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Treat her like a queen
and she will treat you like a peasant
Never put women on a pedestal guys.
Mind you that it applies for both sides. Gender doesn't play any role in this case. Nonetheless, 100% true statement.
@@venet5024 Sure, but I can't speak from that perspective because I'm a guy.
@@potatopoweredhamster9897 You don't have to be a woman to be able to see women doing the same thing, but reversed. If you have eyes you can just observe people. I dare say 3/4 of "golden rules" in terms of do's and don'ts when interacting with women are in fact universal and apply for both genders, yet people forget about it. That's my point.
@@venet5024 Fair enough, I added that stipulation simply because everything can't be compared apples to apples due to the different dynamics at play between the sex's. But I agree there can be a fair amount of crossover in general. Let's just leave it at that.
@@potatopoweredhamster9897 Yeah, you're right, dynamics are important. I'm just pointing out the general rule that usually works but does not receive due attention.
When you make a “good girl” feel comfortable enough to drop the act, it’ll blow your mind
Thats when you abuse the hell out of them for it and cut contact. Disgusting people they are
How you ‘make em feel comfortable?’ Like how do you let em know she can go crazy
@@KingPieceKamba I just call em on their bs and kinda deconstruct their act or I playfully tease them into revealing it. Really depends on the chick and her personality. Listen to the song “Mz. Hyde” every chick has a “darker side / wild side”, you just have to learn how to unlock it
@@daysgoneby3527 That’s literally every girl is. And if every girl is terrible, then none of them are
That is absolutely correct!! They(girls) pretend to be nice and pure girls but once you have them in your bed you will know that she is full of expeience and sometimes even more than you 😂😂😂😂.. You are trying to be careful with their tiny pxxxy but at the end it is just like another big and wet cave that many have visited hahahaha
Give a woman a crown and you'll become her jester.
😩😭
I need a time machine and a bucket of ice water to throw over my past self
Same here.
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Won't help I am sure of that. Your younger version would not believe a word you would say. ;)
Gotta put the hand in the fire if you really want to know how it burns.
Replace the bucket of ice water with a fist and I’d be in the time machine with you
For any women that see this comment, and this video. This isn't to hate women. It's to educate men to get this type of ideal out of their head. For their own health, as well as whoever he pursues.
I concur;
Boils down to: don’t let the little head do the thinking for you.
Nah iit aint to hate on women. But this helps women. When men put women on a pedestal it is essentially objectifying them. That women are a pure thing to obtain and not complex people that can be garbage and have baggage.
Indeed... illusion brings nothing except pain and more pain.
Hate to break it to you but wamen don't need your help
I would also advise men not to become resentful. You're not missing out on anything with women who engage in this behavior. The sooner a man accepts female nature and can recognize a woman or woman for who they are, the happier men will be.
True!
Bro.. it's been proven time and time again.. and women will admit to it. WOMEN have NOTHING to offer other than piece leave. If you even spend a while talking to them most are very boring and simple
@@namewithheld7835 True. Most of the women who were not boring and simple I met when I was taking philosophy classes at the uni. Otherwise they're mostly all the same.
@@alexanderl9721 That's the iq deviation biting us. Women fall strongly within the first deviation set, men however make up most of the outlying despite similar average.
They are missing out on something: a future tragedy and they should be thankful for that.
Me at 15 with my 1st GF: "I don't want to make love with you yet, it would be our 1st time and I want it to be like donating each of us to the other, only that is true love".
Me at 15 and 3 months: my 1st GF went on vacation in south Italy (we both lived in the very north of Italy) and made it with some random 21yo guy, broking me in pieces for months
Me at 17 in a disco club: Meeting this 24yo girl, petting with her on the club sofà, her hand in my trousers, and go to have my 1st time in the forest just outside the club. Forget love and all that crap, women don't deserve the way I treated them before.
Never looked back, even tho now I'm 45 and I'm more balanced: there are women that deserve respect (some even admiration), but always ALWAYS remember they are just humans.
yep i learned at my age that you have to look at them as humans first n foremost
"Forget love and all that crap"
Yeah... so you're single 45yo or miserable 45yo?
@@pab1972 Good try, but none of that, I'm with a wonderful woman, 13 years younger, smart and pretty, who currently lives in Gdansk (probably a city you know from your name...) and we're thinking to move together.
Next time try to read the post until the very end.
@@AlessandroGenTLe I could be a douche, as usual, but let me be more human. Could you, please, tell me what do you mean by the phrase "Forget love and all that crap"? I think moving together and establishing a long-term relationship requires love... right?
@@pab1972 Yes, you're right. In my post I wrote that I was 16 back then. And that "now I'm 45 and I'm more balanced: there are women that deserve respect (some even admiration)". Love comes from that: respect and admiration. For me at least. But always remember they are humans, with their load of problems (like all of us).
Women are unicorns, creatures of purity and good hearts. I learned this while watching all the Disney movies.
I had an ex-boyfriend once who was shocked to learn that women both have periods that bleed for a week at a time, as well as shocked to learn that we poop. WTF, you can see why that idiot is an ex lol
@@thatxdamnxgirl7416 How old was he? A pre-teen?
@@Ace.0.0.0. he was.......26. *heavy sigh*
So you're upset because women aren't disney princesses...That's on you.
@@iamsofia3782 I disagree. That's on Disney, and their interpretation of fairy tales.
This man shows the real side, he is true hero
A while back, my crush went for an older guy with kids, I didn’t understand why but my instinct was to delete and block all her contact info. Having watched so many videos on this channel and SSM helped me understand why women do the things they do
He is
This is probably the most helpful channel in the whole CZcams, is a shame it hasn't explode yet and has everybody subscribed
Unfortunately women don’t admire this
Betas and alphas
When the truth hurts, let it all wash over you, let the pain come, because that pain is going to free you.
It is going to hurt of course, but that pain is temporary, it is just you grieving your delusions, but your going to grow back stronger.
-Alexander Grace
That is why I prefer pain to stay. What destroyed you will only make you resilient.
@Tim Schmidt i felt that
Pain is temporary and doom is eternal
Very good insight, Matthew! Thanks for giving it to us straight!
I'm glad it hurts
And this is exactly why you can never really trust a woman. If their urge is strong enough, no matter what you have done or who you have been In her life, she will betray you.
Facts. Divorce after 24 year marriage she demonstrated appalling behavior; who is this person.
Facts.
In the past, we could also observe who they were communicating with... now, any old Chad can just slide into her DMs. 🤭🤫
Applies to humans
I remember reading something years ago about how men fundamentally think about things transactional or like... idk if logically & rationally was the word. But basically men by default invent this sort of debt system in their mind, they do all these things sacrifice so much & give so much to the women so later on she will in return be faithful or loyal or help the man due to that right? NO. That's not how women's minds work at all according to science. It made me uncomfortable hearing this truth but made me feel a lot better afterwards
Thank God men are saint and you can trust them... wtf is wrong with you? :D
The sun is many moons away.
I have similar experiences.
They seem to take pride in being unlikable and unlovable
For a relationship understandable
At this point I'd rather fantasize about a fictional character than someone who's fake
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Men who have sister have no desire or illusion for women... 🤣
I don't get it, what do you mean by that
@@cringegod5415 Mem who have sister (older or younger, whatever), we can see how they act in real life while we live with them. Once i was arguing with my sister and then she got a call from her bf, she answer the call and her voice just turned to innocent angel hahaha my point is we can witness women nature.
@@le_decard pretty much how it goes, no illusions for guys with sisters fr
@@le_decard Finally someone who have lived my experience. I am the only guy between 3 sisters (one older than me and two [twins] younger than me) and I have observed them doing the exact same thing.
Damn those people are so "innocent and pure" to their boyfriends but I live with them, I know them 😂 😂😂
It ain't like that unless their family taught them to respect other daughters, wives, sisters.
One thing that you left out: That guy was obviously a very good looking guy. Women will absolutely destroy men who try to tease them like that when they're not attracted to them.
Yep. Looks always excuse any negative things you say or do to them.
@@IamMortui That, or a big D.
@@PistonAvatarGuy No way for them to see the big D if she's turned off by your looks in the first place :)
I agree looks are everything usually
@@IamMortui Unless her friends tell her beforehand. Word gets around very quickly.
For me It wasnt women. I just thought people were better in general, but now I know that they're not.
Same here.
Yes agreed. But don't allow others lack of morality to lessen your own!
@@sammaloney1746 In principle I believe you are correct but life is not quite that simple. I believe there are cases when doing what it's wise is contrary to doing what is moral. For example, I believe it is moral to be kind and respectful to all people however there are people who need to see your bad side and understand that you're willing to hurt them if they attempt to take advantage of you or others. Based on my experiences in life it is difficult to try to be moral when there are a lot of people who care very little about doing what is right. The question that I think needs to be asked is, how can a person be try to be moral while at the same time making sure that they're not taken advantage of by others?
@@sterlingsilver5937 It's a communication breakdown! A confusion in terms if you will.
When I define morals I define it as having teeth. Not doing what's right out of fear of repercussions. That is not bravery nor courage it's weakness!
So in your hypothetical situation which you have posited to me my response is this!
Showing someone you are dangerous and not to be messed with IS the moral thing to do!
@@sammaloney1746 I understand. So what you're saying is that speaking up for oneself is moral even if it may involve aggression. I want go into a lot of detail but this is something I have struggled with in life. The years I was under the impression that being passive with the same as being humble but I've recently comes to understanding that that is not the case. A person can be very passive but think they are the most important person in the room while someone who is outspoken can have a modest team of who they are and treat others with respect. I've been silent in situations that require digression and it's difficult to find that balance between aggression, assertiveness and submission. None of these three qualities are good or bad but some situations require more or less of one of them. I need to get to a place where I am fluid enough to shift from one or the other depending on what the situation requires. Not to be so aggressive that I think I need to shut everyone down around me but not to be so passive that I think that being everyone's doormat is the same as being humble.
once I realized being " the nice overly respectable" guy didn't get me anywhere and women would turn me down or hurt me for some other disrespectable guy. I knew to never go above and beyond again for some lady. I don't even care about dating anymore
Paul Elam said much the same in his "My PUA Lifestyle" YT vid.
Oh, but you don't want to play the ridiculous games this and other youtubers implicitly or explicitly state? To me, my mind is not low enough to do it.
Being a nice guy is the problem. Being a good guy is the key. Sometimes a good guy isnt very nice. Read more up on it( if you havent yet) to learn the differences. Read 'No More Mr. Nice Guy' Thats an excellent one!
@@inconnu4961 this is very true. I was program while growing up to think women deserved respect just because of their gender. I've grow a lot from my teenage years
Yup me too…
I think this effect is amplified when online dating or when doing a LDR. As a guy you can’t observe the girl at all, so you rely on this “illusion” completely.
What's the point of online dating? It's not real. No intercourse.
@@glennlgg6871 Online dating is for FINDING someone to have sex with in person dude.
@@nordichellas3155 no that's swiping someone on an app, having a short chat, and then meeting to start a hookup. In the post online dating is mentioned together with LDR... No fast meeting in these times.
Internet dating may have some value for people who have very specific requirements in terms of interests, hobbies, lifestyle or values. For instance, I once knew a couple who met on Plenty Of Fish and, I learned, were brought together through a shared interest in pet reptiles. But for the rest of us, I wouldn't recommend it. It's a horribly contrived and artificial way of communicating with people, and there are many timewasters and attentions-seekers. Whilst there are many success stories, I find myself wondering how many people who get married or get into committed relationships this way end up being with someone they actually *want* to be with, and it's not just a case of "he'll do - I'm tired of searching" or "I'm not going to find anyone better at my age."
In my experience I feel like it is, but I still don't feel confident about that fact, she's a thousand kilometers away from me so what if she really is an angel, makes me overthink and I want to rid of it
Im a 6, married an 8.5 out a ten. Secret is I'm an asshole. Not abusive. I'm not one of those Nice Guys. Just nice enough. Take the piss out of them. They respond to it. Mr Grace is right. Your doing yourself no favours by being a nice guy. They find it creepy.
Because they know they don't deserve it. They have done basically nothing to be treated like that.
What's the point of getting married when, according to doctor Grace, your woman could have sex in a bush/taxi with some random dude any day now?
Women don't want soft doey boys as husbands. It's extremely off-putting, we like a little bit of a challenge just like men do, that's sexy.
@@thatxdamnxgirl7416 men generally don't want a "challenging" wife.
Just because she hasn't left doesn't mean she hasn't cheated. If your only a 6 and she's and 8.5, surprise, she's cheated on you.
That's exactly what happen between my father and my mom , my father is abusive , he hit my mom she was complaining to me how abusive and jerk to her , two days later I saw hugging him really tight and all over him with a smile on her face while closing her eyes , I was so confused I was just like Ron Simmons all that I said was DAMN ...
They love it. The inconsistencies, capriciousness, impetuousness...
This illusion ends now, we must be better than this.
BOY
Mark this day. Mayweather vs Logan Paul.
true
@@nmestre2 Not sorry, gonna be better.
I had 3 cases like that. For first girl I thought this is exception, then for second girl I thought how is this girl masochist, then for third girl I thought hey, this is lookalike rule. When I start to behave like that, result was I met 18-year old virgin (today my wife). Note: she was from village, not from city.
I love how Alexander explains all these things so clearly down to the exact feelings that are so hard for some people to see or understand easily. Props to you Alex for being able explain exactly how our minds and emotions work.
This story at the beginning only works for Chad.
@VNB Slash It's all jokes and games to sarcastically lowkey roast girls until you meet the real Chad. Or you can be one. 😉
The thing is some dudes tend to have a lot of expectations on how a girl should be like, but they are just people.
There are not that many differences between women and men. Most of them are awful. There's only a few who are worthy caring and loving.
we have expectations because women lied to us about their true selves. its not that hard to see why men expect women to be a certain way.
And yet they have a laundry list of expectations of how us men should be.
@@vklnew9824 sooner or later these kind of women are gonna face reality. I've got this female friend who's 25 and only wants a man who is 30+ financial stable. She's not going to guys her own age because she doesn't want to make "an investment" on a guy and watch/help him to grow. She wants someone who's already ready and steady... but those guys are already taken, mostly by girls who supported them during their lowest points in life and stayed with them for the long run.
And just like this friend of mine, there are many others that just want a free ride in life while bringing their nothing to the table.
@@gschaaf713 people lie all the time. They are not the only ones
@@Pedrommelos There's a difference between someone lying and someone projecting a complete facade because they know they'd be judged (which they fear) & thought of poorly if they show their true selves. Sure there are men who do that too, but with women it's pretty much commonplace due to the duality they try to live by. What I mean by duality is that the ones these days for the most part buy into feminism & live a life of hedonism, yet they still wish to make people around them (especially potential suitors) think they adhere to the values that women decades ago were held to before the family unit was decimated. They are humans who thrive on and require social networks, so depicting their true selves would destroy any such network, especially that which gets them male validation.
Alexander did a video about judging women and how when they lie the most when they know they're dealing with someone who will judge them or in circumstances where they'll be judged.
The quickest way to destroy this illusion is by being around women
In our village there is this one playboy guy. Once we were just a group of guys and some guy asked why he never has a girlfriend eventho he is good with the ladies. His response was "I dont wanna look the fool when she cheats on me". It took some time but than we realised that he said WHEN and not if. We were like wait a minute...?!
Every single gf I have ever had has cheated on me... I only blame myself for being nieive. They all cheat. ALL OF THEM (Except the ugly boring ones, they would if they could but...)
@Vergil The Son Of Sparda it was a tough lesson but I've never been happier
@@nickjohnson410 if the girl is not a 1/10 she has the possibility. An under average girl can easily rack up the same numbers like a 10/10 playboy male if she wants to. And they often do. 4's and 5's probably have the highest body count cuz they need that validation and guys are thirsty enough to provide.
@@nickjohnson410 Keep watching this channel. I wish I had this kind of info when I was in my 20's, I had to learn it the hard way and it took a long time.
Have another look at this situation. What if this playboy had very low self-esteem and was super insecure? It's common for some good-looking guys. He was not able to keep one girl by his side, right? Because they all would cheat on him sooner or later? Sounds pretty insecure way of thinking to me. And the only way for him to temporarily fix his lack of self-esteem was to use the game for the short term to have sex and then he would head out so the girls would never know how insecure he truly is.
I learned that guys who are first nerds or geeks and eventually pivot to being more stoic/proud have one thing in common. They believe fundamentally in the good of people first and foremost. They're dreamers, they embrace the fantasy. Not only do they see their desire for flesh as wrong, they believe she could never or rarely share a base desire like this. These are men who aspire to quality but don't have the tools to be a man of quality who has his mind set in reality. The asshole has no delusions that people are fundamentally not virtuous and is fine with being condemned or "hell-bound". He actually takes a great deal of pleasure in smashing the delusion. The nemesis and the unattainable to the asshole though is the marriage material girl. So whichever one you are, you both win and lose, but at different stages of life. You will both be at war with the other, just don't take it too personally.
Another piece of this puzzle: if that girl at the party had been interested in Alex over all that time, she would have been obvious. He was just a curiosity for her. Guys, open your eyes. When they like you, they can't HELP but show it by their body language, getting close to you, being open with their energy, etc. We've all seen women "light up" for the Alphas. It's a force of nature. If she ain't lighting up for YOU fairly soon, move on. No friend bullshit.
What you have described in this video is why I have so many regrets about my youth and why I get so angry about the past. So many missed opportunities. I too had a friend like the one you described. I couldn't figure out how he was so successful with girls, yet treated them all like crap. If I had access to your CZcams channel when I was 20.....man.....life would have been different.
"You gotta shake these hos and break these hos" - Tupac
I was raised by women and have had this illusion instilled at birth. Having that illusion broken 29 years later threw me down a roller coaster of anger, depression, denial, self hatred and resentment for falling for it. One concept that i had to see in person to believe was the fact that a woman telling you no doesnt mean she doesnt do something at all. It means she wont do it with you. You WILL fall into the same roller coaster i did but you have to not become comfortable and stay in that head space. Growth is always hand in hand with growing pain. Good luck on your path bro's
A lustful eye and low standards will make a 3 or 5, an 11 outta 10.
This sure hits home, painfully.
It's such a regret there was no one to tell me these when I was young.
Well, I'm just gonna stay away from all this. Appreciate the peace and quiet. I don't care at all
if the truth hurts, that's because you've been living in your head for so long.
Living in you head is right. You nailed it bruh.
Well said.
Any dude that's been married knows how untrue them being anything but (badly) behaved humans is.
After having had children, I did a thought experiment and began to think of women as sophisticated children, and suddenly all of their "mysterious ways" made perfect sense. So I treated my wife as a child to see what would happen. I thought she would get offended, but she responded very well to it, almost as if she had been received of some great burden. She seemed much happier.
Men freely admit those base desires. Women attempt to masquerade it.
And this occurs with old people too! I know a couple of 80 year olds who got together after a week of provocative vulger comments by the old guy coming on to a widow. She thought he was funny and honest about his feelings, something lacking in her deceased husband. Amazing!
Wmn absolutely disgust me!
"women cannot be attracted to men who cannot see them as they truly are"
But can you still be attracted to women when you see them as they truly are ? 🤔
"prendre les femmes pour ce qu'elles ne sont pas et les laisser pour ce qu'elles sont. " Serge Gainsbourg
Chuut ! Tu en dis trop là ... Quel dilemme de merde ... Vivre la joie de l'illusion ou la frustration de la réalité, tu restes perdant dans les deux cas :(
Ou peut être que la réponse est justement de ne pas être attiré, mais de tout simplement profiter et d'assouvir un désir dont tu ne peux pas te détacher.
Voir l'amour pour ce qu'il est loin de tout romantisme fantaisiste, une simple métaphore pour embellir un acte de procréation qui n'a rien de magique en lui.
You said that i should talk to a guy who has lots of sex with different women. The thing is, i dont respect that type of man at all and dont want to have any friendship with him. I view that as highly immoral and my parents didnt taught me this. I came to this view by myself.
Same here
Same.
Yeah. Just because it's very easy to manipulate women into sex. Doesn't mean you should. That is someone's daughter or sister.
You've basically been raised right. To do what is right by your community above yourself! You have been taught the behaviour of order over chaos!
Respect to your parents they did a good job!
@@sammaloney1746 pfft "easy" only if you're tall and physically Attractive
It's nature
"You've got to show them what kind of man you are, so they know what kind of girl to be" ~ quote from T.V. series MadMen
The men-women interaction in MadMen is fantastic you can actually learn a lot
I love how you re not angry with the girl, and you used it as a lesson to understand. It’s not her fault, it was my fault that i didn’t understand her. Beautiful!
You solve my past anger. I had a really similar episode in the past
I don't hate women like that but I do hate when they try to lie about it and pretend that they're different.
TRUE
I feel like I literally have to pretend to be the opposite of myself in order to be attractive to women and that's not a facade I'm entirely sure is worth keeping up.
Exactly! I can fake being Chad, but as soon as I relax into my real self, she takes a powder! I don't want to put on an act just to get pussy!
@@roger_isaksson Do you ever get a yes response? Because most women will deny being interested even when they are, out of their own fear of being rejected.
Had my own epiphany moment like you described.... Except I was about 40 years older... Totally changed how I thought about and interacted with women from that point on.
How does some guy who talks about ant farms have 1M subscribers but this bloke who is dropping life’s golden nuggets have less than 200K. Keep it up mate. Cheers!
Because most people are not interested in getting better, it's hard and it hurts. I mean some are but most of the people are more interested in ants. Thats why you should be carefull who you spend your life with. Nothing wrong with the ant videos though.
The water supply is tainted
Buddy not everyone has the same problems you have not every one has to watch these videos
CZcams algorithm suffocates these sort of accounts...
Because this guy talks sh*t about women to make unsuccessful men feel better about themselves and the unsuccessful men are the minority of the society.
Women always submit to Chad until they're 30+ and want a stable beta to support them.
Then they get bored with the support and ride the carousel until they can't anymore.
I was 25 when I met my first girlfriend. 3 years later she cheats on me. I am now traumatized and don't want to be in another relationship. :(
Don't invest in stocks if you worry they will drop.
Don't be in a relationship in your 20's. Work on yourself during that decade.
Come back in 10 years, enjoy your time
Get over it dude. I've been there myself and it was extremely painful, but 12 years later I've realized that my behavior really gave her no choice but to jump ship. Yes, cheating is a shitty behavior and I'm not excusing her, but have some self awareness and look at your behavior and what you may have done or not done.
Like it or not, women don't just cheat for no reason. When a man cheats its usually b/c he's not sexually satisfied or he's just horny and satisfying an urge. I truly believe a man can cheat and have no ill will towards his partner and even still love her. When a woman cheats, its b/c she has sensed something wrong in the relationship. By the time she cheats, she is done with you. The problem started long before the infidelity. Its always a very personal and emotional response with them.
So take some time to reflect upon yourself. Don't be so quick to cast all the blame upon her, as I did. She definitely has responsibility for some of it, but you do as well.
@@oldscratch3535 I don't think you've been traumatized if you're telling me to get over it. Also, you have no idea the person she was for you to think it was me. Trust me, I satisfied her needs in bed.
I wish I had had this kind of advice when I was a teenager. I went to an all boy’s school in secondary school, and I only had very few interactions with women. My mum was quite prudish and my parents would never talk about relationships. I held women on a huge pedestal (for an idea of how extreme this was I was shocked when I found out a girl from another school I had a crush on, smoked). Added to this, when I did eventually stump up the confidence to ask any girls out, they would not usually be too kind about turning me down (“ugh, no”, “why would i go out with you?” Etc.) so it dented my confidence for years. Even when I grew into my body (I was a lanky teen) and became more physically attractive, I still didn’t do so well because back then the man had to make all the moves and I was not good at it. I was already convinced I was not “worthy” of having a gf.
Trouble is, those feelings of inadequacy lasted, and when i did get into relationships, I stayed longer than I should have, despite clear problems in the relationship. It wasn’t until years later that i finally started to open my eyes.
I opened my eyes far too late, and for me it is effectively over now. But I implore anyone young enough who is reading this, don’t make the same mistake I did. As the guy in the video said, women are still human, not all of them are the same, and there is a huge range of different personalities. I have no idea where I got my ideas from that women are special (maybe not being around them, and listening to too many Hollywood films), but they aren’t, by thinking this implicitly puts you down, makes you inferior, and also makes you blind to reality. It can put you in bad situations in later life too when you do get in relationships.
Parents, never send your kid to single sex schools, it may do good for their academic achievements but it can severely stunt their emotional and social skills. Let’s face it, academic achievement means nothing if you don’t have the tools to use it, or have a contented life. My biggest single regret is “choosing” to go to a single sex school at age 11.
You put my life in words!
As you told the story in the beginning I couldn't help but have flashbacks to last summer when I went to a bar alone to talk to girls. I talked to one of the female bartenders or barbacks immediately upon arrival before sitting outside on the back patio. We chatted for a bit, it was definitely a little awkward. Then I sat down out in the bar's outdoor patio. A few moments later, she walks out, stands near the door (about 20 feet away from me), and stares for minutes. Just gleaned at me. She stared at me like I was a creep, like I had done something wrong, like I was a criminal. I felt extremely judged, like my presence there was wrong. That is the kind of look she was giving me. So when I hear the story you told about the guy cursing at the woman and her responding by making out with him, I realize how messed up women's nature really is. 20% of men, women will treat well. If you act in a way that doesn't fit to a woman's expectations for how something in the environment should be, they essentially try to take stop that thing from happening, whether that be through reporting you to someone else, social judgement, social isolation, making you feel terrible about yourself. Women cannot control their own state. They are entirely responsive. A man who pines to them, they approve of. But a man being himself, a man who's awkward, nervous, a little weird, because he doesn't bring out good emotions in you, you treat him like s**t. Women are entirely selfish. If you don't meet them where they are, they will not come to you or even meet you half way. The way they treat an awkward, nice, weird, nervous, or otherwise socially off guy is shocking.
I was well aware of this. When I was in my mid teens I had a friend that girls were crazy about. There wasn't a girl he couldn't get to do anything he wanted. I remember one time he decided he was going to try and have sex with as many girls as he could in one night. We started off by going to a party at a graveyard. He was literally going off with the girls one by one, and the crazy thing is that the girls knew exactly what he was doing and still did it. One of the girls had came to the party with a guy and when she walked away with my friend he asked what they were doing. I told him to pop his head up and see for himself. Guy sat back down looking completely defeated.
That wasn't the end of the night. We went to several more parties after that and I'm guessing by the end of the night he was at at least 20 girls (he said around 30). How he was able to keep it up all night I'm not sure but I think he stole one of his dad's Viagra's. Sad thing is that because all the girls always wanted him I never had a chance. I would say that girls didn't like me and he'd always reply that there was nothing wrong with me and I just needed to try more. I realize now that it was actually him that was causing the problem. lol
It's very difficult to date a woman who has put herself on the pedestal, and thinks she is pure.
Try saying they're only human beings to the guys getting their butts handed to them in family court lmao
ayy fellow shrimp
true!
The best thing about your videos is the reactions they provoke in Simps, White Knights and Women!
All of them so married to, idolizing and simultaneously in denial of the Matrix (reality).
This is exactly my father said to me back when i was in high school. "The more you pursue women and treat them like a goddess the more they reject you.Focus on yourself. Enjoy your time with your friends and family." So my father was right.I treat girls like an angels back when i was in highschool.I had countless of rejection and girls describe me as a creepy guy. One day i realize that pursuing a women is a waste of time. So i hit the gym, focus on my studies and be at a zone everyday.Landed a decent job, travel and i spend a lot of my time with my friends and family. I made a tinder last year.Approach several women. trying to get a date. They seem attracted on be but mostly girls i approach are entitled, selfish and they think they are queen.Im from SE asia and a lot of people think that dating an asian women is easy. Hypergamy is also happening here especially in there 20s. Most men here are below average, and didnt have a decent job.
But still we Asian women have morals and values. I am a 21 year old virgin, and my all friends are virgin too waiting for marriage. Yes we are hypergamous because we don't want to killed for dowry and not want to get r@ped while being in dirty and poor surroundings. We want safe future for us and our kids. And if a man will give it to us, we will respect him like God because he is the protector.
I had male friends of mine that made fun of me while I was going around with all kinds of women constantly ... I wonder what they think now of how they thought of me then after learning some things .. I’ve been stalked 3 times by ‘girlfriends’ ., I just laughed at it, I knew WHY they
were stalking .. they had played a Jedi mind trick on me to elicit negative emotions from me ( jealousy or tried to create an illusion of who they are in me while using their entitlement attitude) and I dumped them for it instantly and they couldn’t believe that THEY got dumped as they were very attractive or really good at you-know-what and apparently hadn’t been dumped before lol ., I was glad to give em a lesson and get away from them .. but it’s easy to get fooled later on too .. your inner spirit of whether you feel peace with them and they are ADDING to your life is a good and sometimes only guide
Yes,talk to a guy that has many encounters with girls and women,they know these Angel image girl are just normal girls, women. When guys treat they like Angel, they lose her.
Bottom line: Be the JOKER to that Harley Quinn
Love this guy and he speaks nothing but truth. I once met up with a female on the streets during one trip to Europe, right away asked for her number and said I wanted to take her out that night. She came to my hotel and sat on the bed, asked if she could make a phone call. She called up her boyfriend and intentionally got into an argument with him (I could tell she knew how to push his buttons) and then in a huff she said to him "Fine, I'll just go out by myself alone tonight" and hung up. Well, you can guess what happened from there. Trust me, they aren't worth your high praise. They are bigger freaks than men are, they are just much better at hiding it and making you think YOU'RE the freak. It's basic projection.
It took me years to deprogram my braim re-learn and accept reality. It was tough but in the same process i focused on myself to a point where i realised women are an accessory to your life. They're normal like everybody else.
It's good company but that's it. Once you understand how they operate they'll be at your feet
Two and a half men was a documentary, not a tv show
I learned this lesson the hard way, after the 6th or 7th girl I tried yet again to play the long game and "nice guy" into a relationship only to be friend zoned and then smacked in the face with her hooking up with some random douche for casual sex. I wasted so many years.
When I was young I had a female friend who wanted to introduce me a friend of hers at a party who was a 10/10 gorgeous girl. I really felt that I was out of her league, so in order to save myself an embarassing moment I told my friend that I didnt found her friend pretty enough and I didnt wanted to waste my time. A few weeks later I met this girl at a party and as I was trying to flirt/talk with other girls she approached me and started flirting with me. I ended up ditching her as I felt that she wanted to prove others that she was prettier than the other girls.
For everyone having trouble with women or girls
Here is a lot of books that changed my life :
- rational mâle
- the way of the superior man
- art of seduction
Good luck to you all
Yeah, had a friend once that i was really into, went to a bar with her and some other friends, she got a bit drunk and started to dance i tried dance with her but she pushed me off, i got a bit sulk and went to the bar to get another drink and when i get back she was kissing one of our other friends and his lesbian sister at the same time, i was like.. wtf? After that any remaining illusion that i had was shattered, i said goodbye to the people there and went home walking under the rain at night, couple of days later she calls wondering what happened and asking why i was not showing up anymore, i tell her, she says sorry, i tell her that i don't care anymore and that i won't be calling, she just says ok, and that is it, every time i remember her now i can only feel nauseous, it doesn't anymore, but i remember the feeling
Alex!!! 18 years later??? you are 33? come on man, NO WAYYYYYYYYYYYYY, you look much more younger!!
I just have to think about my mother .. probably one of the most vile narcissists to ever walk this planet ..
I experienced the same thing. You can’t unsee and forget that behaviour.
Narcissistic women, are the women I want to brutally beat on like crazy right now, tell them to be careful
This is one of the most misused terms about a female. Whether Michael, Gabriel, Lucifer or The Angel Of The Lord, angles are Only Ever males, never female.
Was thinking the same thing.
True
Actually angels are sexless ☺
@@andreamagyar5541 And Terrifying
@@andreamagyar5541 it’s the energy. Male. It’s like a projection they can change to be seen.
I actually have a very complex view of "morality" and I, as an atheist, don't believe in universal moral values, so I don't like using the term "moral" in any way shape or form but:
I've noticed that Alexander always says that we can't judge women for hypergamous behaviour since it is an evolved behaviour, also others say this Molyneux for one. Why not? If men were to shun that type of behaviour it would create an environment for women were adaption to not express rampant hypergamy would lead to more personal success for them.
Just like how women and their feminism have castrated masculinity in the entire western world, they still judge us as being shallow horn dogs only thinking about sex and their female bodyparts. But mens evolved behaviour is the explanation to that, we look for fertility markers in the female phenotype. And they shun men for it, or atleast every man who with sub-optimal looks or not high enough status/career, since female behaviour towards men is strongly based on the perception of the mans status/looks. And I'm not saying they should "come on" to every man equally, I'm talking about basic human respect for people around you. Some of them walk around with nose in the air around someone like me in the public space, yet behave completely different to the F-boys.
In the current state of humanity, hypergamy isn't needed, since we have wellfare state, and an educational system that favours women which leads to more women with higher status careers that can't seem to find men because men with equal or higher status careers look for younger more fertile women.
And for people who don't have awesome careers there is the wellfare state, the wellfare state (however bad it is for humanity) should be the natural end to hypergamy.
Yet we still hear Alexander, and other people (I'm not clumping them together in any way, just pointing out that in this particular thing a lot of different people say the same thing), say that female hypergamy is an evolved behaviour and we shouldn't morally judge women for it.
In my worldview every human behaviour is a product of evolution. A person with psycopathic personality traits, is born with a brain that is wired in a different way than someone who doesn't suffer from psycopathy, so should we then not "morally" condemn manipulative behaviour and lies, or a complete lack of empathy for that matter?
As you said, we are the result of evolution and, the way I see it, It is kind of hard changing 300,000 yr of Homo sapiens history. Modern medicine (higher life expectancy) and birth control have changed sexual evolution as we know, but they're too recent yet (like 300 yr or so) and our basic instincts are still so engrained. Women are natural survivors and they'll continue acting like that for a long time because they're hardwired as such in order to protect their offspring.
Every human has control of himself/herself. You can blame biology for your desires, but you are the only one to blame if you are a slave to them
@Katana_soul_91 I also firmly believe that feminism is about power, in my view feminism is a tool, a weapon created by marxist to destroy the western civilization and, from its inception to this day, no matter what feminists say, their entire philosophical root is in being a tool for marxists.
About psycopathy, yeah supposedly we have in western and northern Europe executed about 1% of the male population/generation as criminals during some 600-800 years and this has led to a drastic reduction in violent behaviour and probably psycopathy too. It just goes to show how quick things can change when the environmental pressures change. In Russia they had some experiment to make tame foxes, it took about 6 generations to achieve, which is a big difference in a short time.
I'm vehemently against eugenics, and any kind of future genetic augmentation of the human form also, but we must understand the wellfare state creates dysgenic pressures in that it promotes less adapted people to suceed where they wouldn't without help.
The decline of the west that we are witnessing could very well be due to this dysgenic scenario where thanks to modern medicine and nutrition and social wellfare, everyone grows up, and many people that wouldn't have surived infancy a couple of hundred years ago now grow up and breed themselves.
My point still only being that as long as we men lie on the ground like door mats in front of female hypergamy, things will never change, and one small non-violent thing we could do, is call hypergamy out for what it is. Also, women isn't exactly not critizing men for every aspect of male nature all the time.
Also when the modern state finally fails, and it will fail, and there is no more wellfare policies, I'm certain that female behaviour will change quite drastically.
@@dances_with_incels I think you are partly correct, but this, like most issues, is very complex and has a multitude of different causes behind it, which together has led us to this point we are at now.
And about abortion, genetically speaking, the type of females that so rampantly champion free abortion policies, you'd probably wouldn't want those having children anyways. Since a lot of the time political views are hereditary, whether is has genetical cause or just being imprinted on the offspring in the family environment. So I see abortions as a self-correcting issue. I have no problem with other people taking their own genetical stakes away from the future, I think it is completely retarded and quite amusing to watch actually. Especially those who commit to not breed for the planets sake. Crypto-religious environmental doomsday(leftist cults can lead to some pretty weird conclusions.
The future is for people who don't abort their kids.
@@SinglemSolis The problem is that the lower classes don't abort their kids and have 5, 6 or even more children and the middle and higher classes have maximum 2 children. And in a socialist country (or welfare state as some want to call it) like my country you end up paying taxes to feed other peoples' children. So you can imagine how things will end..
Smash and dash. I learned back in school that they were never a prize. Young men, you will become the prize thru your wisdom, success and experience over time. A women will decline in her value to you, but they kid themselves thinking that we value their career, finances or experience. You win in the end. Don't chase them and let them pop out all the kids they want out of that big droopy hole down there that runs their life. You win in the end, TRUST ME!
@Plankton 69 self improvement, go to the gym and GET MUSCLES! MUSCLES AND CONFIDENCE =, WOMEN AND SEX
I actually think men are more inclined to get emotional quickly 😂
Bruh the narc I was just with, I could remain calm and then she would just poke with exactly the right buttons.
Women only have shallow emotions. Men go far far deeper.
@@JonJonJonJonJonJonJonJon yp!
Not quickly, but deeply. Women have fleeting emotions, at one moment they're all over one guy, the next they cheat. Men on the other hand may or may not fall for a woman instantly, but once they do its harder yo get out of it. Even when you see that it's hopeless.
@@Walamonga1313 that's an accurate description of how it is I'd say
This is why David Lee Roth is a genius even still healthy to this date.
I don't follow. Please explain.
@@Ace.0.0.0. You see the 9 likes on my comment ? if you're not one of them , then it's not for you.
@@vidalskyociosen3326 Thank you for explaining - Not! I was professing my ignorance, requesting an explanation. I will have to find a different person. - Anybody else??
this happened when they girl i was chasing for 3 months trying to impress with humour and intellect got passed by these 3 stoners in my course and i found out when they jokingly brought up the easy girls on our course, it hurt then it was immediately followed by,it doesnt matter what you do if she already doesnt even like you.
"proper garden tool" shout out to replicant phish
this is what happened. her ego couldnt handle the fact that someone didnt like her or would compliment her.
My favorite youtuber 😄 you are always so wise. My friend and I always spark freaking interesting conversations based on your videos.
In my experience, women are attracted to DOMINANCE👌🏿
Not that I haven't seen hoing from 'pure' women before, but it always needs a reminder.
This is one of your best IMO and you have made sooooo many fantastic videos.
Thanks for sharing such an insightful piece Alexander !
You are very well spoken you know that? 'That pain you feel is the breaking of an illusion.' Very nicely put.
A similar thing happened to me... I was "in love" with a beautiful brown-eye girl. I thought she was perfect. I was far too shy ever to ever ask her out. Several years later, after I got out of the military I ran into her. Still beautiful, but I saw for who she really was - and I wasn't impressed.
What she do?
And whatever happened
To Tuesday and so slow?
Going down the old mine with a
Transistor radio
Standing in the sunlight laughing
Hiding 'hind a rainbow's wall
Slipping and sliding
All along the waterfall with you
My brown-eyed girl
You, my brown-eyed girl
@@nicekix3038 I discovered she was not the kind of person that I would want to spend the rest of my life with. She had had beliefs and acted in a manner that is totally incompatible to my belief system. Beautiful to look at on the outside, not so beautiful in the inside.
About 4 and a half years ago I dated this woman who really had that "sweet & innocent" look. Well looks can and will be deceiving.
The other factor is that women are attracted to good looking guys, and good looking guys tend to be confident and cocky.
Luckily I figured out the true nature of women before I hit 20. Saved me a lot of pain.
Quickest way to destroy this illusion..... 5 minutes of observation 😂
3 minutes of listening and reading these stories was enough for me.
Just observe what they do and listen to what they say when they don't think you're listening and it is obvious. They're really not that good at hiding it.
Alex, they need the part BETWEEN "you're fat" and "let's make out."
I'll fill this in for you:
Her: But you don't really mean that, do you?
Him: Absolutely. I mean what I say. I'm unashamed.
Her: Omg, you're like, so honest when everyone else is lying to me!
Him: Shut up b*tch, you're not worth my time.
Her: Omg, I'll prove to you that I'm worth your time! *muah muah muah* Punish me like my daddy used to!
@@izafanime There is an unspoken power dynamic at play in most social situations.
@@ZombieSS77
Oh go ahead - speak of them.
@@izafanime lmao sounds accurate af
Thank you! This is very helpful!
you always have such great wisdom and content!! :)
This is the realisation that helped me a lot with talking to and approaching women (I’m in my early 20s btw, if that helps paint a picture of the environment and people in my life currently). I used to put women on a pedestal thinking they were beyond the banal humour that me and my guy friends were into. After you “realise” that they are “human” like the rest of us, and that they go out to have fun and meet people the same way you are, chatting them up becomes effortless.
Another angle to this is the fact that women these days are essentailly being encouraged to act on their biology shamelessly while men are simultaneously being discouraged and demonized for the same behavior. This is very conflicting for men but as a man I've had to learn the same lessons. I'm biologically hardwired to respond sexually to certain types of women, and I've had to learn how to taper my impulses as well. If anything, men shouldn't be frustrated with women, they should be frustrated with society for not teaching them the truth about human sexual behavior.
heard this one today "marriage is like a deck of cards, in the beginning all you need is a pair of hearts and a diamond. In the end you wish you had a club and a spade"
But if you asked me about my experience, I'd say women are only interested in how much money I earn?
Women put men on pedestals too. Heard, “The guy you put on the pedestal will loose interest in you because you are not being authentic. It’s the guys you are authentic with that go crazy for you.” Also most guys don’t flirt, say your hair is nice and shiny or curly, your dress is pretty, your perfume smells good or your smart... A woman can believe she is unattractive and will end up with a guy who finally gives her attention. Make sure a women likes how you smell naturally. Women are unconsciously attracted to pheromones which tell them if a man is genetically different from them and can produce healthy children. Read Claus Wedekind’s “T-shirt study. Also read about “Attachment Theory”. So many things to learn. Schools need to teach this stuff. Me I like men who dress well, ask questions and have good manners. The average nice guy is my type. My bf’s were nice men.
I hope you're not under an illusion and saying the truth. But giving attention for the sake of getting sex(which is ultimately what most men want )is too costly and enervating. I just left it to God because in the end, there's no true love in world in this day and age
If they WERE nice... what happened?
What u are describing is an exception not the rule
Quote from a girl:
"If I met a guy and I want something serious with him I tell him I had 3 relationships and 2 one night stands, he doesnt have to know the rest" (The real number was around 25 and she was 24 years old)
The truth is you gonna marry a women one day, and you not gonna know anything about her at all.
That is if you do marry at women AT ALL. In which case you're an idiot with no sense of self-restraint or justice.
Or how about.....NOT getting married......
You don’t need to know because the purpose of a relationship isn’t to make you happy it’s to procreate. Happy is a fleeting incentive to get people to do DNA’s bidding.
I feel this pain of releasing delusions. I'm mostly pissed off at myself and my parents for allowing this to go on for so long.
broadcasting directly from the pillow-fort in the living room
I've slept with a lot of women. This is true and the best thing you can do is understand female nature, in order to live your life well. You have to know how women move and you have to be okay with it
Or you can just don t care at all and not play the game. Win win.
All people can have some form of impurity, immorality, and irrationality, and it's impossible that none of those are women.
I have never understood how some women will treat the nice guy like crap and give anything to the guy that treats her like crap
All of these videos are very helpful.
I literally just said this to my dad this morning...wtf. This is a simulation.
I be like that but I think phones listen to your conversation or something