That's so true, I have been gifted the book by my aunt but I wasn't really interested in it cause I only liked to read fiction through books, so this channel really helps!
I've managed to listen to it and forgot almost everything! (ADHD related maybe) So having the info also on a different medium is great. Repeating is key I guess
Notes to self: - building identity-based habits (character) - the goal is not to build top grades, but to build a character; *to build a habit of studying everyday* - what's important is not chasing the outcome (A+ grade), but to build a better a new identity - the goal is not to get straight A's, but to become a chracter who studies a little btit everyday; don't worry about the outcomes, focus on the transformation. - focus on what you can control: make the right decisions everyday, and overtime, your actions will compound into habits and transform your identity. - Feynman tehchnique to figure out the character you wanna become; helps u transform into the character u wanna become - you must ask yourself broader questions: why get straight grades? why get a good resume? wy become a doctor? if all ur answers lead to u just chasing outcomes ('being rich, for e.g.), they are EXTRINSIC FACTORS. you need to look into INTRINSIC FACTORS more. r u curious about how the body works, do u enjoy learning medical related things? those are the intrinsic factors.
Okay so I tried it and here is how it goes: -Why do I want to create the habit of improve my game art skills? Because I want to become a game artist -Why do I want to become a game creator? Because I want to see people being happy while playing games I created/helped created -Why do I want to see people happy? Because it warms my heart so see fellow humans entertained and makes me happy!
Can we take a moment to appreciate the great pixel art animations and art that went into this video. Not only are the ideas presented engaging, but the method of presentation is so creative and artistic!
you guys literally SAVED ME in so many ways. my mental health got so much better because of your videos and my study methods r PEAK because of you guys, thanks Mike and Matty!
Why i want a Study habits? Ans:) To become knowledgeable Why i want to become knowledgeable? Ans:) external motivation Wow just doing it now made me realize that i have no clear goal i know what i want but at the same time it is usless because i don't know WHY i want. Thank you very much
I wanted to become a doctor because I'm curious about life itself. The fact that we're made from none living things, that somehow, miraculously bring about consciousness is mind blowing, and it raises millions of questions in my head. Sometimes I would find myself in a crowd of people and start thinking," Wait, my heart is beating, and if anything goes wrong, it can just stop, that's the end of me"... But, after getting into med-school I've noticed how hard it could be, and its making me feel defeated inside. This Channel, however, puts faith and Hope in me, ready to start over, and stop focusing on those outcomes.
I'm in the same boat! The intricate nature of the human body leaves me in awe, and the deductive work doctors have to do to appropriately diagnose and help unwell people is an equally intricate process. I've always wanted to be a doctor due to that intrigue, but MAN is it hard. I'm progressing...but not fast enough. I'm anxious about my capacity to succeed, and channels like these are the only thing keeping me hopeful 😅
@@femmelace I'd like to know you so we complain about it. Somehow it helps😂😂 I have 12 topics to study before tomorrow 8p.m(its 11a.m now here)... And I havent started because I got sick, and assignments accumulated😭. I've written 1 out of 8... And I'm behind due date so, I must finish today. Talk about Histology labs...💀 I'm here because I'm tired really
i wanna learn how to draw, i wanna learn how to draw so i can make my own manga, i want to make manga so that i can inspire, captivate, motivate other people the same way manga did for me. why? because it pulled me out of the hole i was at in my life and helped me become a better person. feel happier, fulfilled and grateful for my life. i feel genuine emotions that make me wanna strive for greatness, while watching one piece and others.
Your goal is inspiring and touched me deeply. I hope with all my heart that you work on your passions and learn art. Keep me posted on how it goes! I am rooting for you!
I feel severely called out btw- But the answers that i got as to why i wanted to be a doctor is I want to help those who are in need and put a smile on their face And also because i love learning about human body and am a nerd 😂 Much love to this video and you guys. - fellow Kitsune club member
That questioning of "why?" and finding the purpose of why I was studying civil engineering was the sole reason why I decided to drop the degree to become a retail manager. It might sound like a bad life choice to many, but I like managing in retail because of the process, not the outcomes.
I have 2 reasons as to why i want to study more and better: 1) because i want my mom to stop insisting me on doing it (it stresses me out), & 2) because i want to be happy doing my job and bring hope in other people’s lives. 🥺 Yeah they‘re 2 very different reasons and i think the first one is stopping me from actually wanting to study 😅 I might as well let go of that and concentrate on the other one 😼 Thank you so much for making videos like this, y’all are helping lots of students around the world! 🥺💖💖
man this technique is so good. I only asked myself some questions about why do I want to do things and I already feel lift in spirit which is not really a motivation but an obligation to do things. love you man.
Study habit? • top grades -> strong resume • Strong resume -> get into police department • Get into police department -> to become a police officer • Become a police officer -> serve other people, help them & solve problems in teamwork (PURE LOVE & JOY)
Good luck, don't forget to prepare to look out and run away for the corrupt bad apples, you'll meet them in most places soon especially in any authoritative institutions.
I am someone who dreamed of being a programmer and build something that people can use. I dropped out of college and went to a bigger city to chase my goals. No doubt I am a self taught developer but its been 7 years, I just feel like all my sacrifices were of no help. Right now I am 27 years old. I am not where I wanted to be. You just start to compare yourself with your friends who got things right in their first attempt. You fee like a loser. Have anyone experienced such situation ?
Yes, just focusing on yourself and your road. Dont fall in the trap of not listening to others tho, that's not a trap you want to fall into, two brains work better than one, which is why the internet is a good thing.
This video is fantastic. I've just begun reading James Crear's Atomic Habits, and this is a nice visualization of some of the book's ideas. I love your content keep it up
Wow, i exposed myself with this and i didnt even know it 😭. for context im homeschooled and REALLY need a study habit if i want to pass my gcses (i am going to school for the final year); Why do i want to build study habit? - So i can pass my GCSES with good grades. Why do i want to pass my GCSES? With good grades? - So i can go to sixth form. Academic validation. Why do you want to go to sixth form? - For the school experience, to get a job i enjoy (idk what job yet) Why do you want the school experience? - Because… its something ive always dreamt of and.. i want friends 😓
•Key Concepts 1. Identity-Based Habits - Focus on becoming a person who performs the habit, not just achieving a specific outcome. 2. Motivation Spectrum - Extrinsic: Driven by rewards/punishments (e.g., good grades). - Intrinsic: Driven by joy or love for the habit itself. 3. Transformation over Outcome - Transformation of identity is key (e.g., becoming a student who studies daily). 4. Feynman Technique - Ask "Why?" repeatedly to uncover deeper motivations and shape habits around your core values. •Practical Steps 1. Identify the Character - Determine the kind of person who achieves your desired outcomes. - Example: Instead of aiming for straight A's, aim to become a diligent student. 2. Shift Focus - Move from outcome-based goals to identity-based habits. - Example: Study daily as part of your identity, not just for grades. 3. Intrinsic Motivation - Cultivate a genuine interest in the habit. - Example: Find aspects of studying you enjoy or align it with your values. 4. Exercise: The Feynman Technique - Write down why you want to build a habit. - Dig deeper into each answer to understand your true motivation. •Implementation Tips 1. Daily Actions - Make small, consistent decisions that reinforce your desired identity. - Example: Attend classes, put away distractions, exercise for mental clarity. 2. Positive Self-Talk - Avoid negative self-narratives that hinder habit formation. - Example: Replace "I'm bad at math" with "I am improving in math." 3. Iterate and Reflect - Regularly review and adjust your habits to ensure they align with your identity.
How discipline solely is not the key to success but identity and character mainly constitute in being disciplined. Knowing and understanding why you do this or that is so much better to succeed than just relying on outcome rewards.
being genuine to do something comes from our innate desire for curiosity, empathy, ego, and experiences that transforms us into our actions to then identity/character.
Now the trick is to convince myself I WANT to be anything when in reality I wanna just do nothing till I die... which will give me time to try things... so I can find what I like actually doing... so far what I like doing, from experience, is nothing.
For me, My Own Why is to build trust in myself. This is because I know that it will be the biggest foundation for my ultimate goal 'helping others grow'
This has helped me so insanely so! I did not know that this much was pestering my mind as much as this. It took an hour and a half to get the straight responses out of myself. Thank you! Why do I want to get fit/Strong? - So I can seem cool to people(Why?) -Because I like Attention(Why?) -So I can Feel Justified for my own failures. - Because I dont like it when I'm on my own(why?) -Because I'm scared of losing the people around me if I'm not good enough. -So I can find love easier(Why?) -Because I love the feeling of being in love and dont think I could live my life without it. - To prove to myself that I'm not weak(Why?) - So I can give myself the ok to not do slightly difficult things that I dont want to do. Why do I want To Write books? -Because I want to have a use for my ideas and creativity instead of not gaining anything from dnd -Because it seems like something I can achieve. -Because I can write about myself and feel my character's growth as my own. Why do I want to sew? -So I can make cool Costumes(why?) -So I can have something I'm good at and build up my skills -To make gifts and interesting crafts for me. Why do I want to read? -So I can pull ideas into dnd(Why?) -So I can have fun stories for my players(why?) -Because I dont think my own ideas are good enough to be liked by people who do dnd with better experienced GMs. -So I can immerse myself in the book(why?) -So I can ignore the problems I'm facing in my own life(Why?) -Because I dont think I can handle them(Why dont ask for help or Try to solve it on your own?) -Because these are problems that I feel like I can solve on my own. (Why dont you solve it on your own?) - Because I'm scared that I will mess up along the way and make people feel disappointed(why do you think they will feel disappointed? (Unknown) -Because enjoying a book and its characters is fun to read(why is it fun?) - Because I love Fantasy(why?) - Because I am addicted to magic and the words that other people come up with. (Why?) -Because I dont like my current world full of crappy things and want an escape. Why do I want to find a job? -To get money(why?) -So I can buy fun things with them(why?) -So I can have fun -So I can pay for things like my house and future life. Why do I want good Grades? -So I can get into a uni and do well in school(Why?) -So I can become a therapist(why) -Because I am a lot more open to myself if I can actually talk to myself, and I feel like I want to use that to help other people like me so that they dont figure this out too late. (Is it too late for you?) -Yes(Why?) -Because I feel like I'm too old to retake any test to prove to myself that I'm actually smart and that I dont have much I can give to the world(Dident you want to be a therapist? Are you going to quit when you did not try?) -What can I do? (Well for starters, you're only 23, people have gone to college in their 50s, you have time. You dont have to worry about a house, so slowly work on your mind and health, then start homeschooling yourself on these matters. You have the internet, there is nothing you can't do if you spend 30 min a day reading and writing at the least. -Ok, ill try(no, you will, you have what it takes, try buffing yourself with a roll, Do you like dice? Roll a d20+ your age, that number is the amount you will do for your goals, then add a d20 once a month.) -Yes
I completely agree with everything you’re saying. I guess I struggle with it because I don’t like to think too hard about why I do the things I do. I just do things I feel that I can at face value. I’m finding it hard to make life style changes.
• So that I can do a lot of things by myself and its perfect for my career (External) • I don't want to wake up late anymore (Values) • Dusk is more beautiful than Evenings, convenient too (Intrinsic factors) • So that I can exercise and jog in the morning (Intrinsic factors) • So that I can be more healthy and happy (Intrinsic factors)
@@KoiAcademy honestly, its the identity based habits for me. Just realization that the outcome of any given goal via the character of a person legit has changed my mind!
My guy, I've been telling this to myself for so long but having someone like you affirm it really makes me believe it, and I'm finally feeling the joy of programming return to me seeping in, just know that wherever I may end up at life, I'll be grateful, I've been trying to get back at this for 3months straight, better late than never, cheers.
Alright. Let's try this. I want to be a better employee - to become more productive in general - so i can bring focus to all tasks in my life and not get frustrated - to reduce stress - to focus on being there for others - to become reliable - so others have someplace to go when they need answers that they're not getting - because being able to be a knowledge base for others makes me happy.
Interesting video, Mike and Matty! Your channel has helped me understand my patterns and myself a lot better. This video has made me reflect on the identity I built for myself. My purpose has always been there but I was lost in the different ways of pursuit. Thanks for this video. :)
This video reminds me of the little girl that was asked, “What do you want to be when you grow up and how much will you make? (A doctor, making people happy and healthy)
This is perfect for me lmao Why I like studying? it's not because I want to have a good grades or make my parents happy, I just like the feeling that I am competent or "smart" in some things. I'm currently in my college now studying Criminology and is graduating and in my mind, if I think I'm some sort of genius investigator I study well lol.
I find your videos very clear with high quality 👍🏻 -mine is to be a doctor ,I questioned myself like this: --what is my purpose? To be a doctor. --so why do I wanna be a doctor? Because I wanna know how does the human body systems work and why not when saving a life is the best things a human can do and I will heal myself by healing them . --Why do I think I should save lives? Because when i put myself in the position of a surgeon doing it every single day along with the impact I will have in their life…….and that feeling~~now ,surely I know I am made to be a doctor>>:] And then all the questions of how to be a doctor and so on…
Made sure to take some notes, because your one of my main sources for self improvement. Appreciate the time you put into the research for your videos. ❤
The first step to self improvement is not trying to self improve through self improvement sources. The first step is to be critical of yourself, find your own shortcomings, and fix what you deem to be wrong. Otherwise you'll hold yourself to an impossible standard. It's sorta like "poor dad rich dad." he isn't rich because he followed his financial advice, he's rich because he wrote a book.
When I was a kid I loved math, it made me feel those trickling in my brain and I enjoyed it. As an adult I was in maternity leaving, so I forgot those feelings. Then I needed to find out what should I do for a living after maternity leaving. I tried several things,and I stopped on programming because developing engineering remind me about tickling in my brain,and after learning a year I work as a backend developer nowadays... I totally agree,it's all about joy❤
2:22 This is important Act like you what to do it anyway even if you don't You are most likely to do it 3:07 So you become this person as a result of these small thing to a big transformation Makes you a good student and Sense of achievement makes you love it anyway You find a reason to love it Enjoy habit, Habit becomes fun YOU CAN RUIN UR PROGRESS WITH A NEGATIVE MINDSET/AFFIRMATIONS or make you not start in the diet place 5:47 How to figure out if you are extrinsicly or intrincicly Then you can find out how to make it intrinsic or in other words how to enjoy it!
When you said why you want to become a doctor and your answer exactly matched my reasons. So reassuring. “Fall in love w the process”, like James Clear said. Love your amazing channel 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
Why do I want to build a habit of exercising? To make my skin clearer, make my brain sharper, be more fitter and being healthy Why do I want to make my skin clearer? To be more beautiful Brain sharper? For making school easier Be more fitter? To add more charisma Being healthy? To live fully Why do I want all of this? To make life easier
I chose sciences because it was interesting and I was decent at it. I continued because I kept finding new concepts. Now, I enjoy seeing a building or a phenomenon, and thinking about the physics and engineering behind it.
Why do I want to draw? I want to become a better at a certain aspect of drawing. Why do you want to get better at drawing? I want to become a better artist in the future. Why do you want to become a better artist? I want to create what I love and show and express my emotions and what I think to people.
0:55 OH MY GOD YES. E X A C T L Y The ammount of times i struggled and failed and blamed myself, i wish i knew this much much sooner. But this information only came to me after i poorly graduated university. This reminder couldn't have come in better time, I am curently starting getting my life together and already see aome progress.
Hello! It took me 1 hour to make this chain, but i'm not sure if it's correctly done, so i would like some feedback if possible. -Why do I want to build the study habit? Because I want to make the most of the day, studying without excuses and thus staying consistent -Why do you want consistency? To improve my grades, stop falling behind in class, and remove a roadblock that prevents me from becoming an elite student. At the same time I get more time to spend on myself, my other responsibilities and hobbies. -Why do you want to become an elite student? To have a better opportunity to take an engineering scholarship that allows me to emigrate to Germany, where I will be able to practice that profession -Why do you want to take that scholarship? Because it will give me the greatest opportunity to be free from this prison (Latin America) and thus be able to obtain financial freedom for myself and my family. -Why do you want to be an engineer? To help improve this world as much as possible by implementing renewable energy, creating a better future for myself, my family, friends and everyone who comes after us. All this without neglecting myself, I also want to use these habits to become the best version of myself. (I'm not sure what comes after this, but i'll try to focus more in the process of becoming an engineer haha. Have a good night.)
You really are a valuable person, I can tell by your way of speech. Me, it was my mom who undermine me since I was little until now, so I knew a lot about this topic but you just give me some tools to deeper understanding. Thank you so much 👍💪
It's totally hard for me to stick to my plans like when plan crashes I'd cry and I would delay my study for everything so now I'm not gonna do that when I will make it my intrisic factor
Basically guys you have to make your own self identity if you are trying to study think if you were a A+ student would you be sitting around doing nothing will you give up? and do what the person you want to become would do not what you want to do
Thank you so much! Your video helped me out of my yo yo life of being either super motivated or super un-motivated. :) its really having fun while doing work that's the win.
Yes, only concentrating on obtaining the desired result and only that without ever regularly asking how to be able to achieve it concretely is a very bad approach when it comes to our desire to succeed in our projects. The most important thing is the new personality that one must forge in order to experience success in life. Building good habits takes time !! Sincearly 😀😃😄❤❤❤
I did this exercise and I think it's pretty good... Get 250 out of 360 marks in JEE. To get into IIT KGP.The best college for CSE Why CSE? - I want to learn about Computers and Programming & then go to Japan for a job. Why IIT KGP - Gives a noicee impression. Why Japan? - I love their culture and everything in there. (Also, there's way more 💸💰)
I really struggle with finding my why. Its like my parents didnt care what I do (Like they didnt even forced me to go to school, which would have been good) And I too, dont really care what I do.
isso é verdade! desde que comecei a aproveitar o processo de aprender coreano e realmente me divertir e entender os motivos de estudar, nem mesmo nos dias em que me sinto mal são capazes de me fazer parar de estudar.❤
I want to become a person that studies a bit everyday and studies knowledge to gain something. I want to become a knowledgeable person because I love to learn new things that can help me, and I have a passion for using my knowledge to teach and inspire others.
What about those that are lost? Like they don't know what they wanna study for, basically can't decide on a career, they have interests but these interests won't make enough money or the work environment is not good for them I am indeed talking about myself So far i am interested in coding so i can work from home, and interested in Cyber Security to protect my friends and family, but i feel like these aren't enough motivations to tackle the mountains of maths and other headaches ill face, thank you for reading.
I am studying to become a financial manager or analyst. I tried asking myself whys and figured out it is because i want to be making best possible decisions in every aspect of life. And the corporate world faces ample of challenges i want to become a person who takes on challenges because i like the feeling of doing it right, identifying the sequences, making right forecasts overcoming challenges to make me want to take up more challenges. Though i am always in need of feedbacks? So did i do it right?
Additionally, It doesn't have to be a "successful character" you become just yet You can start of as building yourself to be just a character eg. Study for 10 mins everyday You're not the ideal yet, but you are going to be with the !!Habits you made to stay consistent You don't have to build to a character knowing everything to be one. Eg. Exactly how to get a million subs, just know that consistency is your main factor x It all starts with following your system to become that character and make the right, small decisions Then develop your system along the way Make sure you can find sufficient things you love about the thing you want to do if it's something like medicine so don't force yourself to like a certain career path
We need to stop focusing on the outcome and instead make our goal becoming the type of person that achieves the outcome. This way we can build up an identity around these golden habits and start to enjoy them. Step 1: Is to choose a character to become - not to focus on the outcome itself Why is this relevant? Because focusing on what you can control (the identity you build up) is better for long lasting habits, since the outcome is often long term and our brains aren't wired to continue doing something consistently without having a constant positive feedback loop. Henceforth, just focusing on your identity instead of the outcome helps - it basically helps you avoid the craving of instant reward.
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This channel is like Atomic Habits for people with no attention span to read books or listen to an audiobook 😍
That's so true, I have been gifted the book by my aunt but I wasn't really interested in it cause I only liked to read fiction through books, so this channel really helps!
I've managed to listen to it and forgot almost everything! (ADHD related maybe) So having the info also on a different medium is great. Repeating is key I guess
I’m readin that book rn
For some reason, your comment has given me the strength to literally do that and then go kick your as
In a non-threatening way
I knew it. Some of the ideas came from that book I just finished a year ago.
“How important it is to watch the narratives I feed my kids.” I’m a parent and I’m learning that from a non-parent! 🙃
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damn😂😂
Better late than never!
I literally felt that even if that did not happened to me, sometimes my friend says that to me, and it sort of hurts
I literally felt that even if that did not happened to me, sometimes my friend says that to me, and it sort of hurts
Notes to self:
- building identity-based habits (character)
- the goal is not to build top grades, but to build a character; *to build a habit of studying everyday*
- what's important is not chasing the outcome (A+ grade), but to build a better a new identity
- the goal is not to get straight A's, but to become a chracter who studies a little btit everyday; don't worry about the outcomes, focus on the transformation.
- focus on what you can control: make the right decisions everyday, and overtime, your actions will compound into habits and transform your identity.
- Feynman tehchnique to figure out the character you wanna become; helps u transform into the character u wanna become
- you must ask yourself broader questions: why get straight grades? why get a good resume? wy become a doctor? if all ur answers lead to u just chasing outcomes ('being rich, for e.g.), they are EXTRINSIC FACTORS. you need to look into INTRINSIC FACTORS more. r u curious about how the body works, do u enjoy learning medical related things? those are the intrinsic factors.
This remembers me a film called "The Peaceful Warrior"
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Ayo, friendly reminder
Reminder #2. How’s it going?
Okay so I tried it and here is how it goes:
-Why do I want to create the habit of improve my game art skills?
Because I want to become a game artist
-Why do I want to become a game creator?
Because I want to see people being happy while playing games I created/helped created
-Why do I want to see people happy?
Because it warms my heart so see fellow humans entertained and makes me happy!
Love this
Thanks G
Been curious as to how identity shifting can correlate to the ways in which we form new habits. This came at the perfect time!
His videos always make sense fr
I would also recommend struthless's video on how identity can shape our actions
Can we take a moment to appreciate the great pixel art animations and art that went into this video. Not only are the ideas presented engaging, but the method of presentation is so creative and artistic!
Can you tell how he did that so I can
@@Itsam9 You're barking up the wrong tree, dawg.
@@MichelangeloVA who is asperite?
@@MichelangeloVA ok do you have something so that I could make it on my phone
they steal art tho, the dog from 5:26 is straight up ripped from Stardew Valley (the sleeping sprite) and they don't mention it anywhere...not ok
you guys literally SAVED ME in so many ways. my mental health got so much better because of your videos and my study methods r PEAK because of you guys, thanks Mike and Matty!
Why i want a Study habits?
Ans:) To become knowledgeable
Why i want to become knowledgeable?
Ans:) external motivation
Wow just doing it now made me realize that i have no clear goal i know what i want but at the same time it is usless because i don't know WHY i want.
Thank you very much
I wanted to become a doctor because I'm curious about life itself. The fact that we're made from none living things, that somehow, miraculously bring about consciousness is mind blowing, and it raises millions of questions in my head. Sometimes I would find myself in a crowd of people and start thinking," Wait, my heart is beating, and if anything goes wrong, it can just stop, that's the end of me"...
But, after getting into med-school I've noticed how hard it could be, and its making me feel defeated inside. This Channel, however, puts faith and Hope in me, ready to start over, and stop focusing on those outcomes.
Good luck for you!
What do you do in med school?
I'm in the same boat! The intricate nature of the human body leaves me in awe, and the deductive work doctors have to do to appropriately diagnose and help unwell people is an equally intricate process. I've always wanted to be a doctor due to that intrigue, but MAN is it hard. I'm progressing...but not fast enough. I'm anxious about my capacity to succeed, and channels like these are the only thing keeping me hopeful 😅
@@femmelace I'd like to know you so we complain about it. Somehow it helps😂😂
I have 12 topics to study before tomorrow 8p.m(its 11a.m now here)... And I havent started because I got sick, and assignments accumulated😭. I've written 1 out of 8... And I'm behind due date so, I must finish today. Talk about Histology labs...💀
I'm here because I'm tired really
summary: fake it until you make it
I’ve been on the low for a while but after watching this I suddenly have a fresh spark motivation. Thank you guys
i wanna learn how to draw, i wanna learn how to draw so i can make my own manga, i want to make manga so that i can inspire, captivate, motivate other people the same way manga did for me. why? because it pulled me out of the hole i was at in my life and helped me become a better person. feel happier, fulfilled and grateful for my life. i feel genuine emotions that make me wanna strive for greatness, while watching one piece and others.
Your goal is inspiring and touched me deeply. I hope with all my heart that you work on your passions and learn art.
Keep me posted on how it goes! I am rooting for you!
1:51 I love the fact that he said "disappointing your Asian parents" as if you could only disappoint Asian parents 😂
I feel severely called out btw-
But the answers that i got as to why i wanted to be a doctor is I want to help those who are in need and put a smile on their face
And also because i love learning about human body and am a nerd 😂
Much love to this video and you guys.
- fellow Kitsune club member
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That questioning of "why?" and finding the purpose of why I was studying civil engineering was the sole reason why I decided to drop the degree to become a retail manager. It might sound like a bad life choice to many, but I like managing in retail because of the process, not the outcomes.
the intrinsic motivation is the best motivation, makes you have a growth mindset
🙂 thank you for the enlightenment
Growth mindset is key
I have 2 reasons as to why i want to study more and better: 1) because i want my mom to stop insisting me on doing it (it stresses me out), & 2) because i want to be happy doing my job and bring hope in other people’s lives. 🥺
Yeah they‘re 2 very different reasons and i think the first one is stopping me from actually wanting to study 😅 I might as well let go of that and concentrate on the other one 😼
Thank you so much for making videos like this, y’all are helping lots of students around the world! 🥺💖💖
Love this 🙏
man this technique is so good. I only asked myself some questions about why do I want to do things and I already feel lift in spirit which is not really a motivation but an obligation to do things. love you man.
Study habit?
• top grades -> strong resume
• Strong resume -> get into police department
• Get into police department -> to become a police officer
• Become a police officer -> serve other people, help them & solve problems in teamwork (PURE LOVE & JOY)
Good luck, don't forget to prepare to look out and run away for the corrupt bad apples, you'll meet them in most places soon especially in any authoritative institutions.
build identity based habit : focus, self care, study, exercise, sleep
transform yourself internally
self positive talk internally
This video is perfect. If you want something, then become a person who deserve that thing.
Applying this to my walk with Jesus
I am someone who dreamed of being a programmer and build something that people can use. I dropped out of college and went to a bigger city to chase my goals. No doubt I am a self taught developer but its been 7 years, I just feel like all my sacrifices were of no help. Right now I am 27 years old. I am not where I wanted to be. You just start to compare yourself with your friends who got things right in their first attempt. You fee like a loser. Have anyone experienced such situation ?
Yes, just focusing on yourself and your road.
Dont fall in the trap of not listening to others tho, that's not a trap you want to fall into, two brains work better than one, which is why the internet is a good thing.
This video is fantastic. I've just begun reading James Crear's Atomic Habits, and this is a nice visualization of some of the book's ideas. I love your content keep it up
Wow, i exposed myself with this and i didnt even know it 😭. for context im homeschooled and REALLY need a study habit if i want to pass my gcses (i am going to school for the final year);
Why do i want to build study habit?
- So i can pass my GCSES with good grades.
Why do i want to pass my GCSES? With good grades?
- So i can go to sixth form. Academic validation.
Why do you want to go to sixth form?
- For the school experience, to get a job i enjoy (idk what job yet)
Why do you want the school experience?
- Because… its something ive always dreamt of and.. i want friends 😓
•Key Concepts
1. Identity-Based Habits
- Focus on becoming a person who performs the habit, not just achieving a
specific outcome.
2. Motivation Spectrum
- Extrinsic: Driven by rewards/punishments (e.g., good grades).
- Intrinsic: Driven by joy or love for the habit itself.
3. Transformation over Outcome
- Transformation of identity is key (e.g., becoming a student who studies daily).
4. Feynman Technique
- Ask "Why?" repeatedly to uncover deeper motivations and shape habits around
your core values.
•Practical Steps
1. Identify the Character
- Determine the kind of person who achieves your desired outcomes.
- Example: Instead of aiming for straight A's, aim to become a diligent student.
2. Shift Focus
- Move from outcome-based goals to identity-based habits.
- Example: Study daily as part of your identity, not just for grades.
3. Intrinsic Motivation
- Cultivate a genuine interest in the habit.
- Example: Find aspects of studying you enjoy or align it with your values.
4. Exercise: The Feynman Technique
- Write down why you want to build a habit.
- Dig deeper into each answer to understand your true motivation.
•Implementation Tips
1. Daily Actions
- Make small, consistent decisions that reinforce your desired identity.
- Example: Attend classes, put away distractions, exercise for mental clarity.
2. Positive Self-Talk
- Avoid negative self-narratives that hinder habit formation.
- Example: Replace "I'm bad at math" with "I am improving in math."
3. Iterate and Reflect
- Regularly review and adjust your habits to ensure they align with your identity.
How discipline solely is not the key to success but identity and character mainly constitute in being disciplined. Knowing and understanding why you do this or that is so much better to succeed than just relying on outcome rewards.
being genuine to do something comes from our innate desire for curiosity, empathy, ego, and experiences that transforms us into our actions to then identity/character.
Now the trick is to convince myself I WANT to be anything when in reality I wanna just do nothing till I die... which will give me time to try things... so I can find what I like actually doing... so far what I like doing, from experience, is nothing.
For me,
My Own Why is to build trust in myself.
This is because I know that it will be the biggest foundation for my ultimate goal
'helping others grow'
Omg this is exactly what I’ve been looking for, I love your content because you know exactly what’s the problem and how to explain it. Thank you!
This has helped me so insanely so! I did not know that this much was pestering my mind as much as this. It took an hour and a half to get the straight responses out of myself. Thank you!
Why do I want to get fit/Strong?
- So I can seem cool to people(Why?)
-Because I like Attention(Why?)
-So I can Feel Justified for my own failures.
- Because I dont like it when I'm on my own(why?)
-Because I'm scared of losing the people around me if I'm not good enough.
-So I can find love easier(Why?)
-Because I love the feeling of being in love and dont think I could live my life without it.
- To prove to myself that I'm not weak(Why?)
- So I can give myself the ok to not do slightly difficult things that I dont want to do.
Why do I want To Write books?
-Because I want to have a use for my ideas and creativity instead of not gaining anything from dnd
-Because it seems like something I can achieve.
-Because I can write about myself and feel my character's growth as my own.
Why do I want to sew?
-So I can make cool Costumes(why?)
-So I can have something I'm good at and build up my skills
-To make gifts and interesting crafts for me.
Why do I want to read?
-So I can pull ideas into dnd(Why?)
-So I can have fun stories for my players(why?)
-Because I dont think my own ideas are good enough to be liked by people who do dnd with better experienced GMs.
-So I can immerse myself in the book(why?)
-So I can ignore the problems I'm facing in my own life(Why?)
-Because I dont think I can handle them(Why dont ask for help or Try to solve it on your own?)
-Because these are problems that I feel like I can solve on my own. (Why dont you solve it on your own?)
- Because I'm scared that I will mess up along the way and make people feel disappointed(why do you think they will feel disappointed? (Unknown)
-Because enjoying a book and its characters is fun to read(why is it fun?)
- Because I love Fantasy(why?)
- Because I am addicted to magic and the words that other people come up with. (Why?)
-Because I dont like my current world full of crappy things and want an escape.
Why do I want to find a job?
-To get money(why?)
-So I can buy fun things with them(why?)
-So I can have fun
-So I can pay for things like my house and future life.
Why do I want good Grades?
-So I can get into a uni and do well in school(Why?)
-So I can become a therapist(why)
-Because I am a lot more open to myself if I can actually talk to myself, and I feel like I want to use that to help other people like me so that they dont figure this out too late. (Is it too late for you?)
-Yes(Why?)
-Because I feel like I'm too old to retake any test to prove to myself that I'm actually smart and that I dont have much I can give to the world(Dident you want to be a therapist? Are you going to quit when you did not try?)
-What can I do? (Well for starters, you're only 23, people have gone to college in their 50s, you have time. You dont have to worry about a house, so slowly work on your mind and health, then start homeschooling yourself on these matters. You have the internet, there is nothing you can't do if you spend 30 min a day reading and writing at the least.
-Ok, ill try(no, you will, you have what it takes, try buffing yourself with a roll, Do you like dice? Roll a d20+ your age, that number is the amount you will do for your goals, then add a d20 once a month.)
-Yes
This is real and true on much deeper levels and topics than just building a habit.
Definitely agree. It all starts with a mindset change.
I completely agree with everything you’re saying. I guess I struggle with it because I don’t like to think too hard about why I do the things I do. I just do things I feel that I can at face value. I’m finding it hard to make life style changes.
OMG WHERE HAS THIS VIDEO BEEN MY ENTIRE LIFE?! Thank you so much for creating this vid!
Haha! I am so glad to hear that! Why did this lesson resonated with you today?
gaved it a shot
Why do you want to wake up Early?
• So that I can do a lot of things by myself and its perfect for my career
(External)
• I don't want to wake up late anymore
(Values)
• Dusk is more beautiful than Evenings, convenient too
(Intrinsic factors)
• So that I can exercise and jog in the morning
(Intrinsic factors)
• So that I can be more healthy and happy
(Intrinsic factors)
making things super simple at the start is what helps me build great habits!
you have no idea how much i needed this. thank you :)
You are welcome! What part helped you most?
@@KoiAcademy honestly, its the identity based habits for me. Just realization that the outcome of any given goal via the character of a person legit has changed my mind!
I love how you said "this guy".
It's similar to the quote of Geeta that you should concentrate on doing work rather the focusing on out comes ( karam karo fal ki echa mat karo )
The timing was perfect, I need this just now
My guy, I've been telling this to myself for so long but having someone like you affirm it really makes me believe it, and I'm finally feeling the joy of programming return to me seeping in, just know that wherever I may end up at life, I'll be grateful, I've been trying to get back at this for 3months straight, better late than never, cheers.
Alright. Let's try this.
I want to be a better employee - to become more productive in general - so i can bring focus to all tasks in my life and not get frustrated - to reduce stress - to focus on being there for others - to become reliable - so others have someplace to go when they need answers that they're not getting - because being able to be a knowledge base for others makes me happy.
Interesting video, Mike and Matty! Your channel has helped me understand my patterns and myself a lot better. This video has made me reflect on the identity I built for myself. My purpose has always been there but I was lost in the different ways of pursuit. Thanks for this video. :)
This video reminds me of the little girl that was asked, “What do you want to be when you grow up and how much will you make? (A doctor, making people happy and healthy)
This is perfect for me lmao
Why I like studying? it's not because I want to have a good grades or make my parents happy, I just like the feeling that I am competent or "smart" in some things. I'm currently in my college now studying Criminology and is graduating and in my mind, if I think I'm some sort of genius investigator I study well lol.
I find your videos very clear with high quality 👍🏻
-mine is to be a doctor ,I questioned myself like this:
--what is my purpose?
To be a doctor.
--so why do I wanna be a doctor?
Because I wanna know how does the human body systems work and why not when saving a life is the best things a human can do and I will heal myself by healing them .
--Why do I think I should save lives?
Because when i put myself in the position of a surgeon doing it every single day along with the impact I will have in their life…….and that feeling~~now ,surely I know I am made to be a doctor>>:]
And then all the questions of how to be a doctor and so on…
Most of the information is from Atomic Habits book written by James Clear. This video is such a great summary of the atomic habits book
Made sure to take some notes, because your one of my main sources for self improvement.
Appreciate the time you put into the research for your videos. ❤
The first step to self improvement is not trying to self improve through self improvement sources.
The first step is to be critical of yourself, find your own shortcomings, and fix what you deem to be wrong. Otherwise you'll hold yourself to an impossible standard.
It's sorta like "poor dad rich dad." he isn't rich because he followed his financial advice, he's rich because he wrote a book.
This channel has actually become a habit for me 👌🏼
Were glad to be a part of your "Good Habits" List💪🏻
one of most important question is always why.. I always love your content guys 💛
When I was a kid I loved math, it made me feel those trickling in my brain and I enjoyed it. As an adult I was in maternity leaving, so I forgot those feelings. Then I needed to find out what should I do for a living after maternity leaving. I tried several things,and I stopped on programming because developing engineering remind me about tickling in my brain,and after learning a year I work as a backend developer nowadays...
I totally agree,it's all about joy❤
2:22
This is important
Act like you what to do it anyway even if you don't
You are most likely to do it
3:07
So you become this person as a result of these small thing to a big transformation
Makes you a good student and
Sense of achievement makes you love it anyway
You find a reason to love it
Enjoy habit,
Habit becomes fun
YOU CAN RUIN UR PROGRESS WITH A NEGATIVE MINDSET/AFFIRMATIONS or make you not start in the diet place
5:47
How to figure out if you are extrinsicly or intrincicly
Then you can find out how to make it intrinsic or in other words how to enjoy it!
When you said why you want to become a doctor and your answer exactly matched my reasons. So reassuring. “Fall in love w the process”, like James Clear said. Love your amazing channel 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
love you bro just awesome hack on what i really needed now
Why do I want to build a habit of exercising?
To make my skin clearer, make my brain sharper, be more fitter and being healthy
Why do I want to make my skin clearer?
To be more beautiful
Brain sharper?
For making school easier
Be more fitter?
To add more charisma
Being healthy?
To live fully
Why do I want all of this?
To make life easier
Now This quote has a whole new meaning to me
*"Become water my friend"*
*-Bruce Lee*
Consistency is the key to succes 🔑✨️
Yessir, and joining cajunkoi discord
Don't just come here and say I'M FIRST learn from it😑
Edited:What?
I am not first
I won't say I'm first. I'll say first instead
@@merahsuc4750 same thing
@@merahsuc4750 same thing
What do you know bout learning baaka and how are you speaking in sense
Wow so true! It’s all about believing until you become it. It’s what the gurus have been saying!
Thanks a lot, it genuinely helped me to realize why I actually want to accomplish my goals
Thanks bro for all the helpful content. Wish you strength to continue to make these videos.
Really thank you. This video is life changing for me. 🙏
I am so glad you found value in our content! What about the video changed your perspective?
That outcome is never under human control but creating a certain character is. Thanks!
I chose sciences because it was interesting and I was decent at it. I continued because I kept finding new concepts. Now, I enjoy seeing a building or a phenomenon, and thinking about the physics and engineering behind it.
Why do I want to draw?
I want to become a better at a certain aspect of drawing.
Why do you want to get better at drawing?
I want to become a better artist in the future.
Why do you want to become a better artist?
I want to create what I love and show and express my emotions and what I think to people.
recently tho, i feel like there's no point towards self-improvement now, need to find new goals...
0:55 OH MY GOD YES. E X A C T L Y
The ammount of times i struggled and failed and blamed myself, i wish i knew this much much sooner. But this information only came to me after i poorly graduated university. This reminder couldn't have come in better time, I am curently starting getting my life together and already see aome progress.
GREAT VIDEO
Hello! It took me 1 hour to make this chain, but i'm not sure if it's correctly done, so i would like some feedback if possible.
-Why do I want to build the study habit?
Because I want to make the most of the day, studying without excuses and thus staying consistent
-Why do you want consistency?
To improve my grades, stop falling behind in class, and remove a roadblock that prevents me from becoming an elite student. At the same time I get more time to spend on myself, my other responsibilities and hobbies.
-Why do you want to become an elite student?
To have a better opportunity to take an engineering scholarship that allows me to emigrate to Germany, where I will be able to practice that profession
-Why do you want to take that scholarship?
Because it will give me the greatest opportunity to be free from this prison (Latin America) and thus be able to obtain financial freedom for myself and my family.
-Why do you want to be an engineer?
To help improve this world as much as possible by implementing renewable energy, creating a better future for myself, my family, friends and everyone who comes after us.
All this without neglecting myself, I also want to use these habits to become the best version of myself.
(I'm not sure what comes after this, but i'll try to focus more in the process of becoming an engineer haha. Have a good night.)
Tip to remember:
Don't focus on results 🤕focus on what u do today 💪 and results will come automatically tomorrow😎
If u agree say “yes” in comment🤙
You really are a valuable person, I can tell by your way of speech. Me, it was my mom who undermine me since I was little until now, so I knew a lot about this topic but you just give me some tools to deeper understanding. Thank you so much 👍💪
This was so helpful!!!
Thanks😍😍
It's totally hard for me to stick to my plans like when plan crashes I'd cry and I would delay my study for everything so now I'm not gonna do that when I will make it my intrisic factor
Basically guys you have to make your own self identity if you are trying to study think if you were a A+ student would you be sitting around doing nothing will you give up? and do what the person you want to become would do not what you want to do
u made me wake up, the whole thing is awesome thank youuuu
Thank you so much! Your video helped me out of my yo yo life of being either super motivated or super un-motivated. :) its really having fun while doing work that's the win.
My Philosophy Is That The Reason Inspires Me.
‘Don’t focus on the outcome, focus on the transformation.’
Yes, only concentrating on obtaining the desired result and only that without ever regularly asking how to be able to achieve it concretely is a very bad approach when it comes to our desire to succeed in our projects. The most important thing is the new personality that one must forge in order to experience success in life. Building good habits takes time !! Sincearly 😀😃😄❤❤❤
I love your videos! They help me so much - thanks! :))
Let’s go!
I did this exercise and I think it's pretty good...
Get 250 out of 360 marks in JEE.
To get into IIT KGP.The best college for CSE
Why CSE? - I want to learn about Computers and Programming & then go to Japan for a job.
Why IIT KGP - Gives a noicee impression.
Why Japan? - I love their culture and everything in there. (Also, there's way more 💸💰)
Thank you for the video, it made me think a lot about my goals, and who I want to become.
I really struggle with finding my why. Its like my parents didnt care what I do (Like they didnt even forced me to go to school, which would have been good) And I too, dont really care what I do.
Wonderful channel!
isso é verdade! desde que comecei a aproveitar o processo de aprender coreano e realmente me divertir e entender os motivos de estudar, nem mesmo nos dias em que me sinto mal são capazes de me fazer parar de estudar.❤
I love this #video.. I just learnt so much I'll try to apply in my own life
Also that teacher who said your a failure lied
You are amazing
When work becomes enjoyable it translates to fun😊
Fun is the ultimate goal
Great video. Thanks ❤for sharing
Great content. Thank you so much.
This video deserves million viewers
I want to become a person that studies a bit everyday and studies knowledge to gain something. I want to become a knowledgeable person because I love to learn new things that can help me, and I have a passion for using my knowledge to teach and inspire others.
outcome vs identify ( character) based habits!!!
One word to describe this video-"AWESOME''
One word to describe the video's content -"PERFECT"
One word to describe their effort -"DILIGENT''
Thank you for this video. I will be back on this. I like your content
Very profound insight.
So this is why if you declare an identity that you are this or that. Then you will be..
What about those that are lost? Like they don't know what they wanna study for, basically can't decide on a career, they have interests but these interests won't make enough money or the work environment is not good for them
I am indeed talking about myself
So far i am interested in coding so i can work from home, and interested in Cyber Security to protect my friends and family, but i feel like these aren't enough motivations to tackle the mountains of maths and other headaches ill face, thank you for reading.
I am studying to become a financial manager or analyst. I tried asking myself whys and figured out it is because i want to be making best possible decisions in every aspect of life. And the corporate world faces ample of challenges i want to become a person who takes on challenges because i like the feeling of doing it right, identifying the sequences, making right forecasts overcoming challenges to make me want to take up more challenges. Though i am always in need of feedbacks? So did i do it right?
Additionally,
It doesn't have to be a "successful character" you become just yet
You can start of as building yourself to be just a character eg. Study for 10 mins everyday
You're not the ideal yet, but you are going to be with the !!Habits you made to stay consistent
You don't have to build to a character knowing everything to be one. Eg. Exactly how to get a million subs, just know that consistency is your main factor x
It all starts with following your system to become that character and make the right, small decisions
Then develop your system along the way
Make sure you can find sufficient things you love about the thing you want to do if it's something like medicine so don't force yourself to like a certain career path
We need to stop focusing on the outcome and instead make our goal becoming the type of person that achieves the outcome. This way we can build up an identity around these golden habits and start to enjoy them.
Step 1: Is to choose a character to become - not to focus on the outcome itself
Why is this relevant? Because focusing on what you can control (the identity you build up) is better for long lasting habits, since the outcome is often long term and our brains aren't wired to continue doing something consistently without having a constant positive feedback loop. Henceforth, just focusing on your identity instead of the outcome helps - it basically helps you avoid the craving of instant reward.
thank u for giving me hope