And in particular Kenya!!!❤ and to know that she would hold you down if and when needed is a testament of her and not the other women and woman who you were dating. SMH!!!!!!🤦♀️
That's exactly it. And he'll heal once he embraces the choice he made and lawyers hatred fears etc of any kind it's what he wanted at the time No one can make us do what we don't want. It's what was in his heart at the time. Experience has been the best teacher to him now . But 1 thing he didn't do was count the cost. We can't control how someone responds or chooses to NEVER respond/interact again 💔 Heart breaking but true
Gary you are a true example of a good man. You were honest and giving your wife her props. Going through a divorce is hard. You are loving and missing your children. Pray that your relationships with your children can be repaired. Time waits for no one! Bless you and your family!
The holidays will cause one to reflect on family. I applaud you Gary for speaking kind words and showing gratitude towards your ex-wife. A man that finds a wife finds a good thing, but a lot of times we can't see the forest for the trees. The stories you just shared certifies that she is the one for you Gary.
It's written all over his face. He found out the hard way that he had a real family, and a wife, even if she wasn't perfect, is your life partner. All the years and hardships, goodtimes, were spent together. I know he's learned alot, and the pain he'll have to manage.
You are one real G...not just because your name is Gary. I appreciate you being yourself and keeping it real with us. Thank you bro. RIP to your brother.
When i got divorced, God had me write a "thank you " letter to my ex. It is now the reason we are cordial with one another. I have been blessed beyond measure by it. My perspective has changed regarding me. Blessing in this journey of healing.
72 yrs old a few days ago and after losing a spouse of 37 yrs (death if final); divorce ain't that bad bc you have ANOTHER chance to get it right with each other. I say 2 words to you both.."Keep Livin". For Life IS short! Mistakes bring growth to all. MOVE UP!!
Mr. Gary - stay the course with your kids! They will come around… Much respect for acknowledging the good in your ex-wife. You are so right, we tend to forget the good times when shtf. Praying for reconciliation btwn you & your kids!
@@FG-xc5qj Things is there are things women can do that men just can’t see past. Better to have these fond memories and stay apart than to grow bitter together.
When break ups happen, not many people will talk kindly of their exes, yes, they forget or choose to forget the good things done by the former partner. You're a real man Gary, remembering Kenya when you were together, and thanking her for standing by you. I wish your children healing and that reconciliation will happen soon. God bless
This is one of the stages of grieving something lost. Possibly even wanting that person back wondering if you made the right decision to split in the first place. To say you know that person would still look out for you in your time of need is deep. Maybe even knowing that they were really that one person truly looking out for you and in your corner. Realizing this AFTER a relationship is done is a hard pill to swallow. May she continue to forgive and move on with her life.
I don't believe your kids are against you because of your ex-wife. I just believe that they are hurt and feel betrayed. They will get over it. They just have to grow up a little, and continue to see that you love them regardless.
Thank you for putting that out there. Both of you have learned from past mistakes, you're only human. Hopefully you two will keep the line of communication opened for all involved. May god bless all of you.
Sometimes in Marriage you fall in and out of love multiple times… The key is in those moments, remembering what brought you together in the first place and remembering the positive accomplishments you made TOGETHER.
This is such a Dope Message! I hope the kids take a closer look at what they do have- a FATHER that wants to be there, and reach out to mend the torn pieces of yalls relationship. But dont stop tryna fix it if they dont reach out… theyre waiting for u! 🙏🏾👊🏾
You and your kids will be on good terms again soon. To some degree, they'll need to experience life, let em, but be there when they're ready. even if you gotta bail em out of a jam, don't make em come hat-in-hand, just be ready to lead with grace and your heart.
I hear the hurt in Gary’s voice , he misses his family. I don’t know what transpired in his relationship because I wasn’t in the household with them, but what I do know is that he loves his family. I pray that they can get past this and work on their relationship to at least be cordial with each other, If not friends. Life is too short to hold grudges. I pray that his kids will come around and allow him to be in their lives because he loves his kids unconditionally. #prayers for Gary Owens and his family that they can work through whatever they’re going through. Life is too short and we only get one chance at this thing called life , when it’s over is over, so make the best of it . I will continue to keep Gary and his family in my prayers, I’m praying that they can work it out.
Regardless of what happened in the home he shouldn't have gotten a mistress. You can work out a lot of stuff in a home but that's a hard one. It was more than him having a one-night stand. He had a full-on mistress. And it's next to impossible for a woman to come back from that. If you really loved his family he wouldn't have done that. It's hard for kids to want to be around the man that did that to their mother. Men act as if women have to poison their kids but once they find that stuff out which because he's a famous person the world knew about it, people don't want to hang out with a man who did that. They go out of it often but it's typically not until they're adults. Your mother is the first voice you ever heard. You felt all of her emotions when you were in utero. She is your first love. It makes sense for a kid to want to stay away from the person who would humiliate her by having a whole mistress behind her back. His entire comedy stick is about his relationship with black people I'd love to see him spend two years doing comedy that has nothing to do with black people his half black kids his black ex-wife anything. I'm not saying he wouldn't be funny I don't have a big opinion about him when it comes to his comedy but I have a big opinion about someone who will have a whole mistress. He could have filed for divorce and then dated someone else but what he did was low down and dirty. And if he's reflecting now that's a good thing. We all make mistakes some bigger than others but we still have to sit with it and take the consequences. As someone who believes in God and the Bible King David did something heinous when he fornicated and had the woman's husband killed. He was eventually forgiven however, he still had to stick with the consequences of his actions which was namely his son who was the product of the infidelity died and he never had peace within his home again. So us not expecting people to have long-term consequences for things like this shows that we're not really living by Bible standards
Gary- I am glad to know you and Kendra had good times. When it was good, it was good. When it was bad, it was bad. Hopefully, you will always remain friends due to your children. Be blessed.
Mr. Owens I would like to say as a younger man going through what you’ve been through I admire the hell out of you because like me after 32 years I was kicked to the curb hang in there you’re doing it right you’ve been a man about it I know it’s hard but from what I’ve observed from you over the years you seem to be a man with a good heart love your kids even your ex-wife we still see that so God is gonna take care of you it may take some time for everybody to come through God bless you Dog
I used to be that kid 30 yrs ago, and as that kid, I wouldn't have had positive feelings for a LONG time towards my uncle for not wanting me. But as a 43 yr old father, I understand why you made your decision Gary.
I needed this Bro. So many men go through this. It's been 10 years for me now. Dads deserve just as much of a relationship with their children as a mom does. Anyone who manipulates a child to pick a side is a different kind of evil. The lies and venom that are STILL being spewed are just asinine. But, KARMA and time, always wins
She didn’t manipulate her grown kids to not their dad . They saw how he moved on and was with other women and decided not to have a relationship with him anymore . His children are in college
@@VANITYISFAREYou know damn well women corrupt their children to go against their father. That's a fact. Stop making excuses for that devil women and hold them ACCOUNTABLE!!
It takes a lot of introspection and awareness to get to this point. The healing has begun and your family will join you on the journey if they want the same outcome you do. Many of us can learn from this, and sharing your perspective can allow the rest of us to reflect and think of others just as kindly. Especially during our season of gratitude. So thank you and I hope that you and yours experience peace, understanding, and forgiveness.
I remember when I started following you on youtube. I wondered what happened. I'm glad my initial view of you is still good. I always enjoyed the post of you and Kenya. I haven't viewed any negative posts. I was sad to learn of the divorce, you guys looked "ever after." That's life. Don't know how much hurt, but reconciliations are good. There is still love and respect.
prayers for u. hope things work out, and it's very mature of u to bring up good times or at least good qualities of a person, too often people throw those out the window
The best part about NOT bad-mouthing your EX during a divorce is eventually emotions will level off and the guilt of what you might have said during the heat of them moment won't weigh on your mind.
And won't add to the other person not wanting to deal with you again For me I refused to commit adultery kept my ring on until the dotted line was signed. Continued to make his over night lunch for work. Never changed the locks. Honored the rest of my vows the best way I knew how while hurting but I know still to this day I will reap a great reward
Listening to him talk it's interesting bc I remember a woman saying u never want a man to only ❤ ur acts of service versus loving the memories of how u were together the ❤ between yall...
Going through a divorce is hard emotionally and mentally it took a viscous toll on me. I couldn’t think of anything nice to say about my ex husband that even the car he drove I hated. I had to work on my soul and think differently about my future so I could live better. Now! I can smile and laugh at him but it took time. Keep going and keep doing the work ON YOU ❤
🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾 God bless you. I pray that any relationship that is seemingly broken can be repaired 🙏🏾 I can see you love your family and you’re a genuinely good person.
Gary....yall was together to long not to have something good to say about Kenya! It's a great thing that you are in a good place to be able to share it.
Been with my soul love 42 years and 34 of those years married. Life throws so many loops that takes a toll on a marriage, family crap, job crap, children issues, parents issues, men mid life crisis issues, female issues, lord on and on. Did divorce come up? Heck yes!😂 How did we manage to beat divorce? We realize we love each other despite the ugly words said, or stupid things done. *We came to understood that this too shall pass.* That was a powerful turning point in our relationship. *Why* When you going through shit you can't see past it because you're eating, sleeping, and thinking about it all the time like it's forever. Understanding that nothing is forever and everything thing changes and nothing stays the same enabled us to communicate with transparency our true feelings to Start taking out the mental trash and trauma regardless if the truth was painful. We both prayed together and gave each other my time. We didn't use our children as pawns in our fights. No matter how mad we got we never went to bed mad even if he slept on the couch. Because tomorrow is not promised. We would always and still do say if we have a disagreement I love you go to your room. 😂 If you want to stay married learn to forgive, fight with the understanding that a peace treaty will be agreed upon. Don't wear your feelings on your shoulders when you communicate with transparency. ( Husbands think about what you say because your wife isn't your buddy don't be so candid 😅) Don't live your life through your children. They are going to leave and live their own lives. Life is short and then you die so embrace your spouse and purpose to laugh often. Pray together Forgive as many times as you need to because no one is perfect. Marriage is a continuous transformation from selfishness to unselfishness. Can two walk together unless they agree? Love is what you make it. I hope you and your wife realize the consequences and circumstances that brought you to this point is beyond you in the past. If you can apply, "This to shall pass,"* because it has maybe there's room for transparency communication between you both in hopes of reconciliation. 🫢 🤫Keep between yourselves.
The main problem is, men typically realize this when it's too late. Men take their family for granted bcz women put up with so much for so long, that the man is really heart broken when she leaves. And everyone knows when a woman's fed up, there ain't nothing you can about it.
Yep.. People are giving him Kudos because he's saying something nice about her. This man did not have a one-night stand he didn't even have a weekend fling he had a full-on mistress by getting his back after all that love and support she gave. We all know the only reason he has a comedy stick is because he talks about his relationship with her his relationship with the black people etcetera. Even the movie she were in was mostly about black people. I'm married to a white man and I still see the foolishness with this man. And they're acting like he's so wonderful because he can give one good memory about her. If he gave a good memory about her for a year it shows what a fool he is
@@NRQ-zv5bp thank YOU so much for responding to my comment. Really appreciated your insightful response. I'm so flabbergasted that he thinks there is anything better than a woman who held you down for 20 years and raised your offspring on such a high level in this disgusting system we live in . He mentioned his son doesn't feel the need nor pressure to even be all posted up on social media with even such a famous father?! And his daughter is in her zone getting an actual education and not out in these streets?!!!.... He will NEVER find another GEM like that again no matter what flaws he may have felt she had. Why?! Because they don't make them like that anymore hardworking ethical heart loving people are a thing of the past.You know my father told me when I was in the second grade "Don't marry young, they steal your youth, then throw you away... He then gave me the Master plan (his perspective of course) .....boy was he right!
A lot of times, some partners forget what they have until they are gone. The partner is taken for granted. When a partner cheats, it seems exciting and new. But when you take a step back and see what you lost, you have regrets and what if. The loyal partner, starts to question did their spouse really love them. They want you hurt just like you hurt them. It's a sad ending for a love story and family. Time does heal things, but you NEVER forget and will never open up yourself totally to that person again. You can let go of the anger, but the trust is gone. You know your prince/ or princess is capable of disrespecting you with no problem. You don't just forget that. But you can release the anger you have for them and wish them well.
It seems like this marriage had the classic 80/20 problems. May this be a lesson to those who want to end a covenant because the hot, passion is waning. Do you want to let go of all the peace and stability that is 80% of what life most needs?
Thank you, Gary for these positive stories about your wife. Started following you a few months ago because of your mixed family stories. Then I found out you left my chocolate sis. I was heartbroken. Divorce can be Ugly and Unhealthy. Anyway, I wish you and your family all the best.
Hopefully, time and therapy will heal the open wounds for all parties. FORGIVENESS is a powerful decision that liberates the soul and heals broken 💔💔💔 Thanks for being transparent and respectful.🙏🏽
As a drug addict i moved from oregon to florida i still found stuff over here. But got clean a year ago. Biggest fear is OD and having my family living with it
I feel like we’d have been friends in another lifetime Gary. I’m decently successful and 41 and went thru a lot with my wife and kids. I had a friend who specially kept sending his daughter handwritten short notes everyday during and after the divorce because she wouldn’t speak to or see him. The notes went unanswered or responded to for years, but the daughter kept them. They have finally broke thru their communication barrier after years. One day you will get there. Keep doing the most human things you can to continually show love and care and concern. It may take years, but they will have a record of notes or texts or emails where they read them in secret or something and will come to a point of reconciliation. Stay up man!
The problem with removing people from there places, things, location is we end up going back when we are done with the program. I relapse so may times until I “got it “ 5/5/22 water on the rocks for me. Sorry for your loss Gary, you’re a great brother and thank you for your service.
I always encouraged and tried to facilitate a great relationship with the father, because that’s their father and they need each other. My mother did the opposite, out of pain of her own. We never could get those years back, but we matured and found it to be really petty. Hopefully, things will get better for your children and you. I always tell my friends, your response around your children can be detrimental to their healing process.
Gary you've said many times that you weren't happy in your marriage - and you wanted out of it. Even during therapy you wanted out. Your Ex didn't want to divorce - you did. You wanted to sow your roots by divorcing rather than cheating and that's the energy you brought into the marriage. You thought you could do your Ex dirty and your kids wouldn't be effected by your actions towards her. You are now reaping what you sowed, and you realize the grass isn't greener on the other side. When you do bad things you're supposed to feel bad about it Gary, so good on you that you "gave" her more $$ in the divorce settlement than you really had to. Good on you that you're remembering you had a die hard, all in good woman that you threw away along with your vow of marriage. Now do more than say "I would do things differently"...Now go to your children and your Ex and sincerely apologize to them for you not being the die hard all in person in the marriage. Apologize and own up to what you did and what you didn't do. Do that and be assured that 'this too shall pass'
Older kids pay more attention than we give them credit for. Actions mean more than words. No one with a heart in how he describes his ex wife having, in my opinion, would inflict pain on their child by involving them and causing to pick a side. That child most likely assessed the situation and came to their own conclusion. I would be pissed if my dad went and trashed talked my mom to the public at any point in time. Cause I don’t play about mine, regardless of who you are to me (cousin, aunt, her momma or my dad). Just my two cents.
I'm divorced and I'm always remembering the good cause there are more good than bad. You and Kenya are a great team. Even though you guys are no longer together I still think y'all were great. I would do the same for my former husband.
I'm glad that you're saying this because you look way better when you were with your wife, I mean you just looked polished. The key to longevity is your family and that's what you and Kenya had you had love and you had your children and y'all were a family unit. That's what keeps you healthy. And go back to using vaseline on your body. Just because you're not home with your family anymore don't mean that you have to resort to your old ways by not taking care of your skin.😂😂😂
Several things i can DEFINITELY relate to. It'll either improve you thru healing & learned lessons, or, it'll do the exact opposite. 👍🏿👍🏿💪🏿💪🏿💪🏿✌🏿✌🏿✌🏿 Gary O just got a new fan
Gary remember in ng those times when her & him had each others back. He does still love a respect her. Everybody nakes mistakes, even when you've been married along time. Hope they can heal, and forgive each other.
I want Gary to reach out to his children and ex wife and tell them this…write them leave messages until you get through to them. After this don’t do this in public again… Handle your business Gary ! Much love to you and yor family.
Divorce is hard on everyone. But hardest on the kids. I wish your family ALL THE BEST. Kids get in their but feelings and want to live there until they go through something similar and then want understanding. It's a process that sometimes takes longer than some people have.
He misses his family. ❤
This is real I totally understand him
And in particular Kenya!!!❤ and to know that she would hold you down if and when needed is a testament of her and not the other women and woman who you were dating. SMH!!!!!!🤦♀️
Sounds like a man that realizes he actually had a good thing despite everything
That's exactly it. And he'll heal once he embraces the choice he made and lawyers hatred fears etc of any kind it's what he wanted at the time
No one can make us do what we don't want.
It's what was in his heart at the time. Experience has been the best teacher to him now .
But 1 thing he didn't do was count the cost.
We can't control how someone responds or chooses to NEVER respond/interact again 💔
Heart breaking but true
Gary you are a true example of a good man. You were honest and giving your wife her props. Going through a divorce is hard. You are loving and missing your children. Pray that your relationships with your children can be repaired. Time waits for no one! Bless you and your family!
The holidays will cause one to reflect on family. I applaud you Gary for speaking kind words and showing gratitude towards your ex-wife. A man that finds a wife finds a good thing, but a lot of times we can't see the forest for the trees. The stories you just shared certifies that she is the one for you Gary.
It's written all over his face. He found out the hard way that he had a real family, and a wife, even if she wasn't perfect, is your life partner. All the years and hardships, goodtimes, were spent together. I know he's learned alot, and the pain he'll have to manage.
You are one real G...not just because your name is Gary. I appreciate you being yourself and keeping it real with us. Thank you bro. RIP to your brother.
When i got divorced, God had me write a "thank you " letter to my ex. It is now the reason we are cordial with one another. I have been blessed beyond measure by it. My perspective has changed regarding me. Blessing in this journey of healing.
I am going through it with my oldest kid right now. I just pray every night that things will be better one day .
Hold On & Hang On Tight Mom! Things shall be greater later!
Me too 😢
Gary still loves Kenya, again, when you've been through a TON with a person, the BOND doesn't go away because of a separation
The grass is never greener on the other side especially when you’re the cheater!
I don't think Kenya is a bad person! Hopefully yall can work things out and be cool again one day!
Hopefully, but the kids are now grown.
I loved them together. I pray for them to at least be friends .
@@quecreations3244Their comment didn’t have anything to do with the kids tho….🤦♂️😂
@@jwdathefax377 I was half sleep when I posted it 😁
Why would you she be a bad person?
72 yrs old a few days ago and after losing a spouse of 37 yrs (death if final); divorce ain't that bad bc you have ANOTHER chance to get it right with each other.
I say 2 words to you both.."Keep Livin". For Life IS short! Mistakes bring growth to all.
MOVE UP!!
Thank you for this ❤
What a Beautiful response, thank you. 😊
So sorry for your loss. ❤️
Thank you. Appreciate your honesty.
Divorce causes the same feelings but it's a conscious choice and no one can stop death.
Great tribute to Kenya. Hope your family can heal
This is very grown up of you!❤
Gary that’s so cool that you told that story about real life ❤❤❤
Mr. Gary - stay the course with your kids! They will come around…
Much respect for acknowledging the good in your ex-wife. You are so right, we tend to forget the good times when shtf.
Praying for reconciliation btwn you & your kids!
Well spoken Gary. Go get your wife back bro. We can all see you miss her
They're not Ashanti and Nelly..she said terrible things about him. Break up and move on....
@@FG-xc5qj Things is there are things women can do that men just can’t see past. Better to have these fond memories and stay apart than to grow bitter together.
He cheated on her what do you expect her to say good things
@@ly3998 he said he didn't cheat. He filed for divorce because he said the marriage wasn't working for him anymore.
He’s also engaged to someone else and has had twins…
When break ups happen, not many people will talk kindly of their exes, yes, they forget or choose to forget the good things done by the former partner. You're a real man Gary, remembering Kenya when you were together, and thanking her for standing by you. I wish your children healing and that reconciliation will happen soon. God bless
Love this. Let's normalize positive stories about ex relationships. Every breakup doesn't have to be horrible. And hey, I'm from Cincinnati too!
This is one of the stages of grieving something lost. Possibly even wanting that person back wondering if you made the right decision to split in the first place. To say you know that person would still look out for you in your time of need is deep. Maybe even knowing that they were really that one person truly looking out for you and in your corner. Realizing this AFTER a relationship is done is a hard pill to swallow. May she continue to forgive and move on with her life.
I don't believe your kids are against you because of your ex-wife.
I just believe that they are hurt and feel betrayed. They will get over it. They just have to grow up a little, and continue to see that you love them regardless.
Thank you for putting that out there. Both of you have learned from past mistakes, you're only human. Hopefully you two will keep the line of communication opened for all involved. May god bless all of you.
Sometimes in Marriage you fall in and out of love multiple times… The key is in those moments, remembering what brought you together in the first place and remembering the positive accomplishments you made TOGETHER.
This is such a Dope Message! I hope the kids take a closer look at what they do have- a FATHER that wants to be there, and reach out to mend the torn pieces of yalls relationship. But dont stop tryna fix it if they dont reach out… theyre waiting for u! 🙏🏾👊🏾
You and your kids will be on good terms again soon. To some degree, they'll need to experience life, let em, but be there when they're ready. even if you gotta bail em out of a jam, don't make em come hat-in-hand, just be ready to lead with grace and your heart.
You may not get what you want in the end, but no one could ever blame you for not trying.
Wishing Gary and family all the best!
This is a show of growth, hopefully both of you can have a cordial relationship from this point forward.
I hear the hurt in Gary’s voice , he misses his family. I don’t know what transpired in his relationship because I wasn’t in the household with them, but what I do know is that he loves his family. I pray that they can get past this and work on their relationship to at least be cordial with each other, If not friends. Life is too short to hold grudges. I pray that his kids will come around and allow him to be in their lives because he loves his kids unconditionally. #prayers for Gary Owens and his family that they can work through whatever they’re going through.
Life is too short and we only get one chance at this thing called life , when it’s over is over, so make the best of it . I will continue to keep Gary and his family in my prayers, I’m praying that they can work it out.
Regardless of what happened in the home he shouldn't have gotten a mistress. You can work out a lot of stuff in a home but that's a hard one. It was more than him having a one-night stand. He had a full-on mistress. And it's next to impossible for a woman to come back from that. If you really loved his family he wouldn't have done that. It's hard for kids to want to be around the man that did that to their mother. Men act as if women have to poison their kids but once they find that stuff out which because he's a famous person the world knew about it, people don't want to hang out with a man who did that. They go out of it often but it's typically not until they're adults. Your mother is the first voice you ever heard. You felt all of her emotions when you were in utero. She is your first love. It makes sense for a kid to want to stay away from the person who would humiliate her by having a whole mistress behind her back. His entire comedy stick is about his relationship with black people I'd love to see him spend two years doing comedy that has nothing to do with black people his half black kids his black ex-wife anything. I'm not saying he wouldn't be funny I don't have a big opinion about him when it comes to his comedy but I have a big opinion about someone who will have a whole mistress. He could have filed for divorce and then dated someone else but what he did was low down and dirty. And if he's reflecting now that's a good thing. We all make mistakes some bigger than others but we still have to sit with it and take the consequences. As someone who believes in God and the Bible King David did something heinous when he fornicated and had the woman's husband killed. He was eventually forgiven however, he still had to stick with the consequences of his actions which was namely his son who was the product of the infidelity died and he never had peace within his home again. So us not expecting people to have long-term consequences for things like this shows that we're not really living by Bible standards
Thank you, Gary. My ex and I split two weeks before lockdown in '20 and this hit hard.
Same and still tough...but working through it by taking care of myself.
@@ramonawilson9361 In case no one has said it: Thank You for taking care of yourself
Gary- I am glad to know you and Kendra had good times. When it was good, it was good. When it was bad, it was bad. Hopefully, you will always remain friends due to your children. Be blessed.
Kenya….
Mr. Owens I would like to say as a younger man going through what you’ve been through I admire the hell out of you because like me after 32 years I was kicked to the curb hang in there you’re doing it right you’ve been a man about it I know it’s hard but from what I’ve observed from you over the years you seem to be a man with a good heart love your kids even your ex-wife we still see that so God is gonna take care of you it may take some time for everybody to come through
God bless you Dog
I felt him in this clip!! I hope you and your ex work things out and get back to the love y’all share.
I used to be that kid 30 yrs ago, and as that kid, I wouldn't have had positive feelings for a LONG time towards my uncle for not wanting me. But as a 43 yr old father, I understand why you made your decision Gary.
I needed this Bro. So many men go through this. It's been 10 years for me now. Dads deserve just as much of a relationship with their children as a mom does. Anyone who manipulates a child to pick a side is a different kind of evil. The lies and venom that are STILL being spewed are just asinine. But, KARMA and time, always wins
Karma doesnt always win ... in the real world
But God, not karma. God will touch her heart
She didn’t manipulate her grown kids to not their dad . They saw how he moved on and was with other women and decided not to have a relationship with him anymore . His children are in college
@@VANITYISFAREYou know damn well women corrupt their children to go against their father. That's a fact. Stop making excuses for that devil women and hold them ACCOUNTABLE!!
It takes a lot of introspection and awareness to get to this point. The healing has begun and your family will join you on the journey if they want the same outcome you do. Many of us can learn from this, and sharing your perspective can allow the rest of us to reflect and think of others just as kindly. Especially during our season of gratitude. So thank you and I hope that you and yours experience peace, understanding, and forgiveness.
Amen 🙏
I remember when I started following you on youtube. I wondered what happened. I'm glad my initial view of you is still good. I always enjoyed the post of you and Kenya. I haven't viewed any negative posts. I was sad to learn of the divorce, you guys looked "ever after." That's life. Don't know how much hurt, but reconciliations are good. There is still love and respect.
Yes I would have never imagined. I was shocked and sad for them
Because, that's How You Do..A Class Act..Thank You Gary..You Are LIved..❤😊
We are imperfect people Thanks for sharing......tears😢😢😢
It is great that he is finally saying something nice about his ex-wife since their divorce.
YES SHE WOULD GARY!!!
She would have your back.
prayers for u. hope things work out, and it's very mature of u to bring up good times or at least good qualities of a person, too often people throw those out the window
The best part about NOT bad-mouthing your EX during a divorce is eventually emotions will level off and the guilt of what you might have said during the heat of them moment won't weigh on your mind.
And won't add to the other person not wanting to deal with you again
For me I refused to commit adultery kept my ring on until the dotted line was signed. Continued to make his over night lunch for work. Never changed the locks.
Honored the rest of my vows the best way I knew how while hurting but I know still to this day I will reap a great reward
Listening to him talk it's interesting bc I remember a woman saying u never want a man to only ❤ ur acts of service versus loving the memories of how u were together the ❤ between yall...
Going through a divorce is hard emotionally and mentally it took a viscous toll on me. I couldn’t think of anything nice to say about my ex husband that even the car he drove I hated. I had to work on my soul and think differently about my future so I could live better. Now! I can smile and laugh at him but it took time. Keep going and keep doing the work ON YOU ❤
🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾 God bless you. I pray that any relationship that is seemingly broken can be repaired 🙏🏾 I can see you love your family and you’re a genuinely good person.
I've always enjoyed Gary Owen. I respect him even more now. 🙏🏾
I just love your honesty! She will aways be your friend..trust me I know❤
You are a true Man Gary Owen ❤it and U.😊
I am so proud of you Gary. You are a big person. The better man. It will all work out. Just keep pushing positivity and ❤. Jennifer Barbados 🇧🇧
Gary is the MAN
Sorry about your brother, may he rest in peace. I hope that you and your ex are civil to each other for the sake of your children!
Gary....yall was together to long not to have something good to say about Kenya! It's a great thing that you are in a good place to be able to share it.
Darn that time went fast. I sincerely hope the children come around soon, I guess they were really hurt about the breakup 🙏❤️✌️
Been with my soul love 42 years and 34 of those years married. Life throws so many loops that takes a toll on a marriage, family crap, job crap, children issues, parents issues, men mid life crisis issues, female issues, lord on and on.
Did divorce come up? Heck yes!😂
How did we manage to beat divorce?
We realize we love each other despite the ugly words said, or stupid things done.
*We came to understood that this too shall pass.* That was a powerful turning point in our relationship. *Why*
When you going through shit you can't see past it because you're eating, sleeping, and thinking about it all the time like it's forever.
Understanding that nothing is forever and everything thing changes and nothing stays the same enabled us to communicate with transparency our true feelings to Start taking out the mental trash and trauma regardless if the truth was painful.
We both prayed together and gave each other my time. We didn't use our children as pawns in our fights.
No matter how mad we got we never went to bed mad even if he slept on the couch. Because tomorrow is not promised. We would always and still do say if we have a disagreement I love you go to your room. 😂
If you want to stay married learn to forgive, fight with the understanding that a peace treaty will be agreed upon.
Don't wear your feelings on your shoulders when you communicate with transparency. ( Husbands think about what you say because your wife isn't your buddy don't be so candid 😅)
Don't live your life through your children. They are going to leave and live their own lives.
Life is short and then you die so embrace your spouse and purpose to laugh often.
Pray together
Forgive as many times as you need to because no one is perfect.
Marriage is a continuous transformation from selfishness to unselfishness. Can two walk together unless they agree?
Love is what you make it. I hope you and your wife realize the consequences and circumstances that brought you to this point is beyond you in the past.
If you can apply, "This to shall pass,"* because it has maybe there's room for transparency communication between you both in hopes of reconciliation.
🫢 🤫Keep between yourselves.
FYI as a family lawyer, when things end it will be ugly. Especially when money, property and children are being divided / resolved.
People can be good, kind, and loving until they are not. Stuff happens....😮
The main problem is, men typically realize this when it's too late. Men take their family for granted bcz women put up with so much for so long, that the man is really heart broken when she leaves. And everyone knows when a woman's fed up, there ain't nothing you can about it.
That could be true. But I wanted the divorce. But ti often couples only see the bad in a divorce I’m trying to do the opposite remember the good also.
@@garyowencom that's wonderful for staying positive in the difficulties of divorce, may you two have joy and peace, much love brother
I wish more ppls would be this honest
Hopefully, yall can get back together...in a better way renewed❤.
A...N...D... That's the WOMAN....YOU chose to Throw away?!!!!!
Yep..
People are giving him Kudos because he's saying something nice about her. This man did not have a one-night stand he didn't even have a weekend fling he had a full-on mistress by getting his back after all that love and support she gave. We all know the only reason he has a comedy stick is because he talks about his relationship with her his relationship with the black people etcetera. Even the movie she were in was mostly about black people. I'm married to a white man and I still see the foolishness with this man. And they're acting like he's so wonderful because he can give one good memory about her. If he gave a good memory about her for a year it shows what a fool he is
@@NRQ-zv5bp thank YOU so much for responding to my comment. Really appreciated your insightful response. I'm so flabbergasted that he thinks there is anything better than a woman who held you down for 20 years and raised your offspring on such a high level in this disgusting system we live in . He mentioned his son doesn't feel the need nor pressure to even be all posted up on social media with even such a famous father?! And his daughter is in her zone getting an actual education and not out in these streets?!!!.... He will NEVER find another GEM like that again no matter what flaws he may have felt she had. Why?! Because they don't make them like that anymore hardworking ethical heart loving people are a thing of the past.You know my father told me when I was in the second grade "Don't marry young, they steal your youth, then throw you away... He then gave me the Master plan (his perspective of course) .....boy was he right!
Hopefully forgiveness reigns and healing can take place. If you were meant to be you will be. Love ya Gary! Keep the faith
A lot of times, some partners forget what they have until they are gone. The partner is taken for granted. When a partner cheats, it seems exciting and new. But when you take a step back and see what you lost, you have regrets and what if. The loyal partner, starts to question did their spouse really love them. They want you hurt just like you hurt them. It's a sad ending for a love story and family. Time does heal things, but you NEVER forget and will never open up yourself totally to that person again. You can let go of the anger, but the trust is gone. You know your prince/ or princess is capable of disrespecting you with no problem. You don't just forget that. But you can release the anger you have for them and wish them well.
Well said
Excellent
I pray things will get better for You and Your famiy, you both seem like really good people🙏💕
It seems like this marriage had the classic 80/20 problems. May this be a lesson to those who want to end a covenant because the hot, passion is waning. Do you want to let go of all the peace and stability that is 80% of what life most needs?
Exactly
This is why I love to listen to you. Your positive attitude. So refreshing. Well I also listen for the laughs.
Ride or Die.😔 "Beautiful." That's the kind of love that only GOD can put in place.❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️✌️❤️💯😉
Thank you, Gary for these positive stories about your wife. Started following you a few months ago because of your mixed family stories. Then I found out you left my chocolate sis. I was heartbroken. Divorce can be Ugly and Unhealthy. Anyway, I wish you and your family all the best.
Gary you are loved hang in there a change is coming your way Holidays are always hard because you remember the good times.
This is such a vulnerable and mature video. ♥️
Beautiful testament to your ex and her amazing capacity to love you and your family. You both are great people, and I wish you both the best!
Love all of this bro. Salute
Hopefully, time and therapy will heal the open wounds for all parties. FORGIVENESS is a powerful decision that liberates the soul and heals broken 💔💔💔 Thanks for being transparent and respectful.🙏🏽
As a drug addict i moved from oregon to florida i still found stuff over here. But got clean a year ago. Biggest fear is OD and having my family living with it
I feel like we’d have been friends in another lifetime Gary. I’m decently successful and 41 and went thru a lot with my wife and kids. I had a friend who specially kept sending his daughter handwritten short notes everyday during and after the divorce because she wouldn’t speak to or see him. The notes went unanswered or responded to for years, but the daughter kept them. They have finally broke thru their communication barrier after years.
One day you will get there. Keep doing the most human things you can to continually show love and care and concern. It may take years, but they will have a record of notes or texts or emails where they read them in secret or something and will come to a point of reconciliation.
Stay up man!
The problem with removing people from there places, things, location is we end up going back when we are done with the program. I relapse so may times until I “got it “
5/5/22 water on the rocks for me.
Sorry for your loss Gary, you’re a great brother and thank you for your service.
You guys together are really stronger. I hope you guys realize this. May God bless you both.
I always encouraged and tried to facilitate a great relationship with the father, because that’s their father and they need each other. My mother did the opposite, out of pain of her own. We never could get those years back, but we matured and found it to be really petty. Hopefully, things will get better for your children and you. I always tell my friends, your response around your children can be detrimental to their healing process.
Gary you've said many times that you weren't happy in your marriage - and you wanted out of it. Even during therapy you wanted out. Your Ex didn't want to divorce - you did. You wanted to sow your roots by divorcing rather than cheating and that's the energy you brought into the marriage. You thought you could do your Ex dirty and your kids wouldn't be effected by your actions towards her. You are now reaping what you sowed, and you realize the grass isn't greener on the other side. When you do bad things you're supposed to feel bad about it Gary, so good on you that you "gave" her more $$ in the divorce settlement than you really had to. Good on you that you're remembering you had a die hard, all in good woman that you threw away along with your vow of marriage. Now do more than say "I would do things differently"...Now go to your children and your Ex and sincerely apologize to them for you not being the die hard all in person in the marriage. Apologize and own up to what you did and what you didn't do. Do that and be assured that 'this too shall pass'
That's a great story. My parents divorced years ago, and it was the same way. They still helped each other for years after they split.
Older kids pay more attention than we give them credit for. Actions mean more than words. No one with a heart in how he describes his ex wife having, in my opinion, would inflict pain on their child by involving them and causing to pick a side. That child most likely assessed the situation and came to their own conclusion. I would be pissed if my dad went and trashed talked my mom to the public at any point in time. Cause I don’t play about mine, regardless of who you are to me (cousin, aunt, her momma or my dad). Just my two cents.
but it's ok for the mom to do that to the dad 😮
@@fence22 Two wrongs don’t make it right. But you not talking about my mama and me stay mute or neutral.
I'm divorced and I'm always remembering the good cause there are more good than bad. You and Kenya are a great team. Even though you guys are no longer together I still think y'all were great. I would do the same for my former husband.
I'm glad that you're saying this because you look way better when you were with your wife, I mean you just looked polished. The key to longevity is your family and that's what you and Kenya had you had love and you had your children and y'all were a family unit. That's what keeps you healthy. And go back to using vaseline on your body. Just because you're not home with your family anymore don't mean that you have to resort to your old ways by not taking care of your skin.😂😂😂
😂😂😂😂 That Vaseline part killed me. He clearly misses his family. Divorce can be ugly and Unhealthy.
I agree she would still show up for you if you really needed it.
Sorry for your loss. Time is a healer.
Stand up guy ❤️
As a black woman i salute you
Smh
Gary this is beautiful
Several things i can DEFINITELY relate to. It'll either improve you thru healing & learned lessons, or, it'll do the exact opposite. 👍🏿👍🏿💪🏿💪🏿💪🏿✌🏿✌🏿✌🏿 Gary O just got a new fan
Gary, this is soooo true! FACTS! I’m in a similar situation 😢. Heartbreaking,,,
I commend you for your honesty and vulnerability. Great video.
good share Gary❤❤
Gary remember in ng those times when her & him had each others back. He does still love a respect her. Everybody nakes mistakes, even when you've been married along time. Hope they can heal, and forgive each other.
It's nice to see retrospective Gary.. The situation is turning around around.
The anger is cooling whenever divorced people can see or remember the good in each other.
I've watched most of your comedy videos, and enjoy them all. However, this is definitely one of your best presentations.
You still love and miss her. 😢❤️🔥
Thank you. I needed to hear that GO
I want Gary to reach out to his children and ex wife and tell them this…write them leave messages until you get through to them. After this don’t do this in public again… Handle your business Gary ! Much love to you and yor family.
Divorce is hard on everyone. But hardest on the kids. I wish your family ALL THE BEST. Kids get in their but feelings and want to live there until they go through something similar and then want understanding. It's a process that sometimes takes longer than some people have.
Very nice tribute to your wife hope it all works out with your kids
Needed that one!