Boys have eating disorders too | life with anorexia as a teen boy | My Story!

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  • ,, 🍓 i finally plucked up enough courage to talk about my illness, to show representation for any boys out there who are suffering with me. i hope this gives you an insight on my story, we are in this together :) 🥐 ,,
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Komentáře • 71

  • @ShawneeSelekman
    @ShawneeSelekman Před 4 měsíci +25

    Hello I am a teenage boy who has anorexia. I am now on my way to recovery which has been hard. I just really wanted to control my life and the only option that I could think of was losing weight. Now I make sure to eat breakfast everyday and honor my cravings. Thank you for talking about male anorexia. I think it is not really noticed in society as much as it should be.

    • @selma7452
      @selma7452 Před 3 měsíci +1

      Heyyy, I'm really happy you’re doing better but please don’t type out your weight since it can be triggering to other people.

    • @ShawneeSelekman
      @ShawneeSelekman Před 3 měsíci

      @@selma7452 Sorry about typing my weight. I know how triggering it can be to people. I just wanted people to know how serious anorexia can be and how I would have died if I wasn't closely monitored because I was at such a low weight. (I took the numbers of the weight off the comment). Just remember you have no reason to fear this disease. It latches on to you and controls you like a puppet. It sounds crazy! But it actually does! Now I am no longer afraid of my eating disorder. I hope everyone with anorexia can eventually overcome their anorexia and accept and love themselves.

    • @jonahhab
      @jonahhab  Před 3 měsíci +2

      recovery is soooo hard and it's a long process, just keep fighting and you will come out on top! :D

  • @wannabecryptid2122
    @wannabecryptid2122 Před rokem +35

    I am a teen boy who also has anorexia. I always feel so isolated online and in person when i mention my eating disorder as a man. You really helped me with this video, and made me feel way more understood and seen :)

  • @MY-cv4mv
    @MY-cv4mv Před rokem +37

    I find it amazing that even though you are going through this struggle, you are so conscientious of the people who will view this and their feelings. This is beautifully created and honest...like you.

  • @Jeongyeongiloveyou
    @Jeongyeongiloveyou Před rokem +22

    How are you not noticed?????? I thank you SO SO MUCH for making this. Honestly you deserve more than this.

  • @misticmagical3997
    @misticmagical3997 Před 4 měsíci +8

    Watching this made me feel so much more valid, my ed also hadn’t been about my weight but more just avoiding food and then developed into fear of weight gain

    • @jonahhab
      @jonahhab  Před 3 měsíci +1

      i'm glad you feel more valid after this video, that was my goal :)

  • @keshanee
    @keshanee Před rokem +17

    Im a girl in Anorexia recovery and it was gr8 hearing ur story as a boy.
    I can relate to this a lot. Congratulations on starting recovery. Recover is possible and VERY worth it!!!🥰❤

  • @raymondmurdock8603
    @raymondmurdock8603 Před rokem +9

    i relate to what you said about not wanting to get better about how the illness controls you cuz i'm in this weird position where i'm self aware i know this isn't right it isn't normal or OK something's wrong and i'm not in control anymore not that i ever was but at the same time i'm still overweight so it's easy to ignore it the desire to just wait until i'm skinny to recover but i know i'll never be skinny enough but that stubborn part of me is like "recover from what you're not sick you're still fat" even though i know it's a mental illness and it's more about the thoughts then your physical body and you don't have to be crazy skinny to deserve help but knowing that and feeling it are completely different things and i just can't make myself feel worthy but then also like it's the fear of letting it go and giving it up because if i'm not obsessed with this then what am whether it was binging or starving some sort of ED has been a part of me most of my life and i don't know what i would be without it that's the worst part it's like an addiction you crave it and have to want to get better choose to give it up and i don't think that's something i can do especially when i have a history of BED so i'm even more afraid of food because i know how easily i could lose control and gained massive amounts of weight but like i'm spiraling even if i did go from 420 pounds to 220 pounds in less than a year which legitimately improved my quality of life i sacrificed my sanity in the process i'm at my lowest in a really deep dark place feeling fatter than i did before losing half my body weight but because i'm an adult fat man instead of a skinny teenage girl no one suspects a thing everyone congratulates me for being an inspiration and asks me for weight loss tips and like it's so validating and motivating to get worse while also being infuriating and making me wanna scream at them that might only weight loss secret is to lose your fucking mind and spiral into a miserable hell of self hate and deprivation i get so angry that they can just eat without the anxiety and guilt and it's like they're taking it for granted by covering my misery but it's not their fault they don't know any better because i keep up the act dates all positive and happy and i'm doing great but the thing is again like you said you have to want to get better and even though it's absolute hell and despite all of the miserable things i've listed I honestly don't want to change i don't wanna stop what i'm doing i'm too afraid of gaining the weight back but also i just can't give it up and i'll add a trigger warning for this next part because just like an addiction to drugs it's not always miserable even as it destroys there's also high to to never be able to have that empty light giddiness again tell myself i could never have that feeling of fasting for days and exercising until i just feel weak and dizzy and euphoric and my emotions are numbed and i feel like nothing can hurt me and the fact that i would have to never feel that again it's the only time i've ever felt right or OK ever in my entire life and i just couldn't let it go i'm struggling with so many other issues way to depressed exhausted to find the motivation to change anything i'm in too deep to enjoy as much as i used to but i haven't hit rock bottom enough to recover yet just in this weird limbo where get drunk and i stay up all night binge watching these videos instead of doing anything to try and improve my situation because i'm a pathetic coward!

  • @riley9552
    @riley9552 Před 2 dny

    I'm a teen boy who's struggled with eating for a while now and you're story has given me hope that I will find the courage to talk about it and also made me feel seen as I don't see it talked about enough so thank you. I know my parents and friends have noticed but I don't think they've ever realised how bad it has actually gotten at times and I don't know how to talk about it with anyone as I don't really talk about stuff like that with my parents and most of me doesn't want to get better but there still is a part of me that wants to try

  • @amandabrittenden
    @amandabrittenden Před rokem +12

    Thank you for this video. One of my closest friends suffered for years with anorexia. He didn't make it unfortunately 😥 It was one of the most heartbreaking things I have ever experienced. I wish you all the best ❤️

    • @jonahhab
      @jonahhab  Před rokem +4

      i'm so sorry about that, may he rest in peace, stay strong!

  • @Rosie333Sophia
    @Rosie333Sophia Před 5 měsíci +10

    Charlie Spring is a good representation, it wasn’t obvious in the first season whereas in most shows it’s the main scene.

    • @Robinlover1234
      @Robinlover1234 Před 3 měsíci +1

      We love charlie❤

    • @jonahhab
      @jonahhab  Před 3 měsíci

      heartstopper was on repeat when i first got ill 😭

    • @Robinlover1234
      @Robinlover1234 Před 3 měsíci

      @@jonahhab I’m a girl and my eating disorder is a bit different but I find other things we have in common, I’m glad he helps you, Alice is amazing for making boy ed representation

  • @heeseungiedeungie
    @heeseungiedeungie Před rokem +4

    i just want to hug you🥺thank you so so much for speaking out, i felt so safe here too. you inspire me to want to tell my story about my ed, thank you❤️

  • @Txkato
    @Txkato Před rokem +7

    i got into a clinic for eating disorders 2 weeks ago and i am so happy for it even tho it is hard and the rules are verry strict.
    even if you dont believe in it sometimes recovery IS possible and you need to remind yourself again and again that this is the right (and frankly only livable) way to go

    • @jonahhab
      @jonahhab  Před rokem +2

      you're so right! wishing u a smooth recovery!

    • @adrian.ts1
      @adrian.ts1 Před rokem +2

      hope you got better now

    • @Txkato
      @Txkato Před rokem +2

      @@adrian.ts1 yea i am much better!
      after 3 months in a stationary clinic i did 6 more weeks in a day clinic. tomorrow is actually my last day :)

    • @adrian.ts1
      @adrian.ts1 Před rokem +2

      @@Txkato so happy to hear that from you hopefully one day we would be both fully recovered for good

  • @Soup0.9fan
    @Soup0.9fan Před 3 měsíci +2

    This is so brave, Ed rep in men and boys is so under represented, as a girl who overcame my ed I know so many guys feel embarrassed by it or like feel “un-man”, but for anyone reading this that’s absolutely not true at all and if a girl ever treats you like that then she’s not worth your time, and it’s not too late to recover you can do it like I did too 💕💗🫂

  • @Ivycandoit
    @Ivycandoit Před rokem +5

    I’m so proud to see this and I’m very passionate about mental health especially equal with men. Especially since men do get it too. Such a overlooked thing. As a fellow sufferer and I’m also in recovery myself so i understand this illness.
    I hope you recover , I wish you the best of luck! You are doing amazing! Thank you for opening up about this and being honest . It is very hard to open up about such a complex and hard mental illness .
    Please do feel proud for videoing this and making awareness. I’m sorry if this has come across insensitive or inappropriate. Because never the intention.
    Best wishes.

  • @lindseywillis5507
    @lindseywillis5507 Před rokem +7

    Your body is perfect the way it is and your worth isn’t determined by your weight or any physical aspect! Please stay happy & healthy

  • @carlotagalbany
    @carlotagalbany Před 17 dny

    Heyy! I'm really really so proud of you. I have studied this topic a little and it is something very difficult to handle. It's not fair that you guys have problems and don't help you as much.
    I hope you have a good life!

  • @hcrabdullayeva358
    @hcrabdullayeva358 Před rokem +6

    Hey buddy, so proud of you that you shared this even though society's thoughts. I've been there, had times thinking that it'll last forever, but it's temporary. Stay strong, you'll get better.
    Btw LOVE your sweatshirt♡

  • @lyssanders
    @lyssanders Před rokem +4

    Wish you well on your recovery journey. You're very brave to try to raise awareness for males with eating disorders

  • @karenmcdowell8558
    @karenmcdowell8558 Před rokem +5

    I am 39 and I am plus size but I do have an eating disorder where when my mental health is really bad being diagnosed with severe depression and anxiety at 13 I control my food and don't eat I can not eat for months and drop dress sizes and then when I feel good I eat loads because I haven't eaten for months I put the weight back on I was placed in a children's hospital at 13 that had girls and boys with eating disorders but being a lot older in my life when my eating disorder was diagnosed a round 25 I didnt believe it as I felt I didnt have the normal types of eating disorders but thank you for this video and explaining how you feel and how your ED effects you xx

  • @jademusic1211
    @jademusic1211 Před rokem +3

    I hope you're doing better, hon'.🤗 I've been eating disordered for many, many years. I don't ever see recovering because I've had this illness for more than half my life. The sooner you can tackle your ED and work on recovery, the better your chances. Sending you lots of love and healing prayers that you will be free of this disease.❤️

  • @jordyn_gc1788
    @jordyn_gc1788 Před 3 měsíci +1

    Thanks so much for posting this xx it’s so wonderful to see you’re doing well

  • @rainways7586
    @rainways7586 Před rokem +7

    Hey! I’m also a boy who’s struggled for a few years now with anorexia. My situation surrounding my Ed is quite different then yours considering I am a trans guys and mine developed due to multiple reasons but mainly seeing cis boys and using anorexia as a way of “controlling” my gender to look more masculine and thinner so I could pass better. (Which literally makes no sense but that is eating disorders) I hope one day I can be as brave as you and share my own story as I know it’s important especially considering how greatly transgender people are far more likely to be impacted by eating disorders. Thank you for sharing your story. I hope all goes well for your recovery ❤️✨

  • @themcrcharlotte6587
    @themcrcharlotte6587 Před rokem +2

    You got this mate, you're stronger than you think x

  • @chaytongommers478
    @chaytongommers478 Před měsícem +1

    Im 21 and I think Im developing anorexia but I feel like I cant allow myself to say that because I feel I did this to myself and thats not fair to people who get it by accident and suffer from it. I just feel guilty. I didn't think men could get it. Well I mean I did but I didn't think I could.

  • @blackdenim2597
    @blackdenim2597 Před 2 měsíci

    I also feel out of place for having anorexia since I've always been very skinny and have a very fast metabolism. I did not restrict as much compared to others but I just looked "sicker" than them (I hate saying that, but that's what my treatment team tells me). I need a lot of help mentally since my disorder did not stem from weight issues, but because of the way I look, therapists are overly concerned about my physical state. I've been inpatient four times and when getting discharged, I get so excited to start on the therapeutic recovery part, only to be let down because therapists see me as too physically sick, even when I'm weight restored. I wish there was more representation for those struggling with eating disorders that do not have to do with weight/body image issues, but more as a byproduct of other struggles like depression or loneliness.

  • @yviwi4238
    @yviwi4238 Před 2 měsíci

    i also have ana. I think not all people will be able to recover from that. Sometimes people have it for the rest of their lives

  • @stacexx
    @stacexx Před rokem +2

    ur amazing

  • @adrian.ts1
    @adrian.ts1 Před rokem +2

    I wish my parents believe in eating disorders I've been suffering since last September but they think it's just a teen faze and i'm being rediculas and there's kids in this world who are wishing to have one meal in there day thay don't know the struggle they really don't know how hard it is i wish they know

    • @jonahhab
      @jonahhab  Před 3 měsíci

      i really really hope you're doing okay now :((

  • @makilune
    @makilune Před 4 měsíci +1

    Not related but you have a precious face.

  • @amarcetin7770
    @amarcetin7770 Před 3 měsíci +1

    I feel u But Im bulimia:( so Yay thats the difference

    • @jonahhab
      @jonahhab  Před 3 měsíci

      wishing u the best :)

  • @antoniowoods356
    @antoniowoods356 Před rokem +2

    Do you wanna be friends

  • @sadieherbert1963
    @sadieherbert1963 Před rokem

    😘

  • @Elina64576
    @Elina64576 Před 6 měsíci

    Hey, did you suffer from brain fog and is it gone now?

    • @jonahhab
      @jonahhab  Před 3 měsíci +2

      GOD YES, i couldn't concentrate on anything, since i was so malnourished. when you start recovering, the brain starts getting the nutrients it needs and over time you will start thinking clearly again!

  • @Alexander_1601
    @Alexander_1601 Před 10 měsíci +1

    can u have anorexia and be overweight?

    • @emmy.vosper
      @emmy.vosper Před 6 měsíci

      sometimes

    • @Misaseesapizza
      @Misaseesapizza Před 5 měsíci +1

      Yes, your weight does not determine weather you have an ed or not. It’s all about the mindset🙏

    • @jonahhab
      @jonahhab  Před 3 měsíci +2

      atypical anorexia is where you have all anorexic traits (fasting, purging) but could be a healthy weight or overweight, so yes!

  • @ArjunPandya-hn6qu
    @ArjunPandya-hn6qu Před rokem +1

    Actually when you stop eating you lose mostly water weight and muscle. Fat loss does happen but at a lesser ratio unless you go on a very extended (over 2 to 3 weeks) of a very low to no caloric intake and only then will the fat loss ratio catch up to muscle and water weight loss.

    • @jonahhab
      @jonahhab  Před 3 měsíci +2

      i don't actually see what ur trying to get at here? this is me sahring my experience with a serious eating disorder, not an overweight / unhealthy person trying to look for weight loss tips. dumbass

  • @ArjunPandya-hn6qu
    @ArjunPandya-hn6qu Před rokem

    Just take potassium, sodium, and magnesium. You don't have to feel bad. It isn't dangerous to not eat. There are pronlonged fatsers that can go months without eating as glycogen ts replaced with ketones for energy when you don't eat. Just take those electrolytes that I mentioned above if u don't want to eat.

  • @ArjunPandya-hn6qu
    @ArjunPandya-hn6qu Před rokem

    A better way to get skinny is to walk 5-8 hours a day. Prolonged daily Cardio is the best way to lose fat.

    • @rosmorgan6140
      @rosmorgan6140 Před rokem +16

      Hmm maybe not the most ideal comment to post on an anorexia recovery page? Not your target audience buddy 😊

    • @jonahhab
      @jonahhab  Před 3 měsíci

      GIRL R U FR

  • @christopherrhead9274
    @christopherrhead9274 Před rokem +1

    God loves you come to jesus as lord and savour no joke 🙏 he will return please repent your sinns and come to him today I love you and God especially loves you kid.

  • @bootybutt5078
    @bootybutt5078 Před rokem +5

    Hi! I just came here from Sierras video to support you but I hope you get better soon and have a good day. ❤❤

  • @jeffrivers1701
    @jeffrivers1701 Před 22 dny

    I got the opposite problem. I have a big beer belly on me and love to overeat

  • @Long_LiveTaylor..
    @Long_LiveTaylor.. Před 5 měsíci +2

    I honestly have the same thing sadly, for the past few months I have only been eating dinner no snacks, lunch, or breakfast. I thought I was fat because I compared myself to others I also had this thing with my skin I have acne and I would cut my skin off hoping it would grow back clear and clean sadly I’m better now but I really understand you! 🤍
    (Also thank you so much for this I’m definetly subscribing to you! I’m also a teenage boy who has problems like this I’m glad that I’m not alone with this and you definetly deserve more attention! Your amazing! 🤍

    • @Long_LiveTaylor..
      @Long_LiveTaylor.. Před 5 měsíci

      @@ForExample2023 no not really I just took a peace of glass and cut it and peeled it back and then put a bandaid on it because I got scared

    • @Long_LiveTaylor..
      @Long_LiveTaylor.. Před 5 měsíci

      @@ForExample2023 but it’s definetly gotten better and didn’t rlly leave a scar atleast