Is the Dating Market Actually Trash? : City Girls, Passport Bros & Modern Expectations
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- čas přidán 17. 06. 2023
- With the growing trend of men flying out to find their future wives, and the rising rates of discontent in the dating market, how does the ‘modern woman’ navigate what feels like a hopeless pursuit to find a life partner? And is the rise of the 'City Girl' philosophy helping or harming the sisters in the long run? The sisters weigh in today!
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another element: some people are hearing advice for sex workers by sex workers and taking it as advice for their 9 to 5-having lives and romantic relationships. With the utmost respect to sex workers (who deserve as much love and romance and respect as anyone else), it's a different situation and you can't fit the round peg in the square hole.
Same goes for using billionaire celebrities as role models for love. they don't compare to regular life.
Facts, especially for the younger naive sisters watch out
A lot of people I feel are so afraid of being hurt that the result is to try to be callous, when relationships of all kinds require vulnerability and trust.
they call us Modern Women but we are just trying to survive 🤣🤣 this economy is no joke. we need to provide for ourselves and our families
Its the way u treat men there on about
Y'all wanted it like this. Women weren't expected to work back in the day y'all protested and marched to be allowed to now your complaining? So you wanna be equal to a man but just not the hard parts right?
@@danielisaac7586Women have always worked, esp Black Women, because BM never made enough to support the family.
@@rejectionisprotection4448 yes, but her money was the family's money, too. She wasn't overly concerned about getting her hair and nails "did" and him buying her gifts on top of paying for everything else. Too many modern women see men as just living ATMs. They want the princess treatment, but they have no repect for the guys that give them that. they call them "simps". They tend to chase the "bad boys" because they are more fun and challenging. A lot of us guys are tired of that merry-go-round. We want things simpler. Looking for that old fashioned woman fits the bill for some of us, but also, in the world we live in today, some of us just want a real partner. Most of us kind of need 50/50 relationships, but when you say that, too many women look at you funny and call you broke and "dusty". Too many try to chase down the top 20% of men and only settle for average Joe after they see time running out or they've saddled themselves with other men's babies.
we are really trying to cosplay romance because we are afraid to love authentically. we’re afraid to live authentically and it’s affecting everything
"Cosplay romance" - SO TRUE!
I will never tire of just being grateful for this sisterhood. Truly blessed to be part of it❤
I love this conversation.
I'm South African and this is an issue we face as women who are looking for marriage, when men want the women to do it all . Raise kids, do all the house chores, do homeworks and take them to school , oow and they judge you when u want a nanny , and yes they also want you to work and provide half the bills .. it's just an unachievable standard . . And it's breaking so many homes.
renee's hair looks amazing!!!!!
The sisters are asking for hair deets Renee!😍
I consider myself to actually be a mix of modern and traditional values and I think most people are as well, but pick and choose depending on the situation. I actually think its hilarious that some are seeking more traditional women when they're ignorant of the culture and what it entails, but great conversation.
What's both laughable and frustrating is the contradiction citi girl behavior. They'll sit up and say men are trash, "the future is female", but then continue to sleep with and compromise themselves to men. Who's primarily raising the boys who eventually become men? Who determines who has sex and picks their romantic partners? Women. Women determine how we're treated and what standards are set. That's power. In my experience, many men's expectations of having sex anywhere from the 1st date to 1st month were set by the women they previously saw. Yes, a man is responsible for his actions, but if he can get what he wants out of you without putting in effort, then he will. Many ppl benefit from having easy access the benefits of a relationship w/o accepting the commitment that comes along w it. As much as we like to blame "the patriarchy" women have more power than we realize to influence/teach men when it comes from a feminine place. That doesn't mean we can't have lives, work, personalities outside of men. But we also need to have a sense of self outside the culture to determine who we truly are or what we want before throwing expectations (that aren't even ours) onto a dude.
I understand what you mean.
But I do not agree. Because my definition of sex is informed by the Bible. Which means that it is not about Power and withholding it or using it against each other. Toxic manhood does the same.
Sex -to me- is a form of binding and unify two people to be intimate on the highest level to become one. If you add powerplay into that it becomes perverted and does not bring what it is supposed to create beetween two people. Which is intimate LOVE.
To me that is not achieved through Power. Maybe I am not realistic. I dunno.
@@b.1211 I believe what you and I are saying are both true. The bible is also based in logic and God would like us to avoid the consequences of doing things out of order. God created sex to be a powerful act so it stands to reason that both men and women have power around it. And with power comes responsibility. Sex is a responsibility and was meant only to be shared with our spouse. In order to do that, we each have to filter thru ppl we encounter to one whose values line up w our own. While sex is important, it is more important that we show sexual discipline when needed to get to know the person. The reality is most men are following women's lead on that front. Men's desire for sex tends to be more intense. Biblically, men pursue and women are pursued, both have something the other wants, but that needs to be protected. A woman needs to protect her body until she's with a man who'll commit and she can trust to protect her.
@@b.1211 I agree with @jeneeskinner7481. Sex is definitely about power. In fact, until the New Testament, there was NO mention of love being a necessity in marriage. (The Apostle Paul established that in his letter to the Ephesians.) Sex was very much ownership, manipulation, and exchange which is the norm even today. After Christ, we see this idea of a one-woman man and a one-man woman being the standard and of loving and respecting your spouse as being requirements.
What a perspective about the dating pool.... I have struggled with dating because I find that I'm quite authentic but it can sometimes be misunderstood or come across as disingenuous.... Meanwhile I'm just here like no, I don't want to play games, what I'm saying is what I mean and this are my actual values not something I saw on social media😅. It is well Sha.....
Also congrats on your success, had no idea y'all wrote a book!
i thought this would be another normal men hating video like other channels but i was wrong...this are the conversations that adults should be having ...it echoes maturity and definately what the society needs
Honestly, Sisters another round of applause 👏🏾❤🇷🇼
A well needed episode, even when they called me out in the midst. Much needed and appreciated.
Is any of you Nigerian because I just keep hearing "Nigerian" 😃in many your conversations. Well-done with the podcast by the way. You are doing an amazing job.
Renée is half Nigerian 🇳🇬😂
Renee looks soo good with this hair 😍
I love how you look and tackle topics from all perspectives and are not biased.👌🥰
Love you too, btw. Super proud to see sistas shining and representing in this way ❤
Happy birthday our good sister. ❤I hope you have the BEST of 28🥳
This was a really good episode.
another episode full of wisdom! God bless you two and all sisters❤
Such a good one ❤
Another great episode! Love y'all content forever :) And I'm dying at the Prison Break reference 😂. I haven't seen the show since it aired, but I remembered that scene as you mentioned it. It was so funny lmaoo
Love to all my sisters!! Hope you all remain blessed in this season
More than 100 likes, we’d love that Part 2, Renee! 🌝🤭🤭
Omg. I loved the prison break reference. My fav show lol love you ladies!
19:35 - 22:00 Was a whole wikipedia article!!! 👏👏👏
the 'n' in nguvu is silent btw so it's said like "goo-voo" x
The ending 😂
i never knew about the Passport Bros, honestly, they must go to the villages and leave us alone ...lol .. Amazing Episode ladies as usual ❤❤❤
Hahaha "City Girls cry too" - totally agree
How the hell did i get recommended to this crap
Oh no bro the future eggless cat ladles trying to stop their demise 💀💀💀
Oh no sis the future incel homebody trying to stop his demise of dying alone😂
Did you not click on the video😂😂😂
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