Social Anxiety at Parties? Use These Easy Tricks :)
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Best definition of introvert I've come across is if you need to be alone to emotionally recharge. Extroverts need to be around people to recharge. So you can be a social introvert or even a socially comfortable introvert, and be totally comfortable at a group event. But if you need to be alone to recharge, you still an introvert.
I feel like everyone needs to be alone from time to time
Yes, intro/extro-verts have nothing to do with social anxiety explicitly; you can be an extrovert and have social anxiety (though rarer than introverts who have social anxiety). As you say, it's how you get your energy back that determines whether your an intro or extro-vert....
@@unknown81360 Absolutely. But extroverts do not recharge emotionally by being alone.
"People expect the quiet one to adapt to the loud people but not the other way around"
Glad to hear you guys admit to the same social anxiety a lot of ppl struggle with (despite all your success), including myself. Tim, you're hilarioussss! 🤣😭 Thanks for the tips!
Book is called super communicators by charles duhigg
Sounds like instruction to develop fake personality and narcissism. Being dependent on other people's approval and their validation in order to feel self worth. It does not work in real life. Self help books are farming us and steal our money, by providing us BS advice and toxic shame - it is mate crime.
I would love for you to expand on this topic in future podcasts!
Propranonol, meditation, gin.
Zyns make me not have it for some reason lol
The most relatable video I've seen on the channel!
So true 😂
Here still having post pandemic social issues and forgetting how to socialize with strangers 😂
Excellent pod
Excellent
I like that suggestion of how to leave a conversation. I always excuse myself for the bathroom and then don't return to them. I end up going to the bathroom alot! And its pretty obvious what I'm doing.
Loved this clip! Im wondering if Tim will ever be open to being a guest on smaller channels… even though reach might be lesser, my questions and intention are certainly sincere and genuine.
Thanks man...
What was the easy tricks, I zoned out from the boring convo
Nice to have pocket full of questions/topics
😅
I'ts the small talk that does it.
Oh my God, it is so natural to me. I always say that I could make a wall talk to me. It is VERY SIMPLE: STOP YOUR EGO- Stop Looking at you AND BE EXTREMELY INTERESTED and CURIOUS about PEOPLE. PLEASE, please, please the world that does not move around you. PEOPLE ARE AMAZINGLY INTERESTING AND HAVE STORIES TO TELL. Learn from others, and stop thinking that you have all the answers. In other words - Be Humble.
I am so curious about what people do, yet I struggle with it, social anxiety it’s more on how to approach, that’s a kind of shyness I can break that ice at first!
This post is incredible. Starts with self babble then ends with telling others to be humble. 😂
We can face the social situations we fear rather than avoid them.
Is this the moonbirds rug-puller giving advice on social anxiety?
"I don't like social events" is splitting, it is over-generalizing. Social events are at spectrum , like human mind.
Social event may mean you 2, 3 favorite person but it also means hanging around ex bosses and ex colleagues who harassed you at previous job. Two different types of social events - they are not the same. Splitting is usual byproduct of trauma, that mix and latch onto social anxiety easily and then appears as one entity - that everything is bad, that everyone is bad.
Then all that happens is self-fulfilling prophecy like Golem Effect. We come with bad attitude and then we see bad in eveything and leave with bad taste in our mouth and belief that we are socially anxious - while in reality we talked ourselves into hating people and socializing.
"People wrote down questions and put them in pocket as back up to natural conversation"
Being fake and pretending to mask our traits is really bad idea and it leads to more anxiety.
"Be naturally curious"
This is the central problem with social anxiety.
Social anxiety by definition is fear of criticism and negative evaluation. This is also called broken Looking-Glass Self concept - where we form our identity and self worth based on what we think other person will think about us.
Then this means we put other people on pedestal - and this is how we end with social anxiety.
Nobody told us while growing up that we allow toxic people to be toxic and not trying to accommodate our needs over prioritizing other people's needs. This is all we need to do - to allow people think we are clutz and clown, let them think this about us, without us trying to fawn into liking us. Then we will remove the burden of trying to please other people, which is social anxiety.
Instead of be naturally curious - be naturally authentic and yourself.
If we do not like harassing other people by being boring to them or trying to please other people so that they do not know that they bore us - better approach is to embarrass ourselves by being truly ourselves without masking.
After all - people who are most charming and popular - are those who are anti-social and who do not follow any courteous social norms. They gossip. They curse. They attack. They roast others. They are basically jerks - and everyone likes them.
Usually I stand on the nearest table and act like I am Jack Sparrow (no jokes)
Yeah I used to think it’s fake but hey I didn’t know comedians rehash their show from venue to venue too
Pose a questions that might be interesting to average Joe
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Ultimate hypocrisy. "I want to not talk to you anymore, but let me ask you one more thing so you don't notice."
Rose does Ketamine once and is now wearing chains + eastern shaman gear.
Boring
Boring. Have not hacked life so far with all these hacks / short cuts.