Tony A Introduces His 12 Steps for Adult Children of Alcoholics (Improved Audio)
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- čas přidán 17. 02. 2022
- Tony A. was one of the founding members of the 12 step group, Adult Children of Alcoholics, and was the author of "The Laundry List: The ACoA Experience." In this February 1991 talk, Tony A. introduced his new 12 Steps for Adult Children of Alcoholics, and discussed why he felt they are more suited to ACoA's than the 12 steps that were derived from Alcoholics Anonymous. This improved audio talk can be downloaded as an mp3 file here:
drive.google.com/file/d/1LAQh...
Rest in Peace, Tony A. - Hudba
Thank you to whoever posted my dad. -Mowry
Big thank you for the improved audio and the downloadable link. This needs to be preserved for every ACA to listen to. Love Tony's steps and his book "The Laundry List, An ACoA Experience". The softer landing and gentler approach to recovery that I needed. I even started a zoom meeting that is a book study group that reads his book. Almost every meeting I attend now uses his steps in their opening readings. Almost 4 years in ACA and my life is now so much better. Most certainly that is because Tony made it possible to remove the shame and blame of the AA adapted steps.
Higher power, grant me the serenity to accept the people I cannot change,
the courage to change the one I can,
and wisdom to know that one is me.
Grant me patience for the changes that take time,
appreciation for all that I have,
tolerance for those with different struggles,
and strength to get up and try again, one day at a time.
Thank you so much. I got sober from alcohol but I was unable to change at a fundamental level like I have with the ACA program. This program has given me license to really live and thrive in a way I couldn't imagine before.
Life saving 🙏🕊️🙏 for me…
( RIP ) Mr. Tony A. You may created a path to new world … all my heart and soul
Ty.
Fascinating, I wonder if he imagined people in the future would be listening to his speech online, I don't think even the internet existed when this was recorded, thank you very much for sharing!
Scott thank u so much for improving the audio PLUS putting Tony's steps up for the whole video!!! This is key. I was introduced to Tony's steps years ago but I never heard this audio until about 5 years ago and then his steps made much much more sense. But to have his steps displayed while he is referring to them is ultra helpful. I wonder now if having a side by side AA steps on one side Tony A's on the other would further help to clarify difference even more. But regardless this is a great up-leveling of function and form.
thank you for posting this , The increased volume is appreciated.
Thank you for this! Very much appreciated.
Thank you so much for posting Tony A's steps. Very helpful information😊
I also want to thank you for posting this talk to CZcams. I would love to hear tapes from Tony A if you can get them. Listening to Tony A is helping my program immensely. BTW, I just subscribed to your channel & gave it a thumbs up as 300 people previously did.
Thanks for posting this, Scott. I've always been a little ambivalent about some of the stuff in Tony's 12 steps, as well as some of the ACA language and the "the people I cannot change" version of the serenity prayer (I think it's still the things, people being just one of the things I cannot change!) -- but hearing Tony discuss his version of the 12 steps, his attitude and inflection convey a lot... clarifies why they're different from the standard 12 steps.
I love this share! I was actually the opposite, I struggled with the language of the original 12 steps and resisted it without knowing why. When I learned about Tony A's 12 steps it resonated so much because I believe he revised it to remove language of shame, as well as the ACA serenity prayer!
Check this out, put back the last line with wisdom to know the difference from the original serenity prayer but with the people language and you have a prayer about codependency.
The basic reason for being different is simply that it's a different context. The only way I can make sense of this is that people have context blindness more than ever. If they saw past it and have a grasp on the principles then there would naturally be a lot of applications of those principles and not just copying stuff verbatim. Family dysfunction is not an "addiction" and forcing that framework will be limited at best.
Although WSO allows (... why does an independent meeting need permission exactly?) outside literature my guess is a very small percentage takes advantage of this. On a purely logical basis it's questionable whether the group conscience can recognize the value in any piece of outside literature, even Tony's book, and aside from that it's not hard to imagine how ones relationship to authority figures such as the WSO and people pleasing may play into it.
Thank you for posting.
Thank you so much for this
Who is gut-coughing in the background through out this entire talk? Scott, can you get rid of that annoying background noise?
wow thanks for beefing up the audio on this one. sounds great considering it was probably recorded on an old cassette!
Thank you for this!!!
A downloadable mp3 of the improved audio 1991 Tony A talk is here:
drive.google.com/file/d/1LAQh6az2QwWhHM9NdtJ5PI4SIBy8SfVi/view?usp=sharing
Does anyone know if Tony A was influenced by Carl Jung?
I'm trying to figure out where he got his inner child framework from
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I'm curious if anyone else finds resistance to considering these because it's not conference approved, even if the BRB says it's fine to use both these steps and the laundry list book. What I've found so far is no discussion is actually based on what the steps say.
🌬🍂💛🫶🏽
Is this another cult
Go to the dictionary and look up 'cult'. A cult has a leader that wants you money - like our corrupt government that I bet you are a part of. People who call ACA and AA a cult are so ignorant and insane. The psychiatric world and religions (the real cult's) all copy the 12 steps. I bet YOU Jim need this program :). Contempt prior to investigation, right? I invite you to attend meetings and read the material. It might actually make you smarter.