getting unstuck | been feeling a bit off
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- čas přidán 15. 09. 2022
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we all have those days or sometimes weeks when motivation is low, don't really feel like making an effort even though it's better for us, and are just in a limbo state. i've been in this weird funk lately and haven't been able to shake it off, so spend the day with me trying to get unstuck.
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we humans are so used to getting input, having all kinds of stimulation and "be productive", that we don't feel ok with just "being". We are more used to "doing", whatever that means. It is absolutely okay to NOT do anything people, please don't measure your self-worth on how productive you are. Also it is completely fine to have days that you personally neither rate as "positive/productive" nor as "negative/unproductive". Another approach to cope with a feeling, instead of distracting yourself by "doing" something, would be to observe, sit with it and then learning to let it go. It is really hard, because we are absolutely not used to this.... But this could be implemented as a daily practice and might help majorly with self-acceptance (which i am also struggling with to be honest). Sorry for the braindump, just some thoughts :)
word 🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻
This 💯 thanks for this reminder
I'm impressed by your words 👏
Love this message!!! Thank you for the reminder ❤
Needed this! Thank you! 🙏🏻
I have had a lot of off-days recently too, I think having set activities like journaling or editing videos helps to get my back into my creative flow. I force myself to do them for atleast 30 mins and it normally ends up with me doing it atleast an hour. taking breaks and going for walks also helps
Couldn’t agree more. Having a routine is essential ❤
Vita D makes everything better that’s for sure! If I’m having a SUCKY day, I step outside and within mins I’m smiling! Of course, going back inside facing the music, sometimes it’s not always an easy fix! But fresh air does help cure the blues and reset the mind! I could get lost in nature! Too bad I don’t have the time to just sit and enjoy it all day😅
During the lockdowns journaling saved me! I would set a few small things to do in a day and having done them would give me a nice sense of accomplishment :)
I always feel like this, I find it hard to explain, and even to understand myself. Being stuck really starts in your mind, and it's just about being able to refresh your mindset
Same. I constantly feel stuck.
It happens to me too but I think it's because those days when you have a lot to do you sometimes get overwhelmed without even noticing it and later when you have free days you're probably that overwhelmed that you actually need to just be and do nothing 😊🧡
I've been feeling the same way lately. I just graduated from college too and think I feel stuck because it feels like something new should be starting now that it's September. It's a weird time and hard not to feel stuck so I'm right there with you
It must be linked to the weather, aye?!
This is exactly me right now
@@polinaogboh hope u find your rhythm soon🫶🏼
I feel exactly the same 🤕
Sounds like you’re experiencing burn out. I struggle with feeling unproductive when I sit and relax. However, I feel so much better when I give my self a day or two to do this… it’s almost like a reset. Allow yourself this time and don’t feel guilty!! You’re awesome 👏🏻
Your reset vlogs always find me right on time. Thank you❤️
Thank you for this video! I've been in a rut for the past two weeks and even if I make myself to-do lists I still feel like I'm not doing anything. It's hard when I have the free time I've been wanting but then not feeling pulled to do the things I had been wanting to do with that time. Always nice to know we're all not alone in having these kinds of days - hang in there! Shoutout to you for still getting out of the apartment, going for a run, and making meals/juice for yourself on that day!
I’ve been feeling OFF…the last month too! It’s a hard way to be, but I love how real and honest you have been with all of us all along! I just want you to know that, u inspire me Alia, u always have(since the beginning), and u always will! I know how u feel, about free time! I struggle with that as a mom of three littles! I feel like my mind and body never rest at the same time. And it’s a constant struggle, either be productive and get 💩 done, or rest and recover! Whatever we do, whatever we need…
We can’t be hard on ourselves! I always gotta remind myself… “how would I treat others, in this situation?” If they were telling me how they feel, what would I tell them?!much love always syl🫶🏼
The way you describe exaaactly what I’ve been feeling but struggle to verbalize ⭐️ always love your videos but this one came at the perfect time
I feel like that was my entire last year living in NYC. Every day felt off. Something I did when I moved to Seattle, for when those days inevitably came up, is make a solo date jar. It's got all sorts of ideas in it, from checking out new neighborhoods, to books I want to read, cafes to try, recipes to cook, little self-motivators and pick-me-ups. They've been good ways to clear my head when feeling stuck :) You've got this, girl!
thank you for being willing to be vulnerable and open during tough times ☺️ I think a lot of us 20 somethings are just trying our best to navigate the world with how strange it is these days
It carries over to the 30s too girl😅well I’m almost there but not quite! 29 this year but I always go to Alia for encouragement as well!
@@DoeRaeMe maybe it has more to do with this crazy world than age then 😅🥲 sometimes I wonder if life was this confusing for other generations
@@dovenicolevlogs I hear ya girl! I hear ya! That’s why I’m going back to slow living! It’s the way I grew up and I’m wayyyy too blessed to be this stressed 24/7 lol
Not just the 20 somethings. I just turned 40 and sometimes feel like this.
This 💯👏🏾 so true.
If I can offer some insight from someone a few years older, I found the first 1-2 years after college to be a really challenging transition period. There was so much more routine and a clear list of things you should be doing that you could measure yourself against. When you start entering the fuzzy “middle” period of life, you’re confronted with much more freedom, many more options, etc and it becomes even more important to become intentional with your goals (long term and short term) and how you spend your time. Just my two cents, but would recommend giving yourself some grace. We’re also supposed to rest, we’re not always supposed to be productive.
Girl I relate I think it's an after summer feeling, especially in Seattle. September is always my month "off" from a lot to save money after summer craziness. You aren't alone!
Again such authentic and sincere vibes Als. Love it that you keep it real with us. I love your videos and you remain an inspiration for my own vids!!❤️
I feel this dilemma every single wave you’re saying and more. When I’m too free, I feel an empty void and or I’m too overwhelmed and end up watching tv. But here’s my thought process, this is mainly due to being a 0 or 100 mentality. Never ever let yourself completely go. Do SOME productive challenging things at the beginning of the day so that you lead the rest that way. I promise you, it’s almost 80% successful I would say.
wow i didnt know i really needed this video but I definitely have been feeling off and I really needed someone else to tell me to get unstuck. I think this helped a lot thanks
Yooo I have been feeling the same! I realised that it is due to so much work I am always doing all day long so when free time appares, I just want to do nothing because if you are fulfilling your free time wishes than means trying as if you are going to do work again. The solution that may work for me is that I try not to work the whole day. You need to have a free time almost everyday , even if it is just an hour of doing anything you want, even if it is not creative. And when there is a half / whole day off, plan it ahead and just go for it. Do all those fun stuff because when you start , you won't feel lazy anymore. You will just get caught up in the fun things you are doing.
We need to learn to do nothing, that it is okay to do simple things as staring at the wall and listen to music .We do not need to always fill up our time!
Thank you Alia for posting this video. I have been tested positive for corona and im stuck in my tiny room with two flatmates,having a lot of guilty feeling because i can.t go anywhere else. Life hasn.t been so good lately, but thhank you for reminding me that sometimes you just need to switch your routine and just take it easy.
There’s nothing like a good reset vlog. It’s a reminder to slow down and recenter and definitely the push I needed to do the same 😅💜
Return to the things we love🫶🏼
I'm sure we all get these harder days and it's absolutely normal. We should all remember to be kind to ourselves and spend more time doing the things that make us happy 💕 great vlog as always Alia ✨️❤️
exactly 💕
I felt thissss. Autumn makes me feel stuck but editing videos makes me feel better but autumn makes me feel different with motivation especially with adhd- I can never get up now 😭 but I might journal again maybeeee
Alia, your videos are so therapeutic ❤️
The cinematography in ur videos is just, ahhh 💘
Missed you on YT! So happy to see a video by you ❤️ I'm going to wind down and watch this 😘
I missed her too💖
I definitely know the feeling! Since I’m a freelance classical musician, I have a lot of intense work periods and also longer downtimes, sometimes it takes something new to shake you out of your funk! Also, don’t forget to enjoy downtime sometimes, without phones etc, it can be so healthy to let our brains process things while doing something calm like drawing, painting or going for a walk… 🙃
Your videos always give me so much comfort
This is so beautiful to watch, thank you alia
Always looking forward to watch your vlog. Love it 😍
"Dolce far niente", the sweetness of doing nothing. After a couple years of pure stress and overwhelm I am taking a sabbatical. Every morning I get up and into flow...just doing without thinking. Mostly gardening, but it's been sooo good for my mental health. My new lifestyle lol and I ❤ it
been feeling like this so much recently! after my vacation it's been hard to execute on anything besides work and do things for myself. this vid was so well timed!
ugh yeah the time after a vacation can be really tricky
the fonts you used in this video are so good!! Also it's cool to see you frequent areas in Capitol Hill that I often go to! You found such good books at twice sold tales :O
This is me, today especially. I wfh and I logged in this morning. Work was slow which is typical for a Tuesday, so our boss let some of us off work early. I was so excited thinking like yay I’m gonna go to the gym, catch up on laundry, clean my room, go get a new vacuum that I’ve been needing. I then proceeded to eat some Greek chicken and rice and then sit here watching CZcams. Ok I’m getting up and going to the gym now
Thx alia needed this xx ❤
Just moved to the other coast from Seattle and your vids make me so reminiscent of Seattle😭Stuck in the nostalgia lately smh
Girl loving your videos. Glad seeing someone who doesn't dress up like every other content creator on the Tube. Hoping to see you more often and frequent. ❤
She is THE “that girl” without trying! Even on down days she knows how to take care of herself🫶🏼
😁😂 that's the best kind of venting...talking it out with no one to talk back or give their input....resting and doing nothing for a while is actually doing something...refreshing your soul 🤗♥️. You were so busy with school and work that now all that school is behind you it feels odd...we all go through stages in life. I felt the same way when I retired and again when my late husband died suddenly. Enjoy, embrace, and be blessed 🥰💛💚❤❤
wow I hadn’t really thought about it like that 😊 thanks love
i've also been feeling a little stuck 😢 but it's so weird bc i'm still in my normal routine & i'm being "productive" but i feel so off. very weird timesss
yes that’s totally the feeling
Ooooh I'm early! Can't wait to watch this, like always! x
Have been experiencing the same with free time dilemma and guilt.. On a different note, easy random dinners are the best ❤️
same here too, i finished highschool this year and my college starts in a week- and i just have so much spare time, its like this for a month rn. and i just sit, watch movies - youtube videos - series, read some book, scroll through my phone, eat and repeat all of them again. im not very upset about it cuz i would define myself as an introvert which i love staying at home all by myself. but since im going into a new era myself and officially am an adult now, i think i should do more different things and especially get out of my comfort zone. btw i enjoyed the video
i am stuck two weeks now..i try to find things for motivation but its so difficult.really this video is usefull for me right now.love ya alia!
Any update?
I struggle with this every single weekend. When I schedule a day, like Sunday, to be my "mental & emotional chill day," , my anxiety creeps in and I start panicking over being too lazy so I find little chores and things to do. Then when I'm super busy throughout the week, I crave stillness. It's a vicious cycle! I'm working on it but it takes A LOT of practice.
I have been in weird mood this entire week and I can't really explain why but it's normal to have you off days what matters is how you try and get your life back in order
my problem is im hard on myself for not being social enough, but in my free time i spend it by myself or with the same few people instead of branching out like i would like to. i set aside a few optional days each week to make some plans & make a list of some things i would like to maybe do that week, that’s helped a little
What a great video! I've been feeling the same way lately... I just finished my career and I don't have a job in this moment (I'm looking for one). I try to fill my hours studying a new language, going to the gym and trying interesting stuff that I always wanted to try but I couldn't because I was studying and I haven't enough time. But sometimes I do the easy stuff, I just lay on bed scrolling on my phone or watching TV... I love watching movies or TV shows, it's one of my favorite hobbies, but I want to try new stuff, take advantage of the time I have now. This video gives me a lot of motivation to do so!
I paused the video 1:58 in because this intro is 100% me. All of my ideas/ energy/ motivation comes on days that I’m busy or late at night. And when I do have free time, all I do it procrastinate and feel unmotivated. I hope watching this video helps me figure my ish out… or at least is something to think about when I’m in a funk.
Exactly!
i definitely have this way alll this week i stg. it’s like a shift in the energy and vibrations were all going through or something 😫 i’m slowly getting the motivation back!
Exactly! Any update?
I've been the same! My kids went back to school last week and am trying to figure out what to do when there at school! Gym, baking and reading for me! Xxx
I haven't seen this vlog yet but dude I missed you your vlog so damn much
It IS a significant problem Alia,
We all face it, don’t let it be odd to you ❤️.
i love you videos so much !!!
I feel like we put so much pressure on ourselves to constantly do things, to always have a specific rhythm, to be this consistent idealised human. Nowadays instead of following that train of thought suggested by my brain, I like to put my phone away and just enjoy being "bored" for a moment, letting myself lean into the "nothingness" without guilt. And usually from that place comes inspiration and creativity, not for the sake of doing but from a happy place of being. Hope this makes sense :)
I feel this way too especially since I graduated this past June!! People need to talk more about post-grad! ❤
true, i went through the same after graduating
Alsooo can i make a suggestion on the coffee? Adding the milk with the ice first and then the coffee, is better to avoid the ice melting 😁
i have been feeling like this too lately. Maybe the transition into the new season.
I’m the same way!!!! I feel like if I have too many free time I feel like “am I wasting time coz I’m not doing anything?” I’m a type A person and I like getting things done and be productive so when I do have a day “off” it feels weird.
Love how you went outside to gain some inspiration. Maybe getting creative is the best solution for these types of days!
my dad read "Klara and the sun" and loveeeeddd it ! he 100% recommends :)
Commonwealth is amazing! Patchett’s book The Dutch House is also a fav of mine :)
I think going to an art store and doing something non-academic/professional is a great idea. Another thought is to scroll ticketmaster or eventbrite for local events and getting excited about an upcoming cultural experience (like a music concert or dance class or flower arranging workshop). I think the stress from having to do/create/accomplish can be burdensome in itself
i love you so much!
alia you make me want to be productive
You're doing a lot already on a weekly basis. Don't feel bad for doing nothing. You need to relax sometimes. But yeah, I feel you. I feel like crap when I'm not doing anything productive.
Yayyyy finally 🥹
Sometimes these kind of days is your body's way of telling you to slow down. If on your free days you do or prepare things for the busy days then you didn't actually had a day off. I read once that if you mentally feel weird then you should treat yourself like you would when you are sick (stay in bed, have some soup, sleep etc). Hope you feel better soon:)
I love your bedding! It looks so cozy. Where did you get it from?
It honestly just sounds like decision fatigue and you being tired. You have a busy life and a lot of obligations you answer being a student so don’t think so hard. You’ll think yourself into a frenzy. The easiest way to work through decision fatigue and burnout is just setting simple self-discipline limits like getting up and stretching every half hour, stepping outside to breathe fresh air, dancing for 5 mins, etc. this helps break up the stagnation without being overwhelming or overbearing to an parade drained or tired body and mind. HOPE THIS HELPS ❤❤❤
I love sweet chili too and my fav is to dip popcorn in it, sounds weird but worth a try 😂
I feel like that very often. Whenever I have a lot to do I end up pressuring myself to do more on top of that (like for example cleaning the whole flat after a 8h workday). And in the week I get very exited about the weekend imagining all the things I am gonna get done. But then I end up laying in bed and being on my phone which is actually what makes me the most unhappy. But the problem is not really not me doing much it´s more that I am feeling guilty for being "unproductive". But I started to tell myself that it is TOTALLY OKAY to have days in the week where you don´t do anything and you also need those days to fill up your battery for the week. I do think that it is better to read a book, watch a good netflix series or do some other hobbys that make you happy, rather than being on the phone for hours, but I think we need to stop feeling unworthy for being "unproductive" for time to time. That is still something I need to work on and whatching your video showed me that I am not alone. Have a nice weekend off and enjoy it Alia
you're looking so different. good different, a bit tanned, tightened jaw, more defined face bone structure, i don't know. you're looking really good.
oh, I can relate :( that's why I try to keep busy if not my mind will be playing tricks on me
I love your videos❤️.
Be your own hero.
This couldnt have come at a better time I have had the same feeling since a few days !!
Love your necklace, may I ask where you got it!?
I struggle a lot with that too!
omg i just got klara and the sun a week ago!! let us know how you like it🤭
I loved Klara and the Sun! Also, as somebody who's tried to get into juicing, rest assured that whatever extra time you're spending straining you'd be spending double that cleaning out a juicer 😅
Currently going through this now. It’s weird. It’s like a negativity energy or something. Or think it might be Venus Retrograde even (currently)
Please post more love u r videos❤️
Rest is productive too
Do you ever calendar those things that you want to do on your free days? Preemptively so that you have already prepped mentally and set an intention? While giving yourself grace if you do end up changing your mind.
I kinda feel that the background music was a little bit too loud next to your voice, idk.. but I love your videos! Thank you for sharing your ideas on how getting out of this mood.
Sometimes it's ok to just be comfortable with doing nothing & enjoying the solitude.
I have that same kind of dinner at times. Why not? yum and easy
Honestly toast with sweet chilly sauce and cheese is also nostalgic taste from my childhood. I guess it’s an European thing 😀
hahahah guess so
What do you use to edit 🥺 your editing so good😍🤍
watching from brazil, when im feeling like this i just smoke some weed
I honestly think most people are feeling this way. I think we’re all burnt out from the past three years.
I signed up for Skill Share…thx!
I don't know how it hasn't occurred to me in all my years to simply blend juice and pour it through a strainer if you don't own a juicer :/ I have been drinking everything as smoothie-esque for my whole life, sigh.
hi from turkey,love u
I like your hair looks better dark. The blond streaks make you look older and tired. However, I enjoy your videos!
Great video.
Also, you're gonna love Klara and the Sun. If you're feeling anxious, do NOT (I repeat!) do, NOT read Ishiguro's The Unconsoled. The literary equivalent to watching Uncut Gems 🙃
Mixing knife = palette knife! At least where I’m from lol
random dinners are the most common 😂
for real!
Are you gonna do a apartment tour ?
greetings from Turkey🤗🤗