The VERY SAD Reality of Being a Sigma Male (Notes From A Sigma Male)
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- čas přidán 16. 11. 2022
- Sigma males are known for their unique combination of traits and attitudes that allow them to depart from the bounds of the Socio sexual hierarchy and live on their own terms. These “lone wolves” are often admired by those around them for their ability to live life on their own terms and resist the pressures of social norms and expectations. But nothing in life is perfect and even the seemingly unphasable sigma male has to deal with some downsides. That might come as a surprise, but in this video I’m going to break it down and explain what’s tough about being a sigma male.
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I can't imagine any real sigma that would wear clothing that advertisers what they are, I guess their rarity would mean it's more lucrative to cater for the fakes.
Even if you're surrounded with friends. Most of them will look after themselves or betray you in times of trouble.
I’m constantly getting the “are you ok” question
It never ends 😢
"Sigmas suffer when they are forced to over-socialize"
BINGO!
They crux is being forced to to it at all.
My gf took me to a work social event and I had no idea what i was getting into. I couldn't hear myself think with so many people talking and laughing. It seemed like a swell time but not for me. It was my personal hell. Then one of the overly extroverted people put the spotlight on me when she pointed out that I wasn't talking. I was gritting my teeth trying to hold myself together the entire time.
You should of said, "I DON'T WANT TO, INTERRUPT!!! MORE OF GREAT KNOWLEDGE PASSED ON TO MOI!!!"
A place where people is forced to over-socialize: SCHOOL (very dangerous for sigmas)
Many think they are SMs, but I doubt they know anything about being disappointed when no one can meet the high standards you set for everyone you meet. The agony of dealing with everyone who lacks logic and common sense. Waking up in the middle of the night or not being able to sleep because your brain has problems to figure out first. Not being mentally present or able to fully enjoying outings and dates because you're hypervigilant and analyzing everything, so you have to drink just to calm your mind. You become so focused on goals you are willing to put them above loved ones. You cut good people out of your life because they made 1 small mistake. Oh, or believing most people, even loved ones are dumb because they just don't catch on as fast and/or can't see things you can see, or do what you can do.
Being a SM has been just as much a curse as a blessing.
Not sure if you just have detrimentally high IQ, or a difficult past leading ti C-PTSD, both which also lead to the same SM nuisances such as high expectations, trust issues and hypervilance, reservedness from social disappointment, and so on. Then again, I'm sure these 3 concepts aren't mutually exclusive, assuming that SM is itself even a credible concept to begin with.
Food for thought, not criticism. All 3 could be correlated, but I'm not diving into this further.
Agreed ... All these years I have been misunderstood by everyone.. I found out abput the subject of sigma males
And I am 100% Sigma
All the videos iv watched have shown me the traits of sigma
I have them all good and bad
These videos show me who I truly am
Great comment. I don't fully buy into this whole subject, but I fully relate to your comment.
FACTS...I have to regularly check myself when it comes to holding loved ones to an unreasonable (for most) standard. It typically does more harm than good.
As a trucker, your videos have been enlightening as to why I'm the way I am. I thought it was me. After 50yrs, I'm good now. Thanks. 👊🏽😎
Keep your eyes on the road...LOL.. I agree 100%. Just turned 50 myself.
The hardest time is your youth .
Parents and familie who don't understand you , the bullieing by colleges .
The jealousy and all that kind of s..t
But listen to a 60 year old diehard !
Hold on brother , never quit your dreams and your goals .
Finaly you win and gain respect and they leave you in peace couse they know you know what you are doing !
They see the result .......
Thank you chris.
very good. It is me. 🙃
Thank you brother✊🏾
Jesus Christ loves you ❤
I embrace my traits and focus putting myself into those lingering uncomfortable situations, constantly focusing on self-improvement without sacrificing my nature.
You always do incredibly perceptive pertinent commentary. It's uncanny how it resonates. Many thanks to Bloke Box. 🙏
Thank you Mark! I am glad you like these
Discomfort and disillusionment of Sigmas of an early age will cause a young Sigma to question his true personality. This can be compounded if one or both parents are narcissists. Attempting to validate their personality can take much longer. In resolution, realizing that the opinions of others are largely constructed from insufficient facts. This allows the Sigma to ignore them without concern, then move on.
listen up lil bro you aint sigma 🤓🤓 ill send your parents into the meat mince press and force you to devour your parents remains
Most people are Supremely Insecure and the Sigma Male brings that out even more from them …
Very true
@@Fresh_Guy 💯
Thankyou for posting all this. It’s crazy how you know all this about us. It’s relieving to hear this, and refreshing for me to watch this.
Great video. You touched some very important themes like overthinking and early struggles, and made some very nice points in respect of those.
Thanks Bloke Box. A great video, I love your Notes series, its so much more serious feeling. Being a Sigma is great, but its not all icing on the cake, its nice to be able to show people I care about videos like this so they can understand me better, You come up with just the right words to describe what I have trouble describing.
I do have a life tip for anyone out there that is introverted/sigma/lone wolf, whatever you want to call it. When you meet someone new, you will rarely get asked more than twice to spend time with them. You are lucky if they ask you a 3rd time if you turn down those first two, and most people feel like you may not want to be around them. This is obviously not the case, especially if its someone you click with intellectually, but others do not know this.
If you turn down an invitation from someone too many times, you will stop being invited altogether. Its the logical thing for them to think. Once you stop getting the invite to go out with friends, something hits you, that feeling like you might have lost something. I may not want to go out much, but it is nice to be asked, don't lose that.
Maybe they are the type you can just be honest with, but maybe its someone that you don't want to lose having in your life. Sometimes you may have to suck it up and go out when you don't want to, just give yourself permission to leave if you get socially overwhelmed or drained. Showing up will at least let that person in your life know that you aren't just another person doing the passive avoidance thing because you don't want their friendship, and you will continue to be invited, called, and have a productive relationship. I've made that mistake enough times to have learned a painful enough lesson, that I felt I needed to express to others how important this is for people like us.
There are too many people and not enough time, you will have to say no to most. But, you should know when you find a person that you WANT to spend your time getting to know better and learning from, that on average, you will only get one or two shots before they assume the opposite. Once you have a true friend though, they will know, and give you all the space you need but invite you to everything they want you at. /ramble
Thank you for sharing your thoughts, also really appreciate your support!
“Everything that is great is based upon a suffering” Conrad Radbury “The Black Book of Satan”. Being a Sigma is heavier burden than anybody could even imagine. Jealousy of our advantages is next uncool and pretty unfair aspect of being Sigma. Anyhow, screw them Bro 😁👊🏻 as always great content 🙏🏻
While I’m hostile to satanic things, I hear you about the jealousy of other beings. It’s my observation that jealousy and envy are sins of the lazy, incompetent, and stupid. Granted, we all have been there; but, what we do about it is what matters, and trying to help others along is a natural part of being human. However, if the horse you take to the water doesn’t drink, it’s his fault.
@@chriskourliourod1651 funny. I’m not hostile to Christian things. Have some friends amongst Protestants. Beside I’m half Buddhist.
Greatness is defined as the manifestation of endurance. It's truly easy to be great now a days as most people are weak now a days.
"Nobody knows the trouble I've seen" - Hitler
@@rickytan2667 “wtf?” Eric Cartman
People always just become unnecessarily intimidated
I got called this the other day bc I don’t use social media such as fb, instagram, or twitter. I don’t watch news I work , invest and focus on being a good husband and father. But bc I dont care to keep up with pointless political arguments that offends certain people.
But I certainly have many traits listed here, but to me I think I’m just focusing on what’s actually important instead of shallow bs that most people do. I was a huge failure in school and came from poverty I’m now on the verge being wealthy and still don’t own a new vehicle, or have a big house I refuse to keep my money in the bank to loose value many called me stupid for that aswell……. Glad I didn’t even think twice about those opinions. Great video!
Great insights. Thank you.
Like everyone else, we do have our flaws we’re not perfect
I think that I am a sigma male. And if it is so, I can tell what breaks a sigma the most. It's when you are dependent or addicted to something or someone.
This video and other describe pretty much my nature but due to the smoking weed habbit, the overthinking becomes so strong that there is nearly no self improvement possible anymore and without the selflove and the opportunity of change a sigma male turns into a depressed man. This is for me, the worst side effekt.
Great video as always bloke box. Keep it up💪🏻
Thank you Sam!
Every day someone tries to bring me down I just think you can’t bring someone down who is beneath you so I just smile and carry on
Everything fits,one year ago I didn't know what was a sigma.....thank god I'm not a alien....thanks for sharing.....
Looking back on Band of Brothers in this light, I'd contend that Dick Winters was the Sigma that had to step in and lead more, due to Herbert Sobel's alpha martinet behavior.
It is what it is call it shy, intervention, or self awareness but I know from experience explaining myself get some strange looks so I get nervous when I feel I need to explain myself
One big hurdle we must overcome is understanding our own behaviors and motivations in the grand scheme of things. We intuitively know we are different. Then we wonder, "is it me, or them?" The cycle of self analysis can be brutal.
We have to get to the point to where we understand that our sigma ways serve us well. This social strategy maximizes our desire to understand our surroundings and maintain sanity. At this point we learn to accept ourselves, flaws and all. We then move forward confidently to unleash our authentic self onto the world.
The only sad 1 for me is the last 1, the others I have learn to deal with and accept how others perceive me, and the most important thing of all I just do me. 👍🏿
Thank you
I'd say being super aware of oneself and one surroundings, and high expectations of other people. Forgetting that one may see people as equals but the fog of war forgetting that people are not, just because one thinks of everybody having equal rights to their opinions to their actions and feeling that everyone has a fair shot to be able to get their point across in whichever way they feel they see fit with equal speaking time, other people don't think the way of the SIGMAFIA man
The sigma differs from others in that he enjoys his own company and really likes himself. As a sigma myself, I know that I enjoy my alone time, although I can be sociable when the situation calls for it.
I spent years of my life not understanding this about myself sufferd because of my lack of knowledge on this topic I can so relate to being drained like a battery socially in life....
I never really knew why i would say im busy just to get out of going out ....sometimes i have to really make the effort and im like hey that was a good night but while im there im already thinking of an exit strategy ....yes its draining people wanting to talk to you and yes it a brain drain.....All this stuff on sigma men has become therapy in a way now it all make sense...and im 50....plus, and just finding this out now is so refreshing
It's great to hear that the information on sigma men has been helpful to you as a form of therapy and that it's refreshing to finally understand more about yourself at 50+. It's never too late to learn and grow, and it's good that you're taking the time to reflect and understand your own behavior and preferences. It's normal to have a desire for solitude and independence at times, and it's important to find a balance between socializing and taking time for yourself. It sounds like you're on the right track towards self-discovery and personal growth. Keep it up! ✊
just... thanks
Im glad this video was made, xause not everything about sigmas is all rainbows and sunshine.
Cheers 🥂
The funny thing is its all fun and games when you start manipulate thing but the horror of whats realy happening starts to sink in and you start seeing how many poor peoples faces look like this place has just destroyed them its sad and i want to grab them and say whats wrong with you fuck that its not the way your supposed to be it really bothers me alot i hate to see it and the ones who look the worst to me i go at them until i make them laugh dosent work all the time but im pretty good st what i do ive actually had a few people thank me that surprised me i work in shadows very little almost no recognition so its nice when i het it
Reaching old age increases the annoyance to loved ones by limited chances to escape. You need to be very patient and compromizing for not to end up as a hermit in solitude.
Its not easy. I can see nobody talks about this thing so i will say it right here. I have 23yrs and i am strongly introverted and have all of the characteristics of sigma man..but my mom doesnt understand me at all and i have problems to relate to my own mom she is so high dramatic and toxic in that level that i couldnt handle it anymore. So as a sigma man i have a problem, MY FAMILY DOES NOT UNDERSTAND ME. My sister is married and she lives in our old house, just next to our New one and she has 2 little kids. They blame me for not going to sit there for not enough emphaty bla bla... But its just im very bored and annoyed of them, every single day in the morning kids are screaming and making noise, it just annoy me a lot and when i say something its my bad.. I love them all but they are so fcking dramatic and boring i feel like i need to get out of here..thry think i dont like anyone that im so cold idk..Even if i try to explain myself they not get it. Very frustrating situation for me as a sigma.
Hang in their man, take whatever time you can to do self care and introspect on how you can best handle the situations in your life. I can certainly relate to family just not understanding who you are at all. But it will get better as you get older, as long as you take charge of those things that you can actually change. It just takes time to find out what those things are, and it usually takes a bit of hurt feelings from family and friends, but its YOUR journey, not theirs, have a good one :)
The wild places are one of a man’s best friends (a woman’s, too), and the more you get to know and experience such, you’ll be that much happier and confident. For example, imagine waking up on a spring morning to catch some fish, gather some wild greens, and then cook them together for an awesome breakfast. Trout and garlic mustard are excellent baked together!
As for the womenfolk, calmly tell them that you are a man with a man’s way, and that you don’t tell them how to be women.
Talk about a struggle when I was younger. When I started interviewing for jobs after university it was a big shock to learn how much team work was valued over personal productivity and accomplishment, no mater how much I achiveved for the gov. agency that I worked for, everyone was brainwashed into the "team work" crap. It became obvious to me that the people that most pushed the " team work" concept the most were the most incompetent and actually relyed on the 5 or 10% of us to actually get things done. After five years of that living hell I formed my own business and never looked back. I just wish that I had this information regarding Sigmas when I was twenty. Good video, thanks for posting.
I had spoken on just this topic and had a gatekeeper come with the "You're not a real sigma then" bs. Some people think sigma just means "really cool dude".
I think Sigma is a pretty cool guy. He self-awarely fights aliens and doesn't afraid of anybody. 😂
This channel makes me feel less alone and more normal than I once thought.
That is great to hear Antonio!
I think you over-thought this, but hey - you do you.
I’ve never struggled with any aspect of being a sigma, and certainly never with a society which fails to relate or seeks to pigeon-hole me. Just strategize and carry on. 👍🏼
One of the most difficult parts of being a Sigma male is constantly being challenged by other men. A lot of men notice we get a lot of attention from women or that we just seem very confident and it makes them jealous. I have to combat aggression from men every time I step out in public situations. They back off once they know not to fuck with me, but there's always some asshole that comes in to test me and it gets exhausting dealing with it every single time I step out of the house.
A lot of us truck drivers lean towards being Sigma. You have to okay with yourself and who you are. If you're not , the road will eat you alive. When we go home we aren't really in the mood go visting people either.
That's cool
Yup
Hello everyone. Thank you very much for your videos. I have a painful question to ask (I am, perhaps, myself a sigma): is this renunciation of integrating into the social scale not a sign of lack of courage and energy? because, indeed, it takes both (and more) to make its way through society. Could someone answer me, please?
It could also be seen as a sign of confidence. I don't seek validation from others, although obviously it's nice to get it sometimes. It also means I can use that courage and energy in other endeavors. For me it's not about purposefully not integrating into the social scale, but more about being able to be myself regardless of anything. If you feel like it is in your best interest to integrate into the social ladder to a certain extend, then go for it. Even though we may share parts of our personalities, everyone is different. What works for you, may not work for me and vice versa. All I can say is: be you, be true and stay humble.
Thank you so much !
This is a complex question as forming your personality, and specifically in regards to Sigma personalities, can be strongly associated with attachment. Sigmas, could in theory be naturally Alpha personalities that were suppressed early in life, created insecure avoidant attachment. This would necessitate them to develop the skills associated with Sigmas. Namely, being able to be competent self sufficient or being able to move in and out of societal pockets as they might need to to meet needs. This might also be what forced sigmas to be more thoughtful and capable of being charming when needed. It could be an excuse tp avoid conflict that we may believe we may lose, but sigma personalities will fight if they have no choice, sometimes using much more brutal or asymmetric tactics.
I never understood why my friends run there mouth about me, now I know why, jealous, and pissed when I won't do what they want, especially alphas, I can't handle being around them
I always thought I was weird and abnormal.
Know any Heyoka or super Empaths who are also INFJ A , type personality? That's me , with narcs attached , very distantly .
I can change but if the person says it in a condescending or disrespectful way. I will brush it off, And would not care.
I find it funny that you put up lots of pictures depicting actors as sigma males ,actors are the most needy people wanting stage light and celebraty
I always called myself an army of one😂😂😂 and have suffered enough.
That's not true that people don't understand Sigma.
Sigma themselves don't want people to know everything about them.
I kinda feel like you're so often perceived as weird or strange, yet you as the outsider to it all can't even begin to explain how strange and off most others (seem to) behave.
In that way, both sides sorta expect the other one to be un-strange and just act more normal/authentic. And when you 're always the only one sticking out and going againt every single grain, it can get quite tough or rather... exhausting.
Striking out on your own is actually liberating if you stick with it. Along with the Bible, read Thoreau’s WALDEN.
Besides, why GAF about what others think?
@@chriskourliourod1651 Yes, generally there really aren't any fucks given. However, in work or family related situations it can be different. Otherwise, it's all cool.
I guess a good sign, is a sig will have his own style from an early age and not follow trends. Showing they don't care how people perceive them.
I'm a single sigma woman apparently sigma women and sigma men get on the best but I have no idea where to look to meet one can anyone help ? X
Hi ..
You have met one
@@nirmalrajreddy8832 cool wow its nice to meet someone with emotional intelligence x lol
Apparently these not much around lol
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Does anybody else like smoking weed and just think. Are there highlights in your life because you came up with this crazy plan while you were high AF and actually had the balls to go through with it even though everyone around you said you can’t do it
You missed the most important weakness.
What is anger : it's a punishment you give yourself for someone else's misdeeds
Oh that hit hard
Outside of class, when l with people it's strictly grey rocking all the way. You can't engage with normies.
Do sigma males friends keep them safe
What friends?
@@elreekosuaveh2509 we all have our own little packs
@@TheJerred187 I get that, it was more of a joke than anything.
Sigma male: holidays suck.
Edit: being an introvert is not synonymous with “no social skills”. Its about energy drain and expense. Thats it. Hypersensitivity. Not wanting to be in large crowds or at stores at holiday time or at concerts.
Being happy and content with being alone is a super power.
As long as you realize that “superpower “ is the Lord Almighty Himself.
Without acknowledging the presence of God in one’s life, that life is infinitely more difficult.
People think sigma male is a abnormal person.
Feels like a curse sometimes
Less alphas more sigmas the world 🌎 would be a much more tolerable.Even for me.😋
you're just catering to loners, telling them they're sigma for being unable to adept to 'social norms' because they're "sigma's"... but, ya'll do you, cause after all, you're differnt so you must be sigma.. right... this is just coping set to the max..
Good luck finding on what we actually think of in our "own time." You will never find about it.
Why is every depiction of Sigma males in your video, that of really (((really))) good looking guys??. Content on this channel is generally on point, but you should know that sigmas don’t participate in “face” value. It’s a dud note in a symphony of satisfying content (coz the self conscious sigma is turned off by shallow reflections). Sigmas are not merely pretty. Sigmas are elementally mental about every. thing.
Blame the guys over at iStock or Getty ;-)
i got lucky both ways genetically and I feel unstoppable
You miscaharacterize introversion. It’s entirely possible to be an outgoing introvert.
It’s about where you get your energy from- internally or externally.
Further I would contend sigmas are all introverts.
music and sound horror, ! What for ! Not to listen the words with apple and headphones.
Will someone explain to me why the majority of the men in these videos are hirsute?
Very Articulate
Sigma 🤣
One of Sigma's most annoying traits is when they correct someone's spelling or grammar...😐
THAT being said...
Satiate: Say-she-ate
I'm sorry...😕
🤣 🤣 🤣
First of all you described an introvert and proceeded to say you're not one??? Im an introvert and that does NOT mean i have social anxiety. what you've described ins an extroverted introvert, and that is AN INTROVERT. you're not "different" or better than others for this????? Its actually pathetic.
You can not become... An Sigma Man.. you are ore your not
That they realize they are just a beta with a false sense of importance
Sounds like you're speaking from experience.
Pure cringe. Labelling is so.... for people who are insecure
Alpha male
beta male
mu-male
theta male.
I'm acdefg-male