Dating as a Trans Guy
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- čas přidán 6. 02. 2022
- Hello everyone! Just wanted to make a video on some tips I have for making dating easier as a trans guy (or honestly a trans person, it's all pretty neutral as far as gender and sexuality). As always, if anyone has any questions, feel free to comment and I'll respond! If anyone has any ideas for future videos, please let me know. And enjoy my cat, Ty, making a cameo!
Hey man, glad to see you're doing fine! Super interesting to hear about you're experience. Thank you :)
I love your videos dude, thank you so much for making them
I'm very attracted to trans guys and I really appreciate your videos for the honesty and your thoughts. Thanks so much!
Hey welcome back man! Nice to see you again. Still appreciating your openness and honesty. Thanks for sharing even more. Also, Ty is so cute ❤️
Thank you so much!! And Ty also says thank you!
Well I am definitely new but I really like how open you are and honest. I hope that you continue to get better and please please post videos on your own time. life can be a lot to handle while trying to balance making,editing and posting videos.
Thank you so much!! Yes life can for sure be a lot, haha. Honestly my biggest issue is I used to have a good video editing program but don't anymore, so it's become more time consuming because of that. So lower quality videos now, but hopefully the same content!
Hang in there and I wish you the best!
You got this!
Hi please continue making videos educating us about this topic that nobody talks about it. I really like the way you explain it. Maybe some people find it graphic but for me, that's the right way to understand it. I appreciate that. I am a bi guy, more into girls than guys, and attractive to trans guys but my locked of education in this area has stopped me from approaching any. I would like to learn more and feel confident when I meet him. Thank you.
Hi we missed you!!!😆
You seem like an amazing, openminded and kind guy ❤ Hope I can meet a guy like you some day to love 😍
Thank you!! I wish you the best of luck in finding someone who is a perfect match for you :)
I actually just got recommended your "Having Sex as a Trans Guy" video by CZcams, and here I am. I'm Trans-Femme Non-Binary, and I've been out since late last year. I'm going to be starting to see a doctor who specializes in trans care in about a week, and will hopefully be starting HRT soon after that.
I'm both excited and a little nervous about this, because I'm really not sure what to expect. Is it normal to feel nervous about seeing a doctor for the first time about transitioning? I also live in an area that is kind of ambivalent about the transgender community, which is also part of why I'm feeling nervous. What was it like for you when you first started seeing a doctor to start your transition?
It is absolutely normal to feel nervous about seeing a doctor for the first time about transitioning! I was super nervous the first time I went, as well. I feel like there are a lot of doctors that are good with trans patients. At the very least, they shouldn't have a negative bias and will listen to what you need. My doctor was very receptive. He'd never dealt with a trans patient, but was more than willing to help out as best as he could
Also congratulations on starting HRT soon!!
@@apptrans6597 Thank you so much for telling me those things. It helps a lot. My appointment actually went really well, and I actually just started HRT today! Whoohoo! :)
Hi, I agree we should be honest, but I would also say to not just opened up the conversation like that to someone you are interested, since it's more like us fearing of rejection in the long run if we try to be upfront. I'd say let things flow, just don't hide it, we need to see it as normal first overserves. If someone truly like you, they would accept who you are no matter. Hope you are doing better everyday, I know I am adjusting myself everyday a bit to be better, and I am at much a happier state right now.
I just thought I could be wrong, to be upfront is to make it fair for the other person, it s not about us.
I'd really love to hear more about what you think of dating straight or gay people. Because I'm sure dating pan or bi people must be a lot easier, but I'm surprised you didn't specifically excluded those options.
As a very gay guy in a relationship with a trans guy I've certainly fucked up quite a bit here and there. Even though I try very hard to avoid it. If you're not too uncomfortable I'd love to learn more about what issues there are from your perspective and what you liked and didn't like about it.
Ooohh this is a good potential future video idea! And yeah honestly the best thing you can do is try your best! As long as you are putting in the effort to fix anything that might be a fuck up and if you're willing to learn from it, that's what really counts! Probably my biggest issue I've had was when I dated this one girl who I realized, after the relationship, that she only liked the version of me that she saw me as- the "passing cisgender" me. She didn't want me to take my binder off or anything and it took me a while after us breaking up for me to realize that she truly didn't want to date a trans guy. Only reason it worked was because I pass
I'm glad you like the idea! For someone in a situation like me it would be super valuable. Because with my bf at first we really clicked and we felt pretty good together. But over time we realized that being in a "gay" relationship (while it can be super validating for him), there's also parts where it causes a lot of frustration. Tbh the binder situation you're mentioning does feel all too familiar... I'd love to hear more stories like those! :)
It helps to see that it's something to really consider. Because I really love my boyfriend, but it's difficult to always get it right.
As another trans person, I think the biggest difficulties about dating cis people of either gender arise from when they just assume things instead of asking.
People are different from one another, specially trans people, we are very different from one another, to a degree in which generalizations and assumptions about gender does not work for us.
For example, I know some trans people who hate being touched, while others like me prefer doing """lesbian stuff"""" with guys, what can be a big turn off for a lot of guys...
Anyway, communication is ALWAYS the key.
You sound awesome very intelligent and very open-minded I think anyone would be very blessed to have you as a friend or potential partner
Yes don't sell yourself on someone if they don't appreciate you for you and your awesome qualities being honest, kind ,considerate, attractive and intelligent then screw them..!!
Are you open to dating males and females or do you just stick with one sex... and have you ever dated a trans person and or would you...?
So I actually have a video coming out hopefully soon (just need to edit it) about this specific question. I have been open to dating any gender, more recently going on dates with mostly men. However my last three relationships were all with women. Currently I’m in a relationship with a trans man, though
I do not agree with disclosing that you are trans to everyone, we never know how people can (over)react, so, for safety reasons, I would rather only disclose this info with people interested in intimacy with me.
I completely understand this. I was just stating what I’ve seen to have work best for myself, along with others. However sometimes disclosing that you’re trans isn’t the best option, and that’s absolutely reasonable
@@apptrans6597
Some transfem once told me this golden advice: instead, just put in your dating profile that you do not want to hang out with transphobes, instead of coming out as trans.