Should You Date a Blind Girl?: A Chat with My Fiancee
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- čas přidán 30. 03. 2021
- Hello people, I'm Kirsten. I thought you all would enjoy a sit-down video with my fiancee Joe to discuss a few very candid questions about dating a blind person, what the potential obstacles are, and how to respond when those around you cannot accept you for who you are.
If you enjoy this video, check out the others on my channel:
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And connect with me on Instagram:
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And also connect with Joe on his Instagram:
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I was with a woman who used a wheelchair for twelve years. She was the love of my life until cancer took her in 2016. We met online and her profile photo showed her in her chair. In my opinion, up front honesty at that level will either weed out the ones who aren't interested or it may give them a chance to do some soul searching. Finally, I want to say that I felt a lot of pride being able to help Amy when she did need it. And even though she was a tough independent woman who found adaptive ways to do most things, she did need help sometimes. I loved her, and when she needed help, it made me feel like a man and her protector to be there for her. I enjoyed your video!!!!!
I love the relationship you two have! This was one of my favorite videos, for sure.
Hi Kirsten and Joe:
What a wonderful video with a lot of truth. Joe, I laughed out loud when you said that if you don’t date someone simply because of an external thing, you’re a punk. .... Yes, I agree, though I’m trying to be more patient and maybe give people the benefit of the doubt of just being ignorant. It’s hard, though.
As a blind woman myself, I know too well the feeling of being judged and rejected; I’ve had people shut me out on and offline and completely disregard any of my contributions based on my blindness. Ableism is still hugely present in our society, and for me anyway, sometimes the sadness feels overwhelming.
On the other hand, not everyone is a punk, and I celebrate ad thank those who are generous, who want to form meaningful relationships and who even acknowledge that as you said Kirsten, none of us are infallible.
Kirsten, I can also relate to being grumpy when someone says he/she can’t see something. I get really impatient and like you, I’m like: Dude, your eyes work! Why the hell can’t you freaking see that?
I’m really trying to work on that, too.
Thanks for posting and sharing. It was really wonderful to hear from both of you, especially your perspective Joe, as a sighted man.
Take care.
Loved it!!! Keep letting us into your lives! You are amazing!!!!
I love seeing her wander behind the couch while you film. This was a great video -
Congratulations again!
Sorry, I just want to say, as a starer, I worry about my staring bothering people and do some weird look away half stare which I feel like probably looks even weirder.
The reason I stare are:
1) Instinctual threat detection (I have been attacked by a dog.)
2) Does the person need help?
3) You are doing something so cool or something awesome is happening to you that I want to enjoy it with you in my mind. Like watching a happy movie, and being happy from the third hand experience.
4) That looks difficult, and I'm sorry, but all I can do is pray for you from a distance.
I feel like it's hard to gauge if someone wants to be seen or doesn't want to be seen, so I just have to guess what to do each time.
Aww! He’s so cute!!!
You two are so awesome!! Y’all are so cute and I love how happy you are :’)
Loved this! You guys are so natural I love it! I’m totally blind and my boyfriend and I celebrated our 7 year anniversary last month! Blindness is definitely not a barrier for us! X
Thank you! And happy anniversary to you and your boyfriend!
Yes actually true
I think that a blind woman might teach many things to a man, and if he is lucky enough, expecially spiritual things!
Love E it!
Yo both r awesomeeeeeeee
Well Krystin, just curious. Do you still go barefoot in the warm weather? I think that having things like is very important; and for me, that would be one of them. Well, take care.