How DANGEROUS Are Strict Parents?
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I had incredibly strict and sheltering parents growing up. I was home schooled, home churched, wasn't allowed to listen to secular music, couldn't date and I wasn't allowed to make any of my own decisions. So when I left at 17, I went absolutely crazy. Became addicted to drugs and self destructive behavior. Until I met my wife at 19. I've been improving ever since. Now that I have my own kids I am raising them totally different than I was, much like the
"authoritative parenting" you described. So far they're turning out great! I still struggle with anxiety and depression, but every day I get a little better, and if you had a similar experience and are struggling, so can you :)
Good job to you dude! Keep being a good father and making cool videos 👍
Harrie-B good job bro good for you!!!
damn dude
Wewd
UwU
Because you are taking care of your kids the right way, they love you, and it is a good thing 😊
When kids show this to their parents.
Parents: "Are you really going to believe everything on the internet? You're so naive."
Sadly that's the truth...
im about to send it to my dad wish me luck
Also them: shares everything they found on the internet.
TheRevivist
New 12: “Video games cause mass shootings and should be banned”
Parents: “It’s because of those dang video games that’s why people keep dying”
Meanwhile they’re like I found on a Facebook post that phones cause autism
What I’ve gained from strict parenting;
-how to hide my feelings
-how to listen to footsteps
-people pleasing
-how to create a conservative and convincing lies.
Personally, learning how to make convincing lies from strict parenting made me good at being an impostor at among us
@@WAVE0025
Wow same here
Don’t forget remembering what floorboards or stairs squeak
Yea Same I Know How To Hide My Feelings From Strict Parents
They’re really Strict
Strict parents = WORSE CHILD THAN WANTED
"Children of strict parents tend to be more rebellious"
Well yeah, because they have more rules to rebel against.
I'm also assuming it makes them feel better to break those rules because sometimes parents make dumb rules which your just like *but why tho what's the point*
You're...... not wrong!
Ah yes, the floor is made of floor.
Nice one tho.
@@zadock6370 *H m .*
Kind of true
Bad parenting causes brain damage
Kid : *has brain damage
Parent : must be that damn phone again
Amelia Miller that’s literally my mom 😂
lol me too
definitely bad parenting
I hate it when that happens.
So I got an idea... Do a lot of good things and saying that it's the benefit of using the Ipad lol.
Mom: if you tell me the truth i will forgive you!
Me: tells truth
Mother: thats it you're grounded
Relatable
*you're**
@@justanotherpotato5523 just a typical grammar nazi on his duties
@@justanotherpotato5523 no probs
Rabbi Talukdar mother: shocked pikachu face
Let’s face it: strict parents raise the best liars and sneaks
i’ve literally become so good at lying it scares me and makes me feel like a shitty person man:/ but u gotta do what u gotta do
@@nikita6822 Play among us, you will win every impostor round.
@@nikita6822 u have any tips for good lies? Like seriously it would be useful
My name means swearing to say the truth and with my strict parents I'm the best liar ever
@@f.b.i9871 ur the FBI and ur asking for good lies?
Things I’ve learned from strict parents:
•hide feelings
•learn how to lie
•learn everyone’s footsteps
why have i seen this comment everywhere
Mom: Look how well your best friend plays the piano. I wish you were more like him rather than staying on your phone all day.
Me: okay??
Later: *he tells me to do something my mom won't like*
Mom: WHY DID YOU DO THAT?
Me: Mom but it was his idea, what can I do?
Mom: SO IF HE JUMPS OFF A BUILDING, WILL YOU DO THE SAME?
Me in mind: Mom but you told me to be like him so I did and now you're shouting at me? Parents logic doesnt make sense
Yep
Lmao me to
Stop peeking in on my life dude, where’s your secret camera?
Parents: *Use abusive tactics for the better half of my first 16 years*
Therapist: Ah great, now look what you've done. It has depression.
I love how u tell it like therapist thinks ur a thing not a human
You have since be sentenced to jail
@@shivanshgupta5637* *it* * lol
Parents: hit the child for having depression
“Now look what you’ve done, it has depression” should be a meme
Kid: gets depression because of bullying
Strict parents: *it’s that damn phone*
Not just strict ones, *A L L* *O F* *T H E M*
Phones are actually bad for kids, just saying.
andrzej Grabiński that’s ironic coming from you because you’re using a phone or something like that to say that
@@Billy-ci6qi I'm an adult so how is it ironic?
andrzej Grabiński oh my bad
I come from an Asian family and they’re pretty strict. I think strict parents fails to realise that children are humans too, and they have their own feelings, opinions, needs and wants. They should really think about these factors before cramming stress and discipline down the children’s throats.
Agree, though there has to be a limit somewhere
Bad Parents don't create the child of their dreams
They create the monster they feared
-Me
I really like your profile pic 😊💫⭐️
Yup you literally decided to create a menice to society. As you said "All action have consequences"
it makes sence
@@DaysAreForgottenBaby its oversimplified pfp lol
that is an amazing quote
Kid:Gets antisocial,gets depressed,gets brain damage while the parents are mean to child.
Parents: *THAT DAMN PHONE*
Unfortunately true
Ralphy Rodriguez this is so damn true its like if you really think the phone is the problem maybe take it away and see if i'm better of with or without the phone instead of blaming your bad parenting on a device that you let your child have and then blame the child and phone when according too you logic its your fault
Phone: doesnt charge
Moms: its that damn kid
Ralphy Rodriguez yep yep yep that’s me
Ralphy Rodriguez true
My mum: *starts arguing with me and shouting at me*
Me: *tries to state my point and opinion*
Her: 'Stop talking back'
Me: 👁👄👁
So true
ikr
100% true
Same 👀
True, that "talking back" thing makes no sense. If my parents told me that I'd just stop talking until they promised to never say that to me again.
What I have learnt from my semi strict parents:
How to use the shortcut that closes all your tabs in one second.
How to properly use private search and history clearing.
How to hide you personal email so they can't spy on your conversations.
How to quietly listen to music when your stressed so they don't come in and make you more stressed.
WOW that's awesome
I have:
Learnt to disguise my web browsing as school work(I am learning calculus and undergraduate physics, I just feel insecure revealing that to my parents)
Learnt how to hide every personal file on my PC so that they don't find it
Learnt how to IMMEDIATELY close every window and tabs when why parents come in the room
???
this is simple stuff lol
1. theres litterally an x in the corner of the screen. unless ur a weirdo that uses one tab on one side and the other on the other side.
2. we all know this lol especially when ur a teen lmfao
3. just get an email they dont know about
4. what? just put in earbuds?????
@@bruh.5620
1. ok, so you want to just close everything your doing and have to go back into it by using the x button?
2. my parents check my browser history every day, so its important i keep things a secret.
3. my dad has acsess to my computer, so he can find all my emails winin a second, so i have to message friends through private search.
4. if i "just put ear buds in" then if they call me while im trying to relax, and i cant hear them, then they will just keep getting louder and louder, then scold me for "not listening to them"
@@Mikey91112 1. minimize then lmfao why did you say close.
2. idgaf if its important or not we all know incognito mode
3. just delete your history or incognito then if he really searches ur history for a different email
4. this is the only one you have a fair point on
I never realized how strict (and abusive) my parents were until I moved out on my own. Now I’m 23 and finally starting to learn how to freely express myself and have my own autonomy. My mom is not dealing with it well.... apparently I’m going to rot in hell.... but I’m happy and thriving!
why is she not happy you are succeeding. bruh explain every comment is like this i mean if we all knew it was unreasonable why did the last generation also spank. like boomers spank millenials, who say "spanking bad" yet then spank gen z. gen z says spank bad but then maybe in the future they will spank. so if its un reasonable why we all do it seems stupid human race stanky
Yay I think of Hell as a very long sauna, so go f*** yourself Mom!
@@HANKSANDY69420 Da Faq
@@bruh.5620 maybe her mom is jealous. Or just being herself
As if humans are robots that are made of metal, I don’t believe humans can rot, ROBOTS CAN
I always found corporal punishment unnecessary. I mean, you're teaching your child to fear you, the one person in their life they spend most of their time with and trusted when growing up, it's a bit much.
When I was younger, my mom yelled at me over something. She then went in for the hug to tell me she loved me despite just yelling at me. I dodged the hug and my mom got even madder and said me not wanting to hug her was a slap on the cheek. A different time, she asked me what I was afraid of, I said, “you” and she yelled back. I’m still scared of her sometimes.
@@geezeegamez2253 she sounds bipolar no offense
Sometimes my mum would yell at me, then she’d yell at me for crying, saying it was “unacceptable to show emotions like that” and “why are you crying, you made the mistake”. Now she does it less, but complains about me not showing enough affection and being too reserved...
When I’m in trouble my mom literally asks “Aren’t you scared of me and your dad!?” And I’m expected to say that yes, I am scared or them.
For me, its like this
Me:does bad thing
Dad:hey dont do that that's not cool
Me 3 days later: does it again
Dad:I said dont do that, next time speak to the _chinelos_
Me: does it aga-
DAD: *PAF* I DONT LIKE TO REPEAT STUFF, YOU BETTER HEAR ME NOW OKAY!?
Shares video with mom
Mom: yeah luckily I don’t do that
Me: uh about that
Gosh, are you ok?
I think he died
Me too lol expect mom and dad and more....
JJayBlue thanks for that information next time don’t get raped
Um I didn’t mean that way
My parent yells at me everyday, yells at me for crying, tells me to stand up for myself when I never can thanks to them, teaches me how to lie, always says that they respect my opinion when they never do, and so much other stuff. And my parent wonders why I hate talking to people and why emotions are hard for me to control. She somehow believed me when I told her Im not depressed (“funny” enough I have depression and also yes I know the different meaning of “depressed” and “depression” ok?) and she believes me anytime I say that I’m happy when I’m sad. I’m tired right now so I don’t want to continue this.
Yup basically my life also.
But like my parent say it's just a phase.
Part of this is reletable for me part not
This is my parents also, Im tired of living like this, I wish I could just run away from them.
dude if it's that bad, (don't know if these are available in your area but) you should visit a social worker/ therapist
My mom: grounding me for being be lazy, because I didn't do my chores when i was doing online school.
Also my mom: sitting on the couch all day watching tv
Lmao
The "Lmao" in this comment is used to hide the pain.
@Jordan Taylor lol
@@jerfwardest7129 i did not know that
lol
BRUH SERIOUSLY?
News : how many times have you spanked your son?
Parents : *yes*
Pssshht white boys. You be glad you don't have an uncle that comes to your room at midnight after Thanksgiving.
@@seanisgone5413 I'm sorry for what happened to you
Fuckass
@Sean Smith It be like that sometimes
Not funny
Scientist: are you stressed?
Mouse:
Scientist: Oh my god what have we done
You’re a conspiracy theory
Yeah that's why cats are better
Damm they're on to me
Mouse: what's my purpose
Scientist: you stay in the cage
Mouse: O.M.G
Robot: what is my purpose
Rick: to pass the butter
Robot: O
Robot: M
Robot: G
Parents: yelling at you for lying
You: catch them lying
Yep
so true
@@smallidot yes
I have caught that before. But I don’t say anything about it until I say the same thing again and then say. But I thought you said blah blah blah.
I have semi-strict parents. My dad is quick to anger, and when I do the slightest thing wrong (aka crying) I get grounded for a week. My mom on the other hand, doesn’t ground me, but discusses what I did wrong and how to not do it again. If I had to only live with one of my parents, I’d choose my mom anytime
golly the crying thing is so true apparently a lot of people on this comments section have parents like mines who don't allow us to have feelings. Pfft
Same
This is the same for me, but slightly different. If I had to live with one of my parents, I wouldn't pick either. Both react equally as bad to things I do wrong.
Movies about school taught me 1 and 1 thing only, EMOTIONS ARE FRICKIN STUPID, + health videos
Oh boy, do I just LOVE getting punished for something I have no control over!
Fin
Me: Parents watch this.
Parents: Stop watching CZcams.
Well strict parents teach you this :
faking to work, sleep
Same thing with strict HR that sets counterproductive policies.
You gotta see r/malicioiscompliance for that
@@CinnaMoonGamer thanks, went down a rabbit hole, fences torned down furiously, bringing dead father's ashes to a meeting and health evaluation of an urn. Jesus christ
Are they actually that strict if they tell you to cause trouble?
And fake being busy
And on the spot lie
Life Noggin: Spanking is bad!
African parents: Imma pretend I didn't see that
Africa that’s called flogging
I believe spanking is good until a certain age of probably around 9, then you try different tactics. Spanking an older kid or teen will just make them angry and it only lasts a short second; However, taking away a privilege works way better because it gives them time to reflect on what they've done wrong and also lets them know that most everything they have actually belongs to their parents who lets them use it. Best case scenarios would be a phone and a car. Those are wants not needs and they don't belong to the child or teen.
@@tripleg2513 but what if the teen bought it themselves? No one can take away something when they didn't buy it because it's not theirs
@@Darkside12... weak argument. As long as it's under the parents roof, it's part of rent.
@@tripleg2513 If they're under 18 they're not required to pay rent. It's theirs because they paid for it from their hard work
I remember there's a difference between being strict and disciplining.
I've met some kids that their parents did nothing in their life (besides provide the basic necessities and make sure they're doing good in school) and they sent them to school we're attending a military school to teach them discipline all that even though it didn't do anything and they just were pissed off at their parents even more.
My parents:
To me: strict parents 100%
To my little sister: strict parent 0%.
I’m honestly surprised on how many people have similar situations to me. Thanks for your support guys!!
Sorry to break your feelings but that's called favoritism.
I have that too
Same
I don’t have siblings and my parents aren’t strict that much
Right?! It’s so freaking annoying!
*Hears that over controlling parents causes more depression*
Me: *Turns the sound on full*
parents= that's not true
also parents = AH YES ENSLAVE THE MeDiA
Same
Me also: nudge nudge nudge
Lol my parents don't talk English so they won't understand
Hears the effects of spanking
Me: also turns the sound on full
Thanks Life Noggin, I really hope this can teach parents, I'll be honest I'm a 12 year old girl. Yes really, I spend a lot of my time on the internet and I'm always afraid to admit my age as people online think I'm just a spoiled brat. Off topic I've always lived with my mom and well.. She's an alcoholic and I've just accepted this, until I was 10, I learned the danger of alcohol and the impacts it has of children.. like me and because I've gone through this so much I can notice the earliest signs of someone becoming drunk, even before anyone else can notice and when I say something their like "Oh she's just tired and bored" and guess what? She's drunk 1 hour later. But I've had some moments from her that I will never forget, one time she literally took me to the alcohol store and I told my nan that she took me to the store, she caught up to my mom and right when we were about to leave after getting the stuff my nan pulled up and wanted me to get in her car, obviously I wanted to go with my nan but my mom tried to convince me to stay, I eventually went with my nan and I can't remember the rest.. sorry but I go through that stuff a lot or she yells at me to sleep at like 6pm, just recently I've started to realize that.. this is my life.. this is how I live and how I will most likely remember it.. I really hope no future parents do this to their children and for those that are in a similar spot like me.. go with your other parents, talk with the person drinking and if they don't listen as a last resort, call Child Protection Services, it will be hard but if its all you got you should really do it.
Thanks for reading this I had to this long and hard to post this but it's probably worth getting the stress off of my shoulders.
Good
I feel bad for you.
I hope you grow up, and be a independent woman, and hopefully your mom won’t drink near you.
It goes from
“I don’t need any help” to “Nobody does anything in this house!”
agree my mom is like
Oh Im Just gonna clean the house I don't need help! don't worry about me! Im gonna do it all just do whatever you want!
1 min later
WHY IS NO ONE HELPING ME??
IKKKKKRRRRRE
@@deerhat7875 IKR IT'S SOOO ANNOYING! THEN THEY SAY 'OH YEAH NO NEED TO DO UR CHORES' THEN EXPECT U TO HOP TO IT OMGGGGGG
You ruined the comment
J.E.R yeah srry
Meanwhile my parents wonder why i barely get invited to stuff.
@Crush Ikr
@@sulfur_americium2993 it's hard being the best
I am glad nobody invites me. Not getting an invitation is better than your mother telling you you cannot go there because she does not know them.
Says the person who can’t use a Nintendo. Any Nintendo.
cuz that damn phone
InfamousBot 01 My parents wouldn’t let me go to those functions or trips with my friends and while I had to hear about how much fun they had I was just sitting there, this ultimately led to them not inviting me anymore and also led to me not having many close friends
So knowing that info
Mom: why don’t you go out with your friends
Me: what friends?
Everyone: *At my funeral*
Me: dead deceased
My mother: *ITS CAUSE OF THAT DAMN PHONE😡*
look im not a simp ok i was just checking if u were a bot that kept following me
In Hell
Mother: What Did I Do?
Satan: "its cause of that damn phone"
@@Mrjestin XDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDD
The average Asian parent,
“Ya’ll hear something?”
I have asian parents and they respect their kitchen utensils more than a child
@@WAVE0025 idk about yours but mine are jsut your regular parents supportive and strick when needed, also my mom probably cares more of her shoes then my dog(dog quarintining right now since my be positive of corona)
@@K_B_C Same. They care about my grades but I think it's understandable if they freak out if I get 65 in maths.
@@mariustan9275 ʜᴏɴᴇsᴛʟʏ ɪғ ɪ ɢᴏᴛ 65 ɪɴ ᴍᴀᴛʜ ɪ ᴡᴏᴜʟᴅ ғʀᴇᴀᴋ ᴏᴜᴛ ᴄᴜᴢ ᴛʜᴀᴛ's ᴀᴄᴛᴜᴀʟʟʏ ᴀ ʙᴀᴅ ᴍᴀʀᴋ
I got Asian parents, fortunately for me though they aren't strict.
You do something bad
Angry Parents : ask something in a terrifying way
Me : try to answer
Parents: DON'T TALK BACK
Logic says that your parents asked you to answer
Me: (cries)
Parents: ...
Me: (waits for parents to stop talking) [explains] (while crying)
Parents: just breathe slowly, wash your face, go drink some water and then explain
Well that's my life👏
@@stopplecone so smart
@@fahadredalfailchawy9471 it's just that my parents are kinder than before
Also I had a lot of emotional build up from moving elsewhere (I won't tell you from where to where because of... Reasons) and I lost my friend... My one friend (yes I only had one friend) and kept it in..
Until I let my emotions run wild and...😭
But {sniff} I'm.. I'm ok now
Emotional build up is a great enemy@UCwu0mG2l73lwVOQF_WddQ7g
I have too much of it😐
Some of mine date back 7 years
_Reason:_ I'm an introvert... I'm not so social 😐
And my teeth are horrendous... And people only care for looks (that's why I had only one friend {that I moved away from[due to parents work and stuff]})
And if you're not caught off guard by shock of your parents yelling at you and are ok with what I just said (because it's my opinion on people) then...
Tough luck buddy😐
Me: Shows my mom this video
My mom: Your grounded this video is disrespectful
**reports video for child abuse**
i have a feeling thats how my mom would do
either that or be like "parents need to realize that"
and then do nothing about her ways
._. -_- ._.
MasterSah Gaming its a jokeeeee
MasterSah Gaming
R/whooosh
*forces me to do courses I don’t want to do*
*then gets mad when I don’t do good in a course I did not choose*
What strick parents think theyre learning their child:
Being respectful
Teaching how to behave
How they actually do:
Depression, lying on spot, listening for footsteps
That's me
You forgot hatred of other human beings
Strict*
Finnix Gaming
You spelled “strict” wrong, your grammar is atrocious, and only one thing in that comment is correct.
So relatable
What ive gained from my strict parents: Deppresion at the age of 7, Mental health problems, and much more...
Anyone that didint have strict parents is lucky.
Mines is a mix
What strict parents think they teach us: • Discipline
• Obedience
What strict parents do teach us:
• How to listen for footsteps
• How to find the best hiding places for devices
• How to lie well
• How to zone out lectures
• How to pretend to sleep/work
Edit: Yo!!!! Look at these likes! Thanks!
900?! What?!
you know you just copied a tweet word by word? start being original.
don't read my profile pic
Says the one with a “don’t read my profile pic” username.
don't read my profile pic I don’t think it’s word by word but it was inspired by a tweet
Plus have you seen your beautifully generic name? It’s more generic than this comment.
That1RandomGuy its true
Oof, well, it's true...
Me: “Stays home and plays video games”
Parent: “All you do is stay home and play games. Why don’t you go outside”
Me: “Can I go outside ?”
Parent: “There’s nothing for you outside why do you want to go there”
Me: “To get some fresh air”
Parent : “There’s fresh air in the house, you’re staying home”
lol😂
Bruh
Meanwhile...
*ViDeO gAmEs CaUsE vIoLeNcE!*
Aint it.
Accurate description of my dad
I had 2 different ways of growing up. With my mother and stepfather it was horrible punishes that mentally drained me, while I was rarely never abused physically the mental abuse was nonstop. Then when I went to my dads I saw how real parenting worked and was barely punished the way I was at my mothers. In the end I have a stepdaughter and I was taught 2 ways, what NOT to do and what works and I am forever thankful for my dad showing me the right way.
Me: *does homework at night instead of when I get home from school*
Parents: YOU CANT DO YOUR HOMEWORK AT NIGHT IM TAKING AWAY YOUR PHONE!!
Me: 👁👄👁
My dad is more Authoritative, my mom is more Authoritarian. No wonder I like my dad more
Same if it was just me and my dad, I would have so much more freedom.
for me, my mom is chill, but my dad isn't, we were watching Jaiden Animations and when she said "Like Bill Nye says 'Gender is a spectrum'" my dad got feircly upset and im afraid to come out to him as bi
I Woudnt know because I don’t know my dad so if I ever feel lonely I think of him and that there had to be a reason he left my mom I guess I just kinda had to figure everything out my grandad is more like a father figure to me i kinda have some social anxiety and just anxiety so maby it has something to do with it
It's the opposite for me
Those are the same thing lmao
Parents: prohibits me from going out
Me: grows up with no social skills
Parents:*shocked pikachu face*
*wHeEzE*
This is so funny 😋
Shivesh R story of my life :(
Big bruh moment
I can relate
I have learnt so much from strict parents, I can think of a well structured lie with backups within seconds when questioned....
I’ve been able to do that since I was 5 at least so I won’t get in a lifetime of trouble
I can do that too! OMG!
Every time I tell/show my parents something (meme, joke or pet idea), they give me an hour of non stop lectures
My parents: you should socialise more!
Also my parents: you cant bring anyone back home
@@dothefloppa my parents be like lol
Parents: “Get off that computer and start studying!”
*Me who studies computer programming*
Pusheen Cat rip
@@darleendempster9839 I thought the same thing
same!
Same :(
Lol same
Some days my mom will be super nice to me, and will be somewhat forgiving when I do something wrong, but other days she is annoyed with every single thing that I do. Pick a side mom...
people have good days and bad days. get over it.
@@bruh.5620 “Get over it” is the worst advice you could give. When I said “Pick a side”, aside from doing it to be funny, I said it because certain parenting methods work, and others don’t. Having a bad day is never an excuse to be insensitive or rude to others. When I was have a bad day, and someone yelled at me because I didn’t clean my room, that didn’t give me the excuse to yell back. Although I was in the wrong, if she was understanding in that situation I would’ve learned to do those things more often. Science has proven that discipline doesn’t have many positive effects. It causes kids to be more closed off, sneaky, and it doesn’t accomplish the original goal. Being understanding and talking to your kid as a parent will condition them to do what you said, because you know you’ll be rewarded by having a happy parent. Motivating someone to do something out of fear doesn’t work as well, because it will make them think irrationally, demotivate them to be productive, and will cause resentment and stress. If she was having a bad day, she could openly say, “I’m tired” and take a nap or rest. Or if she was working, she could just do the right thing and rather than projecting her anger on others, just plan to deal with it later. I wrote this comment 11 months ago, so you can imagine me and my mom’s mental states. Always inside in quarantine, we were tired, drained, and sad. Although I understand where she was coming from at the time, and why she acted the way she did, it doesn’t excuse it. I was going through burnout at the time, cans was constantly drained by school work that I could no longer keep track of due to my entire school system changing to an entirely open schedule with only online videos, and very little help in keeping track of my assignments; combined with the lack of seeing or even meeting people, I wasn’t in a good place. So you can understand my frustration when I was met with a lack of understanding. I could simply get over it if I wasn’t constantly dealing with it. We should be very grateful to our parents, but they’re not perfect deities. They’re people, and have faults that we can recognize. When I wrote this comment, I was probably just mad, and felt like venting, but saying “get over it” doesn’t help. It makes it worse, and I hope you understand why.
@@boxpin8967 i wrote a 10 word sentence, why did you make an essay.
okay first of all saying that you shouldnt be yelling at people because ur having a bad day is true, but its very hard not to do. as you said, people arent perfect. so why should you expect ur parent to be perfect by always being the best parent to you.
2 why did you say the things that the guy in the vid said i watched the vid u know...
3 youre kinda a hypocrite at the end cause u say you said all this to vent on me, but you wont let your mom vent on u.
the reason i said get over it is because u seemed like every other kid being like "i hate parents" without having an actual reason other than "they take phone away :CCCC" or "they were mean to me because i did something wrong" i mean im an introvert and i stay on my phone for hours, but i dont care if its taken.
the reason why i auto assume this is because everyone here despite making essays doesnt explain what theyre going through, but im glad u did.
k im tired bye
@@bruh.5620 well to respond to a couple of your things, I said things that the guy in the vid said because from your response it seemed like you hadn’t watched the video and we’re speaking under the opinion that discipline is the best option. It was my fault to assume that. And when I said I wrote the comment to vent, I mean the original comment that I wrote 11 months ago. Venting isn’t blowing up about small things, it’s stating your issue and not really needing a response. My mom didn’t “vent on me because she didn’t tell me her actual problems, which I would’ve been happy to listen to because I’d be glad she was being more open with me, but she was just handling things incorrectly, and channeling her anger and tiredness towards me without apologizing or even being rational at times. Also the reason I wrote an essay (sorry about that btw) was because when people say things like “get over it”, it feels like they’re disregarding others’ experiences and traumas, which is something that is important to me. I’m glad you were respectful, and again, sorry for blowing up at you.
@@boxpin8967 ight fair enough imma just go now
My parents say things like "I'll call the police" or "I'll put you in this terrible place where you have to suffer."
This has caused me to have:
-More Stress
-Overwhelms
-Struggle
-Loneliness
-Fear
-Worry
-Discomfort
etc.
When you realize that some white moving rectangles are teaching better than school is.
the school system is fu*ked up
I agree I learn more about science here than sChOoL
What’s skool?
@@thatunknownfella It's hell.
Yep...........we must burn down all school's
Imagine being an abusive parent of a kid with a BDSM fetish.
"Honey, Jimmy didn't do the dishes, what should we do?"
"I don't know, but whatever you do, do *not* spank him"
jimmy: *iLl sPaNk MySeLf!*
Or how about a PARENT with a BDSM fetish?
x_br1ght both scenarios are a big yikes
CKV
i thought so
Hiền Nguyễn Thu thats a little too far...Making him die because of 0 oxygen is too deep.
Lol my grandma threw a shoe at me cause I didn’t get home on time.
No offence but lmao
Don’t worry we’re on it
Should grandma/grandpa love their grandson and protecting them from a abusive parents?
my life is worst, not just my strict parents, everything, my life was superiorly great until everything change over the years, even today I cant even finish my school stuff at google classroom, lack of intelligence, and very, very low on self-esteem, I could even find a bit of single luck to make all the troubles away, but now I need your help on how to keep up so my life wont be unfair
I feel you do you wanna talk? I know I don’t know you and you don’t know me but you can always talk to me if you want I’m in the same position as you
@@Isabel-sr8ep nah i still some stuff to cheer me up
@@r4dbro oh
That’s good :) me too! Like music really calms me down aswell is drawing and playing video games lol
This is a real history:
When i was younger my mom beated the crap out of me because i had a youtube channel(with less then 10 subscribers)and i made a joke about my grandfather needing money for a prostate surgery(stupid children joke that barely no one saw)she beat me with her hands,with her sandals,choked me and even throw me towards the wall making me hit my head really hard,and guess what i started bleeding but even with that she told me to go study to the test i had on the other day.
on the other day she put some bandage around my head gave me some painkiller and send me to school with a letter to my teacher and the principal saying that i hurted my head in the doorknob because i slipped on the wet floor.
She tolds all her friends(every women on the street about it)and guess what again all of then tough i was the bad guy on the history
Now i not only pray every day to be able to live till i turn 18 because i want to go the hell away from here(Brazil)and start over a new life on Canada because i want to be far as possible from her
I'm so sorry that hapend. Wish you the best!
That is child abuse! I hope you're okay!
mano chama a policiq
policia
Uh...?
My life living with strict parents:
• was never allowed to go off my street when outside by myself, even if I’m just goin to a friends house a street over.
• Always berated for not getting the “best score” or being “top in the class”
• Constantly being compared to others
• Getting yelled at for petty things that could easily be solved
• Not being allowed to talk back, even if I have a valid argument or point in a conversation
• Having parents that think the concept of mental health is taboo
*Theres a lot but this is just a generalization of what goes on.*
Dolphin Go Boop Your parents suck. Why would they compare you to other people? Why wont they let you just cross the street if it’s RIGHT THERE and you know what to do at the road?! *_WHY TF WOULD THEY MAKE YOU GET STRAIGHT A’S?!?!_* People are so messed up, and your own parents need parenting lessons.
Most of these, I can relate. I will send your parents to gulag.
I quited playing the piano in 2015 and the piano in the living room is just a decoration now. Meanwhile my mom compare me to literally anyone that can play the piano she can find.
She doesn't say it, but I know for a fact she does it just to convince my to play the piano again, and it ain't working
Dolphin Go Boop I relate to this way too much
You describe my parents ;(
I myself am a kind, caring and attentive mother, but i am never strict to my own offspring. potential
If I was your son I'd obey you to the max, You are the one that is in total control.
Everyday, I'd come home from school and the 1 st thing I do, is give you my phone...don't want any distractions, then I do my homework, then all the chores for that day, which must be done to your satisfaction. Then do whatever you tell me to do with no back talk or arguing.
On the weekends, I'd do what you want me to do, Before I have my "Free time"
Whenever I was crying because of something they did, they would go "Crying won't help" WHEN REALLY, THEY NEGLECTED MY FEELINGS. As TimTom always says "Just because your a kid, that doesn't mean your feeling don't matter"
I started out with a stict parent but once we learned I had autism, she eased up and is still sometimes strict but mostly soft on me. Now I'm more on the "authoritive parenting" side of things.
I have autism and living with my mum is way too much for me she ends up taking the things that make me feel safe and won’t give it to me
If there is anything that my parents unintentionally teached me. it was that defying authority (as long as it doesn't harm the people around me) makes me happier
ok so, just go to your teacher and punch them in the face. that made u happier? if so then thats not your parents thats cause u stupid
@@bruh.5620 “as long as it doesnt harm the people around me”
@@piratecat8085 alright so just insult them so much so you get kicked out of school. or maybe do that to a police officer. how about you touch someone invading their personal space. thats not harming anyone ur just being extremely weird. how about when ur being arrested you run away. thats not harming anyone.
and the things this guy does that "defys authority" are probably fun things to do. like playing on ur phone at night, playing loud music, or for some people drugs.
and even then if they did just do things that arent fun in spite of their parents, then thats because its fun to hate on them. this guy hates his parents. thats why he likes to "defy authority". now change that parent with a really nice grandma or something and would he still defy authority. i dont think so
@@bruh.5620 are you blind or something?
@@bruh.5620 harming mentally counts lol?
Not every criticism is constructive. Done wrong it leans to verbal abuse.
I swear my parents can’t understand this concept
@@duckymomo7935 same
Its okay guys I'm sure one day you guys will be happy you guys are strong don't give up! :D
Most parents always blame everything on “those damn phones” and “them computers”,
Yea and most of the time there on more then there kids
Or you play on the computer for 1.5 hours and they say that you are addicted to them
Parents are only saying that because of they’re bad parenting. And they don’t wanna talk about.
Video games HELP me, I have like no friends in real life, but through playing games I have met many amazing friends, and that's just one example of how technology can help someone
They will never understand our generation.
Recalling my... Experience with strict parents, I never really developed much if a bond to them due to fearing them. I decided to help them out, but it led to me becoming even worse than before. I don't talk to them much or tell them much either. Goes to show the effects of strict parenting on children. Then there comes the effects on their social, emotional and even physical health. Parents shouldn't be doing all this just to make their kids listen. They should spend time with them, talk to them and develop a bond not associated with fear. Thank you Blocko for creating and sharing this video with us all. Hope to see more content soon
Things my parents wanted me to learn
1- discipline
2-responsibility
3-obedience
4-good grades
Things I actually learned from my parents
1- how to be a best liar
2- how to hold tears, when someone is using a psychical pressure on me
3- better hearing skills (you always have to be ready for them coming into your room)
4- how to hide things such as phone, money and diaries
5- how to hide apps in your phone, clear your search history and so go on
6- how to find good excuses, if you want to go to the doctor or need to go to the psychologists
7- low self confidence, trust issues, trying to find that warm love in random people and the last one- don't really know how to love someone, because never felt that love.
Child: *breathes*
Parent: WHY ARE YOU BEING DISRESPECTFUL?!?!?! YOU ARE GROUNDED FOR THE NEXT WEEK.
Yeah, I feel like parents are more disrespectful to their kids than they are when they scream in your ear “STOP BEING SO DISRESPECTFUL”
Me: eating dinner with my mom
*moves one inch*
Mom: WHAT DO YOU THINK YOUR DOING GET BACK HERE YOUNG MAN
Me: I just moved one -
Mom: NO BACKTALK YOUR GROUNDED FOR 99 YEARS
Me: .......
Who are you, who are so wise in the ways of my parents
@@tantris2876 lol. A few weeks ago I said ok in a frustrated voice because I was stressed and got in so much punishment. Plus got slapped
Exactly what I’m saying is that we’re not bieng disrespectful or rude
When you answer your parents questions and they say
*dOn,T tAlK bAcK aT mE!*
Edit:
Wooooaah I've never before gotten any likes on a comment I wrote.
Thanks guys.
Luna Torres true.......
My mom never lets me to talk back so I can never argue and always keep in my feelings
@@goatsanimations4480 same here
But my mom is not that bad so don’t worry
lmao
I had a strict mum and step dad, and I was emotionally and mentally abused, luckily there was no physical abuse.
Just over a month ago we got into a fight, at that time my mental health was really bad to the point I developed a bit of anxiety.
Literally when I was having a severe anxiety attack they continued to yell at me and make me sound like a bad person and things like that, then 2 nights later they kicked me out of the house and sent me to another state to live with my dad.
I had to leave my boyfriend friends and memories behind, but there was one positive side to the note, my dad and step mum respects me and wants to fix my mental health into a good healthy one, they don't yell at me, put pressure on me, hurt my feelings, or make me feel worthless. And within most of march, I felt like there is a place for me to feel safe and not unhappy.
For those out there with strict parents, things will get better, even if it means to leave everything behind and start a fresh new life.
My parents are like a mix of strict and chill. I have my freedoms and restrictions. Admittedly they sometimes shelter me a little too much. They did spank me when I was younger. They stopped when I was 8 years old, where I was old enough to just talk about what I’ve done and stuff.
It worked for me personally. But every child is different.
*shows this to my parents*
*gets grounded*
Me: wth did I do?
Maybe you showed it to your parents
They got offended 🤣
You've got to learn that you CAN'T show and tell them everything about yourself and what you do. Be secretive sometimes
Yeah that’s how strict parents work heheh
*in my room watching this pretending to be asleep*
Denial parents.
tfw your mom lectures you over your book choices because the book you wanted to read was “too depressing”
smh...and they also blame it on video games too, because they’re “violent.”
Spiritliliii I get yelled at for reading a book again that I read years ago. I have fun here
Every time I go to a book fair, my mom forces my to buy books I don't want (I actually don't read them after I buy it)
I had strict parents all my life. It’s not easy and never is but it is what it is
2:45 I needed to hear that, thank you
Parent: *yells at me*
Me: *raises my voice by 0.0000001%*
Parent: ur grounded
Me: what did I do
Daniel Manankichian ahhh
Ugghhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh, so unfair, I know this as well
lol i feel bad
R/relatable
Daniel Manankichian
Parent: So where is the belt?
Don’t you hate when you’re parents think their right and pull the “i’m the adult card”
Or when you prove them wrong they call u disrespectful 😂
Yes. Or when they conveniently 'forget' something you have said so that their arguement works
ALL THE TIME AAGGGG
Or they “never heard” something that you said so they can get their way
My parents are NOT like that. I guess i’m lucky?
They do that to me all the time
There's also the
People whose parents use physical violence vs people whose parents use psychological violence and both of them thinking the other's position is better
As a kid of a strict parent i literally dont even like my mom she is robbing my childhood. I am planning on barely talking to her when I grow up because she has made me miss so many things in my childhood.
Kid : *Breaths*
Strict Parents and Karens : Video Games have cursed my child
Dang it! Does Karens
@@jorgeurrutia360 ughhhhh those darn Karen's!
*When Karen see dis:*
@@jorgeurrutia360 Karen: WHAT
@@annafrans6714 Me: *I would like to see your manger*
When I grow up I never want my children to go through what I do. Because my parents feel like as if it is their job to emotionally break their children. I don't want my children to feel as if they can't talk to me about things. I don't want them to be afraid to be in the same room as me.I want them to be able to lean from their mistakes instead of fearing being hit for it.
Same
I don't want kids, but ok
@Caron Nita Yes
@@Lovesickasyy wow you are a nice girl, sorry that you got t
Raped that is seriously insane... Good luck with your life, I hope you succeed! :)
When I have kids I want them to respect me out love not out fear and strict parents have it backwards because if you are too controlling then they will secretly rebel against you and will hide things in fear of you which in result ruin the relationship between parent and child.
I have one memory I will never forget. I’m homeschooled and have been for awhile. So my mom helped me a lot when I was younger. I have this one memory I will never forget, I was struggling in math and was really confused and didn’t know what to do. So she resulted to intensely spanking me. It definitely still haunts me.
"How DANGEROUS Are Strict Parents?"
dangerous enough to make u learn how to step without making the floor creek, how to hide money and stuff, and how to leave no trace behind you.
a great bonus: how to put layers of clotes like the Flash when theyre mad.
Mom: You seem stressed it’s probably the dam Xbox
Me: That’s my only stress reliever
Wanna know my stress reliever? Its roblox video games music and space
Ikr
Hahah so relatable
Gta: Vice city
@@saltyermilk8995 wanna know why your fat? Roblox, video games, music and space
Me: Breathes
My Mom: *iT's ThAt DaMn PhOnE*
Thats like u cant breathe in life
why does everyone say that like it's getting overused
Finally a turk
@@user-fx3kt4ym4j overused by parents
Brian Oo? B A C K I N M Y D A Y W E D I D N O T E V E N N E E D T H E E A R T H K I D S T H E S E D A Y S H A V E B E C O M E D U M B Y
Well I experienced almost everything talked about here.
I was beaten, yelled at, criticized, manipulated, gaslit and neglected for most of my very early life.
Now I'm very antisocial, have low self esteem,have no genuine connections to anyone in my life,I have a non existent relationship with my parents which makes it hard to live with them and all the bad mental health problems (depression, anxiety etc).
Now the stress of university is adding up and I feel like I just wanna disappear.
It's getting harder to tolerate them every single day knowing that They're the ones that made me like this.
This is absolutely true. My parents are strict and Im not ever happy and like to be left alone and have anger issues, im also aggresive to my little sister, strict parents think thier doing good bring strict to children, but oh ho ho how wrong they are.
my mom is strict and she doesnt allow me to get an dog, even an corgi!!!!!!! but i have an chinchilla and lizard! like what can go wrong? im just 10 and my life sucks man. my parents are strict sometimes, and my mom says: sToP pLaYiNg On ThAt GoDdAmN lApToP!!111!!
like i dont play videogames everytime i search the internet, watch video clips and nothing else im supposed to do with my PC right now!!
Me: *suffering from depression, has social anxiety and low self esteem *
My parents: *cElLpHoNeS*
I also have social anxiety!
And my parents don't care and never know why I can't talk to people I never met before
Dude everyone has a smartphone are you in the 90s
@@hkey_current_user me? My parents for me me to come to old people places that's why
Julietta P. Heart & Gacha Enda wow your so quirky and relatable
Mom: tells child not to talk back
Mom: immediately thereafter yells confusing question at child, expecting an answer
Mom: "Am I talking to a wall?" Don't just stand there. Answer me!"
ah yeah.....the terrible memories are coming back
Well this is my parent
@@bombshell938r5 I live them every day
Parents in a nutshell
LMAOOOOOO
I had the opposite problem; I grew up in neglect, mostly because my mother had back surgery and couldn't move around too much, and my father had a few mental health issues, resulting in him taking a lot of medication that probably sedated him to a great extent. As a result, my siblings and I basically had to raise ourselves, with me taking the lead on raising them. Less than a decade ago, I also learned I am autistic and suffer from generalized anxiety; more recently, it's been deduced that I might also be bipolar, which is not helped by the fact that my father was bipolar-schizophrenic. So yeah, how about you guys?
THANK YOU. I needed to tell my dad that physically harming me has broken my mental development.
*THE LITTLE PAT PAT THAT BLOCKO'S ANIMATOR GAVE HIM WARMS MY COLD HEART I-*
*weeeooooohhhweeeeeooooh*
3:20
Burnt Toastie it’s not as good as Leo the lion on Netflix
@@giddygamer6490 still tho-
Parents when they see I'm depressed and take away the things I love:
Why do I fix everything I touch?
It's because you watch anime
Black Frost I like anime but I don't watch it
Also my parents don't even know what anime is
So true
@@Slippery68 mine do lol well my mom does she also doesn’t think video games cause violence she’s kinda cool my dad is the opposite lol
I love anime too
All i can mostly remember from my childhood was being yelled at for no reason and being hit for stupid reasons, meanwhile my dads girlfriends kids can get away with anything they want. Believe me, i became scared of the saying "dont cry or i'll give you something to cry about"
Im in high school and im still scared of my dad
damn dude that's tough
@@SonnikkuGamer6969 yeah man its been really rough these last of couple of years recently but im getting better
@@brooklyn998 cool but i bet my content can cure ur depresion
Welp having asian parents really stresses me up, from my childhood until now. I'm already matured enough and know what's right and wrong but they still dictate what should I do, who should I become in the future and gets angry with me if they caught me watching some cartoons or anime.
Welp sad life
well anime sucks so cant feel bad for you
@@ElectroMadness300 yeah anime itself sucks but imo the artstyle doesnt (at least cool anime style drawings, like fights or a character platforming. anime girls suck)
@@ElectroMadness300 Not all anime is anime girls
Anime can also be stuff like Death Note and Naruto or Avatar and The last Airbender
my mom:
(insults my friends)
(insults my weight)
(insults my interests)
(insults my computer)
(insults my apologize)
(Insults my grades)
me: drops a tear
mom: WHY ARE YOU CRYING I DIDNT DO ANYTHING TO YOU
Edit: woah! 630 likes!
Strict parents are asshole sometimes
People need to stop being so strict.
That is also the story of my life right now and now I only cry when they are asleep
I dislike how relatable this is
Very strict parents: Stop or I’ll give you a reason to cry.
"How DANGEROUS are strict parents?"
Me: very dangerous.
Warning. Warning. Core temperature rising. Warning. Warning. Core at critical condition. Parent approaching. Parent approaching. Use extreme caution.
as a 27 year old adult who lived the majority of her life with a very strict mom and sometimes dad, i concur they are very dangerous.
Nah it's bs lol, there's a difference between making your child avoid trouble, conflict in the future, and leaving your child in the streets out free all day taking drugs and wanderless. I'm 14, my parents can annoy me at times, we are kids, we rebel against them at times. We need punishment, but not things that are way too far like maybe abusing your child with either fire, weapons and stuff like that. You have to realize that we gotta appreciate parents for intentions, I'm sure a simple spank will not cause depression and all that. I've been diagnosed with anxiety and I know it's tuff, but like at times it can be because a lot of people online, public, trends can influence on us and make us cause mischief. Parents won't be in your lives forever and you will realize that they have made a great choice of discipline, we children can also say stuff too that can abuse parents, such as hateful things, which can hurt them a lot of you think about it. Some strict parents can be helpful in your lives. My mom had a very strict mother,she'd hit her with belts and lots of stuff, and my mom surely does not have mental issues, she's a very much responsible mother of three, along with my dad that had an awful past too. But they are the most civilized parents I've known, but oh well it can affect people differently depending on their mentality 🗣
Kids be like: Shocking
"proceeds to cover mouth sassily"
Every time I make a noise when my parents spank me, they hit me harder, and harder. To the point where they use a paddle and all I can do is run away, sometimes even out of the house. I was really scared and can't forget this.
My mom put me in homeschool 10th grade and locked me in my bedroom with a security camera watching me on her phone. Yeeeeeeah long story short, I'm now in foster 😁
why is the emoji not 😅
Willydoo that’s actuallly messed up. Sorry this happened...
@@yous5668 thank you, thankfuly I'm in a loving new foster home
@@mitchtom1409 it's supposed to be an akwerd smile lmao
Oh my god.... I’ve seen messed up things in my life but this is crazy
They're equivalent to a mean substitute teacher.
Mean/strict teachers are mostly the one who cares alot for their students and wants their students to pass the year.
Benny B that’s bullshit
Glymph lmao
Especially Jaiden's
@@bennyb4283 not necessarily