Should You Have to Break Up with Your Ex’s Children After the Relationship Is Over?
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- čas přidán 12. 09. 2024
- Should you have to break up with your partner’s children just because you grew apart? Guest co-host Nene Leakes weighs in.
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That was the hardest part when leaving my ex. I watched and cared for his son for 8 years! - Years later he reached out to me and thanked me for all I did and told me he loved me. - We don’t have a relationship, but that was beautiful closure.
Wow! That's got me crying 😢
God will bless you for that!! 🤍🙌🏼
omg you made me cry with this story 😭
He took him years later to reach out I wouldn't even want the thanks after that long😫😫
@@godsgirl7201 girl he was probably a child and waited until he was older to able to contact her, you have no idea why they didn't, the parent could have been monitoring their phone/ told them never to contact them. Also as a child you aren't as appreciate of the things you have, he was probably doing some reflection and felt the need to reach out. Chill there's no right time to reach out when you are a child.
I was with my ex-husband for 15 years. He brought 3 children into our relationship. They were 6,5, and 1. We then went on to have 2 children together. Over the years as he revealed who he REALLY was (a narcissist, physically and mentally abusive etc) the older 3 kids had had enough and started to distance themselves from him. After I was finally able to escape that awful situation, I had the youngest of "his" 3 come to me hysterically upset. I thought it was because of the divorce. It turns out she was terrified that she would no longer be able to have a relationship with me. 😭 I made it clear to them I divorced their father not them! None of the 3 of them have a relationship with their father/my ex at this point. They are now 23, 22 and almost 18 and still refer to me as mom. They also have wonderful mothers as well who I am actually now very close friends with! So depending on the situation it can work. I gave birth to 2 children, but I have 5 children period that are all loved the same! ❤ (I call them my bonus blessings 😊)
You are so amazing
The difference is they are your kids siblings so you would of still seen them regardless
Now what if the parent moves on and after staying in the kids life the new partner says you can't be there anymore it's better to cut your loss for your mental sanity
@@dance4life1208 exactly!!
@@godsgirl7201 I'm not sure what parent you are referring to moving on. If you mean my ex husband he has LONG since moved on since our divorce. The children he brought to the marriage are now adults. So the new partner he has has no say so 1. Because they are grown and 2. Because they have no relationship with their father.
My mom was in a relationship with a man for 7 years, I had never had a relationship with my bio father but when my mom’s boyfriend came into our lives he treated me as a father should. And When I was 14 they broke up, it broke my heart and I was so upset. (It wasn’t his fault) now at 22 I don’t have a relationship with him anymore but he did a lot for me growing up.
If you've been married to them for years and you have a significant role in that child's life, then NO you don't need to break up with them. It'll create issues they'll carry into adulthood.
Now what if the parent moves on and after staying in the kids life the new partner says you can't be there anymore it's better to cut your loss for your mental sanity
@@godsgirl7201 you keep commenting this sounds like projection and a very specific situation, for the most part people are good and will do the right thing
@@godsgirl7201 You don't have to be in their home with the new spouse. You can meet them elsewhere or they can visit. The new spouse isn't their parent and doesn't have complete control over children that aren't theirs.
@@kinndah2519 eventually that child will be there's if it's a long term relationship... I definitely get what your saying but... In a way it's like your hiding something from the new spouse
@@godsgirl7201 No you aren't hiding anything. Also, if the new spouse is unreasonable like that, then why would you want to marry them?! Anyone I marry will be compassionate, smart, and not self centered. This will only happen if you accept narcissists into your life to control you and everyone in it. Real adults don't have any tolerance for that.
You may think children forget about you fast but they don’t. They just might not talk about you everyday but that doesn’t mean they never think about you. Because they do and I only know this before I worked in a childcare center with kids.
My parents split when I was a baby. But my biilogical dad was always in my life. Then when I was 10 or 11, my mom started dating someone else. He didn't have kids and my mom didn't want any more. And for 10+ years, I viewed him as a (step) dad. He was there for sooo many chapters of my life. Middle school, High school, dating life, proms, college... and then my mom and him separated. He now has a family of his own and although we don't keep in close contact anymore, i still til this day call him my step dad. And it's nice to see him being a dad to his 2 new little boys (we have one another on facebook). Will forever thank him for always being the shoulder and ears I needed during my self discovery and growth journey.
My siblings’ Dad totally disowned my brother & I after being with my mom for 12 years. He wasn’t the greatest father at all but he was pretty much all that we had since our biological father popped in & out. There divorce was nasty and to spite my mom, he stopped caring for us and chose to solely focus on his biological kids. There were plenty of Christmases & other holidays where my siblings got the works and my brother & I got nothing. My mom struggled financially but she did her best to make sure we at least had a great meal. As an adult, it has caused me to develop issues with feeling like no one wants me around or not feeling chosen.
I am so sorry this happened to you. I'm glad you came out free from him on the other side and I wish you nothing but a full and loving life ahead. You are seen and you are heard. All the best.
I think it depends on what the children want. If the children are close with the step parent then the legal parent should help to maintain that relationship until the child is old enough to maintain the relationship on their own. Not all blended families are the same so these things should be evaluated on a case by case basis.
Agreed
What about when you move on into another relationship wouldn't that get akward if the ex that was the step parent is still coming over to visit the kids🤔
How can a child make adult decisions 😫
Now what if the parent moves on and after staying in the kids life the new partner says you can't be there anymore it's better to cut your loss for your mental sanity
@@godsgirl7201 hopefully whoever you’re dating is mature enough to realize that familial relationships don’t just end because a couple breaks up. If they don’t get that, they’re probably not the one for you.
My DAD is actually my step dad. My step dad and mom are now divorced. He is still my dad. And their divorce is no different than a divorce between two blood parents.
Blood is important sweetheart
@@nawalali6044 “sweetheart” blood doesn’t always make a family love does
@Nawal Ali Sweetheart what u say I sooo wrong. Love is what makes a family. Sometimes your own blood can do u the worst
@@nawalali6044 I disagree. My biological "dad" isn't a dad. He's an alcoholic who beat my mom and never came around after the divorce unless the courts forced him to pay child support. He's nothing more than a sperm donor.
I'm still tight with his parents and siblings (my grandparents, aunts, etc), but he brings nothing to my life. My step dad who doesn't share my blood raised me and has always been there to support me.
Blood means nothing unless the actions back it up.
I was in a relationship and I broke up with my ex. He had a son,that I did get very close to. And I had to move on from his Father. I tried all that I could,to stay in the child's life,but his Dad made it impossible. I was very torn about it,because I felt as if I let the child down. But all in all,I truly had to move forward in my life. Great segment.
No. Especially when you raised them from young children to Adults.
What about when you move on into another relationship wouldn't that get akward if the ex that was the step parent is still coming over to visit the kids🤔
what if the biological parent is around I see alot people saying let the kid decide but that can get messy fast for the next relationship
Kids can bounce back but the childhood trauma or hurt will forever stay
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As a person whose Mom dated some pretty influential guys, I thought it was the most noble, courageous, and honestly heartfelt action when (if) they broke up, he decided to sit me down and talk to me and explain the whys and hows and such. There are 3 conversations I recall in my life very vividly and will never forget. I think it is VERY important and it does make a difference to have these kinds of conversations with the children as they are involved in this relationship too!
The former partners children are just like your own when you're raising them they feel like they're your babies
What about when you move on into another relationship wouldn't that get akward if the ex that was the step parent is still coming over to visit the kids🤔
Omg everyone looks amazing but Garcelle and Adrienne's makeup here..LOVEEEEE!!!! 😍😍😍😍😍
Just break the bond and go. Unless the children are adults and keeps in touch with you, otherwise, it's part of life, people come and go.
Exactly
My partner and I have been together for 12 years. My children love him! I have two kids, my youngest will be turning 16, he's a special needs non-verbal boy, but one of the very few words he can say is my partner's name ❤. My son loves him. My partner says IF we ever break up, he'll always be in both my kids lives.
What about when you move on into another relationship wouldn't that get akward if the ex that was the step parent is still coming over to visit the kids🤔
what if the biological parent is around I see alot people saying let the kid decide but that can get messy fast for the next relationship
@@godsgirl7201 the child is what is most important in this situation not the parent. The adults can handle the awkwardness if they are mature, a child doesn't understand anything beyond the person who they love has just left them, its can cause trauma and issues growing up. Everyone in this situation needs to put their feelings aside, parent, new relationship etc and realise where the priorities are..... The child involved.
@@Elizabeth-bc2xj how can child know what's best for them there a child I think it's up to the parent to decide
@@Elizabeth-bc2xj I definitely see what you're saying I guess it depends on the child's age when most people break up they don't act mature maybe in a perfect world
I think it’s a learning lesson for the kids. Relationships end, it’s a part of life. You can’t hold onto everyone. If they are old enough to maintain their own relationship with the person then go for it if the split was amicable
So true never thought of it this way. I see too many comments saying this will mess the kids up or this will traumatize them if your no longer a part of their lives and it’s like no that’s not always the case. Like Loni said some kids easily bounce back from this and some kids just come to accept that so and so isn’t around anymore.
That's why marriage is primarily for children. There are few things more damaging than this type of situation.
@@arbsan8366 I thought about a scenario where young kids keep in contact with an ex step parent and it's inevitable at some point that relationship will come to a demise. It's too much to maintain and eventually both adults will move on romantically. I think it's best to just rip off the bandaid and teach the kid that he or she won't be coming around anymore. It's okay to mourn ppl that are still living.
I feel like if u raised them that love shouldn't stop.
Time Heals most wounds. I think it's better to make a clean break just tell them the reason why and just say your goodbyes because the next person she's going to be dating next won't want you around
That's one of those the biggest lies. Time makes them more bearable.
Studies on major losses in a child's life shows a substantial and lasting impact whether it appears the child has "bounced back" or not. The child may not know how to grieve that loss (which is like a death when the bond is cut) and can deal with that unresolved grief throughout his/her/their lifetime.
When dating you have to be SUPER vigilant in exposing your kids to a partner. I say that to say, my kids aren’t meeting anyone in the dating phase. If we move toward marriage, officially engaged etc, then let’s meet. If we divorce, it’s a done deal! Kids are resilient, but I don’t need them hell bent emotional over temporary people. If that makes sense.
Someone with logical common sense
So you truly saying you can only introduce your kids once you have a ring on your finger?
Won't you want to know how your partner conducts himself around your kids, how your kids respond to him/ her?
I get what you are trying to say but its not practical, you can't introduce them once you are officially engaged.
Also, children may be resilient but that's the topic of discussion... is it ouk to make them break up with an ex? snt that kind of selfish? Especially if the kids want to maintain a relationship with the ex
@@melmel7011 how he treats and talks about his Mother speaks enough Volumes or not for the matter.
@@ricardomoseley that doesn’t make him good with kids
This is why you choose your partners carefully. People show you who they are very early on if you're paying close enough attention.
It depends on how the ex's break up.
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Now what if the parent moves on and after staying in the kids life the new partner says you can't be there anymore it's better to cut your loss for your mental sanity
I divorced my 1st husband when my “stepdaughters” (daughters we don’t use the word step) were 14 and 11… I raised them from 3&5 years old and we had two children together I also had 4 children from another relationship.. he did try and keep them from me but it didn’t work they both are now 25&22 and still call me mami! I speak to them on a regular basis and have one grandson from the oldest… I have been in my new marriage for 12 years and at one point a few years ago they both came to live with me and my new husband! My new husband HAD NO CHOICE IN THE MATTER (although he didn’t object) THEY ARE MY CHILDREN WHETHER I BIRTHED THEM OR NOT!!! Periodttt… I wouldn’t push my biological kids to the side if they needed me so it is what it is! They love him and he is a great grandfather to her son even tho she has a father… and a great father to them… they love him just they same… it takes mature people to put the children first! But it can be done! just because your hurt don’t put that off on the kids! I never had a problem with any of the girlfriends/wives of my children fathers because it was ALWAYS ABOUT THE KIDS!
The only thing I miss about my ex was his family! Yes, while we were together I bonded with his daughters but after breaking up with him, I broke up with the entire family. For me, it was more healthy that way.
If you don’t divorce your biological children during the process when ur involved in a marriage… I would hope if you have a good relationship with ur step kids u would still want to be around and be an adult figure in their lives ! The way I’ve seen stepparents actually step in and step up and claim that child as their own they would never !
So true
What about when you move on into another relationship wouldn't that get akward if the ex that was the step parent is still coming over to visit the kids🤔
what if the biological parent is around I see alot people saying let the kid decide but that can get messy fast for the next relationship
Now what if the parent moves on and after staying in the kids life the new partner says you can't be there anymore it's better to cut your loss for your mental sanity
This topic is why is soooo important for people to take their time when entering relationships. So much is at stake. People jump into and out of relationships so quickly and there can be collateral damage, the kids. Yes kids can be resilient but they also can be wounded.
Ohh wow this hit home for me. Growing up with a single mom I definitely experienced this. I remember my mom dated this man who had a son who was 2 years younger than me. My older brother and I really bonded with him, we were just kids at the time, i was 6 and my older brother was 9. We thought of him as our little brother and protected him and shared everything with him. Well my mom and her boyfriend broke up 2 years later and I never saw my little brother again. It’s been 15 years now and I still think about him and hope he is doing well it caused me a lot of sadness knowing that he was no longer a pet of my life. My mom got with another man who is the most amazing person I know and we’ve been calling him “Dad” ever since, one day they were on the brink of braking up and me and my brother threatened to leave my mom and go with him because we loved him so much, he was distraught over having to leave and promised to not abandoned us even if he wasn’t with my mom. Funny thing is they got back together 2 day later and they’ve been together ever since, it’s been 13 years now and he makes my mother the happiest. It’s definitely traumatic growing close to people and having to be separated and not understanding how you could’ve done different as a kid to make them stay.
my step mom was in my life for about 7 years and once she left i honestly felt weird talking to her.. nothing against her, it was just awkward. i was in 8th grade and now im 16 and it still feels awkward. we only do the occasional happy birthdays and merry christmas texts.
It depends, I mean look at Travis Barker and Atiana even though his divorce happened years ago he's still treated Atiana like she was one of his own. There's never been a difference between how he treats her v/s how he treats her siblings.
My "Father" married my Mom when I was 3 years old. They divorced when I was 14. They had two children together and he had two children from a previous marriage. He was my Father until he passed away. He loved me and I loved him. My Mom didn't want me speaking to him after their divorce yet my siblings could. I told him and he came over, (took a three hour flight) and told her and her new husband, "She is MY daughter. Just because we are divorced I don't stop being her Dad." And she never got in the way again. Had he not been in my life, I would not know what unconditional love is. He gave me my hugs and kisses. My mom was NEVER affectionate. He loved me til the end. I will always be his daughter and he will always be my Dad.
"Children bounce back". We block out so much pain we experienced and still experience as a result of a childhood. If this was true then stats wouldn't show that the most damaged children on average, mentally, socially, relationship wise, education wise, they do the worst.
Children born and raised by married parents do the best on average because there is something to be said for thousands of years of tradition.
Yeah ppl are acting like childhood trauma isn't a thing, many ppl end up in therapy later on just to try and work past this stuff. If you don't heal your trauma will constantly be showing up in different areas of your life.
Depends.... When the partner moves on to someone else it makes it difficult for the new person if you're still around
At minimum you can let them talk on the phone and come to school and extracurricular events. I wish my mom did that instead of guilt tripping me for asking if I can call my step-dad since he was the only one who understood me. I felt like she isolaed me from him and then abandoned me bc she was dealing with too much emotional stuff. It honestly felt like I was almost raising myself in HS and it would have been nice to have a parent like figure to talk about it too.
I break up with the entire family! Children need to learn how to move on and let go after things end and don’t work out… it can prepare them for the real world!
Same
I don't date men with children for this very reason. Too complicated.
If you broke up with him/her, you broke up with their kid, too.
Life goes on.
I stayed close to my stepmom when my parents divorced. I was closer to her than my dad. She passed away but if she were still here I'd still be close to her. She was amazing!
Very complex topic though.
Yes there is no blanket statement to solve this one, for sure!
Yes . Because they have a mother who is co parenting and if every gf keeps a relationship with them how many ex step mothers will they have .
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I still have a relationship with my stepdaughter that I helped raise 11 years after the break-up. I'm still good with my ex-husband, too. He still has a relationship with my son as well, and always did. I suppose it depends on the situation. 💛
Poor Adrienne Israel’s younger children don’t talk to her anymore and they used to call her their step up mom
How do u know?? What did I miss??
With my ex husband I cried for months when he took his daughter away. I grew to lived that child like my very own. I took her to live with me and after our divorce he kept her away from me. I then started a relationship with a guy with two children then the darn same thing happen. Never me again I will not be binding with anyone kids not me again.
I can empathize with you. You are a special person to have that bond with these children
And you shouldn’t they already have mothers and it wasn’t you
I'm dating a guy with a kid and I can't wait for the kid to grow up and disappear. My situation is tricky (there's financial abuse and the like that add layers of complexity), but yeah, after him, never again. Whether its getting too attached or not attached at all, there are too many problems with dating someone with kids if u don't have any
@@dance4life1208 I learned my lesson very well. The kids are in the Caribbean and I wanted to give them a better life and bring them to Canada well I learn my lesson. I will send every and anything for these two little girls. Luck isn't by my side.
@@lmwillis72 yes one with my ex husband took me months to build that relationship. I already have big daughter and she was so jealous of me and Sasha relationship lol. She don't call, she don't text, no message nothing. Now these two little girls I bonded with so well and darn same thing happen.
Why is Nene there? What has she added to their conversation😐
At the end of the day, that’s not your child. People are saying think of the impact on the child if you leave, But think of the impact/confusion/challenges of trying to stay in the child’s life , have a new relationship w/someone else and the child’s parent trying to move on . Too many open doors eventually this is going to be a problem to one of he spouses . Choose a path and move along , that child will be fine with their parent(s)
That’s why it’s especially important to pay attention to red flags in a relationship while you have kids just because they are good with kids doesn’t mean you are compatible don’t ignore red flags just because of the character of a person some people have great qualities but great qualities can only get you so far with somebody you’re not supposed to be with.
Anyone ever notice that Adrienne NEVER talks about her step kids or step grandkids. She even slyly tried to say then that if a baby is in her life everyday then you would want to see them but Adeienne doesnt and so shes sneakily exempt herself from that situation. Loni aint even married and she always talks about James's kids, yet Adrienne not once. She hates the fact that she cant have his kids and he has kids and even grandbabies with another woman. God works in mysterious ways, especially when you steal someone elses husband and think dressing and talking all pretty is gonna fool everyone. God sees everything Adrienne you cant fool God!
I culd b reading too deeply but I feel like Adrienne is maybe a bit sad bcuz her ex had children n I'm sure she cared for them very much n now she can't even be cool with them without it being extra drama😔 that's gotta suck
Yea I was thinking that too
Tough luck that’s what happens when you date people with kids
I had a relationship for 8 years my ex had custody of his son...he was around 4 yrs old when we met..raised him taught him his abc's 1st day of school..just everything a good mother would do yall...since he cheated and our relationship ended not in a good way..and since he was underage i had no ties to him anymore....i loved that little boy like my own cuz i hv no kids....he graduated highschool i saw on facebook his new girl was their...it kinda hurt because i practically raised him from kindergarten thru 7 grade...i will never date a man who has custody of his child again..im a cancer so i love hard...and that situation broke my heart in two ways💔
LYFE Jennings got a song called "she got kids" it explains it very well .
Should really depend on the circumstance.
The ladies are SLAYING today. Everyone looks so divine and I’m really loving Garcelle’s look.
Speaking of children Adrienne what happened to Lilly and her brother your step children?
Was wondering if it was gonna come up
@@TweetsyCk she’s only close with the daughter Mariah now
@@lynetteprice360 what do you mean now? Did something happen?
@@sappfamtv that's what I'm trying to figure out
I’ve been wondering this for awhile. I wonder if Israel’s ex wife stopped Lillie from hanging out with her
If a relationship can be maintained... it should be. Even if it's more sporadic and different than before. When you commit to a child you should attempt to keep that commitment.
I have a friend who had such a good relationship with her exes kids mothers that she was able to maintain a relationship with the kids thru their moms.
This was a subject close to the one Jessica Albas character went through on LA’s Finest.
Yes I thought of Izzy , 💕
This is such a case by case. It also depends on the child’s age. When the ex begins dating a person, that’s where it gets tricky…and if THEY don’t work out, this child potentially has a whole line of exes in their lives. I see what some of the women are saying, but it’s not that simple.
Thank you! Most situations are a lot more nuanced than that.
Damn that I’m breaking up with everyone. My ex’s sister was soo hurt that I didn’t still keep in touch with her or meet her twins when she had them. Damn that... PEACE ✌🏾
Loni seemed like she was getting annoyed with Adrienne and her “absolutely” comments lol 😂
Omgggg Adrienne looks sooooooo goooodddddd
I guess it depends on the circumstances of the breakup in each Individual case.
I don't love thr idea of having an ex around my kids or my partner being around an ex because of kids, but if there's a genuine amicable breakup and all parties remain friendly including new partners, then I guess it is healthy.
If even 1 of the partners is uneasy then it has to be a no.
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@Greg kane thanks, but an ex is an ex for a reason and it is not healthy to go backwards. Always strive to go forward.
Unless you legally adopted them children or then kids grown and can decide for themselves…you gotta say goodbye and don’t make promises to them kids you won’t be around to keep. Just say your good byes…your new partner is not gonna like or appreciate that. Like stop being weird y’all got alot of exes…you can’t be in ALL their kids lives. Don’t introduce your kids if it’s not serious
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Also some people introduce their children to other people to early in a relationship which isn’t good.
Ugggh.... this is one of those things that most of the time has to be a growing pain. It reminds me of a couple breaking up but say " let's be friends" so they don't feel like bad people for ending the relationship but the hurt is still there. It sucks for the kids, but unfortnely most parents will but their feelings above their kids in this scenario because yes it might be easy for the kids, but telling a grown adult especially if the kids are young to put their hurt feelings aside to keep this person in their lives most people are not going to do it.
It was hard to leave my ex daughter, or just halt the relationship, but I say that to say, her mom's responses and reactions to her dad and I's relationship made it easier to leave.
Now that we had a son (co parenting/aren't together), we are still connected (his daughter and I) so now when she gets older I'm available by the Grace of God, because my heart was/is heavy, but I'll be able to answer whatever will ease her mind.
So the kid is supposed to have their biological parents, ex step parent, and then when the ex step parent moves on with someone else then what's next? It's better to just leave the whole situation alone.
It depends. If you raised them from infanthood to a teen or adult, and the bio parent is dead or not around...some are inclined to stay involved.
Facts!
@@Octayvia21 what if the biological parent is around I see alot people saying let the kid decide but that can get messy fast for the next relationship
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@Gods Girl Like I said, it all depends.What if the step parent adopted? I know one man that adopted his step daughter. He split with the mom, but you better believe he got his kid and now grandkids whenever he could. Kids are an investment of love, time, and money. He's collecting now as a grandpa. He gets sick, bored, whatever...they're there.
Gm edagdwg thanks you tube for sharing this story of what happens when the children want to still see you and you helped them sad love is real Linda j. Peace
Jlo needs to watch this before her next relationship.
No Loni, kids don't just "bounce back quick" per Dr. Bruce Perry. Childhood trauma expert. This type of situation can leave a lasting impression. Including failed relationships in the future because they're afraid their partners will leave them too.
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I have 4 dad's and When I get married things are gonna get AWKWARD!!!
And the kids bond with you. My friends talked about the relationship with their step parents.
if the child is younger absolutely you should but if the child is older and you’ve been there their whole life or a good amount of time I think it should be up to the child to choose
I don't think you should. But as the ladies were saying it depends on the dynamic of the relationship. It cam get complicated.
Great topic. Good job The Real!
Now what if the parent moves on and after staying in the kids life the new partner says you can't be there anymore it's better to cut your loss for your mental sanity
That’s the worst part. My ex used my kids (who are not his) as an excuse to try to stay with me
This reminder me of Jennifer Lopez when she was with Alex Rodriguez. I'm sure she cut all ties with Arod children and family. Wonder how her children felt and how did they dealt with no seeing arod girls anymore.
Jlo was my first thought on this subject. Their children were all so close.
& I remember them saying how they all loved each other like real siblings. Jlo's daughter must've been really sad about it all as Alex daughter's too, even though they were older than Jlo's kids by a couple years they were all tight.
I saw many happy n fun pics of their children together even though Jlo did.look sad most of the time with Arod after a while.
I told my husband years ago they won't last long.
But aren’t they all teenagers? They can keep up with each other on their own
If I have a good relationship with the kids then I am staying in their lives as a friend.
Adrienne looks FLY!!
I agree with Gracelle very good view point.
No, children don't always adjust. Some are broken.
Everything doesn't come down to the law. Good for Cali but really this comes down to the 2 adults, they're relationships, and the terms of the breakup. This is a common sense question, do what makes sense according to the circumstances. Kids have to learn life too, some relationships end and you have to learn to appreciate what you had and move on.
I’d have to leave them kids. I’m sorry like… no. I’ll be there for them to talk to but no, I got to go. It’s like a string attached like I don’t want to be apart anymore in anyway. When I’m done I’m DONE.
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Hello it's works I can't believe am with my love again after so many years of break-up He can help with any spell....
Adrienne looks so pretty
If you were married, you shouldn’t have to but if it’s just dating then yeah because it is kind of weird afterwards.
It’s complicated because it’s ultimately dysfunctional.
can anybody speak without adrian interupting.. sheeeesh
The majority of adults aren’t well rounded. Lack of emotional intelligence. Unfortunately the inability of the grown ups handing things well the children will be effected.
U are correct that why some family don't have understand patient is a vergure and evone has to make up for the different togetherness love the person and take the hole package and work out our different projects better than words can say peace and mine is the greatest gift in the world
To the person reading this. Even though I don’t know you. I wish you the BEST of what life has to offer you. ❤️❤️
It depends if you have a kid with your partner then you can still have a relationship cause your kid is their siblings
Give all of you advice..i know you may be in love but NEVER raise / part raise your partner's kids..no matter how old...!!!!!! You will regret it in the end!!!! ...I have/will never have a relationship if my partner has child(ren)...Not my job!!!!
You shorten your options if you aren't open to that almost everyone has kids
Exactly
@@godsgirl7201 not everyone has kids no one should feel obligated to date someone with kids when they have none
I love Adrienne’s dress
Just wondering at the dynamics, the child has parents, you come in, you leave but stay, then someone else comes into their parent’s life and now we have how many people in the equation. The other parent also has to move on without you and find someone new. I’d advice you Try and build a solid life for the child around the parents, if any other thing moves there is a stable foundation the child can lean on.
I’m never breaking up with my step-parents no matter what. They stuck with me for life lol
Heck yes….. I got called heartless oh well
Now what if the parent moves on and after staying in the kids life the new partner says you can't be there anymore it's better to cut your loss for your mental sanity
Well you never know.
Didn't know about that law .
I agree with Gracelle though.
I didn't know about that law in California.
2 40 it's a really complex topic.
If it Was Argumentative no