"A history of trauma can give you a high tolerance for emotional pain. Just because you can take it doesn't mean you have to. You really don't have to!" - Dr. Thema.
You don't treat life as an adventure you treat it as though you're a soldier on patrol somewhere. Things must be done because they need to be done to end the day and you punish yourself without thinking if you don't succeed in finishing them. It's hard to change but you can slowly. Videos like this help, thank you.🥰
The key for me was true acceptance after receiving treatment (bipolar, lots of trauma). In order to fight past my insecurity and doubt, mistrust and anger, I had to just sit for awhile and just accept what happened, come to terms with the fact that not everyone or thing is the same. I looked for examples of good things in my life and found people that gave me the strength to move on and LIVE. It was truly like things turned on a dime. I landed a great job with and even better company. I met my current girlfriend and am incredibly happy. I finally feel like I can relax and not be so on edge all the time. So for anyone out there struggling, I'm begging you please do yourself a favor and book an appointment with your doctor and just go and tell them everything. If your family doesn't believe in it then just don't tell them you're doing it, it's none of their business anyway hence confidentiality. You mean something, and you owe it to yourself to get help and be able to be happy.
Agree! Things get better for me on that night when I decided to sit down and write about my trauma and cry my eyes out. I can finally accept myself, accept the event and move forward (well... only a little bit 😂)
@@invaderzim1265 and there's nothing wrong with that. There's no harm in seeking counsel. There's a reason kings did the same for lots of things. It's a good idea if you're struggling, because you don't have to do it alone
I noticed my brain, from all the unhealed trauma, it has started to make my trauma as an nostalgia and a depressed themed, comfort feeling when I relive my trauma due to having severe flashbacks that was extremely hard to get out of, years of nothing but Traumatic events since age 13, it has had resulted in my brain making me comfortable in my own suffering, creating a Trauma based nostalgia and a comfort.
I want some advise i have all of these signs and i had an expiriance like this 2 years ago and i dont want to go back to therapy and miss more school what do i do?
I have been struggling for the "needing to plan everything in my life" thing for a while now, it was a big step for me to delete some of my alarms on my phone to give myself some flexibility in my schedule.
I often plan doing things in my mind, but often times it derails because of something unexpected. Then, even though I have enough time to do it, I don’t and can’t do it anymore even though I still could’ve without any problems. Does this count?
we don't deserve them, remember that. as a person who's mother says the same thing,i think i know what you are going through.. I'm sorry that you have to,but more power to you🫂
My heart goes out to you guys.❤ One thing that has helped me is that if ppl have not gone through similar experiences as you or difficulties that it ruins your life, and dont even bother to try to understand what goes on in your mind, i have given them the free pass or accepted that they do not have the capacity or ability to empathize or sympathize with you because it'snot just in them yet, even if they are your friends or families and they've been around to see your struggles. It's only now that my siblings and friends and family etc come to me now for advice, for listening to their problems or grief, because i have ticked off every problem a person could have had. And i understand their pain and suffering and can give them the consolation of "seeing them" acknowledging them and to hear them out, without judgement. Dont pay attention. One day they will understand and even apologize that they did not support you better. Only the strong can endure the worst and still have a smile and help others. I have only had myself and im happy now to know i am always strong to handle every situation on my own. I also have accepted myself and love myself just the way i am with all impairments, flaws and complexities. Realized everyone is like that. Some are unf better to hide it or cope with their way of dealing with the stress. Please continue focusing on yourself
My grandpa was my only father figure growing up since my father left when I was 2. He and my grandma decided to go on a dangerous motorcycle trip to a different state for a vacation. The night before they left I had a really bad nightmare about him crashing and dying and begged them not to go. They went anyways and said they would be careful. It was those two and a family friend and her husband. The went up the mountain and wrecked. I still blame the friends to this day because they swerved over in front of my grandparents, and hit the front of their motorcycles. They wouldn’t even tell us why after. My grandma ended up breaking her foot and leg and my grandpa died. Months later close family just kept dying and I lost all feelings whatsoever. My mom thinks I’m just anxious and that I’ll get over it after I graduate high school. But there is something else than just anxiety. I know for sure that I have anxiety, depression, PTSD, and tics, but she thinks I want to go to the doctor just for medication. I want to move out soon.
I will never understand parents who ignore signs of their child like this. Not only is it horrible parenting, it destroys the trust they have in them. Your not alone. I went through a trauma too. I’m fighting this battle with you
Same thing happened to me but it was for my eyes, i keep telling my parents that I can’t see well and that I’m literally going to go blind and mom is like I know what you’re saying, that when she was a kid she also wanted to wear glasses to look cool and feel smart and that it’s just a phase and my dad was like your mom’s right, i had to spend a whole week trying to convince them that I’m not lying and I really need glasses to see and my mom still didn’t believe me but thankfully my dad did. The next day me and my dad went for an eye check up and i had the power of -2.5 in my right eye and when I came back home after ordering the glasses, my mom was like so you weren’t lying? I got soo annoyed and angered but didn’t say anything
I went through a lot of traumatic events as a child teen and young adult but was always told by my dad to never talk about anything and now I have to deal with all my unresolved trauma and my fear of speaking as an adult on my own.
Things get better for me on that night when I decided to sit down and write all about my trauma and cry my eyes out. I can finally accept who I am, accept the event (not completely tho) and move forward a little bit. I know taking a big step seems impossible, but if I take small steps at a time, I know I will be okay. Right now, all I need is little little improvement everyday, make sure today is slightly better than yesterday. That's enough for me.
We can only do what we're equipped to do in the moment. Hindsight tends to put the past in the context of what we know now, and we're often unfair judges of our past selves because of it.
Your fear of speaking up is also a sign of trauma. There must've been a time earlier where you tried to speak about something and were ignored, criticized or punished. Keep your head up though and wake your voice up
@Bella I ate a lot of weird stuff, loved hiding in a drawer, and one time my dad found me and my sister with our hands on each end of a knife. Surprisingly I am not dead, but one should thought I would be dead by now.
@@Ember_Kozume To be honest i had no clue I was traumatised but I avtually was. I was SA'd and didnt realise it was abuse until i was 14 (about 8 years after it happened.) and I went through other, smaller but plentiful traumatic experiences as a child. It all kind of added up despite there not being one big event that traumatised me, and I only realised when looking back at my experiences with my friends who were like "you realise that was abuse/that was a traumatic thing right?" and then things made sense. However, these are also symptoms of other issues like depression and anxiety so you might not actually be traumatised, rather you might have some other mental issues or just have some personal things you need to work through. either way I hope you stop feeling this way and are able to get help and move on from these feelings
@@whatisthis1958 I'm sorry to hear that happened to you, and I am actually getting help for my problems. And I only said things that happened when I was little. I was actually kind attacked when I was 11 and left an impact on me. The police was involved, but I am better now. Hope you also get help♡
These were very helpful. Could you please do a video on fear of success and self-sabotaging behaviour? I feel like there's so much content on fear of failure, but very little on fear of success and how to deal with it and heal from it. A video on managing it would be highly appreciated. Thank you 💕
I resonate with 3/4 of these and haven’t had any trauma that I’m aware of. I have really low self esteem and self deprecate myself far more than necessary, yet I don’t believe I’ve ever had a “traumatic memory”.
The gaps in memory are REAL. I have had a lot of trauma throughout my life to the point where I don't remember half of it, or at least most of the first 13ish years. I believe largely due to dissociation as a coping mechanism but Idk, I don't remember lol. Still working on it, my memory has been improving as I make new, better memories. It's just really relatable
please i watched part 1 AND 2 and i have all of them- i have had trauma twice in the past two months from two different people and apparently it hasn't healed. i don't know if it will. what happened in september and october still makes me cry myself to sleep at night
@@peppermiinti, can't help ya with that. Having the same thing myself and no idea how to overcome it. Go to the doctor, he might help. My problem here is that I can't tell my parents about it and without their involvement my thing would be cured by self therapy only (no budget).
I still have some trauma from way back when I was 5 when I was forced onto a ride at Splash Mountain, and to this day, I still need to plan for everything and having difficulty focusing. I've definitely overcame the positive change resistance, fear of failure and fear of success, and while I'm still working on constantly having to plan for everything and having difficulty focusing, I'm still a long way from completing that fix.
There was a little kid that suffered from physical abuse, and saw his siblings being abused… multiple times a week. He got emotionally neglected every single day, it seemed like he didn’t have parents. Soon he started to feel suicidal… That kid doesn’t exist anymore. Now we are five people living inside his body :( Can anyone help us? We’d appreciate any advice :3
I’m so afraid of succeeding and then losing my success. In other words a sort of reverse failure. It’s a pattern in my life that I’m pretty sure my mind is perpetuating, but I don’t know how to break the cycle. I wish I had people to talk to, especially people who have failed in their dreams, because it feels like the only person I’ve known who has experienced failure is myself.
It’s pretty bad when your parents understand that it’s going on they do something to help and then they just forget about it and make it worse and worse and worse than trying to turn the friends then they spread around that you’re not well
I actually noticed that slowly my brain has been getting worse at concentration and keeping focus on one thought (for example I can’t do long division in my head anymore and I’m actually starting to get easily distracted in class more often)
There once was this time I was 4 or 5 and I was at my old house a year or two before we moved to our new house. My grandmother told me to go give something to my dad. And I didn't know he didn't want me to call him by his first name, so I called him by his first name. He chased me into the living room NOT IN A FUN WAY. I hid under the desk where my grandmother was at the time and everyone started yelling at each other and I heard this at the end "I WILL CALL THE COPS ON YOU"and a little bit afterwards I heard police sirens outside my house. I can't forget this. 😢
I can't imagine how messed up a person has to be to make a child go through something like that. I hope you're okay now, and if not remember there's people out there who can help you manage any emotional distress you may be experiencing right now.
Man, the rejecting positivity. I rejected my _now_ beloved a few times, because I just couldn't wrap my mind around actually being happy. I was actually happy, not "okay" but happy, and questioned my happiness daily. I'm glad he stuck around though. It took a while, but I've now accepted that someone does love me and I love him back. I still have things to work through, I'm sure, but I've improved my life a little bit by finally getting and receiving the love I've been crying out for for years. Oh: I forgot to add. I never thought that THIS type of behaviour is a sign of unhealed trauma. I didn't even think I could possibly have trauma, until recently. So, that's the "wow". I need sleep, I feel like I'm not explaining correctly.
I feel like the other person is not listening to what needs to happen and what I know needs to happen...for me to feel safe and that I am with someone that is being completely honest with me...because no one wants to apply them self on a physical level...no the superficial level I have always been on ....MY ENTIRE LIFE BECAUSE OF MY BIOLOGICAL MOTHER!!!MAY GOD HELP ME NOW AND CHANGE ME AND MY TRAUMA!!!!!
50% of me thinks I am hopeless brat who doesn’t deserve everything she has and just wants attention and always talk about herself. Then the other 50% is like what if I am broken maybe I need help Both sides fight constantly for about most my life and you guys know more then anyone in my life usually just keep it to myself Have great day :)
Psych2Go made a terrible mistake here. “Blackout’s” are a result of alcohol and drug use. Instead, what choice of words that would be more suitable for this particular topic is “Brown-outs” = forgetting, can’t remember etc. No ill intended… I’m Browning out like crazy… so much so there are times I cry about it. But I know it’s very stress related. Way way too much of a lifetime of trauma. Yet some things are better off being forgotten. 61 and still struggling over a lost love 45 years ago. ☮️
DAMN I DIDNT KNOW I THOUGHT I WAS WEIRD HAVING THIS THE WORST ONE IS I CAN BARELY REMEMBER ANYTHING EVEN IF IT WAS A FEW MINUTES AGO I JUST REMEMVER ALL MY TRAUMA ITS SO CLEAR
3 and 4 for me. I give up in my mind before I try. I might start out ok, but then really go down from there. I'm just good at hiding it. I brush off sucess as "meh, whatever"
As a child, this is NOT OK! Even if you an adult. Any abuse is not ok. If your seeing this, your like me. Someone who doesn’t want to confess. That’s ok
Blacking out often got me, once I think of something interesting I get too attached to it. But hey I was able to get out of that trauma after online school was finished, it was one hell of a ride I mean it's *online class* , face to face is always the best because you are able to meet your classmates real time and enjoy school a lot better than just online where you are isolated, merely able to see what your classmates really look like and etc.
I've recently started to notice that- 1. my happiness hardly lasts longer 2. I haven't been excited for stuffs I used to be 3. I Definetely hav trouble sleeping peacefully (or maybe it's just that I'm not sleepy) 4. I've started to feel lonely and no one talk to even though I hav friends and I live with my family... 5. I feel that being alone sometimes could be the best feeling Is it ok to feel all this?
I thought I healed and have been triggered recently. Absolute spiral. The trauma I used to laugh at is now back to being an extreme irrational fear. Fighting through it
I feel like I'm a lost cause. I keep finding out more and more about how fake my family is, their "enhanced" or even entirely fabricated achievements, their narcissism, their hate towards anything they don't understand (including the LGBTQ community, which I am a part of, and I hate it), years and years of torture and torment at schools from unruly kids and teachers that either joined in or didn't care, neglect from the people I needed most, favoritism towards my older sister, malnourishment, being berated for my grades when I just can't focus but they refuse to listen, I'm almost certainly not graduating now, and I've completely given up. I've tried therapy, I've tried exercise, I've tried meditation, the only thing I haven't tried is medication because I can't access it. I'm not sure I want to live to see next year.
I can understand your frustration with everything and everyone, try not to worry about what you can't control and focus on what you can. DON'T listen to your mean thoughts listen to your heart and just make it all about you and try your best to self-love. I have my own struggles as well and I have been focusing on these couple things and it helps me just to keep moving forward.
I'm sorry to hear that you are going through such a tough time and are feeling suicidal. I'm not sure if I can help much, but I can relate to your graduation problem because I dropped out when I was about a year away from it, due to the sheer hell that my life was at that point. It's still very difficult being at home all the time, being forced to pretend to be happy in order to avoid trouble. My mother doesn't seem to be homophobic but I'm not bothered to tell her that I'm bi/gay (best word for that would be homoflexible). I've also been dealing with suicidal thoughts since I was 8 and am still dealing with them today. My way of not succumbing to them is remembering that it's very likely that I will someday run into someone who really cares about me. You might not have anybody that cares about you at the moment, but you will eventually. I know that may not be very comforting, it's probably still long a path before you reach that point. But I can at least try to make you feel better with this comment.
I actually have a trauma, that causes me to ALWAYS plan everything in smallest steps. What's funny - no matter how good my plan is, ALMOST EVERYTIME it fails in most unexpected way possible... And it just feeds my behaviour of planning everything.
Thanks i was really wondering why i have started to forget most parts of when i was a kid or even what happened a month ago, gave me the feeling that i wasnt the one that lived it, but know i know its due to trauma
i am so ashamed to admit it but i was a very toxic person in the past. i don't think i have trauma from what i did but i présent so much symptoms. i feel so guilty it's been 3 years i live in autopilot and resist friendships because i feel guilty to be happy after being a horrible person even though now i am not and changed my attitude. i feel so bad.
I KNOW for a fact my trauma never healed, i cant accept that hes gone the fact i had been abused and he came into my life saving me.. he was my hero, but then he trashed it by abandoning me, i became HOMELESS i was a 10 year old on the streets..
i had lots of trauma..and im very dissapointed at myself for being so negative but is still being negative because of my many traumas including sexual harassment, got abused. nearly witnessing my baby sister death, if she got hit by a very fast car if I didn't grab her fast, and alot. of. public harassment. once witness 3 death recently at once, just many trauma, I'm very petrified and I can relate with this video.
For years i wanted to get help and grow past things. I wanted to get better and be happy. With no resources or any positive change in sight, I’ve given up. Now i feel worse then ever yet i find comfort in the pain. You could even describe it as a dependence on the pain. I dont want help. I want to feel worse actually. Is this a normal way to feel? Edit: “i want to feel worse actually” of course i want to feel better still, but what i mean is i would rather procrastinate and continue to feel like shit then to become happy. As if i were addicted to feeling like shit. I want to feel worse because i feel like im not sad enough for my feelings to be valid.
I have this trauma, story:I always plan things, Js b4 a exam i look threw everything js to make sure, And study a few weeks b4 2:My Parents/Grandparents always pressure me, I got a 98, but i was still worried, My friend told me u had the highest grade in the class! U should be proud tbh. My friends got like 65,80
This is pretty vague and undefined, and I feel as though those who do not have trauma or who potentially have a completely different mental health thing going on might see this and be completely misguided by it. These symptoms could describe a lot of different things going on in someone’s life that aren’t even related to trauma
Doesn't matter what I do, it is impossible to failure. Even the ugliest thing is beautiful. There is no ugly or wrong. .... Yess, I don't accepts negativitys or something like that
There should be good therapists available to help you, but many are not trained in trauma, and in some times and places, there can be a shortage or affordable ones are hard to find. I'm not saying this to discourage anyone from looking but rather to support you if you are having trouble finding what you need. I wish the situation were better!
I relate to all of this ... But I can't remember any particular traumatic experience. I don't have much of a memory of a lot of stuff that happened when I was younger. A lot of it my mind has blocked out. What I do remember is arguing with my friends and breaking down crying because of the stress my parents were putting on me... It might be that. I'm kinda confused
I really...really want to ask my parents to bring me to therapy cause god knows i need it. But...they constantly brought up our family's financial issues and i just...cant bring myself to cause another burden for them. I've been thinking of improving my drawing skill (the only skill i have and am pretty decent at) and open commission so i can go with my own money one day. I just hope i can last long enough untill then... Your channel has helped me realize i need help more than i thought so thank you ❤
"A history of trauma can give you a high tolerance for emotional pain. Just because you can take it doesn't mean you have to. You really don't have to!" - Dr. Thema.
What is this from? A book or personal experience?
yikes.
@@DarkestLove191 for me it’s personal experience
You don't treat life as an adventure you treat it as though you're a soldier on patrol somewhere. Things must be done because they need to be done to end the day and you punish yourself without thinking if you don't succeed in finishing them. It's hard to change but you can slowly. Videos like this help, thank you.🥰
Wow. What a thing to say.
1. Resist compliments
2. Fear of failure
3. Fear of success
4. Need to plan everything
5. Difficulty concentrating/zones out
The key for me was true acceptance after receiving treatment (bipolar, lots of trauma). In order to fight past my insecurity and doubt, mistrust and anger, I had to just sit for awhile and just accept what happened, come to terms with the fact that not everyone or thing is the same. I looked for examples of good things in my life and found people that gave me the strength to move on and LIVE. It was truly like things turned on a dime. I landed a great job with and even better company. I met my current girlfriend and am incredibly happy. I finally feel like I can relax and not be so on edge all the time. So for anyone out there struggling, I'm begging you please do yourself a favor and book an appointment with your doctor and just go and tell them everything. If your family doesn't believe in it then just don't tell them you're doing it, it's none of their business anyway hence confidentiality. You mean something, and you owe it to yourself to get help and be able to be happy.
Agree! Things get better for me on that night when I decided to sit down and write about my trauma and cry my eyes out. I can finally accept myself, accept the event and move forward (well... only a little bit 😂)
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You guys gonna make me see a doctor!😂
There's a high probability that I, too, am gonna see a psychiatrist! Or whatever yall call them!😵💀
@@invaderzim1265 and there's nothing wrong with that. There's no harm in seeking counsel. There's a reason kings did the same for lots of things. It's a good idea if you're struggling, because you don't have to do it alone
Great job!
I noticed my brain, from all the unhealed trauma, it has started to make my trauma as an nostalgia and a depressed themed, comfort feeling when I relive my trauma due to having severe flashbacks that was extremely hard to get out of, years of nothing but Traumatic events since age 13, it has had resulted in my brain making me comfortable in my own suffering, creating a Trauma based nostalgia and a comfort.
Same here
Mines since I was 2
That explains so much for me, thank you so so much for sharing
Do you know anyone who is not troubled by a difficult past? Comment below if you do.
me :)
@@greysettings9288 me too.
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I want some advise i have all of these signs and i had an expiriance like this 2 years ago and i dont want to go back to therapy and miss more school what do i do?
Me, Myself, & I,,,
I have been struggling for the "needing to plan everything in my life" thing for a while now, it was a big step for me to delete some of my alarms on my phone to give myself some flexibility in my schedule.
I often plan doing things in my mind, but often times it derails because of something unexpected. Then, even though I have enough time to do it, I don’t and can’t do it anymore even though I still could’ve without any problems. Does this count?
I told my mom I found it hard to concentrate and she said if I weren't so lazy and was actually willing to learn, then it wouldn't be so hard
we don't deserve them, remember that. as a person who's mother says the same thing,i think i know what you are going through.. I'm sorry that you have to,but more power to you🫂
My heart goes out to you guys.❤
One thing that has helped me is that if ppl have not gone through similar experiences as you or difficulties that it ruins your life, and dont even bother to try to understand what goes on in your mind, i have given them the free pass or accepted that they do not have the capacity or ability to empathize or sympathize with you because it'snot just in them yet, even if they are your friends or families and they've been around to see your struggles.
It's only now that my siblings and friends and family etc come to me now for advice, for listening to their problems or grief, because i have ticked off every problem a person could have had. And i understand their pain and suffering and can give them the consolation of "seeing them" acknowledging them and to hear them out, without judgement.
Dont pay attention. One day they will understand and even apologize that they did not support you better.
Only the strong can endure the worst and still have a smile and help others.
I have only had myself and im happy now to know i am always strong to handle every situation on my own.
I also have accepted myself and love myself just the way i am with all impairments, flaws and complexities.
Realized everyone is like that. Some are unf better to hide it or cope with their way of dealing with the stress.
Please continue focusing on yourself
My parents say exactly the same thing
My grandpa was my only father figure growing up since my father left when I was 2. He and my grandma decided to go on a dangerous motorcycle trip to a different state for a vacation. The night before they left I had a really bad nightmare about him crashing and dying and begged them not to go. They went anyways and said they would be careful. It was those two and a family friend and her husband. The went up the mountain and wrecked. I still blame the friends to this day because they swerved over in front of my grandparents, and hit the front of their motorcycles. They wouldn’t even tell us why after. My grandma ended up breaking her foot and leg and my grandpa died. Months later close family just kept dying and I lost all feelings whatsoever. My mom thinks I’m just anxious and that I’ll get over it after I graduate high school. But there is something else than just anxiety. I know for sure that I have anxiety, depression, PTSD, and tics, but she thinks I want to go to the doctor just for medication. I want to move out soon.
😔 my parents never believed in me 😒., I understand you!
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I will never understand parents who ignore signs of their child like this. Not only is it horrible parenting, it destroys the trust they have in them.
Your not alone. I went through a trauma too. I’m fighting this battle with you
Same thing happened to me but it was for my eyes, i keep telling my parents that I can’t see well and that I’m literally going to go blind and mom is like I know what you’re saying, that when she was a kid she also wanted to wear glasses to look cool and feel smart and that it’s just a phase and my dad was like your mom’s right, i had to spend a whole week trying to convince them that I’m not lying and I really need glasses to see and my mom still didn’t believe me but thankfully my dad did. The next day me and my dad went for an eye check up and i had the power of -2.5 in my right eye and when I came back home after ordering the glasses, my mom was like so you weren’t lying? I got soo annoyed and angered but didn’t say anything
Fear of Failure
Definitely me. no matter what people tell me, I just never do things that progress my life or even confessing to someone
And that failure should really be called something else because is only an opportunity to learn more... that's the blessing.❤
I went through a lot of traumatic events as a child teen and young adult but was always told by my dad to never talk about anything and now I have to deal with all my unresolved trauma and my fear of speaking as an adult on my own.
Things get better for me on that night when I decided to sit down and write all about my trauma and cry my eyes out. I can finally accept who I am, accept the event (not completely tho) and move forward a little bit. I know taking a big step seems impossible, but if I take small steps at a time, I know I will be okay. Right now, all I need is little little improvement everyday, make sure today is slightly better than yesterday. That's enough for me.
♡ Thank you. This is a great reminder.
i could have avoided my trauma but i was too afraid to speak up :(
What happened if you don't mind me asking 😥
We can only do what we're equipped to do in the moment. Hindsight tends to put the past in the context of what we know now, and we're often unfair judges of our past selves because of it.
@@CFSworks beautifully put
Your fear of speaking up is also a sign of trauma. There must've been a time earlier where you tried to speak about something and were ignored, criticized or punished. Keep your head up though and wake your voice up
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So according to this I have unhealed trauma… But… What is my trauma? Was it all that weird stuff I did as little, or…?
Same... I have no idea what my trauma is either.
@Bella I ate a lot of weird stuff, loved hiding in a drawer, and one time my dad found me and my sister with our hands on each end of a knife. Surprisingly I am not dead, but one should thought I would be dead by now.
@@Ember_Kozume To be honest i had no clue I was traumatised but I avtually was. I was SA'd and didnt realise it was abuse until i was 14 (about 8 years after it happened.) and I went through other, smaller but plentiful traumatic experiences as a child. It all kind of added up despite there not being one big event that traumatised me, and I only realised when looking back at my experiences with my friends who were like "you realise that was abuse/that was a traumatic thing right?" and then things made sense. However, these are also symptoms of other issues like depression and anxiety so you might not actually be traumatised, rather you might have some other mental issues or just have some personal things you need to work through. either way I hope you stop feeling this way and are able to get help and move on from these feelings
@@whatisthis1958 I'm sorry to hear that happened to you, and I am actually getting help for my problems. And I only said things that happened when I was little. I was actually kind attacked when I was 11 and left an impact on me. The police was involved, but I am better now. Hope you also get help♡
Not always what you did you what happened to you,
Sometimes it can be about what you didn’t have or didn’t get 💙
These were very helpful. Could you please do a video on fear of success and self-sabotaging behaviour? I feel like there's so much content on fear of failure, but very little on fear of success and how to deal with it and heal from it. A video on managing it would be highly appreciated. Thank you 💕
THISSS^^^❤
Yessssss
These videos is the thing we need
English class is the thing you need.
@@Marc-zf5zg Abusive, English Class ?
@Psych2Go can you please make a video: How to Heal Unhealed Trauma ? I think we need some more videos on this topic, pretty please!!
I resonate with 3/4 of these and haven’t had any trauma that I’m aware of. I have really low self esteem and self deprecate myself far more than necessary, yet I don’t believe I’ve ever had a “traumatic memory”.
Same, i resonate with two-three of them and i don't remember sh!t
I was bullied for two years and now I am afraid of everything like being alone, failure and other people in the same age
Also I really like your videos
how too tell they have unheal trauma, you can see them having flashbacks
The first one called me out like bro i wasnt ready😭
The gaps in memory are REAL. I have had a lot of trauma throughout my life to the point where I don't remember half of it, or at least most of the first 13ish years. I believe largely due to dissociation as a coping mechanism but Idk, I don't remember lol. Still working on it, my memory has been improving as I make new, better memories. It's just really relatable
1, 2, 3 and 5. Y'know what, I won't even make another joke of it. This really makes me think too much.
please i watched part 1 AND 2 and i have all of them- i have had trauma twice in the past two months from two different people and apparently it hasn't healed. i don't know if it will. what happened in september and october still makes me cry myself to sleep at night
@@peppermiinti, can't help ya with that. Having the same thing myself and no idea how to overcome it. Go to the doctor, he might help.
My problem here is that I can't tell my parents about it and without their involvement my thing would be cured by self therapy only (no budget).
Your voice is so soothing.
Your channel has helped me a lot. I just want to say thank you
I got traumatized when a rude and mean girl cursed at me and made me cry in school
I'm currently experiencing all of these... 🥺
I have fear of sucess, its quite hard to think of things changing
The problem is I don’t know what part of my life was traumatic in a way?? There’re only two things I can think of but I don’t really think it’s that
I still have some trauma from way back when I was 5 when I was forced onto a ride at Splash Mountain, and to this day, I still need to plan for everything and having difficulty focusing. I've definitely overcame the positive change resistance, fear of failure and fear of success, and while I'm still working on constantly having to plan for everything and having difficulty focusing, I'm still a long way from completing that fix.
There was a little kid that suffered from physical abuse, and saw his siblings being abused… multiple times a week. He got emotionally neglected every single day, it seemed like he didn’t have parents. Soon he started to feel suicidal…
That kid doesn’t exist anymore. Now we are five people living inside his body :( Can anyone help us? We’d appreciate any advice :3
Omg, Tyssssm!! I'm trying so hard to figure out what my problem actually is. This may be it!? Ty!♡
"Do better" "I am not satisfied" "Even though u tried u still came second" yes these are the things i hear...
I’m so afraid of succeeding and then losing my success. In other words a sort of reverse failure. It’s a pattern in my life that I’m pretty sure my mind is perpetuating, but I don’t know how to break the cycle. I wish I had people to talk to, especially people who have failed in their dreams, because it feels like the only person I’ve known who has experienced failure is myself.
Your messages are very helpful but your artist is fantastic. Love it
Even small trauma can have a huge effect. Like how my puberty trauma made me body shame myself and i had depression for 2 years
I can’t think of any specific time of trauma, but I can STRONGLY relate to all these things
This channel helps me so much
I got 5 out of 5!. Do I get an elephant sticker or 50 years of misery and self-loathing. Oh...forget it, I already have the latter.
Fear of both success and failure is fear of moving forward. If it’s not too positive to run away from, have an elephant sticker.
Gotta catch em all!
what's the point of knowing what you have if you cant do anything to change? specially when you dont have anyone that can help
Ask for a therapist. It will help.
I've been through so many failures and traumas in my life that I wonder if is there something positive for me, somewhere
I thought I finally healed 😭
And also fear of being judged 😢
Please don't ever stop making these videos ♥
It’s pretty bad when your parents understand that it’s going on they do something to help and then they just forget about it and make it worse and worse and worse than trying to turn the friends then they spread around that you’re not well
I actually noticed that slowly my brain has been getting worse at concentration and keeping focus on one thought (for example I can’t do long division in my head anymore and I’m actually starting to get easily distracted in class more often)
There once was this time I was 4 or 5 and I was at my old house a year or two before we moved to our new house. My grandmother told me to go give something to my dad. And I didn't know he didn't want me to call him by his first name, so I called him by his first name. He chased me into the living room NOT IN A FUN WAY. I hid under the desk where my grandmother was at the time and everyone started yelling at each other and I heard this at the end "I WILL CALL THE COPS ON YOU"and a little bit afterwards I heard police sirens outside my house. I can't forget this. 😢
I can't imagine how messed up a person has to be to make a child go through something like that. I hope you're okay now, and if not remember there's people out there who can help you manage any emotional distress you may be experiencing right now.
To the person who will read this :>
- I hope you heal from your trauma that no one's apologize for
I feel worse yet happy of this information thank you
Man, the rejecting positivity. I rejected my _now_ beloved a few times, because I just couldn't wrap my mind around actually being happy. I was actually happy, not "okay" but happy, and questioned my happiness daily.
I'm glad he stuck around though. It took a while, but I've now accepted that someone does love me and I love him back. I still have things to work through, I'm sure, but I've improved my life a little bit by finally getting and receiving the love I've been crying out for for years.
Oh: I forgot to add. I never thought that THIS type of behaviour is a sign of unhealed trauma. I didn't even think I could possibly have trauma, until recently. So, that's the "wow".
I need sleep, I feel like I'm not explaining correctly.
I feel like the other person is not listening to what needs to happen and what I know needs to happen...for me to feel safe and that I am with someone that is being completely honest with me...because no one wants to apply them self on a physical level...no the superficial level I have always been on ....MY ENTIRE LIFE BECAUSE OF MY BIOLOGICAL MOTHER!!!MAY GOD HELP ME NOW AND CHANGE ME AND MY TRAUMA!!!!!
I have a slowly intense fear of failure, now i know why
I can’t eccentric positive change… it’s still a problem with me… now my life gets better but I always try to ruin it, I try make it worse
50% of me thinks I am hopeless brat who doesn’t deserve everything she has and just wants attention and always talk about herself.
Then the other 50% is like what if I am broken maybe I need help
Both sides fight constantly for about most my life and you guys know more then anyone in my life usually just keep it to myself
Have great day :)
My trauma were my so called friends they talk behind my back and make me feel bad about my self and make me feel like I can't do anything right
Psych2Go made a terrible mistake here.
“Blackout’s” are a result of alcohol and drug use.
Instead, what choice of words that would be more suitable for this particular topic is “Brown-outs” = forgetting, can’t remember etc.
No ill intended…
I’m Browning out like crazy… so much so there are times I cry about it. But I know it’s very stress related.
Way way too much of a lifetime of trauma.
Yet some things are better off being forgotten.
61 and still struggling over a lost love 45 years ago.
☮️
I kinda have trauma because of a stupid reason
However dumb the reason is, your trauma is trauma. It's valid.
Dont ever say it, you will only be ridiculed noone is your friend here .
Don't
And there is one more at least for me having dreams more precisely nightmares about the memories you want to forgot about.
DAMN I DIDNT KNOW I THOUGHT I WAS WEIRD HAVING THIS THE WORST ONE IS I CAN BARELY REMEMBER ANYTHING EVEN IF IT WAS A FEW MINUTES AGO I JUST REMEMVER ALL MY TRAUMA ITS SO CLEAR
sad to admit but this is me. totally.
3 and 4 for me. I give up in my mind before I try. I might start out ok, but then really go down from there. I'm just good at hiding it. I brush off sucess as "meh, whatever"
As a child, this is NOT OK! Even if you an adult. Any abuse is not ok. If your seeing this, your like me. Someone who doesn’t want to confess. That’s ok
It gets Worse when other people shame you for it.
Blacking out often got me, once I think of something interesting I get too attached to it. But hey I was able to get out of that trauma after online school was finished, it was one hell of a ride
I mean it's *online class* , face to face is always the best because you are able to meet your classmates real time and enjoy school a lot better than just online where you are isolated, merely able to see what your classmates really look like and etc.
Perfect animation
I've recently started to notice that-
1. my happiness hardly lasts longer
2. I haven't been excited for stuffs I used to be
3. I Definetely hav trouble sleeping peacefully (or maybe it's just that I'm not sleepy)
4. I've started to feel lonely and no one talk to even though I hav friends and I live with my family...
5. I feel that being alone sometimes could be the best feeling
Is it ok to feel all this?
I'm sorry u not resting I'm here for u in heart not in words today. Merry Christmas control your mind 🙏
I thought I healed and have been triggered recently. Absolute spiral. The trauma I used to laugh at is now back to being an extreme irrational fear. Fighting through it
Thank you for those observations. They are true, I know some of them too well…
1. You resist positive change
2. You need to plan for everything
3. You have a strong fear of failure
5. You have difficulty concentrating
4gotten
I feel like I'm a lost cause. I keep finding out more and more about how fake my family is, their "enhanced" or even entirely fabricated achievements, their narcissism, their hate towards anything they don't understand (including the LGBTQ community, which I am a part of, and I hate it), years and years of torture and torment at schools from unruly kids and teachers that either joined in or didn't care, neglect from the people I needed most, favoritism towards my older sister, malnourishment, being berated for my grades when I just can't focus but they refuse to listen, I'm almost certainly not graduating now, and I've completely given up. I've tried therapy, I've tried exercise, I've tried meditation, the only thing I haven't tried is medication because I can't access it. I'm not sure I want to live to see next year.
I can understand your frustration with everything and everyone, try not to worry about what you can't control and focus on what you can. DON'T listen to your mean thoughts listen to your heart and just make it all about you and try your best to self-love. I have my own struggles as well and I have been focusing on these couple things and it helps me just to keep moving forward.
I'm sorry to hear that you are going through such a tough time and are feeling suicidal. I'm not sure if I can help much, but I can relate to your graduation problem because I dropped out when I was about a year away from it, due to the sheer hell that my life was at that point. It's still very difficult being at home all the time, being forced to pretend to be happy in order to avoid trouble. My mother doesn't seem to be homophobic but I'm not bothered to tell her that I'm bi/gay (best word for that would be homoflexible). I've also been dealing with suicidal thoughts since I was 8 and am still dealing with them today.
My way of not succumbing to them is remembering that it's very likely that I will someday run into someone who really cares about me. You might not have anybody that cares about you at the moment, but you will eventually. I know that may not be very comforting, it's probably still long a path before you reach that point. But I can at least try to make you feel better with this comment.
The problem for me is that I don't remember anything traumatizing or that life changing on my whole life .....
Too many of these hit home.
that went by so fast I barely recall what point one was !!!
I realized everything on this list applies to me, but I don't know what trauma I would have
ALL MY LIFE I USED TO BELIEVED IN FAIRY TALES AND PRINCE CHARMING.. NOT UNTIL I MET SEVERAL GUYS AND THEY ALL BREAK MY HEARTS ..
I actually have a trauma, that causes me to ALWAYS plan everything in smallest steps. What's funny - no matter how good my plan is, ALMOST EVERYTIME it fails in most unexpected way possible... And it just feeds my behaviour of planning everything.
Thanks i was really wondering why i have started to forget most parts of when i was a kid or even what happened a month ago, gave me the feeling that i wasnt the one that lived it, but know i know its due to trauma
i am so ashamed to admit it but i was a very toxic person in the past. i don't think i have trauma from what i did but i présent so much symptoms. i feel so guilty it's been 3 years i live in autopilot and resist friendships because i feel guilty to be happy after being a horrible person even though now i am not and changed my attitude. i feel so bad.
I KNOW for a fact my trauma never healed, i cant accept that hes gone the fact i had been abused and he came into my life saving me.. he was my hero, but then he trashed it by abandoning me, i became HOMELESS i was a 10 year old on the streets..
i had lots of trauma..and im very dissapointed at myself for being so negative but is still being negative because of my many traumas including sexual harassment, got abused. nearly witnessing my baby sister death, if she got hit by a very fast car if I didn't grab her fast, and alot. of. public harassment. once witness 3 death recently at once, just many trauma, I'm very petrified and I can relate with this video.
Can u please make a video of how to overcome these traumas?
Commenting to get yall on youtube algorithm!
For years i wanted to get help and grow past things. I wanted to get better and be happy.
With no resources or any positive change in sight, I’ve given up.
Now i feel worse then ever yet i find comfort in the pain. You could even describe it as a dependence on the pain.
I dont want help. I want to feel worse actually. Is this a normal way to feel?
Edit: “i want to feel worse actually” of course i want to feel better still, but what i mean is i would rather procrastinate and continue to feel like shit then to become happy. As if i were addicted to feeling like shit.
I want to feel worse because i feel like im not sad enough for my feelings to be valid.
Same i'm used to the depression now ive lost all hope
Fear of failure.
I failed everything, all the hard work I did I failed.
POV: you have every sign 🧍♀️
POV: you also don't remember anything that bad in your life.
I have this trauma,
story:I always plan things, Js b4 a exam i look threw everything js to make sure, And study a few weeks b4
2:My Parents/Grandparents always pressure me, I got a 98, but i was still worried, My friend told me u had the highest grade in the class! U should be proud tbh. My friends got like 65,80
So.....I have an unhealed trauma.........so long having toxic friends-
This is pretty vague and undefined, and I feel as though those who do not have trauma or who potentially have a completely different mental health thing going on might see this and be completely misguided by it. These symptoms could describe a lot of different things going on in someone’s life that aren’t even related to trauma
Doesn't matter what I do, it is impossible to failure. Even the ugliest thing is beautiful. There is no ugly or wrong.
....
Yess, I don't accepts negativitys or something like that
I suffer through all of these
And how do u fix this exactly?
I wish I knew 🥲
idk :/
There should be good therapists available to help you, but many are not trained in trauma, and in some times and places, there can be a shortage or affordable ones are hard to find. I'm not saying this to discourage anyone from looking but rather to support you if you are having trouble finding what you need. I wish the situation were better!
Thx
I hope everyone falls asleep quickly. Wishing everyone a happy wake up and a good rest 👑👑👑👑
I relate to all of this ... But I can't remember any particular traumatic experience. I don't have much of a memory of a lot of stuff that happened when I was younger. A lot of it my mind has blocked out. What I do remember is arguing with my friends and breaking down crying because of the stress my parents were putting on me... It might be that. I'm kinda confused
I really...really want to ask my parents to bring me to therapy cause god knows i need it. But...they constantly brought up our family's financial issues and i just...cant bring myself to cause another burden for them. I've been thinking of improving my drawing skill (the only skill i have and am pretty decent at) and open commission so i can go with my own money one day. I just hope i can last long enough untill then... Your channel has helped me realize i need help more than i thought so thank you ❤
Oh the stress of me not achieving my goal that ONE goal that can change my life, that can make me money is just 💥
I just gotta say the animation is really cool . If that's even considered to be animation lol idk but I love it.
I literally feel all of that especially my parents don't know what I am
Wow… based on this short alone, I seem to be making strides in healing my trauma. 🤔
Nice! Gotta keep that momentum going. 😄
This helped a lot-
I too have a fear of success and it's been a long time I have now realised it .
Then the trauma was caused by the ones who are supposed to (at least) make you feel safe.