LOUISE THOMPSON: THIS WAS THE BEST AND WORST DAY OF MY LIFE
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- čas přidán 6. 06. 2024
- Louise Thompson joins Jamie Laing on Great Company.
TW: This episode contains graphic descriptions of birth loss, trauma and PTSD
Life-threatening haemorrhages, almost dying on the operating table, and suffering with post natal depression, Jamie sits down with his old friend, Louise Thompson to simply ask, How are you?
Since growing up together on Made in Chelsea, Louise’s life drastically changed in November 2021, when she gave birth to her son, Leo, in a complicated emergency C-section - a day she called the ‘best and worst day of my life’. Louise opens up about the moment she thought she had died and the devastating fallout, both physically and emotionally following that time.
This interview is raw and open, but shows the strength of human resilience, and the love and admiration between old friends whose lives have taken turns they’d never have foreseen.
00:00: Intro
00:10: Me and Jamie’s first date on Made in Chelsea
00:35: How I am feeling now
05:00: Not being put to sleep during my emergency C-section
10:10: My miscarriage and the anxiety that came from it
12:10: Escaping a fire at my mums house weeks before my birth
17:05: Disassociating from my body after Leo’s birth
23:40: My traumatic birth experience
30:10: Experiencing a serious haemorrhage just after birth
33:15: Suffering with PTSD
33:45: Being resilient through it all
36:55: The impact on my partner Ryan
41:50: Reflecting back on Made in Chelsea
45:30: Having my colon removed and getting a stoma bag
54:40: Discussing my book ‘Lucky’
55:55: The final eight questions
1:01:10: Outro
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Jamie is an insane host!!! Such a gift. He's such a warm, empathic, and compassionate person. I love how he allows his guests space to talk and goes with them rather than to his agenda. Beautiful to watch. Louise is also so brave ❤
Jamie is so beautifully compassionate. We need more men as emotionally intelligent as him! Great to see Louise doing well🥺💌
Jamie is a natural at this. He was always my favourite MiC guy. Good luck and every success in this endeavour. 🌟
I always thought he was a bit of a tw*t in MIC but since he's been with Sophie and left MIC he's definitely improved
Jamie is so good, obviously really cares and really listens. The therapy he's had shows because he's so self aware and able to put himself in the place of others and connect with them, It's lovely; thanks Jamie! 💙
Jamie you handled that with such care and kindness for Louise. What an incredibly tough time she and her family have gone through but it’s so nice to see her smiling and she definitely has her sparkle back. Your friendship now is so refreshing and genuine and that shows in this interview. Congratulations to you both that was informative and I’m sure helpful to so many people.
PTSD is really resolvable with a good EMDR therapist. You can.
Jamie, you held space for Louise so beautifully and empathetically here. I really enjoyed this episode, despite the heaviness of what Louise has gone through. Beautiful. More power to you both.
This was lovely to watch, really nice to see old mates get together and speak about their lives so openly.
Listening to Louise’s story around her experiences with healthcare, practitioners’ attitude and behaviour makes me incandescent with rage. I and my mum, and friends and acquaintances have had so many nightmares around NOT BEING LISTENED TO. It got so bad at one stage I started doing research into patient-doctor communication, and even spoke with a director of our Clinical School. Then my mother had a medical accident that nearly killed her, and I suddenly became her carer, so everything got shelved. I’m struggling with doctors now, and still don’t know how to communicate effectively without getting steamrollered, gaslit, bullied, silenced, … There’s so much to say on this subject.
In parallel, I’ve had generalised anxiety and panic disorder and depersonalisation since I was about 4. It’s terrifying. In fact, it was listening to Jamie, on a CZcams video about 7 years ago, that helped me get over it.
So much to say on all of this, too much …
Yes, Louise and Jamie are both privileged and relatively wealthy, but that doesn’t mean they can’t feel.
Jamie is so lovely, he has a great way of letting Louise tell her story but he tells it back so that the listener has a good understanding of the context of what she went through. You can tell he genuinely cares and feels for her, and he has a great attitude in letting her tell her story how she wants to tell it. I am reading Louise's book and was shocked by what she went through and the psychological trauma she has been left with. I felt the same way giving birth, no one took any notice of my wishes or birth plan, I was not listened to, I was made to feel weak when I asked for an epidural and ended up with a forceps delivery. We need to do better for women, if a c-section is what they want why are they being denied it? To save face for the NHS? I wish Louise all the best and hope she can draw strength in her recovery. Thank you to Jamie for another amazing interview.
So lovely to see Louise and Jamie back in the same coversation and how much they care and get on! A lovely friendship.
Pregnancy and the state of the NHS is just too terrifying. Bless Louise, this was such a great conversation. Jamie is so empathetic and an amazing listener. Thanks so much for talking about depersonalisation too. Xx
I had a traumatic birth 30 years ago and never had another child. The trauma does go, Louise, and everything can be normal again if you just choose to live your life and stop dwelling on what was. Now, if I think back to that time all I feel is a small wince and then I move on. Stay strong and know that if you live life looking forward you can overcome trauma and reclaim your life. xx
I totally agree. I believe you can look back, but don't stare.
Yes but they live in the rarefied atmosphere
I think her story goes beyond traumatic birth, how dismissive of you. Similar to people telling me not to "lean into the grief" after my mother died traumaticaly, just not helpful at all...
Jesus, poor Lou! She's been through hell and back. Well done to her for getting through it
The medical establishment is so arrogant. It's really good that this is being talked about as there's so little discussion around women's issues, peri natal, birthing and postnatal.
And great to raise awareness on ulcerative colitis, a really debilitating illness. I think Louise is very strong, selfless and well done to her for helping other people who might be suffering similarly.
This podcast episode is really important. Thank you both
Great episode, Jamie is a really good podcaster and gets the most out of his guests. Poor Louise has been through so much. It's good that someone well known is willing to speak openly about bowel issues
Big Kudos to Louise for so vulnerably sharing what she's gone through and the fallout from all of those experiences.
That's a difficult enough thing to do privately nevermind publicly.
You're an outstanding and amazing woman Louise.
Lots of love to you and yours going forward.
Jamie another excellent interview.
I love your energy and your empathetic , caring heart 💜
I had a very similar experience in childbirth. I started off labouring at home for 18 hours until reaching 9cm.. was rushed to hospital & ended with an emergency c-section that went wrong. Luckily my baby was fine, but I wasn’t. They worked on me for 4 hours whilst awake and feeling everything. But my partner was not aloud in the theatre with me, instead on his own looking after our baby thinking he was going to have to face being a parent without me. It was as a terrifying time! I’m grateful for Louise being able to open up about this subject so I don’t feel so alone, but also it’s scary how many women have been through similar!
Louise, you spoke so beautifully about everything you've been through. Your resilience, emotional intelligence and poise when telling your story is remarkable. Wishing you all the best moving forward. Jamie you're such a lovely kind friend and amazing interviewer x
Thank you for having this conversation. It’s so important and relatable for those of us living with trauma, and those wanting to understand the impact it has on us and everyone around us.
Blood hell, this was a really emotional listen. What trauma Louise and her family have been through, just heartbreaking. What a phoenix she is. Well done for getting through all that and coping with the inevitable life altering aftermath. 🤗
Jamie, you are such a wonderful interviewer; you really grasp the poignant details of conversation and listen so acutely. Louise, I’m so , so sorry for what you have endured but am so, incredibly proud of your vulnerability and honesty. You will help so many people whom feel isolated in their experiences and suffering. Such wonderful insight and bravery❤
Amazing how your life can change wjth a few circumstances.great to see these two together. Wonderful interview
What a fantastic interview, Louise your story will help so many. Wishing you and your lovely family much happiness and health. Jaime’s always been my favorite cast mate on MIC. He’s such a kind, empathetic sole. We need more people in this world like him. ❤😢❤
Thank you for this. So raw and honest. I've 'known' both of you since the early MIC days, and had a baby 2 years before Louise, so always felt I could even more relate (I'm obviously not implying to know and fully understand what you've been through, but I can emphasise with you). I've followed your story and recovery, and I just wanted to say thank you for being so open about your struggles, I think it will help a lot of people, even if they're experiencing other difficulties. It is so great to see you fighting back and coming out at the other end
So inspiring. What a impactful yet calm conversation. Well done louise x
Well done Jamie. Another great interview. Lovely to see your friendship. I went through the same birth you did Louise but luckily I did birth my baby but it left me with neck pain for life. I was traumatised for years and could not watch a birth on tv for at least 10 years. So Happy that you are in a much better place. X
Good to see these guys back together, they have been through so much together and separately. True friendship. Amazing , moving discussion.
Wasn't sure i was going to watch this one. I am so glad I did. I had no idea about Louise's story since leaving MIC. I am amazed at her resilience and can completely understand how overwhelming being in a hospital can be. The one time you have to fight your own corner but have no ammunition left against well-meaning but over bearing medical professionals can be demoralising and leave you questioning your own mind. I've had heart disease for 12 years, and although i am incredibly grateful for all the treatment I've had, I am so tired of medical procedures. But in the words of Roland Keating. Life is a roller coaster just got to ride it.
Loving these podcast
Paloma
Jo & lousie are far most my favourite
Wht a lovely place to be walking my dog with my headphones on listening to these wonderful honest ppl 🙏😊🙌
Well done Louise for doing this interview ❤ I had to take breaks even listening. I can’t imagine how hard it was to endure it and speak about it. U deserve to be heard and for this not to happen again to anyone
Downloaded the book on Audible! Unbelievable experience Louise has been through, she is so amazingly strong and Jamie’s understanding and empathy is wonderful as always x
Working as an anaesthetic ODP, I pride myself with the communication when your in an emergency. But sometimes its just all hands on deck. I dont want to say its nice to hear it from the other side, however, its definitely useful. I have only witnessed two cases that ended like yours and they were very scary, organised ans controlled, but hours pass like minutes while we struggle to do everything required. Post partum haemorrhage are the thing we dread the most in theatre
I never thought i would be saying this but Jamie would make a great Therapist
Such an incredible women! So inspiring. She has gone through so much and to be this positive and strong. Wishing her endless success and happiness. X
What a remarkable. Strong lady. Louise, take your mum's words with you always through life, because she was so right. Very touching,personal, heartbreaking subjects you covered, I pray 🙏 moving forward life is more gentle on you. Jamie is the most compassionate soul. What a wonderful person he is. ❤
Wow, just in awe of who Jamie is now. Struggle to watch Louise’s stories due to my own trauma but he has such compassion, remember these two well from MiC days and you can tell he has empathy from their relationship. He has made her feel safe. When he tells her to fck everyone and say her story. Good for you.
Sending you two friends LOVE. I spent years in that dissociated state, every minute of every day terrifying. Crohn"s disease,, depression ontop. Very Best Wishes x x
I'm glad Louise is bringing awareness regarding PTSD. I was misdiagnosed for over a decade with post-partum PTSD, by a complete charlatan Psychiatrist, working for the NHS. It's still not on my medical records after 2 GP's confirmed it. I'm now contemplating a legal medical negligence claim. My life could have been so much different, if I knew what was actually happening to me. I've had to learn everything for myself, as a single mum without any support.
Wow. This was amazing to watch and listen to the storey was so traumatic and James gave her the space to be so valuable ❤ Big thank you to you both xxx
Always been a fan of Louise. And Jamie. And all the original crew. I love whenever I hear the updates on all, even though Louise's story is a tough one. All the best to her onward and upward.
they have a beautiful dynamic
Louise, what a Gal!! Jamie, wonderful interview, you are a pleasure to watch, I admire this woman so much, what power she has in sharing these exiperences and living to tell the tale. Many blessings to her and her amazing family. ❤
I’m so sorry to hear about Louise’s story…😢
Louise your experience will help others in the future. This will pass your memory soon…we all are evolving spiritually…bad memories will be forgotten more easily. 🙏🏽🙏🏽
Jamie you’re a really great interviewer , you bring out the best in your guests ❤
I have been following her journey, she is amazing and a fighter ❤️ thanks for sharing ❤
I’ve always liked Lou on MIC and more so now since she has been so open about her health with her birth experience. Like Jamie said the resilience she’s got is out of this world.
Best episode up to now, loved this one.
What a podcast. Thank you both xxx
Thank you for sharing. I could listen to many more hours of the two of you
Thank you to Louise for sharing 💫
I had horrendous births. Especially the first one. Both emergency c sections. But, with my first I was messed around. I had pre eclampsia and she was breach. They induced me and my body shit down. I remember saying to all the staff as they rush my signature and carted me off to theatre, if this doesn’t work, thanks for trying. I thought I wouldn’t make it. Thank you for sharing and I’m glad you’re on the mend xx
Well done Jamie for this interview with Louise. Highlighting the plight that many women have experienced and suffered. Unfortunately the NHS has changed over the last decade. They’re doing their best I know but it’s just not as good as it used to be. There should be compulsory therapy and hypnotherapy for this trauma. Keep on trucking Louise you are doing very well. Well done Ryan. ❤❤
Fantastic podcast/interview!
Its so so good to seeing you doing so well Louise you absolute sweetheart ❤❤❤❤❤
Jamie is so reassuring it’s lovely!
So sorry Louise ❤ I wish you the best in life X
Truly amazing and still a gorgeous person. Wishing you a future of health and love. 🥰
Beautiful ep Jamie, love you both ❤
What a very brave person you are God bless you and I hope all goes well for you in the future
Love watching this! Old MIC moments.
I feel for her so much ❤I went though a really bad birth too, my baby was find but I wasn't.
My daughter is now 18 but I'll never forget the trama from that time and I couldn't put myself through it again.
Also I have crohn's disease which happened 9 years ago so many similar things happened it's crazy I thought it was only me!
Thank you for your help and story ❤❤❤❤❤
Brave girl, wishing you every success with your book x
Im really enjoying this podcast, Jamie has such a great way of getting the best out of people even when recounting such traumatic or life changing experiences. What A little sunflower! 🌻
Louise is so brave, what a brilliant role model for people today! She’s been through so much that could break a person and shes still here fighting and looking so happy and healthy. She’s obviously showered with the love and grace of a fantastic family and deserves this second chance!❤
I think when she touched on the fact that at one point in her life abs we’re super important and she looks back at that time from a really different place - really shows the transformation of adolescence turning into womanhood. Something I never understood until I gave birth myself.
Life is beautiful and so worth it, through pain, the superficial capitalistic set up of today’s times because deep down , humans can be wonderful and powerful.
Tldnr great vid 😂😊
Love Jamie and Louise , great Podcast , keep moving forward Louise you’ve got this❤️
They really have Sucha beautiful friendship and chemistry
Louise is so amazing
What a horrendous time she’s had. I was in the camp that she was a complainer but when I hear her story I feel DESPERATELY sorry for her. I’m sorry Louise 😢
What she said about her brain just scrambling trying to think of any way it can survive is so accurate as that is exactly what the brain does.
Jamie did great here, really gave her Space to just talk.
Yes the best therapy is talking to strangers! ❣️
Ah Jamie! You’re so lovely and empathetic! And Louise is so real!
Great interview. I too got IBD during my last pregnancy. Go Louise ⭐️
Great podcast. I love you both. Louise you are amazing and I hope you have a really happy future. Jamie fantastic interview. I’d love you to do a podcast with Ryan for his side too x
Oh yes what a great idea - hadn’t thought of that but yes would be great to see Ryan’s story shared too
please add the links to the description. i keep looking (in different episodes) but then the links to the things you talk about aren't there
Through the filter is depersonalisation / derealisation, extreme dissociation caused by immense overwhelm. The problem is that you’re almost TOO sane, in that you are hyper aware of everything. Very scary, but for anyone going through it, you will get out of it. You’re not stuck even though it feels like it. It takes time and there’ll be ups and downs but busy your brain to stop thinking about it, do jigsaws, learn a language, anything , go for walks, take magnesium, vitamin b and omega 3 and stay off notice boards talking about it. You’ll get out of it and it will fade away
a strong feeling of suitability for a particular career or occupation.
I'd be interested if it was formally diagnosed as post partum psychosis because a very similar experience happened to a close friend of mine. The trauma of her giving birth caused her to essentially lose her mind for a period. Just so awful what new mothers go through in silence.
Just love your podcasts.
He is so kind and thoughtful to everyone.
Amazing and strong women ❤❤❤❤stay blessed Louise🙏🙏🙏✨✨✨
This made me think of the woman giving birth in Gaza and what they must go through with no hospitals or medication :(
I’ve got diverticulitar disease and I’ve nearly had accidents I got told I just have to live with it! Honestly it’s not a nice experience picking up my daughter and worrying I’ve going to have an accident! It’s so awful!
I hope writing the book helped process everything ❤
Size of father to mother, even a dog would of been seen as a risky birth. Poor Louise, she was like so many of us pushed into what was best for the nhs!
Loved made in chelsea & most of cast. Sadly never warmed to Jamie's wife. So glad that they are happy though😊
I always loved Louise on MIC she's an angel
I’ve got diverticulitar disease and I’ve nearly had accidents I got told I just have to live with it! Honestly it’s not a nice experience picking up my daughter and worrying I’ve going to have an accident! It’s so awful! Me and my daughter were blue lit to Southampton I didn’t realise how ill I was! It’s scary
Love to you Louise 💖💖💖
I like him as a podcast host.
Pregnancy in England sounds completely different and horrendous to here in Australia 🇦🇺.
Can someone explain why she still haven’t sued that clinic or doctors?
Love Jamie👌
I lost my baby at 16 weeks, lost a Fallopian tube as well. She was named Lucy
So sorry for your loss of Lucy 🧡
So sorry for you loss of Lucy. I lost a baby at 8 weeks. I called him Joshua. I planted a flower in my front garden for him. He will always be in our lives xxx
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Do you mean dissociate or disassociate?
This is making me so angry what the f**k were the maternity staff doing had 2 back to back labours which were hell first one being 32hours as soon as they saw Meconium was panic stations
Thank goodness she didn’t have a home birth!
I’ve always really liked Jamie but Louise wasn’t a nice person on MIC at all.
She treated people like crap.