The super empath in fight mode is the absolute best opponent to a narc. Once that switch is pulled lawrd have mercy. You can use all of the narcs traits against him and not lose any sleep. Thank you this helped me gain a better understanding of who I am. I was concerned once my narc traits came up and I dealt with the situation.
Me too already recognized the false self one upped his ass and divorced him did everything by myself...GOD held my hand he saved 100 texts when we were together and tried to use in court against me that I was stalking him...evil after he ghosted for 2 weeks and would not pay his insurance and car note....he had me get him a car in my name as primary and several times did not pay the car note for 3 months and hid the car so do not know where the car is..over 18 months no contact....over 8 months divorced and he refuses to refinance the car in his name...narcissists are parasitic...and codependent!
Right..!! Initially, I thought I was the Narc..!! I did my homework and found u cannot be both the Narc & the Co-Dependent simultaneously..!! I saw ur comment and wanted to suggest the notion of the "Active Co-dependent..!!" Perhaps u do ur homework on CZcams or otherwise regarding the "Active Co-dependent..!!" Most of these channels seem geared towards the "Passive Co-dependent..!! Some co-dependents don't assume the "pitiful role..!!" Some co-dependents fight for their self awareness and self preservation...!! No need to necessarily be the "Super Empath...!!" Just a theory..!! 🙄
Yes you are right. So glad I can see right through them and definitely don't lose sleep,,wow wish I watched these videos for the laat 8 years being married to a narcissist
Yes. Enough was really enough. I divorced him and it was the best thing i could've done. But, then i fell for another narcissist. Wow!! Idiot me. But after further researching and watching these videos. I waa able to pick up on it quickly
In my case it is her and I prayed for our souls and am not in jail. In 39 year's I haven't hit her and prayer kept me from giving her what she really needed when she discarded me. Alone and confused about the whole situation I realized the next day how close I came to losing my freedom. Thanks to the Lord I still have a home, my rights and am free. This is pure evil we are facing.
Crimson Lotus1122 that’s what I think. I think these ugly feeling projections are rough. I just keep blaming myself for so long. And I don’t want to be scared of men anymore. And are we projecting the expected abuse?
Another Super Empath here!!! I went through WWIV with my ex. I gave it right back to him and he wants nothing to do with me....no hoovers...no nada. Serves his ass right and he should stay away from me. I never want to see him again.
Please don't be fooled. The tears ARE NOT REAL. They love to put a show on, therefore you'll think they really love or care about you. They'll roll around on the floor just to get some type of attention. Their whole objective is to make you feel bad for them. So you won't let him go. They love to ACT. They'll DESTROY YOUR ENTIRE LIFE. If you want a peaceful life move forward. The only time you need to look backwards is to see weither or not he's behind you. They're are VERY DANGEROUS. They'll DESTROY you MENTALLY PHYSICALLY, SPIRITUALLY, PSYCHOLOGICALLY AND FINANCIALLY... You are better and greater than that foolishness... At the end of the day. That's the only thing he's about. Please believe me. Plead the blood of Jesus over him and Ask God for protection, healing and deliverance in the name of Jesus. Whatever is that you want or need God will provide.... May God continue to bless you Abundantly and Exceedingly. Love yourself and Stay NARC FREE!!!!!!!
@@tamikasturdivant7754 OH I know he don't give F and I showed him right back that I won't either. He's my cousin and all but he can't fool or play me. I can sense a Narc. Miles away..
@@overcomingnarcissistabuse Exactly! I know that I have a gift but this omg! Thank you for the clear breakdown of my personality...l was wondering and couldn't discuss it with anyone. He could be sitting next to me doing nothing and I would be like....what is that!! I could feel his negative thoughts. He is a covert narcissists the worse. He would often say I am afraid of you...and I would be doing nothing.
Massive thanks to the narcissists of my life. You each lined up, one by one, and took the time to ensure I realised how much I actually like myself. You helped me find my supernova and collectively we kicked my sorry codependent ass into this wise, witty and well prepared version of someone I actually like to be. It's great! Altruism, meet irony. Enjoy.. Good luck to you all xxx
You got it bang on about creativity Dr. Bryant....most folk who are creative empaths are regularly belittled by their partners...it is common...you do the math about the partners. For the record...those creatives carry on creating.
Dr. Carmen Bryant - Overcoming narcissist abuse I had no idea what just happened this week till today! I supernova-ed his ass but good. I’m not thrilled w the traits but u described me and my situation perfectly. Thank you so very much
A true super empath will not loos their temper but will use logic and facts to expose the narcissist. Once the narcissist is exposed by logic and fact the narcissist has no choice but to move on to a new victim. You have to hit the narcissist where it hurts the most and that is to expose the false persona by letting them have enough rope to hang themselves very publicly
A true super empath when going super nova emotionally unstable and most often on a lot of psychotropic meds Suffer from ptsd and/or cptsd My experiences in counseling it takes a very long time to emotional regulate them
Dr. Carmen Bryant - Overcoming narcissist abuse , I’m so glad I didn’t go to meds, I feel it would have numbed out what I had to go through, brought me to my knees to God. 3 years out, just now getting back to my hobbies and friends and best of all PEACE. Thank You so much for your valuable information!!!!!!!! 😇🙏🏼
The man who lies to himself and listens to his own lie comes to such a pass that he cannot distinguish the truth within him, or around him, and so loses all respect for himself and for others. And having no respect he ceases to love, and in order to occupy and distract himself without love he gives way to passions and coarse pleasures, and sinks to bestiality in his vices, all from continual lying to other men and to himself. ~The Brothers Karamazov by Dostoevsky
Not all narcissists are men and not all empaths are women. My case and point my soon-to-be ex-wife is what I referred to as a category 10 narcissist. Now true Studies have shown that a majority of the narcissist Are men. But make no mistakes I'm a man and very empathic and my soon-to-be ex-wife is one step down from Satan himself
Thank you. I started to think that I was the narcissist. Much of what you and your mentor has given me a new found sense of freedom and a better understanding of what I have been dealing with. I hold nothing back, because I refuse to allow the wool to be placed over my eyes. I am very keen in the spirit and refuse to be treated like I am nothing. Again thank you and God bless you!
Kimberly Stewart was thinking exactly the same. I honestly thought, god I’m turning into him. But I’m still empathetic, I still care, whereas he doesn’t!
Same my brother is a narc. He bully's everybody who goes against what he believes that night I told myself your going for broke if you die you die but if he raises his voice and would start attacking trying to cower me I raised mine with him and gave him worse attacks back. He finally backed down I was so scared but I didn't care he walked out the house and I finally cracked and felt all the energy drain from me I felt so broken and hurt. I felt confused like what just happened that's not me. He rang the doorbell and came back. I hugged him and said I never want to fight with him. Since then he has little contact with me. We're at peace if I don't call him I won't hear from him. Hurts me we are family
I agree with you. I think theres a time and place to speak and when to remain silent. As empaths, I think theres an expectation to just smile and ignore bad treatment. In some situations it's better to ignore it. However, after a while, you get ppl comfortable with over talking you and breaking your personal boundaries such as: being heard, respected and listened to. I noticed that when I would just speak up about anything, ppl would want to interrupt and push their opinion. I used to let it slide, assuming that was the polite thing to do. However, I address it now. I dont raise my voice..I just state facts. I think when we lose our power is when we get into a screaming match with these narcs. But also know..that no one is perfect. To expect an empath or anybody to never get upset..to never disagree and to always turn the other cheek is unrealistic. I lived this way for years and actually felt bad when I had to set the record straight. Now, not only do I practice this..its becoming a part of who I am. I wont be an easy target for anymore abusers. Period.
Congratulations Dr. Bryant, you were able to gather a whole bunch of super empaths in the commentary. I never knew there are this many. :-) From my own perspective I see it this way: Thanks to his/her fine tuned antennas, even while still being in the FOG and having cognitive dissonance, the empath picks up on a lot of things that aren't kosher. Once the empath comes out of the FOG this collection of betrayals, stealing from employers, cheating insurances, the IRS or social benefits department, etc., will rise to the empath's conscience one by one. Due to the narcissist's arrogance he/she generally underestimates other people, see Dunning-Kruger-Effect for details, the narcissist never even imagines that the survivor knows heaps of things about the narcissist that could easily put them in jail for years. A true empath will never be vengeful. And using what you know as a measure to protect yourself against the narcissist is no reason to feel bad at all, it's called self-defense. Knowing what I know about certain people allows me to sit back and calmly watch them dig their own graves. Thinking they can get away with murder is giving them a false sense of security, and them obviously not knowing whom they're messing with, gives me a huge advantage. If they don't stop messing with me, I'll let the bomb explode and shred their delusional lives in pieces so fast they won't know what hit them. And no, they won't get back on their feet again, they're a) too old, b) too lazy, c) too ignorant to help themselves.
Very nice! Mos def "Watching then dig their own graves". Precisely. We can sit in our own knowing and not be egotistical or smug. I love to help people, not hinder. I get their truths by any means necessary. Other empaths know what I mean. The thing is when you get your power back and the veil of sorts is lifted, it is a new day. Cool, Calm and collected is so lovely and being in control of our ourselves is the beginning. Things around me are just getting started as its building to a fever pitch. Biologically it is fact, we possess a high number of mirror neurons within our system. That is by no means a mistake and we are part of that 140k, Revelations.
Oh my word, you hit it on the head! I held a mirror up to my narcy ex ONCE. Just one small facet of his personality that wasn't what he wanted to believe about himself, and he completely crumbled. More than enough for me to make my escape, almost with his blessing. I could have done soooo much more. Between the secrets I knew, and just all the awful personality traits that he's in complete denial about, I could have not only ripped him to shreds mentally and emotionally, but destroyed his personal and work life and probably had him sent to jail. But I need not be the instrument of karma. That will bite him in the ass all on its own.
It’s a fine line! I scared myself the first time I fought back and then I felt guilty because I would never want to intentions hurt someone. I didn’t realize he was a Narcissist until after wards and I just wanted him to stop.
Coming so close to giving in to the darkness that is inside totally has it's effects on us. It's been an eye opening experience looking inside myself. Learning so much about of who I was and why I had went down the wrong path in life chasing love changed me. The past two years have made me have hope for the future and I hope it has for you as well. I'm grateful to have been brought here to read these comments this morning while I listen to this message again. Have a great day.
i am an empath and the moment i started putting bounduries my narcissitic bff discarded me i guess i won ! i lost her toxic cancereous relationship and found myself!
Watching this, I now understand why my mother would say "you're definitely, without a shadow of a doubt your father's daughter". She would say this when I've been wronged and I'm reacting to it. I'm dealing with a narc now, it's the third time he's come back in to my life and this time enough is ENOUGH! I'm fed up with his back and forth, inconsistency and BS. He doesn't know what do with himself. I saw it the other night at a social gathering and the way he reacted to me and I stood up for myself. I was raised by a narc mother and father. But I always wondered where my sensitivity and strength came from as I don't deal with any BS. I've always been told I'm strong despite my upbringing and challenges I've faced in life, but over-sensitive and feel too much. Pressed enough, eventually I fight back.
I hear ya girl. My Dad was a cerebral narcissist..very intelligent and crazy intuitive. His mom, my grandma, was a super empath but she was also very sweet and kinda got taken advantage of. I believe I am a cross between the two. I'm an empath with a sprinkle of narcissism just to make life interesting..I guess bc when I'm done with a person, group or community..I truly dont give 2 💩s. It even scares me at how numb I can get. 😏🙋🏾♀️
Aren’t you sick to death of being told that you’re too sensitive, too?! I replied last week to someone by saying, “You say that like it’s a bad thing. If you had to deal with all of the cold-hearted, manipulative people I grew up around, you’d understand what a blessing it really is!”
Wow I'm so happy you posted this. I'm a super empath but when **** gets insane, I have been accused by the narc of being the narc. And truly, I've been so conflicted about which I was. This brings a lot of clarity. Thank you thank you thank you
@@overcomingnarcissistabuseI agree. I want to work with you but I have to wait for a new job. You said Super empaths is not a good thing. People are misinterpreting it as if it were like being Scarlett Johansen in the Avengers. It's not a super power. It's very disturbing, and confusing way of living, birthed of chronic trauma and a pattern of abuse that's gone unchecked until God himself had to put His foot down.
Thank you for such an inspiring video. I took the MBTI test a few times and found I'm an INFJ. The description of the super empath matches closely with INFJ characteristics. The INFJ is famous for the INFJ door slam, which sounds very much like a supernova. We don't really hate the person we door slammed, we just don't care anymore, and we (I know from personal experience) will use every trick they used against us. Oddly enough, when we use their own techniques against them, all of a sudden, those techniques are unfair and despicable. The narcissist has no self-awareness. Sigh....
Sorry, but I do not believe these personality tests anymore. My ex (covert narc) was INFJ - and me INTP = "the golden couple" - and it felt like that exactly. Turns out he was never real, the super kind and super faithful role he played, well that mask shockingly cracked just 2 weeks ago. Now I know all the 7 years with him were nth but a big fat lie. He used me only to get to Germany. The gaslighting, the lies he made me question my feelings and perceptions. Don't be deceived by these 'personality tests'..
Super empath here. For me, the supernova is at times really uncontrollable. It messed with me for a long time until I learned about super empaths. I'm generally an extremely empathetic person, but it would make me question my character when I'd get pushed to a place where my boundaries were violated so severely my needs weren't met. I would literally become a completely different person devoid of empathic qualities, forced to a place of one goal at all costs...self preservation. I've had people tell me the way I think when I get to that place is scary and not right and not me, but I only get there when I've been violated. And, you're so on point in this video because it is incredibly hard to resist fighting fire with fire once it's started. Thanks for posting!
bitterprofessional Just know you are not alone I am the same way I started doubting myself as well until I found this video and realized I am nothing like my soon to be ex-husband he used to bring out a very dark side of me as well that I do not enjoy seeing
That was right on time.. I never knew the terminology, I called it ‘flipping the script’.. makes soo much sense. When the student is ready the teacher will appear..
This was very validating for me and helped me understand myself better. I went supernova on a couple of narcissists. It was like the 4th of July. And I really don’t regret it. 😳 I’m also an INFJ and have never had a problem standing up to bullies. Is that a superpower, haha?!?!
For Me: It was the Narc, giving her Diabetic Child, a heaping “Eating Spoon,” of Sugar when the 6 yr. Old… LOVED the Cereal Without the SUGAR! But, it was the Sadistic Way that she Did it, “You Like Sugar?” to the Child! “YES! “Giggles! “Elated over-Board! “YUM - “Sugar!” The Narc Looked at me & Sprinkled the Sugar… SMILING! THEN - RE-RUN X’s 8… With a Sinister, hateful Voice, until the Heaping Eating Spoon WAS ALL ON the CEREAL. I was in SHOCK & COULDN’T SPEAK! I cried for 12 yrs., putting up with All… I felt my Super-Nova Blood BOIL. This is the Life of a Child, w/ a Malignant Narc Parent Playing Games! “NO MORE!!!” I can’t figure out HOW to get around her Hurting the KIDS to Spite Me… “SO I AM GOING NO CONTACT.” “AMPUTATED from my LIFE!” “DONE!” I just hope that the other parent figures it Out - Before She Kills the Kid! I don’t know if I’m S.Nova, yet! I Believed that Love would win over (they lived out-of-State). Now, I am in Fear for Lives… Much More! I just discovered that I’m an INFJ. 🙏🏻💛🕊🍃
I know myself when I'm in the company of a narcissist, so being myself, an empath, when narcs believe they've got one over me, I catch them in their acts. To all empaths, be yourself, just know when you do, they'll think they can screw you over. Turn around and see what they're doing, more often than not, you'll find them into doing no good! My husband sister came into our home and she accused me of abusing my (husband her brother) and I told her that her disrespect was a Ray trait, couldn't do what you ask any of his family, she took her rear end out of our home! I've had enough of him and his narc family!
I was with and married to a narc for 15 years. I did not realize he was a narc until year 12. After watching this I realize I became super nova numerous times. He accused me several times of being a narc. I appreciate all of your videos. They've helped me understand what I went through and who I was dealing with.
My Super Nova story got heavily legal and extremely costly for the two Greater Narcissists ( 2 separate involvements) who thought I might be good as a secondary supply. Super Empath chooses acts of power over being powerless to prevent going into depression.
Spot on Doc! Well done💫☄️💥 I’ve been through the levels of a born empath - but ONLY thanks to my x husband narcissist🔑 As a now super nova empath- part of my healing is being grateful to my narcissist x husband with kids!!! If I did t have THEM to think about - not sure if I had had the strength to discover the truth and heal🙌🎁💃🥊
This is the best video I've seen for the Empire to strike back. Super nova empath here ready to super unload. My intuition is my super power. So glad I found you today, Easter Sunday, my birthday, which was the last straw for me....Resurrection of the Super Nova. My reaction is no reaction....It is quietly rebuilding my life as in speak softly and carry a big stick. Your analogies are unparalleled....Thank You for your work.
Awesome. now I finally know why I react the way I react when I feel like a narcissist is trying to continue getting one over on me or is harming somebody that I decide to stick up for him. This is the only time I have heard this explanation and I just love it. It seems to answer the one question I couldn't answer. Great advice.
omg you've just described what happened at the end of my 21 year marriage to a pyscho-hidden-in-plain-sight narc. I called him out on his tricks and turned tricks on him and exposed him. He blew up big style and got himself a 2 year suspended prison sentence. Then I went and healed up. I've only just got used to the title empath but I think I went supa nova. whoooaaaaa
Phennecc Foxx - be kind to yourself ❤️ one day at a time... or 5 minutes at a time.. read read read your Bible, cry out to God ! Don’t get weak, you’ll find yourself be patient, slow down, rest a lot, Stay No Contact!!!! 🙏🏼😇👍🏼
Hey Dr. Carmen Man the way you deliver the messages that you orchestrate just soothes my soul . There’s just something about the energy you have it just feels like balance and wisdom, something I can feel comfortable with and trust. Thank you for taking the time to help the community we appreciate you.
Such a good video. I would add to this. As the super empath, and when we don't know who they are, we're reacting like an overt narc and really affecting them badly, to the point where they run, and yep we feel bad afterwards and they take advantage of that. But we analyse and analyse and figure it all out, and we put the pieces together .. and then we find peace in us and we end the relationship. But they don't stop, they threaten police, they smear us, they do all these things .. and we get a final 'booooom!!!' and for us it's over .. and we continue to put the pieces together because we're very good at putting ourselves in their shoes and seeing the smallest of detail and the big picture, and we learn their tricks. And so, what we do is, we start doing the mind games on them, responding covertly, just like the Brits and Americans did on the lead-up to D-Day in WWII, tricked the Germans into thinking we were going to land in one place and landing somewhere totally different, and we keep going and going, pushing forward, not letting them know what we're doing or what we know, and it torments them (not that we're trying to) and we've finally figured it out .. and THAT is when we become incredibly dangerous to them, their worst nightmare, when we 'get it' and stop reacting and start responding, and have become extremely unpredictable .. and they really fear us then, because there is no telling what we'll do .. but unlike them, at this point we actually do nothing, we just watch, we use patience, we block, we give nothing away, we record everything, we keep the police updated, and we simply just do not respond to any of their pokes or anything .. and they know not to confront us because they know we've become way too powerful for them and they just simply cannot compete because our way is so alien to them, but their way is very clear to us, because we're empaths, and they don't understand why we've stopped reacting .. and that drives them crazy!!
Empaths are also biblically based. In the Bible it's called discernment. God gives the gift of discernment to be able to vet people out. I have the heightened gift of discernment/empathic ability. I can pick up a person's emotions or intentions the moment I walk in a room. I can tell what people are feeling without them saying a word. I can vet out a lie instantly. It's to the point that people who know me don't even try to lie, because they know I'll call them out. I also pick people up at a distance. Recently I got really emotional feeling I wanted to leave the Earth and go to heaven. It was so bad that all I could do was lay in a fetal position in the bed and not move. I called my cousin and she said maybe you are picking up someone. I thought maybe I was but I couldn't control the feeling. I didn't want to leave the house thinking I was going to die in a car accident or something. The next morning, the feeling was gone, I felt a relief. My phone rang, my Mother told me my grandfather died in the middle of the night in the nursing home...I told her I picked him up!! He truly was ready and wanted to go to heaven, and he was at peace. Lastly, Jesus was the best empath to ever live. He was able to discern anyone. By the way, I am a film writer/director...lol. And after dealing with my Narcissist, I've learned to say No and set boundaries. I say No very easily now, and I've learned to put my emotions and needs first. It took practice but I got it now. Red flags stop me in my tracks and I make a U-turn...I wish a Narcissist would try it with me now...I can spot them easily and I shut them ALL THE WAY DOWWWWNN!
Empaths operate out of emotions and feelings Jesus did not He operated out of the prophetic Go check out my mentor’s CZcams channel she explains the empath in detail from a Christian perspective she my pastor Helen Saddler Destiny Helper
@@overcomingnarcissistabuse I agree with that too. However the Bible shows us Jesus also operates from emotion. When Mary cried because Lazarus died, Jesus felt their emotion and wept with them. He wasn't crying because it was prophetic, he wasn't crying because Lazarus died (he knew he could bring Lazurus back) he cried because he felt their pain. I love your channel by the way. I binge watch your videos.
Christel Gibson he cried because of their lack of faith he was coming to raise him from the dead so he wasn’t grieving He had human emotions and had empathy but he was balanced he wasn’t an empath
@@overcomingnarcissistabuse We'll have to agree to disagree, there is alot of research and even reputable Pastors who have preached about his empathetic ability and discernment. But I do respect your professional assessment on the matter as well as Dr. Helen Handlers. I followed her a few days ago and have listened to a few of her videos after you suggested we do so. I think she's great as well.
There is much proof when people tell lies.....body language tone etc In counseling I don’t just focus on what is being said I watch what is being said nonverbal communication helps a lot There are extensive studies in body language/nonverbal communication used especially in the police force or forensic investigations I agree with you Ms Linda Bermudez-Hafer
I'm glad that you did a video on this,I recently found out,by looking into myself and being honest with my mind and heart, that I was co-dependent. I fight every day to heal,I look at myself every day and tell the truth and get real,it is only when I did this was I able to see my part,and how I have to do things different or I will stay stuck. Today I focus on self love,I stay focus on me and love the woman looking back at me in the mirror. I'm a extremely loving person and always will be. I'm learning how to do things different, and better. I have a lot of support from my family, they all know the truth now and have nothing but love,my friends are very supportive. And did not know that I was in a narcissistic relationship, but God has giving me his grace and open my eyes to this sickness. And since that has happened, everything in my heart,and thoughts has changed. I'm better now and know what I have to do,knowing that I have a team of lawyers and other people who are ready to go all out. I'm ready!!! Very good video miss lady,your the best.
"where is the Super Empath??"... He'll/she'll be the one in a wooded area hidden in plain sight....with his/her telescopic sight pointed directly at the narcissist's head......and he/she has been there for months waiting for the shot....then he/she will quietly pack up, leave...and head back to his/her normal life without so much as a word..well, maybe two words in his/her head.. ..GAME OVER.
Thats me. And i just started training again too☺ whether or not to take the shot because it's so easy. In the meantime I'll be strolling in my camo talking to the forest animals
This makes soooooo much sense! When enough was enough with my ex husband and I hit that supernova point I had to ask myself was I a narcissist...this really enlightened me and answered soooo many of my questions in my head.
My super nova was bad on him. He will never forget me. And yes I do feel bad about it. Thank you I needed to hear this. Thank you so much he is scared of me lol wow
Yes that is exactly what happens, me being a super empath, went supernova several times and it is nasty fight, and yes I felt bad afterwards for my reactions. and that is why I kept asking myself, am I the narcissist, because of the supernova effect, I remember writing that on one of your posts before telling you about that, and here you are talking about it now and is so right on, I appreciate you as always and thank you.
The empath can become the narcsisist ........or the mirror ! Absolutely true !!!!! I have been through this for 8 years ....but I studied this well .....met their match !!! As you say .....you have to back off using intelligence once they've realised you have equaled their game !!!! And switch it up . It's quite shocking for the narcsisist when the empath is done ! They can't believe it !! They have seen themselves in the mirror ( after all that's what narcsisist dies isn't it .....sees their own reflection !!!! ) I've been through every stage of this ......!!! We know what they are thinking ......! ! Very well presented ....thank you .X
Massive thanks to the narcissists of my life. You each lined up, one by one, and took the time to ensure I realised how much I actually like myself. You gave me supernova strength which eventually morphed my worn out and sorry codependent self, into a wise witty and well prepared version of someone I now actually really like being. It's great! Altruism, meet irony. Thank you both for coming, let's dance! Good luck to you all xxx
This explanation was amazing!.been living this exact situation for 23 years...i have gone supernova so.many times without still felt love for the demon..but not anymore..this supernova is awake ,aware and so much smarter..
You're so well studied and down to earth. I love it!! I was raised around a family full of narcissists so needless to say I've always dealt with these types of relationship dynamics since I could remember. Fighting back is purely psychological. All narcissists are different, idc what anyone says but they have a personality even if it is a "mask" & they are all constantly searching for something! It is key to stay logical with them and never let them close to your emotions! They are such spiteful beings and will use anything you say against you. That's why they leave in you in disarray it's like a bookmark so they know exactly where to pick up when they hoover back. But there are so many types lol it's really not safe territory for someone who isn't used to it. I wouldn't wish it on any one! But it is a blessing in disguise. Once your eyes are opened you can never go back.
@@shaniecegullison Supernova would be state of action. Not a class of person. If you go supernova againt a narcissist... the person is not holding anything up and won't feel bad attacking the narcissist with all the weaponry the empath has got. Boom!
The worst as a super empath is when youve moved on after youve told them about themselves over and over and then go NC but then a year and some later you feel them calling you, in your soul, deep down. Then it gets intense in your thoughts...Them CRAVING you, wanting your fuel. Its the worst, you really have to buckle up and remember who they are and brush up on vids and stay busy. Its hard out for here for super emphs! Stay blessed and prayed up yall! ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
He caused my depression and wouldn’t accept that I was sick, he thought I was trying to get attention but I was spirling downdown until I couldn’t get out of bed
This explained a lot. Before he flipped on me, he had made comments like...you may be stronger than me, dont you ever get angry, you do that better than me...these were totally out of character. Now I realize where the comments came from. I shocked him by blessing him to the very end with my words. Then I did the no contact until I heard clues to small attitude changes. After that, I sent about 4 hard but caring letters, weeks apart, setting difficult boundaries, exposing his weaknesses but honoring the good. I am keeping a distance but loving him from that distance by praying for him and in the letters. Just this past week, after not talking to him in 9 months, 2 different people told me things about him that evidence he is taking my letters to heart. My point is that what is impossible with man is possible with God, only most people wouldnt survive it emotionally. I am able, like you said, to lay aside my emotions for the good of Gods truth. I will continue to pray and watch for the miracle! Thank you for the video.
Ana Kerner it will work, in time, but like you said, you have to be incredibly strong emotionally, and very close to God. Strength and patience is key. I dealt with a narc for a year before I realized what he was, which is a lot quicker than most of the comments I’m reading, but, I called him out for what he was, set my boundaries (which narcs do not respect) but gave him no choice but to respect them or move along. I kept him at a distance for about 6 months, all the while praying for him and keeping myself strong. I kept hearing from different ppl how he was working on himself, and he didn’t seem to be the same person. I eventually started conversing with him again, but not letting him forget the reason I stopped conversing with him to begin with. It took about a year in all, working on himself, me keeping busy with work and my kids, and we ended up back together. We’ve been married for 4 years now and he is a different man. He knew something was off with him, but he always thought he was bipolar. Once I explained to him the traits of a narc, he realized that was him, and he wanted to change for the better or he knew he would die miserable and alone. He told me what all narcs tell their partners, “you’re the best thing that ever happened to me”, but I believe him now..bc out of all the women before me, I’m the only one he actually changed for, for the better. It took so long for me to trust that what he was doing was real, and not the same old game..but that’s where the patience comes in, on his part as well, I can’t tell you how many times he asked me if I was ever going to trust him again, and my answer was always “you made me this way.” He’s been consistent for over 5 years now, so I do know they can change, but they have to realize and admit what they are..and it takes someone mentally and emotionally strong to point that out to get them to accept it. They will run all over a “push over”, and use them up, over and over again. You have to have a backbone, know your worth, then they will realize your worth as well, and they WILL change bc they don’t want to lose what they’ve never had. “Pushovers” come a dime a dozen to them. Once they meet their match, they settle down and wave the white flag. But believe me when I say, none of this is possible without God. 🙌🏽
@@janaj2748 Thank you so much for taking time to write this to me. I realize for a narc to change is a rare exception but you have a testimony that it can, rarely, happen and the conditions are rough. My former counselling as well as my strong faith in the God of the Bible enabled me to deflect the bad, nourish the broken child and watch incredible changes, as well as work on several faith projects together...things he had never done before. Your letter encourages me. Right now I have not seen my friend for 10 months but recently a man told me he has seen him at some mens group meetings and a pastor from my friends country told me my friend asked if he, the pastor, would come visit and stay with him even for a year. Both of these would not have happenned if I was with him because he only wanted me around. These also tell me he read a letter I had sent telling him if he ever wanted me back in his life he would have to be discipled by a man so he could mature in his faith. I am not saying he will be back in my life, but I care enough to keep praying for him and respect myself enough to keep a distance at this time. If I had not seen the changes I did in the time we were together, I would be long gone. Thank you again for writing your story to me. God bless!
Ana Kerner you’re so very welcome! And you hit the nail on the head when you said “broken child”, that’s exactly what they are! Or at least that’s what mine was! He had a rough childhood, and a not so great relationship with his mom growing up, a non existent relationship with his dad. It almost seemed as though he was stuck in his childhood and that horrible way of thinking no one could ever fully accept him, or be there for him through good and bad 100%. I showed him I was there, and not going anywhere, as long as he accepted his flaws and changed them for the better..and like you said, at the same time acknowledging the good, bc he did have some good, he was just terrified of getting close to anyone bc of his childhood, and that made him bitter, jealous hearted, and cold toward everyone. I thank God every single day for helping him, and me..bc it was definitely all God! My husband has even reconciled with his mom, and they are very close now. I hope all works out well for you and your friend, all things are possible through God. God is love my friend. ❤️❤️
@@janaj2748 Your story and replies mean a lot to me. I do realize most narcs dont change, for example both of my parents and my kids dad stayed stuck in their stuff...but with my friend I saw a difference as I never reacted but responded with Gods love. The anger left, he learned to laugh and even joke with me...he learned to have fun! Your story came at a time I needed encouragement that true change is possible, not for most but for the few that recognize and want it. And it is only by Gods grace...as I pray...If Gods love was great enough to bridge the gap between heaven and earth, His love as we demonstrate the tough but consistant 1 Cor 13 love, is greater than the grip of evil. We are his vessels of that love, and its not easy...I love Colossians 2:15 which tells us that the powers of darkness were stripped at the cross. Praise God! But it takes patience, hope, long suffering, kindness...overcoming evil with good, Gods good. We would not have the power or ability to walk this path apart from Him. God bless! 💖
Dr. Bryant.......ABSOLUTELY BRILLIANT......a giant welling of tears just poured down my face...you'll know why. At the point of the narc's now-obvious discard of me, which arrived after HER swift raising of an Estate Agent's FOR SALE board sign(the company's name was YOUR MOVE), then arrived a legal letter from MY Solicitor which caused a swift reactive counter comment from the BANSHEE scream of the narc of "WHAT HAVE YOU DONE....what the hell have you done!!!!!!!!!!!", followed by a single gentle "SUPER NOVA BOOM!!" moment comment...... " I'M DIVORCING "YOU"......................................................................................................game over....YOUR MOVE!!!!!! " No regrets. Thank you for this video.....REALISATION and acceptance of it, helps us to make giant leaps forward with recovery. I kinda feel i want to hug you for this video Dr.Bryant....who knows, one fine day, eh...if you see a tear or two roll down my cheeks, i am aware you will get them. TOTAL REGARDS TO ANY OF YOUR SUBSCRIBERS WHO HAVE SUFFERED THE BANE OF THE NARCISSISTS CONTACT.
THANK YOU for this video! Hearing this was EXACTLY what I needed to help me get some closure with my cousin. And your level of confidence while speaking of this subject was really refreshing to encounter. Really healing. Perfect timing. My cousin's a Greater Narcissist, and I'm a Super Empath; and she's been a huge bully and a pain to me my entire life, and I've just been taking the abuse for almost 30 years now. Broke ties with her several times in my life, but this last time was the ultimate end for me. Going super-nova describes it perfectly. Love the sun analogy. (And we've actually physically rammed heads together when we were younger, like sheep do; Almost like we were destined to collide. She always had a thicker head though, so she always won the headbutting contests.) It's such an amazing feeling to officially burn this bridge, and walk away from her for good this time. I've encountered many abusive people in my life, but my cousin's always been the most passively consistent. Right after I firmly told her I was done for good, she kept trying to reel me in with a few dozen insults mixed in with one or two back-handed compliments; just to remind me how happy I'll be without her in my life. Thank you for spreading a Positive Mental Attitude in the world. I certainly appreciate it, Dr. Carmen.
Dr Bryant im really blessed to have found your channel..in addition, im even more blessed that you shared information about Apostle Saddler the two of you are absolutely awsome.. *"DO GOOD WORKS!!"* ☺
Super empath here. Just responded! After many reactions! He is coming apart at the seems. He Can't sleep, feeling him just spinning in confusion. Pissed as hell because this was exactly what happend. I went intelligently narc on him. 4 1/2 years of constant abuse from him and we fought like you said, bashing heads like 2 rams. I wouldn't put up with it. So he ghosted and i blocked him. Much much more but i so get my behavior now and i thank you from my intact soul. Much love to you.
I had to do the same when calling out my ex NARC. I reflected all his behaviour back at him(mirroring) but it wrecked me because the behaviour was against my nature. The absolute relief every time he left the door and sense of impending doom every time he arrived was palpable. I threw him out 3 times but he intimidated me to let him back in. I finally got police to take him away once I had him for criminal damage and intimidation recorded when I dialled 999. But then the police had to report back to landlord that they responded to an incident and I was given my notice to quit.
@@phoenixkali probably a divine intervention getting you out of where you lived, go where he can't find you, nothing changes for the good with these people it jyst gets worse! Stay away so he doesn't hurt you as the abuse gets worse and worse. Find someone that deserves you and will love you with out condition! Know your worth girl ❤
@@kathleenstress I was gutted at the time because I loved my house, and he thought he won cos he knew how much that hurt me, but I moved 1000s of miles away and never publish my whereabouts on the net thru fb etc. Only my closest friends know a jist of where I am, so I had to start from scratch again. However I'm much more wary of guys who go all hot n heavy straight after meeting me. I just had one of those so I needed to remind myself hence being back on these pages.
Wow you are so spot on , that’s exactly what happened the last few years of the relationship, I honestly thought I was a narcissist for feeling smug when I caused him a narc injury thinking know you know how much it hurts and having no pity one minute than feeling mortified that I didn’t recognise this nasty person I had become and scared I was turning into him I started to gate people be so miserable and stressed then I got diagnosed with ptsd and googled it and discovered narcissist abuse and ticked every box and he ticked every box of a narcissist , I still can’t wrap my head around it now on medication and kicked him out our home 3 weeks ago he kept trying to come back but I just said no even though he owns half my home , I binged watched your videos and it gave me strength to fight also when I realised the damage he had done to me has problem effected our son too, we are both on waiting lists for therapy. Your videos really help so much , you explain things so well I feel like I can fix myself by just watching your videos because I feel stronger by the day I’m still struggling with feeling guilty for leaving him and kicking him out his own home but I just watch your videos and it reminds me I deserve better we all deserve better , all we did was love the wrong person a little to much , thank you for all you do x
Where the devil again walks right back into his own trap. When will he realize when Christ said it was "finished" that he wasn't playing. I believe that we are in the dispensation of cleansing the earth once again of these people. The fight is on.
This really helped me realize myself more. I am compassionate, yet vigilant and have no tolerance for people who abuse, like an archangel. I am now really taking my ability to see and sense seriously, I always tried to shy away from that ability, now I see clearly. And with more sensibility, I take what I detect seriously now and back off, vs. fight what I am detecting and trying to make a positive picture.
I’ve always described myself as a mirror and an amplifier. ( not proud of that ) so if I get 1 love I give 10 but if I get 1 hate I give ten ( consciously ) My other analogy was a speed boat and a skier, where when the boat changes direction slightly, I change direction much more. The super empathy describes me and my last relationship perfectly :0
Yeeeeeeessssss. I am the SUPER NOVA!! WOW!! 😁😁😁😁😁 What you spoke about is me alllllllll day.. I'm here cracking on my truth. Thank you soooooo much. Love it!!👍👍👍👍👍💪💪💪💪
Jesus Christ! Thank you for all you do! Seriously, how did I miss this video? This is what I’ve needed, still going to therapy but this is the explanation I’ve needed!
The reason for my high anxiety. I am a magnet for narcissist, wonder why? Each super nova I went means a narcissist is out there like a wolf in the woods, watching.
I really am greatful for you and your mentor. I find you both are concentrating on healing and looking forward. I spent long looking back. There is nothing but pain there.
I've got a subject for you : narc and your cooking . my ex narc when I would make dinner its all he could do to tell me dinner was good . it was like I would have to almost begg for a complement . they love to starve you for a compliment how your dinner was . i would ask hows dinner ? i said thank you it was good he would say . then when he cooked out ribs on the grill , I would have to tell him 100 time oh hunny your the best at grilling . why do they do that ? they the narc acts like they have to be worshiped like a god . why do they need to be worshiped like that? thank you for another wonderful video!
THAT ANSWERS A LOT!! Thank you sooooo much for this! Keep up the good work; we need all the support and answers we can get. This narcissist stuff has grown EXPONENTIALLY over the last several years.
I cannot say how much I needed this video! I have been tuned in to this idea of empaths and narcissists but just couldn’t swallow the whole idea of being psychic. This is the best most real breakdown I have ever come across
Quickly after my Awakening and Ascension process the Weak Toxic Garbage I was dealing with is terrified to death of my Light and Super Spiritual Empathetic Powers. I actually manifested her to move 200 miles away because she could no longer handle my Light Energy Field without wetting herself. The rolls are now reversed! Sometimes I walk into a grocery store and I see dark energies quickly scatter in all directions as I walk down the aisles picking up my high vibration food source to enhance my gifts, it's actually quite amusing!!!
Awesome content, love the deep messages. Many blessings my friend!
I'm a INFJ/ HIGH LEVEL SUPER EMPATH, WHO IS AWARE. Thankyou. They've studied me for 4 years without knowing as an empath I've studied them more in-depth. They play chess, not checkers. I claim CHECKMATE.😁
I tolerated and survived over 60 years of narc abuse by my Narc Foo. I came out the other side late in life but SANE and strong. NC was difficult at first bc I left an entire family...But that was the only way to find me...the one I really am! I knew what they were...They got it back tenfold and I barely had to say anything...not a word...yet the brief brutal honesty few sentences from me destroyed them or just a look from me made them sink under the table. I said some select impact words and then left. I went NC! Thank You Dr. Carmen Bryant SO MUCH. God Bless You!
This was such a great and informative video. Thank you for this. I have traits from all three: co-dependent, empath and super-empath.. However most of my traits lie on the empathetic and super empathetic scale. Its strange to think that yes I can be very sensitive, empathetic and overly supportive (at times), and my heart is in the right place, however when I see that I am being taken advantaged of/used and abused, then I can and will flip the script 180 with no remorse of the effect it causes. In fact I enjoy the effect (perhaps a little too much) it causes especially when it is to teach a lesson.
I am a super Empath, I figured out the Narc after 3 months and kept him around for another 3 months to torture him. Thank you doctor, I am subscribing to all these narcissistic abuse survivor channels, subscribed!
Hey!!! Great video This resonates with me so much and my Borderline Waif! I found out last year that I may be a Super Empath and knew that I wasn't a Narc! I did go Supernova on her too, giving her a major Narc injury and ensuring there was no way she could make her way back to me because she would. Glad that I am too! 26:15
Just learned something from you today. Thank you so much. Today..I found out that I'm a super empath. I thought I was just an empath but according to this video I'm a super empath. What in proud about I'd that I mostly have checked myself because I knew that I would hurt somebody and feel bad for it so I wouldn't say anything. I would just try to explain it away and go back to being an empath and take it on myself for having such thoughts and on the rare occasion actually explode. I realized my power and was always afraid to use it because I didn't want to be like the narcs I was surrounded by. I noticed, in my recovery, that I would also talk myself out of "standing up" for myself because I would also be gas lighted. They taught me to push myself down so much that I would even question my reality, but I always had this something in me that just wouldn't let me completely break. I now realize that was my empathy letting me know that what I was seeing was being backed up by a gift with feelings. Wow! What an empowering discovery. I do have a question....Can you give us tips on how not to explode? How do we respond vs react. For instance...I'm now in a relationship with a man who's mother is a covert narc. She always says things that make me feel like I have to defend myself. Like she's the authority on my life and I need her approval. She played on me in that way because who doesn't want their in laws to like them?She's also given compliments that sound more like accusations or make me feel like she actually saying " You're fake and I see through you." So I now know she's after the way I parent, my looks, and my personality. She says I'm articulate and basically not like a black person. I was so insulted. So now I'm to the point where I've been not going around her because I fear a super Nova meltdown....but I also feel that this has been her point so she can smear campaign me behind my back with ACTUAL and TRUE facts. I'm also in an interracial relationship so I've observed that's her game. They're all slightly racist, but they hide it and have enough sense to be cordial. Like innocent until proven guilty. His family have all been SUPER nice but that empathy right? I feel it and I see it. Especially the way they give me compliments they seem surprised but happy. Not accusatory like her. So I feel she's setting me up to explode and also play on the family's bigotry and racism to gain flying monkeys as well as make me feel alone and defeated. There's so much there...but yeah I know she's trying to make that "ghetto" come out of me. Please help🙏🏿
Oh Dear Dr. Carmen Bryant, you are describing my battle right now. For a long time I didn’t know if I was codependent or an empath. I even thought I was a narcissist but I am actually a super empath Inflicting pain to a low level narcissist. Because I didn’t set any boundaries I got burnt again and again, this third time and I am discarding him after he Hoovered over me, got me to co parent, got me to drop charges and now...Oh lord...order of protections everywhere to protect me and my child and I am working on an financial exit. I am in super nova mode. I have battled with him for 6 years. He is the aging narc. Everyone who knows me has seen the change in my light due to narc abuse. He threw a temper tantrum when I was talking abo it growing our family with a business and I too threw a tantrum of guilt trip and calling out of his behavior. I lost it for the last time and my war is over. I have to not react like David did to Saul. I lost my mom at 8 and I lost my last living guarding 2 weeks after birth from this narc and he blamed my depression over these events as the reason for our arguments. I was in therapy before him but being under diagnosed I never had a chance to block a Narc. I need help. I can’t find a therapist that understands narc abuse and trauma. This video is giving me so much clarity...bless you and your work on this topic...I’m truly grateful to you...I hope you see this comment, I would love to talk to you
Hi it's April 24 and I just went Super Nova today. I'm an Aquarius trying to make a Taurus man except me for who I am. I allowed our brief friendship time to turn into a sexual relationship that did not really fulfill my emotional needs to be truly wanted and needed. His behavior outside the bedroom was very ratchet and disrespectful. I reached my limit today when I found out that he had blocked my messages to him. He started to pick and choose when he would respond simple just caring text. High self-esteem has become a wreck I have to function in the world with clarity and focus. He had become a toxic human to me. And the only attention we gave each other was sexual. I would fix vegan meals for him stroke his ego with kind words and diffuse any hint of an argument and nothing worked. So I blocked him today from facebook. It was hard and I don't know what tomorrow will bring. I stumbled on to your site and now I know why. The information you gave was what I needed. Thank you.
It's been several weeks now since I sent this first post. He is still floating around in my head but I block him out. He sent me a mother's day greeting and I did not acknowledged it. Blocking him from Facebook is not enough so I took his phone # from my contact list. Because of my social commitments I know I will run into him again someday but as I rebuild my self-esteem I have no intentions of going back into that crowd that he came out of. Being passed the age of turtledoving I never believed that you could be fooled by a unconscionable and self-absorbed person. I will never compromise my dignity and self-respect for a slice of a relationship with another human being again.😊
Wow!!! This happened at the end of my relationship, and I was dating a covert narcissist and he thought I was so mean when we parted ways. I had watched the sneaky behaviors, manipulative tactics, attempts at punishment the whole relationship...but when he started pressuring me for commitment as if he had been totally faithful to me, I just snapped and cut him off. Went straight cold and non responsive and didn’t care. I didn’t think I had it in me to do that and to be honest it scared me. I was so cool calm and collected, he went off on me at work and got fired because he was so upset he couldn’t get to me. You described this perfectly and I didn’t get it at all, but a light bulb came on as you talked. Thank you for this breakdown!
Thank you! I am so glad to have found you. I have endured 20 years of narcissistic abuse. I feel like I am the one who is stopping a long lineage of abuse. It's been difficult. Often times I simply seek out a hug. Someone to say, it will pass. I have a strong heart known vision, so I can clearly see they are a distraction from my mission.
You have given such a great explaination.Iam a super nova .Im not bragging its one of the few things I have going for me .I was with The narc in my life for 10 before the mask came off .At some point I figured out a lot of what he had been doing and he was terrorizing me .I am able to take a lot of pain .I think it's because I know who I am and my worth .But I let that freak have it .We went round after round he was do frustrated he tripped his self up .I had no idea what was really happening .but I watched a lot of utube videos. And I had God and my divine protectors The ole narc had me pretty far down but I didnt show it .End the end I got the money and disappeared.If he finds me I have an awesome plan be he won't see coming .it involves the law which he has destroyed his reputation with .I didn't want this fight .I didn't deserve it . And I do not feel at all bad for that thing .I do not think it is a human .I know it has not got a soul .Funny thing is I don't think he has ever dealt with a super much less one with the knowledge I learned for utube also my trust in God .and my ability to spend days on end alone .He f....ed with the wrong person . and I warned the fool many times but he just kept coming .I know I sound like I'm bragging but that's ok .I needed a place to tell myself how proud I am of surviving all this .I am messed up and will be for a long time that thing did a lot of sick and cruel things to me .I am changed forever I'm not the carefree fun happy easy going and trusting person I was .but that's ok .I trust God had a reason .I worry about other people this thing is feeding on .They are the most vulnerable and shunned people in our society at this time . Im afraid he will drive them to suicide .I got to trust that God is there for them to .Thanks for this opportunity to let my feeling out.God Bless us all . The Meek will inherit the earth
This is what happened last week. After 17 years I just switched. I decided peacefully (without thinkingtoo much) that I no longer pledge allegiance to the narcissist/sociopath or to the dynamic. I turned my body physically as it happened and I literally felt energy leave my body. My muscles and joints kind of twitched and then relaxed. It was a bit scary but completely peaceful and natural. I have not been the same since. I ended it immediately with ease. It was a grace. I forgive him entirely. I hold nothing against him. It’s not that I think it was okay. It also impossible for it to ever happen again now, so it’s not out of hope or delusion. It’s just that I can see why he is that way and I hope for him that he can uncover the true self. I want that for him but I now feel no responsibility or urgency or anxiety to try and fix it. It’s his journey alone. I’m a new woman. He can’t affect me anymore. There is no more bondage to the dynamic. There will be times that I feel anger or I get angry that I hid my intuition and overlooked the signs. I played dumb to him and part of me wants him to know that I saw everything. I just turned a blind eye and fooled myself. I had the chance to expose him to himself once i was released from it. I started to go down this path but then it felt wrong. I did not want to destroy his ego because it would have been too much and it had the potential to drive a deeper separation between his true self and his ego. It could have put him further into denial. I do not think that shame and exposure always work. It could have been the very thing that caused the personality disorder in the first place. I did tell him that I was no longer stuck in our dynamic and that it was unhealthy and alluded to the tactics and that if he wanted to look at himself he could. He will know what I am talking about. I then addressed his true self in as much compassion as I could. It is his journey now. But other than my ego wanting him to know that I was not stupid, I am released and just want the best for him. But never will the dynamic ever ever work again. It’s impossible now. Thanks for video xxx
I did speak too soon tho!! Now it’s the journey of flip flopping between stuck and unstuck. I think the healing might be harder than I thought. I had a momentary realisation but I still have a lot of emotions and thoughts to work thru. It really is like coming out of a cult. Damn this is hard. Confusing.
Lol that’s me! I was labelled as “too extreme” but equitable so many times in my life. Even my mom says that she really likes that when I say “It’s over”, I never look back and never forgive nor forget. Nevertheless I feel exhausted from these battles and at some point I became desperate that all of my life I will deal with such awful people. I thought I am cursed. That was until I found out about narcissism and in the same time I didn’t fit well at all in codependency. I thought I am the abuser at some point too because I fought back every time when enough is enough. Thank you for the accurate explanation. It helped me a lot to answer many of my doubts and questions.
Stay strong girl be in your peace and you'll be right... Unfortunately there are a lot of nasty unempathic souls out there we just have to find the diamonds x
mila boeva what you said describes me to a T. I always thought something was wrong with me, bc out of everyone in my circle, family, friends, etc., I was always the girl who never looked back. Once you show me who you are, I’m done. I’ve been in several relationships in the past and all it took was one time, I’m not the break up to make up type girl. Everyone around me always go back to their ex, back and forth, back and forth, not me..I’ve never been in a relationship with the same person twice. You get one chance to make it right, after that I wake up with no feelings what so ever, like the person never existed. So now I finally realize I’m not the problem, I’m just not great at tolerating bull sh*t lol.
The super empath in fight mode is the absolute best opponent to a narc. Once that switch is pulled lawrd have mercy. You can use all of the narcs traits against him and not lose any sleep. Thank you this helped me gain a better understanding of who I am. I was concerned once my narc traits came up and I dealt with the situation.
Me too already recognized the false self one upped his ass and divorced him did everything by myself...GOD held my hand he saved 100 texts when we were together and tried to use in court against me that I was stalking him...evil after he ghosted for 2 weeks and would not pay his insurance and car note....he had me get him a car in my name as primary and several times did not pay the car note for 3 months and hid the car so do not know where the car is..over 18 months no contact....over 8 months divorced and he refuses to refinance the car in his name...narcissists are parasitic...and codependent!
Right..!! Initially, I thought I was the Narc..!! I did my homework and found u cannot be both the Narc & the Co-Dependent simultaneously..!!
I saw ur comment and wanted to suggest the notion of the "Active Co-dependent..!!" Perhaps u do ur homework on CZcams or otherwise regarding the "Active Co-dependent..!!" Most of these channels seem geared towards the "Passive Co-dependent..!! Some co-dependents don't assume the "pitiful role..!!" Some co-dependents fight for their self awareness and self preservation...!! No need to necessarily be the "Super Empath...!!" Just a theory..!! 🙄
Yes you are right. So glad I can see right through them and definitely don't lose sleep,,wow wish I watched these videos for the laat 8 years being married to a narcissist
Yes. Enough was really enough. I divorced him and it was the best thing i could've done. But, then i fell for another narcissist. Wow!! Idiot me. But after further researching and watching these videos. I waa able to pick up on it quickly
In my case it is her and I prayed for our souls and am not in jail. In 39 year's I haven't hit her and prayer kept me from giving her what she really needed when she discarded me. Alone and confused about the whole situation I realized the next day how close I came to losing my freedom. Thanks to the Lord I still have a home, my rights and am free. This is pure evil we are facing.
As an empath, I dont need to see someone to feel their energy.
Same here. I also notice that narcs will try to project their bad feelings onto you. I'm so glad that I'm able to distinguish the difference now.
Exactly! I can feel their energy even at a distance, they don't have to even be near me.
Yeah. Useful if we realize it’s their energy and not ours. But painful otherwise. I need empath boundary training.
Crimson Lotus1122 that’s what I think. I think these ugly feeling projections are rough. I just keep blaming myself for so long. And I don’t want to be scared of men anymore. And are we projecting the expected abuse?
Same
Another Super Empath here!!! I went through WWIV with my ex. I gave it right back to him and he wants nothing to do with me....no hoovers...no nada. Serves his ass right and he should stay away from me. I never want to see him again.
Everyone we have to be self aware...have strong boundaries and never dismiss red flags first sign delete and run!🏃🏃🏃🏃
Omg!!! I just had a war zone with a narcissist but he did end up in tears.
Please don't be fooled. The tears ARE NOT REAL. They love to put a show on, therefore you'll think they really love or care about you. They'll roll around on the floor just to get some type of attention. Their whole objective is to make you feel bad for them. So you won't let him go. They love to ACT. They'll DESTROY YOUR ENTIRE LIFE. If you want a peaceful life move forward. The only time you need to look backwards is to see weither or not he's behind you. They're are VERY DANGEROUS. They'll DESTROY you MENTALLY PHYSICALLY, SPIRITUALLY, PSYCHOLOGICALLY AND FINANCIALLY... You are better and greater than that foolishness... At the end of the day. That's the only thing he's about. Please believe me. Plead the blood of Jesus over him and Ask God for protection, healing and deliverance in the name of Jesus. Whatever is that you want or need God will provide.... May God continue to bless you Abundantly and Exceedingly. Love yourself and Stay NARC FREE!!!!!!!
@@tamikasturdivant7754 OH I know he don't give F and I showed him right back that I won't either. He's my cousin and all but he can't fool or play me. I can sense a Narc. Miles away..
They cry crocodile tears. And they aren’t upset because they’ve done wrong. They’re upset because they’ve been caught out. And then they play victim.
I call that a pity play.lololol
A genuine supernova uses no words. Nor do they identify themselves or tout †heir prowess. They are silent killers
Absolutely!! And they usually don’t know they are until someone explains it
@@overcomingnarcissistabuse Exactly! I know that I have a gift but this omg! Thank you for the clear breakdown of my personality...l was wondering and couldn't discuss it with anyone. He could be sitting next to me doing nothing and I would be like....what is that!! I could feel his negative thoughts. He is a covert narcissists the worse. He would often say I am afraid of you...and I would be doing nothing.
Massive thanks to the narcissists of my life. You each lined up, one by one, and took the time to ensure I realised how much I actually like myself. You helped me find my supernova and collectively we kicked my sorry codependent ass into this wise, witty and well prepared version of someone I actually like to be. It's great!
Altruism, meet irony. Enjoy..
Good luck to you all xxx
You got it bang on about creativity Dr. Bryant....most folk who are creative empaths are regularly belittled by their partners...it is common...you do the math about the partners.
For the record...those creatives carry on creating.
Dr. Carmen Bryant - Overcoming narcissist abuse I had no idea what just happened this week till today! I supernova-ed his ass but good. I’m not thrilled w the traits but u described me and my situation perfectly. Thank you so very much
A true super empath will not loos their temper but will use logic and facts to expose the narcissist. Once the narcissist is exposed by logic and fact the narcissist has no choice but to move on to a new victim. You have to hit the narcissist where it hurts the most and that is to expose the false persona by letting them have enough rope to hang themselves very publicly
A true super empath when going super nova emotionally unstable and most often on a lot of psychotropic meds
Suffer from ptsd and/or cptsd
My experiences in counseling it takes a very long time to emotional regulate them
Dr. Carmen Bryant - Overcoming narcissist abuse , I’m so glad I didn’t go to meds, I feel it would have numbed out what I had to go through, brought me to my knees to God. 3 years out, just now getting back to my hobbies and friends and best of all PEACE. Thank You so much for your valuable information!!!!!!!! 😇🙏🏼
Love this post
When they go super nova my apologies
@@overcomingnarcissistabuse are you a super empath
My husband told me, “If I was a Narcissist I’d be a millionaire.” I told him he’s just the lazy, procrastinating version. Lol.
😂😂😂😂
That is funny
Great response!😁
They are all lazy, period. Dont want to do work, regular or the great work.
Not all of them the ones I know are successful and wealth focused
I think I might rather stay single and if it’s forever then that’s what it will be
I hear ya sis..its some monsters out there.
Just be more self aware of red flags and never dismiss and have strong boundaries first sign delete and 🏃🏃🏃
That’s what the Narc wants, they want you to not be capable of entering another relationship
I’m staying single I was in a 33 years marriage to a narcissist
@@islandgirlruby2750 ain't nothing wrong with staying single though too
I just started therapy today.
Good for you and good luck!
That's great! Hope everything works out for you❤
Carmen you are on the right path!
Awesome!!!!! May God continue to bless you Abundantly and Exceedingly!!!
Congratulations !
The man who lies to himself and listens to his own lie comes to such a pass that he cannot distinguish the truth within him, or around him, and so loses all respect for himself and for others. And having no respect he ceases to love, and in order to occupy and distract himself without love he gives way to passions and coarse pleasures, and sinks to bestiality in his vices, all from continual lying to other men and to himself.
~The Brothers Karamazov by Dostoevsky
Jackie Love wow thats sad
Beautiful quote. Dostoevsky was probably one of the greatest psychologist who ever lived.
Oh my gosh! I totally needed to hear from him. So sad he had such harsh epilepsy back then.
Not all narcissists are men and not all empaths are women. My case and point my soon-to-be ex-wife is what I referred to as a category 10 narcissist. Now true Studies have shown that a majority of the narcissist Are men. But make no mistakes I'm a man and very empathic and my soon-to-be ex-wife is one step down from Satan himself
Thank you. I started to think that I was the narcissist. Much of what you and your mentor has given me a new found sense of freedom and a better understanding of what I have been dealing with. I hold nothing back, because I refuse to allow the wool to be placed over my eyes. I am very keen in the spirit and refuse to be treated like I am nothing. Again thank you and God bless you!
Kimberly Stewart was thinking exactly the same. I honestly thought, god I’m turning into him. But I’m still empathetic, I still care, whereas he doesn’t!
Same my brother is a narc. He bully's everybody who goes against what he believes that night I told myself your going for broke if you die you die but if he raises his voice and would start attacking trying to cower me I raised mine with him and gave him worse attacks back. He finally backed down I was so scared but I didn't care he walked out the house and I finally cracked and felt all the energy drain from me I felt so broken and hurt. I felt confused like what just happened that's not me. He rang the doorbell and came back. I hugged him and said I never want to fight with him. Since then he has little contact with me. We're at peace if I don't call him I won't hear from him. Hurts me we are family
I agree with you. I think theres a time and place to speak and when to remain silent. As empaths, I think theres an expectation to just smile and ignore bad treatment. In some situations it's better to ignore it. However, after a while, you get ppl comfortable with over talking you and breaking your personal boundaries such as: being heard, respected and listened to. I noticed that when I would just speak up about anything, ppl would want to interrupt and push their opinion. I used to let it slide, assuming that was the polite thing to do. However, I address it now. I dont raise my voice..I just state facts.
I think when we lose our power is when we get into a screaming match with these narcs. But also know..that no one is perfect. To expect an empath or anybody to never get upset..to never disagree and to always turn the other cheek is unrealistic. I lived this way for years and actually felt bad when I had to set the record straight. Now, not only do I practice this..its becoming a part of who I am. I wont be an easy target for anymore abusers. Period.
Me too, I kept thinking I was the narcissists
Congratulations Dr. Bryant, you were able to gather a whole bunch of super empaths in the commentary. I never knew there are this many. :-)
From my own perspective I see it this way: Thanks to his/her fine tuned antennas, even while still being in the FOG and having cognitive dissonance, the empath picks up on a lot of things that aren't kosher. Once the empath comes out of the FOG this collection of betrayals, stealing from employers, cheating insurances, the IRS or social benefits department, etc., will rise to the empath's conscience one by one. Due to the narcissist's arrogance he/she generally underestimates other people, see Dunning-Kruger-Effect for details, the narcissist never even imagines that the survivor knows heaps of things about the narcissist that could easily put them in jail for years.
A true empath will never be vengeful. And using what you know as a measure to protect yourself against the narcissist is no reason to feel bad at all, it's called self-defense. Knowing what I know about certain people allows me to sit back and calmly watch them dig their own graves. Thinking they can get away with murder is giving them a false sense of security, and them obviously not knowing whom they're messing with, gives me a huge advantage. If they don't stop messing with me, I'll let the bomb explode and shred their delusional lives in pieces so fast they won't know what hit them. And no, they won't get back on their feet again, they're a) too old, b) too lazy, c) too ignorant to help themselves.
Beautifully explained you are a true super empath
Very nice!
Mos def
"Watching then dig their own graves".
Precisely.
We can sit in our own knowing and not be egotistical or smug.
I love to help people, not hinder.
I get their truths by any means necessary.
Other empaths know what I mean.
The thing is when you get your power back and the veil of sorts is lifted, it is a new day.
Cool, Calm and collected is so lovely and being in control of our ourselves is the beginning.
Things around me are just getting started as its building to a fever pitch.
Biologically it is fact, we possess a high number of mirror neurons within our system.
That is by no means a mistake and we are part of that 140k, Revelations.
Oh my word, you hit it on the head! I held a mirror up to my narcy ex ONCE. Just one small facet of his personality that wasn't what he wanted to believe about himself, and he completely crumbled. More than enough for me to make my escape, almost with his blessing. I could have done soooo much more. Between the secrets I knew, and just all the awful personality traits that he's in complete denial about, I could have not only ripped him to shreds mentally and emotionally, but destroyed his personal and work life and probably had him sent to jail. But I need not be the instrument of karma. That will bite him in the ass all on its own.
So if I got so drained and ended up stepping out of the relationship instead of moving away.does that mean I am not an empath at all?
It’s a fine line! I scared myself the first time I fought back and then I felt guilty because I would never want to intentions hurt someone. I didn’t realize he was a Narcissist until after wards and I just wanted him to stop.
I scared myself too
Coming so close to giving in to the darkness that is inside totally has it's effects on us. It's been an eye opening experience looking inside myself. Learning so much about of who I was and why I had went down the wrong path in life chasing love changed me. The past two years have made me have hope for the future and I hope it has for you as well. I'm grateful to have been brought here to read these comments this morning while I listen to this message again.
Have a great day.
i am an empath and the moment i started putting bounduries my narcissitic bff discarded me i guess i won ! i lost her toxic cancereous relationship and found myself!
U win
Watching this, I now understand why my mother would say "you're definitely, without a shadow of a doubt your father's daughter". She would say this when I've been wronged and I'm reacting to it. I'm dealing with a narc now, it's the third time he's come back in to my life and this time enough is ENOUGH! I'm fed up with his back and forth, inconsistency and BS. He doesn't know what do with himself. I saw it the other night at a social gathering and the way he reacted to me and I stood up for myself. I was raised by a narc mother and father. But I always wondered where my sensitivity and strength came from as I don't deal with any BS. I've always been told I'm strong despite my upbringing and challenges I've faced in life, but over-sensitive and feel too much. Pressed enough, eventually I fight back.
I hear ya girl. My Dad was a cerebral narcissist..very intelligent and crazy intuitive. His mom, my grandma, was a super empath but she was also very sweet and kinda got taken advantage of. I believe I am a cross between the two. I'm an empath with a sprinkle of narcissism just to make life interesting..I guess bc when I'm done with a person, group or community..I truly dont give 2 💩s. It even scares me at how numb I can get. 😏🙋🏾♀️
Aren’t you sick to death of being told that you’re too sensitive, too?! I replied last week to someone by saying, “You say that like it’s a bad thing. If you had to deal with all of the cold-hearted, manipulative people I grew up around, you’d understand what a blessing it really is!”
Wow I'm so happy you posted this. I'm a super empath but when **** gets insane, I have been accused by the narc of being the narc. And truly, I've been so conflicted about which I was. This brings a lot of clarity. Thank you thank you thank you
That means you have a lot of emotional problems very broken
@@overcomingnarcissistabuseI agree. I want to work with you but I have to wait for a new job.
You said Super empaths is not a good thing. People are misinterpreting it as if it were like being Scarlett Johansen in the Avengers. It's not a super power. It's very disturbing, and confusing way of living, birthed of chronic trauma and a pattern of abuse that's gone unchecked until God himself had to put His foot down.
Veronika V yes very very touchy feely and often time are unable to separate their feelings from others
@@overcomingnarcissistabuse I'm learning, thank you for your videos and help. I've shared them with others suffering. Truly annointed teachings.
And very powerful people
“A hotmessship” - so true.
I went SUPERNOVA on my ex! I had no care of the outcome and the beast was definitely unleashed that day!
I did the same thing 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👊🏽
I'm the Super Nova empath through and through! My ex narc had me messed up!
Thank you for such an inspiring video. I took the MBTI test a few times and found I'm an INFJ. The description of the super empath matches closely with INFJ characteristics. The INFJ is famous for the INFJ door slam, which sounds very much like a supernova. We don't really hate the person we door slammed, we just don't care anymore, and we (I know from personal experience) will use every trick they used against us. Oddly enough, when we use their own techniques against them, all of a sudden, those techniques are unfair and despicable. The narcissist has no self-awareness. Sigh....
@Snow Flakes yeah just like empaths but a lot of empaths _are_ INFJ's
INFJ here. I can also attest to everything you’re saying.
INFJ here 🙋🏼♀️
@Snow Flakes Any type can be a narcissist. The good things go bad. I hope I never meet an INFJ narcissist, brrrrrr!
Sorry, but I do not believe these personality tests anymore. My ex (covert narc) was INFJ - and me INTP = "the golden couple" - and it felt like that exactly. Turns out he was never real, the super kind and super faithful role he played, well that mask shockingly cracked just 2 weeks ago. Now I know all the 7 years with him were nth but a big fat lie. He used me only to get to Germany. The gaslighting, the lies he made me question my feelings and perceptions. Don't be deceived by these 'personality tests'..
No narcissist that I have known has never had empathy
They can have mimicked empathy
Super empath here. For me, the supernova is at times really uncontrollable. It messed with me for a long time until I learned about super empaths. I'm generally an extremely empathetic person, but it would make me question my character when I'd get pushed to a place where my boundaries were violated so severely my needs weren't met. I would literally become a completely different person devoid of empathic qualities, forced to a place of one goal at all costs...self preservation. I've had people tell me the way I think when I get to that place is scary and not right and not me, but I only get there when I've been violated. And, you're so on point in this video because it is incredibly hard to resist fighting fire with fire once it's started. Thanks for posting!
bitterprofessional I can relate to you. This is my story also.
Same here. Strange isn't it?
Exactly! Finally someone gets it. Thank you
bitterprofessional Just know you are not alone I am the same way I started doubting myself as well until I found this video and realized I am nothing like my soon to be ex-husband he used to bring out a very dark side of me as well that I do not enjoy seeing
That was right on time.. I never knew the terminology, I called it ‘flipping the script’.. makes soo much sense. When the student is ready the teacher will appear..
This was very validating for me and helped me understand myself better. I went supernova on a couple of narcissists. It was like the 4th of July. And I really don’t regret it. 😳 I’m also an INFJ and have never had a problem standing up to bullies. Is that a superpower, haha?!?!
For Me: It was the Narc, giving her Diabetic Child, a heaping “Eating Spoon,” of Sugar when the 6 yr. Old… LOVED the Cereal Without the SUGAR! But, it was the Sadistic Way that she Did it, “You Like Sugar?” to the Child! “YES! “Giggles! “Elated over-Board! “YUM - “Sugar!” The Narc Looked at me & Sprinkled the Sugar… SMILING! THEN - RE-RUN X’s 8… With a Sinister, hateful Voice, until the Heaping Eating Spoon WAS ALL ON the CEREAL. I was in SHOCK & COULDN’T SPEAK! I cried for 12 yrs., putting up with All… I felt my Super-Nova Blood BOIL. This is the Life of a Child, w/ a Malignant Narc Parent Playing Games! “NO MORE!!!”
I can’t figure out HOW to get around her Hurting the KIDS to Spite Me… “SO I AM GOING NO CONTACT.” “AMPUTATED from my LIFE!” “DONE!” I just hope that the other parent figures it Out - Before She Kills the Kid!
I don’t know if I’m S.Nova, yet! I Believed that Love would win over (they lived out-of-State). Now, I am in Fear for Lives… Much More! I just discovered that I’m an INFJ.
🙏🏻💛🕊🍃
I know myself when I'm in the company of a narcissist, so being myself, an empath, when narcs believe they've got one over me, I catch them in their acts. To all empaths, be yourself, just know when you do, they'll think they can screw you over. Turn around and see what they're doing, more often than not, you'll find them into doing no good! My husband sister came into our home and she accused me of abusing my (husband her brother) and I told her that her disrespect was a Ray trait, couldn't do what you ask any of his family, she took her rear end out of our home! I've had enough of him and his narc family!
I was with and married to a narc for 15 years. I did not realize he was a narc until year 12. After watching this I realize I became super nova numerous times. He accused me several times of being a narc. I appreciate all of your videos. They've helped me understand what I went through and who I was dealing with.
I'm a Super Empath. I called it loosing my shit😂 I walked away after I went Supernova. No looking back💖🙏
Good job 🤛🏽🤚🏽✊🏽
My Super Nova story got heavily legal and extremely costly for the two Greater Narcissists ( 2 separate involvements) who thought I might be good as a secondary supply. Super Empath chooses acts of power over being powerless to prevent going into depression.
Spot on Doc! Well done💫☄️💥 I’ve been through the levels of a born empath - but ONLY thanks to my x husband narcissist🔑
As a now super nova empath- part of my healing is being grateful to my narcissist x husband with kids!!! If I did t have THEM to think about - not sure if I had had the strength to discover the truth and heal🙌🎁💃🥊
This is the best video I've seen for the Empire to strike back. Super nova empath here ready to super unload. My intuition is my super power. So glad I found you today, Easter Sunday, my birthday, which was the last straw for me....Resurrection of the Super Nova. My reaction is no reaction....It is quietly rebuilding my life as in speak softly and carry a big stick. Your analogies are unparalleled....Thank You for your work.
Awesome. now I finally know why I react the way I react when I feel like a narcissist is trying to continue getting one over on me or is harming somebody that I decide to stick up for him. This is the only time I have heard this explanation and I just love it. It seems to answer the one question I couldn't answer. Great advice.
omg you've just described what happened at the end of my 21 year marriage to a pyscho-hidden-in-plain-sight narc. I called him out on his tricks and turned tricks on him and exposed him. He blew up big style and got himself a 2 year suspended prison sentence. Then I went and healed up. I've only just got used to the title empath but I think I went supa nova. whoooaaaaa
Empaths can also sense and attract spirits and know what to say to deeply hurt people feelings with ease.
He's trying to kill my spirit😳no contact 5 days! Lord please please let my plans work😬
@@tbd5082 I'm safe at moms.I'm exercising resting drinking h2o praying and staying tuned to your channel❤thank YOU😍😘
Phennecc Foxx - be kind to yourself ❤️ one day at a time... or 5 minutes at a time.. read read read your Bible, cry out to God ! Don’t get weak, you’ll find yourself be patient, slow down, rest a lot, Stay No Contact!!!! 🙏🏼😇👍🏼
Hey Dr. Carmen
Man the way you deliver the messages that you orchestrate just soothes my soul . There’s just something about the energy you have it just feels like balance and wisdom, something I can feel comfortable with and trust. Thank you for taking the time to help the community we appreciate you.
My super narcissist and me super empath we were Clash of the Titans, I went super nova on him after I had enough of his crap
Omg!!!! That’s what I’ve done, a super empath... damn. Yep. I’ve done the same. He just wouldn’t stop. I had no choice. I didn’t want to I warned him.
You're an empath i can see it in you eye
Such a good video. I would add to this. As the super empath, and when we don't know who they are, we're reacting like an overt narc and really affecting them badly, to the point where they run, and yep we feel bad afterwards and they take advantage of that. But we analyse and analyse and figure it all out, and we put the pieces together .. and then we find peace in us and we end the relationship. But they don't stop, they threaten police, they smear us, they do all these things .. and we get a final 'booooom!!!' and for us it's over .. and we continue to put the pieces together because we're very good at putting ourselves in their shoes and seeing the smallest of detail and the big picture, and we learn their tricks. And so, what we do is, we start doing the mind games on them, responding covertly, just like the Brits and Americans did on the lead-up to D-Day in WWII, tricked the Germans into thinking we were going to land in one place and landing somewhere totally different, and we keep going and going, pushing forward, not letting them know what we're doing or what we know, and it torments them (not that we're trying to) and we've finally figured it out .. and THAT is when we become incredibly dangerous to them, their worst nightmare, when we 'get it' and stop reacting and start responding, and have become extremely unpredictable .. and they really fear us then, because there is no telling what we'll do .. but unlike them, at this point we actually do nothing, we just watch, we use patience, we block, we give nothing away, we record everything, we keep the police updated, and we simply just do not respond to any of their pokes or anything .. and they know not to confront us because they know we've become way too powerful for them and they just simply cannot compete because our way is so alien to them, but their way is very clear to us, because we're empaths, and they don't understand why we've stopped reacting .. and that drives them crazy!!
This was the BEST I've heard of all on this subject matter .. yes I am a super empath all the way . You explained my entire experience. Thank you .
Empaths are also biblically based. In the Bible it's called discernment. God gives the gift of discernment to be able to vet people out. I have the heightened gift of discernment/empathic ability. I can pick up a person's emotions or intentions the moment I walk in a room. I can tell what people are feeling without them saying a word. I can vet out a lie instantly. It's to the point that people who know me don't even try to lie, because they know I'll call them out. I also pick people up at a distance. Recently I got really emotional feeling I wanted to leave the Earth and go to heaven. It was so bad that all I could do was lay in a fetal position in the bed and not move. I called my cousin and she said maybe you are picking up someone. I thought maybe I was but I couldn't control the feeling. I didn't want to leave the house thinking I was going to die in a car accident or something. The next morning, the feeling was gone, I felt a relief. My phone rang, my Mother told me my grandfather died in the middle of the night in the nursing home...I told her I picked him up!! He truly was ready and wanted to go to heaven, and he was at peace. Lastly, Jesus was the best empath to ever live. He was able to discern anyone. By the way, I am a film writer/director...lol. And after dealing with my Narcissist, I've learned to say No and set boundaries. I say No very easily now, and I've learned to put my emotions and needs first. It took practice but I got it now. Red flags stop me in my tracks and I make a U-turn...I wish a Narcissist would try it with me now...I can spot them easily and I shut them ALL THE WAY DOWWWWNN!
Empaths operate out of emotions and feelings Jesus did not
He operated out of the prophetic
Go check out my mentor’s CZcams channel she explains the empath in detail from a Christian perspective she my pastor
Helen Saddler Destiny Helper
@@overcomingnarcissistabuse I agree with that too. However the Bible shows us Jesus also operates from emotion. When Mary cried because Lazarus died, Jesus felt their emotion and wept with them. He wasn't crying because it was prophetic, he wasn't crying because Lazarus died (he knew he could bring Lazurus back) he cried because he felt their pain. I love your channel by the way. I binge watch your videos.
Christel Gibson he cried because of their lack of faith he was coming to raise him from the dead so he wasn’t grieving
He had human emotions and had empathy but he was balanced he wasn’t an empath
@@overcomingnarcissistabuse We'll have to agree to disagree, there is alot of research and even reputable Pastors who have preached about his empathetic ability and discernment. But I do respect your professional assessment on the matter as well as Dr. Helen Handlers. I followed her a few days ago and have listened to a few of her videos after you suggested we do so. I think she's great as well.
There is much proof when people tell lies.....body language tone etc
In counseling I don’t just focus on what is being said I watch what is being said nonverbal communication helps a lot
There are extensive studies in body language/nonverbal communication used especially in the police force or forensic investigations
I agree with you Ms Linda Bermudez-Hafer
13 years abused by a narcissist. Just recently I have learned that I am a SUPER EMPATH. Your video helped a lot. Thank you
I'm glad that you did a video on this,I recently found out,by looking into myself and being honest with my mind and heart, that I was co-dependent. I fight every day to heal,I look at myself every day and tell the truth and get real,it is only when I did this was I able to see my part,and how I have to do things different or I will stay stuck. Today I focus on self love,I stay focus on me and love the woman looking back at me in the mirror. I'm a extremely loving person and always will be. I'm learning how to do things different, and better. I have a lot of support from my family, they all know the truth now and have nothing but love,my friends are very supportive. And did not know that I was in a narcissistic relationship, but God has giving me his grace and open my eyes to this sickness. And since that has happened, everything in my heart,and thoughts has changed. I'm better now and know what I have to do,knowing that I have a team of lawyers and other people who are ready to go all out. I'm ready!!! Very good video miss lady,your the best.
I’m glad that you were able to be honest even on a public forum I am so very proud of you Queen we are in this journey together
"where is the Super Empath??"...
He'll/she'll be the one in a wooded area hidden in plain sight....with his/her telescopic sight pointed directly at the narcissist's head......and he/she has been there for months waiting for the shot....then he/she will quietly pack up, leave...and head back to his/her normal life without so much as a word..well, maybe two words in his/her head..
..GAME OVER.
Thats me. And i just started training again too☺ whether or not to take the shot because it's so easy. In the meantime I'll be strolling in my camo talking to the forest animals
This makes soooooo much sense! When enough was enough with my ex husband and I hit that supernova point I had to ask myself was I a narcissist...this really enlightened me and answered soooo many of my questions in my head.
My super nova was bad on him. He will never forget me. And yes I do feel bad about it. Thank you I needed to hear this. Thank you so much he is scared of me lol wow
Yes that is exactly what happens, me being a super empath, went supernova several times and it is nasty fight, and yes I felt bad afterwards for my reactions. and that is why I kept asking myself, am I the narcissist, because of the supernova effect, I remember writing that on one of your posts before telling you about that, and here you are talking about it now and is so right on, I appreciate you as always and thank you.
Once you get supernova you will realize that takes a lot of energy.. The second time if you let yourself going supernova you probably kill him
The empath can become the narcsisist ........or the mirror ! Absolutely true !!!!! I have been through this for 8 years ....but I studied this well .....met their match !!! As you say .....you have to back off using intelligence once they've realised you have equaled their game !!!! And switch it up . It's quite shocking for the narcsisist when the empath is done ! They can't believe it !! They have seen themselves in the mirror ( after all that's what narcsisist dies isn't it .....sees their own reflection !!!! ) I've been through every stage of this ......!!! We know what they are thinking ......! ! Very well presented ....thank you .X
Battlship galactica exactly. I freak the hell out and become very reactive toward the narc.
Massive thanks to the narcissists of my life. You each lined up, one by one, and took the time to ensure I realised how much I actually like myself.
You gave me supernova strength which eventually morphed my worn out and sorry codependent self, into a wise witty and well prepared version of someone I now actually really like being. It's great!
Altruism, meet irony. Thank you both for coming, let's dance!
Good luck to you all xxx
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This explanation was amazing!.been living this exact situation for 23 years...i have gone supernova so.many times without still felt love for the demon..but not anymore..this supernova is awake ,aware and so much smarter..
You're so well studied and down to earth. I love it!!
I was raised around a family full of narcissists so needless to say I've always dealt with these types of relationship dynamics since I could remember. Fighting back is purely psychological. All narcissists are different, idc what anyone says but they have a personality even if it is a "mask" & they are all constantly searching for something! It is key to stay logical with them and never let them close to your emotions! They are such spiteful beings and will use anything you say against you. That's why they leave in you in disarray it's like a bookmark so they know exactly where to pick up when they hoover back. But there are so many types lol it's really not safe territory for someone who isn't used to it.
I wouldn't wish it on any one! But it is a blessing in disguise. Once your eyes are opened you can never go back.
Just a little reminder. The Supernova is when the Super Empath goes in Supernova mode... A "Supernova Empath" is not a class of empaths.
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Confused now
@@shaniecegullison Supernova would be state of action. Not a class of person. If you go supernova againt a narcissist... the person is not holding anything up and won't feel bad attacking the narcissist with all the weaponry the empath has got. Boom!
Nice thank you
@@Lekid23 I am just learning about this all tonight.amazing to learn.its like God wanted me to see this tonight to uderstand myself alot more
I went no contact. I dont won't deal with him every again in life.
Wow! What a powerful thought-provoking explanation! Thank you for your time and compassion, I soo appreciate very much.
The worst as a super empath is when youve moved on after youve told them about themselves over and over and then go NC but then a year and some later you feel them calling you, in your soul, deep down. Then it gets intense in your thoughts...Them CRAVING you, wanting your fuel. Its the worst, you really have to buckle up and remember who they are and brush up on vids and stay busy. Its hard out for here for super emphs! Stay blessed and prayed up yall! ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
He caused my depression and wouldn’t accept that I was sick, he thought I was trying to get attention but I was spirling downdown until I couldn’t get out of bed
🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽understood 😢😔😢
This explained a lot. Before he flipped on me, he had made comments like...you may be stronger than me, dont you ever get angry, you do that better than me...these were totally out of character. Now I realize where the comments came from. I shocked him by blessing him to the very end with my words. Then I did the no contact until I heard clues to small attitude changes. After that, I sent about 4 hard but caring letters, weeks apart, setting difficult boundaries, exposing his weaknesses but honoring the good. I am keeping a distance but loving him from that distance by praying for him and in the letters. Just this past week, after not talking to him in 9 months, 2 different people told me things about him that evidence he is taking my letters to heart. My point is that what is impossible with man is possible with God, only most people wouldnt survive it emotionally. I am able, like you said, to lay aside my emotions for the good of Gods truth. I will continue to pray and watch for the miracle! Thank you for the video.
@@juliaakajulznixon7235 Thank you for the heads up. It so happens he doesn't know these people and he doesn't know that I do.
Ana Kerner it will work, in time, but like you said, you have to be incredibly strong emotionally, and very close to God. Strength and patience is key. I dealt with a narc for a year before I realized what he was, which is a lot quicker than most of the comments I’m reading, but, I called him out for what he was, set my boundaries (which narcs do not respect) but gave him no choice but to respect them or move along. I kept him at a distance for about 6 months, all the while praying for him and keeping myself strong. I kept hearing from different ppl how he was working on himself, and he didn’t seem to be the same person. I eventually started conversing with him again, but not letting him forget the reason I stopped conversing with him to begin with. It took about a year in all, working on himself, me keeping busy with work and my kids, and we ended up back together. We’ve been married for 4 years now and he is a different man. He knew something was off with him, but he always thought he was bipolar. Once I explained to him the traits of a narc, he realized that was him, and he wanted to change for the better or he knew he would die miserable and alone. He told me what all narcs tell their partners, “you’re the best thing that ever happened to me”, but I believe him now..bc out of all the women before me, I’m the only one he actually changed for, for the better. It took so long for me to trust that what he was doing was real, and not the same old game..but that’s where the patience comes in, on his part as well, I can’t tell you how many times he asked me if I was ever going to trust him again, and my answer was always “you made me this way.” He’s been consistent for over 5 years now, so I do know they can change, but they have to realize and admit what they are..and it takes someone mentally and emotionally strong to point that out to get them to accept it. They will run all over a “push over”, and use them up, over and over again. You have to have a backbone, know your worth, then they will realize your worth as well, and they WILL change bc they don’t want to lose what they’ve never had. “Pushovers” come a dime a dozen to them. Once they meet their match, they settle down and wave the white flag. But believe me when I say, none of this is possible without God. 🙌🏽
@@janaj2748 Thank you so much for taking time to write this to me. I realize for a narc to change is a rare exception but you have a testimony that it can, rarely, happen and the conditions are rough. My former counselling as well as my strong faith in the God of the Bible enabled me to deflect the bad, nourish the broken child and watch incredible changes, as well as work on several faith projects together...things he had never done before. Your letter encourages me. Right now I have not seen my friend for 10 months but recently a man told me he has seen him at some mens group meetings and a pastor from my friends country told me my friend asked if he, the pastor, would come visit and stay with him even for a year. Both of these would not have happenned if I was with him because he only wanted me around. These also tell me he read a letter I had sent telling him if he ever wanted me back in his life he would have to be discipled by a man so he could mature in his faith. I am not saying he will be back in my life, but I care enough to keep praying for him and respect myself enough to keep a distance at this time. If I had not seen the changes I did in the time we were together, I would be long gone. Thank you again for writing your story to me. God bless!
Ana Kerner you’re so very welcome! And you hit the nail on the head when you said “broken child”, that’s exactly what they are! Or at least that’s what mine was! He had a rough childhood, and a not so great relationship with his mom growing up, a non existent relationship with his dad. It almost seemed as though he was stuck in his childhood and that horrible way of thinking no one could ever fully accept him, or be there for him through good and bad 100%. I showed him I was there, and not going anywhere, as long as he accepted his flaws and changed them for the better..and like you said, at the same time acknowledging the good, bc he did have some good, he was just terrified of getting close to anyone bc of his childhood, and that made him bitter, jealous hearted, and cold toward everyone. I thank God every single day for helping him, and me..bc it was definitely all God! My husband has even reconciled with his mom, and they are very close now. I hope all works out well for you and your friend, all things are possible through God. God is love my friend. ❤️❤️
@@janaj2748 Your story and replies mean a lot to me. I do realize most narcs dont change, for example both of my parents and my kids dad stayed stuck in their stuff...but with my friend I saw a difference as I never reacted but responded with Gods love. The anger left, he learned to laugh and even joke with me...he learned to have fun! Your story came at a time I needed encouragement that true change is possible, not for most but for the few that recognize and want it. And it is only by Gods grace...as I pray...If Gods love was great enough to bridge the gap between heaven and earth, His love as we demonstrate the tough but consistant 1 Cor 13 love, is greater than the grip of evil. We are his vessels of that love, and its not easy...I love Colossians 2:15 which tells us that the powers of darkness were stripped at the cross. Praise God! But it takes patience, hope, long suffering, kindness...overcoming evil with good, Gods good. We would not have the power or ability to walk this path apart from Him. God bless! 💖
Absolutely confidence building explanation! I needed this to continue healing. Good medicine for the heart and mind. Thank you.
Dr. Bryant.......ABSOLUTELY BRILLIANT......a giant welling of tears just poured down my face...you'll know why.
At the point of the narc's now-obvious discard of me, which arrived after HER swift raising of an Estate Agent's FOR SALE board sign(the company's name was YOUR MOVE), then arrived a legal letter from MY Solicitor which caused a swift reactive counter comment from the BANSHEE scream of the narc of "WHAT HAVE YOU DONE....what the hell have you done!!!!!!!!!!!", followed by a single gentle "SUPER NOVA BOOM!!" moment comment......
" I'M DIVORCING "YOU"......................................................................................................game over....YOUR MOVE!!!!!! "
No regrets.
Thank you for this video.....REALISATION and acceptance of it, helps us to make giant leaps forward with recovery. I kinda feel i want to hug you for this video Dr.Bryant....who knows, one fine day, eh...if you see a tear or two roll down my cheeks, i am aware you will get them.
TOTAL REGARDS TO ANY OF YOUR SUBSCRIBERS WHO HAVE SUFFERED THE BANE OF THE NARCISSISTS CONTACT.
What crazy Narc threw you away Dr. Carmen? Just pure craziness.
Dr. Carmen probably exploded like a supernova and got out! I cant see her getting thrown away! ☺
They don’t care about looks or intelligence just fuel
You can have one eye, 1/2 a leg and three teeth if you have fuel they take it
🤚🏽 both are very true 😉
@@overcomingnarcissistabuse Exactly....100!
Dr. Carmen Bryant - Overcoming narcissist abuse omg👍😆😆😆 Hilarious hahaha
Wow Thank you great video😃 I'm definitley a *Super* Empath💖 *Enough =Enough*
THANK YOU for this video! Hearing this was EXACTLY what I needed to help me get some closure with my cousin. And your level of confidence while speaking of this subject was really refreshing to encounter. Really healing. Perfect timing.
My cousin's a Greater Narcissist, and I'm a Super Empath; and she's been a huge bully and a pain to me my entire life, and I've just been taking the abuse for almost 30 years now. Broke ties with her several times in my life, but this last time was the ultimate end for me. Going super-nova describes it perfectly. Love the sun analogy. (And we've actually physically rammed heads together when we were younger, like sheep do; Almost like we were destined to collide. She always had a thicker head though, so she always won the headbutting contests.) It's such an amazing feeling to officially burn this bridge, and walk away from her for good this time.
I've encountered many abusive people in my life, but my cousin's always been the most passively consistent. Right after I firmly told her I was done for good, she kept trying to reel me in with a few dozen insults mixed in with one or two back-handed compliments; just to remind me how happy I'll be without her in my life.
Thank you for spreading a Positive Mental Attitude in the world. I certainly appreciate it, Dr. Carmen.
Dr Bryant im really blessed to have found your channel..in addition, im even more blessed that you shared information about Apostle Saddler the two of you are absolutely awsome.. *"DO GOOD WORKS!!"* ☺
Super empath here. Just responded! After many reactions! He is coming apart at the seems. He Can't sleep, feeling him just spinning in confusion. Pissed as hell because this was exactly what happend. I went intelligently narc on him. 4 1/2 years of constant abuse from him and we fought like you said, bashing heads like 2 rams. I wouldn't put up with it. So he ghosted and i blocked him. Much much more but i so get my behavior now and i thank you from my intact soul. Much love to you.
I had to do the same when calling out my ex NARC. I reflected all his behaviour back at him(mirroring) but it wrecked me because the behaviour was against my nature. The absolute relief every time he left the door and sense of impending doom every time he arrived was palpable. I threw him out 3 times but he intimidated me to let him back in. I finally got police to take him away once I had him for criminal damage and intimidation recorded when I dialled 999. But then the police had to report back to landlord that they responded to an incident and I was given my notice to quit.
@@phoenixkali probably a divine intervention getting you out of where you lived, go where he can't find you, nothing changes for the good with these people it jyst gets worse! Stay away so he doesn't hurt you as the abuse gets worse and worse. Find someone that deserves you and will love you with out condition! Know your worth girl ❤
@@kathleenstress I was gutted at the time because I loved my house, and he thought he won cos he knew how much that hurt me, but I moved 1000s of miles away and never publish my whereabouts on the net thru fb etc. Only my closest friends know a jist of where I am, so I had to start from scratch again. However I'm much more wary of guys who go all hot n heavy straight after meeting me. I just had one of those so I needed to remind myself hence being back on these pages.
Wow you are so spot on , that’s exactly what happened the last few years of the relationship, I honestly thought I was a narcissist for feeling smug when I caused him a narc injury thinking know you know how much it hurts and having no pity one minute than feeling mortified that I didn’t recognise this nasty person I had become and scared I was turning into him I started to gate people be so miserable and stressed then I got diagnosed with ptsd and googled it and discovered narcissist abuse and ticked every box and he ticked every box of a narcissist , I still can’t wrap my head around it now on medication and kicked him out our home 3 weeks ago he kept trying to come back but I just said no even though he owns half my home , I binged watched your videos and it gave me strength to fight also when I realised the damage he had done to me has problem effected our son too, we are both on waiting lists for therapy. Your videos really help so much , you explain things so well I feel like I can fix myself by just watching your videos because I feel stronger by the day I’m still struggling with feeling guilty for leaving him and kicking him out his own home but I just watch your videos and it reminds me I deserve better we all deserve better , all we did was love the wrong person a little to much , thank you for all you do x
Where the devil again walks right back into his own trap. When will he realize when Christ said it was "finished" that he wasn't playing. I believe that we are in the dispensation of cleansing the earth once again of these people. The fight is on.
This really helped me realize myself more. I am compassionate, yet vigilant and have no tolerance for people who abuse, like an archangel. I am now really taking my ability to see and sense seriously, I always tried to shy away from that ability, now I see clearly. And with more sensibility, I take what I detect seriously now and back off, vs. fight what I am detecting and trying to make a positive picture.
I’ve always described myself as a mirror and an amplifier. ( not proud of that ) so if I get 1 love I give 10 but if I get 1 hate I give ten ( consciously )
My other analogy was a speed boat and a skier, where when the boat changes direction slightly, I change direction much more.
The super empathy describes me and my last relationship perfectly
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I watched this out of order but again, really excellent. I love the way you explain this!
Yeeeeeeessssss. I am the SUPER NOVA!! WOW!! 😁😁😁😁😁 What you spoke about is me alllllllll day.. I'm here cracking on my truth. Thank you soooooo much. Love it!!👍👍👍👍👍💪💪💪💪
I followed a super empath and its the greatest decision Ive ever made that started my super healing and super comeback. :))
Jesus Christ! Thank you for all you do! Seriously, how did I miss this video? This is what I’ve needed, still going to therapy but this is the explanation I’ve needed!
The reason for my high anxiety. I am a magnet for narcissist, wonder why? Each super nova I went means a narcissist is out there like a wolf in the woods, watching.
I really am greatful for you and your mentor. I find you both are concentrating on healing and looking forward. I spent long looking back. There is nothing but pain there.
The delivery is incredible, these videos are saving lives, paramedic of a different kind. Simply, thank you!!
I've got a subject for you : narc and your cooking . my ex narc when I would make dinner its all he could do to tell me dinner was good . it was like I would have to almost begg for a complement . they love to starve you for a compliment how your dinner was . i would ask hows dinner ? i said thank you it was good he would say . then when he cooked out ribs on the grill , I would have to tell him 100 time oh hunny your the best at grilling . why do they do that ? they the narc acts like they have to be worshiped like a god . why do they need to be worshiped like that? thank you for another wonderful video!
THAT ANSWERS A LOT!! Thank you sooooo much for this! Keep up the good work; we need all the support and answers we can get. This narcissist stuff has grown EXPONENTIALLY over the last several years.
Wow, this describes my last relationship so well.. all this information is helping the healing process, so thank u for taking the time to make this!
I cannot say how much I needed this video! I have been tuned in to this idea of empaths and narcissists but just couldn’t swallow the whole idea of being psychic. This is the best most real breakdown I have ever come across
Dr; I think the reason this supernova phenomenon occurs is because the superempath has a very strong ego, not to be confused with a big ego of a narc.
Oh.. 😮 Homework time..!! 🔎🔬🤓
@@alwayslevitated9089 =)
Quickly after my Awakening and Ascension process the Weak Toxic Garbage I was dealing with is terrified to death of my Light and Super Spiritual Empathetic Powers. I actually manifested her to move 200 miles away because she could no longer handle my Light Energy Field without wetting herself. The rolls are now reversed! Sometimes I walk into a grocery store and I see dark energies quickly scatter in all directions as I walk down the aisles picking up my high vibration food source to enhance my gifts, it's actually quite amusing!!!
Awesome content, love the deep messages. Many blessings my friend!
I'm a INFJ/ HIGH LEVEL SUPER EMPATH, WHO IS AWARE. Thankyou. They've studied me for 4 years without knowing as an empath I've studied them more in-depth. They play chess, not checkers. I claim CHECKMATE.😁
I tolerated and survived over 60 years of narc abuse by my Narc Foo. I came out the other side late in life but SANE and strong. NC was difficult at first bc I left an entire family...But that was the only way to find me...the one I really am! I knew what they were...They got it back tenfold and I barely had to say anything...not a word...yet the brief brutal honesty few sentences from me destroyed them or just a look from me made them sink under the table. I said some select impact words and then left. I went NC! Thank You Dr. Carmen Bryant SO MUCH. God Bless You!
I’m so proud of you Queen
@@overcomingnarcissistabuse Stay well and happy, Dr. Carmen! Blessings to you always.
This was such a great and informative video. Thank you for this. I have traits from all three: co-dependent, empath and super-empath.. However most of my traits lie on the empathetic and super empathetic scale. Its strange to think that yes I can be very sensitive, empathetic and overly supportive (at times), and my heart is in the right place, however when I see that I am being taken advantaged of/used and abused, then I can and will flip the script 180 with no remorse of the effect it causes. In fact I enjoy the effect (perhaps a little too much) it causes especially when it is to teach a lesson.
Exactly me.i relate sooooo much.i found a "me" here lol😊
I am a super Empath, I figured out the Narc after 3 months and kept him around for another 3 months to torture him. Thank you doctor, I am subscribing to all these narcissistic abuse survivor channels, subscribed!
Hey!!! Great video This resonates with me so much and my Borderline Waif! I found out last year that I may be a Super Empath and knew that I wasn't a Narc! I did go Supernova on her too, giving her a major Narc injury and ensuring there was no way she could make her way back to me because she would. Glad that I am too! 26:15
Just learned something from you today. Thank you so much. Today..I found out that I'm a super empath. I thought I was just an empath but according to this video I'm a super empath. What in proud about I'd that I mostly have checked myself because I knew that I would hurt somebody and feel bad for it so I wouldn't say anything. I would just try to explain it away and go back to being an empath and take it on myself for having such thoughts and on the rare occasion actually explode. I realized my power and was always afraid to use it because I didn't want to be like the narcs I was surrounded by. I noticed, in my recovery, that I would also talk myself out of "standing up" for myself because I would also be gas lighted. They taught me to push myself down so much that I would even question my reality, but I always had this something in me that just wouldn't let me completely break. I now realize that was my empathy letting me know that what I was seeing was being backed up by a gift with feelings. Wow! What an empowering discovery. I do have a question....Can you give us tips on how not to explode? How do we respond vs react. For instance...I'm now in a relationship with a man who's mother is a covert narc. She always says things that make me feel like I have to defend myself. Like she's the authority on my life and I need her approval. She played on me in that way because who doesn't want their in laws to like them?She's also given compliments that sound more like accusations or make me feel like she actually saying " You're fake and I see through you." So I now know she's after the way I parent, my looks, and my personality. She says I'm articulate and basically not like a black person. I was so insulted. So now I'm to the point where I've been not going around her because I fear a super Nova meltdown....but I also feel that this has been her point so she can smear campaign me behind my back with ACTUAL and TRUE facts. I'm also in an interracial relationship so I've observed that's her game. They're all slightly racist, but they hide it and have enough sense to be cordial. Like innocent until proven guilty. His family have all been SUPER nice but that empathy right? I feel it and I see it. Especially the way they give me compliments they seem surprised but happy. Not accusatory like her. So I feel she's setting me up to explode and also play on the family's bigotry and racism to gain flying monkeys as well as make me feel alone and defeated. There's so much there...but yeah I know she's trying to make that "ghetto" come out of me. Please help🙏🏿
I want to feel like I'm a supernova but when I snapped for years I just straight up acted like a lesser narcissist 😔
I did that at first. Reactionary. .. you get control of your emotions and it becomes a different game.
Oh Dear Dr. Carmen Bryant, you are describing my battle right now. For a long time I didn’t know if I was codependent or an empath. I even thought I was a narcissist but I am actually a super empath Inflicting pain to a low level narcissist. Because I didn’t set any boundaries I got burnt again and again, this third time and I am discarding him after he Hoovered over me, got me to co parent, got me to drop charges and now...Oh lord...order of protections everywhere to protect me and my child and I am working on an financial exit. I am in super nova mode. I have battled with him for 6 years. He is the aging narc. Everyone who knows me has seen the change in my light due to narc abuse. He threw a temper tantrum when I was talking abo it growing our family with a business and I too threw a tantrum of guilt trip and calling out of his behavior. I lost it for the last time and my war is over. I have to not react like David did to Saul. I lost my mom at 8 and I lost my last living guarding 2 weeks after birth from this narc and he blamed my depression over these events as the reason for our arguments. I was in therapy before him but being under diagnosed I never had a chance to block a Narc. I need help. I can’t find a therapist that understands narc abuse and trauma. This video is giving me so much clarity...bless you and your work on this topic...I’m truly grateful to you...I hope you see this comment, I would love to talk to you
You just changed my life
That’s exactly what’s happening to me right now I went thru 17 years of narcissistic abuse and I’ve had enough
Hi it's April 24 and I just went Super Nova today. I'm an Aquarius trying to make a Taurus man except me for who I am. I allowed our brief friendship time to turn into a sexual relationship that did not really fulfill my emotional needs to be truly wanted and needed. His behavior outside the bedroom was very ratchet and disrespectful. I reached my limit today when I found out that he had blocked my messages to him. He started to pick and choose when he would respond simple just caring text. High self-esteem has become a wreck I have to function in the world with clarity and focus. He had become a toxic human to me. And the only attention we gave each other was sexual. I would fix vegan meals for him stroke his ego with kind words and diffuse any hint of an argument and nothing worked. So I blocked him today from facebook. It was hard and I don't know what tomorrow will bring. I stumbled on to your site and now I know why. The information you gave was what I needed. Thank you.
It's been several weeks now since I sent this first post. He is still floating around in my head but I block him out. He sent me a mother's day greeting and I did not acknowledged it. Blocking him from Facebook is not enough so I took his phone # from my contact list. Because of my social commitments I know I will run into him again someday but as I rebuild my self-esteem I have no intentions of going back into that crowd that he came out of. Being passed the age of turtledoving I never believed
that you could be fooled by a unconscionable and self-absorbed person. I will never compromise my dignity and self-respect for a slice of a relationship with another human being again.😊
Denise A Brown 🙌🏼👍🏼 Don’t look back! Silence is golden, give him NOTHING! I’m 3 yrs out of that demented crowd! Just now feeling peace again.😇🙏🏼😌
@@icgreener Thanks for those true words of encouragement. I'm getting back to my strong self again.
Thank you so much. This is me. I have heard this before. I am taking all this information in. Many blessings to you.😊💖💕
Wow!!! This happened at the end of my relationship, and I was dating a covert narcissist and he thought I was so mean when we parted ways. I had watched the sneaky behaviors, manipulative tactics, attempts at punishment the whole relationship...but when he started pressuring me for commitment as if he had been totally faithful to me, I just snapped and cut him off. Went straight cold and non responsive and didn’t care. I didn’t think I had it in me to do that and to be honest it scared me. I was so cool calm and collected, he went off on me at work and got fired because he was so upset he couldn’t get to me. You described this perfectly and I didn’t get it at all, but a light bulb came on as you talked. Thank you for this breakdown!
Thank you! I am so glad to have found you. I have endured 20 years of narcissistic abuse. I feel like I am the one who is stopping a long lineage of abuse. It's been difficult. Often times I simply seek out a hug. Someone to say, it will pass. I have a strong heart known vision, so I can clearly see they are a distraction from my mission.
I send a hug and it takes time but it will pass as you work toward your goal
This tribe loves you, honors and supports you
You have given such a great explaination.Iam a super nova .Im not bragging its one of the few things I have going for me .I was with The narc in my life for 10 before the mask came off .At some point I figured out a lot of what he had been doing and he was terrorizing me .I am able to take a lot of pain .I think it's because I know who I am and my worth .But I let that freak have it .We went round after round he was do frustrated he tripped his self up .I had no idea what was really happening .but I watched a lot of utube videos. And I had God and my divine protectors
The ole narc had me pretty far down but I didnt show it .End the end I got the money and disappeared.If he finds me I have an awesome plan be he won't see coming .it involves the law which he has destroyed his reputation with .I didn't want this fight .I didn't deserve it . And I do not feel at all bad for that thing .I do not think it is a human .I know it has not got a soul .Funny thing is I don't think he has ever dealt with a super much less one with the knowledge I learned for utube also my trust in God .and my ability to spend days on end alone .He f....ed with the wrong person . and I warned the fool many times but he just kept coming .I know I sound like I'm bragging but that's ok .I needed a place to tell myself how proud I am of surviving all this .I am messed up and will be for a long time that thing did a lot of sick and cruel things to me .I am changed forever I'm not the carefree fun happy easy going and trusting person I was .but that's ok .I trust God had a reason .I worry about other people this thing is feeding on .They are the most vulnerable and shunned people in our society at this time . Im afraid he will drive them to suicide .I got to trust that God is there for them to .Thanks for this opportunity to let my feeling out.God Bless us all . The Meek will inherit the earth
Traci Hill, 👋 I can really identify with what you said!😊 God pulled me from the pit too!
This is what happened last week. After 17 years I just switched. I decided peacefully (without thinkingtoo much) that I no longer pledge allegiance to the narcissist/sociopath or to the dynamic. I turned my body physically as it happened and I literally felt energy leave my body. My muscles and joints kind of twitched and then relaxed. It was a bit scary but completely peaceful and natural. I have not been the same since. I ended it immediately with ease. It was a grace.
I forgive him entirely. I hold nothing against him. It’s not that I think it was okay. It also impossible for it to ever happen again now, so it’s not out of hope or delusion. It’s just that I can see why he is that way and I hope for him that he can uncover the true self. I want that for him but I now feel no responsibility or urgency or anxiety to try and fix it. It’s his journey alone. I’m a new woman. He can’t affect me anymore. There is no more bondage to the dynamic.
There will be times that I feel anger or I get angry that I hid my intuition and overlooked the signs. I played dumb to him and part of me wants him to know that I saw everything. I just turned a blind eye and fooled myself. I had the chance to expose him to himself once i was released from it. I started to go down this path but then it felt wrong. I did not want to destroy his ego because it would have been too much and it had the potential to drive a deeper separation between his true self and his ego. It could have put him further into denial. I do not think that shame and exposure always work. It could have been the very thing that caused the personality disorder in the first place. I did tell him that I was no longer stuck in our dynamic and that it was unhealthy and alluded to the tactics and that if he wanted to look at himself he could. He will know what I am talking about. I then addressed his true self in as much compassion as I could. It is his journey now.
But other than my ego wanting him to know that I was not stupid, I am released and just want the best for him. But never will the dynamic ever ever work again. It’s impossible now.
Thanks for video xxx
I did speak too soon tho!! Now it’s the journey of flip flopping between stuck and unstuck. I think the healing might be harder than I thought. I had a momentary realisation but I still have a lot of emotions and thoughts to work thru. It really is like coming out of a cult. Damn this is hard. Confusing.
Miss A 😂🤣😂 Straight up! I did enjoy reading your comment. Peace, everything gonna be alright😌
Cathy Greenia 😆 Thank u! Xx
Lol that’s me! I was labelled as “too extreme” but equitable so many times in my life. Even my mom says that she really likes that when I say “It’s over”, I never look back and never forgive nor forget. Nevertheless I feel exhausted from these battles and at some point I became desperate that all of my life I will deal with such awful people. I thought I am cursed. That was until I found out about narcissism and in the same time I didn’t fit well at all in codependency. I thought I am the abuser at some point too because I fought back every time when enough is enough. Thank you for the accurate explanation. It helped me a lot to answer many of my doubts and questions.
Stay strong girl be in your peace and you'll be right... Unfortunately there are a lot of nasty unempathic souls out there we just have to find the diamonds x
mila boeva what you said describes me to a T. I always thought something was wrong with me, bc out of everyone in my circle, family, friends, etc., I was always the girl who never looked back. Once you show me who you are, I’m done. I’ve been in several relationships in the past and all it took was one time, I’m not the break up to make up type girl. Everyone around me always go back to their ex, back and forth, back and forth, not me..I’ve never been in a relationship with the same person twice. You get one chance to make it right, after that I wake up with no feelings what so ever, like the person never existed. So now I finally realize I’m not the problem, I’m just not great at tolerating bull sh*t lol.
I am definitely a super empath. Love it!!