I spent an afternoon with my mother. I failed the enlightenment test miserably. 😊
That's so honest if you🔥
There is always another day. My advise make sure you are really steady in your alignment before you go. Blessings to all those who aspire to remember truth.
I've had the same experience but just remember one day she won't be here anymore. Tell her you love her.
so you did not enjoy being judged. nothing wrong with that.
And in what way is this even remotely funny? Being unconscious is not fun.
I just had to tell you this. I fell into the fear trap again so I watched Milton's Secret with my daughter, we both found our way back to the Present. We both are so grateful for all you do to help us rise when we forget and become heavy with what is not real.
I beleive that unconditional love is beyond physical attraction, you love someone as an existence, just because she\he just is a human being..✌️💖🙌
This is absolutely beautiful 💓🌸✨💗
Ok,but who you will choose to be your partner between all that human beings that you love unconditionally? That was the question? You must have some preference to choose that one person,i guess..
@@nurarondic3686 I guess you'll choose someone who makes the best out of you.❤💚
You choose the right partner by humbling yourself and telling God you are in need of one ( and He already knows btw) and asking God to bless you with the right soulmate. Ask Him alone for He has already matched you up but requires you to know that He is in control of everything. You are not.
Im right there. He blessed me with the return of my first love. I've surrendered to his (Gods) divine guidance. I know its up to him
Thank You! I have been very troubled by this. After reading your comment..I am like duh! It is so Simple..I completely missed it! May God Bless You 😊❤
While married to a narcissist, I experienced enlightened awareness. Soon afterwards I felt I needed to leave the marriage & be on my own. Unfortunately for myself I stayed & the utopian peaceful experience lasted only several months.
It's something I'll never forget.
The details of the experience such as perfect alignment with synchronistic events that occurred very often daily. How quickly each day passed. How each person I was in conversation with, was at ease with me, & i could feel the relaxed air between us which was natural & beautiful, some of them I'd known for years. How information from within would be there instantly as I needed it & this is the supreme intelligence within us all that we're born with & how I naturally saw everyone as my equal & the love for everyone is a peaceful love. Pure acceptance & It's not that I needed to say anything to anyone about it, My energy was non threatening & peaceful & that is real Love.
If someone had asked me that question that eckhart tried to answer. I would say that it comes naturally because when we're living by our true nature, everything is natural.
It’s never too late to leave. I’ve done it against all odds (children, financial entanglements and dependence, court threats and the most nasty things one can imagine); finally I breathe freely and it feels like having been reborn. I have a lot of time left to spend on meaningful things now that the relationship doesn’t drain all my life force. Hope you can leave and get back your life! Wishing you courage!
Whoever is reading this
May all your dreams come true 🤗
Thank you and same to you 😊
Eckhart's videos never fail to relax me
Thank you very much, Eckhart! I want to tell my experience, because it can be helpful for someone:
Seven months ago, I started a relashionship with a very good and kind man. I only felt for him the transcendent love that I feel for every human, nothing more.
I though that I should ignore the fact that I did not have physical attraction and the "in love feeling", because I wanted to be racional and choose a good man.
Unfortunally, it was a big mistake. Now, I realize that I'm only with him because I wanted to be part of a kind and sucessful relashionship, so, it was a egoic choice.
The lesson I learned from my actions is that it's okay to consider my body sensations when I choose someone, I'm not "less enlightened" when I do this.
I'm just human.
Often when i'm just being present, waves of energy goes throught my body when i trigger em, i dont know exactly how I do, but everytime i get big goosebumps from the energy waving. I have to be very still and rooted in the moment for it to happen
Abraham Hicks- you may find helpful
I usually get it when i am relaxed and as you say in the moment. But it reacts to my thoughts , i like to ask myself things. When it seems correct i will get that feelings of energy swelling inside & goosebumps. I can even ask it several times in a row and it will "nudge" once again. But when i get too concious of it it usually subsides.
Transcendent love of all and Love for a significant other are separate from one another, yet inclusive one with the other 💞
As I read the comments, wording doesn't even comprehend what is felt.
The love just is. The "I love you" is never even spoken. It's just there.
Satori is a glimpse into oneness. Satori can also be felt by your true love which is really you in another form.
Love this guy. He's the best. 👌🏻
I'm in a weird situation with a man...
I think I love him,
but I don't know if this thing we have
is actually healthy,
or really just another trauma bond.
I need prayers. Him and I both do,
that whatever this is between us,
will ultimately be for our own healing.
And that we will co-create something that is loving and magical
and beautiful and happy and wonderful
and miraculous and healthy, together...
Love and/or friendship to last lifetimes...
@@roverhendrix221 God bless you.
@@radicalhonesty3628how is it going ?
His smile while reading the question speaks by itself. He could have stopped there :)❤
I LOVE to listen to you Mr Tolle 🍃💙🍃
I love your Form and mind, heart and PEACE+Wisdom Eckhart !
Omg does he know how funny he is… love the dry humor in between the wisdom😄
He has just explained the true definition of love❤
Powerfully clarifying. Thank you
One of the ways to feel positiv*e energy is to take your attention away from the negative and focus on everything that transmits positivity to you. Have a beautiful day! 💜💜💜
You're lovely, beautiful soul.
i need to be able to be conscious like you it seems so effortless watching you just sit so calm 🤣
To those who are/have been living with their parents whilst going through this transition towards enlightenment - I hear you. I see you!
Where do you live, Lola?
pure love and i love your video. I just met the man i love and it feels different than anything i had before, imagine its when u had your 2nd partner. its an instant understanding that is not based on a direct physical attraction, its rather on a whole body, mind, spirit and of course both are attracted. its transcendental. we even did not get intimate for 7 dates. and it feels not like anything i had before and i am old and had many partners haha
Love does not only unite Love also severs and separates
Incredible teaching.
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By recognizing the oneness in the other and wanting to share that with them in Being.
Thanks again, Eckhart. I just love your heightened insights. You help me to rethink my bad thoughts and to invite new and better thoughts. I ‘am’. That is all I need to know, feel, and experience. 💖
I feel very Drawn to You Eckhart.and feel silly laughing but I very much enjoy "your company", ALL I hear and see..
Thank you Mr Tolle
I love Eckhart unconditionally
Thank you from my soul! ♥️💫
Hahaha, the end was the best. My apartment is under makeover and I am having to live with my parents, I thought it was going to be only 1 or 2 months, but it's already 5 months, and I realized I'm definitely not enlightened yet xD But it has been a profound practice for us and I'm grateful that we are all into spirituality and being able to heal together.
Blessings… Happy New Year
kudos to your service. i learn a lot
Ohh man!!
My dog taught me or we taught each other. This formless state with each other. I then met this in another person very briefly. I know I shouldn’t cling but I wouldn’t mind him coming into my life again🙏
Great teaching. Formless love + Vibrational frequency resonation + Physical attraction
Hey..,loving the new look of your form.. along with your words..
🌈Dankeschön 🙏für das interessante Video .🧚🏾
Dont we all, but its excepting these things in each other. Seeing our faults. Your right about the parent whos difficult. This is the greatest test. X
I checked Ekharts natal chart and it all make sense, his moon is in Taurus, that's why he so so pragmatic ✨
Much love to you, and all beings, past,present, and future❣️🕯️🙏
I wish everyone who reads this comment a beautiful day 🍀
Only love your kids unconditionally, is my advice. Hold everyone to a standard of respecting you, as you respect them.
so clear, thank you 🙏
To my understanding romantic love is never unconditional, it might be a tool for emotional growth and a speed ticket to enlightenment (especially the difficult ones), but it’s no wonder that authentic spiritual leaders and monks are celibate. They experience oneness, and if you experience that, you don’t need another to make you complete. There is nothing wrong with relationships, if you’re into that. But because of the conditional nature of it it will always leave you ultimately unsatisfied and that generates suffering. Also almost always egos are operating the relationship. That takes away a lot of energy and a lot of time. You can ‘practice’ on every being (just like he mentioned parents), that’s also a good way to grow. I have yet to see a selfless, loving relationship without the involvement of egos and expectations. When it happens, must be really beautiful. But even that doesn’t last forever and attachment also causes suffering. So, to my view relationships are not designed to make us happy and fulfilled, but more to speed up our way to enlightenment, if we only listen to what it wants to teach us.
so wise, I just broke up recently with a man whom I felt an instant bond with at the beginning. He was also very into me and we both thought we could have a very aligned relationship in all aspects. It was strong mutual attraction but because of various practical issues we faced and doubts we both had due to clashing of our egos, he lost his passion and broke up with me.
I was super disappointed as I thought we could figure it out together with time but he decided to give up. This pushed me back onto my spiritual journey, I started practising Zen and I am now going through an ego death. Sometimes when I am really Zen, I also wonder why I should date anyone as I feel so fulfilled inside already. I wonder how I can fall in love with one specific person, as I know all the personalities, looks, talents etc are just forms, it can fade away and change with time. I wonder how I can choose a partner without ego involved as everyone's essence is a piece from the Source energy, we are all equal. Of course there's also a twin flames belief, which can explain this kind of soulful love/divine partnership, but I am not sure if twin flames are really true.
This video and your reply solved my doubts.
@@sinyuariellee8048 I think you should focus on accepting that your love from you or their love from them comes from IAMness! Make that your only source, bse your IAMness can never leave you! is the only lover and the beloved! You will be free from attachment or any fear! ❤️❤️
Great answer.
If all is energy, and then you fall in love with the same energy reflecting back, either I accept the reflection of my energy or not? Sometimes ppl "play you back" mirror You to feed off your energy..and feed you with Your energy.. Usually at the beginning of a relationship. Once you've shared space and time.. Then the shadows start to emerge, your own and the counterpart. How well one live with one's own shadow..? That's what I got listening to this 🤗
Eckhart, can you please elaborate on what a transcendent dimension in a relationship looks like?
We are not perfect, well im not, but when love is perfected in us, then we are enlightened, but i love someone who shows their vunabilty, sorry cant spell, as to be open enough to show each other our weakneses, is endearing, and proves that we have empathy for each other and others in turn, surely to love somebody who is selfless, not perfect, but is so loving takes us for who we are, not pretentious in any way. Open with each other. Thats the kind of person i would seek. With love jdx 🙏🙏🙏💕
thank you, been wondering why I like and desire the appealing forms that I have identified with.
For everyone that is reading this. May god and the angels give you peace and fullfill you with love. Love is so powerfull and we must spread it all over the world to protect us from all evil. ❤🙏
Make the reality you want be blessed by you instead of you being blessed by it. In other words how can you become the person that enriches the reality you want, so it needs you rather than you needing it.
💜 Heart-Based Manifestation CZcamsr
Wow 😳 You just blew my mind, seriously...I had not heard that way of life before... What blessing is needed from me toward, or for, life... rather than what blessing I think I need from my life for me!!! You're so wonderfully at the right place at the right time here, and I want to send you a blessing. 🙏🌏🌍🌎💗 I'll look for your CZcams channel!!!!!!!!!
Serving love
Thank you!
True resonance.
that's a really good half answer!
Yes this resonates. My husband & I started out with similar beliefs then I started questioning confining religious beliefs. Now the spiritual aspect isn't there & I feel disconnected and unfulfilled.
same
Well it still can work, life is a choice so if u both want to spend life with one another and u feel ths6 way when you’re the most calm, work it out dude.
Your enlightenment will kind of suck for your kids, if it's driving a wedge between you and your husband and he's otherwise a good person.
....always a pleasure!
Please further explain the staying with your parents bit. I just recently stayed with my parents for four months… that was eye opening to say the least.
Wonderful
Thank you
Super helpful
Beautifully explained. Thank you.
Thank you for this enlightenment Eckhart 🙏
Thank you.
Some souls call to each other for expansion & spiritual growth... to heal past wounds within current triggers
Acepting my selve limitations is a form of LOVE i would like to explore
QUESTION: If let’s say we all love each other unconditionally, how can I decide to which to be my partner? Is this based on physical attraction? Isn’t this a contradiction with this higher state of consciousness?
ANSWER: Ok, so if you love everybody unconditionally how can you possibly decide who is going to be your partner? That’s the question. Because it seems and there’s no preference anymore. Or if it’s physical attraction - isn’t there a contradiction, if you’re in a higher state of consciousness where you shouldn’t or not be physically attracted to anybody is that the implication there questioned? Well, the love we are talking about, the unconditional love towards human beings and life forms is a… See, what is it that you love in the other when you love unconditionally? You don’t love their physical form, you don’t love their psychological form, their personality. Their unconditional love goes deeper. It’s a transcendent love, that what you love is not the form, but the formless essence of the other. And you can only love that when you can sense within yourself that dimension of formless when you can be still and present enough and then look at another human being. Then you can recognize something. What you recognize is for lack of a better word the consciousness which is the essence of the other human as it is the essence of who you are - consciousness prior to the consciousness being born into some kind of form, personality which is there in the physical form, which is there. But in every being, there is still the dimension of consciousness that is prior to form. Although the human being has become form, consciousness assumed form has incarnated, so to speak, but that doesn’t mean that the formless and timeless consciousness is lost. It’s still there as the essence. And when you can sense it in yourself, you can sense it, because you are still in presence enough. From that dimension in yourself, you can sense it in the other and that is LOVE. It’s basically a recognition that in essence the other is the same as you.
But then of course there is always that is the transcendent dimension to every human being. In addition to that transcendent dimension, there is a form-identity of every human being. Every human being has a physical form and emotional form and a mental form that’s a personality. So the physical appearance and a personality consisting of mental and emotional conditioning and so on.
So, there are the two levels. The unconditional love towards all humans is the transcendent love. The love (the formless, [the recognized of formless]) as yourself and the other. But then you’re still here as a form too. And the form may respond to another form - the physical, that can be physical attraction. It is not incompatible with the transcendent realization although some ancient or not so ancient traditions may tell you that. It is not incompatible you can have physical attraction on the level of form. You can also have an attraction towards the mental-emotional form of that other human being because it resonates with something in your own form. So that means you may be drowned to the other human being physically or mentally, emotionally, because you resonate with that. And then perhaps you enter into a relationship. So there different levels operate - the transcendent remains. It can become obscure through excessive attachment of course to the mental-emotional dimension in the other. So in a relationship, the realization of essence identity (as I sometimes call it) can become obscured when form identity takes over completely, which could happen through the pain body. Which could happen through emotional (getting identified with arising emotions and losing touch with the transcendent). Yes, that can happen, but it’s not incompatible. Everybody’s challenge is to balance the two in their lives in their relationships to relate to the other on the transcendent level and at the same time if it is there on an emotional-mental-physical level.
Without the transcendent dimension in the relationship, it’s not ultimately satisfying and it cannot really truly work for long if the transcendent is missing completely in the relationship. Its physical attraction and attraction between personalities is not enough to keep it going. Can be going for a while, but then it becomes frustrating and you see more and more of the limitations of the other person. And the other person sees more and more of your limitations. Which are always there and when you live together it becomes very obvious that the other person has his or her limitations. Now as long as the realization of the transcendent dimension is there and that fine, there’s also limitations can be exist within the space of the transcendent. They’re not destructive of the relationship.
Now you may find it’s sometimes easier to have this unconditional love towards people that you don’t know so well than people easier than towards people that with whom you shell a lot of past. Because there the past the form identity of that person can be very powerfully there in your mind in your interaction. So that’s the challenge of being present with family members: parents, grownup children, and so on. And of course, as you know Ram Dass recommends if you think you’re enlightened as a test he recommends that you spend two weeks with your parents and that will tell you whether you’re really enlightened or not - going spend two weeks staying with your parents for two weeks. In most cases that is a good test, unless your parents are enlightened in which case there’s not much point in using it doesn’t tell you anything.
IT SHOULD BE ENGRAVED INTO THE STONE: What is it that you love in the other when you love unconditionally? You don’t love their physical form, you don’t love their psychological form, their personality. Their unconditional love goes deeper. It’s a transcendent love, that what you love is not the form, but the formless essence of the other. And you can only love that when you can sense within yourself that dimension of formless when you can be still and present enough and then look at another human being. Then you can recognize something. What you recognize is for lack of a better word the consciousness which is the essence of the other human as it is the essence of who you are - consciousness prior to the consciousness being born into some kind of form, personality which is there in the physical form, which is there. But in every being, there is still the dimension of consciousness that is prior to form. Although the human being has become form, consciousness assumed form has incarnated, so to speak, but that doesn’t mean that the formless and timeless consciousness is lost. It’s still there as the essence. And when you can sense it in yourself, you can sense it, because you are still in presence enough. From that dimension in yourself, you can sense it in the other and that is LOVE. It’s basically a recognition that in essence the other is the same as you.
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I Love you!!!!! Tthank you for this gift
Unconditional love is the love of love itself
Stay on your own path (in the light), it"s already written(stars).
You radiate (=attract) what you are on in the present moment.
I am.. all that is.
Some things are beyond explanations - this may be one of them
Such a blessing to know of you teacher 🙏
Its relating to the heart, a mirror image , with love jdx 🙏🙏🙏💕
👍👌👌👌wunderbar!! Danke schön 🙏💜
Decide, choose....let things happen
Yes lights just came back on.Electric is back...batt is 77%
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Thanks a lot 👍👍👍👍👍👍👍
My test would be my older, narcissistic (clinically diagnosed), violent sister. She was 7 years older than me and beat me up a lot. She was 20 the last time she pounded me. She died 14 years ago and I still miss her. She crossed into the Light and is being taken care of by our mother. I would love to have 2 more weeks with her here on earth.
Even though she abused you??🤷♂️🤯
Unconditional, true love is reserved for my children. Nothing compares to it. 😢😮
Thank you for this video, I was wondering if Kim could also do a video on the same question.