Don’t Let the Media Manipulate You
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- In this week’s ASK ME ANYTHING, Ryan Michler and Kipp Sorensen take on your questions from the Iron Council and Order of Man Facebook Group. Hit Ryan up on Instagram at @ryanmichler and share what’s working in your life.
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SHOW HIGHLIGHTS
(0:00) Episode Intro
(21:12) In a relationship, when is it time to decide that enough is enough?
(24:05) What is your full hunting setup, and lessons learned on this journey?
(27:55) What’s the best advice you can give a man after having an awkward interaction with an ex?
(31:56) What are your methods for developing patience?
(37:10) Recovery update
(39:05) What would you say to a man who hasn’t hit rock bottom yet, but avoided it in a way?
(47:56) What is the hardest quadrant to remain consistent in for you on the battle plan, and what tactics can we deploy to shift out of that mindset?
(50:35) What are some strategies on being calm when doing something new?
(55:40) What are some practical ideas or resources to move past the fear of losing security and becoming more of a sovereign man?
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Good stuff about owning our failures. Love you guys!!
This is great he actually knows Fight Club
First rule......
In the words of the Hodgetwins. "That hat is looking clean"
Revolt against the media
Fellow men, I could really use your advice ... Please hear me out:
About 6 months ago I (32) started dating this girl (29) from church. We hit it off on our first date and I can honestly say that I've never met a girl before who likes me as much as she does. She's a traditional woman who treats me with love and respect and we complement each other very well. She's very comfortable with her femininity and allows me to be the man in the relationship. Our worldviews are alike and we have similar wishes for the future.
It all sounds great, but there is one major issue: she has a two year old daughter from a previous marriage whom she refuses to raise properly. I know the age of two is a very tough age, even more so when you're a single mother, but unfortunately she is of the opinion that any form of corrective parenting is potentially traumatising to her child. As a result, she never corrects or punishes her child and the kid has already become a little tyrant at home who gets everything she wants, because she throws a temper tantrum as soon as she hears the word "no". She yells at her mother, tears the house apart, breaks or vandalises the furniture, refuses to go to bed before 10pm, she even pees and poops on the living room floor and then yells at her mom to clean it up - it's that bad.
Now, she's a single mother working 4-5 days a week, her mom isn't present, nor is her previous husband, and when she's at work her 70 year old father (who is ill) watches over her daughter, so I understand that she's in a difficult situation. Because of that, for the past 6 months I've tried giving advice, planting seeds, and helping out whenever I could, but there is very little progress and my patience is starting to run out.
What bothers me the most is that she simply doesn't see how this isn't right, or normal, and believes that it's all just her daughter's personality. She thinks her daughter is just "hyperactive" and will eventually grow out of it, and is proud that her daughter is already capable of "sticking up for herself and defending her wants and desires", as she deems those to be good qualities to have later in life. She has also already mentioned that I'm being too strict whenever I correct her daughter (for instance when she smears her toothpaste all over the glass door when it's time to brush her teeth) and is afraid that it will make her daughter fear me and men in general. Though, at the same time, she is willing to listen to me and try out my advice which, in some cases, has led to some minor improvements.
My dad always was a very strict disciplinarian, so I'm willing to admit that maybe I can be too strict at times, but the fact that our parenting philosophies are so far apart has me worried for the future. With things the way they are right now, I wouldn't want to marry her and have a child of our own, because it will inevitably lead to serious issues between us. I don't exaggerate when I say that these past six months have been very stressful for me and have been the cause for many a sleepless night. The only reason why I'm still hanging on is because the two of us get on so well and I'm convinced that she would make a very good, loving wife.
So, what are my options here? I'm not expecting her to fully come my way, because I realise that, as parents, you're never completely on the same wavelength, but is it reasonable for me to expect her to change enough so that we can eventually find a workable middle ground? Can I take a step back and see how things progress for a couple more months? Or am I beating a dead horse here and would it be best for the both of us to go our separate ways? I apologise for the long comment, but I could really use someone else's perspective on the matter, because I've been trying for too long to work it out in my own head to the point where I'm not seeing things clearly anymore.
Thanks guys, I would really appreciate some feedback
From an elder with similar experience. Do not walk away from this situation. Run. It will never correct. You can't correct someone else's mess. Only the creator can.
If you decide to stay, perhaps you and the woman you're dating should seek counsel with someone at your church. Perhaps a trusted married couple. Common ground will be needed. While she's not wrong that a strong daughter, that stands up for herself and others is great, in this context not so much.
Gentlemen, very good topic today, definitely good to simplify, take time to check details and be intentional!
Oh and free speech is under major attack, in Canada it’s really getting bad, makes me sad my country is being ruined before my eyes, and most people i preach it too don’t seem to care or believe it, i fear the west is in for a baaaad day soon.