Have YOU GUYS heard any of these? Lets talk about it! *P.S. send this video to your parents or ur bff, id love to open up the conversation with them* ❤
when I first came out I told my sister to tell my mother because I was ashamed, after 3 years of being gay I finally had the courage to let her know and she was about to pass out she told me to go to church and pray and that it is not normal,my father doesn't know , I've never heard anyone say those kind of things.
@@FALLEN_ANGEL871 i cant even imagine how terrible it must have been to hear her say that, but as little as it means from someone random on the internet i _promise_ it is normal and you and your parents will figure it out one day, and until then (and after) we’re all here for you here. You’re an amazing person, i can just tell. I wish you the best!! ❤😊
A few months ago, my friend came out as bi and started dating another girl. Many of my friends were gay/bi, so it was normal to me. However, i started questioning my sexuality, and it was a really hard journey. My mind didn't want me to be anything but straight, and when i thought i was bi, my brain was like "pick a side". I was so caught up in the whole thing i literally made myself sick for several days. However, watching your videos has really helped me, and i have finally come to terms with my sexuality. You especially helped me realize that bi people don't have to have 50/50 attraction to men and women. I figured out i have a stronger attraction to women. You've really helped me and i wish i would have found you earlier. Tysm for all you do! You make such a big difference on so many lives! (Sorry you had to read a whole novel 😂) happy pride month! 🏳️🌈
This was such a great refreshed video. I’ve been told mostly “You don’t look gay” even by other lesbians and bisexual women, “You haven’t found the right man”, “You’re too good looking to be a lesbian”. And additionally, whenever I’m single and they ask me if I’m married? No. You have a boyfriend? No. You have a girlfriend? No. Then they ask why am I single? And my response is usually cause I’m an ass-hole and I go about my day. This happened to me a lot when I was in the Army and wore civilian clothing in the base. Sometimes they assumed that I was just a military spouse because they forget that women serve as well. It’s a crazy world but I get a good laugh from time to time.
i mean if you dont laugh, you cry 🙃 woman have such a hard time, and then add being gay on top of that! this is why days like today matter, and just educating people in general. thank you for sharing ur experience, im sorry its been this way, i relate to parts of it too.
Hey Lauren- I just wanted to say that you have changed my life with your videos. I’ve been a closeted lesbian for like 2 years now and watching your videos has literally changed me as a person for the better! I came out in march to my friends and April to my parents, and now everyone has been soooo amazing and supportive. I wasn’t planning on coming out… but I decided that I didn’t want to hide myself anymore! Hope your doing well🏳️🌈🏳️🌈!
YESSS 🙌🌈 i almost always miss it, bc not enough australians post about it, and i dont see it til the next day (bc USA is behind us in time). so trying to change things up this year by posting a video for it! thanks for being here! 🖤
@@supercharger5727 But isn't lesbophobia a part of homophobia? Biphobia can be inflicted by both the queerphobes AND the LGBTQ+ community... Some gay people has biphobia cause they think bi people cheat more...
I've come out as lesbian to all my close family and friends and all of them told me they werent surprised and had a feeling/knew it. This didnt really bother me cause they're all very supportive and I'm very proud to be gay, but one of my family members did say "well you haven't been around many decent men so you cant fully know" and she didn't mean it in a bad way but that one comment made me doubt myself a lot and really messed with me. I still sometimes have doubts, but deep down i know I'm gay, and I'm very happy and proud to call myself a Lesbian :))) 🏳️🌈
When I came out to one of my friends they were like:" Oh, i imagined you were gay, you've always liked war movies and that kind of stuff". While i did understand they did not have hurtful intentions, it felt wrong. It's like you claim to know somebody is queer because of a stereotypical behavior they display, or you think they display. And of course stereotypes do not help acceptance and are mostly negative.
I've also found that once I've come out to somebody they have a barage of invasive questions as if they're suddenly entitled to my whole experience coming out, dating and how I knew or seeing if my gayness is valid
The "It's just a phase" is just so harsh. You don’t just wake up feeling gay one day and then decide to tell everyone. If I thought it was a phase or I wasn't sure, I wouldn't have told you, like people don't understand the process and how mentally exhausting it can be.
I'm not really out to anyone except close friends and one of my cousins but when I came out to my cousin, it was by telling her that I was going to an affinity group (she's also LGBTQ+ and she was going too). She said back to me: "Really? But you're the straightest person I know." She apologized right after the meeting and everything's fine now but it really hurts when someone says you don't look gay or something along the same lines, especially someone close to you.
Personally this doesn't affect me. I'm pan, ace and poly, but you wouldn't know any of those as I never talk about lgbt stuff with people or bring it up. Lots of people know as I've dated men and women (I'm a man) but a majority doesn't realize I'm a part of the community. So when they say you don't look, or act or seem that way, I just go meh, there's no look to it. My coworkers always joke though as there's two lesbians, two gays, one straight and then me about being halfway there and stuff but I love those light hearted jokes.
I came out to my non LGBTQ+ parent that I was wanted to be a She/They (Idc what one someone uses, it's just what the person I'm talking to is most comfy using) and they said "You're just a confused teen." and "I don't like the pronounces because it means more then one person." and my FAVORITE one "You're a girl and will still be a girl no matter what." Not exactly what they said for the last one but the same meaning meanwhile my LGBTQ+ parent actually HELPED ME find out that I wanted to be Non-binary and is trying so hard to support me, not calling me their daughter but instead using Gender-Neutral ways to call me their kid, calling me a They/Them, taking me to Pride Events whenever possible and just overall being the MOST SUPPORTIVE PERSON I'VE MET. 🌈 They even asked what I was comfortable with and didn't force me to do anything that I didn't want to and always made sure I was OK with what she was doing and I know based off of what they've done for me that if I ever said I didn't want them to do it, they would try their best not to do it, although that hasn't happened yet I know that they'd do anything and everything they could. 💕
I knew my (sort of) daughter was gay, not before she knew but definitely before she told me so when she told me I said “I know” then we hugged, a lot. I love her and I just want her to be happy but the world as it is now makes that difficult sometimes. Although, when I think back to when I was her age the problems she would have faced don’t bear thinking about. Change comes slowly and education is the key so just keep doing what you’re doing.
im so glad she was comfortable enough to tell you, must feel good to have that bond. yes the world is pretty scary right now, but as long as we keep being there for each other we can make it through 🌈
My friend once told me ‘I miss the time before all this gay stuff’ and my other friend agreed. I felt so hurt and cried about it later, I’m 13 and am not 100% sure yet, but I’m so happy I came out to them because it really helped my mental health but if they say something like that it really hurts. I’d just like to know if that was f*cked up of her. (English isn’t my first language so excuse the grammar)
I've heard alot of 'I wish they didn't shove it in our faces' and 'Don't make your life about your sexuality' these were said by my hetero Mum and sister by the way 😅 My sister once said to me 'I don't go around introducing myself as straight' People just assume' Moral of the story is... Come out and say no more 😔
Great video. I am a teacher and also a father of a 14-year old girl. I've always been very vocal about fighting any sort of prejudice, and this video helped me seen other things that could sound disrespectful. I do one have one questioning though. About the last one. Of course, I really think it's stupid that people think that one is LGBTQ+ just because they "didn't find the right man/woman". But... I am married to a woman, I've never been attracted to a man, but when people ask me if I am "straight" ( I don't really like this term, to be honest), I always say: " So far yes, but I don't know tomorrow". I mean, for me, it doesn't matter. I raise my daughter to look for a nice person. Gender it's not the key factor. She's very open to us, for her, the subject is natural. It's not even something to be "talked about". For us here at home, it's like discussing about "why the person is wearing a green T shirt?". So, what I mean, is, a person can be attracted to a girl, and someday meet a boy and get attracted too, no? Just to exemplify. I know it may sound silly, but as it's something that really touched me, I think it can be used. I've always hated the colour yellow. Like, really. Never had any piece of anything. Until one day, a long time ago, my daughter painted (at school), a Yellow T shirt for me.... I love that one... What I am trying to say is, isn't LOVE, something that you feel for a person, not just gender? Myabe I miss intrepreted you, as English isn't my mother language 🙂 Just subscribed, loved the channel 🙂
You have a point. What you are describing is how a number of people find out that they are actually bi. People might at some point in their life meet someone who they didn't expect to be attracted to. However, I don't think that this is the problem here. If that were to happen they could just start to identify as bi. The reason why "you just haven't found the right person of opposite sex yet"/"are you sure?" is problematic is the immediate distrust in / objection to the LGBTQIA+ persons revelation about themself. The first reaction to a coming out being "yeah, I don't believe what you are saying until further evidence / you convinced me".
I don't even understand why someone else should be "conviced ". By the way, my daughter is attracted to both boys and girls. She never "came out" 'cause she knows that we care about character. We talk about relationships and so, and she says about girls, boys, and it's absolutely normal.
@@rodwinter5748 Of course your daughter never "came out" to you. She didn't have to. You seem to have made it clear from the start that whatever person she were to choose was fine with you. Coming outs are much more of a big deal with family members who have never considered the possibility that the person coming out might be something other than cis and hetero. To your other point: Some people you come out to won't go "is that so, cool" and move on. Some will instead insist that you don't know what you're talking about or that it's just a phase. Of course, nobody needs to convince them that you are who you say you are. Them not believing you doesn't change who you are. But being constantly disrespected is going to hurt. So, I am glad that your daughter doesn't have to go through this with you :)
@@Rey-2517 It hurts me to think that we still have people who "don't accept" and is willing to hurt and offend others. My current wife (my daughter's mom), isn't my first (although we are married for 19 years now). My first wife recently was able to do the hormonal treatment and change alll document. He is a trans man now. A lot of people asked ME how did I feel about it. Well.... I was happy for him. He is a nice person and deserves to be happy. People really thought I'd feel angry or ashamed. So... there was a time (2 years ago), when my mom and mother-in-law were talking about him during lunch (for they knew him for a looonge time). And they kept refering to SHE/HER, My daughter interrupted them and said: It's not SHE/HER , it's HE/HIM. They replied: Oh, it's just that we are talking about a time that she was a woman. And my daughter said again: It doesn't matter. Don't say SHE is a man now. Say HE was a woman then. I was very proud of my girl. She is very vocal about defending what's right and fair. It doesn't matter whom you are talking to, elderly or boss. If it's wrong, you should point it out.
@@rodwinter5748 I absolutely agree and I'm glad to hear that the trans man you used to be married to has your and your daughters support. I'm sure it means a lot to him.
Thank you for your amazing videos! Happy international Day against homophobia, biphobia and transphobia! I can't relate to most of them because I haven't come out yet, I'm figuring it out as I go. I really appreciate all your LGBTQ content it's super helpful! I hope you had a great day!
aww this is such a lovely comment 🤍 thank you so much! tbh i was super excited to finally be making a video for IDAHOBT !!! thank you for being here! and wishing you the best whenever you are ready to come out 🦋
I came out to my mom and heard every single one of these. She kept saying I support you but then would say this bs and it’s like this isn’t supporting. I was so frustrated and she was confused why.
I feel like parents sometimes are supportive up until their child comes out and their opinion can seem altered. I've heard it a few times before from lgbtq+ poeple coming out to their parents and how their parents are fully supportive but are worried when their child comes out to them. Sometimes they mean well but it's kinda strange sometimes
Today is May 17th, and I didn't even know that it was the international day against homophobia, biphobia and transphobia! I'm really glad that I know now.
aww im glad u know now too!! i feel like i almost miss it every year bc i dont hear a lot about it in australia, mostly hear about it the next day when people from usa post about it. but this year i wanted to make stuff around it!!
NNOO thats TODAY?? my school has a queer club held every Wednesday lunch and we chill until halftime and LITERALLY EVERY TIME after halftime we do some lgbt education thing and today we just said screw it we’re just chillin- like THE ONE DAYYY
I'm aroace and bi or lesbian (not sure about that). What shall I say? "You're too young to know", "You just havn't found the right one yet", "Once you try, you'll love it", "Are you sure, there isn't something wrong with you?", "You should see a therapist about that issue", "Everyone loves sex. That's a nessessary part of a healthy relationship" are only some examples of the a*spec-coming out-bullshit-bingo. And then, like every time you tell somebody about being asexual and/ or aromantic you basicly need a whole Powerpoint presentation, because nobody knows and understands what those actually are. No, I'm not broken, no, I'm not a prepubecent child, no, being ace doesn't mean you're also aromantic nor does any of those two mean you're emotionally a stone. I don't view myself as particularly stereotypical gay but somehow people's gaydars are switched on at my sight. I don't know how a suspicion around somenone's sexuality shall work without them telling them about their queernes and stereotypes.
Ooh the first one I have so many mixed emotions about. I'm trans and ... to be honest when I first started accepting that and coming out I really wanted someone (maybe just one person) to say "I thought you might be trans". I won't say it's healthy to be looking for that kind of external validation but it's hard not to want it. I guess there's more healthy replacements though - just accepting someone is trans when they come out to you, asking how they'd like to be treated (what their name and pronouns are, for example) feels amazing. "Are you sure?" - oof haha. Yes I'm sure I've only spent hundreds of hours (at least) considering it from all angles. Excited for the pride month videos 🏳🌈🏳⚧
i can completely understand that actually! having someone external back up how you've been feeling might have validating for you, and thats okay! esp in regards to being trans. yes! i should've added that to the end of the 4th point of this video. when someone comes out to you as trans, ask them how they'd like to be referred to! and yayyy i can't wait for pride month toooo! 🌈
Thank you, this was so helpful. I'm straight, but I want to understand how things are for you and others like you, I never want to hurt or offend anyone, and I do understand how that could easily happen - especially, as you said, because questioning your sexuality must be such a difficult thing to do, and to then come out ... I can't even imagine what that's like, but I admire everyone who has the courage to do so: you're awesome, and don't let anyone tell you any different!
Um I really hate it when people jus say “ it’s a Phase “ and when they question the sexuality. Cuz I really hate that the most. But also when other people , do quickly judge you before they get to know you. And they quickly assume what gender you are jus by looking at us. But also not allowing us to use the women’s washroom , jus bcuz of what we look like. Cuz I’m a woman too , but i jus don’t feel very comfortable when in the men’s washroom. But I really do wanna use the women’s bathroom , but I’m jus scared to be judged like whenever I’m in there. But I’m overly sensitive like when someone quickly judges me.
For people who are striaght questioning their sexuality: You can ask some people who are apart of lgbtq+ how long it took them to find out. Some people will say that it only took them like a month while others can take years. All you have to remember is that nobody is the same just take your time and don’t stress over it because stressing can make it worse. I am Pansexual and Transgender. It took me about 1/2 a year to figure out that i could even be close to being apart of lgbtq+ then the rest has just been a journey! Yes things will change so don’t be afraid to be open to changes. It has been about 2 years now since i even started thinking about it. Just take your time and don’t fret ❤🏳️🌈❤️🧡💛💚💙💜
I’ve heard like 3 of these. I love your videos, they’ve had such a huge impact on my life. You actually inspired me to come out to my family. My grandma said stuff like “you haven’t found the right boy yet” and “are you sure?” at first, but all in all, my family supports me warmly, and we now watch a LOT more queer content than before. I love watching your videos, some of them are very helpful in my process of telling my crush I like her. I have a good feeling about it! Please keep doing your thing, and feel fortunate for gal pal, the two of you are so cute!
Reminds me of when I came out to this friend of mine,they were asking me if I've ever like dated someone,i told them yeah and they asked whom,I told them just a girl. They were like "You're gay?!" I was like "yeah" and they went like "But You're so pretty,any guy would want to date you" umm gurl,i know but i don't really want to date a guy lol
I just wanted to say thanks for making these videos, they’ve helped me a lot. I came out to my sister as Bi today and she was really sweet about it(I’m 99% sure she knew I wasn’t straight tho)
I recently came out as lesbian to my mom and she was very supportive but she pulled the "i always knew" card and I was like how would she have even known bc I only came to terms with it recently(it took a tonnnnn of self reflecting). I'm very straight presenting, and the only person I've dated was a guy, so it just threw me off bc I for sure know myself better than she does. Honestly, i think she was just saying it to break the ice a bit.
I'm a lesbian myself and I've been guilty of saying "yeah, I kinda knew" is the past to someone coming out a couple of times (because sometimes, it's very obvious that a girl isn't into guys and is having deep crushs on other girls). I haven't done it the past 3 years though because the last time I sid it, I felt that it was the wrong thing to say, even though the person didn't say anything to me about it. So that was that. The thing is, I still like when new people tell me "I knew" when I come out to them. It makes me feel like it's less of "straight assuming" world and that they understood and paid attention to me. Is something wrong with me?
Btw, about the first ting mentioned. When I came out to my bf as bisexual, I was worried about his reaction... But then he just smiled to me and said he already knew it, cause my feelings for *one specific woman* were very obvious to him since the beggining of our relationship. And I was soooo happy to hear that and see that reaction, I was happy that he understood me and accepted me as a bisexual before I understood and accepted myself 😃 And later I came out to my mother. She still doesn't have clear oppinions about lgbt stuff and doesn't understand most of it, so she was just curious and kinda confused and asking questions about what it is and how it works, she didn't judged me or got scared at all, and that conversation with her was kinda funny, since she is a boomer and grew under the rock when it comes to lgbt+ things (We live in Serbia, where homosexuality was illegal since the late '90s, and still is a big taboo)
Hey Lauren, I have honestly missed you so much. Its been too long since you posted but at least your back. Hope Galpal is going well and hope you are too, hopefully you guys are still together x. Thanks for a great video, definitely needed this to cheer me up. Best wishes Charlee ❤
ahhh i missed you too charlee!! I hope that you've been keeping well and looking after yourself! gal pal and i are doing really good, i think we're finally settled in our new place! thinking about... maybe adding a doggo at some point ... but shhh i haven't told anyone else
Hey Lauren ❤️ thank you for this video. Coming out LGBTQ has been hard, but also felt like freedom. Even though I’m in LA, It’s still a process and saying harmful things like that isn’t really helpful. Your videos have really inspired me to feel more open about my sexuality. At summer camp one time, very inclusive of LGBT people, I told a non-binary person that I was gay and they said something along the lines of “you don’t look gay” and that still to this day kinda hurts but oh well negative experiences happen
🙌🤍 ur so welcome!! and i relate to that, its hard but it feels freeing at the same time. im so happy to hear that my vids have helped you on your journey though! and in regards to that camp you went on, that just shows why educating/sharing expereinces/talking about this stuff is so important! even within the lgbtq community 🌈
The amount of people I had say to me "Wait, you weren't gay/bi?" after I came out to them, I swear. Sometimes it was funny, sometimes it stung a bit depending on the delivery. Imo it's a funny thing to say in retrospect, but that should never be the first thing that comes out of your mouth as a reaction. Especially if you don't know them well. Don't just assume people's sexualities because there's a lot of queer people in a friend group either 😮💨
i wish i could send this to my parents but they dont understand english :/ it yould have been very helpful for them to hear those things since my brother is a trans guy and im bi
I remember watching you like years ago maybe when I was in like 3rd grade so around 4-5 yrs ago, I’m happy you’re doing well, I’m also happy you could “show me” what the feeling was I had, I always knew I like women and men, people in general. but I didn’t know what it was called lol I’m now bi/pan (not sure which to use because they’re a lot alike so I’m still kinda questioning,) asexual and gender-fluid, I’m very happy with myself and although I’m not openly out because I’m not in a healthy environment but you honestly comfort me I always remember/ed you helping me lmfao
Yesterday in school, (Im trans but like girls) they were talking about trans gender, someone's story on it i felt uncomftable (not cus the topic) cus i knew someone would point at me saying that im trans and they did and yup i felt uncomftable. But that teacher was nice and saying that you cant see someone's gender just by looking at them
i came out as gay to everyone at once my whole school knows even my teachers and at home cause i didnt think i wanted to actually be gay it was something else but now i know
For the first thing I get it when I came out to my mom that’s exactly what she said and what confused me the most is that she said she new since I was 7 years old I came out around 14 years old so I was really chocked
I live in Belgium, and while the law is very progressive, the people aren’t… at my high school, people tried to take off the lgbtq flags that were hanged yesterday…😢
ugh that sucks! we never had much stuff to do with lgbtq education/support when i was in school, so despite kids being idiots, its nice to hear that ur school at least put some flags up! 🌈
Im rather young but i still want to tell my parent's im not straight the thing is tho i dont know if im bi or pan ect. I also dont know if I should say something in case I change my mine. Someone pls give advice.
It’s really up to you! Do whatever you are comfortable with. If you think you’ll feel better by letting them know you’re questioning, then do that 💖 but if you think you’ll feel better telling them when you have a more solid understanding of what you might be, then wait.
Whenever a new vid airs from this channel I have to see it asap ! I don't know what LGBTQ+ label i am but it doesn't worry me too much ( : Happy pride !
It’s a really common response, especially from parents. 💖 they’re just trying to understand. you don’t have to explain all the ins and outs though if you don’t want to
What?! May 17 is the National Day to the best country in the world, and that country is Norway. Norway is easily the best country in this world, and you know it!🇧🇻🇧🇻🇧🇻 And people needs to not take simple words so seriously.
My former best friend (who knew I am pan) and her friend used the f slur a bunch, they called the world it and they called themselves the f slur… they are straight. I texted my former friend and she said it is normal and that she didn’t think I would react because gay people are called way worse, and that it was a joke. And a lot of my friends thought it wasn’t wrong… what do you think? Am I just overreacting?? We’ve been friends since we were in 1st grade….
Ok , sweet talking. Thank you for sharing I get it if you are attracted to females and you are happy it’s not others business. At the same time I have met girls and they said, I had enough of guys and I am sleeping with girls . You see in this scenario they have chosen to be with girls purely for other reasons not just because they are lesbians. In this case we can say “ they haven’t met the right guy” what do you think.?
For some reason I don’t love that it’s homophobia, biphobia, and transphobia coz I feel like homophobia can encompass phobia for all lgbtq+ sexualities but when u include biphobia it kinda sounds like u aren’t including other sexualities (i.e. pansexual, polysexual, omnisexual, asexual, etc.) but maybe that’s just me
iam question if iam a lesbian or not rn and if i really like lesbian couples in show and also i was quite happy when my friend came out as a lesbian so does that make me les?
hey thats okay, take your time. you don't need to know right away.. let it take its time. those things don't necessarily make you lesbian. if you have romantic/relationship feelings for girls, that's how you'd know.
Very important video! There are also other comments like: prove it or kiss. I'm just heading to an IDAHOBIT rally in Vienna. Unfortunately I still doesn't stand for Interphobia, although it should be.
yeah thankfully i haven't heard one along the lines of that... might be also bc ive *cough* grown up a lil out of my clubbing days, i think that's most likely where id hear that one haha. oh wow that's so cool! we dont really have many events here (that im aware of anyway). agree, it should be, i think society is not educated enough on intersexuality
@@laurenelloise ha ha ty I just want to say something even tho we not even friends or talked for long if u won't see me again anymore it might only be because I died... I prefer being positive but i'm kinda sick... u know amm in some bad stuff and I don't have a job so my mom going to stop feed me... and my country not helping 19 year old people so I might won't get to watch u more... I hope u always get more and more subscribers and that even if I won't be able to see it anymore I am more then happy for the years I did watched u... oh and I hope for u 2 to always be happy together :D and yeah amm please ignore it if u also don't like negative stuff ha ha sorry now be happy :D
hey it sounds like you're going through a rough time. I'm sending you hugs, positive vibes and courage. 🤍 Help is always around, all you have to do is ask for it. i know things aren't the greatest in your country atm, please look after yourself and stay safe friend
i can say as a trans self its transphobic to say and yes somemone they say you dont look trans to not hurt yes they hurt when you say de dont mean it yes they do. dont push away things its mean you can be transphobic self.
@@louiserosser9404 happy early birthday!! im happy that you were able to accept this part of yourself! but im so sorry to hear about your family :( can't imagine how hard it is. keep doing you, everyone else can stick it
I live in safest LGBT country in the world it's called USA and openly lesbian age of 15 year old now i am 24 years old. Certain countries can't be LGBT.
@@laurenelloise welcome though in my country Uganda..literally Africa at large LGBT community is prohibited even in schools,once you're identified as part of it u get expelled right away.some support u guys 😭😭😭😭🌈
Have YOU GUYS heard any of these? Lets talk about it!
*P.S. send this video to your parents or ur bff, id love to open up the conversation with them* ❤
Absolutely bro this vid is so chill imma share it with everyone :D
ur a legend 🫶
Ahhhh I heard a lot of “are you sure”s
And then I’m like “yes I’m fucking sure.”
when I first came out I told my sister to tell my mother because I was ashamed, after 3 years of being gay I finally had the courage to let her know and she was about to pass out she told me to go to church and pray and that it is not normal,my father doesn't know , I've never heard anyone say those kind of things.
@@FALLEN_ANGEL871 i cant even imagine how terrible it must have been to hear her say that, but as little as it means from someone random on the internet i _promise_ it is normal and you and your parents will figure it out one day, and until then (and after) we’re all here for you here. You’re an amazing person, i can just tell. I wish you the best!! ❤😊
A few months ago, my friend came out as bi and started dating another girl. Many of my friends were gay/bi, so it was normal to me. However, i started questioning my sexuality, and it was a really hard journey. My mind didn't want me to be anything but straight, and when i thought i was bi, my brain was like "pick a side". I was so caught up in the whole thing i literally made myself sick for several days. However, watching your videos has really helped me, and i have finally come to terms with my sexuality. You especially helped me realize that bi people don't have to have 50/50 attraction to men and women. I figured out i have a stronger attraction to women. You've really helped me and i wish i would have found you earlier. Tysm for all you do! You make such a big difference on so many lives! (Sorry you had to read a whole novel 😂) happy pride month! 🏳️🌈
OMG- Bi w/ a prefrence = another term: Omni!!
@@Starlight00590 what does that mean? I'm kind of new to this, so I'm a bit clueless 😂
Omni is where you like everyone w/ a prefrence.@@rainbowsprinkles18
SAME
@@Starlight00590actually Omni is pansexual with a preference. Bisexual is liking 2 or more genders with or without a preference.
This was such a great refreshed video. I’ve been told mostly “You don’t look gay” even by other lesbians and bisexual women, “You haven’t found the right man”, “You’re too good looking to be a lesbian”. And additionally, whenever I’m single and they ask me if I’m married? No. You have a boyfriend? No. You have a girlfriend? No. Then they ask why am I single? And my response is usually cause I’m an ass-hole and I go about my day. This happened to me a lot when I was in the Army and wore civilian clothing in the base. Sometimes they assumed that I was just a military spouse because they forget that women serve as well. It’s a crazy world but I get a good laugh from time to time.
i mean if you dont laugh, you cry 🙃 woman have such a hard time, and then add being gay on top of that! this is why days like today matter, and just educating people in general. thank you for sharing ur experience, im sorry its been this way, i relate to parts of it too.
Hey Lauren- I just wanted to say that you have changed my life with your videos. I’ve been a closeted lesbian for like 2 years now and watching your videos has literally changed me as a person for the better! I came out in march to my friends and April to my parents, and now everyone has been soooo amazing and supportive. I wasn’t planning on coming out… but I decided that I didn’t want to hide myself anymore! Hope your doing well🏳️🌈🏳️🌈!
AHHHH THIS COMMENT IS SO SWEET! AND IM SO HAPPY FOR YOU!! this has literally made my day :') look at you go!! ❤️🌈
International day against homophobia, biphobia, and transphobia is really underrated. We need more recognition! Thank you for amazing video ❤
YESSS 🙌🌈 i almost always miss it, bc not enough australians post about it, and i dont see it til the next day (bc USA is behind us in time). so trying to change things up this year by posting a video for it! thanks for being here! 🖤
Isn’t it international day against homophobia lesbophobia and transphobia I thought homophobia was the big umbrella
@@supercharger5727 But isn't lesbophobia a part of homophobia? Biphobia can be inflicted by both the queerphobes AND the LGBTQ+ community... Some gay people has biphobia cause they think bi people cheat more...
That should be every day
@@proserpina4448 Oh of course! Discrimination against ace/aro people are definitely there and should be addressed.
I've come out as lesbian to all my close family and friends and all of them told me they werent surprised and had a feeling/knew it. This didnt really bother me cause they're all very supportive and I'm very proud to be gay, but one of my family members did say "well you haven't been around many decent men so you cant fully know" and she didn't mean it in a bad way but that one comment made me doubt myself a lot and really messed with me. I still sometimes have doubts, but deep down i know I'm gay, and I'm very happy and proud to call myself a Lesbian :))) 🏳️🌈
Pls never find the right man, baby 😉💕
Happy IDAHOBIT Day to all the girls, gays, and theys & everyone inbetween 🌈
dont worry, i wont ;) 🖤
THANK YOU! For saying inbeetween after theys! I am a demi-girl (they them, she her) and I highly appricate this!
It's always a amazing day when Lauren posts especially when it's a video like this :)
awwww you got me like :'))))) 💕
When I came out to one of my friends they were like:" Oh, i imagined you were gay, you've always liked war movies and that kind of stuff". While i did understand they did not have hurtful intentions, it felt wrong. It's like you claim to know somebody is queer because of a stereotypical behavior they display, or you think they display. And of course stereotypes do not help acceptance and are mostly negative.
I've also found that once I've come out to somebody they have a barage of invasive questions as if they're suddenly entitled to my whole experience coming out, dating and how I knew or seeing if my gayness is valid
THIS! this happens, just because we've come out doesn't mean u get to know my entire personal life .... i feel you with this!!!
🚫🚫🚫LGBQ
The "It's just a phase" is just so harsh. You don’t just wake up feeling gay one day and then decide to tell everyone. If I thought it was a phase or I wasn't sure, I wouldn't have told you, like people don't understand the process and how mentally exhausting it can be.
I'm not really out to anyone except close friends and one of my cousins but when I came out to my cousin, it was by telling her that I was going to an affinity group (she's also LGBTQ+ and she was going too). She said back to me: "Really? But you're the straightest person I know." She apologized right after the meeting and everything's fine now but it really hurts when someone says you don't look gay or something along the same lines, especially someone close to you.
i can completely understand how that feels 🤍 im glad u and ur cousin are good now though!
Personally this doesn't affect me. I'm pan, ace and poly, but you wouldn't know any of those as I never talk about lgbt stuff with people or bring it up. Lots of people know as I've dated men and women (I'm a man) but a majority doesn't realize I'm a part of the community. So when they say you don't look, or act or seem that way, I just go meh, there's no look to it. My coworkers always joke though as there's two lesbians, two gays, one straight and then me about being halfway there and stuff but I love those light hearted jokes.
I came out to my non LGBTQ+ parent that I was wanted to be a She/They (Idc what one someone uses, it's just what the person I'm talking to is most comfy using) and they said "You're just a confused teen." and "I don't like the pronounces because it means more then one person." and my FAVORITE one "You're a girl and will still be a girl no matter what." Not exactly what they said for the last one but the same meaning meanwhile my LGBTQ+ parent actually HELPED ME find out that I wanted to be Non-binary and is trying so hard to support me, not calling me their daughter but instead using Gender-Neutral ways to call me their kid, calling me a They/Them, taking me to Pride Events whenever possible and just overall being the MOST SUPPORTIVE PERSON I'VE MET. 🌈 They even asked what I was comfortable with and didn't force me to do anything that I didn't want to and always made sure I was OK with what she was doing and I know based off of what they've done for me that if I ever said I didn't want them to do it, they would try their best not to do it, although that hasn't happened yet I know that they'd do anything and everything they could. 💕
I knew my (sort of) daughter was gay, not before she knew but definitely before she told me so when she told me I said “I know” then we hugged, a lot. I love her and I just want her to be happy but the world as it is now makes that difficult sometimes. Although, when I think back to when I was her age the problems she would have faced don’t bear thinking about. Change comes slowly and education is the key so just keep doing what you’re doing.
im so glad she was comfortable enough to tell you, must feel good to have that bond. yes the world is pretty scary right now, but as long as we keep being there for each other we can make it through 🌈
another thing they say is like "pfff your confuse dont worry i can help you" and is like NO IM NOT CONFUSE 🥲
My friend once told me ‘I miss the time before all this gay stuff’ and my other friend agreed. I felt so hurt and cried about it later, I’m 13 and am not 100% sure yet, but I’m so happy I came out to them because it really helped my mental health but if they say something like that it really hurts. I’d just like to know if that was f*cked up of her. (English isn’t my first language so excuse the grammar)
It was very much fucked up. Maybe you should consider talking to them about this.
I've heard alot of 'I wish they didn't shove it in our faces' and 'Don't make your life about your sexuality' these were said by my hetero Mum and sister by the way 😅
My sister once said to me 'I don't go around introducing myself as straight' People just assume' Moral of the story is... Come out and say no more 😔
Great video. I am a teacher and also a father of a 14-year old girl. I've always been very vocal about fighting any sort of prejudice, and this video helped me seen other things that could sound disrespectful. I do one have one questioning though.
About the last one. Of course, I really think it's stupid that people think that one is LGBTQ+ just because they "didn't find the right man/woman".
But... I am married to a woman, I've never been attracted to a man, but when people ask me if I am "straight" ( I don't really like this term, to be honest), I always say: " So far yes, but I don't know tomorrow".
I mean, for me, it doesn't matter. I raise my daughter to look for a nice person. Gender it's not the key factor. She's very open to us, for her, the subject is natural. It's not even something to be "talked about".
For us here at home, it's like discussing about "why the person is wearing a green T shirt?".
So, what I mean, is, a person can be attracted to a girl, and someday meet a boy and get attracted too, no?
Just to exemplify. I know it may sound silly, but as it's something that really touched me, I think it can be used.
I've always hated the colour yellow. Like, really. Never had any piece of anything. Until one day, a long time ago, my daughter painted (at school), a Yellow T shirt for me.... I love that one...
What I am trying to say is, isn't LOVE, something that you feel for a person, not just gender?
Myabe I miss intrepreted you, as English isn't my mother language 🙂
Just subscribed, loved the channel 🙂
You have a point. What you are describing is how a number of people find out that they are actually bi. People might at some point in their life meet someone who they didn't expect to be attracted to. However, I don't think that this is the problem here. If that were to happen they could just start to identify as bi.
The reason why "you just haven't found the right person of opposite sex yet"/"are you sure?" is problematic is the immediate distrust in / objection to the LGBTQIA+ persons revelation about themself. The first reaction to a coming out being "yeah, I don't believe what you are saying until further evidence / you convinced me".
I don't even understand why someone else should be "conviced ". By the way, my daughter is attracted to both boys and girls. She never "came out" 'cause she knows that we care about character. We talk about relationships and so, and she says about girls, boys, and it's absolutely normal.
@@rodwinter5748 Of course your daughter never "came out" to you. She didn't have to. You seem to have made it clear from the start that whatever person she were to choose was fine with you. Coming outs are much more of a big deal with family members who have never considered the possibility that the person coming out might be something other than cis and hetero.
To your other point: Some people you come out to won't go "is that so, cool" and move on. Some will instead insist that you don't know what you're talking about or that it's just a phase. Of course, nobody needs to convince them that you are who you say you are. Them not believing you doesn't change who you are. But being constantly disrespected is going to hurt.
So, I am glad that your daughter doesn't have to go through this with you :)
@@Rey-2517 It hurts me to think that we still have people who "don't accept" and is willing to hurt and offend others.
My current wife (my daughter's mom), isn't my first (although we are married for 19 years now). My first wife recently was able to do the hormonal treatment and change alll document. He is a trans man now. A lot of people asked ME how did I feel about it. Well.... I was happy for him. He is a nice person and deserves to be happy. People really thought I'd feel angry or ashamed.
So... there was a time (2 years ago), when my mom and mother-in-law were talking about him during lunch (for they knew him for a looonge time). And they kept refering to SHE/HER, My daughter interrupted them and said: It's not SHE/HER , it's HE/HIM.
They replied: Oh, it's just that we are talking about a time that she was a woman.
And my daughter said again: It doesn't matter. Don't say SHE is a man now. Say HE was a woman then.
I was very proud of my girl. She is very vocal about defending what's right and fair. It doesn't matter whom you are talking to, elderly or boss. If it's wrong, you should point it out.
@@rodwinter5748 I absolutely agree and I'm glad to hear that the trans man you used to be married to has your and your daughters support. I'm sure it means a lot to him.
Thank you for your amazing videos! Happy international Day against homophobia, biphobia and transphobia! I can't relate to most of them because I haven't come out yet, I'm figuring it out as I go. I really appreciate all your LGBTQ content it's super helpful! I hope you had a great day!
aww this is such a lovely comment 🤍 thank you so much! tbh i was super excited to finally be making a video for IDAHOBT !!! thank you for being here! and wishing you the best whenever you are ready to come out 🦋
@@laurenelloise thank you so much! Your positive energy is spread through your videos!
:') awww man, im glad
I came out to my mom and heard every single one of these. She kept saying I support you but then would say this bs and it’s like this isn’t supporting. I was so frustrated and she was confused why.
Hey Lauren! I'm pansexual and when I told my mom she LITERALLY said "are you sure?" and I'm like "YES IM SURE" but they support me either way
I feel like parents sometimes are supportive up until their child comes out and their opinion can seem altered. I've heard it a few times before from lgbtq+ poeple coming out to their parents and how their parents are fully supportive but are worried when their child comes out to them. Sometimes they mean well but it's kinda strange sometimes
Today is May 17th, and I didn't even know that it was the international day against homophobia, biphobia and transphobia! I'm really glad that I know now.
aww im glad u know now too!! i feel like i almost miss it every year bc i dont hear a lot about it in australia, mostly hear about it the next day when people from usa post about it. but this year i wanted to make stuff around it!!
@@laurenelloise OK. I'm defo going to stick around to watch your videos for Pride Month.
NNOO thats TODAY?? my school has a queer club held every Wednesday lunch and we chill until halftime and LITERALLY EVERY TIME after halftime we do some lgbt education thing and today we just said screw it we’re just chillin- like THE ONE DAYYY
aww nooo, you could totally just have it next wednesday ;) also i love that you've got a safe little space in school! thats amazing
I'm aroace and bi or lesbian (not sure about that). What shall I say? "You're too young to know", "You just havn't found the right one yet", "Once you try, you'll love it", "Are you sure, there isn't something wrong with you?", "You should see a therapist about that issue", "Everyone loves sex. That's a nessessary part of a healthy relationship" are only some examples of the a*spec-coming out-bullshit-bingo. And then, like every time you tell somebody about being asexual and/ or aromantic you basicly need a whole Powerpoint presentation, because nobody knows and understands what those actually are. No, I'm not broken, no, I'm not a prepubecent child, no, being ace doesn't mean you're also aromantic nor does any of those two mean you're emotionally a stone.
I don't view myself as particularly stereotypical gay but somehow people's gaydars are switched on at my sight. I don't know how a suspicion around somenone's sexuality shall work without them telling them about their queernes and stereotypes.
Ooh the first one I have so many mixed emotions about. I'm trans and ... to be honest when I first started accepting that and coming out I really wanted someone (maybe just one person) to say "I thought you might be trans". I won't say it's healthy to be looking for that kind of external validation but it's hard not to want it. I guess there's more healthy replacements though - just accepting someone is trans when they come out to you, asking how they'd like to be treated (what their name and pronouns are, for example) feels amazing.
"Are you sure?" - oof haha. Yes I'm sure I've only spent hundreds of hours (at least) considering it from all angles.
Excited for the pride month videos 🏳🌈🏳⚧
i can completely understand that actually! having someone external back up how you've been feeling might have validating for you, and thats okay! esp in regards to being trans. yes! i should've added that to the end of the 4th point of this video. when someone comes out to you as trans, ask them how they'd like to be referred to! and yayyy i can't wait for pride month toooo! 🌈
Every person i came out as gay said "oh i knew". And honestly it doesnt hurt me at all. But i can understand if it hurts someone else
Thank you, this was so helpful. I'm straight, but I want to understand how things are for you and others like you, I never want to hurt or offend anyone, and I do understand how that could easily happen - especially, as you said, because questioning your sexuality must be such a difficult thing to do, and to then come out ... I can't even imagine what that's like, but I admire everyone who has the courage to do so: you're awesome, and don't let anyone tell you any different!
I was so excited when I saw you posted my birthday was Monday, the 15th and I have been feeling down because my friends and I experience homophobia
happy belated birthday!! 🎂 sending all the postive vibes, i hope things get better for you, we're all here for u 🌈
@@laurenelloise thank you sooooooo much! 🏳️🌈
Um I really hate it when people jus say “ it’s a Phase “ and when they question the sexuality.
Cuz I really hate that the most.
But also when other people , do quickly judge you before they get to know you.
And they quickly assume what gender you are jus by looking at us.
But also not allowing us to use the women’s washroom , jus bcuz of what we look like.
Cuz I’m a woman too , but i jus don’t feel very comfortable when in the men’s washroom.
But I really do wanna use the women’s bathroom , but I’m jus scared to be judged like whenever I’m in there.
But I’m overly sensitive like when someone quickly judges me.
For people who are striaght questioning their sexuality:
You can ask some people who are apart of lgbtq+ how long it took them to find out. Some people will say that it only took them like a month while others can take years. All you have to remember is that nobody is the same just take your time and don’t stress over it because stressing can make it worse.
I am Pansexual and Transgender. It took me about 1/2 a year to figure out that i could even be close to being apart of lgbtq+ then the rest has just been a journey! Yes things will change so don’t be afraid to be open to changes. It has been about 2 years now since i even started thinking about it.
Just take your time and don’t fret ❤🏳️🌈❤️🧡💛💚💙💜
I’ve heard like 3 of these. I love your videos, they’ve had such a huge impact on my life. You actually inspired me to come out to my family. My grandma said stuff like “you haven’t found the right boy yet” and “are you sure?” at first, but all in all, my family supports me warmly, and we now watch a LOT more queer content than before. I love watching your videos, some of them are very helpful in my process of telling my crush I like her. I have a good feeling about it! Please keep doing your thing, and feel fortunate for gal pal, the two of you are so cute!
It shits me to no end when sexuality and gender are grouped into the same category 🙄
Ikr 🙃
Reminds me of when I came out to this friend of mine,they were asking me if I've ever like dated someone,i told them yeah and they asked whom,I told them just a girl. They were like "You're gay?!" I was like "yeah" and they went like "But You're so pretty,any guy would want to date you" umm gurl,i know but i don't really want to date a guy lol
I just wanted to say thanks for making these videos, they’ve helped me a lot. I came out to my sister as Bi today and she was really sweet about it(I’m 99% sure she knew I wasn’t straight tho)
I recently came out as lesbian to my mom and she was very supportive but she pulled the "i always knew" card and I was like how would she have even known bc I only came to terms with it recently(it took a tonnnnn of self reflecting). I'm very straight presenting, and the only person I've dated was a guy, so it just threw me off bc I for sure know myself better than she does. Honestly, i think she was just saying it to break the ice a bit.
I'm a lesbian myself and I've been guilty of saying "yeah, I kinda knew" is the past to someone coming out a couple of times (because sometimes, it's very obvious that a girl isn't into guys and is having deep crushs on other girls). I haven't done it the past 3 years though because the last time I sid it, I felt that it was the wrong thing to say, even though the person didn't say anything to me about it. So that was that.
The thing is, I still like when new people tell me "I knew" when I come out to them. It makes me feel like it's less of "straight assuming" world and that they understood and paid attention to me. Is something wrong with me?
Btw, about the first ting mentioned. When I came out to my bf as bisexual, I was worried about his reaction... But then he just smiled to me and said he already knew it, cause my feelings for *one specific woman* were very obvious to him since the beggining of our relationship. And I was soooo happy to hear that and see that reaction, I was happy that he understood me and accepted me as a bisexual before I understood and accepted myself 😃
And later I came out to my mother. She still doesn't have clear oppinions about lgbt stuff and doesn't understand most of it, so she was just curious and kinda confused and asking questions about what it is and how it works, she didn't judged me or got scared at all, and that conversation with her was kinda funny, since she is a boomer and grew under the rock when it comes to lgbt+ things (We live in Serbia, where homosexuality was illegal since the late '90s, and still is a big taboo)
Hey Lauren, I have honestly missed you so much. Its been too long since you posted but at least your back. Hope Galpal is going well and hope you are too, hopefully you guys are still together x. Thanks for a great video, definitely needed this to cheer me up. Best wishes Charlee ❤
ahhh i missed you too charlee!! I hope that you've been keeping well and looking after yourself! gal pal and i are doing really good, i think we're finally settled in our new place! thinking about... maybe adding a doggo at some point ... but shhh i haven't told anyone else
@@laurenelloise ooo nice nice, we would need a house tour soon 👀
yessss, i wanna edit the moving vlog next 🙈
@@laurenelloise can't wait
@@laurenelloisefurbabiieeezzz
Hey Lauren ❤️ thank you for this video. Coming out LGBTQ has been hard, but also felt like freedom. Even though I’m in LA, It’s still a process and saying harmful things like that isn’t really helpful. Your videos have really inspired me to feel more open about my sexuality. At summer camp one time, very inclusive of LGBT people, I told a non-binary person that I was gay and they said something along the lines of “you don’t look gay” and that still to this day kinda hurts but oh well negative experiences happen
🙌🤍 ur so welcome!! and i relate to that, its hard but it feels freeing at the same time. im so happy to hear that my vids have helped you on your journey though! and in regards to that camp you went on, that just shows why educating/sharing expereinces/talking about this stuff is so important! even within the lgbtq community 🌈
The amount of people I had say to me "Wait, you weren't gay/bi?" after I came out to them, I swear.
Sometimes it was funny, sometimes it stung a bit depending on the delivery.
Imo it's a funny thing to say in retrospect, but that should never be the first thing that comes out of your mouth as a reaction. Especially if you don't know them well.
Don't just assume people's sexualities because there's a lot of queer people in a friend group either 😮💨
i wish i could send this to my parents but they dont understand english :/
it yould have been very helpful for them to hear those things since my brother is a trans guy and im bi
I remember watching you like years ago maybe when I was in like 3rd grade so around 4-5 yrs ago, I’m happy you’re doing well, I’m also happy you could “show me” what the feeling was I had, I always knew I like women and men, people in general. but I didn’t know what it was called lol I’m now bi/pan (not sure which to use because they’re a lot alike so I’m still kinda questioning,) asexual and gender-fluid, I’m very happy with myself and although I’m not openly out because I’m not in a healthy environment but you honestly comfort me I always remember/ed you helping me lmfao
Yesterday in school, (Im trans but like girls) they were talking about trans gender, someone's story on it i felt uncomftable (not cus the topic) cus i knew someone would point at me saying that im trans and they did and yup i felt uncomftable. But that teacher was nice and saying that you cant see someone's gender just by looking at them
There is nothing wrong with being gay. Why does gender still matter when we're all equal?
I can't wait for next video ❤
eeeeeee im so keen for pride month! gonna be a blast
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i came out as gay to everyone at once my whole school knows even my teachers and at home cause i didnt think i wanted to actually
be gay it was something else but now i know
For the first thing I get it when I came out to my mom that’s exactly what she said and what confused me the most is that she said she new since I was 7 years old I came out around 14 years old so I was really chocked
I can't believe it took me so long to find your content. You're awesome!
I know right😆
A relative of mine said But there’s still good guys out there when I came out. It’s like yes I know, I’m just not attracted to them.
as an asexual, you don't know how many times I have heard the comment "havent found the right one yet" it is so annoying xD
I live in Belgium, and while the law is very progressive, the people aren’t… at my high school, people tried to take off the lgbtq flags that were hanged yesterday…😢
ugh that sucks! we never had much stuff to do with lgbtq education/support when i was in school, so despite kids being idiots, its nice to hear that ur school at least put some flags up! 🌈
My school hung up a pride flag made out of sticky notes (which took a long time to make) and some girl ripped it down 😭💔
Hi! Adult here, father of 3 girls (guess why i'm here...) This video is very useful, thanks.
“How do two women please each other?” is my favorite. It’s always followed by the guy trying to have a threesome to “help me”.
ya so frustrating
0:14 what about Acephobia? :'
I was in school when you uploaded sorry for being late 😉
naw haha thats okay! i legit still consider you early anyway :))
My taekwondo instructor is transphobic against me.
@@John_again_John thanks
I'm sorry you have to deal with that* virtual hug*, also your learning taekwondo that's super cool! I want to start learning too
EARLY CAN I GET A HI?
aww heck yea!!! congrats on being superrr early
@@laurenelloise YESS TY AND BTW UR SO PRETTY OMGGG
welcome! and :') thank you so much!
yay!! New video! Thank you for the amazing content. You helped me feel confident in myself and with my sexuality :)
and thank you for being here!!! im so proud of u 🤍
You are amazing and I LOVE the videos
THANK UUUUU
@@laurenelloise SO EXCITED for the new videos, hope you're doing well
@@lottiehodgson2230 eeeee yay!! and yes! feeling a little more settled into my new place, also just been working my bum off with 'real work' ahha
@@laurenelloise glad to here it!!!! Cannot wait!!!!!
Im rather young but i still want to tell my parent's im not straight the thing is tho i dont know if im bi or pan ect. I also dont know if I should say something in case I change my mine. Someone pls give advice.
It’s really up to you! Do whatever you are comfortable with. If you think you’ll feel better by letting them know you’re questioning, then do that 💖 but if you think you’ll feel better telling them when you have a more solid understanding of what you might be, then wait.
Whenever a new vid airs from this channel I have to see it asap ! I don't know what LGBTQ+ label i am but it doesn't worry me too much ( : Happy pride !
:') awww well, i hope u enjoyed this one! and thats exactly right, good on you for not letting it bother you, you've got all the time in the world
@@laurenelloise Thx !
I think i will never say something that kind of things to someone in 🏳️🌈
🏳️🌈🏳️🌈🏳️🌈 good stuff
I came out to my mum about 6 weeks ago, and the first thing she said was "how do you know?"
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It’s a really common response, especially from parents. 💖 they’re just trying to understand. you don’t have to explain all the ins and outs though if you don’t want to
Thank you Lauren, I’ve heard a lot of these
What does the + stand for in LGBTQ+?
It's the premium version of queer.
Totally wasn't trying to read the titles of the book while I was listening😂
sneak hahhaha basically my shelf has a few gay stories, and a bunch of non-fiction business-y stuff, and few bio type things as well
Thanks now im gonna tell that to them everyday!
What?! May 17 is the National Day to the best country in the world, and that country is Norway. Norway is easily the best country in this world, and you know it!🇧🇻🇧🇻🇧🇻 And people needs to not take simple words so seriously.
hey lauren your vids enspier me so much I'm still trying to figure out my sexuality and your vids really help
thank u so much! its okay, take as much time as you need 🖤
My former best friend (who knew I am pan) and her friend used the f slur a bunch, they called the world it and they called themselves the f slur… they are straight. I texted my former friend and she said it is normal and that she didn’t think I would react because gay people are called way worse, and that it was a joke. And a lot of my friends thought it wasn’t wrong… what do you think? Am I just overreacting?? We’ve been friends since we were in 1st grade….
Ok , sweet talking. Thank you for sharing
I get it if you are attracted to females and you are happy it’s not others business. At the same time I have met girls and they said, I had enough of guys and I am sleeping with girls . You see in this scenario they have chosen to be with girls purely for other reasons not just because they are lesbians. In this case we can say “ they haven’t met the right guy” what do you think.?
My best Fri found out first I am a lesbian. I don’t even know what is my sexuality was at that time :)) I’m crushing on her now😳
yay you posted! ive missed your content ily❤️
She’s backkkkkkk 🫶🫶
As aroace i know how bothering is someone say:" you don't found the right person yet"
yessss!!!!
Hi! I’m a fellow LGBTQ+ CZcamsr who you did partly inspire me amongst others to do what I’m doing
Hi Lauren!! we’ve missed you ❤️ I really enjoyed this content, you seem so happy in this video, hope you’re doing well! Love, Klover :)
For some reason I don’t love that it’s homophobia, biphobia, and transphobia coz I feel like homophobia can encompass phobia for all lgbtq+ sexualities but when u include biphobia it kinda sounds like u aren’t including other sexualities (i.e. pansexual, polysexual, omnisexual, asexual, etc.) but maybe that’s just me
I’m saying the first one😮💨
iam question if iam a lesbian or not rn and if i really like lesbian couples in show and also i was quite happy when my friend came out as a lesbian so does that make me les?
hey thats okay, take your time. you don't need to know right away.. let it take its time. those things don't necessarily make you lesbian. if you have romantic/relationship feelings for girls, that's how you'd know.
@@laurenelloise thank you this really helps and helps me stress about it less
welcome! you'll figure it out!
Sweet time to say these 5 things that make lgbtq people mad
My best friend told me she knew I was lgbtq when I came out as bi to her.
Very important video!
There are also other comments like: prove it or kiss.
I'm just heading to an IDAHOBIT rally in Vienna.
Unfortunately I still doesn't stand for Interphobia, although it should be.
yeah thankfully i haven't heard one along the lines of that... might be also bc ive *cough* grown up a lil out of my clubbing days, i think that's most likely where id hear that one haha. oh wow that's so cool! we dont really have many events here (that im aware of anyway). agree, it should be, i think society is not educated enough on intersexuality
new videoooo yayayay ^^
yeeeehawwwww (also congrats on being early! good to see ur face again)
@@laurenelloise ha ha ty I just want to say something even tho we not even friends or talked for long if u won't see me again anymore it might only be because I died... I prefer being positive but i'm kinda sick... u know amm in some bad stuff and I don't have a job so my mom going to stop feed me... and my country not helping 19 year old people so I might won't get to watch u more... I hope u always get more and more subscribers and that even if I won't be able to see it anymore I am more then happy for the years I did watched u...
oh and I hope for u 2 to always be happy together :D and yeah amm please ignore it if u also don't like negative stuff ha ha sorry now be happy :D
hey it sounds like you're going through a rough time. I'm sending you hugs, positive vibes and courage. 🤍 Help is always around, all you have to do is ask for it. i know things aren't the greatest in your country atm, please look after yourself and stay safe friend
@@laurenelloise ty I try my best for sure !
Thanks.
thank YOU for being here 🖤
Happy pride! 🏳🌈
Omg I love totoro in the back
Hi Lauren 👋🏻🥰🏳️🌈
congrats on being first!!!
Please upload more videos!🥹
Hold tight, one coming in the next 24-48hrs 🌈
i can say as a trans self its transphobic to say and yes somemone they say you dont look trans to not hurt yes they hurt when you say de dont mean it yes they do. dont push away things its mean you can be transphobic self.
I’ve said all of these😮💨
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Thank you i love Your content
I appreciate it, thank you!
GUYS WAKE UP LAUREN POSTED
PLS WAKE UP (also lol im about to sleep, timezones are weird)
@@laurenelloise i’m in australia too i’m just half asleep most of the time lmao
Love you Lauren am 41 this month but I only came out a year ago and the amount of family that now does not speak to me is ridiculous xx
@@eviiiiie hahaha oml i feel you!!!
@@louiserosser9404 happy early birthday!! im happy that you were able to accept this part of yourself! but im so sorry to hear about your family :( can't imagine how hard it is. keep doing you, everyone else can stick it
I live in safest LGBT country in the world it's called USA and openly lesbian age of 15 year old now i am 24 years old. Certain countries can't be LGBT.
yesterday my gf broke up with me
ughh im sorry that sucks, im sending you healing vibes
Something i would say everyday😈😈😈😈😈
hey Lauren?thanks for such an amazing video content.much love from Uganda🧡💚🧡🥰🥰💟💟💟
thank you! sending love from australia! 🌈
@@laurenelloise welcome though in my country Uganda..literally Africa at large LGBT community is prohibited even in schools,once you're identified as part of it u get expelled right away.some support u guys 😭😭😭😭🌈
I am lesbian :p
HAPPY PRIDE MONTH!!!!
HAPPY PRIDEEEE 🌈✌️