EP 085 - Why Are Muslim Women Delaying Marriage? - Farhat Amin
Vložit
- čas přidán 10. 07. 2021
- In this episode, Ustadha Fatima is joined by sister Farhat Amin where they discuss topics such as feminism, capitalism and how Muslims are being influenced by such concepts.
Visit Farhat's website: smartmuslima.com
Subscribe for more videos like this ➡️ / ilmfeed
Support IlmFeed: / ilmfeed
Like: / ilmfeed
Follow: / ilmfeed
Follow: / ilmfeed
#IlmFeedPodcast
Alhamdulilah it was such an honour speaking to Fatimah about the challenges that Muslim women are facing regarding finding a God-conscious Muslim spouse. Inshallah the solutions are there in our sacred texts and prophet traditions, inshallah as an ummah, men and women we need to return to Allah's guidance.
This is really nice explained video and the Muslim girls that don’t want to marry or delay it is one of the reason is when a girl see their parents how dad treats their mum bad then the girls do get scared that is one of the reason as well
Jazakallah khair. One of the areas this doesn't address is that there are many practicing Muslim men who are not willing to financially support their wives, due to western influence, which is putting huge pressure on women to do multiple roles!
Jazakillahu khairan! The topic you mention was a topic discussed with Sheikh Haitham in my Ummah Talk podcast…I think you’ll find it interesting:
czcams.com/video/jAivAniZKyA/video.html
Exactly. When the men come to see the women now they ask " what qualifications have you got?" and " can you drive?" and " I'm going to get a mortgage to buy a house, will you pay towards it?" (These are the 'religious' men, even though they know mortgage is haram). People make it sound like it's the women who have changed and are picky. It's both. Women have had to adjust to the demands of men, they have to now have a career, take care of house work and kids and the husband on top of that. Whilst the men would just have to work.
Oh yes, very true. Women must be given a role to choose at different stages in life. No matter what, a man cant be pregnant and go through everything that comes with it during and after, then I don’t understand why they would want women to do everything all the time- her money or career is her choice but since a man never really goes through physical stuff and emotional role changes, he should be okay with being the provider.
Salams Zaynab, you're right that problem does exist, and should be highlighted because in an Islamic marriage it's not the role of the wife to financially support the family etc. This is one reason I'm such a strong advocate for pre-marriage advice. There is so much Muslims need to learn about before they get married.
feels like everybody is delaying marriage. may Allah protect us ameen.
Apologies for the poor video quality :(
i thought it was intentionally blurred for identity purposes 🙂
No money no marriage.....society
Love these podcasts and topic is quiet interesting. Can you please do a topic on what the marriage is like after the wedding. I feel like we are all encouraged to seek pre-marriage knowledge. However it’s hard to practice the sunnah of being good wife / husband and we actually need to constantly refresh our knowledge and read books to be reminded of our duties.
Excellent idea, we all need reminders to help us stay on track
JazakumAllahukhairan, that was such a lovely chat! I have read sister Farhat's book and I absolutely loved it!
The reason young women don't get married is because the men are childish & irresponsible and not men. (I live in the west and it's even worse here). Men here drink, go clubbing, have gfs, do everything thats haram, dont pray, dont give zakat, dont go to the mosque on friday, don't have a job, are unfaithful and then in the end of the day when it's time to marry expect the girl to be a DEVOUT MUSLIM AND VIRGIN. It's soooo hypocrite that I rather stay alone than with a loser and instead invest all my free time in improving myself. I'ts not that I dont want to marry it's that I value myself and allah so much that I don't want to settle for anything less. At this point I feel like only Allah can help me with finding a pious spouse...
Alhamdulilah, there are plenty of pious Muslim men and women in the ummah, inshallah you will find a God-conscious compatible husband. I don't think over generalising or stereotyping Muslims (men or women) helps anyone get married. Inshallah, the main thing is to follow Allah's guidance and if others choose not to then advise them.
I'm not getting married bcz of huge dowry which my parents can't give..
Astagfirullah.I pray you get a pious spouse. Dowry thing has to be abolished
There is no Dowry in Islam.
Indian ?
The minimum dowry is so low. Islam does not burden anybody.
Why you as a women would be worried about that, isn’t a man that should pay mehr???
Salams from Sweden, love your podcast ❣️
Can we have time stamps for such a long video
Our parents are not aware about our wrong path.At this age most of us are allready eligible for marriage but our parents and modern society says that do something worthy and wealthy or be a professor or doctor or entrepreneur etc, then go for marriage! I hate this mordern mindset ! Young generation are going towards haram and our parents are thinking about the wealthy future not about the "kabar"!
Jazakallah khair
Wa alaykum assalam wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu!
ممكن وضع ترجمة عربية للفيديو بارك الله فيك
Jzk sister Farhat, will be buying your book
About the racism and colorism being a result of colonial influence is simply not true.
Where I come from, it is the Arabs and Desis that discriminate against us, not the white. The former, as a result of slavery which they used to practise. And not to forget, even way before colonialism, the Prophet SAW had given warnings against racism and all and not to mention some of the previous scholars who gave fatwas that black women can choose not to wear the hijab because they aren't beautiful. Simply because we have Islam doesn't mean all our mistakes are as a result of outside influence. If that 2as the case, then the Muslim world wouldn't have fell, which came directly from their leaving the religion of Allah, and as a matter of fact, even the whites themselves wouldn't have been racist because Allah sent his message to every nation, and the message was one, Islam, though the fiqhi rules differed, there are things like tawheed and morals which stayed the same. The presence of Islam doesn't make us mas'uumeen. Muslims have problems which cannot be attributed just to colonialism.
Choices.
ممكن وضع ترجمة عربية للفيديو بارك الله فيك