Family’s struggle with dementia while dining out
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- čas přidán 9. 04. 2024
- Restaurant patrons offer support to a mother and daughter dealing with the mother’s progressing dementia.
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The actor is my grandmother!! She's been acting for so long and this is the biggest job she's ever gotten! Thank you for giving her this opportunity!
She's great! I totally believed her, and just wanted to take care of her, I hope she's get more parts.
when was this recorded?
She was great!
That's amazing!
She did great
Nice to see Traci in non-villainous roles
lol 😂
This is her 3rd or 4th
the o.g villain
I love her in everything. But no one plays a Karen like Traci!
you gotta admit tho she’s good at them 😂😂
traci is ACTINGGGGG what a queen
Also the actress playing her mom. She really looked like she had Alzheimer's. 👏 👏 👏
@@edithdlp8045literally the “mum” had me thinking she may be confused to where she was when the cameras came out haha
God DAMN what a Queen! So fucking good!
Most convincing actress on this show hands down
❤❤❤
Tracy is a staple on this show, a legendary one at that. Watching her past acting work with other scenarios is wonderfully convincing.
She belongs on the big screens. So, so good.
I thought she was really good at being the bad person but she can play literally anything.
She's on too much. How does ppl not recognize her already?
Oh yes she is one of their best actresses! She's incredible.
@@NikkiJ98 that’s what I think every time I see her in one of these videos. She probably gets recognized all the time.
Tracy immerses herself in the roles so perfectly that even though I watched every WWYD episodes in existence, i would still be fooled by her
I would be fooled too. She is such a great actress, villain or victim.
Same
Ya she has a pretty unremarkable appearance… definitely blends into a crowd, perfect for this show!
I remember Traci playing the victim in the elderly mother scenario. Where woman Mary played her cantankerous elderly mother. Who berated her caretaker daughter played by Traci.
Tracy really lived in this character. I cried when she cried. She is a gold asset to this show.
Ikr…i know it’s fake & still crying😂
@@sunnygibbs925 same though, it's actually crazy
She getting that money of course
She lives all of the characters, the good, the bad, the ugly, even the dumb & funny.
Tracy cries , john comes to break it up and she takes a bite of whatever she had right away 😂😂
Yeah, acting until the very end! haha
When she said “eat your taco” I chuckled a little
This had me cackling- Tracy is AT👏🏾WORK👏🏾🤣
I was looking for the comment if anyone noticed Tracy's bite on the food and found this :D
@@lilo2373I went searching for this comment thank you 😂
Out of all of the roles Traci played, this has to be the best one. The emotions she showed were VERY convincing… I even cried a bit.
The older actress is absolutely fantastic.
😂😂😂I love how Tracy took a quick bite of food before walking away in the 2nd scene
Hey Gotta eat 😂😂😂😂
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Shes so funny without even trying 😂😂
My grandad suffered from vascular dementia. One night he managed to exit the care home and was walking around in the rain looking for his army base. A young man found him in the the park and went along with his story and guided him to the nearest store where they called an ambulance. He was ok but might not have been if it wasn't for the man that helped him
I was going to work one day, and there was a woman with a walker walking down one side of a 2 lane street. Cars were backed up and people were passing her. I pulled over into a parking lot and walked up to her. By then, another woman had stopped to help and guided her off the road. She was trying to go to church. It was a Tuesday. The other lady told the woman that church had been cancelled for the day and I went to the nursing home down the street that she had obviously wandered from. They were already aware and had been looking for her.
Thank goodness for the young kid
I guess it’s better to go along with them than to stress them out? I would love some pointers
@@annaelisavettavonnedozza9607 this is just my experience. I am not a senior healthcare worker. With my grandmother, it was definitely easier to go along in most cases.
For example, she would frequently ask about people who had died years ago. If she asked "How are Johnny and Llly?" at first we'd say "remember Grandma? They died a long time ago" it would upset her every time. There was no benefit to making her grieve over and over, so we'd instead say "they're both well and send their love". She used to accuse my Grandpa of never visiting and to argue that he was there every day agitated her, so he finally started saying "I'm sorry honey. I'll do better."
Obviously if it's something dangerous, you have to respond differently. If she said she was going to walk out the door and go to church like the lady in my earlier post, you can't say "sure, go ahead." You have to try to redirect.
You know, that really brought tears to my eyes 😥And thank goodness for that young man! Many years ago my dad ran into a former farmer in the parking lot at his job, it was in the middle of the winter and this old farmer was on his way home to check on his cattle. He was in his shirt, didn't know what day or even year it was and hadn't had cattle for decades. Dad managed to get him back inside by turning farmhand and promising to take care of this old man's cattle. However, I do feel greater respect for that (strange?) young man.
I used to work at a call center for an utility company. Time to time I would receive calls from seniors with Alzheimer’s. This one time I received a call from this super nice lady and she was talking to me for about 45 minutes about things that didn’t really connect (My stats were ruined but I didn’t really care at that point). Then out of nowhere she started telling me stories about her and her late husband and started crying saying how much she missed him and how they used to get brunch at IHOP every Sunday after church. Then she said that she was going to be riding in his Bel Air with his arm around her soon. She then asked to be transferred to a supervisor and gave many compliments about me before disconnecting.
I still think about that call during times that I’m down.
you’re a wonderful person for taking your time to listen and talk to her, well done
Glad you listened to her.
Sometimes that is all people need - to be listened to.
Thanks for listening. You are a wonderful person. My dad also has dementia and tells everyone stories about when we were kids. I am 48 and my brother 47. Thanks again. 😭😭😭
@@australia2754yes she is a wonderful person.
Interesting I work at a call center for a utility client as well now and there’s one lady mid to late 80s with dementia ..there’s notations on her account to remind her that her balance is paid
in full because she will call several times a month to pay the same bill multiple times so much that it will result in outstanding credits on her account ..it saddens me that she’s not in her right mind yet has no one that she can trust to handle
her finances for her
Distraction. If you do encounter someone with dementia, remember to gently distract, don't argue with them, they won't understand. I have too much experience with this. Distraction and kindness, just like these great people did here.
I use to work with people with Dementia and that is what I got told is well Have to distract them otherwise they will get angry.
Traci again and again and again and ever again 😂 but she so really good person ❤️
At least she isn't the bad person this time
what about it?we love her
As a former care worker for those with Dementia and having loved ones with Alzheimer’s, this really pierced my heart.
Thank you for being a care worker. My grandma passed from dementia this last September and it was really hard to see and the hospice workers were angels. Bless you.
Respect to u and others who take care of old people in old folks homes. It's definitely not easy.
I had to leave care work due to my own health, but, I still miss it because I adored my job, however heart-breaking it was at times.
I now work as a trauma therapist and have supported clients who are grieving the “living death” of their loved ones.
Tracy is excellent in this role ❤
She is great in any role. I have seen WWYD for sime time now and every time she makes me cry or makes me mad depending on her role.
Tracy is queen but the actress playing her mom is amazing too!
Tracy went from crying to eating and then low key wiping her hands on her sweatshirt so she could give the lady a hug. 😂 I love it! She's awesome!
Tracy (Traci) IS LITERALLY the best actress on this show. She can play the hero or the villain so well. I love her and I hope the show never gets rid of her (even though everyone recognizes her)...I LOVE TRACY!!! Please let her play the villain roles more because it's always SO GOOD!
Yes. She's great!
Tracy needs a dam Emmy or golden globe or something for her years of amazing acting, every time in every roll she's handed
Tracy eating after cameras are out😅 I ❤her
HAHA I noticed it too. She's soooo chilled. The best!
This episode has me in tears thinking about my grandmom with Alzheimer’s, and how stressful it would be to go out in public. Never knowing what she would do or say. So many people gave us grace when she would say something a little inappropriate, or need extra time at restaurants. It’s a scary disease and needs more attention!
Traci aged like a fine wine
What a legendary actor of WWYD
My nanny has dementia, and it’s been very difficult taking care of her as a 21 year old.
You are amazing for doing that. Watching from the UK.
You’re an absolute trooper and so is your nanny. ❤
@@IzhakIb Thank you. I don’t know what harder actually. Taking care of a woman in her late 70s early 80s: as a man in his early 20s or the other way around?
@@superdragon1101 I feel either would be difficult to handle but as long as you have each other that’s what matters. My grandmother had a stroke and surprisingly she survived it but I’m not too sure of the details but I believe she had another one which catalysed her inevitable passing unfortunately. My only regret was not spending enough time with her when she was still here. I would recommend to surround yourself with as many of your family, friends and relatives so you won’t have to deal with it alone. Hoping for the best brother stay positive as much as you can sending my love your way
@@IzhakIbI’m so sorry for your loss my love. ❤❤❤ Know that she is watching over you every day!
My mother passed away from dementia. It's hard to be a caretaker of a person with the disease. Even if they wind up in an ALF, the child still has to take care of the parent and that is hard, in and of itself.
I’m so so sorry for your loss my love. Know that your mom is watching over you every day!! Sending you all of my love ❤❤❤
I just lost my grandpa a week and a half ago, and my mom was his caregiver for the last year. Let's just say, this really hit hard for me, and it makes me so happy to see that people are out there in the world to help not just those with the illness, but those taking care of them. It is a really hard job that does not get recognition. Thank you for this episode
I’m so sorry about your grandpa ❤
I’m so sorry for your loss my love. Know that he is watching over you forever and that he loves you so much!! ❤❤❤🕊️🕊️
This reminded me of my grandpa, he had "sundowning dementia". He would go on rants about my grandma's boyfriend, of course she never had a boyfriend because she was married and 92 years old lol. But to stop him from worrying we would tell him the "boyfriend" was just a stalker and the guy had been arrested. Seeing the smile on his face was worth it. I miss them both everyday ❤️
I think this is a perfect scenario because it truly makes sense for a person like that to randomly interact with people asking strange questions.
100%
This is touching to me. I lost my mother to Alzheimer's. She would often wake up at 3am, leave the house, and walk across a busy highway wearing nothing but a diaper. I promised her I would never send her to a home, but going against that promise to her was the most painful decision I ever had to make. The illness took her in only about two years, and I was sure to always give her her meds each day.
I’m so sorry for your loss my love. Know that your mom is watching over you every day and is at peace. Sending love and hugs ❤️❤️❤️🕊️🕊️❤️
@@clairemann2 Thanks, Claire. I sometimes dream of the dead and had a very realistic dream that I talked to her. She tells me things in my dreams but she can never seem to understand how I just show up. Her last words before I wake are usually "I don't know how you are here because you aren't dead yet." There is a bridge that we pass after we fall asleep, and it diverges off to those who are no longer with us in life. I seem to be able to explore across that bridge during the period of time when I'm having my most vivid dreams but I never stay very long because it is so very loud there.
Both my parents had dementia at the same time. Both had it in different degrees. My older brother lived in their town and was the primary caretaker. It took a big toll on him emotionally. Mom died in October of 2018 and dad died 3 months later. Now 5 years later, I am beginning to show signs of dementia too. To be honest I am terrified. I am not afraid of death, but losing my memory is another matter. The last guy really got to me, my dad was named Richard too, but everyone called him Dick.
Take lots of pictures and create memories while you still can. It's been shown that they can help with memory loss. Sorry to hear about your parents, grief is a terrible thing to endure while trying to live life like normal
My G-ma had undiagnosed dementia and a severe uti. That mix made her paranoid and very combative. 😢 on the way home, we stopped at a gas station to refuel, she pleaded to the cashier to call the cops saying that her son and his girlfriend (her granddaughter btw,) were holding her captive and threatening her life.
Tg the cops understood.
Traci literally is such an incredible actor. Probably the best actor we’ve seen on this show. I’d know her ANYWHERE lol
And you'd still be fooled by her acting 😂
@@Kat-mu8wq totally!!!!!
Tracy killed it. These people were fantastic. Great to see good folks out there.
As someone working in a home with people with dementia for 24 years now. Its really touching to see this scenario. Glad they finally made this.
I was 17 years old when I worked in a nursing home and I came across Dementia.now Mostly everyone I know or knew has or had Dementia My late nan had Vascular dementia and she died of it in November 2018 and that really upset me who I heard she died I think about my nan everyday
So glad this channel is back 😍
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Both Tracy and the older lady were absolutely amazing
I work at a golf club so it’s mainly regular older folks, I will always give them my full attention and absolutely love their stories etc. A tiny part of your day can make their day, it’s always worth the while.
Most of them are very wise and funny too, I hope everyone that see’s this video/comment will take some extra time for the older folks around them, loved this video ❤
The fact that Traci is not berating her in this skit is crazy
Mom u r having too much dementia right now. Stahhhhhp ittttttttt
This episode had me in tears at work… my grandmother in law, may she rest in peace, had Alzheimer’s…I once took her with me to a dentist appointment, one of the dental assistants is my husbands aunt, I begged her to please not let her out of the office meanwhile I was taken into a room, I was pregnant at the time so I was anxious leaving her alone. Grandma tried to walk out and was upset when my aunt in law made her come into the room with me. She’d walk out of the house multiple times and would get lost but always ended up at a restaurant nearby. I’d be at work meanwhile she would leave and I’d feel so useless even though her husband was there and is extremely healthy. God bless all of those helping hands
All I can say is that Tracy is a natural. Well played!
This hit close to home. Just buried my loved one with dementia.
Love this channel. I always get emotional. There's still good humans out there. ❤😊
❤ This is def tear jerking. Off topic my grandmother has mild dementia. When she visits sometimes after my bath me still unclothed I’ll go sit down on the kitchen floor while she sits in her chair. She’ll cover me with a quilt and we’ll talk about life & happiness and she’ll tell me about her memories. I know I’m weird but I feel so happy during that hour. ❤
What
Traci not playing the villain? Don't see that everyday!
Dealing with people with dementia is incredibly difficult, especially for those caretakers at retirement homes.
Honestly it depends on the caregiver, if you go into it with the knowledge that it's the disease acting out and not the person, it's much easier. I've never taken anything said personally, they don't understand what they're saying.
Tracy should be nominated for an oscar or golden globe or any award which would recognize her stellar performances on WWYD over the years
OMG this episode made me cry sooo hard. 9 years ago my wife and I got married and a month later her grandma had a massive stroke and rapidly developed Alzheimer's. My wife worked a much better job than me so I quit my job and cared for grandma since the family wouldn't pay for a home health aid and even though Michigan didn't have the program to compensate family members for caring for an ill relative I took care of that wonderful woman for 7 years until her passing in January 2023.
Even though I couldn't financially contribute to my new family the memories and stories that surfaced on grandma's "better days" will live with me forever.
Ur an amazing spouse
I punched a guy who was stealing from a shop. Now in hospital with a broken arm still waiting for John Quiñones to show up. Anyone know how long it takes for him to "break the act?" I must admit they are really good in acting.
😂😂😂
They’ll be there soon. Just keep waiting…
Omg this made me laugh so hard! lol
One of the best episodes! Very heart warming.. My eyes can't stop crying..
2:17 what a sweet guy. Not belittling but just helping
This episode is so important to bring awareness to how hard it is.
Tracy is such a good actress!! So was so real, and natural!
This really hits home it’s comforting to see people will go out of their way to help a stranger out
My nana is currently going through dementia. Thank you all that stepped in to support, real life angelsz
I adore how people are so willing to help out
I also adore how the first two scenarios the man and woman did not put a hand on her , they gently reached out to show her back to her seat
Bless
Oh wow, this show has made me feel emotional for years, but this episode made me cry my eyes out. Everyone was so kind…
Thankfully I never went through this but I know people who have. Bless them.
i work in assisted living for seniors, and we have a lot of residents that also have dementia/alzheimers. its hard when you see them worsen over time, but even then they are still so sweet and fun to be around. just this morning i got into work and they finished breakfast, and one of our residents with dementia came by my office and was holding his unopened pudding cup out towards me. i thought he wanted help opening it like he usually does but he was like "nope i am giving this to you. its a gift :) cause youre doing good." its the little things but i love them so much haha
We had a lady in her 90s that would refuse to eat unless everyone else had food, including the staff. Fortunately the facility higher ups actually had experience working with dementia and not just hired into the roles, so staff got meals too 😂 She would also walk around and always had to tell us that "These people are all old shits."
watching this makes me shed tears, glad theres a lot of good people out there
6:21 Tracey was hungry she don’t GAF once they break it
She took AS SOON as they broke 😂
omg...the man at the end was sharing his story and a tear just snuck out of my eye.
I cried on this video! It really touched me! I never cried on none of the WWYD, videos.. I’ve been around senior citizens, I’ve worked with them. And it’s very tough, it can be really stressful! They need us, and I’ll always support them. ❤
Traci needs to retire 😭 (not in a bad way lol she’s just so recognizable)
Get my girl Traci a wig and coloured eye contacts. I don't want Traci to leave 😢
@@Priya3 she needs to leave
Lovely kind people!❤just wonderful to see
This brought me to tears...my mom was diagnosed with late onset dementia 2 years ago and I was forced into the role of caring for her. This was a perfect depiction of what caring for a loved one with dementia looks like. You're tired all the time, you feel the need to explain yourself to strangers...thank you for bringing awareness to this awful disease.
I love what would you do and I watch all the videos. This one touched me because my Grandad has lewy body dementia and seeing how it has affected some of the people in this one makes you feel less alone. It's a horrible illness. I love my Grandad and he has his good days and bad, I'm thankful I still have him but I miss the old him sometimes.
“What was his name?” That was so sweet 😭😭🥹
I'll admit I was crying on Sunday, watching this while taking care of grandma. I'd never, ever leave her alone for a second anywhere (even at home), but this episode does a good job at showing some of the reasons why.
Traci is a great actress
Like we all know Tracy so far but the minute she start her acting skills we literally forget that we ever knew her!! She is so convincing and we love it 😂.
Love seeing Tracy as not the bad guy for a change! Also, I watched my grandfather deal with this with his mom when she got much older. They moved her into a retirement home for her last few years. I was told once about the time when she mistook a tv remote for a cordless phone. That's when it really hit me how awful the conditions are and can be, not just the sufferers but the families witnessing it. He seemed exhausted after every visit my family would have with them to see her. She passed away after her 93rd birthday.
Glad that WWYD is back on air after 3 years and still seeing some of the best actors like Traci
you guys are so kind at the end lol, that woman just looked at her and turned back, she's not kind
Something I also have to mention is what spouses go though. It’s heart breaking seeing them struggle. Losing their life partner to a stranger. It’s an added weight on their health that they ignore. These are some of the strongest people I’ve ever met in my life, I love them dearly.
This touched me because I was my mom’s caregiver. I was hard and frustrating at times but so well worth it!
My grandfather had Alzheimer’s, he used to wander away, now my mother has it. She was diagnosed at 49 and is now 53. It’s been tough. She wandered away once and it was terrifying. It’s a struggle but we do what we can and take it day by day.
This episode really warmed my heart.
I love to see how many kind people there really are.
This is really touching, my mom had Alzheimer’s and you have to have a caring heart.
Traci is an incredible actress! Fully emerses herself in the role. Great to see people step up to help. It's a very serious issue. I have a friend thats 76 years old, and his memory is very bad. It is frustrating, but you have to remind yourself he doesn't remember things that even happened 5 minutes ago. Very exhausting/
How has Tracy not gotten her break-out role in a movie yet she is so good!
My grandma had dementia, it hit its worst when the pandemic started. We loved to go out to eat with her, it was one of her favorite things. Sadly every place was closed due to the pandemic. We would visit her often and she would always be confused why we couldn't go out to eat anymore. We tried to explain to her that it wasn't safe for her to be in public. It was absolutely heartbreaking to see. She passed away towards the end of 2020. I wish she stayed alive for another year or two so we could've gone out to eat one last time.
That lady in the blue shirt was AMAZING ! Sometimes a simple hug can make you feel better. Even if it's from a complete stranger.
You see Traci, you know it's gonna be a great act !
i'm 73. my wife has vascular dementia. the mental strain is horrible--above the physical. our living room looks like a medical supply locker. i've resorted to malwart's grocery delivery, because i've gotten to where even shopping is too much extra physical stress for me. thank you john and crew for this episode. the second segment brought tears to my eyes. with 2 exceptions, everyone on both sides of my family have died from dementia. it's a soul destroying and dehumanizing tragedy. again, thank you.
The new concepts are definitely..new…
Love that family that helped.
I'm a cna an have cared for 2 dementia patiants so far.. first two I've ever experienced. . It's absolutely heartbreaking, the confusion.. anger.. at times calm before the storm. I wouldn't wish it on anyone
Just remember they are still people and that the anger and confusion is the disease, not the person. Also just go with the flow, they say it's 2pm when it's actually 5am, well it's now 2pm, what's it really matter if they're wrong.
Incredible. Lotta love out there, man.
As a born and raised WV Girl (45) AND a daughter who lost her Father (My Best Friend, to this slow & cruel disease, Dementia) I’m proud to see so many from our state step up & help. I’m honestly not too surprised though. Thank you for shedding light on this topic, bc this disease is NOT for the faint of heart, trust me. 💙💛
I love Traci. Shes such an icon. Her acting just gets better and better each season. Im glad they've kept her on this long. Shes a staple of the show at this point.
As someone with a Grandparent with dementia, this hits very close to home as if I’m seeing my own family. My heart goes out to all families going through this, together we are stronger ❤
This was one of the best episodes.
This really is heartwarming
2nd woman's face was amazing! "What the heck am I doing?! Am I doing the right thing?! I hope so!" ❤
All my love to all the families living with a person suffering from this illness. It' s super hard,I experienced it with my dear mother.❤
This was very good. Tracy got me balling my eyes out.
omg...what an acting Tracy...she is wonderful...
What an incredible family!!!
No hesitation from the gentleman to stop to from going outside them from the lad bro chat to chat to make her feel comfortable and stay at her table still the daughter got back.
Actually felt emotional
Traci was moved to tears by that first family
Yeeeeee my Tracy is back love it❤❤