The #1 Cause Killing Your Sex Drive! | Low Libido in Women
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- čas přidán 27. 07. 2024
- There's a LOT to unpack here... Libido is not as easy as an on-off switch. So what is the #1 cause of low libido in women?
This may come as a shocker to some, but our hormones (and not just TESTOSTERONE here -- we're talking about ESTROGEN and CORTISOL too!), lifestyle factors, daily stressors, and even relationship compatibility all influence our desire and sex drive.
Libido is not something to be overlooked! Yes, while it is normal to not be in the mood all of the time, it's not normal to NOT be in the mood ANY of the time. If you're feeling like your switch is never on and is affecting your emotional and physical wellbeing (or even your relationship with your partner), it's important to work with a doctor that you trust, and find out what's causing YOUR low libido and what you can do to better support your sex drive!
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Disclaimer: This video is not sponsored and has been created with the intent of providing general educational information. Any such presentation of information by Dr. Alexandra Mayer is for general guidance is not intended to be nor should it be construed as the practice of medicine or specific medical advice. You should consult with your doctor to ensure that anything discussed in the video is right for you, given your unique set of health circumstances.
Never marry for sex. Don't even make it a priority. Too many broken hearts because of it. Rather see it as a surprising or random blessing that occurs now and then. I have seen too many broken hearts because of it in family courts.
Just focus on the romantic "friendship", work on yourself (health, fitness, social life, faith, career, kids, etc). And that's it.
From every man I spoke to about this, it should be actively avoids any form of sex after the last child was born. My access to sex or intimacy stopped 10 years ago when she decided to stop, along with any, feelings to me. I have missed the whole thing and especially the closeness and touch.
Everyone should have access to intimacy, think about yourself and decide what to do about it, it's unfair to go through something like that
You are married right? Rule nr. 1, never marry.
So true....not since 1960@@Billy-the-Kid
My answer nr. 1 would be, divorce. Nr. 2, tell her in her face you need sex and will get yourself a side piece.
Exactly the same. Once she got all she wanted, no more touch, smiles, love, sex or intimacy at all. My needs are meaningless, and her permanent sense of resentment let's her blame me for EVERY THING.
I am in perimenopause and experiencing loss of libido. I want sexual intimacy, think about sex a lot, but my body is not in agreement. This is causing me so much stress.
Interesting that you got to the part where, she probably just doesn’t like you. Very scary for me, because this has been going on for 20 years. Yikes.
It’s taken you 20 years to figure out your wife doesn’t like you…?
After learning so much about men and women I don’t think we are sexually compatible long term, there’s just too many irreconcilable differences between the sexes that can’t be permanently bridged in the SLIGHTEST. Sad but reality.
Very helpful information! Thank you 🙏🏻
Glad it was helpful! Thanks for watching!
My wife is going through menopause and it sucks, she has no desire. I think it’s her and she doesn’t like me as much anymore honestly.
Same here man😂
Yep
Go easy, gentlemen. Hormone changes are a b*tch and truly affect every aspect of our wellbeing. Connect with your wives emotionally, and research natural helpers together. Tenderness goes a long way when we're struggling.
I am finding the same thing. At least my wife is trying.
You say that cortisol lowers drive, but I find stress increases my drive as a man.
Hormones cycle in pre-menopausal women, only. You need to correct this.
Many years ago i was married to a woman who stopped having sex & did not display any affection towards me. She acted like she had married beneath her. The fact is she didn't love me anymore.
She probably never did. Been there
Whay would be the best time in the cycle to test estrogen, progesterone and testosterone? And estrogen should be total or the 3 estrogen individually?
Thanks for watching! I can't give any specific medical advice. This question can only be answered with more information on age, health status, ect. I recommend establishing with a doctor that specializes in hormones to get the best care.
My female friend told me her sex drive was low for 8 months until she started catching feelings for me I didn’t believe her but I guess I was wrong
Women seem to be rather not self-aware. Their body and emotions change throughout the month, and everyone else around them knows it, but if it is mentioned, they become angry and defensive.
Do women really not know that their man wants to have a sex life with them? Then why would their answer be to do nothing at all?
It also appears that women do not handle stress very well, but instead of making life choices that moderate or reduce stress, they actively seek career and relationship situations that increase their stress, often to the breaking point. Why do that to your life?
ssri has high correlation with divorce
But the hating the partner is part of menopause. I dont heard too many women say it. I thought it was me, just not liking my partner, but i find him attractive and love him. You said it wont help that.
Hormones can contribute to feeling that was. Getting hormones in check can help with that. It’s more if you don’t like your partner and don’t find them attractive then hormones might not be the fix.
It's funny how women use sex to get a husband, then lose all desires for sex once she has him. And punish him with it.
So women use sex to get a husband🤔🤔.... well if that's tha case, it's the man fault.... getting a real husband should be based off more than just sex!
There is an item commonly partaken of at the Wedding Reception that starts the decline of a woman's libido: Wedding cake. It does not affect men much, if at all.
Happened to me in the middle of my twenties... Low sex drive and even fear of penetration... I had many evaluation from many doctors without any result... I am a psychosomatic person with high level of stress and a chronic bowl disease
She becomes the Utility model give her a cookie and leave her at home .
There are options out there just find one thats not gonna follow you home.
Marriage.
😂
Lol, it is sad.
I don't have much sex anymore. My wife don't believe in sex. I am 71 and she is 67. I am a type2 diabetic,and she is borderline type 2
So is it abnormal to not be in the mood any of the time, when you are 72 and still experiencing hot flushes and “panic attacks”? My doctor’s words, not mine…..
There's a lot that goes into libido. However not being in the mood any of the time is probably not a good sign. Also, hot flashes and panic attacks are strong hormonal symptoms. HRT is best started within 10 years post-menopause. However, an educated provider should be able to navigate that discussion with you. Basically, sounds like it's time to initiate more conversations with your provider. I hope that helps!
You are not abnormal, I'm 62 and have completely lost my sex drive this last 3 years. I put it down to a combination of post menopause (but still having regular hot flushes) medication for high blood pressure, vaginal dryness (the product I used containing aloe Vera was discontinued) weight gain in both partners, unable to breathe due to emphysema, loss of feeling down there due to nerve damage from 4 herniated discs. All leading me to a realisation that all that effort, discomfort and mess didn't lead to any pleasure on my part so I knocked it on the head and stopped, it doesn't mean I don't love my partner I do, deeply. Even having a myocardial infarction 5 years ago didn't stop our sex life for more than 2 weeks but the medication has really taken it's toll and my libido is now non existent. I gave my partner the option to get sex with someone else if it was that important to him but he hasn't availed himself of that option, I did suggest trying Tantric sex which is mostly in the head and breathing exercises but it didn't appeal to him so now we sleep in separate rooms. There are many women over 60 out there that have come to the conclusion that sex isn't the be all and end all of life and have made appropriate choices that suit them.
Find a new doctor
no coc lowers drive because of the progestins that counter estradiol
Which estrogen do you mean in this case about libido? All three or which one? :)
Estradiol mainly. :)
@@DrAlexandraMayer Thank you ❤️
Maybe I wasn't paying attention the whole video, but isn't (too much) testosterone linked to ovarian and breast cancer?
Good question. In the video I was not advocating for too much testosterone. I get a lot of patients who are overdosed on T. I do not recommend. Healthy balanced hormones is a different story
Great video! Very well to the point which I liked. Thank you!
I’m a man, and quite frankly, having a sex drive is one of the most exhausting things on the planet. Thankfully, my desire for sex is waning, but I’m having to fight my brain to completely shutting down my libido. I might actually turn to antidepressants to lower it.
What why?!
If you don't have a sex drive your not human...
How old are you, men and women both don’t have a sex drive when they get older.