I Learned How To Fit In With Germans
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I can tell you that there were three things I did upon reaching my duty station of Darmstadt, Germany in 1962: I tried to emulate the German dress as much as possible - no more white socks., no baseball caps. 2. I signed up for German language courses immediately. 3. I made attempts to meet Germans. Fortunately, there were at least two colleges and universities in Darmstadt, and I met students there. It worked out fairly well, as I met my German wife to be and had 49 happy years together.
Americans have this "don't look in the eyes" thing. As an Italian citizen, Nalf should know that "NOT looking in the eyes" is considered a characteristic of insincere people in Italy.
As a german and from what ive heard, i think the german stare is just a culture thing where germans subconsciously look a bit longer than people from other backgrounds. Since eye contact etc. Is so important to us humans, outsiders immidiatly notice this. However its wrong to assume germans only stare at outsiders, not each other
Since American youtubers have talked so much about THE STARE, I've been watching myself doing that and in retrospective asking myself, why I "stared" at that person. And for me, I can say, I don't stare, but I look. The person I'm looking at, is for any reason interesting. Looks pretty, has a wierd tatoo, looks unhappy and I wonder why, is running and I wonder where, wearing fancy clothing, looks familiar, has their hair done in a way that I'd like to copy, has dry hair and I have an imaginary conversation where I walk up and tell the person what they could do, so the hair isn't dry anymore, talking things I don't want to know on the phone, is elderly and might need help, was littering (then it's a hateful stare, not a friendly look)... So, I hope you get the gist :-)
In the US People don't "Stare" because it can be dangerous if You do. Germans themselves don't consider it staring, just looking at anything of interest.
And I would have placed a bet on your shirtless hiking in the mountains as the 'most-stared' event in Germany
Last tip: avoid sitting on wet surfaces. The shot where you slowly lean over that wet chair to sit down, triggered some deep childhood ptsd in my german brain. As a german, I would stare so hard if i'd see someone do that in public. And then you did it again... Great video tho 👍
Many Germans were brought up by their parents in such away that when you talk to other people , you look them in the eye and that has nothing to do with staring, but out of friendliness and politeness towards your fellow human beings. And yes, we Germans like to eat and drink comfortably outside together with others and like to take our time.🙂💚
YOOOOOO, I just watched Unicorn town last night, and you blew far past my expectations, could have been a film on netflix!
When i was 16 i went to canada and a year high school. And peach thing really hit me. People confused me so much and i was hurt at times. Especially when girls spread rumors about me. That never happend in my hometown. I was amazed oberving and found some really good friends and could take it but it stuck with me.. i am swiss and german. In switerland its even more coconutty than in germany..
Americans: literally shouting as loud as possible, so that the whole street/restaurant/plaza hears every bit of the conversation.
You got a stare at
I am German but have lived in the USA for several years. Californians even wear
The clothes thing definitely made me laugh. I went to the supermarket on Friday and there was a guy in jogging pants and I definitely stared and wondered if he doesn’t own jeans.
Never even considered leaning against something while waiting 🤔 I’m gonna branch out my waiting position after what I learned now! 😉
Well, i guess vlogging in public draws you more stares than leaning, coffee to go and clothes combined... :)
The leaning part brings back some memories from my childhood - I grew up in a northern European country and every time someone was leaning against a wall there was at least one person asking if the wall is about to fall over and you're supporting it. Safe to say I never lean. :D
NALF this is your best ever take on German/American life! Married to a German and lived there many years you got it right with the fruit comparison. Peaches rot real fast while coconuts can last forever--same as relationships with many Americans vice Germans.
Good points. However, you missed a big one: LANGUAGE! As a German who has been living in the U.S. for decades, let me tell you, in order to fit in a foreign culture, you have to learn to speak their language, and speak it well. So Nalf, how's your German? 🙂
Mir wahr das Starren der Deutschen nie bewusst gewesen, bis Ausländer dieses Thema rauf und runter diskutierten. Es ist wahr. Ich werde auch ständig angestarrt und auch ich starre Menschen an. Letztens hat mein Kind(4) einen asiatisch aussehenden Mann angestarrt. Ich fand es super. Er soll sehen, wie unterschiedlich Menschen aussehen. Je mehr er davon sieht, desto natürlich wird sein Umgang damit. Mir ist in dem Moment nicht in den Sinn gekommen, dass es ihm vielleicht unangenehm sein könnte. Einem deutschen wäre es bei einem Kind in der Regel nicht unangenehm. Mir ist auch aufgefallen, dass die meisten Menschen zufrieden sind und weg schauen, wenn sie gegrüßt werden. Es muss keine lautes Hallo oder guten Tag sein