Are You Experiencing These Feelings With Relationship OCD?
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- čas přidán 27. 06. 2024
- Numbness, depersonalization, loss of sex drive, disconnection, anger, grief, depression, sadness, not just right experience, panic... but are they really part of Relationship OCD?
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"You may be using these videos as a compulsion"
Me after watching 10 consecutive videos about OCD: ...OOPS 👁👄👁
tell me, who also has anxious attachment in their OCD relationship? It only enhances OCD .. who had such that we are with a girl at a distance so far .. And the girl may be busy .. And you have thoughts: what if, because of the fact that we will communicate less often, I will stop loving her / feelings will cool down / lose interest? What if because of this I do not stop loving? What if I have already stopped loving her?
same 😀
i love my girlfriend and i know i do. she’s so good to me and i want to keep choosing her. i just want these thoughts to go away and be okay. i want to feel again. i want to not expect the butterfly feelings or being happy all the time. this sucks.
heyy how has it been, how are you doing
Anybody else having a really really tough time with rocd and OCD in general during these holidays? Mine has heightened significantly since the holidays season has kicked off and I'm struggling a lot :((
How is it now? Mine tends to calm down weeks after Xmas or even a month x
I psych up holidays and then get disappointed because they don’t go exactly the way I wanted. 😕
I can’t tell you how grateful I am for your videos. There’s very little information out there regarding ROCD, which made me question if it was a real thing after all. I haven’t watched all of your videos just yet, or signed up to your course (yet) but knowing they exist is a huge comfort. I’ve been really struggling recently - thank you
Agreed, thank you so much for your videos. And you are soooo right radical acceptance and compassion as the keys. Onward.
Thankyou so much for this I’ve been working on my own self love, recently I feel back into a spiral of trying to dive deeper into my compulsions and trying to seek answers and I realised that that’s not right I’m just trying to get by, once I get a job I might join the course
I’m tearing up listening to you, thank you for your video! ❤️❤️❤️❤️
This was incredible. Thank you
Thank you for this video. The reminders that ROCD is a coping mechanism, that you can't obsess yourself out of ROCD... And that if you feel urgency you might use these videos as compulsions. Being aware of those things already helps a lot.
Thanks so much. You are a life saver ❤️
Happy holidays ❤️
Kiyomi, you are amazing. Thank you!
Thank you for everything you and Alexis do for this community.
Hi! Sorry for my English I'm French. I'm coming back to your channel because I discovered it when I needed reassurance one year ago. So when I started to feel better I stoped to watch your videos bc I didn't need to watch them anymore. It's always feels good to hear someone talks about rocd (specially bc I'm French and in France rocd don't exist at all, nobody talks about it ). After a year of rocd I've learn a lot a thing about me and psychology but I'm still struggling every single day with it. Of course the hardest part is the acceptance and that even after one year with rocd I'm still wondering "is that rocd?" "and if it's not rocd?". It's even more hard when it's your first relationship..
I literally admire your journey! ☺️
Bonjour Marie, je suis française aussi et c’est vrai que ce toc n’est pas très reconnu en France. J’ai lu beaucoup de livres en anglais, je me suis beaucoup renseignée sur le ROCD mais je continue à lutter. Est-ce que tu t’en es sortie ? Et si oui, qu’est ce qui t’a aidée ? Merci beaucoup !
@@son9213 désolée de te répondre que maintenant, et non je m'en suis pas sortie parce qu'au final tu apprends juste à vivre avec. je trouve que déjà bien connaître le toc est important pour éviter de devoir aller dans la réassurance, la connaissance est un bon outil. actuellement je fais une TCC depuis un peu plus d'1an (thérapie cognitivo comportementale) et ça aide beaucoup, je trouve que le temps fait aussi bien les choses. et toi tu souffres de ça depuis quand ?
I have doubting thoughts for my partner a lot these days again and I started thinking that maybe I don't have OCD at all and I'm trying to convince myself that I want to continue the relationship but I don't really want to and these days it's really hard for me. Because I fell like I don't wanna see him I don't wanna talk to him that it's not the same between us anymore and I'm very anxious around him and get annoyed with almost everything he says and then feel so bad. It feels so real and all the time I think that we may have to brake up because of these bad thoughts and feelings are never gonna end.😢 Your videos help me so much in hard times like this. ❤️
I'm going through the exact same thing... but please do not leave him! It's just your rocd playing tricks on you, i promise 🤍I tend to avoid my bf because it causes me anxiety... it's like i'm trying to run away from the problem:(
@@roxannemartel9388 Yes I see.. you're right!! It's really hard and convincing tho to have these feelings all the time and now I have them more because we're going holidays together... Thank u ❤️
@@userstela how are You now??
@@laurabassa6980 Im happy u asked:) I'm actually pretty good these days and still with my boyfriend. I'm doing a lot better with ROCD and these thoughts. I can control them now. That doesn't mean it's gone. ROCD yes but now a have OCD thoughts in other things. But it's not like it was at all. It's a lot better after a lot of work I've done:)
@@userstela wow this gives me hope! Thank you for the update ❤️! How did you manage them?
I’m so nervous that I don’t have ROCD! 😖 I feel like I really don’t love my partner when I do! I... I feel off everyday! I feel like I am not attracted to him anymore... I.. I kiss him and I feel sick! I feel like I find every single guy attractive.... I know I love my partner! When I think about sex I feel like I don’t wanna have sex with him.. I wanna love him again!
I experience similar feelings. I would describe the feeling as "off" as well. And I find myself incredibly turned on by other men and incredibly guilty as though I'm a garbage human being.
@@statictones1268 I’ve been depressed and obsessing non stop bc I can’t seem to stop... I love my partner so very very much & feeling the way I do hurts... I hate myself so very much.... I was so much happier before I got this way... I had obsessive thoughts but I was able to ignore them. I never got help... I was so content and comfortable in my relationship.. right now I truly believe I don’t love my partner when I have a wallpaper of him in my phone.. I cry and cry...
I feel like my life was taken away from me... 😞 I enjoyed everything with my partner of course I obsessed over the problems back then too but I was still happy. I miss it... I am trying so hard to fight but I feel like I gave in...
@@ReshiramMage1992 may God provide you with peace and love. I hope you are doing better. Try to meditate to calm the obsession. Love is not a feeling... It's a choice. I think sometimes ROCD is a form of depression that gives a negative lense of your beautiful relationship. It tries to take away your joy. You deserve to be happy with him and you can do it ❤️
How are You now? You feel well Noe?
@@laurabassa6980 a lot of stressful things have been happening at once and causes me to be very unhappy… 😞 so I haven’t been well…
Just thank you! ☀️❤️
^Thx so much... Much Love to YOU !!!
When I think about my parents death I feel nothing, I don’t feel fear. I think I don’t have emotions anymore
Does wanting to be in a relationship and then changing your mind, constantly and over a long period of time, ever apart of ROCD?
Yep I think so. I have the same feelings. Just got into a relationship few days ago, but only now I found out about this ROCD. Now I'm trying to fight against the heavy anxiety from going out with her. I noticed that physical contact with her helps quite a lot, so I hope that over time the anxiety will go away, by firghting against it... So that my mind knows that there is nothing to be anxious about.
The way I feel is that I decide that I'm in love with my partner and I couldn't ever find a better man/person than him. Then a couple days later, I'm unsure about my decision and start wondering if I'm in the wrong relationship/would I cheat someday, etc, despite the fact that my partner's behavior hasn't changed at all. It's me experiencing ups and downs constantly and never feeling secure about my decisions.
@@statictones1268 same thing is happening with me🥺😞
@@statictones1268 I FEEL THIS SO MUCH
Is anyone else having bad thoughts about your partner and focusing all the time in their bad things or having thoughts like he could do that so why he does that and believe that maybe I'm not with the right person for me and I don't like his character because je annoys me all the time lately? Because I do this a lot these days and again I have a rough time thinking that it's the truth and it's not ocd.:(
I love my bf a lot.. 🥺🥺 but those intrusive thoughts are haunting me😞😞 .. i am dealing with anxiety too😵
I love my bf so much too and I like you are being haunted by these horrid thoughts. Stay strong and we'll get through it 💪☺️
Please please do afraid of cheating :(
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I don’t know if anybody has felt like this but I dealt with ROCD for almost a year and this past 6 months I’ve been dealing with my sexuality and have been indifferent about my relationship. Because of that I don’t have intrusive thoughts or doubts anymore I just know I don’t have rocd and don’t love him. I’m better with friends and family now but when it comes to my boyfriend I just cry every time I’m with him. Has anybody experienced the same?
Numbness is because of anxiety.
Kostas Tade even if I experience no symptoms of ROCD anymore?
@@marycerda958 She even mentioned that in one of her previous videos czcams.com/video/wuJcOhm4Hrc/video.html
Kostas Tade even if I don’t experience the compulsive thoughts anymore as well?
@@marycerda958 I'm not an expert but you can find your answers here "rocd reddit" it's a forum about rocd, many people have experienced that. Check it
is it normal to hear my own voice in my head tell me "i dont love her"? and for them to be statements rather than questions? im just scared that im making myself think i have rocd but in reality i dont :(
how are you know
Uff.. im so tired with all this. I.. idk i just i wanna enjoy being in a relationship..i hope its possible
I wanted to know if a decline in affection towards your partner is also a part of rocd?
I havent been to a doctor yet,its almost a year now since i started having these symptoms.And literally i had to understand it all on my own.I didn't even know what to name it.Slowly i started researching about it and it took me 8 months just to that the thoughts I have are intrusive thoughts.
Please somebody do tell me if you feel the same,if you feel that you are not as much affectionate as you were in the beginning before rocd
I feel like with rocd, slowly over time if untreated you *will* start to believe your thoughts and feelings, and the ocd will find a new reason every day for leaving, and i believe it makes sense that after a while you feel as though *you* are thinking these thoughts.
But most likely it is not you.
How are you now? Its been a while since you sent this comment 😅
@Sophwithaloaf Well now it is a part of my life 🙂
I still have these thoughts every now and then It's just that I have adjusted.
But thank you for reminding that these are not My thoughts because I had started believing so 😕
So I think I have rocd but I’m not sure, I honestly hope I do because I can’t take this anymore anymore, I’m with my boyfriend a month today, we say we live eachother and I’m 100% sure I do and I’ve told him that I do, I really feel I do, and I was fine until two days ago when I suddenly asked myself “do I really love him?” And my sister asked me “do u really love him or do u love the attention he gives u?” And honestly both, cause u need attention in a relationship, I’ve had past relationships that have been bad and I don’t feel loved except from him, anyway, I know I love him, but recently it’s been harder to say it back to him even tho I have the urge to say it, I feel like if I do I’m not saying it with 100% meaning, and I feel horrible for it, I have horrible thoughts labour other guys, I think “what would happen if this guy kissed me right now” or “that guy is cute he might be better in bed than mine” and I also feel butterflies/ small crushes around random guys, Even guys I don’t know, some I work with, I know I really love my boyfriend and wanna live my life forever with him, But my mind says “do I really?” “Is he the one for me?” “Am I really attracted to him?” But I am.. I hate this so much 😭 Keeps getting worse, I have been thinking about this and only this all day, I just thought, I want him to be here right now( he lives an hour away) but I’m a little afraid and nervous, how will I react with him now, because I didn’t have these “do I love him” thoughts before, and now I do, I feel like I need to avoid him, but I don’t want to? Why does it feel like I don’t love him or want to be with him anymore, but I do?, I was just with him yesterday, smilling, kissing, happy, Thinking about calling him love gets me anxious and I feel like, weird, Or also I just got a thought of, what if I just live him as a friend? One of the worst is that It feels like he’s just a friend, while yesterday I was fine thinking him as a bf, I used to get very jealous when he talked about girls.. but not now.. PLEASE HELP B4 I do something bad please
how are you doing now?
Are you fine?
Does anyone feel like throwing up when they get their ROCD thoughts? If so, how can I at least help my stomach even if I can’t stop the thoughts?
I get gagging reflex from it sometimes
Not every relationship is right. Sometimes it’s really for the best if two people go their separate ways even if there is no abuse: eg. growing apart/different life paths. How do you know when to break up because it’s simply not right, and when it’s ROCD? Still don’t know how to distinguish, struggling with this... any tips from the comments?🌸
*following this thread
It’s about choosing. For real, for real everyone is “wrong” for everyone.
I'd look at compulsions to better understand rocd. If you are engaging in compulsions, under the label rocd or not, you can work on that and perhaps gain more clarity. Try looking up Mark Freeman's "anatomy of a compulsion"... It really helped me break down all the coping and checking and reassurance seeking I was doing (a lot of which wasn't even clearly related to my relationship uncertainties). Just know - There is no certainty or "right" answer to find... That is the trap that will keep trying to pull you back in. It is about choosing, day by day, moment by moment to cultivate a partnership, or not.
@@lenabarker9597 FACTS, It’s a choice. There’s no magical relationship. Hard work and dedications
Can you start to believe that you don’t want to be around your partner or feel highly anxious around them?
Stefan Pietrolungo yes that happen to me.. just bc you don’t want to go outside or something and you start comparing yourself with before and after that there is no more “feelings” when you are going to see him/her.
Michelle Mejia i see her whenever I get the chance. But I think that when I’m with her my anxiety is so bad which makes me think I shouldn’t be with her.
Stefan Pietrolungo Yes! Also when you are going to see that person and you feel that you don’t want to! That happens to me and it is very common and normal too. Don’t let that thought ruin everything because I can tell you that when you focus more in the present and don’t bother to think or questioning your thought.. everything start to change
Omygod i have this to and i feel hiiiiigly anxious when im with my partner because of the ocd
Is there someone here who experiences the same thing right now or had experienced this? I really want to talk about it with someone who understands 😢
Does OCD affect dreams?
Yes! When i have ROCD i have really hard and mad dreams
I do think so.
My OCD keeps switching in between ROCD and HOCD. The most dreams I used to get were about HOCD.
Yes
i feel empty around him and then i literally vomit.. profusely
i feel like this right now.. are you any better?
@@elizabethtreadway7847 also feel this way.