If You Can't Let Go of Past Mistakes, You Must Watch This | Mel Robbins
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Yep I have regrets from bad decisions that I made because I wasn't in a good place at the time. But I know im a good person.
Yes you are a good person. Do you recognise that you made a mistake. And you have regrets about that. Only a narcissist has no regrets
No, you’re not a good person. You’re just a person.
Shane Dawson says that too
@@tegannottellingnot necessarily. I know its fiction, but Bojack Horseman is a great portrait of how a narcissist can feel nothing but regret for their actions, but use that regret as a weapon both against themselves and others so that they never have to change, but instead choose to live in those dark moments and repeat the same mistakes.
I feel the same way. I have many regrets about stuff I did and I know I’m a good person but I made it through it all.
The worst thing for me is I knew exactly what I was doing idk why I did it I know I’ll never do it again though
same here
same here
Same , just at that moment , at that time i just wanted something to take my mind of some things and an outlet for some . I am still very afraid that i could do it again . I don't think i will ever be able to get away from them or forgive myself completely cuz it was just .... But yeah i just wanna say that the only thing we can do is live with them , identify that we were not our conscious self at that time , and if we truly truly feel guilty and wrong about it , just accept it and keep walking ahead.
Much power to all , you are doing great! ❤️
Omg I'd change SO MUCH if I could go back. Regrets are not unnatural or bad. Just don't let them dominate you.
If you don't let your past go, it won't let you live 🤍
I make some mistakes when I was younger, and I really regret doing it. Some people want to use that against me, and make me a bad guy. People are more than their wrong choices.
Amen friend. This is me. Life is about second chances, and as long as you learned and have grown from your mistakes, there is true wisdom within it.
@@marshallstrander3922 Yes, so true.🌹
Jesus dropped the charges!
i also dont know how to deal with people percieving me as a bad person when i truly want to change
Dear person who is reading this, I wish you a life filled with love, joy, hope, and faith. And that’s something you can create. You have the power to feel any emotion you want right now while you read this. If you want your life to change remember that you have the power to do that by making internal shifts. Life is limitless as long as you believe it to be❤️
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Wow thx
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Thank you!❤
I needed this. Thank you.
*"Success is not final; failure is not fatal: It is the courage to continue that counts."*
-- Winston S. Churchill
Beautiful quote ❤
I love this thank you❤
I'm dealing with the biggest regret in life. Losing someone i had a deep connection, trust and love because i couldn't change those behaviours during the relationship. Now i lost her and it's too late...
But it was a lesson, that maybe if i didn't lose her i wouldn't learn, i would end up hurting her even more with my defensiveness.
But i can't bare to be that person anymore.
My focus now is being as empathetic, loving, and caring as i can be without crossing my boundaries.
I'm truly committed with that. At some point it will pay off, and maybe if it doesn't, i'll be able to feel at peace with myself.
A guy who really loved me will be getting married next week to someone else because I lost him due to my emotionally independent behaviour (if not manipulative). I feel very terrible, like i will never find another like him . I'm just in tears regretting, that's what Brought me here. Have you been able to successfully recover from your regret?
Im in the exact same situation and its been a painful road to reconciling my mistakes with myself. I miss her.
I definitely would change things I’ve done. Would not erase a lot of things that happened to me but I would erase my blind mistake that hurt another. I unintentionally hurt somebody, I wish I never did. But I did.
I'm currently in the depth of the low from a bad decision I made that resulted in me really selling myself short, and I was passed over for something i wanted as a result. I know now from this video that the reason why I'm so low is because it has actually triggered stuff from the past. Gonna feel this for as long as I need to, but will move on promptly (tomorrow) and learn from it. Thank you Mel ❤️
i have a terrible habbit of repeating the same mistakes.. its like my brain has no previous memory of things that i have done in the past which led me to where i am right now
🙌🏽 loved having you on the podcast Mel, so many amazing insights from you
I feel like I’m going crazy I feel like a bad person because sometimes I let my ego be a bitch. But I feel so guilty for hurting other people, and ruining bad connections. But at those moments I was so stuck up in my emotions. I want to apologize to a lot of people but I have ruined it for good I think. I am trying to let go of past mistakes, but I’m debating if I am a good person.
I’m in the same exact boat as you. It seems like a never ending battle to forgive myself for past mistakes and the people and relationships I’ve harmed. Idk if I’m a good person or not either
In the same boat except I was lucky enough to get at least 2 people’s forgiveness. But I still haven’t forgiven myself.
Thanks a lot. I made a huge mistake and basically punished myself by doing nothing but crying for 2 hours straight, I really needed this video. I've got 5 more days of school, so I'm just praying everything will be ok eventually :]
Everything WILL be okay (:
I have been told that we do bad things to realise that we shouldn't do them, and then we learn from it, but I still feel bad about it lately.
I think you’re right. I also think it helps us to have compassion on others when they make mistakes, when we realize that we have also made mistakes.
Me too
Really needed to hear this. Trying not to ruminate on a mistake I made yesterday.
I needed to hear this right now, Mel- thank you!!!! I often get triggered after years of working on myself then beat myself up for being triggered. I see that I don’t stay in the spirals or self pity like I use to and that is key. Grateful for the light you shine for us all ❤️🙏❤️
I'm a liar. I don't lie to intentionally hurt others, but I've been lying since I was a kid out of shame, cowardice.. & often to spare others' feelings. Now that I'm in my 40's & trying to untangle the mess I've made of my life I don't even know where to begin or if there's anything left worth saving. That's a sad thing to have to admit about yourself. I don't deserve another chance in life, but I'm hoping to get one & not waste it if I do..
Life is really short, my friends. I hope you all are able to respect yourselves & loved ones more than I have mine ❤❤
This my dear friend is the first step to a real change. True repentance that the lord Jesus Christ mentioned in the Bible... Have faith in yourself. One step at a time
Beautiful ❤
me too. im so glad im not alone
@@samstheman1874 ❤️
I'd really like to know how you're doing now? How have you been dealing this? I feel I am the same, I lie because I feel people might see that I'm small weak and stupid person. I don't do it intentionally, it has just become a part where I exaggerate and also recognising this affects my self worth.
You can always say "Im sorry" to help other people to heal also. Those few words could be very important to the other person, no matter how small they would feel to us. Its not sign of weakness to apology, ever.
It release you and another person.
I dont think its enough to just think "everyone hurt everyone, hurt people hurt others (and sometimes people hurt others by pure selfishness)"... even if thats True, the understanding it alone is not enough.
Its our actions after that matters the end the cycle and heal.
It wasn't by chance that I clicked in this video. You have now convinced me that it's okay to self publish my novel. I needed your ENTIRE message here.
This comment is in regards to the Mindset reset series and limiting beliefs. I have emotionally eaten for about 45 years. I have gone to 12 steps programs, read books, been on diets, etc. And still have the problem (like I will eat a whole box of cookies). I realized today that the limiting belief I came up with may be the answer to ending this behavior. My limiting belief is that I can't handle by overwhelming feelings by myself. So, I have gotten a box of cookies to numb or dull the pain. I may not have been able to handle the feelings in the past but I have lots of tools now. Thanks Mel!! 😊
You know sometimes we just need to let go of the past especially the most painful moments
Dear, we know this. This is what we call the cliche, I am sorry, but you must understand. People hear this every time. It does not help, what helps is help or guidance for HOW you do it. I undesrtand you mean well, bless you.
It’s hard especially if it’s detrimental to your future
How???😢
Wow!! Thank you Ms. Mel for this message 😘 self-relationship is really the foundation of all relationships, so do good & be kind to yourself. #selflove #selfcare
this was refreshing to watch! Sending peace, love and healing to ALL💙
Trying to come to peace with myself for past mistakes... feels like i keep making them though. I just want to be at peace and happy.
Only a narcissist says they have no regrets in life. People who admit that they made mistakes have regrets.
you can't self diagnose people based on an opinion they have.. lol... some people just realize we all live life once and we couldn't have done things over even if we wanted to.
@@joeykoo3779People on the internet are so annoying throwing around diagnoses and judging people based on their diagnoses. How are people going to get better with idiots like that?
You can admit you have a mistake and feel guilty and wish it didn’t happen, but you can still not want to take it away because of the lessons they learned from it. You also have to accept it happened or you can’t move on.
I have regret. It is about my career. I burn bridge for a work that was not what I expected. :( Im in a verg tight situation now. Im hurting :(
Truth after truth! Your message is deeply refreshing and appreciated. You are the real deal and so darn smart! I couldn’t agree more.
Youre the best. While listening to you I open up my mind and I realize a lot of things.
Thank you for this. I needed this after heartbreaking break up.
Totally love Mel. Yes absolutely relatable!!!! "shoulder to shoulder with everybody"
WOW wow how I needed this. Mel what you said about 30 seconds in I lost it. I needed this so bad. I can’t thank you enough. Your amazing and so relatable. You saved me today.
Mel, you can always put things into perspective where I can understand and relate to. You’re an amazing being.
Amen 🙏🏿
I'm so thankful Mel Robbins is here in my lifetime.
I really am glad I found your channel. I definitely needed to hear this. Thank You.💕
💓 Thank you so much for the day for this message, I really needed to hear it. 😭
thank you for saying, " the person who is struggling is the one you are trying to reach" , thank you.
Perfect timing. Needed this today. 🙏🏼
I just love Mel, you’re so authentic!
Thank you, Mel, needed to hear this today!
Big fan! Mel is great! .. and the interviewer is great too and most importantly quite and allows the conversation to breath. Well done 👍🏼
I needed this Mel .
Thank you 🙏🏻
Forgiveness means giving up hope of a better past .
better past lost doesn't mean you won't have a better future, our present moment defines our future.
Lately, I am so devastated, I lost money for online scam and I couldn’t forgive myself for that. I have anxiety disorder which made my condition worse. I feel hopeless and keep thinking about my mistake. Even though people around me are being so supportive, I still can’t get over it.
I have same feelings as you, I also lost my savings by money scam. It's my mistake so now I have to accept it, hope you can overcome this regret soon ❤❤❤
I didn't lose money over a scam, but I needed family to bail me out of near eviction, and been yelled at for my decisions, making me feel like I don't deserve anything "extra" and not do things that I enjoy or cost money to do....that I need to constantly work to find better employment, and being terrified of my financial future.
Thank you for sharing, Mel. You are a wonderful person!
You're awesome Mel. I love you!
Thank you for your authenticity 🙏❤️🙏 I went through something yesterday at work that triggered me big time. After taking time to realize what I did & how I felt...I apologized to the person. Wake up call. Once again 🙏
Fantastic! Bravo self published audiobook, as Prince was saying making your own publishing owning your art
I'm glad you share your life with people it's helped me alot to realize how messed up my life was until I found you and started listening to your videos. High 5 Mel
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Great, wise and honest truthfull words. Thank you 🙏
Hii..me too I don't wanna change anything in the past..it taught me something every time...i m just thankful to God for everything,every breathe, every minute that he has given me...😌😌☺️
mannnn i really needed this right now. youre the best mel!
I lost the love of my life. It’s been 40 years. I have good moments, but I will always have a devastatingly huge void in my life. I was just so confused and not ready to have a family. I ran from it. I will always regret that. I never stopped loving him.
Me too-30 years ago … 🥺
This lady is awesome!!! I ❤ Mel
Thank you so much Terrie! I want to say this is one of if not the most helpful video I’ve listened to on CZcams this year. Thanks for your ability to convey my feelings in a way that sounds so normal when intrusive obsessive thoughts over your past mistakes feel abnormal. You don’t hear people discuss this casually. Appreciate your exercise!
Mel, you are wonderful! You have helped me countless times.❤
PTL Mel…thank you for sharing about self publishing; thank you so very much 💯🌹!
I love how honest Mel is!😁
She’s very brave.
Your AWESOME Mel Im with you 1000% I got your back I love you your an inspiration and a piviotal person in my life thank you for all you do for people
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Hi Mel. Thanks for the advice! 👍
Mel I wish I could press that thumbs up a bazillion times❤ Thank you BIG!!
I love Mel! Actually, love you both! Thank you for another great video!!!
I needed to hear this today
Thanks for sharing from UK
Hi Mel, can't thank you enough for this post. I am currently making stupid rash decisions that could impact my health. I'm usually drunk and careless when I behave this way. I'm aware that I need to stop drinking (although I only drink every other weekend). I constantly replay the negative behavior in my mind and feel shame and rregret. I recognise that I need to move forward but seem stuck in this negative cycle of behavior. .😧😩
Wow❤. Thank you Both! I needed this today
You are amazing.
And you’re definitely on my list😊😉
Well said Mel. I have regrets in my life too. We have so much in common. Love you. Hang in there your awesome.
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I did some terrible things when I was younger and on drugs. It is completely destroying me
For all it may help, I forgive you. Let’s hold out together ❤
Mel, you are my hero ❤️
I love you Mel you are my mentor 💓
the trigger story....i can relate to that too...Mel I agree, holding it in is what causes the anxiety
Was great to see you on the podcast!
i like her honesty
Thank you
This is perfect msge for me...i love to listen this godbless
You are amazing ❤️
Beautiful reminder 💚love from a new youtuber
Good show. I appreciate that you bleeped out the offensive language. It really shows respect for your listening audience. Thank you. If you hadn't done that, I would have moved on without watching. I refuse to lower my energy with bad language no matter how good the content. As a person full of regret over stupid mistakes that unintentionally hurt others, I found this show helpful.
I’m not sure that the advice really went with the video’s title, but it was still helpful in other issues I wasn’t expecting to be helped❤️
@Bad Witch Diaries Excuse me? That I misunderstood??? Wow, you are truly lacking terribly on your reading comprehension skills, aren’t you? Either that, or you must be hallucinating, I mean, otherwise, what part of me simply saying that the video helped me in a way I didn’t expect sounds like I misunderstood its contents? Then as if that’s not intrusive enough, you barf a whole sermon at me as if I’m asking for your opinion or advice? Why do you do that? Do you realize how void of sense that makes you look when you go around wanting to tell people that they didn’t get the message simply because they say the message helped them differently than what they expected? And just so you know, let me inform you, when you go around giving people unsolicited advice, like you just did, it only says three things about you: #1) you are so centered on what you want to say that you don’t have enough bandwidth to hear and process what others say, #2) you are failing so miserably at putting your own advice into practice that in order to not feel like a fraud, you make yourself feel better by giving to people that advice you can’t put into action yourself, and #3) you must be unconsciously aware that your advice, deep inside, is worthless, otherwise, if you truly considered your advice to be valuable, you wouldn’t be going around giving it away for free; there’s nothing more pathetic than cheap wisdom, especially when it’s so rid with projection…
I love this woman
This is relatable
Thank You ❤🙏
Quality info
I really enjoy what Mel shares. I have ordered some of her books; and was a bit disappointed that she has some that are only audiobooks. Can someone reach out to her and let her know that there are many individuals whom are tactile and they need the feel of a book in their hands and to turn the pages for learning and retention? Offering books on only one platform - either just in print or just in audio - can be a barrier to others.
1:42 thank you for this
I ran away from home at 16.lived on the streets for 2 years but I can’t stop feeling guilty for leaving my 5 siblings and my mom who was a very complicated woman.why can’t I let go of this awful guilt.I was the surrogate mother for most of my childhood.my father died when I was 8 years of ageand left us in a terrible state.my mother had a massive mental breakdown so I took over.but I had to leave to save my own sanity.my siblings are still angry with me and now when I visit I feel like an outsider.am I being weak because I can’t stop the anxiety and guilt I feel.
I am now 63 years of age and I can’t let go.
This is helpful but I cannot understand why i cannot let go.I also keep being angry at my beautiful partner who has done nothing but support me and has given me total love.
Interesting, this came on time
Thank you for your messages they are a wonderful reminder. Really needed to hear this right now. 💖💖💖
❤️ sending love
Mel, you’re my new muse.
Love from India 🇮🇳
I made a dark humor joke to one of my “friends” they than added me to several group chats instantly turning on me instead of correcting me for my wrong doings. When I realized what I did was wrong I blocked them and started to think. But shorty after they added me to a group chat on messenger. They than added a android user so it would be impossible for me to leave. They were more in the wrong than me I feel. I still get texts from unknown numbers every few months shaming me. It’s been 3 years. I changed and I don’t do that anymore.
Yeah, I would go back for sure.
i like you sista! I'm Italian but I take for myself the habit of saying "High five!" everytime I'm doing something absolutely normal but good. Thanks
She is on point…. Why so many of us follow her teachings is because She IS one of US out in this world…. Who created this teaching working her ass off!!!!
Beautifully written ❤
I agree maybe mistakes that don't have catastrophic impact on things/people but it's the really big mistakes that I don't feel this applies to.
Let go of past mistakes , I'm already set things I want to do and wat I want to help move me forward from all the past trashtakes
That's insane. I would 100% erase the trauma. I have CPTSD and it's destroyed my life. I tried to take my life once because of it. A serious suicide attempt. So the trauma can't be that bad, you're not asking the right people. CPTSD has a very high suicide rate. This is quite invalidating to me. Great video still.
@@magajiyahaya8928 thank you. Dr Wilson. Where is he based? Do you have a contact clinic link?
Many thanks. Just like to check out his credentials first. Thanks 👍
Vanessa, i have CPTSD too and I 100% would also take back all the pain, trauma and regret.
You’re not alone.
Also look twice at that Whatsapp link - I’d say it’s a scam.
Sending love xx
@@laurac1709 God love you. Thank you for your comment, I don't feel so alone. Bless you ❤ you're so right. I'm always awake, terrified...even though I know there's no immediate threat. Its exhausting, a living hell. It's a form of insanity but I'm a lucid intelligent woman. What a life eh? My heart is right with you RIGHT now, feel the energy. Love you my friend ❤ one day the pain will end when we meet Our Father...he's the only one who's never let me down. He's seen everything we've endured, I'm far from perfect, but I know I have a place in heaven. Meet you in the clouds my beautiful friend 🥰 ❤ we can have a cup of tea together up there 😘
I agree 100%
I have made a huge mistake that has had massive consequences on my physical health. I cancelled some treatment and now my condition has worsened. I had multiple reasons for doing it, and I was completely overwhelmed and stressed from being so caught up in them. I have rebooked the treatment but I can't stop bashing myself for cancelling the first time because I believe by delaying the treatment I've made my health worse. I don't know if I'll ever forgive myself :(
Very, very, few people are HONEST enough to really say what the real regrets are.
This made me cry because I used to believe it and it worked. If you just delude yourself that life will work out it’s easier to go day by day, but then when it doesn’t work out, over and over and over and you just feel awful all day every day the trick doesn’t work anymore. Anyone know what to do when you’re not stressing over the past or the future but life just stinks every day?
i was such a horrible liar. i still lie but im getting better. ive lied about horrible things. its not to hurt others, i just want to feel loved and spare others feelings. im trying to forgive myself. im only 15 so i have time to change, but doesnt excuse it. i am so sorry. im trying to be better