The Harsh Reality of Being A Single Dad
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- čas přidán 8. 09. 2024
- Being a single dad ain't no walk in the park.
Everything is stripped away from you - kids, partner and possibly your job.
Where does that leave you? Who are you without those things?
A big salute to the father’s raising children on their own . I give credit to where it’s due. I use to go to school with a girl who’s father raised her on his own he was a great man to her . I never heard her speak of her my mom it was always “ my dad “ . Coming from a two parent home I never understood the single parent thing until now . I’m a single parent of two young toddlers no it’s not a easy thing and single mothers do get a lot of praise but I’m here to tell all of the men raising their kids single or married you all are really kings and continue to claim your thorn God bless .
My salute to you too single mama! I'm a single dad and never understood how tough it is to having no identity other than that of a caregiver, but it's rewarding at tue end of the day
God Bless you and your glorious kids
Thank for this u inspire me girl
I'm gonna be one soon... I'm really scared
That’s deep, I’m going through custody process I’m currently in temporary custody of my toddler he’s been with me full time for a month already and is tough sometimes, I’m just glad I know how to take care of him since he was born his mother showed me how to take care of him
I made mistakes and my daughters mother kidnapped her away. For 10 years I spent everyday living for the hope I would get the chance to have her in my life again. Becoming the best version of myself I could for her. And, now I am taking over full custody after having primary custody for a year. Don't ever give up hope!
This made me cry. My boy was 5 when his mother left us, now he is 12. Its 7 yrs of living in emergency mode for me, i just hope and pray that all the beautiful kids of this world be safe and happy, there is nothing more precious than them
Yo Soy madre soltera mi hija tiene 10 años la tuve muy joven ya me establecí tengo mi profesión mi trabajo y oro a Dios encontrar a un hombre padre soltero que cuide solo a sus hijos ..
How did you overcome
@@TcTc-ly6dcyou never could just a black hole
@vdd9322 I can relate same situation it sucks but these babies didn't ask to be here so it's our responsibility to take care of them
Hey
Are things better ?
Please update
I can only hope you’ve reunited
I'm a proud single dad and my kid is always with me.Thank God!
Same here, but it's hard sometimes to raise a son by myself ... ❤
It’s tough as a single dad but there is a way through, I promise. I talk about my own struggles on my channel if you think it’ll help you. Keep your head up and keep fighting. 🤝
ME TOO BRUTHA ! THANK GOD IS RIGHT AMEN!
my 22 yr old son is raising his 19 mo. the mom is gone away. he has full support from his parents but we all work, so he takes her to sitter goes to wrk, picks her up after n cares for her, puts her to bed n does this 5 days a week, on weekends he has no sitter so he doesnt go out w friends, he has none! he keeps her all weekend. so he is mom n dad both. He is doing an amazing job n i could not be more proud of him. but he does get down sometimes, so please pray for him. He is just the best 22 yr old mom n dad ever!! n his baby girl loves her dada!!!
Thank you for being there for your son. He may not speak much on how he feels pained. But having family support helps a single father a lot. I never had family support. God bless this family.
My wife died. The reality is this for me is a better situation than seeing my kids being introduced to daddy number 2. I am right here.
God bless you hun have a read of Psalms 34:18. Come to Jesus. may this message be your hope that he has sent me to you to tell you this message, come to church this Sunday with us we will pray for you to receive deliverance. God bless you. You’re so fortunate. Come and receive the goodness the Lord has for you🤍
My daughter is 6 and I have been a single dad for 4 years now. I have half custody and my ex and and I don't see eye to eye on anything. Her house is do whatever you want, go to bed late, eat junk food and my house is structured and focused on development. Needless to say, my daughter prefers her mom's house. Aside from that, the toughest thing I work through is my own self identity . My life revolves around my daughter and providing for her. I don't even find pleasure in things I use to be attracted to, like traveling and dating, sports, etc. When I don't have my daughter I come home, sit down and don't know what to do with myself and most of the time I just go work. Your video really resonated with me on several points.
Wow, that's powerful. Please reach out to a qualified therapist, because it's concerning that you don't find any joy in the hobbies that you used to. While your daughter, a child, sees the world through a child's eyes, it is not in her best interests to run the roost and do what she wants at her mother's house. While your situation being at odds with your child's mother over everything is deeply aggravating, you are doing the right thing by setting common sense boundaries and a healthy structure.
Sometimes they think you don’t love them because you look out for them and don’t give them their way. But in reality those who discipline their kids are the ones who really love them
Hey Matthew, I am in exactly the same situation, except her mother neglects any sort of attention or any type of love towards my daughter, I have to be the mother and father, and I know exactly what you are talking about, I just need to let you know that your comment alongside this video gives me so much motivation, and I wish I had friends like you to identify with, you are awesome man
My ex is like that. Her house is like guys do whatever u like, eat pizza abd hotdogs from the fridge, they are all over place. So the week I have them is like hell because I have to start again everything from scratch. Why are women like that?
Here is a bit of advice I hope will be helpful to you
Basics of fathering
1. Tell and show your daughter you love her in a way she understands. That there is a special place in your heart that belongs to her and her alone and no matter what you will be there when she need you.
2. Be honest with her in a gentle manner
3. Let her be honest with you. You are a human being and you will make mistakes. When she does have the courage to tell you what you did wrong how you respond will set an example for how she will approach her problems in the future, with things she knows will probably disappoint you. It’s important she knows you are someone she can confide in when she has such problems.
Now here is some advice on how you can help yourself grow
1. Go to a therapist, psychiatrist, or psychologist despite all the stereotypes said around these professions they are very helpful and make life more understandable
2. Ask yourself what do you want out of life? What are the things or activities that would make you happy?
3. Make good and dependable friends.
4. Be sure to self conscious and self aware of your actions and don’t be ashamed or forget to validate yourself on the good things you’ve accomplished and have done.
I hope this advice helped
I did it for 5 years with a 7 year old and a 15 year old , both daughters . It was a hard time ! I had full custody
I’m a single dad but I couldn’t feel less like a dad. My daughter was born last October and the mom and I were never together, more or less a one night stand. She’s keeping me from my daughter every way she can and it’s been well over half a year since I’ve seen my daughter. I’m going through the legal process now of trying to get into her life and it’s honestly taking it’s toll. I have no one to vent to about it that truly understands because my parents were together the majority of my life. And while I feel I know what I like and who I am without her it’s the fact I don’t know the person I can be with my daughter. I feel like I’m missing her grow up and time is flying. Just needed a vent. Don’t know how else to get it out
Feel free to hmu brother if you need a friend
I don’t know if your a praying man but if you truly want to be her dad , you will be … it takes time …
Trust this, the mother may not want you right now but your kid will want you soon enough ….
No kid in this world doesn’t want to be with their father who shows he loves them …..
A mother can’t take that away, even if she’s trying to for now
This will change over time
Fight your best legally to get some visitation, even if supervised given the babies age
Once you have supervised visitation, you can get more time as your kid gets older
This isn’t a sprint , it’s a marathon
You don’t know what tomorrow may bring
Stay close as you can and pray for it to happen
It will at the right time
Until then work and have a good life and be a strong man !
The world needs them and your kid will need you too
She’s a narcissist. Does the mother try to reach out to you? Most of the time it’s for a reason. If you can get her served a subpoena then you can get your kid in most states. The hard part is finding out where she lives. Sometimes a private investigator can do it. Just make sure you have a process server that can serve her.
You’re a single dad without the child?
Hey man how’s it going now? I’m in your situation now that you were in two years ago lol.
I have so much respect to single dad's , my dad has been one for 10 years of my oldest sister. Then he met my mum who put my other sister and me on the world . However she constantly went on 'vacation' fooled around and didn't even want us. My dad taught me even all the girl stuff I needed to know and used to brush my hair . My mum had a hairdresser cut it all off . Because of her I wore ridiculous clothes on one school photo and bullying got worse.
Dad was furious and so he chose and bought us clothing instead.
Single fathers and those with an emotionally abusive spouse are in my eyes God given .. they're always there when you need a hug and someone to talk to.
Sending much love to every single one of you guys.
That's nice to hear. It's nice to see a comment section where single father's aren't shit on.
which means your dad as t o wives??
Sounds like ur mom didn’t really care for u at all but at least u have ur dad
Sort of going through this minus a couple differences. Luckily for me I have my beautiful daughter in my life fulltime as her mother passed in October 2020 due to drug addiction. Everything this man has said rings true minus the situation of losing children in a custody battle. Stay strong dads , our children need us in their lives no matter what. Dont let you other ex rule your life as well as your children's. Do the right thing and the truth shall prevail. Sending good vibes to any single father watching this today , feeling lost and uncertain of the future!
Thank you
Sorry, bro!
Sorry to hear that
Thanks guys. Just had our daughters first birthday without Natalie. So strange , 18th of October is coming up fast and that's 1 year already. Stay strong guys !
Hang in there brother! God bless you!
Being a single father of a girl child is tough. Been 5 years now and don't know how many its gonna to be.
Sometimes it's the best feeling and on the other hand - "Why Me?"
I haven't lost hope but don't know how long I will be able to pull this off...
🙏
Kudos bro GOD will strengthen you and soon you will realize it was not invain to sacrifice for her hugs
Be strong man be the best dad u can be to ur daughter
My dad takes care of me and he dealt with a lot of stuff. I have 5 siblings in total, but only me, my younger sister and older brother live with my dad. Love my dad so much. I try to stay in contact with my mom bc everyday isn't promised.
@@LOVEDBYGOD15 bless you.. 💕💕💕
Just a reminder: there's a big difference between a single father who is raising his children full time, and a dad who only has his kids on the weekend and just happens to be single.
As a 21-year-old single dad, this hit home. I see him 2 days a week and constantly feel like it's not good enough and that I'm not good enough. I feel like a failure so even when he is here I spend my days in a depressed state
Man I know is tough I’m in the same situation just think of how better your son’s life will be without drama, I left my own house to avoid conflict with his mom and she would use him as bait for me to come back to her, im in the process of custody and is very tough luckily I’ve had my son for a month now until next court date, but just keep your head up and think positive now you can enjoy your son more those 2 days try to plan fun stuff to do with him while you have him he’ll thank you later in life
Yer man I feel you. It’s not your fault. I don’t have the answers though, I’m in the same situation, tough break. Your not alone
You're there for him, good luck.
Broke up with the mother of son today. I needed to hear this
It’s tough as a single dad but there is a way through, I promise. I talk about my own struggles on my channel if you think it’ll help you. Keep your head up and keep fighting. 🤝
God bless you hun have a read of Psalms 34:18. Come to Jesus. may this message be your hope that he has sent me to you to tell you this message, come to church this Sunday with us we will pray for you to receive deliverance. God bless you. You’re so fortunate. Come and receive the goodness the Lord has for you🤍
I’m going through the same thing brother!! I’m trying to take the leap the best I can!! I have soul custody of my “irish twins” boy and girl for three years now!! They are 5 and 6! It’s so mentally hard! But then again so rewarding!! Which I knew you bud!!
God bless you hun have a read of Psalms 34:18. Come to Jesus. may this message be your hope that he has sent me to you to tell you this message, come to church this Sunday with us we will pray for you to receive deliverance. God bless you. You’re so fortunate. Come and receive the goodness the Lord has for you🤍
Made me tear up instantly.. exactly me right now..
*hugs you*
Same brother
Hope it got better man. Currently going through it rn
God bless you hun have a read of Psalms 34:18. Come to Jesus. may this message be your hope that he has sent me to you to tell you this message, come to church this Sunday with us we will pray for you to receive deliverance. God bless you. You’re so fortunate. Come and receive the goodness the Lord has for you🤍
I have listened to your video over and over again for hours now because it’s hit me so hard! The first 30 seconds actually made me break down because it’s exactly how I feel! This video is exactly how I’ve been feeling and what I’ve been going through for the past year and a half!
instablaster.
Glad you connected so deeply brother.
I feel like this every day. My twins are only 4 years old. Every time they leave to go home with Mom, I feel so empty. Nothing fulfills me anymore. I'm simply going through the motions of life and everything means nothing. My greatest sadness is that I'll never be able to replace my time away from them, not being able to come home and embracing them. My heart is so broken.
God bless you hun have a read of Psalms 34:18. Come to Jesus. may this message be your hope that he has sent me to you to tell you this message, come to church this Sunday with us we will pray for you to receive deliverance. God bless you. You’re so fortunate. Come and receive the goodness the Lord has for you🤍
Started the single dad last week. I’ve been feeling all of this.
sorry to hear that! But congrats on the new journey. I've a few questions, is this because of a divorce? are you a surrogate? are you gay or straight? how many kids? I am planning to be a single parent as well. I will appreciate you helping me understand your situation
Keep it up
My prayers for you... I have started since Oct 2020.....
May Almighty bless us all..
No one wants this to work for me...everyone liked her more than me, baby sitter cost more than I make. I have to give up custody...and it might kill me. My kids are my life.
I started this 2 months ago also it's the hardest thing I've had to go through
This is a space for single dads. Huge props to you all for doing it every day. Remember to take time for yourself if you can
Thank you 💕
If you’re here , you’re a strong and hard working father💪remember that brother
I’m going through this with a spouse who was unfaithful. While I’m trying to cope with not seeing my son who I consider to me my world she is telling lies about me to family and friends who unfortunately believe her without asking me anything. She is making me out like I am a bad father and I don’t tell anyone the truth about her because I don’t want to put my 6 year old son in any stressful situations. I’m struggling hard with only seeing him for a night a week while she , The lier , the cheater , the evil gets to have all these memories with him . I’m lost! 🤦🏻♂️
You're not alone man. Very similar situation here, and the financial burden is so over whelming, you feel lost in the depth of darkness, hopefully there is some light after all the deception and hate.
God bless you hun have a read of Psalms 34:18. Come to Jesus. may this message be your hope that he has sent me to you to tell you this message, come to church this Sunday with us we will pray for you to receive deliverance. God bless you. You’re so fortunate. Come and receive the goodness the Lord has for you🤍
Shit.. im in a toxic broken marriage trying to prepare to walk away and this is making me even more empty.
You got this, lean on God if you believe in Him or try some meditation and working out. Boxing helps. You got this.
I feel your pain man
Just walk..... if your hearts not in it your children will see you happy in the end. Be there for them and accept it hasn’t worked. Took me 3years to realise that, I wish you well my friend. 🙏🏻
@Big B mate take it one step at a time. Do you have an AVO to protect yourself and children? If you engage with DOCS or Brighter Futures and can show you've protected your children, you stand a greater chance of gaining custody. Children witnessing abuse are at serious risk of harm. You need to demonstrate you've tried to protect them and you're willing to take them out of a dangerous situation.
I'm lucky to have the support of my parents. Her spitting at my face and withdrawing financial support for the daycare was the last straw for me. She no longer contributes anything to the home and bills.
Seek good legal advice. If you have property make the initial consult easier by getting a few market appraisals first. I'm in that process and quietly getting ready to engage the services of a lawyer to understand my financial position, likelihood of custody, what visitation looks like etc.
The scariest thing for me is thinking I won't be with my son everyday. But because she has a history of violence, I think I stand a high chance of gaining custody. I have the reports from my time engaging with Brighter Futures and the steps I undertook to bring my son to safety in the past. I think one of the saddest things is trying to come to terms with your child growing up between 2 homes. As they have a right to know both parents.
God bless you hun have a read of Psalms 34:18. Come to Jesus. may this message be your hope that he has sent me to you to tell you this message, come to church this Sunday with us we will pray for you to receive deliverance. God bless you. You’re so fortunate. Come and receive the goodness the Lord has for you🤍
You adjust to it. I was a single dad then the mom came back and the court gave her a couple of overnights. I do fine being single dad of 2 children. It's not that hard.
Went thrue everything you just talked about. I regained full custody of my precious daughter 2 days ago. We live in a world where the loser can win and the winner can lose so badly. Dont ever give up hope.
God bless you hun have a read of Psalms 34:18. Come to Jesus. may this message be your hope that he has sent me to you to tell you this message, come to church this Sunday with us we will pray for you to receive deliverance. God bless you. You’re so fortunate. Come and receive the goodness the Lord has for you🤍
You stay strong and be MEN brothers. You carry that damn burden....no matter how hard or unfair.
Why?
Your kids will carry it if you won't. They will blame themselves and hate themselves. The system is garbage yes, and unfair...but your sons and daughters, they are caught in the trap....often a helpless trap that ignores their quiet little voices. Do all you can to help them.
Don't worry about your ex-wife. Yep, she moved on (they ALL do with little to no consequence), she is irrelevant.
It's the kids. THEY didn't want you to go...THEY don't understand why mommy is trying to replace you. They have no clue why they can't can't see you....it's her.
It's not their fault...do what you can kings. Just DON'T GIVE UP.
Needed this thanks brother
@@calebmalique3672 You got this brother.
Hey man thanks for this, this made my day and gave me the fuel to keep going 💯
are you single or widower??????
@@smith3568 full-time single father of three....mother lost custody (her doing) and disappeared from their lives.
I’m a single dad of five kids trying to sort out the mess of a situation after divorce. I’ve got sole custody of them and I have had to take time off work to take care of them. I’ve managed to make a bunch of progress, climbing 30 K out of debt, no longer having to visit the food bank after we were financially devastated. The difficult thing is trying to get back into a routine that works, trying to get back to work and figure out a way to take care of the little ones when I can’t be home for them.
It’s difficult to because I find as a man you get very little sympathy. Most people are like well you know it’s your fault for choosing her. I’ve had to deal with the pain of the person I once loved and thought I knew turned out only to be a façade of who she really was.
Life is better now, and we are getting back on track however the logistics of trying to maintain work and caring for the kids all at the same time is Massive.
God bless you hun have a read of Psalms 34:18. Come to Jesus. may this message be your hope that he has sent me to you to tell you this message, come to church this Sunday with us we will pray for you to receive deliverance. God bless you. You’re so fortunate. Come and receive the goodness the Lord has for you🤍.
My wife of 16 years and 48 days officially divorced me on July 20th. I’ve been on my own for about 3 weeks now. I did not want the divorce. I did not cheat but I did not love her as good as I should have. I had depression up until 2 years ago when she filed on me. She would cry asking me to get help and it never registered in my brain. Not until something drastic changed my life. I hate myself for it everyday and feel sad even when I have my girls with me. I can’t stop thinking of my ex wife. Crazy thing is, is that the last months together we finally got our marriage right. We were showing love and respect and putting the other first. It was all so natural. So much so that she wasn’t sure she wanted me to move out. Now that I’m out she is more standoffish. She says she is happy. I know I’m not. And not sure if and when I will be. I’m mentally exhausted by the end of the day and the pain is so bad. I would not wish this on anyone. Trying to stay strong but I question myself sometimes on how long I can maintain this. Just keep trying to be the best dad for my girls and remind myself it will be worse for them if I was not here.
It’s tough as a single dad but there is a way through, I promise. I talk about my own struggles on my channel if you think it’ll help you. Keep your head up and keep fighting. 🤝
I hope you have made some progress over the last couple months. Tomorrow is always a brighter day!!
Wowwww.. Jeeze, You spoke such absolute truth, awareness - almost as though you were telling my own very story.. Very much appreciated - Heavvy applause.
God bless you hun have a read of Psalms 34:18. Come to Jesus. may this message be your hope that he has sent me to you to tell you this message, come to church this Sunday with us we will pray for you to receive deliverance. God bless you. You’re so fortunate. Come and receive the goodness the Lord has for you🤍
Yes, it is hard to be a single parent, especially when you have no help from anyone. I am a single father to my 11 months old daughter and no matter how hard I try, it is not at all easy to find a job from home. Through all this hardship that I go through when I look at her, I know that it is worth it.
Remain 💪
Had a daughter with my now ex-wife, born with complications that required 4 corrective surgeries 2000 miles from family and home town, while starting a business.
Hope your still doing well my guy 💪
Lost my Wife due to a Car Accident in 2021. Raising my Kids Alone. Our Daughter was 3 years old at Time of Accident and was in the Car with Her Mom. She is 6 years old now and Her Brother 14 years old. After all The Trauma my Daughter could not be with a Nanny all Day. So i cut my Working Hours in Half so i can have Her with me when She gets out of School at 1pm. Some Days my Son looks after Her so i can go and Work in the Afternoons. They are Comfortable with each other. It is not Always Easy,but what is? Main thing is not to Never give up. Keep Praying. That pulled me through 🙏 Salute to All The Single Dads. Now i do not Feel Alone anymore. Keep up The Good Work and Stay Strong ❤ NV. South Africa 🇿🇦
This is me right now, the fear of the unknown. Same situation as you brother, everyday i told myself why do this happens to me. But we have to man it up for our daughter. We have to be strong amidts the strom and face it. We have to be a father.
LEMME JUST WIPE THESE TEARS.....thank you. i needed this today on christmas eve, Kings stay strong.
God bless you hun have a read of Psalms 34:18. Come to Jesus. may this message be your hope that he has sent me to you to tell you this message, come to church this Sunday with us we will pray for you to receive deliverance. God bless you. You’re so fortunate. Come and receive the goodness the Lord has for you🤍
Man this hits hard. I’m weeping. I’m a recovering alcoholic rebuilding my life and trying to be the best dad I can be. The mother of my son is the love of my life and knowing I’ll have to miss out on vacations, some holidays, and all that other good stuff is heart wrenching. Being around my son makes all those sad thoughts melt away. I can only hope I can learn to cope and ‘get over it’ with time.
God bless you hun have a read of Psalms 34:18. Come to Jesus. may this message be your hope that he has sent me to you to tell you this message, come to church this Sunday with us we will pray for you to receive deliverance. God bless you. You’re so fortunate. Come and receive the goodness the Lord has for you🤍
Ya stumble on this broke me down real bad was tough…My kids mom was something from diff planet.Still dealing but thank you
God bless you hun have a read of Psalms 34:18. Come to Jesus. may this message be your hope that he has sent me to you to tell you this message, come to church this Sunday with us we will pray for you to receive deliverance. God bless you. You’re so fortunate. Come and receive the goodness the Lord has for you🤍.
I am single parent (father)raising my son since he was 2 yrs now he is 3.5 yrs.i always want his happiness 😊😊
God bless you hun have a read of Psalms 34:18. Come to Jesus. may this message be your hope that he has sent me to you to tell you this message, come to church this Sunday with us we will pray for you to receive deliverance. God bless you. You’re so fortunate. Come and receive the goodness the Lord has for you🤍
I really needed this.
God bless you hun have a read of Psalms 34:18. Come to Jesus. may this message be your hope that he has sent me to you to tell you this message, come to church this Sunday with us we will pray for you to receive deliverance. God bless you. You’re so fortunate. Come and receive the goodness the Lord has for you🤍
I may not be a single dad or a man at all or a parent for that matter I'm actually not even an adult but to all you single dads out there working hard for your child/children. I wish you the best because I know my father figure is the best man I've ever had the blessing to be around and to learn from.
God bless you hun have a read of Psalms 34:18. Come to Jesus. may this message be your hope that he has sent me to you to tell you this message, come to church this Sunday with us we will pray for you to receive deliverance. God bless you. You’re so fortunate. Come and receive the goodness the Lord has for you🤍.
Newly single Dad of twin 5 year old boys. Lifes not turned out like I expected. But im raising 2 future Kings so I need to be a King myself
this made me cry within the first few minutes so powerful
God bless you hun have a read of Psalms 34:18. Come to Jesus. may this message be your hope that he has sent me to you to tell you this message, come to church this Sunday with us we will pray for you to receive deliverance. God bless you. You’re so fortunate. Come and receive the goodness the Lord has for you🤍.
This seriously made me cry, as a single father this really hit me..
God bless you hun have a read of Psalms 34:18. Come to Jesus. may this message be your hope that he has sent me to you to tell you this message, come to church this Sunday with us we will pray for you to receive deliverance. God bless you. You’re so fortunate. Come and receive the goodness the Lord has for you🤍
2 years later just hit me so hard I don't know what to say this made me feel so bad about myself but I'm so grateful of what I have I don't know if you guys understand what I am coming from everything that I have been through I just want to be the best single dad where I've come from and I don't know it just makes me feel so much more powerful from this message this message has made me feel so much more positive and being a single dad I just want to make my son's life more positive from what I have endured thank you
am so so sorry about that.how many children did you have?and where are you from
I'm a 24 year old single father with a 5 year old daughter i have no idea where the mom left to . I ve been depressed since I was 13 but now the depression is much worse since I've just recently became a single father life is heavy dude 😕
Don’t worry you’ll be fine
sorry!
Live in the moment. Take life one day at a time. change ur focus and thinking about the responsibility ahead. There is no play book for parenting .just give ur 1001 and the universe will support u. There are social services that u can take advantage of and know that we men have the same strength just as the women do. I am a father of 3(2,7,10)and I won't trade this job for none other. U are not alone bruh
All my respect to you brother. I'm 25 and my daughter is 4 years old, I see you and feel with you. We'll get through this and become stronger toward the other side, pulling our daughters up by being steadfast examples of never giving up
That's very hard! Stay strong! Hug your children and be there for them. You get to have all the quality time with them. Have you accessed emergency supports or the support of friends and family?
I feel you on the loneliness and the lack of support and the judgement from others. I am going through a divorce, there is no one in the world I can mention it to, my family has been shaming me, I do not feel safe around my very family. So I workout, pray, and build my company. Luckily I don't have any kids at the moment but this experience made me realize. there is a crazy world out there, and you gotta be careful about how you approach life. I send you all the love in the world, brother. Stay strong.
Be true to yourself. There is a good father inside despite all the flaws. It is inherent. Learn your own truth. Be Daddy.
Just became a single dad I could do get to see them every day for 3 hours but it got to work two part-time jobs that don't pay anything and you do just lose your identity when they leave you got nothing left and they're there they're great
First of all i salute ur decision being a single dad its never be easy.. i must believe u did great job be postive and control ur emotions make a plan how kids are grown.. its a journey how they build up with ur love and affectionate..
Just the other day I saw an article reading that Single Fathers are always praised and mothers are shamed. When?! All I see is how single mothers are amazing, which they are, but hardly anything on fathers. Some of them even gave Fathers Day to mothers…
Look the CZcamsr. Single mothers are shamed.
Got sole custody of my two kids boy and a girl my daughter was a victim of a child abuse while with her mom and new boyfriend.. my kids are Native American so they're protected by the Indian Child Welfare Act therefore I had to fight the tribe for sole custody...I did and won...God is great but but as an ex street guy who's been thru a lot it's by far the biggest and hardest responsibility I have ever had and I thank God everyday for having the privilege of being in these guys life...I wouldn't trade it for anything
I wish you so much strength and courage to do so well and make a good life for you all
You want other women to pay for the mistakes that you created. You chose the woman you got with you should have vetted properly.
Thank you. I needed this tonight 👑
God bless you hun have a read of Psalms 34:18. Come to Jesus. may this message be your hope that he has sent me to you to tell you this message, come to church this Sunday with us we will pray for you to receive deliverance. God bless you. You’re so fortunate. Come and receive the goodness the Lord has for you🤍
I’m a single father of 3 and I’m now financially struggling so I was CZcams solution i stumbled on this video and it helps me to know someone else has gone thru this and understands the way I am struggling the way my struggle effects my strength and mind set my fears thank you
How r u doing now????
Thank you! I went through everything you describe here. I have a lot left to do but I came through it stronger and full of gratitude. Thank you for showing me that I am not alone. Thank you for sharing.
i hope you’re doing alright
God bless you hun have a read of Psalms 34:18. Come to Jesus. may this message be your hope that he has sent me to you to tell you this message, come to church this Sunday with us we will pray for you to receive deliverance. God bless you. You’re so fortunate. Come and receive the goodness the Lord has for you🤍
You hit me right in those words. This hurts but I needed this. Thank you
God bless you hun have a read of Psalms 34:18. Come to Jesus. may this message be your hope that he has sent me to you to tell you this message, come to church this Sunday with us we will pray for you to receive deliverance. God bless you. You’re so fortunate. Come and receive the goodness the Lord has for you🤍
I have full custody of my daughter. She hates to see me leave and go to work. It hurts me the most. So I’m starting my own business. Problem solved….
How old is she
I would never hatefully take custody from my ex wife. Like others who hate women and children might.
The sad thing is, that this only has 5000 views and 30 comments. Men go through the same struggles and have the same feelings as women. But the difference is that society says we can't show it, and it's so f***** up as a single father myself to look at this video and realize that this is the only way that I can get emotional. I can't even talk to my friends about this because of the judgment
I feel you on the loneliness and the lack of support and the judgement from others. I am going through a divorce, there is no one in the world I can mention it to, my family has been shaming me, I do not feel safe around my very family. So I workout, pray, and build my company. Luckily I don't have any kids at the moment but this experience made me realize. there is a crazy world out there, and you gotta be careful about how you approach life. I send you all the love in the world, brother. Stay strong.
@I love 5G and the aliens that are coming back. thank you very much for the kin words. I appreciate it.
Why do they judge? Can you please elaborate. Lots of support to you😊
I agree
If they're going to judge your situation then they're not really your friends. Friends support you when you need help. I am a single parent. I know what its like. Men hang out with the boys to play games, drink, watch sports, and shoot the breeze. But they don't talk about stuff like this. A shame.
I tried to start a local group for single fathers and there was no interest. Its hard. Men are not cultured to respond to things like this. Even thought they know they need the help they think it makes them look weak.
In a bad spot right now and you’ve hit it All on the nose,made me break down a bit during this,thanks so much
Hey bois, I felt the same pain my first week after my ex ran off with my kids, so I understand the initial impact, its life altering, demoralizing, and for some of us unfortunately it's the last straw... I was fortunate enough to be able to focus my pain and anger into letting my ADHD brain take over. That's right. I have mental health gifts! and I didn't even know it at the time, yet it allowed me to obsess over how I could get my life with my kids back! By the end of the next week I was in the solicitor generals office demanding a court date to protect my children's mental health and financial well being or they would have to arrest me to get me to leave ( multiple factors come into play for this ). By the next Monday I was self representing in front of the family court judge, that could only say. "despite the status quo, that the mother should have initial care of the children, until the court deems otherwise adherent to a lawful agreement or judgement. It would clearly be in the children's best interest that the father have interim day to day care until the mother has sufficiently proven to the court otherwise" Words spoken over 3 years, and now I have full custody and we are kicking ass as a little team of 3👍 main take away lawyers will drain you, read the laws, learn the basics, it shows the judge you care more than most rather than leave this most important situation to a stranger, and best part only costs you the time of work for court dates, while the ex is mounting massive legal fees everytime you e-mail their lawyer lol 👍 your welcome, best of luck bois
Stay encouraged. May Jesus bless you
sorry about that friend
which means you are single now
I needed to hear this. THANK YOU!
God bless you hun have a read of Psalms 34:18. Come to Jesus. may this message be your hope that he has sent me to you to tell you this message, come to church this Sunday with us we will pray for you to receive deliverance. God bless you. You’re so fortunate. Come and receive the goodness the Lord has for you🤍
I was a single dad of 2 rambunctious boys. I got sole custody in 97, when they were 2 & 4yrs old. It was tough and i was a solo longhaul trucker. Running SC to CA and back, nearly 3 times a month. Hiring a nanny was expensive but they went w/me in summer. It was hard on me and I pay for it physically now. But wouldn't change a thing, if i had it to do over. Being their dad kept me focused and made a better man of me.
Been pretty stressful, due to recent circumstances my daughter which is 8 years old is now living with me full time. I also work a full time job, this isn’t going to be easy. Any other fathers out there with similar situations?
I live with my daughter who is 7 years old.Her mother died a year ago from Cancer ....
Same man. It's just been me daughter and me since 2015, she is now 7.
Been taking care of my kids on and off for a few months now, and as of a couple weeks ago I'm having them full time, also starting a full time job in a week, youngest is 4. God help me! I am surrounded by a good community so that'll help
Gentlemen do the best you can. Trust me it's the hardest thing you'll ever do. Ask for help if you need to. We as men feel weak doing so. It'll be worth it at the end. Be patient with your children. You're in it together. Say I love you everyday. Cheers ! You are Warriors !
Yes my daughter is almost 7 as well and she’s autistic. Once I got a routine down with babysitting etc it was ok. My daughter still requires time from me that I can’t give right now. So I thought long and hard and picked up a trade where I can have a more flexible schedule. Don’t let anything stop you. Keep pushing…. 🙏🏽💪🏽💯
Thank you for this video. I really needed this.
God bless you hun have a read of Psalms 34:18. Come to Jesus. may this message be your hope that he has sent me to you to tell you this message, come to church this Sunday with us we will pray for you to receive deliverance. God bless you. You’re so fortunate. Come and receive the goodness the Lord has for you🤍
As a single father of a 2 and 3 year old I am devastated the mother cheated on me with her boss.. its ok she wanted to move on .. its been a year and my kids have always wlbeen with me .. she dint ask for them or care for them it was always me .. now she is filling for child support ... and the system will probably help her ..even now she's not taking the league.. how do I show court I am fit...
Hey brother, im pretty sure since you have full custody that you wont have to pay a dime. In fact typically its the non custodial parent that usually pays the primary custodial parent child support. Im no expert in this but this is what ive heard. Good luck brother
Depends hopefully you’re not in cali
This hit me so hard . Im deployed right now and as soon as I deployed it feels like my wife just used it to leave me . I question my self worth. I want to end my life cause i feel like a constant disappointment. To my wife , my daughter , my friends and just me. Ive tried to be a good husband and a good father but everyone shits on me . I just avcept it and laugh it off but deep inside i want to curl into a ball and leave society. It feels as if I have 0 self worth. My daughter was my purpose for living and now that im deployed im detached for my only reason living. I hope i can move on with this and be proud of who i am in a few months but rn i just wanna end it all. At the end of the day who loves and appreciates a single father ?
Man I totally relate. Being a single dad is the hardest thing in life. So many highs and lows. We started our own channel to have something fun to do together and give us a reason to "adventure." Stoked I just found your channel. Looking forward to checking out your videos.
Man this really hurts.. it brings us tears to my eyes when the relationship ended I felt so bad I lost my job and I felt so lost. I still feel empty and useless..I really there is light at the end of the tunnel because man this is really hard 😢
I was a single father for the first 4 years of my daughters life. I lived with family this entire time so I had someone there and it was easy. I got a parenting plan so the mother could be in the moms life. I met a girl and fell in love. I Married her. I got my first house and life was good for a year at leased. One day I went to work and when I came home there where cops there so I was initially concerned, so I jumped out of my car and ran inside to see what my wife was doing to my surprise she had all of her things packed and she was loading them out into my carport. She wouldn’t talk to me or tell me what was going on at all I was completely lost and clueless as to what the situation was. She told me she was leaving and never coming back, my heart sank as I walked her walk away now keep in mind she had a baby when I got with her and I raised that little girl for two years of her life almost 3 actually. So for the first time in my life I’m all alone in my house and I have my five-year-old daughter every other week. I’ve been alone now for three weeks and it’s very hard. Some days I want to just end everything. And other days I have motivation and the urge to push on for the betterment of my life. But that feeling is rare most of the time I just feel like a zombie walking around just trying to accomplish simple goals cooking cleaning doing laundry etc. I have this urge and this feeling of despair like I’m gonna be alone for the rest of my life because how can I date again and put myself through this again. Things never seem to work in my favor I’m just a father who works a lot and comes home and does simple tasks around the house. It’s very scary sometimes and sometimes I just don’t know what to do with myself, I get really really depressed most days and I just don’t really wanna do anything but lay there and think about the past and things that I could’ve done differently. I know I have to look at the silver lining in things and I know that I have to push on for my daughter regardless of my situation. But my God let me tell you it is so hard.
Don't give up brother, you have someone that'll come looking for you.
I’m so sorry this happened to you. It’s sounds like you are an amazing person. I think you did and are doing the best you can. Your wife that just walked out on you will someday regret it, trust me. She didn’t have the wisdom to know she had a great man. In the meantime, take care of yourself, your daughter, keep grinding you already have a home so I know you can provide. Strengthen your relationships with family or friends. The right women will come along but don’t ignore red flags of women. Don’t focus on her words,focus on her actions and her past. Good luck.
I've been doing it for 12+ years and it's still hard saying goodbye after they visit. Im always wishing I had more time and they're almost adults now 😢
It’s tough as a single dad but there is a way through, I promise. I talk about my own struggles on my channel if you think it’ll help you. Keep your head up and keep fighting. 🤝
i am not alone... thank you brother.
God bless you hun have a read of Psalms 34:18. Come to Jesus. may this message be your hope that he has sent me to you to tell you this message, come to church this Sunday with us we will pray for you to receive deliverance. God bless you. You’re so fortunate. Come and receive the goodness the Lord has for you🤍
Be strong's DADS! You CAN do it. 🌟🥇you already are! Even if you don't know what you're doing, take it one day at a time💖
Here's a sadder thought. Having a Daughter. Enjoy the memories your making with her now, be the best father she'd want to share the world to and always show that she will always have your support because one day she is going to be throttled like a ragdoll in heat when she meets the love of her life. So when time comes you can always look back at better days.
I’ve had my son alone since he was 2, his mother died at 34 years old, he has behavioral issues, it’s hard, he’s 11 now, I haven’t had a night alone or a sitter in 3 years, I finally found a job that will let me come in after I get him to school, I have no help with him at all
Hugs bro may her mum rest in peace one day you will look behind and see your sacrifice is not invain
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I can't stop crying just missing my little girl
I'm a single dad. She keeps him. She is really difficult to talk and manage my sons time money and events. Man it sucks, specially when im actually trying to be active in my sons life.. the drive home after dropping him off. At least she gets nights and can cuddle him everyday. On my down days, it's just me. It does sucks for us the ones that are actually trying...
I divorced her. I wanted things to work and I tried again. And I’m alone in my apartment having just ended things again… why did I have to fall in love with a toxic person? When you said who am I without my kids and my friends? I realized that was a question I’ve never asked myself. Thank you. I have hope now… to search for that answer.
Not all of us end up being left. We become the ones who leave because they've grown fed up with violence and abuse. The anger and damage to our belongings becomes too much. I don't want my 3 year old son to keep growing up in a home where he witnesses his mother talk to his father like trash, kick and break belongings (including our son's toys) etc. The breaking point for me was when she spat in my face last night and said I wasn't worth respecting. This morning she cancelled her payments of our son's daycare and said she didn't care what happened to his education. I figured out how I can budget for it on top of all the other bills.
Last night I anonymously called the cops and today they came around investigating. I told them how she spat in my face, broke the new range hood (I hadn't installed it yet), threw a container of oily food all over the bedroom floor (destroying my uni papers and books) and destroyed my son's toy supermarket.
It's a breach of avo because she has one in place against her. 2nd one in 2 years. I haven't told her that I informed the police of the damage. I just made up the story that the neighbours reported it. Police believe so too. I didn't want to risk having more of my belongings damaged. I'm considering moving more stuff to my parents' home to protect it.
Im a single father i have a two month baby it come with all kind of emotions mom got sick on Me went from bad to worse I miss her so much and if she can see our baby wow she would melt the baby name is miracle companion butler
Stay strong mate.
So much condolences take heart 💞💞
Am here if you may need companion
Thank you so much for this TKC!
You’re saving lives rather you know it or not.
I mean this sincerely
God bless you hun have a read of Psalms 34:18. Come to Jesus. may this message be your hope that he has sent me to you to tell you this message, come to church this Sunday with us we will pray for you to receive deliverance. God bless you. You’re so fortunate. Come and receive the goodness the Lord has for you🤍
Being a single parent is always difficult but it becomes easy when you have your parents by your side.
20 yrs old with two daughters thank you
It’s tough as a single dad but there is a way through, I promise. I talk about my own struggles on my channel if you think it’ll help you. Keep your head up and keep fighting. 🤝
First what you need to do is ACCEPT the reality. It can take a lot of time but it needs to be done. In order to move forward in life you need to realize where you at.
It is ok to fail. We must make mistakes to become better versions of ourselves.
Thanks bro. I needed that talk 4 years ago though 😂 … still helpful though 👊
God bless you hun have a read of Psalms 34:18. Come to Jesus. may this message be your hope that he has sent me to you to tell you this message, come to church this Sunday with us we will pray for you to receive deliverance. God bless you. You’re so fortunate. Come and receive the goodness the Lord has for you🤍
I am a single dad of 3 boys. they been with me for 5 years now. I was told by some poeple want me to give up my kids and then i can have more thim for my job
Don't worry about people. People suck, worry about your kids. You can work when you need later. For now you need to be with them when enjoy your time together, you only get that once.
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people can give terrible advice. And make horrible comments and judgements.
... Being a single father isn't the only thing that hurts. It's also not having a supportive family myself. I tried dating to gain a connection. But that's not going to help. I just can't start dating and everything will be better. I walk away from dating, friends and any associates because I can't heal a "gunshot" with a bandaid. I am torn, damaged, and only have my boys. My boys only have me, they don't know any other family members. They don't know their names or mention them. So every day I put my cape on and remind them that we only have each other and we must be supportive of each other.
Man this absolutely hit home. I'm glad to see somebody sharing awareness about this. It's the hardest thing I've ever dealt with in my life. I still get to see my blood daughter 3-4 days a week, but the other two that I raised for four years from the time they were babies, I only see maybe once a month for a couple hours and my strongest bond was with the six year old girl. Everytime I get to see her and she leaves I end up just completely breaking down. I already know what it's like to start losing that deep connection.
Dam bro first 30 seconds, brought me to tears. So true bro! Messed up! I dont blame anyone but myself.
I'm struggling today, more than usual. I have been seperated from my partner a year now. A whole year where I barely get to see my mini me. It's been so fkn hard.... I dont know what to do other than just try to make it through the day. Hoping to see better days.
It’s tough as a single dad but there is a way through, I promise. I talk about my own struggles on my channel if you think it’ll help you. Keep your head up and keep fighting. 🤝
So well put, thank you for sharing brother!
Single dad with full custody, getting it was hell on earth but I wouldn't have it any other way. There are several things that I didn't anticipate after becoming one. Being unable to relate to anyone is really difficult, I know no other single fathers and you feel pretty isolated in the experience. The financial aspect of things can be tough sometimes, I make a good living but it's still tight with no support. You have no one telling you if you are doing good or bad and I often wonder if I am a good parent, and beat myself up pretty hard sometimes.
Society treats you like a pariah, I don't get invited to anything, I get looked at weird in public with my daughter sometimes, and former friend's wives started to see me as some kind of a threat, to that I don't really have an explanation. The loss of friendships was something I wasn't prepared for, because I am single, I am kind of left out as everyone is married or partnered. I don't mean to mitigate other men's struggles not seeing their kids, been there, and its enough to make you want to quit altogether. These are just a few of the things I experienced after becoming a full-time dad. Respect to all the dads out there trying for their kids.
As a single dad who's lucky enough to be raising his own kids.
I would advise any man who is at a point in life that he risks losing his kids: sacrifice it all pay what you need to pay, give her whatever needs to be given to keep the kids in your life for at least 50%.
I kept the kids, that was about all I got to keep, 3years later, I've got everything back that I traded in and I have the kids.
Fight like you have nothing to lose, cause you don't.. It's all or nothing, you will never fill the void of missing your kids, you will fill the void of missing your big house and shiny car.
And don't worry, the best looking, big hearted loving women will line up at your door to be part of your life once word gets around what you did and why, promotions will present themselves the universe will bless you. People respect fighting men with a big heart and respect takes you a long long way.
Mother tricked me into fatherhood which came with many challenges especially mentally… lucky it’s just me and me boy now
This hit me I’m 21 with two boys and every time I drop them off it’s gets harder and harder
Keep it up we need the word!
God bless you hun have a read of Psalms 34:18. Come to Jesus. may this message be your hope that he has sent me to you to tell you this message, come to church this Sunday with us we will pray for you to receive deliverance. God bless you. You’re so fortunate. Come and receive the goodness the Lord has for you🤍.
I’m a single father of two boys 4&5 full custody there mother got on heavy drugs I have to say this the biggest challenge I had but I won’t give up
Ugh I have my daughter full time it's hard as hell with everything in life that got affected by it. My ex left me 10 Months ago for someone younger and basically turned into a slag with all types of blokes. I got my heart broken while having to move back to mum's living on her sofa with my 14 month old daughter at that time. Now I still live at my mum's but I have a bedroom I share with my daughter, my mum looks after her while I work. Unfortunately I came to agreement with the ex for 50/50 . Unfortunately she hasn't had her overnight since November. My daughter has definitely developed massively since being with me full-time and is comfortable. But even still to this day her mothers house is terrible. When she was staying there or has been with her mother. It would put her out of routine or come back with horrible habits of hitting or biting.
MY LIFE. Right here. It hurts...
hope you’re doing alright incredibly proud of u for holding up
I am a single dad, my daughter saved my contact name as MOM 💟
How old is ur daughter r u 2 really really close???
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@@beast-ov8glr u 2 really really close
My guy I don’t know you but I fucking love you. I needed to hear this so bad
I lost my wife may 19th from a single gun shot! I’m raising both are kids by myself everyday. Trying to be both parents is the hardest thing I’ve ever done!
May God give you strength.
That's why you should be very extra careful dealing with dangerous things. You won't know it might cost you everything.
Very inspiring, I have been single Dad since last year I have a full custody of my 5 year boy. I was afraid at first place not anymore now.