Enneagram Types 8 and 9 in a Relationship Explained

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  • čas přidán 5. 09. 2024

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  • @LevicMix
    @LevicMix Před 6 měsíci +11

    It's insane how few people know about your content. It's very well done, aesthetic, and some of the most informative enneagram content i've familiarized myself with. Thanks man. Likely going to become a channel member.

    • @LevicMix
      @LevicMix Před 6 měsíci

      Also, I'm looking forward to seeing the enneagram 8 and 2 video!!!

    • @YouveGotaType
      @YouveGotaType  Před 6 měsíci

      Best kept enneagram secret (unintentionally) on CZcams I guess :) Thanks for the kind words & support!

  • @kaitlyntrugman6015
    @kaitlyntrugman6015 Před 6 měsíci +14

    These are so good. I found your channel about 2 weeks ago and went on a binge. I loved how concise and organized your content is. Eagerly waiting on the ones series!

    • @YouveGotaType
      @YouveGotaType  Před 6 měsíci +4

      So glad to hear it, and happy you found the channel! Although I'm sorry you'll have to wait the longest for the 1s as they're the last type in each string of videos since I'm working backward from 9s 😅

    • @kaitlyntrugman6015
      @kaitlyntrugman6015 Před 6 měsíci +2

      @@YouveGotaType only fair, since the nines usually have wait until last in series such as these.

    • @LuisGustavoBD
      @LuisGustavoBD Před 6 měsíci +1

      ​​@@kaitlyntrugman6015 As a 5, I'm always in the middle no matter which order the series is going 🥲

  • @Mimi-ni3il
    @Mimi-ni3il Před 6 měsíci +7

    I’m a 9 engaged to an 8, and we are really happy.🎉❤

  • @carissahill3414
    @carissahill3414 Před 6 měsíci +5

    Thank you for doing 9's first! I find it interesting how a huge part of being a nine is feeling and thinking that we don't matter and then we are always addressed last As a sx/so 9w8 I think maybe a type eight would be the best match for me . Because maybe they will be able to handle my explosiveness. As a nine I don't ever mean to be as explosive as I am. Being an ENFP with a Se demon doesn't help. I don't know why CZcams didn't show me your channel for years. But you definitely are the most succinct and thorough.

    • @YouveGotaType
      @YouveGotaType  Před 6 měsíci

      So glad you found the channel and are enjoying the content!

  • @lsabubbles21
    @lsabubbles21 Před 6 měsíci +3

    I’ve been waiting for this one. This is my parents relationship. My dad is a 8w7 and mom is a 9w1. Both super unhealthy. They are divorced now (thank goodness), but it was a brutal household to grow up in. I never could understand why or how they ever got into a relationship and stayed in one for so long. This gave me some insight. Thanks

    • @YouveGotaType
      @YouveGotaType  Před 6 měsíci

      Glad this could help shed more light on your personal experience of the 8-9 combo. What's your enneagram type just out of curiosity?

    • @lsabubbles21
      @lsabubbles21 Před 6 měsíci +3

      I’m a 1w2

  • @rahmahabdulrahmn9997
    @rahmahabdulrahmn9997 Před 6 měsíci +4

    I'm eagerly awaiting the video where you talk about the relationship between 9 and 9 !!😀

  • @jerrysstories711
    @jerrysstories711 Před 6 měsíci +3

    I feel a bit lost trying to type the people around me, and I realize now that's partly because I tend to think about them in isolation or in social/work dynamics, and I don't give enough thought to their relationships. So thanks again for this highly educational series!

    • @mandyinseattle
      @mandyinseattle Před 5 měsíci +2

      I know! 😅 Don't you wish everyone would take this test and share their number?

  • @yay29823
    @yay29823 Před 6 měsíci +14

    Beauty and the Beast couple lol

  • @danielirvine7468
    @danielirvine7468 Před 5 měsíci +2

    Thanks for posting man ! I have just discovered this world of the enneagram!!
    I’m a 9 and my wife is an 8 I want to understand both of us

    • @YouveGotaType
      @YouveGotaType  Před 5 měsíci

      Glad you found the channel! Hope it continues to help along the enneagram / relationship journey.

  • @silvaadams
    @silvaadams Před 6 měsíci +1

    Bro you are hands down my favorite Ennegram coach!

  • @joeschmoe2765
    @joeschmoe2765 Před 6 měsíci

    🤣🤣🤣 - This resonated with my wife and I! We laughed and poked each other light heartedly. It's humbling truths and we appreciate your gentle reminders on our strengths and weaknesses. Your videos help calibrate us when we need it so thank you for the time and energy you put into these! AND as a very private 8 I comment on almost no videos ever, but I feel safe and compelled enough to put this comment out there to you. Cheers! Keep 'em coming please! 💖

    • @YouveGotaType
      @YouveGotaType  Před 6 měsíci +1

      Thanks so much for sharing your experience watching this video! I love hearing how couples process this information, and a few laughs & pokes is always a good sign that it's accurate info ;) Also really appreciate ya breaking the preferred privacy to leave a comment. Definitely does not go unnoticed by this fledgling content creator!

  • @Pinkywinkykinky
    @Pinkywinkykinky Před 6 měsíci +2

    an unstoppable force vs the unmovable object sounds like my parents at their worst (think my dads an eight, moms a nine)

  • @EllieKrause-km9jx
    @EllieKrause-km9jx Před 28 dny

    Are you hiding in my house and taking notes of my marriage? Because you have described my marriage exactly! I'm a 9, have been happily married to an 8 for many years. We bring out the best in each other.

    • @YouveGotaType
      @YouveGotaType  Před 20 dny +1

      Yes I am - and boy we need to clean out the garage cus it's getting super cluttered in here! ;) But seriously, I'm glad it was an accurate viewing experience and that you've found a healthy balancing act with your 8!

    • @EllieKrause-km9jx
      @EllieKrause-km9jx Před 17 dny

      😄

  • @KairaisnotaLiopleurodon
    @KairaisnotaLiopleurodon Před 6 měsíci +1

    Commenting for the algorithm gods.
    I've seen enneagram content from several creators. I've seen videos from people in a discussion type format, reading off notes that they've gotten from their readings. I've seen really fun videos people have done of skits of the different types in different situations. They're always interesting, engaging, and entertaining.
    However, anytime it comes down to introducing someone brand new to the enneagram, I always guide them to your channel. Your videos are the most well organized and succinct of any I've found thus far. The enneagram can be an iceberg, and you manage to show the tip of it in a way that isn't confusing or overwhelming, and leaves the viewer excited to go more in depth.
    Additionally, this series on all the combinations of types is exactly what I've been looking for, and I believe you're the first to do it on youtube if I'm not mistaken. Ive only seen generalized, "how to love X type" videos. I think it's incredible you've taken on the challenge to do a video for every single combination, and I thank you for it. I genuinely believe people and relationships will benefit from the work you're doing.
    I can see how hard you are working on this channel, and I'm rooting for you to keep going man. You're doing life changing work. I'll do everything I can to see you hit 100k and beyond someday!

    • @YouveGotaType
      @YouveGotaType  Před 6 měsíci +3

      Wow, this is one of the most beautiful and thoughtful comments I've ever received! This relationship series has been a major goal since I started YGAT, and a BEAST of a creative process that's taken years to prep for. It's truly been an exhausting journey (and I'm still far from finished!) so it really is encouraging to read a comment like this. Especially after spending another full day filming, and re-filming, and re-re-filming lol. Thank you so very much for these kind words. And even if the algorithm gods don't hear them, this fledging creator/teacher has truly taken them to heart :)

    • @LuisGustavoBD
      @LuisGustavoBD Před 6 měsíci +2

      ​@@YouveGotaType I wish I could have put it as eloquently as Kaira did in her comment, but since I couldn't, at least know that I second everything she said. You clearly put a lot of effort into making top quality Enneagram videos, and it shows! I wish you great success with your channel :)

    • @YouveGotaType
      @YouveGotaType  Před 6 měsíci +1

      Thank you so much, Luis! Very much appreciated!@@LuisGustavoBD

  • @willow1698
    @willow1698 Před 3 měsíci

    12:45 this is exactly what ended my last relationship with a 9.

    • @YouveGotaType
      @YouveGotaType  Před 2 měsíci

      An inability to express their frustration?

    • @willow1698
      @willow1698 Před 2 měsíci

      @@YouveGotaType Yup. NEVER said anything, never DID anything.
      Just passively let problems happen, and it felt like they were just crossing their fingers and hoping really hard that things would just blow over without putting ANY effort in.
      I had to push SO hard to get them to say anything about anything. Concluded they didn't care.

  • @Joy_Mission
    @Joy_Mission Před 6 měsíci +1

    So helpful!

  • @hadiza1
    @hadiza1 Před 6 měsíci +3

    💜💜💜

  • @mandyinseattle
    @mandyinseattle Před 5 měsíci +1

    13:16 you went there ❤ Youre very good!

  • @ElizabethLorenzo-yv3id
    @ElizabethLorenzo-yv3id Před 6 měsíci +1

    What about 9 with 9?

    • @YouveGotaType
      @YouveGotaType  Před 6 měsíci

      Not doing dual type combos right now. There's so much to infer from the Complete Guides on 9s and Relationship Overviews here.
      Relationships Overview on 9s: czcams.com/video/yQvC8YC-ozY/video.html
      Complete Guide: czcams.com/video/dkYR6b_hUMQ/video.html

  • @MrFireman164
    @MrFireman164 Před 5 měsíci

    So studying the enneagram for years one thing I kinda disagree with is you are born that number, seems that everyone I talk to about their childhood you could almost guess their number without them telling you, example I work with a guy who keeps everything he has perfect, cars, clothes, ect. Ask him about childhood, dad was strict and ridged and mom has OCD, he is a 1w balanced wings. Myself childhood trauma , verbal sometimes physical,low self esteem became a wall flower, conflict avoidant, peacemaker full of rage 😡9w1. What do you think about being born a number or being made one ?

    • @YouveGotaType
      @YouveGotaType  Před 5 měsíci +1

      I believe we're born with a certain psychological temperament as that's pretty well documented. But how that temperament gets expressed is heavily influenced by our parents/caregivers. So I'd hypothesize that we're probably born with the possibility of being 3-4 different types (based on our genetic temperament), but our first few years determine how that gets cemented into our essence. Fun convo!

  • @mandyinseattle
    @mandyinseattle Před 5 měsíci

    9:30 ugh I don't see how a relationship with a 9 could work for me as an 8. I couldn't respect that kind of avoidance or pretending.

    • @YouveGotaType
      @YouveGotaType  Před 5 měsíci +3

      Just need a healthy 9 that's learned to embody that 3ish kind of confidence :)