Yes, there is gross stuff...the not so nice body stuff as explained by a funeral director.
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- čas přidán 18. 01. 2018
- Answering the question of what a body expels after death and what gross stuff there really is. Do they sigh and gurgle?
Funeral director and embalmer, Kari Northey, talks about the icky and gross stuff.
I cleaned my husband before hospice got there then changed him again before funeral director came . My husband only urinated right after death . I even turned his head to the side and with towels let he yellow stuff empty out . Again washed him . He died very peacefully in my arms . Had cancer but was not in pain , asked me to hold him . I knew he was dying and did as he wanted . My soulmate .
He sounds truly loved. 💘 may you find peace in this difficult time xx
My condolences.
Jeanne Connolly so very sorry for your huge loss. Praying you too, are at peace
So sorry for your loss. God bless you.
Jeanne Connolly 💔😢
husband died in my arms in hospital while 11 paramedics, drs and nurses were taking turns doing cpr. he had had a heart attack at home but no one knew it. walked to the ambulance himself joking and saying he didn't need an ambulance and died just inside hospital doors. after 20 mins of cpr they got him back. was on a ventilator and doing well while dr was on phone with helicopter when he took another huge heart attack and though they fought another 45 mins there was no saving him. he had needed a heart transplant but wasn't approved but had been approved the night before for an artificial heart. he had just turned 47 9 days earlier much too young to be gone. dr's said a 2nd heart attack would kill him and he was to die by age 35. well he lasted til 47 and it took 4 attacks to end his life. my beloved husband of nearly 26 yrs died in my arms the same as we began our life together at the alter. RIP Rodger 1964-2011 u are loved and missed still.
Shelley G I’m so sorry for your loss..
Shelley G aaawweee💔🙏🏼💕so very sorry for your horrible loss!!😔😔I can guarantee he is now your guardian angel😇😘..I just will never understand Why??God takes all of them sooo early..I can relate to your story cause I just lost😞💔a close friend in March,due to a massive heart attack...she was 51 yrs old n in the prime of her life!!!..🤔Just will never understand ☹️??Please stay strong n faithful,You will be in my loving💜💜thoughts☺️☺️and prayers 🛐✝️...May God Watch Over You💖✝️💖✝️💖✝️💖
@@michaelesillsbury3488 thank u so much. i truly believe god is watching over me and i have felt hubby's presense many times when things were hard so i know he is doing what he can from the other side. yes too many good ones lost way too young yet so many evil in jail live to ripe old ages. hard to understand i agree. thank u for your prayers and loving comments. they are much appreciated. sorry for the loss of your dear friend also. hugs.
I’m so sorry 😞 my mother JUST HAD a successful heart transplant in 2018 - she too had a very bad heart / dealt with CHF - the heart she received was very weak when first put in but she pushed through and spent a year in the hospital after an she is now running laps around us and her grandkids. im so sorry to hear about your husband - from the sound of it he was a fighter and was VERY STRONG. Bless you.
@Jb 318 he was always underweight until about a year after we got married when between my good cooking, having enough food and dr's putting him on medication for unknown conditions that he started gaining weight. he was diagnosed diabetic at 27 and we suspect he had heart problems since small boy which just went unnoticed. so yeah by 27 he was a bit overweight but not obese or anything. they found out during his quad bypass at 32 that his arteries in his heart remained size of newborn babies. never grew. he was insulin resistant and backwards to all things typical for a diabetic so specialists couldn't figure out how to treat him. we would have to feed him sugar to get his levels to go down and stay down. proper diet they went up to like 32 and stayed there. dieticians diet he would gain like 14 lbs in 2 wks. eating whatever he wanted he would lose weight. nothing made sense with him. insulin made him worse and pills only worked short term then he became immune. he was very overweight by time he died and was only 5 ft 6.5 in. tall. he was on 42 pills a day and 6 shots of insulin and 3 puffers and 100% blind from eye hemorrhages. had had 6 or 7 eye surgeries by that time as well trying to keep his vision. at one point he was on 32 needles a day of insulin. dr said it wasn't working just making him fat so took him off all but a few shots. new specialist but by the time we found her and she was good it was too late.
I've been an RN for 22 years but I've considered going back to become a mortician. At least they don't talk back (and if they do, then my services are not needed).
Greg Crabb I work in customer service and this is my exact response when I’m asked why I would ever want to become a mortician. The dead don’t cop an attitude! 😂
I wonder how many of us nurses have contemplated becoming morticians. My dad was one before I was born and left to become a CHP officer. There seems to be a lot in common among these vocations.
But you may have family members that are not to respectful Just Pray.
Hey Greg, you're gonna meet alot of rich,single women!! Go for it! Plus, dental gold is up to $19.00 an ounce!!
What a gift you are to families in their time of need.
Definitely
I love how kind and careful she is with her words. In a weird sort of way she is helping me cope with my mother's death and what happened to her body. I don't know why I have trouble letting go at the physical side but these videos have helped me a great deal
Thank you so much!!
Wow I feel the exact same way about my grandma‘s passing. I thought I was the only one and I too also thought it was weird. I’m glad I’m not alone.
Awww, I'm sorry for your loss. That's normal, how you feel. This is why we have funerals and memorials, they're for US, not the dead. WE need to be able to say goodbye and have that time to cope and grieve and process. Very normal, especially when it comes to a parent or child. Don't worry so much about why, just know that it's normal and it takes time, but it will get some easier in time. Losing my dad, my fiance and my daughter were the hardest things I've gone through in life and it was SO hard to let go of the physical and accept that I wouldn't be able to touch or feel or hear or smell them anymore, I felt like I was dying too. Idk how or exactly when that frantic feeling went away, but it eventually did... I still struggle 2yrs after losing my fiance, but it does keep getting a Lil easier. Same thing happened with my daughter 2010 and with my dad who passed in 2016. Some days are still HARD and always will be, I'm sure, but it dies become easier.
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@@MariaAbrams Aww sorry for your losses, my heart goes out to you. My God you are a strong woman. I agree with everything you said wholeheartedly. I do have lots of videos of my grandmother to reflect back to see and hear her voice, with doing so that sort of keeps me grounded. However there are days when I wake up in a good mood feeling great and BOOM it hits me like a ton of bricks, tears just start flowing out of nowhere. But the good out ways the bad and I’m pushing myself and staying motivated as I know my grandmother would want me to be. I and think of all the good times we shared. Thanks for sharing your story. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers.
I L💜VE how you explain these delicate issues. In a calm, soft way.
I am a loving💜💜 person as you are...You have a very gentle n soft demeanor about yourself that just shines!!!...Your Amazing 😇😉 n that’s why I follow😍😍 you n watch you constantly!!🙏🏼🙏🏼💖💖💖
Lol ok
Yes absolutely agree with you definitely one of the best
Might be a good idea to wear ppe just in case....
When i was a medic we kept wintergreen oil in the rig and hit our noses with it before going in
I lost my dad in 2013 to a heart attack and had to sign the removal of life support papers as my parents weren't married. He was only 49. I am so lucky as I found an absolutely lovely funeral home in Atlanta. I think it was family owned or something small, they only charged me the bare minimum for the cremation and the urn. I got a chapel for an hour at no cost, and as I was barely able to pay it off over months after she let me take my dad home. I will never forget that woman and what she did for me. She lost her father young so I believe she understood more than most folks did at the time. The doctors and nurses at the hospital didn't really explain things to me as to what would happen as I watched him die. So as he was turning pale and grey it freaked me out for a minute. My mother had to tell me. I think the freakiest thing afterwards was the fact that his mouth fell open, and stayed open. Oh man that was tough. I held his hand and spoke to him but watching my mom hold him in her arms and cry as he died was SO hard. Thank god there are some honest good folk like yourself out there Kari. Makes the grieving process a lot easier. New subscriber and wanted to share my story.
It was hard, I don't know how you guys do it. I've always been fascinated with death but more from the medical aspect of things. You do an excellent job of explanation without going sensationalism on us. I could deal with a lot of things honestly but the smell would get me. Just the smell.
My dad died in 2013 as well. He was 52 and a mortician!! He started at 16!! I’ve heard about the calls he went on with my uncle (who passed a month ago)when they were younger!! It takes special people to be in this industry and boy did he have it!! Watching videos for familiarity!! Keep up the great work!!!
You do such a good job of depicting both the difficulty and the special grace of being present when a loved one dies. Thank you for sharing your story!
Wow I couldn’t do that when my dad passed away in the hospital to see him that day in a coma so yellow on tubes cannot even respond to anyone was enough of a shock for me My mom and my older sister was there after they took the tubes out of him. Took like eight hours for him to finally pass away no fuckin way I could do that I totally give you a shit load of credit to stay with your dad after he died right there and when he was turning grey color skin wise
May his soul rest in peace
You are so caring and compassionate.
Yes she is
Kari, thank you. I lost my mom a month and a half ago and I was SO relieved to see the care, respect and dedication you give to decedants under your care. I know it's silly but I took care of mom for 5 years and in back of my mind I always hope she was treated with the same respect I would have given her and your video gave me great comfort. Thank you for being an exemplary mortician and showing how good, qualified professionals handle our loved ones. ❤
I'm starting school in a month to be a funeral director and mortician and am so excited to be in this field of work. I watch your videos all the time!
I worked for a good friend who owns a funeral home on and off for 20 years and I am still amazed at how much I learn from watching your videos. Thank you for your great work.
Lately I find myself watching these kind of videos & I stress myself out with the thought of losing someone close to me. I think to myself that I’m watching these videos to “prepare” myself for the worst, but in reality, I’m just getting more paranoid about it. I’m scared to lose anyone, the feeling is unbearable. I lost my grandfather last year & he is basically the reason why I’m so scared of death. I miss him so much. I wouldn’t want to lose someone else.
I honestly don't know how you do it. I know death happens to everyone, it is inevitable, i just wish there was an easier way to handle it. My respects to you. (I'm real happy you replied. I'm a new subscriber & your channel is helping me cope, & I learn something new with every video I watch. Thank you!)
I started watching these videos a few months back. I had no idea why something told me to click the videos because the kept popping up in recommends
A month ago my grandma was dying and passed a few days later. Nothing really prepares you because now I’m just still sort of lost and have so many questions.
Hi Kari, I am a RN and mother has always wanted me to be a mortician. I chosed nursing instead. You are so informative. Had you been around 25 years ago I would have taken this path for sure.💕
Thank you!
I have a friend who's worked in a funeral home for years and she said her 1st day was awful. She spent her breaks crying in the bathroom then went home and got raging drunk and never cried again she said. She somehow figured out how to get past that. She said she's come close a couple other times, once was after a school shooting (I can't imagine), but like she said, it's not her loss, she can't get that involved or she can't do her job. I'm so happy there are people like you guys who can do this, I couldn't. I cry too easily and I cry for everyone and the harder I try not to, the worse it gets lol. But I'm relieved to know there's some good people out there to take care of us when we pass. ♥
Oh no!
I think it’s sad to think they’d say not her loss..
My grandmother died early this year,in her apartment and well......I learned that the smell of a dead body is one of the worst smells there is.
Sorry for your loss. Remember her for the good memories.
I'm sorry for your loss.
Just absolutely horrid, right???!!! Ugh..vomit inducing. Um, lady, you can be gagging!!!
This is why daily contact with the elderly is a good idea.
I am sorry that your grandmother died, even alone. When a corpse smells terrible, that is a sign of decomposition. The corpse has remained in the place for some time. I pray that Great God will take care of you through this mean time.
Kari, your videos are done professionally yet so compassionately. I discovered you toward the end of my husband’s life. Many nights when I couldn’t sleep I would watch them to start preparing myself for the inevitable. Thankfully he died peacefully at home, blew me a kiss and was gone. Nothing happened after. That was a blessing as funeral home didn’t get to leave with him for six hours. Immediate cremation. Easy as could be under the circumstances. I felt your videos helped me feel good about our/my decisions.
If you ever get tired of doing your work, you would make a great teacher. You explain everything in detail. God bless you
Wow, thank you
I have worked my entire life as a CNA and such things have happened to me. I have even had a body sit straight up during the bathing process. A reaction to a nerve that haven’t died yet. Scared the bejueezus out of me!!!!
Oh my God I dont think I'd survive myself if that happened while I was bathing somebody 😱😱😭
I'm a CNA as well and have watched a lot of people actively die. I've done post mortem care on countless of people. I actually get an adrenaline rush having to clean up dead ppl.(kinda weird I know) but it excites me for some reason
abbylane62 Same here; I was an RN for thirty years, “retired “ from that, became a CNA. Ohhhh, the stories I/we could tell! It’s how we’ve made our living!
Tammie Williams You’re performing a great corporal work of mercy; I get the same buzz as well...it’s why we do what we do!
Subwaygirl NYC yes some of the stories I have would really freek most people out. Bet you have some good one too!
Thank you for your service. I have worked as a commercial/hazmat scene cleaner and I have responded to numerous suicide, crime, and unattended death scenes. People ask me why I smoke filter cigarillos and never inhale the smoke. It is a habit developed from using tobacco to relieve some of the odors of some scenes.
Interesting thank you!
Great video explaining what happens to the deceased body. No one really tells you these things and when your bereaved not knowing these things can be especially upsetting when you lose a loved one.
Mother died with dignity at home, in her sleep at 95, here in NYC. One police officer stayed and had coffee with us. He was part of the precinct group dispatched to come to the house after our 911 call. This officer shared a few stories with me, after the funeral directors had removed mom's body. Our mother was fortunate and.... 'died neat'. Throughout her home care by my sis and I (3 yrs or so) she was often bathed, dressed daily in clean clothing, manicured and had her hair done. She was also diapered, due to longtime incontinence, and by the time she passed, had not eaten for several days. We were also lucky that we had 'the conversation' most families dread. And we knew what to do, were able to carry out mother's wishes with no guilt or hesitation, since she had articulated them, early on. Still there is no avoiding the distasteful things that must be dealt with - when a dead human body begins to decay, especially if no one discovers remains of the person who has died, or some trauma happens. Experience helps, and the thought kept clearly in mind: this "smelly thing".. WAS actually once, not long ago - a beloved. Somebody's dad, someone's grandma, child, spouse...and they did not always look that way.
Cynthia Hawkins my son is NYPD AND has gone on those calls. What precinct did your mom live in. He works in Queens
Cynthia Hawkins huu
Cynthia Hawkin
Why did you call 911? Instead of a funeral home?
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That may be procedure. A doctor must certify that a person has died and I believe there are also police papers depending on your jurisdiction. If you feel stressed out dial 9!1 (9-9-9 in the UK). Tell them you believe someone has died in your home.
I literally think I would die if I heard a corpse gurgle, sigh or see them suddenly jerk if I were alone in a room working on the deceased. I would be that person gagging and vomiting! I tip my hat to you and all who work in the mortuary field. You are special and amazing people!
God bless you. Definitely your loving calling
Funeral directors are my kind of people.
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Your going to die so get used to the
thanks for sharing, seriuosly. I was a paramedic 23 yrs of my life so I can relate. thanks for being there.
Afterthought: Being a funeral director requires enormous sensitivity and understanding. Putting yourself in the family's place, addressing their concerns. Which, for all the facts and support you receive, can still provoke anxiety..For example, when the police signed off and released mother's body to be taken for cremation, I warmly remember the two men who arrived. They brought the van, parked it outside. They wheeled in a conveyance (the gurney). They were dressed in 'civvies', not medical white suits. And, instead of a 'body bag' they had what looked like a large, fuzzy, green soft blanket. They carefully wrapped mother in it, and the impression I was left with? Just like she was going away for a sleepover. Well, I suppose she WAS..an Eternal one!! :-)) Body bags are enough to terrify anyone - and I realize there are cases of course when they MUST be used. But I remember thinking how kind, and what a gentle gesture that simple thing was. Since mother had died only hours before, and was still diapered her corpse would not 'spill'. All the same, I thanked them later for their amazing degree of caring.
Ive also had first hand experience with rude, greedy, insensitive ones too
The body bag for my husband one year ago disturbed me very much. You’re lucky to have a good experience.
Gypsy Treasures u
Why would you want to burn up twice? Lol
@@gypsytreasures3856 me too. Completely ignored me as if I WAS DECEASED didn't acknowledge me. No eye contact. No verbal response. Blatantly LIED to my face. This was whoever the BUM was that was sent to pick up my DAUGHTER last year. Bad enough I was dealing with the skock and heartbreak of losing a child by myself,I was treated like total trash by the "pick up guy". I have nightmares of how I was treated!!!
I never knew you made a video about this! ❤️ thank you for answering my questions.
I appreciate your expression of caring. I think that's probably the most value a funeral director gives to the community. Thanks for making this video!
How on earth can anyone do this job? it's beyond belief that someone can actually have the stomach for it
It's a good job we have people that do !!!
Some of us do, and it’s our calling. Wouldn’t you want someone to take care of your family to be able to handle it? To treat your family member with respect and love?
She is SPOT ON in her description of what it is like.
It’s a person. And we love them.
Wouldn't be able to do it. I'm just very thankful that some people have the stomach for it.
I'd it that much different fro m being a medical doctor who learned human anatomy by working with cadavers and doing autopsies .
I thought delivering babies involved dealing with gross things
I have to agree with you. I will never understand. You are all pretty amazing. I often wonder about Medical Examiners to. Now that has to be a very just unbelievably gross, sickening job. Can’t believe there are people that do that.
Stumbled on to your channel. Your incredible to be able to just handle the grossest things ever imagined. You do a great job just explaining the basic and natural way that it all happens. Unlocking the mystery of death.
Just cremate me with out embalming and put my ashes in a tin coffee can. Let’s Wrap it up. Call it a day.😂
You desire to have your ashes placed into a tin coffee can? What is your last name, Maxwell House?
You desire to have your ashes placed into a tin coffee can? What is your last name, Maxwell House?
@@dewittbrewer5306 Folgers
That’s the way to go! My will states to bury my ashes beneath my lemon tree. My life will in turn give life.
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Thank you for being so careing to families ❤💙💜💛
That means so much
Love how you keep it real!!! As usual, I learn so much from you!!! You're amazing!!!
As usual, you handle this difficult subject with openness and sensitivity, reminding us of the humanity of the person who has died and that they have history we will never completely know. You have a true gift for your vocation, and are, in your less obvious way, a healer.
Thank you so much for explaining the... less fun parts of this process in such a respectful manner while still going into detail! Tonight is my first night on call at the local funeral home, and I definitely feel a little more prepared!
Your phrasing is always so thoughtful. It’s very professional and caring!
When my father passed, I found him 15 hours after. Rigor had set in & he had expelled bodily fluids. He was a large man, & had diabetes . he had gone hypo & not reached his insulin fast enough, hence falling into a coma and passing from ketoacidosis. I wanted to look after him myself because I knew that would be the last time I would be with him. He was not a pretty sight after the autopsy, let alone when I found him. But I stayed with him & took care of his body. More families should know they are able to care for their loved ones themselves. It really helped my grieving.
Autopsy?
What is hypo? Is there more to that word?. I was wondering if it matches a word my doctor used and I cant remember the rest of the word and I forgot to ask him what the word meant?
Lisa Lane hypoglycemic possibly!
LOL 😂 baby goo!
But seriously thank you for addressing in such detail this difficult yet pertinent question!
Just one point of view:
If you think working with a dead body is really gross, you might want to choose another profession. As an RN I have had to care for many dying and dead people. If you’re considering a job in the healthcare or death care industry, it pretty much goes with the job that shit will fly, literally. I hope it would help you to know, I’m in a professional state of mind (this is actively acquired over time with experience), and, when faced with specific real-life situations where some body fluid or gas leaks, I don’t actually get too grossed-out, I just deal with it (and react later, in private, if I have to). Honestly, it just isn’t a big deal.
I have watched several of your videos. I am quite appreciative of the highly descriptive nature with which you have answered questions. Moreover, the extreme sensitivity with which all questions are handled highlights your professionalism and passion for the industry.
Just found u.... Ur a doll I love how u explain an get across the truth of the job of death. Thank You for what u do. It's an honorable profession. Thank you
You have the best attitude, so down to earth and caring. I love the no nonsense way you present information, straightforward and honest. Keep up the great work.
Thank you!!
I really enjoy your videos. Thanks so much for making them. 😀
You seem so very nice and I find your videos very interesting and the way you present them is really good! Even better that you take the time and answer peoples comments. Love from sweden. :)
I thought everybody knew this . Maybe my being a nurse is why I know. Death is messy . I think it's the most undignified thing we do in our lives.
As nurses we might overlook that most people don’t know these things. Death can be messy but it doesn’t have to be undignified.
I’m a nurse also. I think the thing that’s most difficult for me is suctioning, and it’s the sound more than anything. I just try to quietly and calmly talk to my pt while I do it so I’m focusing on that and the task rather than the noise sticking out. But yes, death is messy. It absolutely must be kept as dignified as possible for the pt. I treat them as I would want my loved one treated.
Not everybody is taught about that fact of life which is what happens after a person dies. Death leaves a stench of a mess in homicide cases and decomposing in a single place.
@@courtney6126 May Gracious Great God bless you and your endeavors, for He knows that your mission would be at times difficult to manage, even by yourself.
@@captainkeyboard1007 as you hide behind your “keyboard” and profile w no actual photo or name, I’m well aware of both aspects and have seen both. Please don’t comment on something you have no experience coming from. Thanks and have a great day.
Your videos are by far the most informative of anyone on CZcams. 👍
I’m a care assistant & seen many elderly people pass away over the 20 years of doing care work & yep I’ve seen all bodily fluids coming out of them, it’s gross at first but you get used to it
You are Wonderful about what you do. We Thank you!!!
You Are Awesome! And you are a very wise woman. Your voice is so soothing ! Thank you for sharing your wisdom and stories with us !!!
Thank you so much 🤗
I'VE HEARD ALOT ABT THIS BEFORE ESPECIALLY IF A PERSON WAS ON LIFE SUPPORT THEN ONCE EVERYTHING IS REMOVED IT PUTS YOU IN MIND OF HEARD DRAIN PIPES THING SETTLING. I MOST DEFINITELY COULDN'T HAVE A JOB LIKE THIS BUT BLESS YOUR HEART
I find it amazing, if not disgusting, when somebody says they don't mind the gurgling, snot flow, release of fecal and urine matter, mucus, or ANY other unpleasantry a baby can and DOES supply, BUT they can't tolerate or stomach when a deceased body does the same things when or after it passes away. When are people going to come to grips with the fact that life goes full circle in one's lifetime. You are a baby in the beginning, and you are in a big kind of way a baby when you die. The only difference in the two are that one represents the beginning, and the other represents the end.
Thank you
I'm so thankful for people like you that can deal with all the gross things. Not everyone can do that so thank you for what you do.😊
:) thanks
I recently found your channel and really enjoy it alot more so than a few well known channel's on here...
Hi Kari - you are an awesome person for sure! It is so important what you do. Thank you.
Thank you so much!
Thank you for being such a sensitive person for us.
You are so welcome
Thanks for answering the questions
Glad someone told the truth about things we don’t understand.
Always truthful!
I was a CNA and in my first year of nursing school when I helped hospice staff get a decedent ready for family viewing at the center. I had seen death before, but this body moaned and spewed out bile when we turned him. I nearly dropped from fright. The nurse I was helping talked me thru it- reminding me of his disease process and how the lungs still contain air at death. Now I'm the one calming families and CNAs.
Very nice!
Thanks! It is natural and it going to happen to all of us as death is a part of life. It's nature.
After my aunt passed last spring the funeral home was wonderful they let us know that if we wished we could be as much a part of preparring her for her viewing as we wished, I was only able to go help dress her bc I couldn't handle seeing her before her embalming process just bc I didn't want to remember her that way. It does help the family so much when a funeral home is wonderful.
For as long as I can remember, my biggest fear is dying. I only think about it at night time but I can literally cry if I let myself think about it. I feel like I was born just to fear my death sometimes. Yeah it’s a serious issue for me. I am so jealous of those that are welcoming of death. Just being honest.
Sarah Maitland I fear it also. I know that I will be with Jesus when I leave this life. But I am terrified of how and when I will die. Sometimes it keeps me awake at night.
I feel the same way the thought of never seeing anything again final extinction really scares me
I wanted to be a mortician. For some reason, I wanted to change the industry to make all funeral directors be exactly as you are: compassionate, understanding, kind and sensitive to the family. I apprenticed with a wonderful man who I grew up admiring. Doing all the dirty work was not a problem for me, it was when a baby came in. I just couldn’t handle it. Thank you for being the way you are.
You are welcome!
You are so respectful, and show that death and what a body can go through is normal --- what kind of protective measures do you take so fluids do not come in contact with your skin ? Can you add protection--besides gloves--in front of family...? And what do you do for the smell ? thanks ahead of time !
New to your page but want to tell you I think you're a sweetheart of a person.
She is my go-to person for anything I want to know. Her calming spirit is amazing. I just love her. 🤗🤗
Aww thank yoU!!
I like your style. When it comes to death I'm not sqeamish but if someone , alive, pukes near me, I'm outta there! Subbed!
Takes a special person to do this job and I certainly never could. Thankful for those who care and can!
Thank you!
if a corpse ever made a noise i'd never be the same again
Brian notafan same here
I hate to be "the one" who thought to ask this next type of question, I figured while you just came out with this video answering some of these type of questions it would best best to ask now 😏... If you feel comfortable and it's not too graphic/respectful then I apologize in advance, I just know others are always wondering. What have been some of the "worse, tradgic,gruesome, sad,and or horrible" (all above however one would prevue it) things that you have seen/encountered/dealt with a deceased body etc.? I hope I asked this in the utmost respectful way esp. Towards someone's loved one. Thank you for everything you do. I truly mean that, I sure wish I was close to your area because I would make the arrangements in advance to be sure that you handled not only myself but my own loved ones when that time comes. Such a compassionate caring and professional loving person you are! 🤗
God bless you!
You're amazing!👏👏👏👍
Ernest Hemingway wrote about the Spanish Flu of 1918 and I vividly recall his comment that he made in his famous bullfighting book “Death in the Afternoon”
“You know how a you know a person with the flu has died? He sh*ts the bed full.”
That struck me so hard as a 9 year old, when I read Hemingway, that it tormented me for ever....
Everything you say is so profound. I recently read the Tibetan book of the dead and hearing you speak is reminiscent of a more modern version of this practice
Hi Kari ☺ Since I was a small child I've always had a fear of dead people, funeral homes, and cemeteries. I've never had a bad experience with any.
I'm not sure if the fear comes from being a big fan of horror movies. The Night of the Living Dead being one of my favorites. Lol. These types of movies don't scare me. I just love the adrenaline rush. I love roller coasters also.
The fear of cemeteries has really lessened as an adult. But funeral homes and dead people still terrify me. Ugh! My grandmother used to tell me, "the dead people you don't need to worry about, it's the live ones that will hurt you."
So, I just wanted to tell you that all of your videos about the funeral home procedures from beginning to end as well as cremation are educating me. And I'm praying they will lessen my fears. 🤔
Also, I don't have a fear of dying. As a Christian I know I don't need to fear this.
So, thank you Kari for your time, patience, and education. I truly appreciate what you do. You have been a blessing to me.👌🏻😊
Vickie Byrd right there with ya. Keep getting educated, eventually the fear will subside.
You are a saint. I could never deal with that. My wife is a nurse and she can't deal with flem at home.
Paul, I'm a nurse too and I think it may have something to do with dealing with gross stuff the whole work shift while having to suppress your natural response (so as not to hurt your patients' and their families' feelings). So then when you finally get home, the last thing you want to deal with is hearing a gross sound or seeing something gross.
Happy my job is programming computers. Although, I appreciate the fact that I will require the services of a professional like you someday.
I know this is unrelated but i sure think kari is a very pretty woman..and very kind ..what a great catch for someone ..i really like her
Kari Northey ...yes he better..enjoy your channel😌
You truly seem so sweet and just down to earth real! I really like your channel and I’m glad I fell into it somehow! These are good things to know and the best thing about it is your channel is not frightening or scary in anyway!!! Death is not scary to me, but sometimes can be presented that way with the ghoulish things! And, I just don’t care for that!
Which is what draws me to always watch your videos. They are high class and in such good taste! You are really appreciated! And, yes!!! Let the hubbs know!! We all tend to take spouses for granted every now and then, but it’s good to get that reminder, not to!!❤️😘
Kari is awesome. I'm a new subscriber but have been watching her for a while now. She definitely has the ideal nature and personality to do what she does. She's great and yes very beautiful. I love her hair hehe 😊
Swing and a miss.. lmao!
U r a jerk. She's married and has a real man I'm sure.
You did a terrific job of explaining everything possibly repulsive in a way that helped me out mentally. I would like to start school next yr. I do have a thing w mucus but I can grit my teeth and bear it but your talk really helps any mind frame and deal a lot better.
Thank you!
@@KaritheMortician welcome 😊
You are a strong lady. Alot of men couldn't handle that stuff. I admire your strong constitution Kari. What a special lady you are.
I love these type of videos where I really learn something 🙌🏻
I'm so glad!
This career sounds interesting and rewarding, but I opted out of this path because I just don’t have the stomach for this kind of stuff. I know that it’s normal, but sights and smells would get to me right away. God bless the people who can do this and do it well.
Thank you. Part of my job in the ED was to see all deceased when brought in DOA or was an ED Death and to gather information for the Medical Examiner. Interesting seeing all different causes of death and giving as much support to loved ones.
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Love your attitude. I would get so tired of getting this question! "What's the grossest thing you've seen?"
I think that would scare me lol. I had heard that sometimes a body can sit up whilst humming gently. Oh my days, I’ve said to you before, you are amazing to be doing this job.
Thanks for doing these videos...so educational! Do people who die of certain diseases smell differently? I had a close friend die of liver cancer and had a decaying smell a few days before death. The smell was on my clothes for a long time. Thanks!
Thank you for this helpful video Kari......................................................
It is so nice that you directly answered these questions that I'm sure many of us have who are not yet in the business. The advice to control reactions is so important. I've worked around large, dangerous animals and completely controlling reaction is definitely a learned skill for most.
When my dad died his mouth was open also like he was gasping for air and it bothered me for a long time and no one told me why. I feel better after listening to you explain all this stuff. Death isnt easy thats why family should stick together. Even if it is the last people you see handle your loved one it matters because we remember it for a the rest of our life or a for some time. Thanks for telling this well. Blessings All.
When a person dies everything relaxes. The mouth and jaw is open because it takes muscles to close it. So it was normal for your Dad’s mouth to be open.
You talk about all the stuff that most people are not comfortable with or just wouldn’t think of. That’s very cool and you carry yourself very well 👍
Thanks so much!!
When my husband was in the dying process he had white foam coming out of his nostril profusely..I had called hospice as I was awaken by the death rattle early that morning. The nurse told me to just keep wiping the foam away..which of course I did...I wanted to keep my husband at home...he died of pancreatic cancer that morning. But I was never told what was the cause of all of that white foam...I almost used a whole box of tissue.
I am so sorry for those memories for you
Wow! So It Is True! Thank You! Always Be Blessed! ❤ Kirkwood, Missouri STL
thank you
Beautiful woman with beautiful heart ❤. God bless you and your work
Very informative and Interesting Videos.
Hi Kari,
If decomposition has occurred to a degree, is embalming still done? I mean, can embalming fix this?
thank you for your service
Our pleasure!
Kari y are a wonderful person thank you for your work
You are so welcome
I’m watching this as I prepare Wagyu steaks & drinking margaritas. Lol. Loving every minute of it!!
I REALLY want to work on a decomp case!
Sounds delicious!
I love you and your videos so much. Wish I could talk to you because I would love to get into this career in a few years when my kids to to college. I'm a hair stylist now but this is my dream. Or so I think. I'm not sure how i will handle it in person but I am willing to try. I just appreciate all you do and your videos so much . 💗💗
Thank you :)
I'd love to be a mortician or embalmer, I have worked as a first call removal service and for the Coroner office for removal of many types of deaths from natural to car accidents and homicides and suicides, not pretty at times, you are right decomposing are the worst especially when I worked in the DESERT alot...a week in 100 plus degrees before found...
I don't need to tell you,
Kari friend used to and may still remove deceased and theyre not always recently deceased but can be weeks or months old.
I asked him about it and he's replied "as soon as you get home strip and wash it, and you won't get the smell out if your clothes"
Hot weather doesn't help things either as 1 might imagine.
Called out to a job 1 afternoon .
(Car accident) was someone her knew so they sent someone else.
Good answers on a sticky situation
In the movie Backdraft in the morgue scene of an investigation of a death by fire when the deceased is rolled back into a flat position there is a gurgling sound made. NOTE for those who are squeamish the body shown is badly burned. When I first had seen the movie I thought it was someone off camera goofing around I had no idea that sound(s) actually can happen
I was told once that they plugged openings where fluid could leak out( ?).