WATCH THIS: If You Want To Heal From ROCD/ANXIETY
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- čas přidán 12. 05. 2021
- If you want healing, awakening & growth from Relationship OCD/anxiety and your suffering, then watch this...
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I just read an article called "20 reasons your relationship is over" and I'm feeling so triggered because i feel like I agreed with so many of them, but I also feel like it could be ERP in a sense because most of the 20 items seemed very objective.
I needed this. I’m in the middle of a relapse after an amazing weekend without a lot of anxiety. the moments of clarity remind me that i do want him and i want this life with him. he’s my best friend and the thought of losing him is terrifying. i’m in the middle of processing unhealed trauma with my therapist and my fear and anxiety is giving me a last ditch effort to leave when i know that’s not what i want
I know exactly what you feel, it’s really tough but the moments of clarity remind me it’s worth it
Having a good time with my partner always triggers me😔
This is me right now+ a few more layers.
Does your brain try to dismiss those moments where you didn’t feel the anxiety? That’s what mine is doing
I had ROCD on and off with my ex husband for 10 years (Mostly triggered by hormones when having postnatal depression) It's now triggered off again with my new partner who I have been with for 2 years. It's so exhausting 😩 I envy people who can just have relationships and not have these thoughts 😢 x
I have times of clarity seeing the real us, when I’m around him I feel anxiety and doubtS it never happened to us he was my safe place before my calm place I knew it was the rocd that ruined our relationship,
I have realized that I have ROCD and relationship anxiety a month ago. After realizing and watching your videos I got calm. I wrote a goodbye letter to my father who died 6 years ago. After that I guess I started to heal myself. My relationship is so wonderful and my boyfriend is so helpful. He is supporting me a lot. I had a healing spiritual session yesterday, she helped me to get over my grief about my father and to accept my mother even though she didn't show any love towards me. Even though I was okay yesterday before the session, now again I feel like "no you really don't love him anymore this is not rocd or something, don't make up excuses, you lost your passion and excitement you don't want to talk to him " etc... I don't know what to do right now. I just want to think it's just a part of relapse. healing session was so intense, maybe it is another reason.. I don't know but I also feel numb...
I feel like this right now, any advice
I was hesitant to click on this video because I am going through a rough patch with ROCD and I thought it would trigger me but I AM SO GLAD I did. This is just what I needed. Thank you 💕
Thank you Kiyomi. I needed this video. I just had a relapse with my rocd after going 3 weeks without it (I still had some intrusive thoughts but I knew how to deal with them). Rocd decided to attack my relationship by giving me.... Hocd..... When I had finally learned to deal with intrusive thoughts like "you should break up" "you're incapable of love" "you don't love him" it attacked me on my sexual orientation (which of course is just another way for the rocd to tell me to leave my wonderful loving relationship). I am trying to be compassionate, do exposure, to accept the thoughts, to understand where they come from. I hope I will be better soon. I am healing. I will get better.
I've experienced this exact thing, too! You are not alone. It was one of the darkest times of my life, but I want to encourage you that I was able to overcome that time, and now (even if those thoughts come) I am a lot more able to move past them. I believe you will, too!
exposure and acceptance of the thoughts is great!! it can be hard but it can help so much! I know you will get through this!!!
Same exact thing happened to me. It’s like once u get over something it moves on to the next. It doesn’t stop for me. I can’t take it anymore.
@@lilnis9 I do not know what to do. I'm so tired of all this .. I don't understand OCD or not. I'm confused if I have feelings for her, if I love her. So tired of everything .. I just want to die and that's it ..😖Perhaps this is a red flag .. my girlfriend can joke and pin up .. Now I started to get hung up on this .. when the thought comes about immediately anxiety .. Although she loves me and understands my condition, supports and says that she is with me .. I so tired i want to die
Hey how are you doing now after erp? If could help me out please
Thank you so much, Kiyomi! ♥️🤟
You are radiating so much love and wisdom. You feel like a soul sister. Thank you for your supporting videos
This video is amazing. It brings me so much peace, i've been noticing instances of pure peace trhoughout the day and those moments alone are so nice and i am so grateful when they occur.
Thank you for this
This helps even without ROCD this video is touching me on another level and I have POCD
This resonates so much, especially when you identify as a giver or achiever.
Thank you so much for this .. eventho im suffering from hocd , this was still helpful :)
I appreciate you stating that your worth doesn’t just come from productivity but that to enjoy the healing process. Healing the mind and body has its own time line.
Your videos are everything i have ever needed in my process 🙏🏻
This was so touching. Made me very emotional.❤️
I feel the same there’s so much I want to share with the world and I don’t know how to yet. It’s the most frustrating feeling in the world. But on the other hand part of me (a small part) knows that to share deep work, maturing and time is necessary... time to marinate .... but it’s hard because I see so many people making change and they’re much younger than me... and make it look so simple... then I think what’s wrong with me? Am I not confident enough etc etc. This video helped me. I trust my spirit and where I am at right now. Your message is powerful thank you. Kiyomi I watched your first AIL video today - 4 years and you’ve come SO far. Don’t forget that. I see you as a growing flower every-time I see you.
Thank you so much
Wow. Thank you. A real blessing.
What an awesome video. Thank you so much!
I’ve only had a mild form of rocd for just under two weeks and I’m so glad that I’m sorting it out quickly before it gets worse. I’ve talked to my boyfriend and he’s super supportive I couldn’t be more thankful for him. It’s hard talking about my “doubts” for us in front of him but he knows it all stems from separation anxiety and fear of abandonment. Currently getting better at realising thoughts are just thoughts, meditating and not putting emotion on any negative thoughts and avoiding rumination. The pain I felt for almost a week and a half of sadness guilt and pain emotionally over losing someone so precious hurt so bad. Already feeling a bit better ❤
aww we're happy to hear that you're feeling a bit better love and your partner has been very supportive. please know that you are not alone and you got this. -AIL Team
I started my healing journey today. Your videos and words of encouragement have helped stop the nasty, intrusive thoughts that have caused me pain for weeks now. I feel as if I am on the right path to healing. Thank you so much.
YANA love❤
Thank you so much💚✨
beautiful video, thank you :)
Thank you for your videos. I am from Lima, Peru and here I feel like I don't get the support I need. My country is so behind on mental health issues :( I have been working on therapy, but never been officially diagnosed with ROCD since therapists here think that is not a real thing, but I am sure (at least as sure as I can be) that I have it. I think that I am actually recovering, but sometimes I relapse and feel that I am never gonna be ok.
I'm from Peru too! Can we talk?
@Camila Cuevas hey, Peruvian here too
I live in France where this disorder isn't but just begins being known. I had asked to a psychic if I could do therapy with him, but he was overbooked and plus expensive. As others good therapists I think. Then I bought a book from Ali Greymond "how to heal from rocd" and since I had no money I was like "let's give it a try" after having had obeyed the advices, rules for overcoming that I felt so much better. For a long time. But now I feel like my recovery is fragile. I'm still afraid and still can't find an answer of whether this is a compulsion or not... But I wanna ask you, can we, with the biggest bravery and motivation, heal from rocd without any money. Because I don't have enough money, but I know I wanna heal so much more of the money I can earn someday.
Thank you for an answer.
Thank you Goddess!
What if you make a seperate channel about personal development and growth? 😊❤
Do you feel long distance for 18mknths and never meeting up because of finances and different countries can contribute intense rocd? I have never felt this intense anxiety before.
these comments are from people with ROCD. but what about the people who had relations with someone with ROCD
Anyone feel like this while dating your bff? I'm worried all the time. Am I lying that I'm panromantic? Do I only love her bc she loves the same things I do ....
What if i dont have money for your program but i am suffering really bad and i feel that only you could help me
You can start with educate yourself about OCD(the cycle, obssesions and compulsions) and from the free videos from her channel
I know sometimes we feel we can't do it by ourselves but basically the person who is going to heal you, is you!
Guys, tell me, my girlfriend and I are now at a distance. And it happens when the girl is not there, I start to worry, what if the feelings disappear and I cool down to her because we do not communicate? Or there is a thought that all this is tired, she is tired and it scares. Is this common in relationship OCD?
And also what kind of nervousness, discomfort and irritation everything connected with her. As if she pisses me off. Is this normal with ROCD? as if I do not want to communicate with her and it is imposing and it bothers me.
how are you doing now? i also have this fear of falling out of love when my partner and I dont meet each other daily
I struggle with libido it's been one month i did nothing :(
Try Ashwaghanda, deep breathing, and yoga.
Hi Kiyomi, I'm having trouble with my perception about my relationship. I'm really scared that I don't care about him anymore, I'm scared that when time comes we'll just leave each other...I don't know what happened, but I'm really struggling with myself, and with my relationship
Remember that Love is a choice, not a feeling or a series of certain emotions.
@@iSelf48 😭😭😭 I know..but my intrusive thoughts says so many mean things about my relationship...and I don't know what to do
@@shirayuki6119 It's the same for me :) I also have these especially when my girlfriend and I argue, but you're already on the right path! Imagine if you didnt discover that you had ROCD and just left! You didn't and you shouldn't because you chose to love him/her and you chose to stay not based on your feelings. You've still stayed even after all those mean thoughts you had, you should be really proud of that :) so many people leave something at the first problem but you didn't.
You should also remember that
You. Are. Not. Your. Thoughts.
your thought do not define who you are and I had a really hard time realizing this but it's true. Your thoughts do not mirror your personality and person overall. Everyone has some sick thoughts in their life anyway don't we? we've all thought something very wrong once
@@iSelf48 😥for now we're on a breaktime.. I'm distracting myself from thinking about everything about our relationship.. And I guess it's effective. My panic attacks stopped. I guess I'll take my time for now... I just hope that things will fall on it's place.
I’d give anything for YOU to counsel me on this topic.,
Does anyone have ROCD but also have an imperfect partner who does actually do some things that then enhance the justification of your intrusive thoughts?
I don t want to give you reassurance but everyone is imperfect. If you are not in an abusive relationship and if your partner is loving and caring then you are on the right path.
Think about it like - the issue here is the obsessiveness, control & fear it triggers in you, not really the validity of whether the content is true or not. Does that make sense?
@@yfoog yes it does I appreciate that clarity
YUP going through this now and all of the evidence and ocd is telling me guess we just aren't compatible enough because we have different communication styles and love languages/things we need to work out. Despite that I've never stopped loving her I've also never loved anymore more and last week I was thinking about our marriage and future, but now I'm surrounded by these doubts and darkness😔 the monster telling me to leave and this relationship isn't right, but I DON'T want to leave😭
I feel that. My point was “If I have ROCD, and I need to overcome it, do I want to go down this path WITH THAT person?”.
Please please someone tell me...its just a month and I feel like nothing...sometimes I don't feel anything also sometimes i feel like breaking up would dosen't scares me much 😭😭I feel like I don't care if we goes but I know I would I love him ..we've been together for 4 years and its my first time I'm feeling it...he is my love I don't want anyone else but feels like I won't be able to feel like before 😭😭😭
Going through this now too and if you have ocd it all makes sense. The issue for with ocd is I never know what to believe, ever. I don't know what is and isn't true because of intrusive anxious thoughts. I also feel nothing at times, but I also feel nothing just on my own/disconnected. I think breaking up would be the easy way out, but I'd still be suffering and I'd lose the person I love most. I'm trying to hold on too I know it's soooo f**cking hard I'm so depressed 😞
@@writingmywaythroughlife6665 if break up would be easier...why would we hold ourselves wanting to work it out...we would've done it earlier itself...I hope one day it gets better...without breaking up
@@pragyatripathi4046 hey do rocd makes you believe and think about someone? Does it says to you that you don't love your partner you love another guy but in real you don't even like the other guy
@@harleyq2693 well I think it plays with your mind..I see rocd as a monster laughing on your situation..I too feel like this sometimes but not always because as kiyomi always say that it's okay to find someone else attractive because though the other person seems attractive , you choose to be with your partner and what I believe is when it happens (finding someone attractive) while suffering from rocd your mind tries to make you believe that you don't love your partner you love someone else because rocd makes you doubt the positive things in your life and it focuses on negative part more..and and and just think of it if you really love someone else and not your partner , then why you're not comfortable with it ..why you're here if you don't love your partner..just because you love your partner ❤
@@pragyatripathi4046 Thanks it gave some relief.I think I should avoid such thoughts and do some yoda and meditation.
Anyone who's unmarried and have rocd broke up with their last partner got into a new relationship and rocd still not gone and thoughts are mostly about your ex. Anybody?..please reply I really want to talk
Hi there. I am also experiencing rocd.
@Hailey are you experiencing the same thing?
@@thelife_ofkhushi experiencing rocd but your situation is different to mine
@@thelife_ofkhushi i beleive that what you are facing right now is not ROCD. It's more like not totally moved on from your past. Same has happened to me an year ago. I broke up with my ex, been into a new relationship. Although i was happy with my present partner, i still used to get thoughts about my ex and that's completely normal. You just have to accept that your ex had shared some part of your life, so its okay to have his thoughts
All you need to learn is that you have to distract yourself by saying that its normal to get memories of my past but that doesn't mean i want to move back to my ex or i want those memories again.. It's just matter of time. You are healing from your past and that's completely normal to witness. Dont make any false assumptions out of it. Missing is normal. With time, you will not bother about your past memories anymore and eventually they will fade off. Just focus on your present and have faith in time.
@@Hailey-fc7hp thankyou so much