MODERN WOMEN ARE SINGLE BECAUSE THEY ARE TOO PICKY? Unrealistic Expectations in Dating
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- čas přidán 12. 09. 2024
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Its common to assume that a pretty woman is single due to choice rather than situation. Modern single women are commonly labeled as being "too picky" but its not always the case. We discuss further in this video!
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This was a good conversation but it is also why the running messege among men spaces is "dont take advice from women" because there's what women say they want and then there's what woman actually responds too. Women say they want tall men, but they will respond to a lil wayne or prince or kevin heart, which goes to show to what they actually respond too. They respond to power.
Thank you! Interesting perspective. Do you think theres a reason for the difference in what some women say and do? Environment? Options? Etc
@@EJIMANnenaNgozi i think there might be some caveat to it, but in general my point still stands. They respond to power. Nothing, except power keeps woman out of the dating market. Not height, religion, family, kids, marriage, ect. A woman will respond to the most powerful man in her proximity. This isn't something that is good nor bad. It just is what it is.. This is merely information that men should know, and should be taught as young men so that can move this world accordingly and figure out how they want their interaction with women to be, and build themselves past that threshold point that a woman will tolerate and respond to. I think that's where most men, in general, fail, in thinking that just because you attained a woman you've done enough to keep her. Men should know that the threshold mark is not stationary, its a moving target every second, hour, month and every year. They need to understand that the power you have today may not be enough for tomorrow. And power needs to be consistently cultivated. This is what will make your relationship with women last; consistently increasing your power to be able to call hands and change the reality of the world around you. When a man can no longer change reality around him and the world doesn't responds to him because he lacks sufficient power, this is when a man has hit his wall.
True. There's a book on the types of power women respond to: financial, cultural, social, and governmental.
What women desire hasn't charged, but since women hold power themselves now, women demand a man with fair more power.
I totally disagree.
Women can give you the best game only if you ask the right questions.
Ask a woman what type of man was she sleep with without a commitment...
Ask a woman what type of man was she sleep with on the first date,
Become that man.
It was three girls who taught me the game to be a player.
A dude who has alot of sisters or xlose female cousins usually make the biggest olayers because they taught him how to get over on women.
I was cool with some geniune admitted 304s when i was 16. I was an honor roll student and had tje gift of gab, 3.8 GPA and also cool and laid back ans articulate.
So the 304s liked me and taught me how to run game on other girls and get what I want
Wow you are 6'2 that is very tall for a lady
Height for women is like Skin complexion for us men.
They both dictate how feminine or masculine you are preceived.
Not saying a tall guy cant be feminine, but he looks more masculine at 6ft than 5'11''
Drake is more masculine than prince.
In the US, approximately 5,500 girls turn 18 Every Day! (US Census data) The "Wall" is NOT at 30-35 - it's much earlier... Girls who grow up with an expectation of becoming wives and mothers and who truly desire that for themselves, will be recognized for those traits early (18-19yo) and will accept a suitable man (not "perfect" of course) and be matched up and into their lifetime roles right from the beginning. The others - well , watch this video and others like it.
We refrain from language like “the wall” because its used to illicit fear in women. However we are realistic and understand the biological aspect of things. However one can spin this on men. Women who are 18/19 are usually around their age mates. Are their fellow 18/19 year old men ready for marriage as well? Thats the million dollar question!
@@EJIMANnenaNgoziI would say younger guys are not ready. From what I’ve seen it’s because of the parents not raising their kids to be husbands and wives. Then they blame the younger generation for being “worst” when they’re the ones that raised them 😂😂 Then you have people creating narratives about a certain age is too young for marriage and that you should be out having fun. Now we have serval generations of people who are entitled, don’t take initiative and have psychological issues but think a drug makes them normal…I could go on but many people are basically in a pickle jar getting shook up 😂😂😂.
We have to hold the older generations accountable for dropping the ball and figure out how to move forward and be more productive than to just continue this cycle of manipulation and not being authentic.
No, age shouldn't be the same since our life paths are totally different. A man has to achieve value, yet a woman has to maintain it. Best way to do it is to marry young right after puberty.@@EJIMANnenaNgozi
@@EJIMANnenaNgozii use to work at a call center.
I was 40.
Girls 18 to 25 flirted, chased and even fondled and grouped me at the job.
I had so many of them trying to get me.
That the women over 30 said they are going to try to get pregnant. I laughed. Im like i keep a magnum in my wallet.
At the community center i use to work at i had young 20 years olds go home with me.
Right now im seeing a girl who is 20 and one i met off Facebook when she was 23....she 25 now..
The key to getting younger girls
Drip and jordans
Have good conversation and be social
Get out and go places with social settings....
I always get approached by girls who are 23 years of age and Younger.
Young girls always chased after older men if he is sexy to her ie body she wants.
Real talk some grey sweats and my print is all I need at 47 and a 18 year old will be DTF.
@@EJIMANnenaNgozino man should seek marriage until 35 to 45.
An no woman should seek marriage after 27 years old...really after 25.
If a woman is 30 and she never been married she should just do a 304 phase for the next 40 years. Because all we want women that old for is booty calls
When i was 30 is when i was open minded to marriage.
My EX met me when she was 18. she approached me we had a situtionship from 18 to 20.
i was turning 32 when i finally married.
She was a woman who had all the things on my list of the ideal woman.
We divorced because she stop being the woman i idealized as a wife.
Interesting
Wow ejima ladies, its been 3 years since i last saw your content. My my my, my my my my, how times have flown by. Are we still on this single relationship thing, we need to hear about successful marriage for a change. Don't you think ?
Agreed! The relationship topic does get exhausting. More to come on living In Charlotte and Houston 😁
The girl looking at the shoes, i learn this when i was 15 years old how important shoes are when meeting women to sleep with them. Even in my 40s i had co-workers 20+ years younger than me. There was this one girl who was 23. She use to roast me every day. Up until the day i bought some jordans. Then she started Sxxxxually harrasing me at job daily. telling other females she was going to FXXXXX men. mind you im not even the best looking guy at the job. nor am i tall. Its weird. Even this girl who was admitted lesbian, was staring me up an down, she is 20, she said your shoe game is on point.
she started asking me to go to church with her, i am in my 40s, she started talking about wanting marriage and wanting to be pregnant soon, she kept staring at me with intensity it was weird i felt uncomfortable because she is admitted lesbian, an never been with a man before.
Shoes matter.
🤣🤣🤣
@@EJIMANnenaNgozi I was in my early 40s and I was ordering pizza hut.
I had my shoes at the front door against the couch until I got my shoe rack.
The pizza delivery girl saw all my shoes on display and her eyes lit up. She said I like your taste in shoes. And started flirting. I doubt she was over 21 years old.
Shoes matter to younger girls.
Even women in my age bracket love Jordans.
If you believe you're not picky, then would you date a bus driver or a pizza delivery guy of your same age, making less than $50,000 a year who still lives with his parents because he cannot afford the rent for an own home?
If that's a no then you need to realize that that is the average of all regular working people in the US, meaning half of the working population has even less than that and if you're not willing to date an average man that means you're picky.
Did you know that over half of all Americans are so poor that they cannot pay their rent on time, meaning if you were not picky you'd have to date not only someone who doesn't have enough money for his rent, but also has no money to take you out on a date?
.... and then take a wild guess what would happen to your financial situation if you live with such an average man and get pregnant in a country where giving birth in a hospital already costs $15,000, followed by the massive expenses a child causes you.
Furthermore see things from the side of these average men, who have multiple experiences with young women harshly refusing to even look at them and even those who did manage to have a girlfriend for a short while almost all have the experience of getting dumped when the girlfriend found some other guy with a little bit more money, can you imagine these men aren't interested in dating anymore, simply because chances to find a woman who would remain loyal to them are next to non existent?
Interesting. Sounds a bit extreme but I can’t deny your experiences. Could it be that many men in this economic status you mention are going for women “out of their league”? Women do have an advantage in this area being that even if they don’t have much financially they can rely on their looks to get ahead.
@@EJIMANnenaNgozi Ok, let's see ......
If you ask average women what kind of men they would be willing to date, as in looks, height, money, social status, etc., you get answers that only 0.5% of all men can fulfill.
If you're (like me) not among those top 0.5% of men, all you get from over 90% of all women is harsh refusals and that's only if they bother responding at all, most women will simply ignore all men who aren't top 0.5%.
Now use a bit of logic and tell me, how many of all the women can be so high level that they match the top 0.5% of men, no matter from what aspect of a person you want to look at it?
Would it be possible that by plain logic only 0.5% of women can match the top 0.5% of men?
If only as little as 1% of women would match the top 0.5% of men that would already mean, each of these women would have to share her man with another woman.
Next conclusion, if over 90% of all women believe they deserve a top 0.5% man, who is delusional here, the 89.5% of men who remain single while 90% of the girls are running after the rich men, or the 89.5% of women who believe they are top 0.5% but by plain math cannot be in the top 0.5%?
Last but not least, here's another logic thought:
What do you think do those top 0.5% of men do, given the fact they all have 100s of the prettiest and youngest girls lining up at their doorstep, no matter whether they are 30 or 70?
Do you believe they will pick one and make at least 0.5% of the women happy, or is it logic to you, they will pick the youngest and prettiest girl they can find, spend a few nights with her, then dump her for an even younger and prettier one and they will keep doing that throughout their whole life, leaving behind them a loooooong trail of abused, frustrated and lonesome single women who no man wants anymore after they have been the town bicycles of the rich for 10-15 years?
The answer is, once the women turn 35, ALL of them end up being single, because the rich men dumped them and the non rich men don't want them anymore, because they don't want to be an emergency solution, let alone the fact that these 90% of women at 35+ still look down on average men with a level of arrogance that makes "red flag" a huge understatement.
So WHO has the advantage here and gets ahead? The 90% of women who believe they are all top 0.5%, or the top 0.5% of men who make use of their options?
Who has a disadvantage here? The top 0.5% of men, or 90% of the women and 89.5% of the men?
There are roughly 10% of women who realize the above before even trying, who never run after the top men, who get themselves a good (as in respectful and loyal) man, marry him and get happy, which obviously also makes 10% of the men happy, the others can all be found in the statistics about singles who never get married and divorces.
Face it, you're parrotting propaganda of the rich that serves nobody but the richest of the rich men.
Wanna know what's the funniest part about this?
In old times, when women had no rights, the men who had 90% of all the women were the exact same rich and powerful men who the girls are volunteerly running after now, only difference is, in old times the men had to marry at least one of them and divorce wasn't an option, meaning at least 1% of the women had a provider for their financial needs while the men had their mistresses, nowadays the rich men don't have to provide anything to anyone anymore, they don't have a primary woman anymore, they have a huge load of "side chicks", dump them on will and that's it.
..... and then, finally, after all that said, whether you agree with me or not, we get to the point of how modern society works and it's all about equal rights.
Equal rights work both ways, you know?
In todays economy the non rich (meaning the bottom 99.5% of the population) cannot live from a single income, there is no option that one of them can be just pretty and the other will bring in the money, both partners have to contribute to the family income.
Nowadays both partners in a relationship have a career, both make money, even more or less the same amount of money, they meet on equal terms and they stay together on equal terms, not only in their look but also financially.
This fairly often means they won't have any children, because there's no time for children when building a career for both partners, but that's just another advantage, because capitalism highly favors people without children.
@@EJIMANnenaNgozino woman is out of a mans league.
All men can get any type of woman they want.
Too picky No.
There are good men out there.
I should know because im not one.
I have had so many women try to push marriage on me. An i all i want is one thing.
I think women aren't picky in their prime. They pick men who dont want to marry them.
They ignore or reject the men who are really in to them.
They actually reject better men.
Deep!
@@EJIMANnenaNgozi they always pick the man who they are most attracted to. So they pick according to who turns them on. It's purely emotional.
A playa learn how to turn women on.
A good man Is not hip on how to arouse a woman.. he leads with integrity and character
Which is not much of a panty dropper
I am going to give a little push back,
To be honest women have their ideal guy ie 6ft5 and dark skin an or maybe handsome.
But these women always end up with exceptions to the rule.
im 5ft8. I have been approached mostly by women 5ft11 to 5ft5....
But i have also slept with women 6ft, 6'2' and 6ft5.
My gurl now is aroud 5ft11 and 6ft
the girls i met who typically call me short and slept with me any way. are women 5ft8 and 5ft9.
i said all this to say: Women say they want a guy
6ft5
6 pack abs
6 inches.
But they all have stories of men less than all those things.
They have been with a guy who was medium ugly, A guy who was shorter than them or their height, they been with broke guys, they been with guys who had small manhoods.
But still slept with these guys and in some case fell inlove and spoiled that guy with money and attention and gifts.
These women have an ideal or dream guy they wish they could get.
But what it boils down too is,
Connection, Chemistry and Spark...
if a guy makes a woman feel two of these three none of the things on her list matters.
If he makes her feel all three, he might have a stalker on his hands.
listening to other single women and being your own worst enemy. men are better people.
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i get what your trying say, Sadly the issue is, most american women arent ready to settle down until they feel they are older.
i remember when i was 15, the last time i was ever faithful to women. This girl woke me up when she said your type of the guy i would marry when i get old.
she meant in her 30s. Because in her mind marriage was for people who seem like they had no life but work and kids.
i digress. i wasnt necessarily thinking about marriage, but i use to want monogamy. i think i grew out of it with enough experiences.
I dont see a point in settling down with one woman. Its way too many options now.
i think the issue is alot of women wait til their old to start prioritizing relationships, or shall i say to start expecting men to be committed.
i started hearing im tired of being single i want to a be a wife from women age 30. i can name a few sistas who wanted to marry me when i was 20 years old around my age, one is still around 20 years later, but a myriad of women started seeking that once they turned 30. Even women i never slept with.
This issue is the good men get turned bad, by a womans immaturity in her youth, an once we are 30+ we are too set in our ways to ever go back to being faithful and loyal men.
@@EJIMANnenaNgozihe is saying women are getting advice from other single women instead of listening to a large amount of women who been married for 40 years or more.
if i wanted to be married, i would talk to men who married their wives when she was really young like in her teenage years an they been married longer than i been alive. They have to be married atleast 40+ or at the least 30 years consistently.
Hard pill to swallow but you ladies are never going to get married or have a family. You are groomed your whole life to be independent, it has become a stubborn part of you.
I reject that! Dont speak that on our lives. Provers 18:21
High hopes will only bring you great disappointment. You've had plenty of chances when you were younger, yet you chose the way of the harlot. @@EJIMANnenaNgozi
i think people need to stop talking about relationships and act on relationships. To much talk and no action is why you gets no satisfaction.
That's harsh. Honestly, they are at least trying. It's hard to have marriage and kids be the focus when family, government, and economic systems push independence. The average 30 year women is single in short because their standards are high, yes, but that's not a bad thing in a vaccum. The challenge is most men who aren't shit women still like them and project their displeasures to all men. At least if tht top men got married they wouldn't have so many women on rotation giving them false hope
Taking women accountable for their own actions isn't harsh, it's the solution to the problem. They themselves wanted independence, voting rights, equality and fought tooth and nail to the men saying otherwise.
This is exactly what they asked for, yet they expect a soft weak feminine man like you to save them.
This society is going down.
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