HOW TO COME OUT TO YOUR FRIENDS
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- Need tell your best friend? What do you actually say when coming out? Here are ways to come out as lesbian, bi, lgbtq, nonbinary, trans etc to your friends! 💗
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0:00 How to Come Out to Your Friends
0:58 Coming Out Checklist
3:41 Ways to Come Out
8:18 What to Actually Say
9:41 What if things go bad?
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How did you come out to your friends? It might help a fellow gay if you leave ur experience below!! 🌈💗 p.s. if ur ready to come out to your parents, i made a video about exactly that! czcams.com/video/2_a0sQ5Rv3g/video.html
I have only come out to one of my friends, in person . i was really nervous at first but he was happy for me .
So i wrote a poem-kinda thing for my bestest friend who I’ve trusted with a ton of my secrets. I texted it to her in the evening and she was super supportive of it, which was nice. So I came out as just ace then, then one of my other close friends I came out to as aroace (after coming out to them I told the person I initially came out to as aro as well). Then I came out to my other friend who had just come out as pan because we related to each other! (This was the only one in person coming out) So I kinda scoped out who I thought/knew I could trust and then came out. My family I’m kinda waiting to come out until I’m independent just in case. Also, I used Text at first cause I tried doing it in person the day before but I got too nervous to say it. I mean the next day after they responded we called and talked to each other about it. So yeah! If you have the gut trust feeling it will most likely go smoothly!
I just sorta started acting fruity then started talking about gay people then told them
Honestly, I just say “Hey, I’m gay.” And they’re always like “I know. It’s kinda obvious because u have a girlfriend!”
idk if this counts but i told someone that the most innapropriate song I have on my playlist is slumber party and they said they were gonna listen to it-
My come out to friend looked like I get my friend in a room and I was like “listen there’s something I want to tell you “ and she was like “ what, are you lesbian “ she started laughing and I was like “ yes that’s exactly what I wanted to tell you 😂” then she looked at me and we both started laughing. The best coming out ever🤣
My go-to for coming out to friends was to talk in person, go for a walk or something, and just say "Hey (name)" - because they'd say "Yeah what's up?" and then, even though it was scary, the conversation had already started. I just had to keep it going.
Also yes 100% come out only when you feel ready, and only tell people you WANT to tell. You're not obligated to tell all your friends at once! I didn't! Take your time, look after yourselves, and remember ya'll are loved 💕
THIS. 💗 great advice as always x
Thank you! ❤❤❤❤
Hey Lauren - you actually made me blush tho that's not too hard to do ! I believe that you and people like you are such a positive force for young people in Australia and throughout the world. Kudos to you. I know you're making a huge positive difference in people's lives and I find that so inspiring ! Love your all inclusive energy and your vids !!
awwww hahah Thank you very much for your kind words! And again, thank you so much for your support, it truly means alot!
I actually came out to a few of my friends as a Lesbian and they were just pretty chill about it, I also ended up coming out to my crush, who is pansexual
How I came out to a friend/someone at school: So I was looking at aroace memes and rants on my computer then they looked over at my screen and was like,
“You’re aroace?”
Me: I-uh yes?
Them: that’s cool! I support you!
So I outed myself
I made a coming out presentation on canva and put girls by girl in red as background music. I was gonna wait till later to show it to my bestie in person, but it was the last day of lesbian visibility week and I wanted to do it right then. So I ended up sending it to her, and I was so fucking nervous waiting for her to reply. I literally almost started bawling. I kinda already knew that she was gonna be super supportive, but I was still scared just cuz it's a big thing to tell someone and it was my first time coming out. She turned out to be really chill about it and just want to know all the tea when I told her I had a crush on a girl at my school.
hi lauren i would like to thank you, because of you i was able to come out to my best friend. thank you sooo much!❤❤❤
This was perfect timing! I was thinking about coming out to one of my fiends yesterday, but I got scared and didn't know what to say and didn't do it but this video has helped a lot!! Thank you!!!
oh yayyyyy!!! im glad for the timing! and im wishing you the best of luck when you decide you're ready to come out to ur friend xx
This is so helpful! I've been following you for about a year and I've watched all of your videos, you have helped me so much, I don't know where I would be without your videos. ❤🧡💛💚💙💜
Love your username
@@grumpylynx2304 Thanks!
You are so welcome! this makes me rlly happy to hear, u dont even know! :')
@@laurenelloise Omg thank you so much for replying!!!
Ofc!!!
This is all great advice and I hope it helps those who need it! There’s no right or wrong way to come out; just be comfortable about doing it, or even just go about and be yourself and let people guess or assume (which is what I’ve done since my initial coming out to my friends; coming out to new people is EXHAUSTING).
THIS. 💗 that’s exactly right.
The first friend I told had kind of already guessed when I told her she was super cool about it and didn’t have any weird reaction (thankfully) and I think it’s really nice that I don’t have to hide it around her. I had talked to her about it the LGBTQ+ community before and she had been cool with it so I wasn’t as scared when I told her (but still veryyyyyyy scared). I’m thinking of telling some other friends who might not be as cool with it (I’ve only told 4 people, so far so good) so this vid rly helped ❤️
came out to my roommate today!! I was super nervous about it for like months, but I feel so relieved now. I’ve had tough experiences with coming out before: the reason I and my first (and last) boyfriend broke up was pretty much my bisexuality, which he did not take well and let’s just say the way he reacted and his change of treatment towards me after I told him about it were just cruel and pretty traumatizing. I mean, if you don’t want a relationship with a bisexual girl, that’s ok, cause event though it probably comes from a place of prejudice, it’s your choice yk, I can’t make you stay or force you to love me, won’t hold grudges for that. But you really don’t have to treat her like shit and do some pretty messed up things I really won’t vent about here cause it’s pretty depressing and scar her for life with a terrible first experience after she confided in you with some stuff like that (where I lived wasn’t really a safe space lol, we’re literally 15/16 year olds from a Brazilian small town). But anyway, I’m really happy about how she reacted and that she understands I could never see her “that” way. Sorry about any spelling or grammar mistakes, it’s literally 1 am and English isn’t my first language haha, so my brain cells aren’t really working rn.
hi Lauren! i loved this video, i’ve been following you forever and i’m still blown away by your content. i’ve actually been thinking about telling my best friend (who i am already out to) that i like her. so this video helped me think of ways to tell her that even though i’ve already come out to her. i’ll let you know how it goes if i ever work up the courage to tell her! that was my little life update nobody asked for :) ❤️❤️❤️
If it's my bestie(s) I'd just yap about being awesome in a humorous but also serious sense.
If it's my regular friend, I'd just say I'm lesbian.
If it's a new friend, I'd tell them when they become a regular friend:D (js incase they tell others ykyk!)
Great tips! There's also the possibility to literally come out of the (a) closet.
That’s always an option too as a fun way haha
My friends are the type of people to make homophobic jokes or say ‘that’s so gay’ . They don’t know I’m gay yet, and they always talk about how unsupportive their parents are which makes me think they will never understand. As well as this my absolute best friend since day one is insanely homophobic he is just the worst for homophobic jokes and her always says stuff that I just laugh at because I don’t want him to think that I’m gay. I might just never com out to them honestly
I have an open lesbian friend, so coming out a agender to them might be a little easier for me than to my parents. Thank you for the help!! ❤️‼️
Honestly though just come out I know it's easier said than done especially for me but if they're really your friends they're not going to care and they'll actually support you
Hey I've been watching ur vids for about a year now (since soon after I realised I wasn't straight..) and uve helped me so much trough everything (including internal homophobia) and I really wanted to thank u for everything ur amazing ❤❤❤
Another amazing video, I just love your videos. They help everyone to come out or to figure out who they like. Your makeup is amazing, I wish I could do it as good as you. Thank you for making these amazing videos, they are always the best videos ever. I love you so much and thank you for making these amazing videos
So I have the experience that with friends it was actually very easy, because I know they accept me as I am with all my escapades and because I generally choose kind- hearted and accepting and supportive friends... With my family tho, that is a completelly different story, cause u don't choose your family. So I am scared to tell them apart from my sister and cousin, they are so so amazing♥♥♥
i dont know how it is to have real friends that i can tell everything to. The last time i told someone, the whole School knew it and i was hated and being attacked.
Amazing video! Thank you! Just what I needed. 😊I have told some of my friends already, but as they are basically all LGBTQ+ then I wasn't worried. Now I just have to tell my other crowd of friends, who happen to be totally cis-het (as far as I know). 😬🏳🌈
PS: Have watched so many of you videos and they have really helped me figure myself out, so thank you so much! ❤😊
Thank you so much for making this video, I've been so afraid of coming out for so long that i just really need this.
You're so welcome!
Lauren please can you make a video about how to tell your mom or dad that your a lesbian, it would be so helpful.
I've made one! here you go, i hope it helps
came out to my trusted friend through chat the other day and to my sister in person earlier today :D happy Pride!
When I came out to my friends, we were talking about some funny GIFS and outa no where I said “also I’m atomic number 83 on the periodic table” (witch is spelt BI on the table) it took them 5 WHOLE MINUTES TO RESPOND GOSH I COULD NOT EXPLAIN HOW MUCH STRESS I FELT. When they didn’t text I panicked and texted “thoughts?” To which they said they had no clue what I was talking about. Then I texted all caps IM BI they were so happy and sourportive. 🏳️🌈🏳️🌈 happy pride. I couldn’t be able to come put without Lauren.
Awwww omg this is so cute! I can feel how stressful that wait was hahaha. I’m glad they were super supportive in the end ❤️❤️
I’m pan, I came out to one of my best friends who was a boy, and he was like oh… and I was like what? And he was like I was literally planning to tell you today that l’M bi… and we laughed so hard lol
Thank you, this helps me so much!! ❤
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My friend was homofobic, and i was super scared to come out.
It was very Hard
but my parents are supporting me for who am i.
I guess i am lucky😄😄
im sorry you had to deal with that, it sucks
@@laurenelloise thanks
And that’s okay!
@@laurenelloise :)
My parents don’t support and say I’m just saying that and that it’s just a phase
I love the positive video and you always give great tips and advice for young people and just love your content. This is a great video and thank you so much for sharing this video
Thank you so much! and for ur support! 💗 just trying to make stuff younger me wouldve benefitted from!
How I came out:
Me: "[friends name], I think I'm trans..."
Friend: "Nah. You just need to get through puberty and get used to the changes. You'll get over it in a year."
[OVER A YEAR LATER...]
Me: "I still think I'm trans."
Friend: "... Okay then."
Thank you so much Lauren!! I learnt so many new ways to come out to friends from you , Definitely I'm gonna try giving handwritten letters to them :) btw I love your eye make-up as well !!
You are so welcome! im wishing u the best!! (and thank you!! ahha im not v good but i keep trying!)
@@laurenelloise Thanks a lot for the wishes!! ☺️❤️
Yayy! Thanks for the amazing video :)
You're so welcome! tysm!
Great video like always Lauren. Love the New look the little chain and awesome eye shadow.
Stay you and thanks for always being an inspiration to other.
Thanks so much!! tried to make my eyes the rainbow! 🌈
@@laurenelloise it works look like the rainbow 🌈🏳️🌈
This is great! I recently came out to some closer gay friends as lesbian and all these tips are so true! Keep up the great work Lauren! Happy Pride🏳️🌈🏳️🌈🏳️🌈🏳️🌈🌈🌈🌈💅💅💅p.s. I'm a new subscriber and love your content 💓
aww im proud of you for coming out!! and thank you so much! HAPPY PRIDE and tysm for joining the fam! 🌈
You re sooo helpful thank you ❤❤❤
I was about to come out to my friend. But I choose to watch a video first I was so nervous and I decided to text them then call, I might try to write other friends a letter. I came out as nonbinary I go by all pronouns and I’m choosing to go by Ash now😁
As a man with a kid its hard to come out but this helps
Hello, you gave me the courage to come out on Saturday or Sunday! Thank you! -Bear
One of my friends (my closest one who I have been friends with since the age of 1) guessex I was bi before I did. She mentioned it and that got be thinking 😂
aww haha sometimes friends really do know us better than we do!
@@laurenelloise they really do x
this video really helped me
You are beautiful Lauren
Have a great day
Happy Pride ❤️
Thank you lots! Happy Pride !!
I’m planning to come out to my friend group today when we get together. One of them already knows and is SUPER supportive. I imagine the others will be just as supportive, but it’s still nerve-wracking.
Great information. Luv Ya.
AHHHH. THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR THIS!!💖💖 really appreciate it sooo much!
Thanks!
ahhhh thank you so muchhhhh 💜
Ty
Thanks for the informative video
AHHHHH thank you so much for this kind tip! I really truly appreciate it! and ur so welcome, im glad it was useful! tysm again!
i told my 2 besties that im a lesbian but before i told them i was crying because i thought they wouldn't like me but were supporting me!
if i would come out now in pride month everyone would be like ''you want to be trendy'' or ''you're only gay for attention'' and that's frustrating and sad cause that's not what pride month should feel for u or should be seen by other people:((
but great and helpful video and happy pride month of course!!!
Hello Lauren!!!!
HEY!!!!
thank you for the tips
I’m a lesbian too , but I never really knew like how to come out from a long time ago.
But I’ve already came out fully from some time ago I think.
thank u sooo much Lauren
Ngl I'm gonna do this to my parents rn :] tysm Lauren!
i hope it went well!
@@laurenelloise it did!
They told me to kms… what do I do?
if this ironic, it’s okay but if it’s not and they are h0m0ph.bics, sorry for you :( ❤
I love you so much I'm watching all the time I have still not come out to my mom I am very scared to tell my mom about me and that I am a lesbian she doesn't fully really like the lgbtq community and she never really has good things to say about it so I'm very scared and I just want to tell her who I am so bad but I can't 🏳️🌈🏳️🌈
Me knowing it’s gonna be a while before I come out to my friends (if I ever do-I just don’t really see it that necessary)
Also me seeing this vid: ah yes this seems like something I should watch
Jokes aside this is a great vid. Thank u and happy pride month!!!!🌈🌈
to come out, i made a presentation lolll
this is so cute, i love this idea!!!
@@laurenelloise thank you! i actually saw it on tiktok first and thought it was good
LOOOL, Totally relatable! :D !!! O.o
Wonderful new video, you're so adorable, great job and much love my friend ❤️🙏
Thank you so much!!!
@@laurenelloise You're welcome
When i told my friend I've known since middle school that i am trans, and she had laughed at my face. I want to tell my core friends that i shared with my younger brother, but my parents won't let me, and that resulted me to tell people that i just met. I want to stop telling people that i meet for the first time by telling my core friends, but still my parents won't let me to.
Great example
Wish i could use this,but my friends where the ones that told me that i was gay before i even knew it
I remember when I came out to my friends it was not really planned the only times I came out was when one of my friends asked me and the other it happened because this girl had a crush on me and she said you don’t like girls right and I was like I do but they were cool about it but I guess it’s because most of my friends are gay and the one that told me that I don’t like girls right was questioning her sexuality at that time
I wanna come out but I’m popular and I don’t want to lose that what do I do
you don’t have to tell to everybody, just tell to your close friends. You also can do jokes about your sexually and, when people say « oh you’re gay/trans (whatever it is) ? » you can tell « you didn’t know this ? i thought its obvious! »
I came out to my best friend over text a couple of weeks ago and it was such a good experience and she was really accepting but I want to come out to my parents and I'm kinda scared they won't take me seriously but every time I sit down with them i just kind of freeze and I don't know what to say and I was thinking of writing them a letter but I feel like it would be a bit awkward cuz i give them the letter and then what? Leave them there? Watch them read it? Go to my room? I just think it would be really awkward but if I sit down with them it's just really weird and I don't know how to bring up the subject i mean what am I gonna do? Just blurt out "I'm bisexual" over dinner with no context? It just seems like it would be really weird and cringey and I don't know what to do pls send help😭
I came out by putting a pride flag in my room. I never said anything, they never said anything but they eventually acknowledged that I was gay
Lauren girl I need your help, I really want to tell my bestie that I'm gay but I don't know how she used to be bi but then she went back straight and is now a hard core Christian and she's always been there for me but I just dont know what to do or what to say please help me
Im going to come out probs today to my friends. Im in a friend group of 5. SUPER SUPPORTIVE OF LGBTQ+ 3 are bi/pan, one is lesbian and one is straight!!!
best of luck!
@@laurenelloise done!!!
The first person i ever came out to was one of my friends. It was a very gradual process, if you type into google the colors of your pride flag, they will come up in images. So i was like “hey whats your favorite colors?” And she said something and i was like “mine are pink blue and yellow… what does that mean?” And she said “what” and i told her to look it up. It took her awhile to get it because she didnt know what being pansexual was so one night we were talking and it was around midnight and the conversation with the colors meant and she eventually got it. (And then a whole other thing happened that i wont be sharing, but it lead me to come out to my dad the same night as well.) the next way i came out to my friends is i gave them a little trivia game, general stuff like trivia about a video game we play and whatnot but then my last question was them taking a guess at my sexuality. I think that one was really interesting to see the results of because a lot of my friends thought i was coming out to them as trans! (Because i talk very masculine). Another way one of my friends came out was through social media, where they just put “bisexual” in their profile to tell her family. I hope this helped! ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜
Im lesbian and one of my friends are Lesbian! Also i have a non-binary And Bi friend! and they’re really sweet!🏳️🌈
Hey I am going to a overnight 4 week camp and I plan to write a letter and come out that way
I’m also lesbian I love your videos!!
helloooo thank you lots and lots :')
hi i came out in school and it didt go well
Dude when I came out to one of my best friends I just wrote a note and gave it to her 😅
this is cute, and one of the easier/simple ways!!
I think I should put lesbian color hearts in my bio
I have a question could you please answer ⭕️⭕️⭕️⭕️⭕️ I have a crush on my best friend and I wanna be with her but I don’t want to ruin our friendship either what should I do?
Actually i just said that I have a crush on some1 than she came to me like look i found who you crush on and told her name excitedly and that was the time i felt like I picked the real friend but like that was super normal cuz she was always having crushes and that was my first time telling her that I have one so she understood that I'm not joking idk why I wrote but that's it it's another way to say without saying
Ok so like I have a big problem, basically I have this best friend who has mentioned that she’s not straight but def has a pref of boys, I told her I had a crush on her a while ago as a “prank” and she got mad at me because she said it was “disrespectful to the lgbt community” which is literally impossible because IM PART OF IT which she didn’t understand and she had this friend who she had a secret crush on that I didn’t find out about recently. That friend ended up being terrible which I already knew but she wouldn’t listen until a bunch of drama happened with this friend. Now that friend is gone and my crush is my best friend again and she thinks that I don’t have a crush on her and that I never did and she talks about the boys on her swim team constantly but I’m completely in love and I have NO idea what to do. And now it’s summer break and I can’t see her in person for a while. I really hope she doesn’t see this lol. Help!!
Ps, congrats you read a paragraph
So i just texted my friend that i need to tell her something i already told my pronouns and she just said ok im really scared (im lesbian)
Edit: so I forgot to edit this but when I told her all she said is slay
Also I got a gf!
So, I came out to one of my friends as Genderfluid amd Questioning at different times.
Her reaction to Questioning:
Okay...................
Me telling her in GenderFluid:
[My name...] can't you just be normal. Can't you just be a normal person
Guess she wasn't such a good friend either.
I feel like I could be lesbian but then I don't know....?!
No but I thought I was ace, then pan and now I’m considering lesbian like howwwwww
You aren't alone! I promise so many others have been thru similar things! even i thought i was ace for a while. sometimes it just takes a while before we truly know ourselves, and thats okay!
Someone help me. Idk if I'm bi or lesbian.heck, I might be straight. I wanna be bi or lesbian and have even thought of other LGBTQ stuff. And I want to do bad but I'm scared of going to..y'know.. he*l and people say if ur gay that does happen. Other half says that's balogna. And idk what to believe. Sorry if that's too much. Butttttt please help
There my friends I didn’t even need to say anything yet before they knew
Ok so I have a bi friend and I told her that I was bi cuz I thought that I was bi then… but I’m lesbian!
Hey i need your help
what's bothering you? :)
Since me and my friend are actually so close I’m kind of considering just sending him this video lol
Hey Lauren I was wondering if you could do “how to come out to your teachers?”
I might be able to do that! But in the meantime, you can always take the tips from this video, and the 'coming out to parents' video to help come out to ur teacher
@@laurenelloise I kinda came out to her today, she was very supportive :)
im thinking to come out to my bff but dont know how to please give me some tips
Actually my story was just telling my bff that I have a crush on someone and telling her sm features of her than my bff found out actually that was fun too .
Esp if u have crush on someone u can tell ur bff ur crush with this way but my advice learn what are they thoughts about this topic . But I guess if you have real friends and you tell them seriously they would definitely understand
I going down the rabbit hole of CZcams a minute ago I was watching a video about squids 😆
Of my mom dose not care she not my real mom?
💛💟💜🖤
I came out as bi on snapchat
Me and my best friend were writing a book and I said I wanted LGBTQ represtation in it, she said she was gay and I said me too, we responded with well duh. 😂🌈
I have known i was in the Lgbtq+ community since i was 8 (now 14, been through a lot of questioning, now Im pretty sure) and i really need this vid
I come out because i draw i lesbian flag in a paper an then say look i draw my flag !!!!
Most my friends are gay so they couldn’t care less lol
Anyway I love your videos
They make me laugh and help me with stuff
Also I’m in the closet to my parents and they buy me pride flags should I ask for a pan flag or is it too risky?
awww hahah i love this! you have a great & supportive friendship group then! and thank you so much! If you're parents have already got you flags, then i dont think they'll mind if you ask for the pan flag at all!
@@laurenelloise yep and I’m very thankful for that 💖💛💙
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Bro imagine you said
“hey you wanna know something kinda weird? ok so if you put your index fingers next to each other you will see that they’re not straight. the thing is, they’re a lot straighter than I am.”