Why Narcissistic Abuse is a Spiritual Battle of the Highest Order

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    There is no logic to narcissistic abuse, nor is there a logical way to combat it.
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    I, and countless others, have tried this route but without success, because this is the old way of combating a narcissist and it just doesn't work.
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Komentáƙe • 358

  • @MelanieToniaEvans
    @MelanieToniaEvans  Pƙed 3 lety +40

    I hope this video helped you understand just how vital this spiritual journey is!
    Remember you can get all the details and reserve your ticket to my upcoming all-day workshop here:
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    • @self-love6065
      @self-love6065 Pƙed 3 lety +4

      Got my ticket yesterday!
      Melanie, looking forward to the second workshop!
      It was so wonderful to spend that day with you, very real! Your support means so much and I'm also doing NARP along with the work of Katherine Woodward Thomas. Thank you so much for the recommendation!
      It's so precious to be in a circle of women and receive guidance 💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖

    • @blank3097
      @blank3097 Pƙed 3 lety +1

      you are insanely attractive educated and empathetic

    • @idoloveido
      @idoloveido Pƙed 3 lety +1

      Thank you so much for sharing your truth! You're a beautiful beacon of light. Yehovah has placed light within you and I've told my sister about your channel. When she was trying to leave the narcissist she was with she had violent nightmares. This is absolutely a spiritual battle and I'm so grateful that you've shared your experience. It's helped me experience SO MUCH personal freedom. Jesus loves you Melanie. ❀ Thank you so much for being transparent, brave, and strong.

    • @idoloveido
      @idoloveido Pƙed 3 lety

      ALSO can't wait to attend the workshop!! 🎉🎉🎉

  • @maryannpetri3230
    @maryannpetri3230 Pƙed 3 lety +163

    I have tried logic and fairness with a Narcissists. After several years later, I then realized I was dealing with pure evil....

    • @gabrielapenne4702
      @gabrielapenne4702 Pƙed 3 lety +19

      The hardest thing is trying to get them to see value in the light. They don't respect it and feel it's an opportunity to exploit. So sad. That is why we have to get away as soon as we see it. It will never change. It's who they are. They don't listen to logic and they feel no need to be better. Why would they, they are able to get exactly what they want by being a monster. đŸ™…â€â™€ïž

    • @maryannpetri3230
      @maryannpetri3230 Pƙed 3 lety +4

      @@gabrielapenne4702 very true and well said!

    • @stuarttacey
      @stuarttacey Pƙed 3 lety +22

      I'm convinced narcissists are being demonically influenced.

    • @maryannpetri3230
      @maryannpetri3230 Pƙed 3 lety +6

      @@stuarttacey I completely agree with you

    • @fabianaalves9330
      @fabianaalves9330 Pƙed 3 lety +3

      @Peggy Meharry I am sorry you had to experience that with your son. You have my deepest sympathy, as i have seen that in my significant other and it hurts my soul to see it, let alone to see it in the one we love unconditionally 🙏.

  • @blackbarbie1287
    @blackbarbie1287 Pƙed 3 lety +86

    We wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities ,evil wickedness, in high places.

    • @gailrosenberg48
      @gailrosenberg48 Pƙed 3 lety +10

      True. There is a demonic element to this kind of abuse.

  • @soubfeini36
    @soubfeini36 Pƙed 3 lety +166

    spiritual enlightenment is often the byproduct of narcissist abuse recovery; it is almost like the only value for narcissists to exist in this world is to push us onto the pathway of enlightenment. it truly shows that good prevails evil; darkness exists to show us the light.

    • @dorenejohnson5794
      @dorenejohnson5794 Pƙed 3 lety +4

      Exactly, I had procured and filled my life with bullies and when the worst one of all finally broke me and I had my enlightening moment (aha) I could see it was me that needed healing, he had no problem and never saw a problem. (Duh) I still love him to death he is a great person it's just that its his job to keep his head, and like you said to keep on showing us empathists, co-dependents, and emotional leaches to find their own way to happiness. Right on Stacci I like you.

    • @renewed93
      @renewed93 Pƙed 3 lety +4

      "Darkness exists to show us the light" Yes!!!

    • @hollybland9928
      @hollybland9928 Pƙed 3 lety +1

      Thank you for this gem you shared thank you

    • @mariamagdalenamara1349
      @mariamagdalenamara1349 Pƙed 3 lety +2

      because they are in a very low dimension- they open up lightdoors and bring in- the evil- and more........thats the point- and NO what you say is absolut wring- they not push us to the enlightment- they take- . I'm a Spiritual teacher since 20 Years-. I had in1997 a Neardead exp. car excident. And I came back with a strong Message............. this women came in 2010- when I had a Speech about Plantbased Food and Lightworld.... - the Rest is a Story of 10 Years. I'll have the Gericht trial in 3 weeks -
      but I've lost everything, including my reputation. She destroyed me for a long time. But I'm still here and alive and I'm doing better. Also that I can remember everything I know and can - what I saw and God is with me. These people are LIFE AVOIDERS. She wanted and wants to prevent my last step ...!

    • @skymeadow7762
      @skymeadow7762 Pƙed 2 lety +1

      Very interesting!

  • @jimi8fun235
    @jimi8fun235 Pƙed 3 lety +83

    Never give these narcs any emotion it is what they feed off. Find the stillness inside yourself only then will you be free

    • @kawaiil4191
      @kawaiil4191 Pƙed 2 lety

      I finally found that stillness thanks to God

  • @cupsoflove1245
    @cupsoflove1245 Pƙed 3 lety +93

    When I left n really left . it seem crazy at the time . I left with a small bag of cloths to live with my mother I'm 47 btw. In a small town no car no nothing . but people have been so kind and I was so afraid of not getting a job but I have 2 interviews already . amazing support.

    • @dontbelongherefromanotherp9807
      @dontbelongherefromanotherp9807 Pƙed 3 lety +7

      That's awesome, and sometimes you have to leave everything behind to move forward

    • @dorenejohnson5794
      @dorenejohnson5794 Pƙed 3 lety

      That's awesome girl!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    • @beaty12ful
      @beaty12ful Pƙed 3 lety +1

      You will find a job for 💯 Wish you luck đŸŒč and happiness

    • @pallasathena1369
      @pallasathena1369 Pƙed 2 lety +1

      Exactly the same situation, I was basically his house servant, I poured so much into the relationship then got devalued and discarded, given a couple of days to leave, I hadn't done anything (apart from trying to fix the lack of emotions shown by him).

  • @beloveddaughter6714
    @beloveddaughter6714 Pƙed 3 lety +85

    When the devil can't get to you directly to deter you from God's purpose for your existence, he sends a narcissist. Remember the devil comes to steal, kill and destroy but God sent his son Jesus Christ that we may have life abundantly. Thank you Melanie for another informative video. Much love

    • @gailrosenberg48
      @gailrosenberg48 Pƙed 3 lety +4

      I view my 37 year marriage as a demonic assignment against my soul and my husband is a professing Christian! That is crazy-town on steroids! Out 2 years. No reasoning with him.

    • @gratefulsoul1661
      @gratefulsoul1661 Pƙed 3 lety +3

      Amen! It is all from the devil, he is trying to destroy everything because his days are short, the Rapture is about to happen. God bless and take care.

    • @fabianaalves9330
      @fabianaalves9330 Pƙed 3 lety +1

      They are poor souls, empty and lonely. We can outgrow them and apart form them. We are strong when we need to be, and this is the time to reach out for your inner being to grab and hold to that strength. 🙏

    • @squirrel9424
      @squirrel9424 Pƙed 3 lety

      @ Beloved Daughter, PRAISE THE LORD! You are referring to the only one who can help us to overcome and it is only through Jesus Christ the Son of God who is God in the flesh!

    • @armontimuzic6785
      @armontimuzic6785 Pƙed 2 lety +1

      AMEN!!!!!!!

  • @jenniferclemente1516
    @jenniferclemente1516 Pƙed 3 lety +181

    The bible says God will restore everything the devil takes from usđŸ˜„â€đŸ™đŸŒč

  • @triplekids3
    @triplekids3 Pƙed 3 lety +40

    My mom would always say that I was having a spiritual battle

  • @NoName-xy3sp
    @NoName-xy3sp Pƙed 3 lety +48

    The battle is really inside yourself

    • @gratefulsoul1661
      @gratefulsoul1661 Pƙed 3 lety

      @Linda Barnhart Yes. It's in the Word. 2 Timothy 3:1-5. God bless and take care.our Lord is returning soon.

    • @mandolaa4855
      @mandolaa4855 Pƙed 3 lety

      Yes!!

    • @sharoncorrell3819
      @sharoncorrell3819 Pƙed 3 lety +2

      @Peggy Meharry the evil is inside the Narcissist, it is the energy they feed off.

  • @audraromero334
    @audraromero334 Pƙed 3 lety +54

    Replace the word light 💡 with God and this is biblically true!! Believe me dear friends....once I realized what was happening--I had a period of numbness and bewilderment but I also had a direction and an explanation. Gods words gave me the “recipe” on how to pull the plug on the crazytown in my life. Praise God that I can now see and even laugh at the simplicity....I don’t want to insult anyone, it wasn’t always easy--when I was trying to figure grout what the heck was happening. I had many nights of crying, confusion and anger!! But the suffering and desperation also took me to a place of healing. God bless you all ❀

    • @MrFredsAdventures
      @MrFredsAdventures Pƙed 3 lety +5

      I John 1:5 - This then is the message which we have heard of him, and declare unto you, that God is light, and in him is no darkness at all.

    • @mandolaa4855
      @mandolaa4855 Pƙed 3 lety

      Did u ever express them how they make u feel?

    • @trojan403
      @trojan403 Pƙed 8 měsĂ­ci

      What was the simple recipe that God gave you?

  • @meliling158
    @meliling158 Pƙed 3 lety +68

    I was stressed so much about not losing all my money and house and everything and in the end I told myself that it’s just things. I am not going to lose my soul. And I left and it’s so worth it đŸ„°

    • @MelanieToniaEvans
      @MelanieToniaEvans  Pƙed 3 lety +6

      Well done Meli. That takes great courage xoxox

    • @oceans9687
      @oceans9687 Pƙed 3 lety +3

      Awesome move Meli! only thing to do to save yrself and heal. Don't go back ever. Huggs X

    • @fionam3735
      @fionam3735 Pƙed 3 lety +2

      Yes but we don’t want to lose our children to the dark force

  • @alicebu8698
    @alicebu8698 Pƙed 3 lety +8

    Struggling to leave a narcissist I got stuck with during the covid lockdown. Ended up getting financially and emotionally drained. Praying for us all to overcome. He says I can't leave him or he will be homeless. God help us be victorious.

    • @cynthiakolt9260
      @cynthiakolt9260 Pƙed 3 lety +1

      I pray things get better for you. My ex used to same thing to me, although i was the only one supporting a family of 4 for over 10 yrs. He had me believing I was to stupid to make it on my own. Then I decided for the sake of my own sanity and my children's well being I was going to take the chance. One day at a time.... And my children and I are thriving. I give thanks to God who gave me the confidence to move out and forward.

  • @aujkalenic4203
    @aujkalenic4203 Pƙed 3 lety +37

    I know my Heavenly Father God has created me with value that no human can take away, I stand firm in that fact.period💜

    • @monasky6693
      @monasky6693 Pƙed 3 lety +3

      I stand with you. You dont have value, you are value

    • @surprisesofjoyfulness8147
      @surprisesofjoyfulness8147 Pƙed 2 lety

      I agree! You are special,you must be, for such evil to have targeted you to take you down... What are you going to do now? How are you now? Hoping for an update 😃

  • @mamasuzy79
    @mamasuzy79 Pƙed 3 lety +33

    It just messes with my head because he uses these same types of phrases to describe what he’s doing... like he’s so spiritual and good hearted. Right after he says something so cruel it’s shocking.

    • @NeuralRetraining
      @NeuralRetraining Pƙed 3 lety +6

      The narc in my life does the exact same thing. It’s so difficult to deal with. You’re not alone.

    • @jenniferclemente1516
      @jenniferclemente1516 Pƙed 3 lety +7

      They allow themselves to be controlled by the demons who know about us (familiar spirits) and know what to say to get at us

    • @mamasuzy79
      @mamasuzy79 Pƙed 3 lety +3

      j clemente not long after we broke up, I got a random message from someone on Instagram that sent me a message from my “ancestors.” They said I had a curse placed on me as a baby and that’s why my life had been less than amazing... it was so strange. I have a private account and I don’t know who this person was. Another random message from another account came about the same time telling me that they could tell I had positive energy and light. Not long before I broke up with my ex, a random woman approached me at an outdoor event and within earshot of my ex told me she just felt called to tell me I had a beautiful soul, was trustworthy and dependable and after I said thank you, she looked me square in the eyes and said “Change is coming.”
      I know that this relationship was meant to be... it was meant to transform me and help me heal and break generational curses. If I hadn’t gone through what I went through, I wouldn’t have found MTE and wouldn’t be healing these traumas I’ve been carrying for 41 years. I am grateful. As painful and dark as it’s been at times, I am truly grateful. The light will cast out all of the darkness. 💕

    • @jenniferclemente1516
      @jenniferclemente1516 Pƙed 3 lety +1

      @@mamasuzy79 it's a blessing when people can see your light and these relationships are to teach us to trust God instead of people for our validationđŸ˜„đŸ™â€đŸŒč

    • @gabrielapenne4702
      @gabrielapenne4702 Pƙed 3 lety

      EXACTLY! That's one of the hardest things.

  • @terriwetini2602
    @terriwetini2602 Pƙed 3 lety +29

    On a bigger scale, it sounds a lot like those who are ruling the “world” as well. It’s a spiritual battle. Well get through it all, thanks Melanie đŸ™đŸŒâ€ïžđŸ™đŸŒ

  • @newlife3576
    @newlife3576 Pƙed 3 lety +31

    You can only win this war with prayer and on your knees. God rescue me from this abusive relationship during quarantine,, he parted the Red Sea and freed me like he freed his people, and got me out my Egypt. If you think you can fight this war alone and by your own strength you will be greatly disappointed. I agree completely that this is a spiritual war and flesh can only fight flesh. I’m now on a mission to bring awareness and tell my story so others know that “With God all things are possible” Matthew 19:26...and you can overcome evil and be victorious.

    • @baddiezone
      @baddiezone Pƙed 3 lety +3

      Agreed , that’s what a lot of people don’t understand. That this is spiritual, the more you try to evolve in this system while being enlightened, the devil will
      Continue to bring them your way . This is what I realized , when looking back at all my synchronisys . Once , I started praying I was able to have more control over them when I was in there presence.

    • @sweetvictory3100
      @sweetvictory3100 Pƙed 3 lety +4

      What sucks for me is he showed his true self after marriage and now I'm so sick I'm stuck, I was sick before but not like this, I originally thought god sent someone to love and take care of me, now I see the psychopath tendencies with this, need prayers as my faith is struggling bad, I don't want to die, or let the enemy win this battle, I know god is the only one that can help me, this has been so evil what I deal with, my brain has been rewired so bad thru this and dealing with. Being bedridden on top of this at 40 is so scary, I pray god will rescue me somehow. I believe this is definitely a spiritual battle

    • @baddiezone
      @baddiezone Pƙed 3 lety +3

      Sweet Victory yes exactly! You have to stay close to prayer and remember that some people are just living “ parasites “ they don’t know good or bad , so they destroy every good thing that comes their way .

    • @sweetvictory3100
      @sweetvictory3100 Pƙed 3 lety

      @@baddiezone just wish a dr didnt mess me up before all this, that's a big debilitating part of this that came before he came in my life

    • @blessedone9716
      @blessedone9716 Pƙed 2 lety +1

      Am still stuck with my 3 kids trying to get out, on my knees praying every single day, God will make a way for me

  • @angaeltartarrose6484
    @angaeltartarrose6484 Pƙed 3 lety +5

    The power of healing ourselves, allowing Spirit to transmute the depth of our hurt into wisdom, & the ensuing ability to help other people, restores balance & harmony to our situation, & we land on our own two feet.

  • @universedaimartin5234
    @universedaimartin5234 Pƙed 3 lety +21

    You said this is a calling spiritually. It makes perfect sense. I've been going thru a transformation like never before in my life. I couldn't explain it to anyone..I could only say that something inside of me was changing n I knew it was spiritual. But that's the only way I could explain it. Thank you so much for helping me understand better. God led me here btw. Such a blessing this life.

  • @EmpressKristine
    @EmpressKristine Pƙed 3 lety +12

    The police always see the narcissist as a charming, victim. I find it fantastic that they arrived to see me, POST SURGERY with 5 levels fused in my spine, and they tagged me as the "aggressor". There really is nobody to call for help anymore. Everyone thinks he is the "nice guy", because he plays to his audience. It so frustrating and now my 25 year old son, has role modeled his AWFUL behavior toward me. It is sick and I am 100% alone. NO FRIENDS I EVER HAD will have anything to do with me even if I go meet them away from this nightmare.
    The disrespect and hate is amplified and praised. I think they all belong on their own planet.

    • @surprisesofjoyfulness8147
      @surprisesofjoyfulness8147 Pƙed 2 lety +1

      I hope that you are feeling better, and having less pain ( of any sort) . Did you get away? Are you ok. now? Hoping for an update.

  • @tinamarie3240
    @tinamarie3240 Pƙed 3 lety +17

    I need this right now. 35 years married and due to my husbands rage, he pushed me down spraining my ankle,breaking wrist in 2 spots and black eye fall for on my glasses breaking. Pushing a 55 yr old woman down. Bully pos. I was actually missing him with no contact that the court issued. Thank god for this. I see the light. Ive seen the light for many years. I have support from family financially and mentally and filing for divorce Monday morning. I feel safe! I can listen to my music and sing and eat what I want.
    The roller coaster ride within the past 3 weeks is minuscule of what I’ve been through . I’m done and I’m ready to live! I’ve listened to every one of your videos and I’m excited for your workshop. Praying I don’t need surgery. I am worthy of love and loving myself. I’ve never felt a release and overall security like this. He can’t buy me with falsehoods. No manipulation. Bring it on. Everything we have is because of me! I’m the one who always have and will now truly show who’s smarter and composed.

    • @DedraAllen007
      @DedraAllen007 Pƙed 3 lety

      Narcs are part of the domestic violence circle. All physical abusers are some form of Narcs. They don't teach this. God bless and heal you dear, I have been there too.

    • @perciousmatter7001
      @perciousmatter7001 Pƙed 2 lety +1

      @@DedraAllen007 bless means b less be less i rebuke this word and please use bliss instead

    • @prahslra
      @prahslra Pƙed 2 lety

      @@perciousmatter7001 Very good point!

  • @trevorbacque8175
    @trevorbacque8175 Pƙed 3 lety +18

    It's so tough to leave the narcissistic person. I'm starting my journey of healing. I'm trying to take baby steps each day.

    • @StephenWestSyd
      @StephenWestSyd Pƙed 3 lety

      At first it is but eventually you get tired of it. I know I have and have no desire to see her again. Every time she attempts a Hoover I will future fake and tell her I’m on my way to come see her. Instead I do my own thing and just go to bed lol.

    • @fabianaalves9330
      @fabianaalves9330 Pƙed 3 lety +2

      It is tough, but you are tougher, strong, and so capable of achieving. Those who loves you is the most important support. Believe in yourself❀

  • @spiraldaddy
    @spiraldaddy Pƙed 3 lety +36

    Beautiful words - it is a spiritual battle - I have been fighting for 6 months to get my soul back.

    • @MelanieToniaEvans
      @MelanieToniaEvans  Pƙed 3 lety +2

      Seth, I would so love you to come into my one day workshop! It will help so much www.melanietoniaevans.com/digitalpass xoxox

    • @katarinadelogu7010
      @katarinadelogu7010 Pƙed 3 lety +5

      Took me 1 year 6 month to be most myself... Worst🐍🐍🐍👿👿👿 battle i have experience in my Life.... The devil, satan... Awful... 💔💔💔

    • @spiraldaddy
      @spiraldaddy Pƙed 3 lety +2

      @@katarinadelogu7010 I feel you Katarina - it feels like God is putting us to the test - but you survived it. I feel Im still in it to some degree - luckily i have maintaned no contact - i blocked her number to guarantee I dont backslide

    • @katarinadelogu7010
      @katarinadelogu7010 Pƙed 3 lety

      @@spiraldaddy yessss.. Horribel.. Satan himself "jezebel".... 2 years in dec....... Pray pray pray....... They try too destroy The soul... We have but not The empty shells they are........ The fucking monsters đŸš©đŸš©đŸš©đŸ‘œđŸ‘œđŸ‘œđŸ‘čđŸ‘čđŸ‘čđŸ‘șđŸ‘șđŸ‘ș

    • @dianablue6001
      @dianablue6001 Pƙed 2 lety +2

      Hi I’m going through the same that thing that your going through it’s been 3 months and some weeks and he’s been astral projecting to where I am and trying to get me pregnant through sex rituals how did you retain your soul. I am not pregnant by the grace of God. He has started summoning evil spirits like monitoring spirits to figure out why it’s not happening.

  • @leoniehendrickson2530
    @leoniehendrickson2530 Pƙed 3 lety +7

    Wow....when wasn't feeling well I went to the doctor and as the doctor start diagnosing me a voice said to me this is spiritual .wow

    • @leoniehendrickson2530
      @leoniehendrickson2530 Pƙed 3 lety

      @Peggy Meharry good afternoon....after I reach home the Lord took me into some books of the bible I read them then couple days after a friend of mind call me and we were speaking and she said the Lord said let not your heart be trouble and this was one of the verses I read. Yes I did I know I did because when I sat in the doctor's chair and started relating how I felt I was telling the doctor the exact words that he was about to tell me .So the doctor just sat there and stared at me. He was amazed.

  • @coachshenamajor
    @coachshenamajor Pƙed 3 lety +14

    God is the way the truth and the light. He created us in his image; Therefore each of us already has the light within we need to heal. When I believed this I was able to find freedom. Thanks again for your work Melanie!

  • @66designs37
    @66designs37 Pƙed 3 lety +2

    When I was in treatment for alcoholism one of my counselors opened my eyes to this. When we think of rulers and powers in wicked places we tend to think of the bigger picture. But his father is like mine, I didn't know about narcissism at the time. Basically he was saying that the authorities can be in your own bloodline. I started drinking at a young age due to my schizophrenic brother. I was scared and alcohol made me feel safe at the time (until it tried to destroy me on several attempts). I now realize my father was running the show all along. I'm sober now and I can still never please him. But our heavenly father is well pleased with us for fighting back against the darkness. Embrace the struggle God is using you.

  • @NeuralRetraining
    @NeuralRetraining Pƙed 3 lety +33

    Thank you for this. I’m currently healing myself from trauma and this is such a major piece of that. Sending love and healing vibes to everyone.
    Yes it is not logical! It’s a head screw. We have to remember that we are smart, worthy, and have the tools we need.
    Wow it’s sad how common it is for victims to be labeled as the “crazy” ones. We are the sane ones in a crazy situation.

    • @MelanieToniaEvans
      @MelanieToniaEvans  Pƙed 3 lety +3

      Keep going! You CAN do this!! xox đŸ€—đŸŠ‹đŸ’œ

    • @NeuralRetraining
      @NeuralRetraining Pƙed 3 lety

      Melanie Tonia Evans thank you! 😭😭😭😭😭

    • @gabrielapenne4702
      @gabrielapenne4702 Pƙed 3 lety +1

      Exactly, they prey on the most challenging emotions that all humans experience. They highlight them, bring them into your consciousness, and sew seeds of doubt and insecurity. Then blame you for being affected by their abuse. It's such a destructive cycle. The only way to stop it is to get as far away from him as possible AND to forgive yourself for letting him pull you so far away from your Truth.

  • @paulzedx636ninja7
    @paulzedx636ninja7 Pƙed 3 lety +17

    Narcissist are some of the most difficult to battle spiritually. Like in real life your mostly battling their false self, they also feed off your energy. It's a very tricky angle and has to be done with precision to beat them. 🙂

    • @baddiezone
      @baddiezone Pƙed 3 lety +3

      That’s why everytime I go around them I pray that the holyspirit covers me . Because sometimes when you immediately walk in a room , they come at you very dynamic with their words , making you feel overtaken and stuck on how to respond that’s why you know this is a “ spiritual battle “. Even when their words aren’t evil , there tone towards you is condescending it’s almost like they know from the very moment you walk in the room your a child of “ light” they waist no time trying to drain you.

    • @paulzedx636ninja7
      @paulzedx636ninja7 Pƙed 3 lety +1

      @@baddiezone They do bombard you as if they planned everything out in advanced. It can be overwhelming as their trying to make everything go in their favor. Even if it doesn't seem like it it's all one-sided to benefit them overall. I really don't like battling them however they really do have to be defeated or they'll continue on and on. 😅

  • @ncnc2880
    @ncnc2880 Pƙed 3 lety +7

    Such a nightmare. Losing my family to her lies is so painful. Thank you for this it gives me hope x

  • @kentburge6701
    @kentburge6701 Pƙed 3 lety +3

    "Personal power, authenticity and light"......none of these things can be gained through school or books or inherited or purchased.
    Your message is one of authentic gratitude from inside!!!!!
    You are a sage!!!!!! Bless you Melanie Tonia Evans đŸ™đŸ”„đŸ’Ș

  • @OceanOfLight
    @OceanOfLight Pƙed 3 lety +2

    After I thought I had healed the majority of abuse from my family of origin, living 3k miles away and zero contact for years- I encountered Narcissism in a year long "friend". I was able to feel and see the red flags pop up to the point where enough was enough and I chose myself care enough to walk away. That was the point where I realized that I needed to take my healing further and start N.A.R.P. healing modules with Melanie. It's been even more comforting and eye opening than I had originally hoped for. ( Thank you Melanie!:)) My point is- narcissists literally will keep coming in to show me my healing needs to continue until I'm fully healed. I'm so grateful to finally know the truth of this.

  • @roxanajimenez6167
    @roxanajimenez6167 Pƙed 3 lety +5

    Melanie, it's amazing how you can describe a maddening experience generated from a darkness no one else can see but you, while it's happening.. You are so right about everything. Your story provides me so much hope. The worst thing that experience does is make you doubt yourself

  • @mmclaughlin9715
    @mmclaughlin9715 Pƙed 3 lety +7

    I relate so much to what you are saying, and had an a-ha moment during the video. I think that their influence begins to act in our lives to attract more negativity, and once we begin to clear these areas, they are free of the darkness the narcs try to spread. There is now space for life force to automatically flow into these areas and begin to return things to a healthier balance.
    Thanks so much for all you do!

  • @jengardner4796
    @jengardner4796 Pƙed 3 lety +5

    Oh, I so understand!! I’m currently totally isolated, let go of my entire family, every bit of support but it wasn’t really love anyway. My only goal currently is to heal and stay in alignment t. You are so right on, don’t bother doing anything in that state of mind,/vibration, you will fail no mater what. .
    Get in the light!! That’s the only goal...
    I need help clearing though & still need to get a divorce..

    • @susannedaviau9702
      @susannedaviau9702 Pƙed 3 lety +1

      Hi Jen, I’m sorry to hear that you are totally isolated and had to let go of your entire family. I sooooo get it! I feel the same way and I am going thru the same with my own family. When the chip are down, your really get to see who is there for you and who isnt. It isnt my family thats for sure! Who has been there for me is my neighbors and one good friend. I finally set a boundary with my partner of 31 years and said “enough”. I said I love you and I’m committed to this relationship but unless you are willing to go and get some help I can live with you anymore. My partner left and never came back home. I’m currently going through a separation of property with lawyers and it is taking everything I have to get thru each day. I signed up for NARP a month ago and I do the Quanta Freedom Healings everyday where I get rid of the darkness and bring in the light. Mel is right that the only goal is to get into the light. So within, so without. Up to now I have only had all of my traumas and darkness inside and my life got worse and worse just like Mel said. I hope you take advantage of the support Mel has to offer and live the life you want and deserve. Sending you hugs from someone who cares and understands, Susanne ❀

  • @miriamking6411
    @miriamking6411 Pƙed 2 lety +1

    I’ve just experienced this shift into the light and my both narcissists just lost total interest in even contacting me. As if I levelled up to a frequency that they don’t have interest in
 so amazing x

  • @jantaylor6252
    @jantaylor6252 Pƙed 3 lety +7

    So true. Wonderfully explained. Wish I knew this 20 years ago....x

  • @vanessasouthern1792
    @vanessasouthern1792 Pƙed 3 lety +6

    I woke up in the dark in the middle of the night. Thos has come to me. Needed this. Thank you.

  • @tinalscott3444
    @tinalscott3444 Pƙed 3 lety +11

    That's exactly what happened to me. Now he's been gone for 2 yrs and I'm still so messed up and so is everything else đŸ˜„

    • @jenniferconroy4517
      @jenniferconroy4517 Pƙed 3 lety +1

      Hi , hang tough , wishing you all the best ...

    • @MelanieToniaEvans
      @MelanieToniaEvans  Pƙed 3 lety +1

      Tina, my heart goes out to you. Sweetheart this is unfortunately so common for those who have been through this. Please know there is a way to heal and breakthrough. I'd love you to join me in my free healing webinar melanietoniaevans.com/freewebinar to understand more and how by doing the work inside your body you can move out of this for real. I'm holding a live event soon, I'd love you to experience the power of this workshop to turbo charge your healing if you feel drawn towards it. www.youcanthriveprogram.com/digitalpass I promise you that you can heal and take your power back hun. Love and blessings xoxox

    • @abdulc5726
      @abdulc5726 Pƙed 3 lety +1

      Hold on and keep going x

    • @lubomirzak6787
      @lubomirzak6787 Pƙed 3 lety +1

      took me almost 4 years to recover. stay strong.

    • @tinalscott3444
      @tinalscott3444 Pƙed 3 lety

      Thank u so much everyone! It hasn't gotten any easier in 2 yrs but there's a question that no one seems to be able to answer which I feel like would help out a great deal if I could find out đŸ˜„

  • @leanned1821
    @leanned1821 Pƙed 3 lety +2

    Light is love, light is truth. Never truer words spoken. I am healing into my truth every day thanks to you. I am forever grateful đŸ™â€ïž

  • @dorinat.4182
    @dorinat.4182 Pƙed 3 lety +4

    Spiritual Adjustment - love it!
    I am at Point 0. Looking back and looking forward at the same time.
    Studying A COURSE in MIRACLES.

  • @dascapegoat1594
    @dascapegoat1594 Pƙed 3 lety +4

    Great Understanding! Finally someone who’s giving the right advice. Someone who has really had the experience and had to learn wisdom from above to know how to deal with it. Blessings to you sister

  • @elevatetogrow6710
    @elevatetogrow6710 Pƙed 3 lety +7

    This message was very nice. Thank You I needed to hear this. I am sorry to hear about your dilemma that you had to deal with. It hurts listening to your story. I hate hearing about other people dealing with the pain and suffering of the abusive attacks of the Narcissist. It is such a devastating experience. It has to stop in order to save a person's life.

    • @MelanieToniaEvans
      @MelanieToniaEvans  Pƙed 3 lety

      I pleased that it helped E T G. Please know Dear One, the greatest gold comes from overcoming the darkness xoxox

  • @Cati.Colours
    @Cati.Colours Pƙed 3 lety +7

    Mel, you are magical! Every single time you upload a video is just what I needed to hear to continue on my thriving path. Many blessing to you!

  • @jengardner4796
    @jengardner4796 Pƙed 3 lety +8

    Bless you for your work, it’s literally lifesaving!
    FYI... every narc counselor in my area was booked/full, clearly an epidemic !
    I’ll be there your in your workshop if I can manage to get set up & organized

    • @MelanieToniaEvans
      @MelanieToniaEvans  Pƙed 3 lety

      Jen hun, I do hope you can come, but if you can't- we will be sending out a replay if you have registered. I hope that helps sweetheart even if I can't see you there! Love and blessings xoxox

    • @SuperAnju23
      @SuperAnju23 Pƙed 3 lety

      Try ACA, Adult child of alcoholics and dysfunctional homes, 12 step meetings, try the non dominate hand writing.

  • @soleilmoonguy6618
    @soleilmoonguy6618 Pƙed rokem +1

    Thank you so much
 
 I wanted to come back to hear your voice. Haven’t had to watch your videos for a few years now, but you were there during the darkest days
 
 đŸ‘ŒđŸ‘ŒđŸ‘ŒđŸ‘Œ

  • @CiciLoveable
    @CiciLoveable Pƙed 3 lety +3

    I'm so glad I found you. I've been desperately searching for this type of information. The healing after...

  • @NehaSharma-wq9yc
    @NehaSharma-wq9yc Pƙed 8 měsĂ­ci

    Thank you for your existence on Earth. You saved my soul and gave me my life. . I thank your soul everyday ❀

  • @wendymccolm
    @wendymccolm Pƙed 2 lety

    This woman is a true hero, you have been helping me for 5 years now , thank you

  • @tiamaria9776
    @tiamaria9776 Pƙed 2 lety +1

    I've been searching for something to explain the crazy situation I'm in at the moment, and this resonates with me so so much, by far the most helpful video I've listened to

  • @abdulc5726
    @abdulc5726 Pƙed 3 lety +3

    Thank you for this Melanie, you are a gift x

  • @christinasusan6216
    @christinasusan6216 Pƙed 3 lety +1

    💛🙏 Thank you Mel! 1000% to infinity correct. This so called "woo hoo" has me saying Woooo Hoooo! Finally free from the confusion and pain!

  • @aimeemarsh2364
    @aimeemarsh2364 Pƙed 3 lety +2

    Thank you Melanie. This is great help. Bless you.

  • @Light-jc3fj
    @Light-jc3fj Pƙed 3 lety +1

    I've been devouring narc abuse books and videos for years. This video is the single most powerful lesson I needed to hear and learn only now I want to send it to the narcs and flying monkeys haha. I think I just have to stop the emails and accept that the more I beg the more they see me as pathetic. It does feel like a deeply spiritual journey, so happy for you and thanks for being a wonderful, guiding light to your viewers. 💗

  • @LinVE1967
    @LinVE1967 Pƙed 2 lety

    I LOVE this perspective and it so resonates with me!! I am going to try my best to stay in a place of love and light and not be so caught up in fear. Thank you!!!

  • @venuswarrior8456
    @venuswarrior8456 Pƙed 3 lety +3

    Everything comes with a price, especially those who been robbed from their Narcs all their money. So sad.

  • @Stopsuffering4all
    @Stopsuffering4all Pƙed 3 lety

    Hi Melanie, thank you for a wonderful video. It’s good to see youâ€ïžđŸ™đŸŒ

  • @lum3336
    @lum3336 Pƙed 3 lety

    Absolutely agree Mel! Thank you for being a light!!! đŸ™đŸ»âœš

  • @Ariesbabe717
    @Ariesbabe717 Pƙed 3 lety +4

    Thank you💞

  • @lauraraines767
    @lauraraines767 Pƙed 3 lety

    Such hope and inspiration this talk was today. Thank you and it's true.

  • @opendoorsbiblefellowship3935

    We don’t fight against flesh or blood but against principalities. We need God and His word to overcome it

  • @terrypoffenroth2853
    @terrypoffenroth2853 Pƙed 3 lety +1

    Thank you for the tools and help understand “What “ is happening or happened , You are very calming , Friendly listening from Canada :)

  • @loriwhite3994
    @loriwhite3994 Pƙed 3 lety +3

    Thank u dear soul, for your profound work

  • @sisid6295
    @sisid6295 Pƙed rokem

    exactly what i need to hear right now thank u !

  • @christieprescott5450
    @christieprescott5450 Pƙed 2 lety

    This is very very helpful. I will remember that I have so much strength (I believe through the Holy Spirit, personally) whenever I have to interact with a narcissist in my life. I only interact with a narcissist for brief periods of time each day, but STILL I often start to feel so powerless around them, and sometimes feel defeated and distraught for the remainder of the day. Then I'm exhausted the next day! Such a horrible, evil spirit, narcissism is! I will pray for everyone suffering with and suffering around a narcissistic demon!! Love yourself, and surround yourself with people who love you!! I'm working on that myself currently!!

  • @spagone77
    @spagone77 Pƙed 3 lety

    Thank you for this I needed to hear it

  • @deejukes6146
    @deejukes6146 Pƙed 3 lety +2

    Thank you đŸ™â€ïž

  • @aubreybuchanan7471
    @aubreybuchanan7471 Pƙed rokem

    Wow!!! Pure Truth! Thanks!

  • @evelynthompson5575
    @evelynthompson5575 Pƙed 3 lety +2

    The only way I made it through my last relationship with a narcissist, was my spiritual walk I had been working on since I was 15, is what saved me, this is so authentic to the ones who want or are working it out and walking in authentic truth which people do not want to walk out! But If they know that the truth is worth while in becoming and following g you true self that God has for you maybe just maybe people will want it more and see the reasoning in it

  • @elainieg
    @elainieg Pƙed 3 lety

    thank you Melanie, that was very inspiring.

  • @foxywhitetip7387
    @foxywhitetip7387 Pƙed 3 lety +2

    I don’t know if I should keep fighting the narc to reopen to court case to remove the 10k judgement they got against me or just walk away. Beyond disgusted

  • @theundergroundcancersociety

    thank you from the bottom of my heart

  • @titastoner81
    @titastoner81 Pƙed 3 lety +3

    I had lost my faith at 12 yrs old. Now 36, I have found God. My abuser was the sweetest love I've tasted, then in a blink the love is shut , and revealed his true from ..with any excuse to justify his rage and abusive behavior so evil and i mean SINISTER in full definition and in 3 occasions the rage showed this face expression that made him look like an actual DEMON .. When i saw that demon. I cried n cried feeling hopeless. I knew i was trapped and stuck in HELL. 😭😭😭😭 Took a while but i eventually saw what he really was. The JEZEBEL SPIRIT.. at the end when i suddenly left with no words said or looking back. He went and showed me ..he wasn't the Jezebel. Nooo .. he was tje DEVIL himself. I went through so much pain leaving him but thanks to him. He ironically made it so that i can't trust a man again. But also removed the blinding hate in my heart to show me i can only TRUST ONE. GOD! 🙏🙏🙏🙏 i lived hell, i walked thru the flames, all to find God my savior. Im still healing and believe me when i say. I know its all the power of his glory ...đŸ™đŸ™đŸ™đŸ™đŸ’ŻđŸ’ŻđŸ’ŻâŁïžâŁïžâŁïžâŁïž

    • @irisguevarez1313
      @irisguevarez1313 Pƙed 3 lety

      It is so scary when you see the demon in their faces and their eyes turn all black. My narcissist smirked at me as I cried.

  • @margaretalvarenga3573
    @margaretalvarenga3573 Pƙed 3 lety

    you're incredible i'm so grateful for you.

  • @jsl1863
    @jsl1863 Pƙed 2 lety

    Light is truth, and knowledge, and intelligence.

  • @johnbehneman1546
    @johnbehneman1546 Pƙed 3 lety +2

    Thank you, Melanie, I learned so much!!!! Thank you for sharing your gift with the world. YES!!!! I will take that masterclass with you on the 26 &27. It is time for some upgrades in my life. Yes, it is a spiritual batlet we ae in. We need spiritual tools as well.

  • @elisah835
    @elisah835 Pƙed 2 lety

    Thank you so much for this video !

  • @michaelmorgan7893
    @michaelmorgan7893 Pƙed 2 lety

    I've been noticing a trend in narcistic abuse in people who were once some of the worst individuals (criminals, drug addicts, abusers, etc) once they supposedly accept God, and get "saved", because it seems like they get worse. Then they are the ones that act "holier than thou" and start judging people because everyone else doesn't necessarily "thump their Bibles" the same way they now do. I'm not aiming this at anyone specifically, but it's an observation I've made over the last few years.

  • @kennavarela9961
    @kennavarela9961 Pƙed 2 lety +3

    There IS a key to being released from the chains of narcissistic abuse. This may be difficult, but I guarantee that once you can truly do this, you WILL be set free. Jesus said, "The kingdom of Heaven is at hand." And it IS.. the kingdom of heaven is within reach, right NOW. And the KEY to the kingdom is this: FORGIVENESS. Now, Forgiveness doesn't mean that what happened is okay, it is not. But Forgiveness does mean that YOU take on the debt, and whoever hurt you no longer owes you the debt, you don't expect or depend on them to "make it right," and you don't plot to "get even" with them. Rather, just like Jesus did on the cross as the crowd mocked him, you must honestly and earnestly say, " Father, forgive them, for they know not what they do." I truly believe that at some level, they really don't know what they're doing. They think they are so clever, but in reality, they have opened themselves to the ways of Satan. They allow him to own their lives and their ways. It's very sad.. they will burn in Hell for eternity if they don't repent! So, pray for God to intervene in their lives. You don't have to do anything more for them.. get away from them if possible. But the first step is that you have to pay a huge price of love, just like Jesus did. You must truly forgive them. I know that may not be easy, may not be possible for you in this moment. But let the seed of forgiveness be planted in your heart if you can't do it right now. I promise you, I have gone through this, and I know for certain...once you truly forgive, God will be able to lavish upon you the gifts He has been waiting to give you. The Holy Spirit will become very active in your life. You will feel that loving guidance in your every moment, and being aware of His presence, you will be so blessed that you will find yourself being thankful for having survived the experience. Forgive...that is the key to maturity, wisdom and love, and joy through the active experience of God, Jesus and the Holy Spirit.

  • @julietamalo6881
    @julietamalo6881 Pƙed 3 lety

    Thank you for this video, Melanie. God bless you.

  • @AngelKrystalStar
    @AngelKrystalStar Pƙed 3 lety +1

    Thank you. Needed this

  • @miriamking6411
    @miriamking6411 Pƙed 2 lety

    Thanks Melanie youre such an amazing mentor x

  • @monicacordelia9545
    @monicacordelia9545 Pƙed 3 lety +1

    GREAT VIDEO!!!! Thank you!!! đŸ€—

  • @jeanettewright5077
    @jeanettewright5077 Pƙed rokem

    That was really well sed. Thanku x

  • @nadirahlewis3031
    @nadirahlewis3031 Pƙed 3 lety +4

    Hello this is what i sent my ex because of her criticism and just not treating me like a human being:
    It seems like I really get on your nerves for various reasons.
    This has been a constant theme for awhile so I won't bother you.
    I'm fine with you and anyone else not understanding me, because my approval is most important to me.

  • @alcie8133
    @alcie8133 Pƙed 2 lety

    i went from thinking he was my “twin flame” to seeing that he is just a common narcissist. the only way i can do it is to continue my spiritual journey that he was a part of at one time. just because he learned from me to meditate and follow mooji, doesn’t mean he isn’t still a psychopath.

  • @desireericheymesser1951
    @desireericheymesser1951 Pƙed 2 lety

    This information is profound!!! TY!!!!👍

  • @katareenaadams5135
    @katareenaadams5135 Pƙed 2 lety

    Amazing truth thank you Melanie.

  • @yujisanotherday8543
    @yujisanotherday8543 Pƙed 3 lety

    Thank You! :)

  • @marthalouise701
    @marthalouise701 Pƙed 3 lety

    This is insane!! I had this exact experience a few days ago. I visualized the light I’d seen in my near death experience and sent everything including him to it. I literally felt and saw a man jump out of my body and run. I said stop, not knowing what or who it was because actually felt like half of my soul. And he turned around and said I’m outta here!!!

  • @sharnag6968
    @sharnag6968 Pƙed 3 lety

    Thank you 🙏

  • @Desag777
    @Desag777 Pƙed 3 lety

    Tnx fir your video

  • @sharonwallace2944
    @sharonwallace2944 Pƙed 2 lety

    Absolutely right!

  • @ravelyetman9992
    @ravelyetman9992 Pƙed 3 lety +1

    Thank you I have been waiting for you, this is what I need to hear I'm currently battling a narcassist. I kno its a spiritual battle but I can't really find no one to touch on it and explain how to fight it besides prayer i need to know whats going on.

  • @ThesySurface
    @ThesySurface Pƙed rokem

    THIS đŸ™ŒđŸœ

  • @pallasathena1369
    @pallasathena1369 Pƙed 2 lety

    Yes, trying to live two lives here. My normal everyday work and people and maintenance of "everything is fine", against this dark horrible behind the scenes craziness of an ex partner who seems to think he can try and step in and out when he feels like it. 6 months after cold and twilight zone discard, being thrown out for no reason. Now I am having the weirdest nightmares and dreams, some seem like warnings from my deceased father. I am desperate now for a normal human life.

  • @starrsaenz5472
    @starrsaenz5472 Pƙed 3 lety

    I'm GRATEFUL too

  • @PreciousRegalos
    @PreciousRegalos Pƙed 3 lety

    I'm dying inside - my 14-year-old daughter is practicing Wicca, "working with" gods such as Apollo, Freyja, and even Lucifer! On TikTok before I was blocked, I saw her with her altar in her bedroom at her father's home. Unbelievably, he originally "fought" for custody because I was not sending her to a private Christian school which she no longer attends.

  • @faye9973
    @faye9973 Pƙed 3 lety

    Love love love ( Again yes please ) đŸ„°

  • @boudoirmelbourne
    @boudoirmelbourne Pƙed 3 lety

    Love ya Melanie

  • @kc8639
    @kc8639 Pƙed 3 lety +3

    I'm in court right now fighting for my survival because my X narcissist had me arrested because I broke up with her. This is the 3rd time she's tried to have me arrested when I've broken up with her. Now, I'm facing three counts against me because the cops bought it this time - 2 previous they did not but she still does not get in trouble for using the police to try and get me arrested, and now she's bullying me into confessing to her to made-up bullshit story. It's absurd and I hate this. I can't sleep. I feel so afraid of her. She will not go away.

    • @MelanieToniaEvans
      @MelanieToniaEvans  Pƙed 3 lety +1

      Bull Falls, I'm so sorry you are going through such a difficult ordeal. Please sign up for my Free 16 Day Recovery course www.youcanthrivebook.com/freecourse so you can understand more and take the first steps for your healing. My free healing webinar melanietoniaevans.com/freewebinar will take you through the healing process that is Quanta Freedom Healing so you can experience two shifts in your body to start gaining some relief. Please Google my name and 'smearing' to grant you deeper insights too to help you navigate this. Love and blessings xoxox

    • @kc8639
      @kc8639 Pƙed 3 lety

      @@MelanieToniaEvans - Thank you. The continuous nausea in my stomach is off of the charts. This has to be one of the most powerless situations I've ever been apart of.

    • @MelanieToniaEvans
      @MelanieToniaEvans  Pƙed 3 lety +1

      You are so welcome, I cannot encourage you enough to sign up so you can start your healing as soon as possible hun xoxox

    • @kc8639
      @kc8639 Pƙed 3 lety

      ​@@MelanieToniaEvans - All signed up for the first course. Looking forward to regaining my life again. I've suffered from PTSD for just over 19 years now. On September, 15th 2001 I found my dad dead from a self inflicted gunshot wound. Needless to say it's rocked me to my core for years. Conincidentally this event with my x-girlfriend happened near the anniversary of my dad's death which no matter what year it is, the pain is always there. The PTSD from that event (dad) is almost identical to the feelings I'm getting from this event with my X. The same helpless feeling. I'vd held guilt about my dad for these 19 years and just recently I released some information from my head that nobody in the family knew about and the guilt I carried with feeling almost responsible for dad's death. It's taken 19 years to tell this. It's time to go another direction. I'm susceptible to really mean women it seems because of.....whatever it is that is wrong with me. These are the things I don't know yet. The pain is always there and now I feel it like no other. 2020 has been one tough year on this empath.

    • @kc8639
      @kc8639 Pƙed 3 lety

      @@MelanieToniaEvans - I am enrolled. Thank you from the bottom of my closed off heart. During the module it reduced my pain on my heart from a 10 to almost half. Seriously, it was beautiful. I'm done being a victim. I am going to take control of my life. I love you!! Thank You!!