Differences between Korean & Korean-American Culture | A Couple's Perspective
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- What are the cultural differences between Koreans and Korean-Americans? We discuss what it's like growing up in two different places as a Korean from a Korean American couple's perspective. My best friend Joseph Kim along with his wife Maeum Lee and I go over some interesting observations about the two distinct Korean cultures.
We talk about Korean fashion, Korean language, relationship struggles, and more as it relates to being Korean vs Korean-American. Enjoy!
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안녕하세요! Good day everyone! There were many more things that we could have discussed that didn't make this video - so here's my QOTD: What are some other differences that you've noticed between Korean Culture or Korean-American/Canadian/Australian/etc. culture? Comment below! :)
do you have a girlfriend?
I’m from Australia and i’ve visited korea twice the past year, so i guess in as a non-korean the differences i find in culture (not to say that any of this is bad). But the way Koreans communicate through messaging apps/online, whether its with friends or between couples its quite constant where they may find it offensive if you were to take a while to respond. Australians however don’t get offended often. Its normal for people to respond in hours or even the next day (sometimes). I think its very interesting.
Can we see the dress please?
Very thoughtful conversation!
My name is Jin and I am a full Korean born in America. As a second generation Korean I've seen so many differences, but one of the biggest would have to be the formal and informal speech between the two cultures.
skycedi hey handsome! 😍
I've noticed hugging is a no no for those individuals recently arriving from Korea as opposed to Korean Americans or those who have been here a while.
A lot of Korean guys raised in America are kind of frozen in time as far as Korean culture goes. My "male Korean" influence was my father who came to America in the 70's. Therefore, a lot of Korean girls used to tell me I had a very old fashioned Korean mentality.
I totally agree - a lot of what I've seen personally and have been exposed to with my mom and her friends were the 80s Korean mentality as well.
I think this is with all immigrant communities. The Soviet Russian and Soviet Ukrainian community in Brooklyn, NY is the same way! People come over to NYC from modern day Russia and Ukraine and say our community is as if going in a time machine to the 90s lol.
이걸 모르는 교포들이 너무나 많음. 교포들 mentality는 이민온 그 날짜에 멈춰진거임.
Very good point!
I can relate a little. I was raised by a French Canadian mom in an English part of Canada. When I moved to Quebec everyone found the way I speak real old fashioned...like 1970's.
Gotta laugh!
Merci! Kamsunida! Lol
Props to Joe's wife for taking that criticism for all to see... I hope he is more patient and sensitive toward her. Btw, she's gorgeous.💕
He's from the East Coast. Them dudes are blunt as hell. Us Cali people are more laid back.
I wish the girl talked more or that she had the chance to give her own answer to each question
Yeah, I agree as well
skycedi time for part 2!! :)
haha I'm actually going to see if I can arrange a part two before I head to Korea 😬
I've always wanted to hear a native Korean and a Korean-American discuss their differences. Thanks for making that happen. :) ...One request, though: it seemed to be told mostly from Joseph's perspective...and he did a great job....but I'd love to hear more about what it's like from Maeum's perspective.
That's great that you were able to hear these two perspectives! And yes, Joe does have a gift of talking...a lot... (jk..kinda...busting his chops). But yes, I appreciate the feedback about Maeum sharing more from her perspective. I think that's a great idea. I'll see if I can arrange a part 2 soon!
I agree. I was really waiting to here from her more. especially since she explained a lot in korean.
If you do another video with the same couple I would like to hear more of the wife's perspective. She was quiet but seemed like she had things that she could speak about. If given the floor she would break with lots of things to say. You guys did a great job!!! Thanks for the video!!
Thank you so much Jackqueline! I hope that I can get a chance to do a follow up with them and focus more on what Maeum has to share. I would have liked to have heard her a bit more myself. Great suggestion. Thanks again!
Jacqueline Whitfield I just commented on that. Idk if is a cultural thing but I'd like to hear from her more too ☺
Also, Koreans who grew up in US seems to be more conservative than the Koreans who grew up in Korea. It’s like a time freeze....Specially for guys.... of course to their benefits 😏.... Im living with one ㅎㅎTime froze from 50’s ㅋㅋ ㅋ Again... awesome video! 👍❤️
haha! You know, I would have to agree. I've noticed that as well, with many of the Koreans that grew up here, especially the older ones. LOL "time froze from the 50's" haha. As always, thanks for watching Julie! 😬
I absolutely agree. xD
Americans in general are much more conservative than people in Korea might believe. I've always noticed that Koreans in Korea tend to believe that being American means being liberal and free and open minded and such, which is also true, but there's a lot of conservative minded people here as well.
A typical Korean american attends church regularly. He/she carries on with Korean values from the time he/she or their parents left Korea... when the country was far more conservative than now. Besides this, Americans are conservative in general.
Agree w you
She is gorgeous! 😻 I wish I was that pretty.
moi totally right, she's very beautiful :)
Just come to South Korea, a lot of plastic surgeon here
Grand Order Lmao
Ohhhhh man, Korean's living abroad, what a topic! In my experience, there are 5 main categories of Koreans. Taking Montreal for example: Adopted Koreans, Koreans born in Canada, Koreans arriving as a kid/teenager, exchange students with full paid tuition from parents, and those that arrived later in life. Usually these different categories have trouble mixing and can even go so far as to hate each other.
All of them except the late comers hated it when I spoke Korean with them and they seemed very possessive of the Korean language. Only seems to happen with Koreans, too. The Chinese or Vietnamese in Montreal, for example, were always excited when Canadians spoke their language to them.
Here in Korea though, speaking Korean as a foreigner is dope.
Thanks for sharing! What you say makes a lot of sense and doesn't surprise me. Like yourself, I have seen different categories of Koreans here in the states who don't like to be around each other for different reasons. And I've noticed a possessive nature of Koreans here in the states too in regards to foreigners (and sometimes even myself as a half-korean that doesn't look Korean).
I think a big part is that when Koreans live abroad and find other Koreans they can relate to, they tend to be possessive and very prideful (and closed off to other cultures - and yes, even non-Koreans who want to embrace Korean culture). Seems like Koreans in Korea are a little more open to foreigners who take an interest in their culture/language. Weird, right? Of course, everything that I've said doesn't apply to ever Korean
I disagree with Joseph on the particular dress example. I think it's a matter of acknowledging trends. Flower pattern is one of the hottest trends this year. If you look at fashion magazines or even go to popular clothing stores, flower dresses are everywhere in this fall. Koreans are very trendy people who absorb new trends much faster than people in any other countries even here in Manhattan and they're trend-setters. With that being said, I trust Maeum's taste over Joseph's..lol Sorry.
haha you bring up a very good point. I think I would have to agree with you about the trends!
Yes I agree. I prefer so called "FOB's fashion" over the Gyopo's
As someone who was born and raised in American as a Korean American, I fully understand Joseph. If it's someone who has not grown up in Korea, it's actually culturally not common to study or be even interested in what people in Korea wear. As a girl, I would make comments of other Korean immigrants as well while in the US on how they dressed 'weird.' However, as I now am in my 30's and have moved to Korea (lived here about 6 years), obviously you begin to blend more with the surrounds or culture that you live in. My own clothes have changed (while one may think it's subtle, it's apparent whenever I visit home in the US).. I immediately get comments that my style has changed. And so I respect Joseph for being honest, cuz that's what many people think. Unless you are a super trendy Asia-fanatic type of person living in the US, majority of the people do not care too much about the trends of Korea. Perhaps maybe other Asian countries =) I liked this video!
Cedi, loved this video. Looking forward to seeing more as you become more familiar with your new home and new job. Much success to you!!
oh~ so cute! I really enjoyed this discussion~ never thought about what it would be like in a korean and korean-american relationship haha
haha they are a crazy couple - so much fun. Yeah, the dynamics are very interesting in a Korean and K-A relationship for sure.
In reference to the dress. I think a lot of what Joseph was saying about how the dress would have been construed had to do with his personal feelings and insecurities about having a wife wearing something that wasn't "cool", his perception of his own culture, and his idea of what is fashionable. Which again, any man being that opinionated about women's fashion makes me laugh. Personally as someone who was born in another country but grew up in America, I would never look at someone wearing their traditional clothes, modern versions of it, or even western clothes inspired by korean traditional wear and think "wow this person is trying to show off their culture" or "omg it's so obvious she's not from here/she's such a fob, etc"-- I think thoughts like that say more about the person thinking it than anything else. If anything it gives us the viewers insight into what HE thinks when he sees his wife dressing that way. And taking culture out of it -- I don't think any man or partner has a right to be that judgemental about what his wife wears. I understand that he might be viewing it as "oh i'm really just helping her cuz she's not from here" but I've seen this dynamic way too many times to not call it out for what it is. An honest and open way to deal with that situation would have been -- "hey, just FYI personally I don't think it's attractive but I understand it makes you feel beautiful. So I'm just going to let you know it MIGHT be viewed --not definitely, but MIGHT x,y,z way and at the end of the day if you want to wear it, go for it" and leave the decision up to her because she's a grown ass woman, regardless of where she was born. Also, if we're talking about culture differences, this is America. People wear ALL kinds of shit and no one blinks an eye. I grew up in Queens, spent more than 2 decades here with friends from all over Asia--I've never seen or experienced any one saying something negative about us wearing traditional clothes or western versions of it that were inspired by our culture. What I see is a lot of compliments--the only people who would roll their eyes and judge are the people who---well quite frankly, judge others. Why influence someone to care about that shit? Because you do? Doesn't make sense to me. Maybe my view is just skewed, but I'd rather just see husbands who are confident in their women and inspire them to be more confident in themselves, like "boo, you look and feel good in that? then rock it, don't give a shit about what anyone else says." It especially kills me that he stated that she felt really beautiful in what she wore. LIKE GOOD, story is done! Why you gotta jump in? I really just think the husband needs to admit that what he's doing isn't 100% for her benefit, it's probably most likely because he would have been embarrassed or he didn't like it. Which again--she's a grown ass woman.
wow, that's a mouthful. But I do agree :)
It probably wouldn't be considered a mouthful if all I talked about was how great I thought the video was :). Whether you actually do agree--well that's between you and yourself.
I was thinking the same thing. This guy got some huge insecurities. I literally thought at first the flower dress embarrassed him because he thought she looked like she was wearing one of those Hollywood cliche hispanic hottie dress. Not because he thought it look like her own traditional clothes 😂
Isa Hite the point is that’s supposed to be his wife. 🤷🏽♀️ i wouldn’t marry someone that embarrassed me. And I wouldn’t marry someone who isn’t comfortable to be out in public with me because of what I wear. Quite superficial issue. I do know koreans I know how they dress.
Thank you for making this video !
Some real quality content you've got there! thanks for sharing! I anjoyed watching it as always!
Thank you Agata! This was very fun to record with my friends :)
Communication is ALWAYS the success to any marriage. This was a great video.
Totally agreed!
I really love to hear people's stories so this was a really fun video for me! Thanks for another great video :)
Also I am so curious about the dress haha I want to see it
So glad you enjoyed the video! :) ...and I'm curious to see what the dress looks like as well haha. Maybe I'll see if I can grab a pic of it lol
This video is awesome bro, such great perspectives. Thank you for sharing and helping people to relate. Keep up the great content Cedric!
Thanks Jin! Glad you like and could see another familiar face in the video as well!
Woah! Happy anniversary to Joseph and Maeum! (soon)
Nice video, nice vibes, keep them coming^^
Joe and Maeum appreciate the well wishes. Thanks Alex!
Great perspectives. This is definitely interesting because I was recently speaking to a close friend about cultural differences among people who are American but have different subcultures.
Thank you for watching! It's intriguing to see so many cultural differences even within a country as well.
Maeum is breathtaking! I would love to see the dress, I'm sure it's beautiful. I'd love to hear her perspective on the questions.
8:40 Now I want to see this dress as I lived in Korea and have NO IDEA what this would ;look like...
you and me both... 🤔
My God she's beautiful.
Very interesting. Thanks for sharing!
Glad you found it interesting Elaine! :)
This couple is cool and funny! Merci pour le vidéo!
It was so interesting^^*
Dope Video! Sending blessing your way, Keep inspiring!🎒🙌🏻
I really appreciate that 😌
I enjoyed your video!!.....Your friends are great skycedi.....
Thank you! Glad you watched Nicole! And yes, my friends are awesome :)
Communication is one of the most important factors in a marriage.. no matter how many years a couple has been married 2 years or 20 years if you don’t communicate issues can arise.. thank you guys for sharing!!
Sometimes it's cultural and other times personality differences.
100% agreed Ash
Great video Skycedi!
Thank you so much!
Great video!!! Very interesting!!!
Thank you!
I love watching your videos,very informative and has great insights,i am a Nigerian and also resides here,i had always been fascinated by various ethnicities across the world,though I haven't been outside my country once but hoping to explore other countries one day!!
I'm glad you enjoy my videos and thanks for watching! I hope that you get a chance to experience traveling to other countries as well! That would be awesome
What your friend said about living in Flushing is 100% true. After 8 years my mother moved us from Fresh Meadows to a mixed neighborhood. My mother thought that hanging out with Asians would make me lose the English language and I would have to repeat ESL again. (I'm one of those American born who had to take ESL -.-)
I feel that Asian Americans do things that please themselves whereas Asians do things to please others bc they want to save face. It's about making themselves look good in the eyes of others.
Btw, love your videos.
Yes, I knew a few people who grew up in the states but had to go through ESL! You bring up a good point about Asian Americans living more for themselves vs. Asians doing things to please others. I have noticed that a lot in the older generation Koreans who live here in the states.
And thank you for watching :)
Cedi this was a very good interview video (as I'd like to call it ) it was informative and educational (at least to me) because it enlightened you on the difference in how a Korean vs Korean American speaks and understands in terms of the way they view the American language. Believe it or not, I've learned something new watching this video. Thanks for sharing :)
I'm glad that you found value from this video! Thank you for watching.
skycedi My pleasure 😉
I like them. They are a young couple still learning how to cultivate a NEW marriage. Perhaps watching this video of themselves, as well as reading the comments will help shed some positive light. Wishing them the best.
Oooo I never thought of what differences you can see in Koreans and Americans when a Korean goes to America since my first experiences of Koreans were in Korea. It was nice to hear about the differences cuz it helps to understand why we think in different ways and how to not let just the fact that we have differences cause a gap between us :)
Yup! It very with every Korean and also with every Korean American, but in our experiences, we've seen sort of a "Venn Diagram" sort of affect when it comes to Korean culture and Korean-American culture. Sometimes, there are even Korean-Americans with hardly any sense of Korean culture, so it's almost like two different cultures colliding. But yes, either way, it's a beautiful thing when couples make it work :)
Thanks for this video!
I'm very curious about "tells" in terms of mannerisms or body language. For instance: being Puerto Rican (and this is somewhat common in the Caribbean), we point at things with our lips.
interesting perspective!
I enjoyed the interview i want to see that dress. Lol . Happy anniversary
Glad you watched! Thank you :) haha I haven't seen the dress myself so I'm pretty curious too
재미있고 흥미로워요ㅎㅎ
My husband and I were stationed in Chuncheon at Camp Page 1998-99. It was our first time in Korea and we enjoyed our experience there.
Wow. A korean with no complaints. Scanlon would be so proud.
love this video. i'm not married but i can relate to things like this in my international relationship
Foreigner Language glad you liked and can relate :)
Nice couple fun to watch their experiens, its funny to see how others did or do it . From the korean vid I watch even koreans in. Korea have problems understanding it was funny for them too
드레스 이야기는 정말 재밌어요 ㅋㅋㅋ 생각하지도 못한 부분이네요....! 한국에서 꽃무늬나 패턴 들어간 드레스 사람들이 많이 입는데... 문화차이가 확연하게 보이네요. 영상 재밌게 보고있어욥...!
the dress story is interesting! here Korea, people really love Flower pattern dress, and geometric design as well...! i can see many flowery dresses in Korea when autumn and spring come.
i like your video!! XD
sorry for my bad english :(
I'm glad that you had fun watching! I understand your Korean so it's no problem :) Oh, and your english is great! 영어를 너무 잘 했어요 😁
Gosh, the guy Joe did almost all the talking. I wish we heard more from her.
Antoine Moore she seems shy
Yael Colombres no she does not
Punta Kinte language maybe
no it just seems like joe talks too much. she didn't seem shy to me at all.
Funny how he says a key to their relationship is to communicate, when he is the one who isn't letting her speak.
매력쟁이!!
Great content! I didn't know that there was a Koreantown in New Jersey.
Thank you Lynh! I didn't know either until my friend moved there prior to me moving there. It's a nice little area of Jersey :)
It's huge compared to the one in manhattan but I think smaller than the one in flushing.
Love your vlogs, my husband is a 40 year old guy from India, I like older men like him most for their life stories, his stories of his experiences in India are so interesting... I wonder what it would be like to have a Korean mom, I've never dated a mixed guy before except a Muslim guy who's half Arabic half Guyanese, I kept forgetting he was mixed since to me and most people he looks full Indian from India, the only difference is his bone straight hair, he doesn't consider himself Indian, he's a very nice non religious guy
Relatable video even in other cultures.......
Great...good info
Thanks Sharoona!
That woman is stunning! Her features are wow!
Oh PJ ... Nice video 👍
PJ is that mannnnn
춘천 동향을 여기서 만나다니 ㅎㅎ It's just so rare see a person from Chuncheon which is my hometown lol!
haha! that's awesome. I know that 춘천 is known for their 닭갈비 so I hope that you experienced that goodness! I'm looking forward to experiencing that soon :)
skycedi i grew up there so for sure I enjoyed the goodness you will love it!
Not even two years into this marriage and he's already comfortable with treating her like this... also why the hell is he so hung up on the damn dress? Mind your own business lmao
Cedric, reminds me of my cousin..so he can pass for hispanic! ;) He looks so handsome..and his physique is very unique.
There is a role of Korean-American church too. Amongst Korean Americans, their church plays a key role in socializing. Almost everyone goes there, so many of them are actually very religious (-> conservative). Christianity in South Korea is not very big, and the proportion of religious people (of any religion) is decreasing year by year.
I see 장로교회's everywhere.
Nice videos, I just subscribed.
Thank you for subscribing! Glad you are enjoying the videos :)
U welcome
Interesting topic! It's similar with Indonesian.
That's cool that it's similar with Indonesian culture as well!
She is sooo pretty!
Are these our painting buddies??!
+Lillian Yun yup yup! That’s them LOL
hmmm, they aren't going to stay married long. He isn't letting her talk and yelling at her and criticizing her. sad.
I think Koreans like to really get down when communicating
Maeum is really beautiful!
her accent is soooo different than what im used to. reminds me of melonmance
The big difference I felt was that young koreans living in Korea are generally proud of their own cultures and enjoy them, whereas koreans living in America are even shy to speak Korean language with eachother.
I want to see the flower dress
I love this so much but kinda wished you had interviewed her in Korean instead. Maybe next time? 😉
haha I should have, right? Maybe next time :)
- Makes fun of someone different/foreign
- Won't let someone else talk about their own experience
Homeboy is sooooo American, he can drop the Korean hyphenation lol
shout out to 강원도!!!
I’m Korean American and I want be with either a Korean American or a Korean girl from Korea. A lot of my fellow Korean American friends want to end up with Koreans in general in terms of marriage!
I love my Korean/ American 🥰🥰
Me Korean American and going to Korea soon!!😆
She looks beautiful.
Beautiful woman.
헐 2015년에 가셨는데 영어 거의 현지인처럼 자연스럽게하시네요...
man. Now I want to see the dress!
She's very pretty
한글자막 있었으면 .. 이해하겠는데, 영어로 계속 들으려니 피곤..하네요
오늘처음봤는데 연달아 쭉보게되네요
조금 앞으로 나중에 한글자막 추가 할 거에요!
Is there a difference between the Korean food in Korea & the Korean food in the US of A?
It depends on different factors. For example, there are some restaurants in Northern NJ/NYC and other parts where there is a big Korean population that are similar to many of the restaurants in Korea (from my experience). The types of food served and the vibe of the restaurants are very similar, if not the same. There are way more choices and options in Korea (obviously). Korean restaurants in the states typically serve Banchan (side dishes) just like those in Korea. The entrees (depending on the type of restaurants) are typically the same as well.
Thanks for your comments! I never had Korean food until I moved to Hawaii from Idaho. It is my favorite now!
Maeum is so so beautifuk
Happy Anniversary! I do have a question why did he not let his wife answer more questions? Is it a cultural thing? I was waiting for her to answer but he kept taking over ...
It can be a cultural thing, especially for many older Koreans. In the case of my friend, he just talks a lot lol. I'm working with him on that 🙄 - I hope to do a follow up video in the future and focus more on Maeum answering questions.
skycedi Thank you for responding ☺ I'd definitely watch a follow up 👍 Have a GREAT Day 😆
Pal park represent!!!
woo!
She’s pretty
Oh my God she's beautiful!
Now I really wanna see that immigrant show-off dress lol
Make a new video please
pal park! im Korean and I live in Franklin lakes, my cousins live in fort lee
Yup, Pal Park :) I've been to Franklin Lakes a few times - very nice area!
Watch Navy Son Homecoming Suprise (To Mom) 2015.
Hi guys, I met a korean american woman and I think i need some help please, she is amazing, thanks 🤔🥰😀
...Joseph, exactly how many days did you spend in the doghouse after this video?...And did you find your accommodations satisfactory? 😲😲😲😄😄
전도사님,아니.지금.목사밈 되셨나요.?
그사이에 결혼도 하셨네요.
하늘 비디오보고 밤가운 얼굴보니참 좋아요
항상 건강하세요~~
hello there hmmm nice one
Hello James! Thanks for watching :)
I want to see the damn dress!
7:44-7:59 ... wow... he married out of his league anyway
Whos the guy with the glasses? Hes so cute
he is a cutie... :))
Hey Skycedi great video man, I really enjoyed this. Do you mind checking your IG inbox? I sent you a message in regards to teaching in South Korea.
Thanks for watching Carl and glad you liked! Checking my inbox now :)
Why everyone talking about her look?
We want to listen to the differences not judging someone's look! Geez
He needs to let his wife talk more, seriouslyyyyyy... and why does he care so much how she dresses? It seems like he's really conscious of her fitting in to the American paradigm. Is he scared of her looking like a "FOB" or something...??? Korean-American men can be pretty chauvinistic, that's why I didn't marry one rofl!!! :-/ Source: I'm a Korean-American woman.