Will's Father was an Amazing Man Raised Him Fed Him Sheltered Him Protected Him Taught Him Brought Him into his Family Made Him into a Man And Most of all Loved Him so so much His name is Phillip Banks aka Uncle Phil
@@greenweeaboo8924 The down Syndrome is. Justin Pullin anastasia majoras Destiny harmon Alan Doughty Matt coldwell James Goodhart Shelbee Howard Caitlin Roldan Esther schnable Wendy Draper Jeremy Risner
And then after that Lou was like” ok fine! Have a nice life you brat!” So I think the reason why Lou doesn’t want his son is probably because he despises him and that he was an embarrassment to him. Lou is a deadbeat loser
Actually its the other way around, alright, which means its rather the fact that he may have been his daddy, but he wasn't his father, okay, for it is written, "And ye FATHERS provoke not your children to wrath, but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord."
Ben Vereen stated in an interview that he broke into tears himself after walking out the camera shot to leave Will. Vareen, a father himself, couldn't imagine doing that to his children.
The look on his face at 3:39 is also real IMO. The look of pain, frustration, and fury all wrapped up together. Every good father figure hates seeing their children hurt like that.
If only someone would tell my...parents' eldest son that. My parents sure as hell won't (I personally don't care if I ever see him again; I just feel for my nieces and nephew).
Will's dad tried to make excuses about why he walked out on Will as a child and Phil just did not have the patience to hear it. "I was there everyday for my family because that is what a real man does". Every family has hardships. It's how you deal with them that matters. Throwing your hands up in the air and walking out on your family is just about the most selfish and cowardly thing that anyone could do.
Uncle Phil looked at Lou like "You could be just as good a man and father as I am". even though Lou was absent for 15 years. Lou still could've had and built a relationship with Will, but he was too selfish.
@@jamalsoward8404Lou is still only thinking of himself. Comparing himself to Phil, when Phil knows that it's not about that, it's about Will, and that's what Lou won't see.
Hell, when I learned that my girlfriend was pregnant I felt scared, but I didn't run away. Now I am a proud father of a three year old daughter that makes me forget all my problems.
The way that Phil dropped Will's cap onto the floor symbolically shows him removing the tough gangster facade to care for the scared, sad child hidden deep inside. One that keeps wondering why his father abandoned him.
Uncle is a real man, refuses to accept shallow excuses, refuses to lie to Will for Lou and when Will rages and screams he stands there and takes all that venom and when Will is breaking down no hesitation grabs him and holds him.
I'm sorry you didn't have father figure. I cry in a heart beat be very badly I have a father he can't drive can't walk. He in the bed all the time watching tv he hate sitting down wheel chair we had to put him in chair 2 minutes he gets out we had to put him in bed 😢 70 years old
I lived through this entire scene, except it was my mother and not my father. My father was taken from me by a drunk driver when I was three. My mother abandoned me and my father's mother (Grandma) raised me.
Did Will's dad want to have him ? From my understanding of the storyline, Will's mother wanted to give birth to him, but not sure if the dad wanted him?
Yeah I liked how Will said that after he asked why he should be mad. I think he was pretending to not be mad at the moment, trying to shrug it off. But he let it out.
My friend same 16 year old son does not know his dad ,he abonded him during while my friend was pregnant with him claming he was not the father and ran off to another country.lucky my fiends late parents helped out with her and grandson.The sad thing he said to me that one day he wants to meet his dad.:(
I think James Avery was really at his best here. I mean yeah he had his funny moments but when he wasn't being funny, that's when he really shined. This scene is such an example
I also like how Philip says he was where Lou is in being scared. And granted I’m not a parent myself but I can totally understand any parent being scared at first. But as Philip said he took responsibility and did what he could.
"Will is not a coat you hang up in the closet then pick it up when your ready to wear it. His life goes on. He's not suppose to be here for you your suppose to be here for him." Translation you don't just run off thinking your kids will wait for you and always stay loyal, you be there for them not expect them to waste their life away waiting on you, they have feelings and treating them like things hurts them and you cant think you can just show up like nothing happened after being gone so long and think you can take off again when something happens.
Some parents need to realize that.Kids aren't coats that you just hang in the closet, and pick it whenever you're ready to wear it.Kids aren't wigs that you just hang on heads, and pick it whenever you're ready to wear it, or a 🚗 that you leave outside in the 🌞, and drive it whenever you're ready.Their lives goes on.
That was something that i agree with uncle phil when your kids life goes on.. Something every man should know when its comes to kids that rhere not materials but a part of life of you that continues on..
A message for all of the absent parents out there: There may be a time when you are elderly and you will need to be looked after. There may be a time when you are hospitalized for whatever reason and you will need to be cared for. If this ever happens to you, I strongly urge you to have a contingency plan in place because your children very well may not come to your side and they will be well within their right to deny you that. If you weren't there for them, then why should they be there for you?
Phillip was reluctant to let Lou back into Will’s life because Lou does exactly what Phillip was sure he would do, he left again, and he only said goodbye because Phillip held him up to give him a piece of his mind and Will walked in as Lou was leaving. And then Phillip truly demonstrates what a father does when proven right about a difficult issue. He doesn’t gloat, brag or rub it in the faces of everyone else. He lets Will vent and then embraces him when needed despite feeling like crap about the one thing in this situation that he wanted to be wrong about.
"At least he said goodbye this time"... Sorry Will, but he was not even going to do that if it wasn't for Uncle Phil holding him up. He was going to walk out like a coward once again. 😢
Ben Vereen is such a talent. Normally known for his amazing singing and dancing he really stretches his acting chops here. He's the epitome of a triple threat.
Daphne Maxwell Reid gets a bad rap from Janet Hubert fans who claim she was a bad replacement, and I don't think she deserves that at all. She just wasn't given a whole lot to do by the writers after the switch, but she did have a few moments where she got to shine and did them very well - that scene was one of them. Other great moments from her are when she kicked Phil's ex Janice out of the house; grounded Ashley with Phil but also tearfully hugged her to remind Ashley she was only doing it because she loved her; left Phil for a while when their marriage was crumbling; and the episode where the family pastor made a move on her. I really think Daphne deserves a lot more credit from the fans.
As an adopted child, I can definitely feel Will's pain. I was abandoned by my biological parent too. A child should not have to deal with the pain some birth parents cause. I know first hand how being abandoned feels. To anyone out there dealing with abandonment issues, I'm here for you.
Thanks it's a struggle at times my biological mother left the day before my high school graduation without a word I know others will say it's not the same cause she was there til I was done with high school, but it's a pain to have it and then get it ripped apart.
Lou should be ashamed of himself for walking out on his own son- big props to Uncle Phil for stepping in and being Will's legal guardian and true patriarch to his nephew. As we all know, sometimes, uncles have to step in and be legal guardians to their nieces and nephews, whomever they are!!!
Fellas, let this be a lesson if you’re currently a father, soon to be a father, or plan on being one in the future. Don’t be anything like Lou (a terrible father) and be just like; or closely similar; Uncle Phil (a great father)
@@jackspiracy3431 guess....I think you can probably admit now "darkest ever" was a bit of hyperbole there but all good man I'm picking up what you're laying out .
When I first found out that I was going to be a father I was scared to death. But I didn't run, I stayed and learned to be a parent and the best father I could be for my daughter. She is an adult now, almost 27 and a very hard-working, upstanding young lady.
Mood right here. I was 5 monthes premature in an incubator at the time and bio dad was all like "yeah, not my problem." He's back in contact now but he will never be a dad to me. He gave that up the moment he walked out 25+ years ago.
People don't give Ben Vereen enough credit for playing Will's deadbeat dad so well that you really hate him. Excellent acting in a scene full of excellent acting.
Ben Vereen burst into tears after he walked off the set in this episode, from what he said in an interview... And this has one of the best Daphne-as-Vivian lines (I wonder how Janet Hubert-Whitten would have done here) to Lou...
John Burke -- One of the best things an actor can achieve is making a character unlikable. The worst thing they can do is make a character boring, if they're boring they're not worth the audiences time to be invested in, they become forgettable. What they're supposed to do is breathe life into them to make the audience become invested in the character, for good or for bad. Ben Vereen did the mark of a good actor. Not just make the character alive but make the audience hate them, its a task within itself to make the character likeable, but to push it from basic investment, to being unlikable is a challenge.
I can relate to this scene because both of my biological parents were absent from life. I know this is just entertainment, but their is always a group of family members that come thru for a child abandoned. He describes the rage, abondonment, lack of support, and feelings of rejection.
It’s felt like a curse, a consistent challenge to know and understand my worth though this journey I walk. Never knowing exactly if my worth actually means anything if from what I’ve currently experienced,seen,heard over the years has been a by product of my past or a realization of people’s actual views on each other and myself. That the appreciation of one’s importance is delusional and a lie. Now that i face the possibility of death due to potential cancer. The biggest question that haunts me will I leave as I came or die knowing I truly meant something more than just a damn mistake
Ben Vereen said in interviews that people came up to him and dogged him over this episode. He said people would just yell out to him, "How can you leave Will?!", "Why you leave Will?". I think he also said after he was done doing the scene, he cried backstage.
@@darkstalkerkaathe4582 It’s unfortunately not uncommon. Margaret Hamilton had an episode on Mr. Roger’s Neighborhood just to set children’s minds at ease about her after her role as the Wicked Witch of the West. Jack Gleason and Lena Heady got death threats for their roles as Joffrey and Cersei on GoT (Gleason even retired from acting, possibly because of the threats). As did Laura Bailey because she voiced Abby in TLoU 2. Some people just can’t differentiate between fiction and reality.
I believe it. The man who played Edith's attempted Rapist on All In The Family got punched in the face by crazed Fans while he was just innocently drinking a coffee in a Cafe! 😱😳🥶😵💫
This episode was so serious and emotional. One of the rare episodes where you barely get a laugh and the audience and Will knows it. It’s a harsh lesson: a father who abandoned his son is no joke, it’s horrible. Then comes back, acts like he’s changed and ends up rebounding. That is called pathetic as well by the way!
Lou walked out on Will in front of Uncle Phil. Lou gave up his right to be a father, right then and there and Uncle Phil proved why he was a father figure to his nephew, Will. Lo and behold, Will gains a stepfather in his ex-fiancee-turned-stepsister Lisa's father, Fred, but Uncle Phil remained his legal guardian!!!
“I was there everyday for them because that is what a man does.” 🙏🏻✝️ That line hit in the heart. My old man wasn’t there everyday but he tried his best in his own way.
Ever since becoming a mom, things like this just get to me. They have always made me empathetic and sad but its on a whole new level now. Seeing how trully devastated and dejected Will is here, just hits me in a different place. I have a son, and I can't imagine him growing up w/o his daddy. We r so blessed to be a loving family with support and love on all sides. I wish every kid would know the love and support of a mom, dad, brother/sister, grandma, grandpa, aunts and uncles.
@@questioneverything1639 im sorry man.At least you stood up for you and your.It takes guts to do what you did.The way you treat your mom is the way youll treat your woman.I dont know if thats true or not but I believe so as your mom is always your first love.
My mother did the same. She was an outstanding lady. She never told bad things about my dad. He alone gave the bad impression he was a bad person. That is why I admire my mother, she was the father I did not have.
In my case it was my mother that didn't want me. My father didn't even know i existed till i was 3 or 4. I was adopted. It's not just fathers that walk out. Mothers can be just as evil. This is a very powerful scene. In my opinion it's Will Smith's best acting to date. It asks the same question that those of us have asked, when we were kicked to the curb... "Why?" He showed the frustration, confusion and hurt to a "T". Powerfully believable.
This reminds me of real dad and stepdad. My real dad left when I was two. He made me go 11 almost 12 years without a dad I've had a stepdad since I was 3 and my stepdad was like his uncle Phil he was the one who treated me like his own for 10 years he taught me everything my real dad should've taught me but my real dad was too scared to. I listen to this part every time I want to cry and it helps. It makes me realize how strong someone can be. It's taught me that I don't need my dad to be there.
Uncle Phil came off as strict, but he was the first to defend his family. Even with Will, he loved him and knew how hard he tried to be a good man and the issues he had growing up without a father. That's why he was so angry when Lou showed up after 14 years.
The fact that this was off script is true Kelly heartbreaking. But knowing the fact that uncle Phil jumped to hug him so damn fast and knowing that isn’t was the most genuine heartfelt moment these two actors had together is truly heart warming. I doubt anyone on set will ever forget this moment and I’m almost certain that it will live forever
Say what you may about Will Smith as a person, but this scene proves beyond a shadow of a doubt that as an actor, he is incomparable. The way his face slowly drops when he realizes what his dad's doing, the cold, emotionless way he says his name, the way he tries to act cool and aloof, the way his voice breaks when he shouts "To Hell with him" and the way he finally breaks down, it's acting at its finest.
I think will smith had a troubled relationship with his own bio father right? Some thing it messed will smith so badly mentally and emotionally. Some actors and actresses have really messed up parents.
@@whitedragoness23 will states in an interview that he has an amazing relationship with his dad, the emotion came from Mr. Avery himself, apparently them kept doing this scene cause Avery wouldnt let will have an inch and kept on him about it
That close up to a statue of a father holding is son was a great shot. That momant of silent, knowing will might not have the love and care he wanted from his biological father, but Unc was always there for him. He always had a dad.
I think those are the worst words a child can use why doesn't mommy or daddy love me that's why I think you should love your kids treasure every moment you have with them and always tell them you love them and always will be there for them no matter what..
I grew up without my father and everything that will said is so accurate. It hits me so hard. That line that I am going to be a better father and there is not a damn thing he can teach me about raising kids is the best line. When I had my kids I made sure they know I love them and I would be there for them every step of the way. My son gave me a Father’s Day card that literally brought me to tears. That proved to me that my way is working.
RIP James Avery; one of the best TV dads ever! This scene between him and Ben Vereen shows tremendous talent between the two actors! It also showed the range that Will Smith had. We got to know him as being incredibly goofy on the show but this one scene showed that he could tap into becoming a convincingly emotionally vulnerable person.
People keep debating if this is real or not. It doesn't matter if it is. This scene I watch every year around my birthday. People one the outside looking in think that I am making jokes about not being able to find my dad. I am not. It hurts to think that your own father does not want you. No matter how old you get it will always hurt
Something that always gets me about this scene is that Will said James was the motivation behind his performance. “I wanted him to want me. To approve of me.” Not far from what the scene was really about ❤️
I wish more men realized the pain kids go through when they choose to be absent. No matter how old the kid is, that pain runs deep. Fathers are so needed.
Over 4 years later and this still hits home for me and meny others the dont need a "dad" in their life as long as you have yourself and someone to support you
Will's Father was an Amazing Man
Raised Him
Fed Him
Sheltered Him
Protected Him
Taught Him
Brought Him into his Family
Made Him into a Man
And Most of all Loved Him so so much
His name is Phillip Banks aka Uncle Phil
mine did the exact same thing.........his name was charlie lloyd davis jr
@@greenweeaboo8924
The down Syndrome is. Justin Pullin
anastasia majoras
Destiny harmon
Alan Doughty
Matt coldwell
James Goodhart
Shelbee Howard
Caitlin Roldan
Esther schnable
Wendy Draper
Jeremy Risner
Period
Will was a kid with his mom not phill
@@j-brock7298 Wow
"Every child deserves parents, not every parent deserves a child"
thats deep
Great and strong scene and episode.
Hawaiian Hanamaikai too bad Uncle Phil never said that to Lou when he confronted him about him leaving Will yet again
Justin Pullin
nursing anastasia majoras
House mangar Destiny harmon
Qidp Alan Doughty
Todd Pullin
It takes a real man to be a father
This is why Uncle Phil is the greatest sitcom father of all time. 🥺
The more people like uncle Phil this world would be a better place
Yes, uncle Phil and Phil Dunphy
Carl Winslow
Cliff Huxtable
Rest in peace James Avery
@@WarringtonJedi rest in peace uncle Phil
"you too, Lou" one of the most powerful lines in the show in my opinion. It shows just how done will is with him
I know that feeling
I always break at that part.
It's actually sadder because Will's father walked out on him irl so I can't imagine how he was feeling acting out this scene.
And Lou knew it
And then after that Lou was like” ok fine! Have a nice life you brat!” So I think the reason why Lou doesn’t want his son is probably because he despises him and that he was an embarrassment to him. Lou is a deadbeat loser
“He may have been your father boy, but he wasn’t your daddy.”
"I'm sorry I didn't do none of it right. I'm damn lucky you're my boy".
- Yondu #ImMaryPoppinsyall
Actually its the other way around, alright, which means its rather the fact that he may have been his daddy, but he wasn't his father, okay, for it is written,
"And ye FATHERS provoke not your children to wrath, but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord."
Uncle Phill: the dad who was there for him.
#notmydaddy
Some goes for every loser of a male who walks out the door behind their love ones back😠
He didn't waste his money buying a present he just got it for the wrong man
👏👏👏👍❤
Phil deserved it more
What ep and season was it?
Love this comment. Well said.
@@kianseymour45 it was season 4 the episode is called Papa's got a Brand New excuse
Ben Vereen stated in an interview that he broke into tears himself after walking out the camera shot to leave Will. Vareen, a father himself, couldn't imagine doing that to his children.
He’s a good actor!
How much you wanna bet he:
1. Wanted to hug Will after filming was done,
2. Went home and hugged his kids, cried again, after.
Ben Vereen is a Broadway legend
@@danielstephens1185some Men are fathers some are bums
It's true. He was a wreck after filming that scene.
Rest in peace, James Avery, one of the best TV dad actors of all time.
also did the voice of the Junkyard Dog in Cartoon: Hulk's Rock N Wrestling.
Amen
@@jimnfl7134And Shredder in Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles
He was also on l.a.law as well as a judge..
@@gaylenewood7707really?
Uncle Phill's hug is real. No script, no acting. True human feeling. Just beautiful
The look on his face at 3:39 is also real IMO. The look of pain, frustration, and fury all wrapped up together. Every good father figure hates seeing their children hurt like that.
So beautiful yeah
The late great Mr. James Avery said that scene was extremely difficult to shoot because of all of the emotion that was involved. Will agreed.
❤
I think Will Smith said in an interview that during that hug, James Avery whispered in his ear, "Now THAT'S f***ing acting."
“Oh cut the crap! Cause I’ve been there. I just didn’t skip out on my family” 💯 Let the conversation be about accountability not excuses
If only someone would tell my...parents' eldest son that. My parents sure as hell won't (I personally don't care if I ever see him again; I just feel for my nieces and nephew).
Will's dad tried to make excuses about why he walked out on Will as a child and Phil just did not have the patience to hear it. "I was there everyday for my family because that is what a real man does". Every family has hardships. It's how you deal with them that matters. Throwing your hands up in the air and walking out on your family is just about the most selfish and cowardly thing that anyone could do.
That death glare Phil gives Lou after he asks “you happy now?” Is both awesome and terrifying
Uncle Phil looked at Lou like "You could be just as good a man and father as I am". even though Lou was absent for 15 years. Lou still could've had and built a relationship with Will, but he was too selfish.
@@jamalsoward8404 As the saying goes: tigers can’t change their stripes. Guys like Lou lose respect for words and actions like that
@@jamalsoward8404Lou is still only thinking of himself. Comparing himself to Phil, when Phil knows that it's not about that, it's about Will, and that's what Lou won't see.
The Shredder came out to play for a second.
The way Phil has his hands behind his back here too. You can tell it’s taking every ounce of self control he has not to put hands on Lou.
Hell, when I learned that my girlfriend was pregnant I felt scared, but I didn't run away. Now I am a proud father of a three year old daughter that makes me forget all my problems.
a real man
👍👍👍
A true man
People like you shouldn’t be called a real man it shohld be normal for a guy to stick around
Thats right real man shit.
"He's not suppose to be there for YOU you are suppose to be there for HIM" exactly...
When they hugged, James Avery whispered in Will’s ear “that’s fucking acting right there” Will said that made him cry even more lol
Don’t think he said fucking.
That’s not funny
@@startracker5895 Will actually said that in one of his videos
He still talks about this scene in interviews
James was coahing Will hard in this scene. "Don't look at me!"
"How come don't he want me?" Still breaks me
I asked that about my biological father, I never got an answer.
Those words made me come in tears 😢
Sad but strong question to ask his uncle. 😢
I break when Will Say the hell with him was so genuine and well acted...
When a boy gets rejected by his father it destroys him as a human being and can take a lifetime to rebuilt.
Me too lol
The way that Phil dropped Will's cap onto the floor symbolically shows him removing the tough gangster facade to care for the scared, sad child hidden deep inside. One that keeps wondering why his father abandoned him.
Will never tried to be a gangster.
Nah it was just a mistake but he's a good actor so he felt the moment he said fuck the hat right now I gotta grab my boy.
Nah the hat was just in the way and smacks it off 🤷🏻
Uncle is a real man, refuses to accept shallow excuses, refuses to lie to Will for Lou and when Will rages and screams he stands there and takes all that venom and when Will is breaking down no hesitation grabs him and holds him.
No matter how many times I see this , tears just run out of my eyes ...
Ditto
You’re not the only one… Gets me every time. If that scene doesn’t bring a tear to your eye… You’re just not human. 😢
Fax man
I’m 40 and still get emotional over this
This is like a video everyone with this wound take it as a test.
That bum doesn't realize he's missed the best thing that ever happened to him.
"You too Lou"
That's the last thing Will's father heard him say to him.
that is the name Will should have called him=doesn't deserve the name Dad, that is Uncle Phil.
Will's shout "THE HELL WITH HIM" is so profound and powerful, even made me tear up, I didn't have a father myself.
I'm sorry
That wasn't scripted. That was a real reaction.
I have a present father but it also gets me all the time. Can’t even imagine
I'm sorry you didn't have father figure. I cry in a heart beat be very badly I have a father he can't drive can't walk. He in the bed all the time watching tv he hate sitting down wheel chair we had to put him in chair 2 minutes he gets out we had to put him in bed 😢 70 years old
I lived through this entire scene, except it was my mother and not my father. My father was taken from me by a drunk driver when I was three. My mother abandoned me and my father's mother (Grandma) raised me.
Nobody should have kids if they’re not going to take care of them
Here here I feel you I've never met my father or my mother
People are having kids they can't afford.
Nobody should vote for politicians that want to bury Planned Parenthood
Did Will's dad want to have him ? From my understanding of the storyline, Will's mother wanted to give birth to him, but not sure if the dad wanted him?
This is basically the argument for planned parenthood, but nah conservatives would rather have orphans and children with single parents
Gotta love how Phil just grabs Will into a hug. To me it says "It's okay Will, I want you".
Gotta love how l just grabs Tasha into a hug 🫂. So I'm dreamed about. So gotta love Too how Phil just grabs Will into a hug 🫂. Too.
“How come he don’t want me man” I melted
Hit's hard
"I just wish I hadn't wasted my money buying this stupid present" He didn't waste it. He just bought it for the wrong Man
Yeah I liked how Will said that after he asked why he should be mad. I think he was pretending to not be mad at the moment, trying to shrug it off. But he let it out.
Good Word ..
Uncle Phil is the true definition of a father. He's the reason I wanna be a dad and the reason I'll never walk away no matter the circumstances.
As a fatherless kid growing up this episode help me so much uncle Phil was an amazing father that every kid without a father wanted
How are you now?
My friend same 16 year old son does not know his dad ,he abonded him during while my friend was pregnant with him claming he was not the father and ran off to another country.lucky my fiends late parents helped out with her and grandson.The sad thing he said to me that one day he wants to meet his dad.:(
I think James Avery was really at his best here. I mean yeah he had his funny moments but when he wasn't being funny, that's when he really shined. This scene is such an example
Yep! Will isn't the one that I pay attention to in this. I pay attention to Uncle Phil. I really liked how he spoke to Lou and stuck up for Will.
@@msrain1235 yep while Will drove Phil nuts he loved him like a son
@@zeokingsilver, yeah, on the last episode, he told Will that he is his son.
@@msrain1235 yeah saw that
I also like how Philip says he was where Lou is in being scared. And granted I’m not a parent myself but I can totally understand any parent being scared at first. But as Philip said he took responsibility and did what he could.
"Will is not a coat you hang up in the closet then pick it up when your ready to wear it. His life goes on. He's not suppose to be here for you your suppose to be here for him." Translation you don't just run off thinking your kids will wait for you and always stay loyal, you be there for them not expect them to waste their life away waiting on you, they have feelings and treating them like things hurts them and you cant think you can just show up like nothing happened after being gone so long and think you can take off again when something happens.
Some parents need to realize that.Kids aren't coats that you just hang in the closet, and pick it whenever you're ready to wear it.Kids aren't wigs that you just hang on heads, and pick it whenever you're ready to wear it, or a 🚗 that you leave outside in the 🌞, and drive it whenever you're ready.Their lives goes on.
That was something that i agree with uncle phil when your kids life goes on.. Something every man should know when its comes to kids that rhere not materials but a part of life of you that continues on..
The coat analogy was spot on.
Well said
This one reminds me of my real dad and my step dad my real dad was never there for me and my step dad stepped in when he stepped out
That's a lot of steps
@@haydneccleston6945 he was the best man I ever known
I feel ya
That makes me feel sad and lonely
I needed to see this comment..really hits home
One of the greatest scenes in TV history . . . seriously.
They don’t make shows like this anymore. This shit was powerful. James Avery was the man, RIP
That “To hell with him” gets me every time
same, the passion, hurt, anger he put into that always gets me.
A message for all of the absent parents out there:
There may be a time when you are elderly and you will need to be looked after. There may be a time when you are hospitalized for whatever reason and you will need to be cared for. If this ever happens to you, I strongly urge you to have a contingency plan in place because your children very well may not come to your side and they will be well within their right to deny you that.
If you weren't there for them, then why should they be there for you?
Phillip was reluctant to let Lou back into Will’s life because Lou does exactly what Phillip was sure he would do, he left again, and he only said goodbye because Phillip held him up to give him a piece of his mind and Will walked in as Lou was leaving.
And then Phillip truly demonstrates what a father does when proven right about a difficult issue. He doesn’t gloat, brag or rub it in the faces of everyone else. He lets Will vent and then embraces him when needed despite feeling like crap about the one thing in this situation that he wanted to be wrong about.
"At least he said goodbye this time"... Sorry Will, but he was not even going to do that if it wasn't for Uncle Phil holding him up. He was going to walk out like a coward once again. 😢
Ben Vereen is such a talent. Normally known for his amazing singing and dancing he really stretches his acting chops here. He's the epitome of a triple threat.
Ben definitely played the role of Will's scuzzbucket of an estranged father, very well!!!
@@michaelpowell5266 IRL, after Vereen walked off the set, he broke down crying...
Vereen, a father himself, couldn't imagine walking out on his kids like Lou did.
@@Unknown-bq9id This scene hits different with Ben had lost two of his own kids, one of whom passed seven years before this episode aired :(
And to think he had a another character in HIMYM
❤❤❤I applauded with Vivian before she left the room. She was speaking on behalf of her and Will's mother. Wish she was there to see him.
Daphne Maxwell Reid gets a bad rap from Janet Hubert fans who claim she was a bad replacement, and I don't think she deserves that at all. She just wasn't given a whole lot to do by the writers after the switch, but she did have a few moments where she got to shine and did them very well - that scene was one of them. Other great moments from her are when she kicked Phil's ex Janice out of the house; grounded Ashley with Phil but also tearfully hugged her to remind Ashley she was only doing it because she loved her; left Phil for a while when their marriage was crumbling; and the episode where the family pastor made a move on her. I really think Daphne deserves a lot more credit from the fans.
@@anthonyvasquezactor
THAT'S RIGHT ✅️ 👏🏿 👌 💯
Aunt Vivian is best maternal figure.
Viv only had to give one line to say what we all thought of that sob
As an adopted child, I can definitely feel Will's pain. I was abandoned by my biological parent too. A child should not have to deal with the pain some birth parents cause. I know first hand how being abandoned feels. To anyone out there dealing with abandonment issues, I'm here for you.
Thanks it's a struggle at times my biological mother left the day before my high school graduation without a word I know others will say it's not the same cause she was there til I was done with high school, but it's a pain to have it and then get it ripped apart.
@@Ryltar45In my ways I think that’s even more painful… I’m so sorry that happened to you.
@facelessandnameless thanks I appreciate that
Lou doesn't derserve a son like Will. He just leaves at the last minute when Will is all packed and ready to go?, wtf is that?!.
Not always
Lou should be ashamed of himself for walking out on his own son- big props to Uncle Phil for stepping in and being Will's legal guardian and true patriarch to his nephew. As we all know, sometimes, uncles have to step in and be legal guardians to their nieces and nephews, whomever they are!!!
Cruel. Lou was clearly unfit for parenthood.
Considering Will only has one parent. His mom.
She is worst father in the world.
Fellas, let this be a lesson if you’re currently a father, soon to be a father, or plan on being one in the future. Don’t be anything like Lou (a terrible father) and be just like; or closely similar; Uncle Phil (a great father)
This is one of the most heart-breaking, darkest scene I've ever seen in my life.
*scenes
You're either 12 or haven't seen many scenes then kid 😂. I mean it's good but "darkest ever" come on bud.
@@vincehenriquez680 you know what i mean
@@jackspiracy3431 guess....I think you can probably admit now "darkest ever" was a bit of hyperbole there but all good man I'm picking up what you're laying out .
When I first found out that I was going to be a father I was scared to death. But I didn't run, I stayed and learned to be a parent and the best father I could be for my daughter. She is an adult now, almost 27 and a very hard-working, upstanding young lady.
Im glad you stayed. Mine didnt. I was 7
This remind me of my biological father too. Every time I watch this scene I break down in tears... I felt Will Smith on this scene.
Mood right here. I was 5 monthes premature in an incubator at the time and bio dad was all like "yeah, not my problem." He's back in contact now but he will never be a dad to me. He gave that up the moment he walked out 25+ years ago.
@@Phoebe5448 Im glad you're doing better now and show him that you'll be a better dad/mom then he ever could just like Will promised
Same but been 12 years without a single of contact with mine
@@Phoebe5448 Dude must be a real piece of work
Same here
Hearing Karen Parsons crying at the end in the background always gets me
People don't give Ben Vereen enough credit for playing Will's deadbeat dad so well that you really hate him. Excellent acting in a scene full of excellent acting.
Ben Vereen burst into tears after he walked off the set in this episode, from what he said in an interview...
And this has one of the best Daphne-as-Vivian lines (I wonder how Janet Hubert-Whitten would have done here) to Lou...
John Burke -- One of the best things an actor can achieve is making a character unlikable. The worst thing they can do is make a character boring, if they're boring they're not worth the audiences time to be invested in, they become forgettable. What they're supposed to do is breathe life into them to make the audience become invested in the character, for good or for bad.
Ben Vereen did the mark of a good actor. Not just make the character alive but make the audience hate them, its a task within itself to make the character likeable, but to push it from basic investment, to being unlikable is a challenge.
@@Unknown-bq9idJanet probably would have said something like,"You can go straight to Hell!" 🤣🤭🤔💡
You know what hurts a child the most regarding love especially into adulthood. Being rejected by the two people who were suppose to love u😢😢
I can relate to this scene because both of my biological parents were absent from life. I know this is just entertainment, but their is always a group of family members that come thru for a child abandoned. He describes the rage, abondonment, lack of support, and feelings of rejection.
It’s felt like a curse, a consistent challenge to know and understand my worth though this journey I walk. Never knowing exactly if my worth actually means anything if from what I’ve currently experienced,seen,heard over the years has been a by product of my past or a realization of people’s actual views on each other and myself. That the appreciation of one’s importance is delusional and a lie. Now that i face the possibility of death due to potential cancer. The biggest question that haunts me will I leave as I came or die knowing I truly meant something more than just a damn mistake
0:16- You know you a struck a chord with a man when he's so angry, he doesn't even raise his voice or anything. He just has that tone and that look.
Ben Vereen said in interviews that people came up to him and dogged him over this episode. He said people would just yell out to him, "How can you leave Will?!", "Why you leave Will?". I think he also said after he was done doing the scene, he cried backstage.
People are so damn stupid sometimes. Poor man. HE'S ACTING. IT'S ALL PRETEND.
@@darkstalkerkaathe4582 I know but he gave such a good performance that you believed him.
@@darkstalkerkaathe4582 It’s unfortunately not uncommon. Margaret Hamilton had an episode on Mr. Roger’s Neighborhood just to set children’s minds at ease about her after her role as the Wicked Witch of the West. Jack Gleason and Lena Heady got death threats for their roles as Joffrey and Cersei on GoT (Gleason even retired from acting, possibly because of the threats). As did Laura Bailey because she voiced Abby in TLoU 2.
Some people just can’t differentiate between fiction and reality.
You know the actor did a good job when the audience looks at him/her and wants to tear them apart when seeing them in real life.
I believe it. The man who played Edith's attempted Rapist on All In The Family got punched in the face by crazed Fans while he was just innocently drinking a coffee in a Cafe! 😱😳🥶😵💫
This episode was so serious and emotional. One of the rare episodes where you barely get a laugh and the audience and Will knows it. It’s a harsh lesson: a father who abandoned his son is no joke, it’s horrible. Then comes back, acts like he’s changed and ends up rebounding. That is called pathetic as well by the way!
Will had an amazing father "Phil"
One of the most heartbreaking moments in the show period
He doesn’t deserve to call himself a father this was the saddest scene ever poor Will 🥺
Too sad
Lou walked out on Will in front of Uncle Phil. Lou gave up his right to be a father, right then and there and Uncle Phil proved why he was a father figure to his nephew, Will. Lo and behold, Will gains a stepfather in his ex-fiancee-turned-stepsister Lisa's father, Fred, but Uncle Phil remained his legal guardian!!!
3:12 “DA HELL WID HIM!!” That pain in Will’s voice kills me. It’s like you can hear and feel his heart being ripped from his chest in that moment.
“I was there everyday for them because that is what a man does.” 🙏🏻✝️ That line hit in the heart. My old man wasn’t there everyday but he tried his best in his own way.
Ever since becoming a mom, things like this just get to me. They have always made me empathetic and sad but its on a whole new level now.
Seeing how trully devastated and dejected Will is here, just hits me in a different place.
I have a son, and I can't imagine him growing up w/o his daddy. We r so blessed to be a loving family with support and love on all sides.
I wish every kid would know the love and support of a mom, dad, brother/sister, grandma, grandpa, aunts and uncles.
Phil is the real will's dad !! Even if they were opposite phil cared about will as he did with all his children 😯
I dont care how many times I watch this scene, I cry every time.
Worst father.😢😢😢
Lousy father.😢😢😢
Cruel father.😢😢😢
Cruel father.😢😢😢
Bad father.😢😢😢
No disrespect intended to any of the other cast members, but James Avery was the best actor on that show.
This has GOT to be the most powerful as well as heart wrenching episode of the entire Fresh Prince series.
Guardians of the galaxy vol. 2 reference:
Will as Star-Lord
Lou as Ego
Uncle Phil as Yondu
@Martin R yeah true
Someone needs to make animatic of that now!
This is mega facts thank you for making that connection really hit close to home
Yondu isn't exactly the best surrogate father figure, but I guess he was better than nothing.
@@KetwunsGamingPad he redeemed himself at the end of 2nd GOTG film
My mom never talked shit about my dad she instead let me see for myself when I was older.
My mom was too weak to ever stand up to “my dad’s” bs. But I put him in his place. He’s a sorry excuse for a “human.”
@@questioneverything1639 im sorry man.At least you stood up for you and your.It takes guts to do what you did.The way you treat your mom is the way youll treat your woman.I dont know if thats true or not but I believe so as your mom is always your first love.
thats a good woman u were raised by, bless her
@@krtlkid What did your mom want you to see about your dad?
My mother did the same. She was an outstanding lady. She never told bad things about my dad. He alone gave the bad impression he was a bad person. That is why I admire my mother, she was the father I did not have.
Everyone needs an Uncle Phil. RIP Mr. Avery
ah 2023...still crying to this anyone else
well wipe those tears so you can see all those likes you were begging for
@@hypnos9336 Haha who's begging for likes I was just saying this can still make me tear up after all this time it is good acting
Will Smith absolutely nailed that scene!
Uncle is a true father 😢❤ rip
In my case it was my mother that didn't want me. My father didn't even know i existed till i was 3 or 4. I was adopted. It's not just fathers that walk out. Mothers can be just as evil. This is a very powerful scene. In my opinion it's Will Smith's best acting to date. It asks the same question that those of us have asked, when we were kicked to the curb... "Why?" He showed the frustration, confusion and hurt to a "T". Powerfully believable.
True, what your said about mothers.
Uncle Phil is the daddy we all want. But most importantly one that we all NEED.
This reminds me of real dad and stepdad. My real dad left when I was two. He made me go 11 almost 12 years without a dad I've had a stepdad since I was 3 and my stepdad was like his uncle Phil he was the one who treated me like his own for 10 years he taught me everything my real dad should've taught me but my real dad was too scared to. I listen to this part every time I want to cry and it helps. It makes me realize how strong someone can be. It's taught me that I don't need my dad to be there.
Uncle Phil came off as strict, but he was the first to defend his family. Even with Will, he loved him and knew how hard he tried to be a good man and the issues he had growing up without a father. That's why he was so angry when Lou showed up after 14 years.
In a flashback, Uncle Phil and Aunt Viv raised their kids in a cramped apartment. They didn't have much, but Phil kept them together.
The fact that this was off script is true Kelly heartbreaking. But knowing the fact that uncle Phil jumped to hug him so damn fast and knowing that isn’t was the most genuine heartfelt moment these two actors had together is truly heart warming. I doubt anyone on set will ever forget this moment and I’m almost certain that it will live forever
James Avery Was A Father Figure 2 Will Smith In The Fresh Prince Of Bel Air Series & I Really Like ThaT 2
And that big bear hug James give was not scripted. Sometimes those little off scripted moments really make scene
I still get teary eye at this scene cause of the pain i feel still hurts ... My dad never was there for me like he was for my older sister
Uncle Phil was more of a father to will than his real father that’s why I always respecting uncle Phil
This still makes me cry, and I'm not a crying type. It's a beautiful, painful moment.
Will should have slapped his dad like he did to Chris Rock. Maybe he would've smacked some sense into him 😂
OOh
Say what you may about Will Smith as a person, but this scene proves beyond a shadow of a doubt that as an actor, he is incomparable. The way his face slowly drops when he realizes what his dad's doing, the cold, emotionless way he says his name, the way he tries to act cool and aloof, the way his voice breaks when he shouts "To Hell with him" and the way he finally breaks down, it's acting at its finest.
I think will smith had a troubled relationship with his own bio father right? Some thing it messed will smith so badly mentally and emotionally. Some actors and actresses have really messed up parents.
As a person he's great, he just made one mistake.
@@whitedragoness23 will states in an interview that he has an amazing relationship with his dad, the emotion came from Mr. Avery himself, apparently them kept doing this scene cause Avery wouldnt let will have an inch and kept on him about it
That close up to a statue of a father holding is son was a great shot. That momant of silent, knowing will might not have the love and care he wanted from his biological father, but Unc was always there for him. He always had a dad.
WILL IS NOT A COAT, WILL IS NOT A CLOSET.
BOWL! BOWL! WILL IS NOT A BOWL!
Makes me cry every time. I lost my father really young but have found father figures along the way
0:02 Lou, If you walk out of Will's life now... Don't you EVER come back.
The heart breaking way Will goes from Daddy-o to Lou gets me every time
Lue proved how big a coward he really is.
Takes the soul out of me everytime.
“You too….Lou” gets me bawling every time😭😭😭😭
I always get emotional on that line when he said,how come he don't want me man.Good actor
When you can hear people behind the camera sobbing you know you’ve got a truly powerful scene!!
It happened. No. It never just happens.
A powerful scene. Uncle Phil really showed how much he cared for Will.
I think those are the worst words a child can use why doesn't mommy or daddy love me that's why I think you should love your kids treasure every moment you have with them and always tell them you love them and always will be there for them no matter what..
I can speak on a personal note
Facts. I can relate.
I grew up without my father and everything that will said is so accurate. It hits me so hard. That line that I am going to be a better father and there is not a damn thing he can teach me about raising kids is the best line. When I had my kids I made sure they know I love them and I would be there for them every step of the way. My son gave me a Father’s Day card that literally brought me to tears. That proved to me that my way is working.
I got really depressed a few yrs ago. Looking for a job. No one wanted me. When I said that, my Mama said 'I want you.' Best hug and kiss ever!! 💚 O+
This makes me glad that my father stayed in my life until he passed away. He’s been there for all of us and I’m so lucky.
If your earthly father hates you your heavenly Father loves you and always will and will never ever ever leave you
Amen 🙏 thank you 😊
Whatever makes you feel better
Amen, brother.
RIP James Avery; one of the best TV dads ever! This scene between him and Ben Vereen shows tremendous talent between the two actors! It also showed the range that Will Smith had. We got to know him as being incredibly goofy on the show but this one scene showed that he could tap into becoming a convincingly emotionally vulnerable person.
This whole scene….wow…I don’t even know what to say except…powerful words and emotions
People keep debating if this is real or not. It doesn't matter if it is. This scene I watch every year around my birthday. People one the outside looking in think that I am making jokes about not being able to find my dad. I am not. It hurts to think that your own father does not want you. No matter how old you get it will always hurt
Something that always gets me about this scene is that Will said James was the motivation behind his performance. “I wanted him to want me. To approve of me.” Not far from what the scene was really about ❤️
I wish more men realized the pain kids go through when they choose to be absent. No matter how old the kid is, that pain runs deep. Fathers are so needed.
Over 4 years later and this still hits home for me and meny others the dont need a "dad" in their life as long as you have yourself and someone to support you
Acting Or NotThis Is Real Life Situations For Some Dam I Am Glad I Was Watching This In The Kitchen These Onions I Am Chopping Are Very Strong!!!!!
Watching this on Father's Day 2024.
Fr like why was it recommended on today of all days