Millennials Have Been Abandoned by Boomer Parents Who Are 'NOT AVAILABLE' to Help With Childcare
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- čas přidán 12. 02. 2024
- Millennial parents are not happy - with many claiming that they feel "abandoned" by their parents when it comes to childcare, who have been prioritizing travel, relaxing, and fun instead of looking after their grandchildren.
Millennials have put off having children, so boomers are the oldest grandparents ever. At the same time, boomers are outspending other generations on travel and dining out. Many millennial parents say they can't get the support they need from their parents.
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My boomer mom dropped me off at her parents house when I was a week old and other than sleeping at her house, her parents raised me. When she's showed up as a grandma to my son, she's more like having an extra kid in the house. No thanks mom.
See what I keep hearing is all these ppl complaining that their kids “wont give them grandchildren”. As if it’s something they are entitled to have.
Exactly. If millennials aren’t entitled to help, boomers CERTAINLY are not entitled to grandchildren
It's why I don't want kids. My boomer parents are not going to pay my bills nor work for me. And they have barely anything left in them to help me with a kid if I decide to have one. My mom was a stay at home mom and I doubt I would get that luxury.
My wife and I are child free by choice... my parents have told me for years that if WE had kids, that's something WE'RE doing... they are not interested in watching my kids once or more a week. They were upfront about it, respect.
How do we find men like you who are childfree by choice? Seems y’all are dying out 😂
@FransceneJK98 , I've no idea. I hope you do though.
They would probably watch them-sometimes. You have to realize that a lot of millennials have spoiled-rotten kids who don’t listen.
I was raised when most of us receive whippings. So, we were well-behaved. I’m not watching poorly behaved children. My parents paid a babysitter. They rarely had my grandmother watch us.
Plus, these millenials are going to put you in a nursing home anyway-whether you watch their kids or not. I ought to know. I worked in the nursing homes for two decades.
Gen x here. I remained child free on purpose and I don't regret it at all.
Same here! 👏
You will unless male. Also you are White. Ask me how I know. Only Whiyes and esp white women are targeted by this Antinatalism. POCs are having kids left and right,
Boomers: Why are millennials not having kids?!
Also Boomers: we don’t care if you’ll have to quit your job and starve because you can’t get your kid to daycare by 6am then to work. We don’t want to spend 30 minutes to take them there!
Also….
When you gonna give us grandbabies?
Baby boomers had community and family all living and helping out.
I'm a 52yo single Gen X grandparent. I work full time and will be working for the next 20 years. So no, I'm not available every time my daughter needs help. But I do go over and spend time with them on one of my days off every week and overnights when vacation and my schedule allows. My Boomer parents NEVER helped with my daughter.
If the grandparents are begging for grandchildren, then the grandparents must help.
they never raised us, always dropped us off at the grands and then complain when we want them to act like grands
my brother and i were dropped off at our grandparents place every weekend so my parents could go out and unwind. Either they suck as parents or we're better because its now 4 years since my first child and i cant even get them to watch them for an hour so i can go to a doctors appointment or attend an urgent work call-out. I dont need a babysitter because ive never been away from my kids outside of work, I just need someone to standby while i run an errand or an important matter.
I have very fond memories of my grandparents and they loved me. My parents treat my kids like Paris Hilton does to a small dog. They're an accessory. Just show up, take photos and leave so they can show to their also uninvolved grandparents peers how "great" they are.
Its all take and no give with these people.
After our daughter was born, my husband and I learned that there was no village, no support or anything. If we wanted family to see our daughter, we were expected to pack her up and go to them. Even if they live 5-20 minutes away. Then if they came to visit they acted like they couldn't wait to leave, or they would get passive aggressive if we didnt do things their way or put them under the spotlight and worshipped then just for showing up. My husband broke down, in tears because of the betrayl he felt by his own mother for not wanting to make an effort. We did everything ourselves, the only time they came to help was to just take our daughter overnight and then inspect her like we were neglecting her. Or made it sound like a huge deal to do just so we could catch up on some housework, go to the laundrymat before we got a washer and dryer, or just get one night of sleep cause we were exhausted. We stopped the visits, figured that its a 2 way street and phones work both ways. Now we get the woe is me, the I want to see my grandchild/niece. It's fucking bullshit. Now we're having our peace and knowledge to not expect any help if we decide to have anymore kids.
Things like this makes me grateful I'm Asian as multigenerational households/close knit families are culturally acceptable and not to uncommon.
read the room. jeez
yes, the grand help while parents work
This is why I told my son he was under absolutely no pressure to have grandchildren and if he did, please do not have multiple kids. I cannot give them the attention and care they need if there are too many of them. I am a single mom. I am exhausted. I want to have time for myself and I cannot in good conscious take care of more kids. I raised my brother. I raised my own kid. I'm done. I need a break.
my silent generation parents helped me tons in raising my kid and now i, a gen x, am a full time live in caregiver to my widowed mother. family is important. family can be life or death.
So your mom had you just so you could take care of her in her old age!
How do you not see the selfishness in that?
Did your mom ask who was going to take care of you when YOU get old?! I bet not!
@@marissa._ my parents raised me and then helped me raise my child. i will help my child raise their children and it is possible that my child will make sure i am cared for in old age, if i need help. i plan to stay healthy tho.
Dude they didn’t want us or care about us why would they care about our kids.
My parents weren't present in my life. I would never even consider asking them to lift a finger if it weren't for themselves.
Oh, this is nothing new. This is what happened with Gen x and the silent generation. Parents want a grand baby but NEVER help with said grand baby, saying it's their fault they didn't think about taking care of the child without help.😒
This! 💯
Plus, they're the ones that said to not have kids if we can't take care of them and in the same breath, turn around and ask when they're getting grandkids! Um..NEVER! Da f***! The disconnect is real!
ya, not any help, even so I could go to my grandma's burial. -Lori
The thing is, do I want someone with that attitude around my kids?
My boomer grandparents were absolutely incredible and loving with us gen z grandkids. They were there for us. And we will be there for them.
When they need help later, you can say no.
genx here, and i'm shaking my head. we went through this with boomers and now it continues on. unbelievable. they had grandma around raising their kids, had their grandparents around. I don't like to see another generation going through raising kids alone like many of us did. -Lori
I'm an older millennial who had my son at 35. He's a toddler. I don't want anyone to raise him but the occasional help would be nice. Not to mention i would love for my son to get the occasional overnight to build a great bond with grandparents. I used to get so excited for my week with my grandma over the summer. I just want the same for my son.
And to add to this, all the people saying grandparents shouldn't be assumed to help out with grandkids but i would also say that your millennial children shouldn't be your retirement plan. Plenty of boomers didn't save enough for retirement and their fall back is too either live with their millennial children or get money from them. They expect their kids to care for them.
My mom became disabled at 62 years old. She had less than 6 figures in a retirement account. So guess who had to move her in... me. She lived with me rent free for 4 years until i had enough and said i was done. I had to cook for her every night otherwise she wouldn't eat. At one point she asked me to do her laundry even. All while i was going through IVF for my son. Quite honestly, this is asking way too much of your children. To me there's a big difference in expecting you to watch your grandchildren like 1 weekend a month and the occasional date night vs expecting to move in with your adult children who likely have their own lives and kids of their own for free. Everyone acts like millennials are the ones expecting too much but boomers def expect too much out of their adult kids.
My mom just recently yelled at me over the phone bc i hadn't brought my son to see her in a few weeks. Excuse me? Just ridiculous to me that you get to throw a fit over something that requires no time and energy from you. Get off your ass and come see him if you want to.
This is why there is no community in the west and why we live in a low trust society. If your family can't be bothered to help you or come to your aide why would you expect a neighbor or friend to do the same. It starts at home. La familia es todo.
Es la cultura a lo que veo. Aun hay varios abuelos de varias culturas que aun cuidan sus nietos. Donde veo que no es la cultura Estadounidense Anglosajóna
My mother comes for 3 days every 4 weeks or so to hang out with my daughter and do all the laundry. We call her the Laundry fairy! :) It's amazing!
Calling your mother the Laundry Fairy? ... You save up All your laundry all month for her to wash , dry, fold and put away Your Laundry? Even if she says leave it for me , you have a lot of growing up to do.
@@missmarymary6506 I am fully capable of doing laundry for my family. Laundry was something my mother struggled with when she was a young parent, so she volunteered (rather forcefully) to visit every few week and help us out since we have an infant in the house. And Yes, she refers to herself as the Laundry Fairy too! You may be the one who needs to grow up...
@@missmarymary6506Do you have children? The laundry piles up so fast it's ridiculous. They don't need to save laundry. The laundry never sleeps.
@@sarahrobertson634 then throw a load of laundry in every day...clean up after yourself. Her mother comes over for 3 days a month and does All of her laundry...they are da I g their laundry for the Maid, oops I mean Laundry fairy.. that is Sad
@@missmarymary6506How about...not telling other people what to do?
Between this ish and the subreddit of regretful parents it seems the writing is on the wall just don't have kids lol 😂
My mom has always watched my children whenever I needed or wanted her to. My mother in law as well. I guess we have been bery lucky.
Very!
4:35 Good grand grandparents "doesn't equal expecting phone calls and sending unwrapped presents at birthdays and holidays." This hit home so hard!!!
52 yr old Gen X here. I have 2 grown sons. If I'm ever lucky enough to have a grandchild, I'll be there to help. I can't imagine a better use of my time and energy! What an amazing opportunity, I couldn't pass it up. There isn't any lifestyle I would want more ❤
It used to be a generational contract that you sit your grandchildren when you’re old and lame (not quite as old though, in your 40s and 50s and 60s) and your kids provide for both of you dependable ends of the family line. Revoke universal retirement and see them going oh so available. What a clown world we live in, eh
Ps: I am from Eastern Europe. American individualism is an anomaly not a default human condition
hey yeah so i agree with this, alot of people in the comments are stunned that millennials want help from their own family when there's even a quote "it takes a village to raise a child" i really do wish we had tht familial bond you see with cultures on the other side of the world
This is not "American individualism", it's "boomer entitlement". What happens in your country was the norm in America for centuries.
"Individualism" is not a synonym for "selfish".
@@userequaltoNull baby boom and that generation’s every meme is mostly American thing. Also endless Christian(ish) cults that you equate to traditional values are mostly American thing.
@@mjesns77 its a kind of bloodsports the rest of the world participates in called 'Bash the уаnk'. You could easily try it too as a player, all it takes to mimicry is to learn metrics, military time, 40-odd capitals of the world and 1 to 3 foreign languages.
@@VerminaeSupremacy Yikes! The entitlement in your conments is really off-putting. Revoke universal retirement? Making people dependent on others in their late years? How disgusting. People need to consider the implications of having kids BEFORE they pop 'em out. No one ows you help to care for offspring you and your partner bring to life.
I have two kids and when my sister told me she was pregnant, i volunteered immediately to be the caretaker for her baby. Free or paid i didn't care. She even works nights as a nurse and I'm will to do that for her.
This is what family is for. I really think very few millennials are wanting the grandparents to raise their kids, but it does suck when you had an involved parent who suddenly is emotionally and physically unavailable when you need it most.
My mom took two weeks off of work to be there for me when i had ppd after my first.
But very few are expecting full time free day care.
I hope I get to babysit any kids my kids have when I'm older. My young silent gen/boomer grandparents BEGGED to babysit us as kids, and now they beg me to bring the great grand kids once a week.
Also older gens, dont complain about how the younger gens turned out if you are uninvolved to help influence them growing up. Notice is said influence, not raise.
I am really glad that my family is sticking together. When my mom started working again me and my sister were over at my Grandma's Home for Lunch after school. And now my Mother is coming over once a week to spend time with her grandchild and to help me out. I couldn't be more grateful about my sister and best friend who are here for me when I need someone to watch my Baby.
That is really lovely! Pray for us who don’t have that blessing, please. God bless you all.
This must be some American or white thing because my family in Mexico and i know other Mexican families/grandparents get upset when the grandchildren aren’t brought around enough or if you don’t ask for help. Capitalism really raising our kids
I believe lots of these "things" that sound so critical and are presented as a 'trend dilemma' to us it's, for real, a USA thing. Because American Latin countries, African countries and Asian countries (even part of Europe) where we find this super family/generational style, this kind of speech and discussion is kinda weak and does have a real sense to us originally. At least here in Brasil, it is more like some discussions that are real strong in USA don't originally make sense to us till the younger generations more influenced by trends start to see some sense on it and bring this to the reality and make a weird scenario.
many boomers embraced empty homes for 2 people working. now young woman who want families are strapped with having to work multiple jobs and take care of kids. a lot of this is the system, high cost of living and people deserve empathy for this. -Lori
I have one ten year old and both grand parent parties are highly involved. My mother lives 3hrs by train away. During my kid's school holidays she came here, took him with her to spend 4 days at her place and bring him back. I don't have the best relationship with my mother but damn if that woman doesn't love her family and will do anything to support her children and grandchildren i don't know who does. I respect that a lot, granted we have our conflicts, and i love her for that. I couldn't do it without her and my husband's mom (who has 7 grandkids, still works a full-time job and still helps with occasional sleepovers or transportation problems). How is that a thing not to? I get it we're all tired and busy but this is your family needing help.
Btw, European here. I do know of people who don't have supportive parents (mostly due to age or distance), never because they want to leave their children struggle...
It’s nice if you can have grandparents in your life but my mom was too sick to watch kids but I took them to see her every week because I’m not an entitled a hole
Right on!
Word! Like people your parents raised you and now you raise your children.
Strawman argument. No one is asking the grandparents to raise the children, but to be involved The way our grandparents were.
@@hiddenhand6973oh! Like maybe straw men live rent free in your head my position is that grandparent and grandchildren relationships are good and parents are also responsible to help facilitate those relationships.
I see it both ways. I'm a Gen Xer & have a grandchild coming soon. I plan to be there for my daughter as much as I can. I cancelled a cross-country move over it. I'm over the moon about this. However, grandparents are not required to do this. They do not owe you their time. Having said that, I'm aware that if I did not help my daughter, I might not see them in the retirement home. Being part of a family means reciprocal help in childcare and elderly care. If you don't hold up one end, the other members won't hold up the other.
Exactly. You get what you give.
One of the reasons I won’t be having any croch gremlins. A woman’s work is never done. I refuse to live my life for someone else and be pressured to give my parents grand children that they won’t even watch on the weekends sometimes
And those same parents will expect you to care for them when they get old, regardless of whether or not you had children.
Nope, no, the takes are too stupid - I gotta bow out. Parents raise children, not grandparents. Grandparents are a fun treat and a joy who spoil and love, not free childcare.
What was your parents' experience of their parents when they had you and any siblings you might have had? Try asking them - did they "use" their parents as "free childcare"?
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Well said
@@malcolmdarke5299 My parents owned a full time business and raised me hours away from my grandparents. I'm now also running my own business and am about to purchase my first investment property.
I think they did ok? 🤷♀ lol
@@Kiefstilmfao. Sounds like such a warm, close, loving family that you can truly depend on 🥰 you're SO right! You should NEVER be able to depend on your family for anything! They don't technically legally OWE YOU anything, so you should basically just fuck off and go figure it all out on your own!! Caring for your family and helping them and being there for them is SOOOOO STUPID HAHAHAHA I CANT BELIEVE ANYONE IS EVEN SAYING THAT STUFF!!!! a successful business and profitable investments are what life is truly about, and when you head into your grave surely you'll be able to rest easy knowing those are all you ever focused on in your lifetime ❤️
Let me just tell ya. Boomers don't care about anyone but themselves.
I’m a boomer and I didn’t have grandparents looking after us.
No one cares.
This entire comment section is great affirmation to stay childfree. Thanks guys!
I'm so beyond happy that the father of my children is a good man. I wouldn't have gotten help watching my kids and wouldn't know how to deal with it. My Grandmother raised me while my Mom worked, then went out on the weekends for the most part. Although she's a "parent", she doesn't have a lot of experience doing most of the hard stuff the first 5 years. I'm lucky I can stay home, but sometimes Mama needs a break raising an Autistic 5-year-old and 3-year-old.
I was lucky. My parents LOVED having the kids over. Theyd make excuses to drive to JBLM just to pick up my oldest for the weekend.
This is sad! My parents were very responsible and by no means did they overly rely on my grandmother (only living grandparent) to help out, but if they ever needed her, she was there- no questions asked. She would watch my brother and I for about a week a year so they could go on vacation and have some quality time together, and in any family emergencies, Nana could be there within the hour. It's a real shame not all parents have that support. It's also a shame some parents are worthless and dump their kids on grandparents, but that's a totally different story and not what I'm talking about.
Hummmm, Gen X here - I helped my sister with both my nephews. My mother took all my nephews during the summer for days, sat - tues. My sister was a stay at home mom but still needed time away due to her husband not wanting to parent. So I feel bad for people who don’t have help. My Mother’s family lived 400 miles away so she never got help but my father did help, so there is that.
I'm so lucky. No kids yet but my parents will be fully available. My parents in law will try even though it's further away but we can do weekends once in a while. And my sister even said she wanted to move if she could. For our kids. This sounds insane and incredible, but was very normal one and two generations ago. A lot changed.
Another reason I don’t want kids. I don’t wanna be a grandparent either. Babysitting grandkids. If I become a parent and grandparent, I’ll never get to enjoy and live MY life. No thanks.
I'm sorry.... the lady in pink is off her rocker!!! Aint no damn way I would expect my parents to watch my kids whenever. Entitled to free child care? Wtf? Parenting adults? Wtf? I'm a millenial, but this sounds wild AF.
I don't need my parents to parent me. I'm almost 40.
It takes a village. I feel kinda bad because a lot of boomers didn’t have their parents to help and then feel burnt out. You aren’t entitled to your parents help, but it does take a village so you need to be aware of how much help you will have. Joining a church or playgroups or get close with alternate family members like cousins/aunts/etc. I am a parent and just saying I’m entitled to assume my parents are going to help. Asking your parents for help is great, I think you should, but saying you deserve it, is not accurate.
If you can't be an involved grandparent, then you accept being the Grandparent We Never See. You help me, or you stay the fuck out of my life so I can make room for some who will help.
You would figure it out if they didn’t live close to you. We did too!
Don't have kids
there selfish point blank
Hey, I am 52 now,so I could have a kid of let us say 25 or 26. BUT I am STILL WORKING MYSELF. I have to be at MY Job at 7.30 , so it WILL NOT BE POSSIBLE for me just to drop off your kid - find a daycare that starts earlier or a job that starts later.. If I were a grandma now, I could offer my weekends, but having to do that every weekend would also be work and not relaxation. And I only have limited holidays. I did not do what I wanted during the childhood of the kids, and now, I should still not be allowed to relax during my holidays because YOU are not able to take care of your kid? Well, if you do not make enough to make them go on holiday, taking care of them is YOUR job. If I do it, it is NICE of me, and you should be THANKFUL. I have the attitude towards the grandparents of my kids. I am thankful for everything they do. And if they cannot help or do not want to help, it is also okay. We must manage without their help then. Fullstop. Do not be so entitled and snowflake-like! This is disgusting.
It is two way street though. If one does not WANT (removing the compelling circumstances aside, geography, health etc.) to help, one waives off the right to ASK for help. As long as that expectation is set, all good.
Our parents don't owe us childcare for our children. This video is full of entitlement. I'm a millenial parent.
We don’t owe our parents grandchildren either.
Those last three years of life or more are going to be pretty pricey. Hope the elderly Saved up!
I don't believe you are a millenial.
I feel bad for all of you,I'm sorry your dealing with it.Not all boomer parents are like that.I live an hr or more (in the winter)I have never said no to my kids.I'm tired and old an sore but go by whenever the kids are free.Iwill watch them,stay overnight ect.I am a caregiver to my mom and have a dog that is upset when I.m gone but they are my babies I am a better grandparent than I was a parent.It'smy way of showing that Ilove them
Jokes on you guys these boomer parents have been saying it since day one that don’t have kids I’m not gonna take care of them don’t have kids not gonna take care of them and then y’all go and have kids and expect them to take care of it make it make sense
is this serious video. grandparents are not suppose to be rising your kids. they are old and retired
exactly....Your parents are not your babysitters..They spent their lives already raising their children.
I'll ask the question. Do you know what your parents experience was with their parents when they had children (that is, you and your siblings)? Did their parents, your grandparents, take an active role in supporting their children? Or did they go "nope, we've spent our lives raising our own children"? Try asking them.
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In the video it is stated multiple times that grandparents are not expected to be raising the grandchildren. But especially among grandparents who made demands for grandchildren or put pressure onto their children to have grandchildren, that spending a little bit of their time to help take the pressure off of their kids is not unreasonable. Spending an afternoon with your grandchildren is not raising them, it is helping your child out- just as many peoples grandparents have often done. My grandfather was looked after by his grandmother when he was a kid in the 1920s and 1930s. His parents helped out with his children where they could. The relationship I have with my grandparents on my dad's side, who did not help out like my grandfather on my mom's side did, is RADICALLY DIFFERENT. We don't spend time with them, I haven't seen them in years, I haven't spoken to them. All they are to me are cards on the holidays and on my birthday with declining handwriting each and every year and the dread of knowing: My god, these people who are supposed to be foundational parts of my life are going to die as near total strangers to me, and there is NOTHING I could have done about it, nothing my parents could have done about it.
You are going to die with your grandchildren thinking you hated them before they ever had a chance to know you.
When we had to 😊move we got friends to help us move while one of us managed the kids
I am really lucky that my boomer parent still helps me even though i don't have kids. But the rest of our family is pretty selfish. He and i were the only ones to move in and take care of my grandma (his mother) until she died. None of the other kids or grandkids cared.
Edit: I just realized he's not even a boomer, he's a young silent generation. He had me when he was 40 years old. That makes sense because he's the oldest child😂
Raise your own kids.
Tell that to the boomers who put us in public school and drop us off at grandmas every weekend. They didn’t raise us.
@@hiddenhand6973 I'm a boomer lol. And I raised my kid. And my parents raised their kids. Who are these people who get all that help??? Like I said, raise your own kids.
@@ga7654boomers.. tired of you.
So ungrateful. If parents helped you till you get a job thats it, they dont need to do anymore. With such an attitude, I would be surprised if anyone helped her.
I don't really understand what the problem is. I never thought I would be on the boomers' side, but use your discernment when having kids because YOU are responsible for them 24/7. I would think tiktok and that subreddit would have told them this already.
Also, it's hella weird for some of those parents to expect them to be their for their grandkid when they weren't there for them, like they showed you what they did before. People rarely change.
considering I'm a millennial. You aren't entitled to have your parents raise or help you in any way. Some don't even have their parent's. My parents didn't force me to have my children, and I don't expect them to help me. Yeah, I'm sure it's nice if they do, but tough shit if they don't want to be around. Why want someone near your child who doesn't want to be. Hire a babysitter, find a daycare, or get used to having your children with you.
Did you spend time with your grandparents growing up? How often? My parents took me to my grandma’s house every weekend. Do you think my parents are returning the favor to the next generation?
I’ve hardly ever heard parents force their kids to have kids and then not help . AND you should always be ready to do it alone
I am a millennial and I do not approve this message. No one owes me or anyone anything. If anyone helps me, it is a blessing. I had my child and to be quite frank the worse generation is Gen Z. They are the worse. Extremely entitled. Give Gen X a break. They just raised their children and need a break. I am 40 and tired. Imagine a 48-56-year-old person. They are even more tired. Give each other a break.
Many of my boomer friends raised their grandchildren - because.. boomers didn't lay down the law and raised children who felt entitled to have babies and fully expect mom and dad to - baby sit and pay many expenses -
This has gotta be a joke💀💀
😂😂
The mom who said "don't go out and make me something I don't want to be and expect anything" well you made 2 kids who didn't asked to be here and you sure do have a lot of expectations of them 😂😂😂😂 like mam sit the f down
I guarantee she’ll guilt trip them when they don’t come to visit her in the nursing home or scoff that she’s even being put in one instead of being invited to live with one of the adult children. The kids are the entitled ones though 🙄
Don’t have children but yea boomer parents don’t give a damn. I’ve been on my own since I turned 18.
Um im a millennial..... Who the keck expects their parents to help raise kids???? My granma didnt help raise me...
Ummm, all generations, until extremely recently, were raised in part by extended family.
Have you never heard the phrase "it takes a village"? I'm gen z, even I was taken care of by my aunt while she lived in my town as a very young child.
Yeah actually it’s a lie created by the housing industry that children move out at 18 or whenever to get a job and their own house
It was actually that the kids would stay and raise their family in the family home and take care of the elderly.
Also it’s not so much “helping raise” as “baby-sitting” or “spending time with grandma or grandpa” so I wouldn’t blame people for being upset when their parents say “I’m to busy to spend time with you or your children because I’m taking free college classes just because I’m old even though I went to college when it was cheap”
Almost every nation except for Americans. You guys are weirdos .
I'm also a millennial. Mine did. My mother was comparatively less-present in my life than my father's mother.
One of the things a parent could reasonably be expected to do is attempt to give their children essential life skills - like cooking, cleaning, sewing buttons and, yes, raising children. Tempering that experience with knowledge gained through more recent understanding is certainly useful, but by not spending time with their grandchildren and their grandchilden's parents - their *own* offspring - grandparents are refusing to impart those essential life skills, just like they did previously with sewing buttons.
Let's remember, when it comes to sewing buttons, that Gen-Xers mocked their own offspring for taking the initiative to learn the skill they refused to teach. That kind of attitude is what's being complained about - that Gen-Xers weren't as involved in their children's lives growing up as they should have been, and that they're continuing to refuse to be involved.
Let’s get this correct 🙄Boomers raised Gen x and Gen x raised millennials. Boomers were the me generation therefore Genx was an afterthought that raised ourselves. We kind of raised the millennials off from our own ruleless childhoods and here we are .
I’m a millennial and I was raised by boomers. My boomer parents had help from their parents. Every weekend and a few weeks out of the year. As a result I am very close with my grandparents and have the desire to visit them, help them, talk with them. My own boomer parents are not so close with my children and as a result they have not formed a bond. What will those final years look like for my boomer parents? Lonely. That’s what.
What these people are pissed that the grandparents don't want to spend all their time taking care of the grandkids for free? The entitlement here is wow! I am a Gen Xer, and my grandparents didn't take care of me or babysit. My mum and dad did everything themselves. A lot of people can't afford to retire so don't have the time to care for grandkids.
“What these people are pissed that the grandparents don't want to spend all their time taking care of the grandkids for free?”
That’s not what any of them said. Stupid straw man argument you had to erect here. Involvement is what they are asking for.
Its one thing to complain about estranged family member, its another to complain about not having FREE child care. Also unpopular opinion, but just because someones blood, they dont have to help you or even be around you. Sure its sad, but its their life too and they dont wanna spend it changing your kids diapers or whatever else it may be🤷🏻♀️
And let us see who these millaneal kids see it when they get in the age of 50 or older, still trying to make a living with fulltime jobs and getting their lives together. It is not an OBLIGATION, it is a nice GESTURE when you are helped out. YOUR kids are YOUR responsibility. YOU are now an ADULT. You do not want your grandparents to tell you what job you should take, what friends you should have, what food you should eat, what educational measures you should take or where you should go to with your kids or alone? Well, then ACT like if you were ADULT. And stop acting like if you still were an irresponsible kid your grandparents still have to take care of. And that is it when you expect grandparents to take care of your kids.
K don’t expect help when you’re old. Elder care is pricey, save up!
This cant be fr💀 Its a choice to help out. As a Gen z, these millennials are entitled asf. Grandparents dont HAVE to do anything.
I sincerely hope your grandparents are in your life and you're just saying this dumb shit because you've never had a deadbeat family member. I didn't even meet my grandfather on my father's side and no one gave a shit when he died. I didn't even know about his death until 2 years after he died. Extended family is important, even if you're a distance a way you should try to stay with them for a summer.
Expecting relationship is out of question too then. Medical care pto, drive to a doctors appt, helping hand here and there is a mutually beneficial deal. Take one end, the others goes too.
@@bc9866 Ive had family from far away, dead beat relatives, and dedicated family members. And my opinion remains 🤷🏻♀️ This is some privileged, entitled shit. Grandparents dont HAVE to help, itd be nice, but they arent evil if they dont wang to or cant. It also depends on the situation. Alot of these people are sayinv they should drop their lives to help them. And thats not right
@@cateeed.0111 You've had dedicate family members.
@@bc9866 huh?
Mmm… did you consult with your parents before having a child? Was it their choice as well or only yours and your partner? Did you ask if they want a baby? I doubt. So why would you expect them to deal with it?.. If you are not able to stay at home and raise it or don’t have money for a nanny then maybe you should have thought earlier that you cannot afford a child at this point in your life.
They worked, they were raised and they were educated, now they want us to take care of their children????.... well, it is not their responsibility to be responsible adults, now it is our turn to enjoy our money and freedom, such a weak generation, it is ridiculous that they are not our children. They are yours crying generation
Did your parents help you?
first!!
Grandparents ARE NOT parents to your kids!!!!!!!!!
When you have a kid, that kid is yours! Stop expecting other people to do your work. Some people are so selfish and spoiled! 😱😱😱
What a bunch of entitled whiners!!!
“Why are you putting me in a nursing home? Why can’t I live with you? Why don’t you visit me? Why don’t you call? Can you bring the grandkids by to entertain me? I’m so lonely!”
You will reap what you sow.
What am I watching right now? OMG. I raise my kids to adulthood, and then I am done with raising them. Watch the kids once a week? Dude, our parents didn't live anywhere close to where we were. I didn't have close family close by ever. I put my kids to bed night after night after night and the only break I got was when we hired a babysitter. I'm not saying I wouldn't spend time with my grandkids, but I'm not raising them. That's their parent's job. My own grandparents never stayed with us as they lived far away too. I think these millennial parents were coddled by their parents and don't know how to survive without them. Build a network of support that doesn't involve your parents. Trade childcare with friends, form friendships with other parents and have dinner parties with them so you can socialize with adults while your kids play with their kids. There are so many options out there besides depending on grandparents who often have physical limitations, etc. Preach @tutortori.
Millennials were largely ignored by their parents and taken to the grandparents house, nice try. Why do you think millennials are hoping or expecting that their parents will be somewhat involved? Because millennials had relationships with their grandparents and are hoping their own parents will want to have a relationship with a grandchildren that millennials produce. Go figure, Those who raised millennials were checked out and too busy with work and hedonistic endeavors to pay attention to the children, so why should they expect grandparent involvement? Those final years are gonna be very lonely for the boomers.
My kids grandparents are awesome ❤ I don't like dumping my kids off so we just make a point to visit
May I ask what healthy grandparents do when you and the kids visit?
The mouthy btitch in purple makes me wanna switch to Team Boomer
I know this video is a joke
You choose to have kids not your sibling auntie uncles grandparents or your parents, you and you only. Stop expecting people to do free labor stop expecting other adult to provide for your children. Stop expecting your children to take care of their younger siblings. You are the parent nobody else
Wow! The entitlement that you have! No One is responsible for your Children. I had one child my mom had one child. I do not live in a socialist village. If I raised you,fed you, and gave you an education, I don't owe you taking your responsibility. BTW, my son doesn't have kids and I won't nag hin to have any!
Are you going to nag him to visit you at the nursing home?
@hiddenhand6973 Nope, I don't have to. He visits regularly!
The most selfish and evil generation...the Devil lives in their selfish deeds.
The generation that brought us on demand, abortion, and women giving up child raising to work for a man in an office building. Oh, and sex outside of marriage and drug use. Spectacular.
You have made massive sweeping assumptions about the thought processes of millions of individuals. How inaccurate those assumptions are. “These are the boomer parents who pressured their children into having kids.” HOW DO YOU KNOW?
These parents have spent over 20 years of their own lives raising people who can’t think straight, who cry about pronouns and who are so entitled, they don’t think they should have to raise their own kids.
Run boomer parents! Run and don’t look back!
Millenium discover what it is to be middle age, where you have to take care of your kids and aging parents.
Welcome to the club. You won’t be handled with kids gloves anymore, people expect you to have your shot together and to take care of others.
Take care of people who were always at work or out partying and leaving us with our grandparents? 😂 Oh, and who refused to be involved with the grandchildren? Nope.
Bruh I rarely went to my grandma's house as a kid. Stop putting our current situation on your parents. The reason raising kids is near impossible nowadays is because women wanted to work like men. If y'all would bow out of the workforce and stay home to raise the children, you wouldn't need your mom to watch them 3 times a week.
Ridiculous. Women could not even support themselves back in the day so do you think fighting for the right to work was wrong??
Do you think having to depend on a man to be able to eat is correct?
I lived at my grandparents pretty much every day and every weekend because my parents didnt want me around lol.
Now that I have a kid; they have held him 1 time since he was born and that is it. Beg me for pictures 24/7 to post on social media to brag about, but never involved.
Did it to my siblings too :)
Boomers have always had it easy.
Whatever, you have kids! TAKE CARE OF THEM! Not the Grandparents responsibility These MILLENIALS are OUT THIER MINDS!