HOW TO DEAL WITH NARCISSISTS | the signs, healing and how to respond | in dating, friends & parents
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A narcissist doesn't want to discuss their actions. They want to provoke your reactions. So they can use your reactions as distractions from their actions.
FACTS!
So true
This is absolutely true. Never expect these people to take accountability.
Omg so true 👍🏻 😮😢
Shoutout to the fellow people out there with narcissistic parents, you are valid & just know you aren’t alone and that it gets better eventually.
Thank you
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thanku
Thank you ❤
Thank you ❤❤
BEWARE OF THE NARCISSISTS!!!! RUN!
What if I myself is narcissistic
THAT GOT ME
same girl@@shivanipokhriyal8713
I was in talking stage/relationship with covered narcissist, and almost all the signs were true. Actually I have ended it few days ago, as just u told I was questioning if it was right or wrong, we had so much good time together... and also he was very offended by my self confidence, he was telling me that "u love urself too much" as if it triggered him. I'm so happy and grateful that I ended it in the very beginning, because I was getting attached to him. But I have him on my Instagram right now, he is watching my stories and reels. Should I block him or delete?
@@jeyjeyh9933 block + delete. Narcissists will ruin your life, so glad you got away from him!
The fact that there are so many of these narcisists are out here is such a shock. And, you don't even realize it untill the damage is already done.
Omg, second I became confident ppl started calling me a narc, now that I think about it was just their projections. Never losing myself again. Don't place your self perception in the hands of anyone. Ever...
Know yourself
I get called selfish js bc I want to be w myself in my room like
I was called boring but that was the time I felt to most calm and peace with myself.
same, but with my ex-friends
@@YasminF89 my parents call me weird crazy and insane bc “I sit in my room all day “ ok and I feel content and happy !
@@olajezewska1311 as long as you are happy 😊That's important no matter what people say.
I told my narcissistic mother to knock on my door before coming into my room. She said “I am your mother, you came out of me and you’re living in my house”, they will constantly break boundaries so there’s no way to reason with them (I just lock my door and tell her she must learn how to knock or else I’ll keep my room locked forever).
She also tells me to stop spending my money on my solo dates, she acts like I’m spending her money. No I’m just not stingy like you and I don’t live with that scarcity mindset, I also love myself enough to spend money. They will constantly project their insecurities onto you even if they make it seem like they are doing it for your sake. Don’t fall for this
You go girl 🎉🎉I love you ❤️
Omg I had the exact same experience…
they make me feel guilty of my actions everytime
I literally NEEDED this. I've been manipulated way too many times and I can GUARANTEE YOU that my school is FILLED with narcissistic people!!!!
I can't relate moreee 😭
GIRL PLS GET TF OUT OF THERE !!, I was in a school where there were SEAS of narcissists and it destroyed me, You don't have to put up with that, stay as far away from that school as possible.
even in college
Fr IVE this one guy in my class who’s such an attention seeker he literally said that he thinks he’s perfect that’s all I need to know
ikr 😭😭😭😭😭😭
Ya. Allah....i was just thinking about this topic and now its on CZcams.... I can't thank allah enough ❤
It's not easy. May Allah help you and grant you comfort ❤
As someone with a narc parent I always used to think that I was the one in the wrong becuz no one ever validated my feelings and they never holded accountability, ur video makes me feel so validated. Thank you Tam ❤️
Fr they made me think that “ I wasn’t enough “ to the point that I wanted to die luckily I’m out of that
🥺🥺♥️ they'll get their karmas. We'll get ours❣️💗🌸
@@kashishagrawal3716 Thank you but both my parents have also gone thru stuff in their childhood they don’t need anymore pain in their life. They have traumatized me but I still love and appreciate them, forgiving them and seeing them as flawed people has helped me move on more than holding anger. I want everyone to heal 💙💙💙
And then the fact I felt I I don't deserve love but they do love ME. How mind-blowing is thattt
This hairstyle look so cute 🥺❤
I LITERALLY NEEDED THIS CUZ I DUMPED MY NARCISSIST EX A WHILE BACK AND WAS STRUGGLING TO GET OVER HIM. THIS IS LITERALLY A GODSEND OMG💗
You got this! Its hard but you deserve someone way better. I wish you the best on your healing journey 💛
You know its the same thing im going through i was also struggling to get over him after dumping him. This vid helped me alot❤ thanks to god for perfect timing
After 3 years you'll be fully fine🤗 lots of healing to you❤️ I've also completed my 1st year and 2 months
22:13- i just realized (idk if im correct) but when we have to perform a certain 'task' to get the 'love' of our parents, we start thinking that way- that only by doing what others tell us to do and not what we want or feel comfortable with that we can 'earn' the love of others. its so sad how most of us feel that way 🥺. butttt on the other hand we have our queen tam to help us through this so realistically 💗💗
Nah fr and on top of that endless expectation like u could be “ normal “ and “nice “ and “have gotten up early all week “ but then they’d give out to u abt ur room b if ur room is clean than it’s “ why aren’t u excercising constant endless expectation and nit picking that’s y I laugh when they complain abt how “ nothings do e “ yh maybhe bc u nit pick 24/7
OMG Tam... I'm convinced you can read mind😭😭😭
Pls make a video on
1. how to be mysterious
2. How to always be put together/ how to always look polished
She’s not gonna make a vid on how to be mysterious bc she’s loud and an oversharer (she said thst herself )
If you are always trying to get ppl to perceive you as always put together where is the personality? No one is always put together and that’s okay also I do agree she won’t make a video of being mysterious bc that’s not who she is so how cld she teach that
being "mysterious" is the internet shit. don't try to be that way if you naturally love talking to people. just be real & simply appreciate people & love without holding back any feelings in order to appear mysterious to attract people. just keep your personal life private & don't whine all the time & that's enough mysteriousness. because i doubt anybody would be truly attracted to you if you tried to become all mysterious. we need some sort of bonding of emotions & experiences as humans to be close to others, if you don't give others that, they won't like you (persephonesmind/blood whatever her channel is made a video about this & mentioned the same point)
@@regulusthestar thank you😊💕
@@regulusthestar exactly
This woman really knows her job. The reason is, I suffered with narcissistic people literally all my life until this time. My mental health wasn’t good enough to handle it. But right now, thanks to Tam, I started my healing journey and I feel relieved that I actually made the right choice. Tam if you’re seeing this, I really thank you and appreciate you from the bottom of my heart 💕💕
I was friends with a narcissist all throughout high school, they went from screaming at me and shaming me to love bombing me in the matter of an hour, they made comments about my appearance or some things I said, but covered it all with a silly laugh. They literally had no boundaries and had no shame in guilt tripping me or giving me the silent treatment, but acted like a bestie to everyone else (even teachers, even my MOTHER), they were selfish and entitled, they would literally talk shit about some people and then love bomb them moments later. They threw tantrums like a fucking toddler when someone tried to stand up for themselves (including me), but I always ignored those signs because they were there for me and I felt bad about their traumatic past, and most of the time I felt like I deserved that treatment. I lost it when they made a comment about how I looked like a sl*t in a certain outfit I was wearing at school one day, I started giving them the silent treatment, and when they realised I was ignoring them and lying to them, they got mad at me and quite literally talked shit about me to one of my closest friends, thinking I would never find out. Getting rid of them was the best thing I ever did for myself.
They're so vile! A psycho guy who won't stop stalking me (not the threatening kind, but the vomit-sleazy kind), when I presented him with evidence of his obsessive lies, he literally threw himself down on the end of his bed and regressed into a 2 year old. It was the weirdest thing but also the catalyst that made me run. I will manifest his prosecution in the coming months!
When you said that a person reveals themselves during arguments is so true. Yesterday I made a mistake and my father screamed at me. The mistake I made was big and I get it but telling me that I am an ungrateful and bad kid just because I didn't Thank him on my Birthday was so unnecessary.He didn't even bothered to wish me on my Birthday and I felt upset but all my friends made me feel more special than he ever did. He can talk to me with maturity but he didn't and started silent treatment. I also gave him silent treatment to avoid his comments. I didn't feel anything even though he said horrible things to me because I was observing his reactions and how messed up he is in himself. This made me understand it was never personal.
We are close to 1 million family 💅
Desi girls will relate to the parent stuff... Think what life might have been for older women in our culture if they had this video💕 Blessings to you Tam🪽
Family?My whole ancestry is narc ..they don't even deserve me
@@shrutijogi677 I def feel you on this.
You're right and it's still happening to younger generation women. Hope we'll break this cycle.
@@lisala7178 so true. we can be the cycle breakers 🫶💪
Especially the eldest daughters and only child ones
the most painful thing that happened to me was when my mom gave silent treatment for her bs when I pointed it out. It literally made me go insane and I no longer want to share the same roof as my parents cuz I can't take it anymore! It's just too much for me. I really hope I can move out as soon as possible so that I can enjoy myself, and my independence, take care of myself and take healing to the next level.
2:30 signs
4:24 #1
5:30 #2
7:08 #3
9:32 examples in a romantic relationship
19:34 examples in friends and family
27:09 how to avoid & response
27:17 #1 understand what draws a narcissist in the 1st place
28:40 #2 start judging ppl by their self esteem
30:06 how do you response to a narcissist
32:53 healing
33:18 step #1
35:07 step #2
36:13 step #3
37:11 step #4
37:36 step #5
38:17 step #6 (Tam's fav)
You‘re such a king / queen
I discovered your channel when I was getting ready to leave my 3 year relationship with a narcissist. Your videos helped rebuild my self confidence and self love after being destroyed by belittling, isolation, and gaslighting for years. It doesn’t surprise me that you had similar toxic relationships. Once you’re healed, your self love skyrockets and that’s what you have been preaching about since the beginning! Thanks for opening up about your experience, I know it’s not easy to revisit. I love how you mentioned using videos as a support system since not everyone understands, because that’s exactly what I did with your channel! Thanks Tam, keep being you 🫶✨
OMG I was in a online situationship with a "really nice" guy. He was love bombing me and telling me soo many sob stories and playing the victim mentality. And then he suddenly stopped talking and I was like: why don't you go to therapy or try to heal yourself. And he was like: Nah I'm staying the way I am. He didn't text me 14 days and I was like: fuck off And I blocked. NOW I 100% KNOW THAT HE IS A COVERT NARCISSIST 😭😭😭❤️❤️❤️. I'm so happy I left before something could have happened.
Relatable. :)
I also had a similar online situationship and ironically that guy runs a woke, liberal and progressive online platform
I got to know im a narcissist a year know since then im staying away from people because ive no control' on my behaviour and actions im taking a therapy and im trying to become a kind and better person
Hey! You're doing good
All the best ❤❤
@@mybiasisjennie thankyou so much ❤️😊
Much respect🫶🏻
@@_slezaceq_ thankyou 😊 I was scared that people' will judge me but you guys are so sweet
the hairstyle + the makeup + the earrings + the reeed you look phenomenal girl ✨💖
I really really needed this... I'm currently 17 and going through a lot... My dad is a narcissist... My parents fight a lot almost everyday they don't talk to each other.. they had a fight 2 hours ago ... He is emotionally not available... doesn't let my mom talk to anyone even her parents , family and family... He earns good amounts but keeps it to himself my mom ,me and my brother have to go through financial issues... he doesn't give a penny I used to have in God that one day that everything will be fine... But now I lost all my faith in God... I love to see tam and her videos and her vlogs are amazing.. there a lot going in my mind...I have a disorganised attachment style... my mind is f*cked up..I never write comments but today I am so frustrated that I am writing this on CZcams... I have no friends... I mean I have friends but they live so far away and I can't tell them everything on mobile..
Love you ...hang on you are gonna win...and you dont need your dad to be successful ....just dont mind what he says ....
You're gonna get over it🥺 trust me. Girl I understand how it's like to have a narc parent. You're still so young and promise once you're out of that situation, you're gonna heal everything. Ik it might look impossible to get out of that shitty situation rn, but you're gonna do it, just make sure you do well in school, so you can get yourself a good career, focus on that girl and your mental health. Ik you wanna solve everything but do what you can for yourself, and your Lil brother. It's not your fault. I'm sorry you had to go through it. 🥺💗 you're so strong babe. And ig we are here for you, as an online community, you can write things in the comment section, I'm sure we'll respond to you.
I can really relate to what you are going through, thank you for sharing this with us you are so brave, if you are interested maybe lets talk more ? let me know ...btw I'm 18 and i live in India.
@@kulokolakevin thanks... Love ya ❤️
@@kashishagrawal3716 ❤️❤️ thanks ... Love you
Just wanted to say that I have been with all the narcissists actually as in like in terms of lover, family and friends and for the longest time i stood there questioning what was wrong with me when in reality there wasn't. From being the one who had to always be there for everyone to having to do tasks to earn love, i had to always run around proving my worth for them to see me as a human being. Now being 28, I look back at my life and feel sad thinking about how much of it i have wasted on them. However it cannot be undone and i have to move on. Even now when i talk about going to solo trip i am said that i am dumb and won't be able to go. That world is a scary place and i am simply not equipped to do anything alone. In all these I have learned the hard way that no one is going to save me or love me. That i have to love myself enough to stand up for myself even though the thought will be scary at first
Love the video! Thank you for all your words and making me feel like I was actually not insane
Omg this is such perfect timing!! I’ve realised my dad is the biggest narcissist and I’ve been so lost in knowing how to deal with him!
GIRLYYYY YOUR TIMING😭
So I was talking to this guy but decided to end things cause things were just off and I had a bad feeling about it in general. Not even halfway through this video, I realised he is an overt narcissist. And you know why I cut contact with him?! Because I know what you said Tam, if a guy starts yapping about his past relationships this early on, you leave. So you basically saved me from wasting my time and potentially getting hurt. Love you girl ❤
I was once trapped by a narcissistic man 😔
But now I'm doing better.
Also, you are GLOWING
my dad is a pure narcissist, for years he traumatised me with his words and fights, i realised that i’ve always lived in their own patterns, always trying to please them and meet their expectations. In the last years i actually stopped caring about their words but now i decided to
forgive them since it’s not their fault.. Also, we recently had a very deep talk and we both agreed to compromise and i can actually FEEL the energy shift, let’s see..
I also had a recent dating experience with a subtle narcissist, everything you said was so on point..damn, at least now i won’t ever fall in these complex mind games, thank you girl, ur amazing.
Now it’s time to shine and take control of my life
This helped me confirm I’m in a relationship with a narcissist. Thank you.
It's been 2 months and I'm steal healing. Most of the thing you said was exactly my experience. It was so mentally and emotionally draining. I was made to feel that I'm the crazy one for reacting to his misbehavior, gaslighting, and constantly injecting jealousy and insecurity in a relationship.
You're not the crazy one. OOF girl you're the besttt♥️ just please don't go back to him!! Feel things just don't act on those feelings. Heal girl we're here for you. I got out of a narc relationship about an year ago, and I'm almost all over it🥺🌸❣️ sending you lotssss of love and healing🧿💗♥️
@@kashishagrawal3716 I didn’t got the notification of your comment till now. Thank you so much for your soothing and kind words. It means a lot. After constantly crying almost everyday in a relationship, I’ve learned my lesson hard ways. I promise I’ll never ever go back to him. I’ve joined therapy so it’s getting bit better each day.
Thank you, Tam!! You have helped me heal from my trauma and get out of my toxic relationship from a narcissist when he disrespected me. Today, he contacted me and tried to manipulate that he still has influence in me..I just denied and blocked him. I think it's God's signal that you uploaded this video today! Thank you for being my elder sis.. lots of love, queen 💗
It’s scary being this person too and finally learning and healing yourself and going through that moment of hate towards those tendencies. Realizing the patterns and finally being able to change is an amazing feeling, videos like this remind me that I have grown so much and also experiencing someone else who’s narcissistic not being that way anymore hurts too. Don’t hate yourself, just remember if you were ever this way or feel you are this way, it’s possible to change it’s just going to take ALOT of reflecting and destroying your big ego and just loving life and yourself and never comparing yourself or your problems to others. We’re only here for a short while, don’t make other peoples lives miserable just because you don’t know who you are. Don’t be a demon walking the earth, shed from that skin and understand your worth and the people around you.
(Btw girl I love your videos, you’ve helped me through my journey so much!) 🤍
i really hope you heal from those who hurt you. I love you for never giving up on yourself and always wanting to better yourself even with everything youve gone through 💗 no one fucking deserves you because you are GOLD and i want you to stand on that x
The covert narcissist is my ex boyfriend to a T! I left him because he was physically abused me but because he had such a victim mindset and a ‘bad life’ I didn’t believe that he could be a narcissist! This explains SO MUCH, thank you Tam💕
I was so close to become a victim of a narcissist but my high standards and emotional intelligence saved me . I wasn't much aware about this topic and got to pin point that they were a narcissistic after I watched this video. Like Tam said Narcissist can't control high value women...that person couldn't control me .High standards definitely save you even if you aren't much aware about the situation or a specific personality type
watching this at 16 and i realised:
i have an overt narcissist as a father and a covert narcissist as a mother. i am so strong and proud of myself because i didnt let them affect me, even though i got it all, the love bums, the silent treatments, the invalidation, every single sign that tam mentioned and i literally have a list called "things to read when i want to move out but cant because i need to be there for my parents" containing all their mistreatment, dated and timed, way before i started watching tam's content and that makes me feel so happy because damn, im a strong woman.
Our mother posted a video ppl!! love you tam!
Covert narcissists don't get talked about enough THANK YOU
How the hell can you always know what I need?! 😭 I stg I wanted to go watch some of your videos to gather some motivation and break out from a narcissitic relationship AND THERE YOU GO
i had a friend like that, i never really knew much about narcissists and stuff, and people used me, so im so thankful that you made this video cause it really helped me to heal and now i can avoid narcissists, ty tam.
I hope you're healing and doing better now. I had a similar experience recently
@@yourfairygodmother3468 yea I'm getting better, I hope you heal too
Also one thing I would point out, only 15-20% of population has been diagnosed with full blown narcissism. People have narcissistic traits on high and low spectrum and that is quite important to realize before we evaluate and assess if we want to go complete no contact or just have limited contact.
As always I loved that she created this video and as someone who has gone through narcissistic abuse and had reactive reactions too due to it, I am sometimes afraid I will become narcissistic or self centered as a defence mechanism.
this video literally made me realized that I was in a "relationship" with a narcissist and that I've been emotionally abused for so long! Now I know why I am and feel so much better than ever !
OMG that's horrible. I've always been in a lovely family and I can't even wrap my head around what it would feel not to be unconditionally loved by your parents. It's like what it's supposed to be your safest place in the world it's not safe anymore. I feel so sorry of you and anyone that has gone through that, I literally cried while listening how you were treated as a child.
Love, Tam ❤
Starting my third year into my healing journey from an overtly narcissistic parent and just got out of a relationship with a covert narcissist. This video helped me be so grateful that the relationship is over rather than dwelling on how it could have ended differently. This video is so goodddd. Every point was so accurate and now that I have high standards, boundaries, practice detachment, and self respect, those qualities actually ended up scaring away that narcissistic guy I was talking to. So remaining in my higher energy and confidence definitely minimized the heartbreak once it ended, and minimizes my dad's triggers against me since I'm not reactive anymore. Becoming more aware and reading their signs is actually so fun because you can get to a point where you can discern when they try to manipulate but see through it all. Also find it funny that they don't know how aware you are of it but you choose not to tell them so you can exit the situation gracefully while they still think they had the upper hand in it all. Love it Tam
Off to creating my own universe where they are no longer at the center !!!😄🥰So excited to begin my new life this year
Not me crying over the realization that the worst narcissist in my life is my mom. You definitely hit the spot with this video Tam!
You guys, all my childhood I knew my parents were not perfect and were a little abusive and what they did for me was not healthy love. But no one ever validated my feelings and I thought I was the bad child. Now I know. God had given me a sense of healthy love early on and I could see it and my body could tell it's not. I'm so sorry to that Little girl who got told they're perfect they do it out of love. Now I realise they are incapable of that kind of love. It's just a loss. Can't blame them for not being able to give that. Can't blame me for not having love as a child. I know though God has wholesome love coming in my life in so many forms and so many people will love me the way I deserved to be loved. I'm grateful he has given me myself through all of this pain and guided me to love myself more than anything. I am sooo pleased I get to heal when most people never do.
OMG THE TIMING IS PERFECT! needed this in my life rn!!
This couldn’t have come at a better time! Sending love ❣️
By far, your best video yet. This is gold! ❤
I came across of many narcissists but, i always wondered why are they doing this now i know the WHY. I am grateful to you tam for making these videos and teaching me about all these things❤
I have never needed another video more right now
THANK YOU TAMMMM!! It’s the content you make such as this that pushes me to continue. Thank you for being a part of my journey!!
This was so helpful--you're helping so many people with this video in particular!
The fact that she looks better in every new video convinced me that it works.
OMG IVE BEEN WAITING FOR THIS EVER SINCE I STARTED WATCHING YOUR VIDEOS (a year and a half ago) , ahhh can’t wait to level up 10x more!!!!!!
you nailed the timing. i needed this
I just want to say thank you, a big thank you for this video, now I get all the signs and healings also from that person I was trying to ignore this signals, I was surely getting hurt always but this video saved my life, a big thankyou, and thankyou for always being our big sister💗
I'm so excited for your book!😊
She always knows what we need!!!!🛐✨
girl ur lip combo such a vibee. Also thank u for everything gorgeous
My crush, my ex situationship, my mom, my dad, my grandparents, my best friend. ALL narcissists. This video helped so much,Tam! I love it when you are so passionate about the topic!!! It makes the video a hundred times better.
GRACIAS TAMMM, AHORA YA PUSE MÁS COSAS EN MI LISTA DE LÍMITES 🥰🥰🥰
I really appreciate you making this video. I could identify with so many things you talked about and I'm still healing from narc parent and relationships.
Thank you so much for the video, I really needed it. It's been over a month since I got out of a narcissistic relationship and that was one hell of a ride. The self doubts, the way they rewire your brain, the gaslighting. Before watching this video, I was being hard on myself and blaming myself for everything, but you taught me a lot. I can't thank you enough 💖
Love and support to everyone going through anything like this.
I grew up in a toxic family surrounded by narcissists and this is so validating and helpful. I’ve been watching your videos for a couple of weeks and you’ve helped me so much. It gives me so much hope and motivation for myself and my future to know that people can go through similar experiences to me and became people like you.
The way I dealt with this a few months ago and healed thanks to you before this video ❤️ I’m so happy you did a video about this! It reminded me to reevaluate the people in my life and how they’re treating me.
i appreciate this video, because it helps me realize how some of the behaviors i grew up around from a narcissist and narcissistic relationships impact my perception of life
i felt like really called out in this video, and im not saying i am or am not a narcissist its just something to think about because if you grew up with narcissists around you, make sure you heal yourself entirely
i thought i did, until watching this video and seeing their behaviors reflected in myself
anyways THANK YOU ☺️
I feel like you‘re a great friend irl, simply because you seem like a great listener and advice giver.
You‘re very eloquent and I love that about your videos💖
This video is so dense in information, she always surpasses expectations ❤
This is so on point! Thank you for sharing your knowledge and experiences.
A video no one knew they needed until they saw this 💯
Thank you for the validation. Thank you for putting this video out there despite how difficult it was for you to film. Sending you so much love and support❤️❤️
Yes Queen! This is what I need! The Narcissist in my workplace would be gone soon!
Thank you so so so much for this vid, i had been in a relationship with a narcissistic person who literally drained me and ruined me in every way possible and I wasn't able to move on for months, i also had a very narcissistic friend which was basically the reason why I met my ex and she also gaslighted me so much and lied to my face, talked behind my back and ruined a lot of friendships and acquaintances that I used to have. I'm so glad I finally moved on and all the events became old memories rather than nightmares
This video is just so relatable and amazing. One of my fav from your channel Tam!
This was hands down one of the most educational videos I've ever watched. Thank you so much for the awareness!❤️
Omgggg I can't belive it... Thnak you so much tam kaur... U R THE BEST u really don't know how much u means to me. Thank you so much for starting this passion
This video has opened my eyes literary. Thank you so much Tam!
You explained it soo well! This could be the only video on narc abuse for people to understand it.
I am so so so grateful to have found you this year. I did not realize that I not only have a narcissistic parent but also a narcissistic friend. I know I need to dive deeper into this and not just jump to conclusions, but since I am on this healing journey this was a very important video for me (as all of your videos have been). I don't honestly know what to do now, but I know I'll be fine. Everything is happening for my own good so I'm just going to trust the process and move forward. Thank you Tam from the bottom of my heart.
Okayyy!! The queen 👑💖 is backk⚡🫶🏻
thank you girlie, keep shining beautiful!
Thankyou so much for this. I have been in relationship with a narcissists for 2 years and right now I'm trying to heal from all the trauma. Everything you said felt like you're telling my story word to word. I started watching your and WIZARDLIZ youtube channel and then i realized that whatever is going in this relation its so toxic and its making my mental and physical health bad . He tried to everything after that like to blame me for his actions, playing Victim card and everyone hurts him, blahblah , but i tried to control on myself not to go back because i never want that 2 years again in my life .
Thankyou so much now i am felling good that i took the decision to cut him off.
After cutting him off my life has became better and I can feel the energy shift.
I'm sending lots of love, healing and positivity to everyone.
Thank you tam for making this video i really needed this today. I have narcissistic parents and it's hard for me to deal with them, so i really appreciate that you made this video and one more thing, you are looking really pretty ❤
Thank you for this especially the parent and friends portion. Been working through my people pleasing tendencies and I needed this video today ❤❤
This was GOOD. Thank you for making this video. I especially loved your advice for healing...and that was to make a new life for yourself that's all your own, not reminiscent of your former life with the narcissist. Thx Tam❤.
Can I just say the hair the makeup the color of her outfit and the jewelry looks so freaking fabulous. She is absolutely gorgeous🤍🎀
👏I needed this. Congrats on 1M I literally watched your channel grow!
LOVE YOUR EARINGS!!
I kid you not THIS is the video I’ve been waiting for. I’ve watched this video 3 times and I keep learning so much every rewatch. Thank you!!
I appreciate you so much for your channel and this video. Thank you so much. Lots of love ❤️😘. You are a beautiful soul Tam.
Ofc It helped Tam. Your energy only helps to ground myself more in my reality. I can't be grateful enough for you. Without you I wouldn't have healed half as much I have. Looking at the way you think and live gives me the confidence to believe and trust myself more.
Really needed this video, Tam. Thank you for addressing narcissistic parents and how to deal with them xxx
Tysm I needed that, you're the best!
TAM THE THUMBNAIL 😮😮 I NEEDED THIS i have several narcissistic friends and i am slowly learning how to place boundaries but THIS IS THE STEP I NEEDED to stop hurting from them and start moving away from them I LOVE YOU❤
The hair, the makeup, the earings! You are gorgeous 😊