Redditor Sets Personal Boundaries with Parents.

A Redditor sets boundaries with her parents who have a history of dropping in unannounced and acting without her consent. After purchasing her own house, she decides to take a firm stand: no visits without prior permission. Is her stance a bit too extreme? After all they are her parents.

[@shanayamehta9108]

For those coming from reel 0:38

[@TamaseiTobari]

Thank you!

[@TamaseiTobari]

NTA. My parents never gave my grandparents the keys to their home when they moved in together to avoid exactly this. They also do not want my key when the time comes, exactly because someone's home is their private space and that privacy needs to be respected.
If the OPs parents can't even bother to ask before, then they don't deserve the key.

[@RawReddit]

If you guys made it here from my short, I just wanted to say thank you for the visit! I have one more question to ask: Is it ever okay for parents to have unrestricted access to their adult child's home? Where do you draw the line?

[@manynamesmanyfaces]

Don't really have my parents in my life but my mamaw tried to keep coming in my place when I was gone for stupid stuff and I had to threaten to change my locks for her to stop. I don't mind if she comes in for important things but I walk around my house less than dressed so the thought of her barging in on that view genuinely makes me uncomfortable. And honestly, not a parent, but why tf would any parent risk walking in on their grown child doing adult activities lol

[@jessicagomez7714]

Unrestricted, no. If I didn't still love with them lol, they would be permitted to go to my home even if I were not there, but tell me before.

[@jazmine89yazmina]

It is your home and like you, I do not like anyone showing up unannounced. They have already stepped over your boundaries even making copies of your key and using them once you took away the original one which should have been enough to set the boundry. My parents have a key but they know they are not allowed to just use it to come into my house whenever they want. I honestly have heard of this a lot, I think it is a generational thing but it will never be something that I am personally on board with. Boundaries are put in place for a reason and keys are given for emergency reasons. I would have done the same. You need to ask to come into my home, my space, just because they are your parents doesn’t give them any rights. You are an adult. They NEED to respect any boundary set by you.