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Komentáře • 907

  • @alexandergrace5350
    @alexandergrace5350  Před 4 lety +72

    Why Women Don't Criticize Each Other: www.patreon.com/posts/why-women-dont-35067179

    • @whitehorsedown6499
      @whitehorsedown6499 Před 4 lety +11

      Women don't criticize each other? You didn't watch any of the Democratic debates or Sex in the city did you?

    • @josefranciscodasilvaeolive674
      @josefranciscodasilvaeolive674 Před 4 lety +12

      I've heard this argument made by multiple sources (Doc Love, Corey Wayne, John Gray, etc.) I agree that arguments tend to be best avoided. However it's a bit off-putting that we have to treat adult women as if they are fragile teacups incapable of dealing with uncomfortable, upsetting or emotionally difficult subjects. Are women not adults? If so, then at times we will need to hash things out and in doing so we are not going to agree. And if we don't agree, we will argue.
      Seems like cognitive distortions run our collective lives. Women are adults and adults are expected to deal with the uncomfortable. Hence, when it's necessary argue! Stop cowtowing to immature people who engage in massive cognitive distortions (emotionally reasoning, mind reading, catastrophizing, etc.)

    • @funincluded
      @funincluded Před 4 lety +7

      Women are sometimes happier to go along with a bad idea than correct it and risk being bad, wrong or offensive

    • @thenarrator1984
      @thenarrator1984 Před 4 lety +1

      brilliant video alex. as usual but especially so this time around.

    • @fjmt1441
      @fjmt1441 Před 4 lety

      @@josefranciscodasilvaeolive674 força mano

  • @Atganos9217
    @Atganos9217 Před 4 lety +1302

    It’s hard to win an argument with a smart person, but it’s damn near impossible to win an argument with a stupid person.

    • @adamhero459
      @adamhero459 Před 4 lety +61

      Especially if that dumb person is a woman.

    • @icantthinkofagoodusername.9105
      @icantthinkofagoodusername.9105 Před 4 lety +12

      Adam Nelson That’s a bit sexist :/

    • @guiltyspark659
      @guiltyspark659 Před 4 lety +39

      Yep, they'll drag you down to their level and beat you with experience.

    • @verdanthyborian2322
      @verdanthyborian2322 Před 4 lety +50

      @@icantthinkofagoodusername.9105 life, nature, reality are all sexist. So it's not bad to be sexist, infact its good to be sexist.

    • @byebye1493
      @byebye1493 Před 4 lety +4

      That statement got a good laugh out of me. In my experience arguing with stupid people has some low level merits, such as understanding how a certain cohort thinks, however, on the whole and in my experience, it is a simply a waste of time.

  • @free_at_last8141
    @free_at_last8141 Před 4 lety +611

    "If She's upset, you can't just ignore her"
    Challenge accepted.

    • @weesebowski8651
      @weesebowski8651 Před 4 lety +38

      This is the game I always win! 🤣

    • @GraveRave
      @GraveRave Před 4 lety +56

      Funny thing if you listen to Amber Heard on the tapes, that is what Johnny Depp did, and she accused him of not staying and fighting for the relationship.

    • @ElderCreationist
      @ElderCreationist Před 4 lety +21

      @@GraveRave Yeah I remember that, its crazy how they always flip the narrative of a situation to fit their own agenda

    • @potatopeeler2919
      @potatopeeler2919 Před 4 lety +5

      free_at_last if you ignore her she’ll cheat because you’re not listening to her problems.

    • @abrvalg321
      @abrvalg321 Před 4 lety +3

      Best Obama slogan here "yes, we can"

  • @DoGmAnGuY1758
    @DoGmAnGuY1758 Před 4 lety +828

    If facts aren't objective, rational discourse becomes absolutely impossible. And sorry, if I can't have rational discourse when issues come up, I'm not interested in whatever game we're playing.

    • @jeremylister89
      @jeremylister89 Před 4 lety +8

      When a subjective point of view had slipped into severe irrationality, delusion or even insanity, it becomes invalid..as does the person spouting their particular form of madness.
      Again..walk away to save yourself.

    • @argablarga
      @argablarga Před 4 lety +4

      Exactly why more and more men need to walk away. Women can throw their crazy at us, and we need to accommodate. And even if we do, or don't, and they suddenly don't like us, they can rain hell on us with assistance from the govt, courts, police and feminist groups who validate their level of crazy. #believewomen #metoo #besmart

    • @DamianSzajnowski
      @DamianSzajnowski Před 3 lety +1

      But the game's kinda fun

    • @thechronic555
      @thechronic555 Před 2 lety

      @@vlatstrapes3931 hahaha nice, jerk 😃

    • @morarim
      @morarim Před 2 lety +1

      @@DamianSzajnowski those types are all yours, enjoy.

  • @folatooreal8582
    @folatooreal8582 Před 4 lety +197

    Basically her emotions matter over facts.

    • @Vivungisport
      @Vivungisport Před 4 lety +12

      Yes! Pure ego expressions.

    • @jonsnowight9510
      @jonsnowight9510 Před 2 měsíci

      Only to her and only when she's in a heightened emotional state. Your goal is to either encourage her out of that state or to wait until she manages to navigate through it herself, then have a rational, m logical conversation. If she can't (or more likely, refuses to) do that, leave her. She's chaos in a skirt.

  • @T_Fizzle
    @T_Fizzle Před 4 lety +387

    This is why it's so important to have male friends, and father figures.

    • @gundam0039
      @gundam0039 Před 4 lety +10

      Sadly, I have only one male friend. And we don't get to talk too much now that he's married.

    • @chiniiya
      @chiniiya Před 3 lety +9

      @@gundam0039 you have us bro

    • @annikasengupta9085
      @annikasengupta9085 Před 3 lety

      Do you hate women ?!

    • @T_Fizzle
      @T_Fizzle Před 3 lety +8

      @@annikasengupta9085 No, do you hate men?

    • @annikasengupta9085
      @annikasengupta9085 Před 3 lety

      @@T_Fizzle No ! I don’t hate men ! I think that men and women are equal

  • @enigmaticspirit1
    @enigmaticspirit1 Před 4 lety +493

    Excellent advice Alex. Saw my dad do exactly that.
    1: Stay composed and rise above emotional chaos.
    2: If she persists, walk away till she calms down.
    3: If she can't discuss and restarts the argument.. leave her.

    • @enigmaticspirit1
      @enigmaticspirit1 Před 4 lety +10

      @@kingartifex : Nope... that just pisses people off.... and makes you look condescending.

    • @MasterKiller540_
      @MasterKiller540_ Před 3 lety +3

      @AfSJ You have a masculine mom and a feminine dad then

    • @silverkitty2503
      @silverkitty2503 Před rokem

      you gonna be single a long time bro

    • @deltaflux2381
      @deltaflux2381 Před 11 měsíci +3

      @@silverkitty2503 So you are saying all women are so immature that these three steps are guaranteed to take place? Gotcha.

    • @silverkitty2503
      @silverkitty2503 Před 11 měsíci

      @@deltaflux2381 No I am saying that up until now you have always been single and you will stay single. This generation of women is different. They want to make money not romance. We have never been less interested in having kids ...who wants stretch marks?? Who has money to spend on relationships?? We want to save to buy a house. Maybe try russia or another third world country.... watch out for goldiggers though.

  • @thedawg3930
    @thedawg3930 Před 4 lety +443

    "You can't argue with women"
    *Jordan Peterson has joined the chat*

    • @hamdiguler378
      @hamdiguler378 Před 4 lety +80

      Cathy Newman still thinks she is right. So no point to discuss with women

    • @HUNKragor
      @HUNKragor Před 4 lety +16

      @@hamdiguler378 that's so true

    • @someone-gn9kx
      @someone-gn9kx Před 4 lety +20

      When he says women he mean YOUR women. Even you can win arguments with women strangers

    • @ultraatari9298
      @ultraatari9298 Před 4 lety +4

      Kermit Frogging for two hours about cleaning your room isn't arguing

    • @freedomfightre
      @freedomfightre Před 3 lety +4

      Women generally hate him. I'd like women to generally like me.

  • @jainee4507
    @jainee4507 Před 4 lety +173

    Women argue for the sake of having an argument. Whatever it is about is irrelevant. That's why you never get yourself involved and just walk away.

    • @BrayoFitnessTrainer
      @BrayoFitnessTrainer Před 4 lety +7

      Gibs yup! Chaos keeps her emotions alive

    • @matthewcoombs3282
      @matthewcoombs3282 Před 4 lety +23

      I remember a female work colleague telling me candidly that she provoked arguments with her boyfriend to get him to emotional engage with him, just to rouse him from passivity or to test him. Poor guy probably just wanted to watch football on the TV or something and was ignoring her....

    • @jungleno.
      @jungleno. Před 4 lety +20

      A woman is never happy unless she's got something to complain about. They need to always feel they are in charge.

    • @avg_user-dd2yb
      @avg_user-dd2yb Před 4 lety +14

      Women can't be trusted they have inherent tendencies of low moral and falsehood.

    • @JoeMartinez18
      @JoeMartinez18 Před 4 lety +2

      That makes them mad aswell.

  • @yunggolem4687
    @yunggolem4687 Před 4 lety +113

    You won't lose the argument, she will just never admit she lost. There's no point in rational dialogue with an irrational creature.

    • @dhrubajyoti14
      @dhrubajyoti14 Před 3 lety +3

      Correct

    • @troyscherr5054
      @troyscherr5054 Před rokem +2

      It's much like a traffic accident. You can have all the facts (right of way) and a moron who "feels" their "needs" are more important than traffic laws (logic).
      You'll wind up in a wreck every time.
      Don't go down that road and you'll reduce the likelihood of a crash.

    • @Guys_Love_Each_Other
      @Guys_Love_Each_Other Před 9 měsíci

      Totally agree 👍
      my male friends are at least somewhat logical

  • @broodjedoner3719
    @broodjedoner3719 Před 4 lety +141

    never excuse bad behavior.

    • @weesebowski8651
      @weesebowski8651 Před 4 lety

      💯

    • @ZAKARIYEize
      @ZAKARIYEize Před 4 lety +1

      Ja dat is waar

    • @MasterKiller540_
      @MasterKiller540_ Před 3 lety +1

      This is what this channel does the most. A woman is not acepting facts and only cares about her emotions ? iT's JuSt ThE fEmAlE nAtUrE, yOu HaVe To LeArN hOw To DeAl WiTh ThAt.

    • @MasterKiller540_
      @MasterKiller540_ Před 3 lety +1

      I can't believe that all women are like this, maybe the majority, but not all of them. So you don't have to deal with that, just move on and find a nicer person, that's how I see it

  • @OrunitaVivi
    @OrunitaVivi Před 4 lety +115

    Her: "Why did you say that"
    Him: "I didn't say that"
    Her: "Well I felt like you did"
    Him: "You can't just pluck words from your arse and say that they came from my mouth, that's not how conversations work"
    Her: "Why are you being so mean"
    Him: "You can't just be the most frustrating person in the world and then get surprised that I want to shove my fingers into my ears so that I don't have to hear anymore of your nonsense"
    Her: "Why are you threatening me"
    Him: * re-evaluates life choices.*

  • @jamied1579
    @jamied1579 Před 2 lety +27

    Never underestimate a woman's ability to conjure up drama out of nothing.

  • @laro802
    @laro802 Před 4 lety +270

    girl: Were you flirting with that waitress?
    me: Yeah.

  • @harmoniclivechromatic7698
    @harmoniclivechromatic7698 Před 4 lety +107

    are you serious,ive had a woman who was a 9,just a casual acquaintance,screaming in my face,because i told her that more doors open for good looking women ,than they do for old men like me.the truth is an argument

    • @mark9294
      @mark9294 Před 2 lety

      Yep. The truth is an argument. Nice turn of phrase

  • @PrinceRevolver
    @PrinceRevolver Před 4 lety +81

    If you value time and peace of mind there's no reason to argue with a woman.

  • @Davidjohnson-gq3ty
    @Davidjohnson-gq3ty Před 4 lety +70

    "I know two ways of arguing with a woman, and neither of them work"
    - John Marston

  • @wayne1da121
    @wayne1da121 Před 4 lety +385

    I have not had a argument with a women in over 2 year. Previously I would batter women with my logic and interlect, winnig all arguments from a logic standpoint, and often making the women look stupid for even trying to engage me in her nonsense. I'm here to say, that never got me anywhere!

    • @BrayoFitnessTrainer
      @BrayoFitnessTrainer Před 4 lety +73

      I don’t remember the last time I got in an argument with a woman but I’m assuming it was 3-4 years ago. All my arguments with a female I kept my emotions in check and used logic. The more logic you bring the worse and more temper tantrum She’ll throw at you. I just stopped interacting with females casually in general. I realize that females bring emotions to the argument and argue just to argue. It keeps her emotions alive. Most are just low key miserable.

    • @weesebowski8651
      @weesebowski8651 Před 4 lety +12

      To a point! There’s just somethings I don’t let slide and I let it be known...I have yet to encounter any arguments following the interaction. Men should never be afraid to voice what’s right when it’s needed!

    • @GraveRave
      @GraveRave Před 4 lety +1

      I see what Jordan Peterson was talking about where femininity is chaotic and how women need a man to show direction and rationality. Like water that is raging everywhere and you're the pipe to let it flow in control.
      So then are we as men have to see past the deeper root of her being angry/upset, even if she is accusing you of something that is blatantly not true? If it is the case that what she says is completely irrational, is it then safe to assume that there is a deeper meaning for her actions?

    • @narvanamusic2656
      @narvanamusic2656 Před 3 lety

      @@weesebowski8651 exactly

    • @kevincaruthers5412
      @kevincaruthers5412 Před 2 lety

      "I'm here to say, that never got me anywhere!"
      Well, that depends entirely on where you wanted to go.
      :)

  • @czos9239
    @czos9239 Před 4 lety +476

    Girlfriend: *Stabs guy because she's upset*
    Guy: You were wrong for that
    Girlfriend: Not from my POV

    • @zuboy4272
      @zuboy4272 Před 4 lety +52

      The only POV of women i like is on PornHub

    • @parrotshootist3004
      @parrotshootist3004 Před 4 lety +10

      @NIGHTSHADOW347 Its still funny. You have a point. But its still funny.

    • @cavemanhannibal6832
      @cavemanhannibal6832 Před 4 lety +5

      From my point of view the Jedi are evil!

    • @MasterKiller540_
      @MasterKiller540_ Před 3 lety +3

      That's exactly how a psychopath/sociopath thinks, they don't care about other people, they only care about themselves. There's no point in arguing with those types of people, only thing you should worry about is to defend yourself from them

  • @futureself401
    @futureself401 Před 4 lety +144

    I love it that you give examples and counter arguments to those and not just say don't do this because it's not good and move on love the channel Alexander!

  • @manuelcornelio4348
    @manuelcornelio4348 Před 4 lety +625

    She: You're flirting with that girl.
    Chad: Of course, she's hot, lets make a three-way.
    She: I

    • @gokhanersumer2273
      @gokhanersumer2273 Před 4 lety +73

      ... and alarm clock starts ringing. I hate that! :)

    • @Henry1965ism
      @Henry1965ism Před 4 lety +74

      Or
      Chad: "Well if you lost a bit of weight and lifted your game I wouldn't need to flirt with her would I?"

    • @AlfieTank
      @AlfieTank Před 4 lety +54

      @@gokhanersumer2273 Actually thats how it works in Real life. Guys that understand women know an insecure woman is a Loyal woman. Sad but True. 🤷🏿‍♂️

    • @POVShotgun
      @POVShotgun Před 4 lety +13

      at least Chad is honest

    • @skerion7956
      @skerion7956 Před 4 lety +17

      @@AlfieTank Or a projecting woman who is cheating

  • @osse1n
    @osse1n Před 4 lety +251

    Women remember the context, the feeling of a conversation more so than the content, the rationale.
    If you ignore her emotions, she will feel ignored all together. To "win" you have to be as calm and logical as possible because the more riled up she is, the more of the rational thinking she will shut down.

    • @osse1n
      @osse1n Před 4 lety +38

      @Mr Slate *Different*
      Otherwise we wouldn't be attracted to them. Expecting them to be, think and act like men is denying/resisting the way of nature, which is never a good idea.

    • @KAIZORIANEMPIRE
      @KAIZORIANEMPIRE Před 4 lety +28

      @Mr Slate not stupid just willfully delusional

    • @JamesCraigWhoop
      @JamesCraigWhoop Před 4 lety +3

      Spot on. Most of the time couples remember the fight but not what it was about. Men can play the same way.

    • @JamesCraigWhoop
      @JamesCraigWhoop Před 4 lety

      @@rosegailpeirson7642 I might regret asking but stupid as in what?

    • @dantheman6888
      @dantheman6888 Před 4 lety +5

      @@rosegailpeirson7642 God forbid guys like tits, it almost natural in a way huh?

  • @kennethjames9999
    @kennethjames9999 Před 3 lety +31

    “Never argue with an idiot, they will drag you down to their level and beat you with experience.”
    "Never argue with a fool, onlookers may not be able to tell the difference.” ― Mark Twain. He was a Legend!

  • @isaiah1927
    @isaiah1927 Před 4 lety +81

    I learned this from my mom.

    • @adielwilson8749
      @adielwilson8749 Před 4 lety +5

      My mom always said this and now I understand why

    • @SeemsLogical
      @SeemsLogical Před 4 lety +28

      I learned the same way.
      When I was a little boy my mom burst into the room I was in and grabbed me by the ear, pulled me into the next room and dragged me down to ground level where there was a scuff mark on the wall. She yelled at me asking why I did that and blamed me even when I said I did not do it. I'm crying at this point as she's actively trying to give me a Van Gogh costume for Halloween and nothing I say will calm her down. My little brother comes to the door of the room and says "He didn't do it, I did." She immediately let's go of my ear and starts smacking him around. Enough to make him cry too. Then she screams that she's taking away video games and we lost the privilege to go outside for a week. I ask her "why me? I told you I didn't do it." Her response was "You're punished too for talking back!"
      I have a lot of experiences like that with her. It's one of many reasons why I cut her out of my life. I have zero tolerance for irrational anger. But for anyone reading this far, not all women are like this. In fact, most aren't. If you find a woman like my mother the best option is to have never met her. The next best option is to leave. There will be fallout but the sooner you do it, the more time you have left to live your life away from her. Your presence in her life is a precious gift and you should only give the gift of yourself to a woman, or anyone for that matter, to someone deserving of it.

    • @r.v.b.4153
      @r.v.b.4153 Před 4 lety

      @Truth Hurts
      Who says his mother taught him? My mother taught me the hard way, by arguing.

    • @nOOb1hunter
      @nOOb1hunter Před 3 lety

      @Aristotelian Prince stfu

    • @Bigmike83007
      @Bigmike83007 Před 3 lety +1

      @@SeemsLogical So your mom was at that time single mother?

  • @steveos5112
    @steveos5112 Před 2 lety +15

    "Circular arguments" are the best with a woman. You give logic and explain your point of view. She adds her emotions and soon you find yourself at the beginning of the argument again.

  • @TheKing-ed2ot
    @TheKing-ed2ot Před 4 lety +23

    I learned not to argue with women when I was a teenager watching my mom and sister go at it...and it often didn't make sense what they were fighting about.

  • @GarrettSzilard
    @GarrettSzilard Před 4 lety +48

    Is that why so many Chads just tell their ladies to shut up? Lol

  • @mjrbruckner9539
    @mjrbruckner9539 Před 4 lety +74

    They win the same way a cheater wins. It's like:
    "That's against the rules of chess, the knight doesn't move that way."
    "So YOU have problem with it? Are you afraid or hiding something about yourself? So suspicious!". It's not worth it to descend to their level and get such a puny victory.

  • @tomwalker389
    @tomwalker389 Před 4 lety +48

    This.
    This is the video that will save every relationship.

  • @StrangeBrewReviews
    @StrangeBrewReviews Před 4 lety +18

    You don't argue , you lay down the law and never budge. Not an inch. Your word is final.

  • @Lil_Slimetx
    @Lil_Slimetx Před 4 lety +20

    Just say "once you cool down, you will know where to find me" and leave.

    • @marcmorel7246
      @marcmorel7246 Před 2 lety

      This only works if the girl is truly attracted to you. I've seen so many women marry men they (secretely) found to be beneath them. They treated those men with constant low-key contempt and even though the men stayed in their masculine frame and tried every thinkable approach, the outcome would be the same: eventually the women would cheat or found a better deal and left, leaving the men bewildered and wondering what they did wrong. The truth is: they did nothing wrong, it was doomed from the start.
      Sometimes you just can't win. The best thing a man can do if a woman treats him badly, is calmly get up and leave. If she doesn't come after you, it means she was never that into you and you must remind yourself that you haven't in fact lost anything. Who wants to be with someone who regards him as inadequate?
      Human females are picky when it comes to choosing a mate, and increasingly so, it seems.
      For a man it's good to realise that women view the majority of men as below-average.
      This inevitably means that there are not enough "good" men to go around and most women (even though they tend to overestimate their own attractiveness, wich exacerbates the problem) are smart enough to understand that they probably won't be able to have the first pick of the litter and will often settle for a "lesser" man. And this is fine, as long as they treat him right.
      The trick for a man is to actually not care about what women think of him. Their perception (because that's all it is) of him should mean nothing to his sense of selfworth.
      I've found indifference to be one of the strongest weapons in a man's arsenal. Even women that aren't initially interested react to it with curiosity. They see a man that appears to be different from all the other men in their lifes that have always gone out of their way to please them. Also, it helps with a man's confidence if he's not constantly worried about women judging him.
      Because they will, believe me, but who cares. They judge everone and everything, it's in their nature to do so. I stopped caring a long time ago. It's not my purpose on this earth to make them feel good about themselves. I try to feel good about me. In the end that's all that really matters.

    • @Lil_Slimetx
      @Lil_Slimetx Před 2 lety

      @@marcmorel7246 True.

  • @theuberhunter9698
    @theuberhunter9698 Před 4 lety +23

    Just escalate her point. Say, "you're damn right I'm looking at other women. Other women don't start fights for no reason. Now get out of my face."

  • @russiandrivers9986
    @russiandrivers9986 Před 4 lety +37

    Women are all about their feelings. If they feel like something then that's it. They key is to get them feel the way you want them to feel.

    • @Englishsea24
      @Englishsea24 Před 4 lety +8

      Hard work. It would be easier to single handedly entertain a circus crowd

    • @saifshaikh3191
      @saifshaikh3191 Před 3 lety

      @@Englishsea24 absolutely based

    • @bellenvideo5629
      @bellenvideo5629 Před 2 lety +1

      Depressing thought of going into that direction

  • @TaxEvasi0n
    @TaxEvasi0n Před 4 lety +58

    You have to treat your girl like your daughter/ a child. You don’t debate with your child because they don’t know better.

    • @N73B60
      @N73B60 Před 3 lety

      Makes sense.

    • @ongito29
      @ongito29 Před 3 lety

      Lmao in some way this is so true

    • @Guys_Love_Each_Other
      @Guys_Love_Each_Other Před 9 měsíci

      its so sad, it just crying level sad that they cant value logic

  • @oXSimonXo
    @oXSimonXo Před 4 lety +46

    How can the "chaotic" nature of women suddenly turn into "nurturing" nature as soon as children are involved? Is there some kind of "switch" only a child can push?

    • @ferosdc
      @ferosdc Před 4 lety +8

      The child is a clon of himself, even if she hate everybody, she still love hinself and his mini clon.

    • @alexandergrace5350
      @alexandergrace5350  Před 4 lety +42

      Its only chaos when there is no masculine to lead

    • @carnivorebear7716
      @carnivorebear7716 Před 4 lety +4

      Child birth scrambles the hormones......and sometimes a mama bear can be nuttier than squirrel turds

    • @veritasabsoluta4285
      @veritasabsoluta4285 Před 4 lety +4

      @And Violate The truth doesn't care about your feelings

    • @stevemiller887
      @stevemiller887 Před 4 lety

      @@alexandergrace5350 Assuming feminine attributes are base (survival, ephemoral , temporal , concrete) and masculine attributes are transcendent(atherial, eternal,abstract)Overall the basis for relationship for God unto man and the representation through his creation both male and female is to lead the femine base attributes into the masculine transcendent attributes thus increasing ones body and soul frequency via the work of the spirit and by focusing on entering in to the transcendent attributes we are not caught up in to temporal things and attributes that bring down our frequency like fear or worry etc. I think women having to deal with mostly feminine attributes must be sick of themselves because of what they are and what they represent in their base attributes. They actually do need a man to lead them ( if they are willing) into a transcendent way of life.

  • @SephirothCrescent34
    @SephirothCrescent34 Před 4 lety +40

    I just want to thank you for making content like this, after watching this I think I see what I've been doing wrong. I know of men who do exactly what you describe what not to do, and it's exactly as you say. This could honestly have quite an effect on my life, so thanks.

  • @jessieruben6291
    @jessieruben6291 Před 4 lety +22

    You know the sacred knowledge

    • @avg_user-dd2yb
      @avg_user-dd2yb Před 4 lety

      This channel is pure gold for guys like me lol

  • @IronnMan35
    @IronnMan35 Před 4 lety +48

    And men are supposed to be '' bad communicators ''. When the issues stated by your/a gf are not the core issue but signs of an underlying problem, she isnt communicating her issues in a rational, adult, and calm way that you or any other can understand and work with.
    The whole thing is setup through emotions and there is no adult, calm and rational discourse possible on that level. This is customer service 101. The job to succesfully convey a message is on the shoulders of the sender. In this case the gf. And she is failing in that.

    • @JamesCraigWhoop
      @JamesCraigWhoop Před 4 lety

      Some factors are out of your control. He might be flirty w all waitresses but it just so happens the one serving was very attractive and it got to her.

    • @dantheman6888
      @dantheman6888 Před 4 lety +4

      Women aren't adults, they are children

  • @lukemanius
    @lukemanius Před 4 lety +307

    "Feminine chaos" sounds like a "woo-woo" way of talking about how a typical woman is actually a solipsistic, manipulative child.
    And I don't have arguments with children.

    • @kaplislemesis4789
      @kaplislemesis4789 Před 4 lety +11

      damn boi ur on the ball with thisone

    • @lindenh2014
      @lindenh2014 Před 4 lety +9

      Absolutely right, that expression is crediting women with sophistication, and they don't deserve it.

    • @whatisthis839
      @whatisthis839 Před 4 lety +6

      Nietzsche, Schopenhauer, Aristotle, and many many more wise men would agree.

    • @henryhoover3953
      @henryhoover3953 Před 3 lety +1

      Yes.

    • @nightmareTomek
      @nightmareTomek Před 3 lety +3

      And men don't want to babysit their partner for the rest of their lives.

  • @richardsorge-
    @richardsorge- Před rokem +2

    As the saying goes: " You can't have a discussion with a woman. Every answer You provide, is the start of a new discussion "

  • @TheShaolin015
    @TheShaolin015 Před 4 lety +30

    If a girl tells me I was flirting with another girl when I wasn’t , I literally just say no I wasn’t and then walk away. I don’t want to be with a girl who causes that much chaos when there’s no validity. If I was flirting, then I’ll probably just apologize and say I just liked feeling young again. Hahaha

    • @BrayoFitnessTrainer
      @BrayoFitnessTrainer Před 4 lety +2

      TheShaolin015 #FreeAgentLifestyle

    • @JamesCraigWhoop
      @JamesCraigWhoop Před 4 lety +3

      Depends how much invested you have with her. If its only a second date then yeah drop her. I watched an episode of blind dates and the woman turd tested the man by asking him how old he thought she was. He said 29 she acted surprised and said Im 25 how dare you! Poor guy had to back peddle. No second date for her. She stated that she puts men on the spot to see if they will push back.

    • @dantheman6888
      @dantheman6888 Před 4 lety +5

      You could always flip it and say they were flirting with me. Girls love it when a guy gets attention from other girls. It shows the guy is high value and wanted. Your gf might like you more now. It's ok to tell white lies

    • @TheShaolin015
      @TheShaolin015 Před 4 lety

      James Craig wouldn’t bother me. The guy is clearly dumb for saying 29 but if she gets mad, walk away. Start believing that you’re the catch not her.

  • @thomaswinterburn6680
    @thomaswinterburn6680 Před 4 lety +20

    Now I see this has always got me thanx.

  • @hrbeta
    @hrbeta Před 4 lety +7

    Wise words, my young friend, wise words.

  • @jemmrich
    @jemmrich Před 2 lety +5

    As I have gotten older, more and more I struggle to find any minuscule amount of energy that wants to go through any of this. At this point I don't see any beneficial value in having a relationship with a woman.

  • @guythompson5021
    @guythompson5021 Před 4 lety +27

    and these are some of the reasons why | have gone my own way. its just isnt worth it....

    • @BrayoFitnessTrainer
      @BrayoFitnessTrainer Před 4 lety +4

      Guy Thompson too much bs. Do this; do that; don’t do this she might get scared..my strategy, don’t do ish. Leave em alone. You can’t lose a game you don’t play.
      Let’s in our wildest dreams imagine a guy found a unicorn. She’s very close to her father. Unfortunately, her father passes away due to heart disease (killed 347,879 men in 2017-that’s about 1 in every 4 male deaths) so this is highly possible. Well, that unicorn will never be the same. Depression will hit, she’ll receive scam medication for the rest of her life thru ho$pitals indoctrination camps and the rest is history. Gambling is for foolish men!

    • @JPKelly-xr7tr
      @JPKelly-xr7tr Před 3 lety

      This!

    • @dannydoughnuts
      @dannydoughnuts Před 3 lety

      @@BrayoFitnessTrainer wow I never thought of that but I'd say not just a father but really any major loss

    • @BrayoFitnessTrainer
      @BrayoFitnessTrainer Před 3 lety

      @@dannydoughnuts yessir. And this can happen to ANYONE

  • @sithewok4616
    @sithewok4616 Před 4 lety +89

    Shortly after making this video Alex was arrested for domestic assault.

  • @diegogorini727
    @diegogorini727 Před 4 lety +35

    Alex, most of your videos are so good that deserve multiple views spread over weeks or months just to process the content. This is an impressive achievement for a CZcams channel. This is education.

  • @jammer4578
    @jammer4578 Před 4 lety +5

    This belongs in the Best of Alexander Grace category!

  • @drewg4033
    @drewg4033 Před 4 lety +54

    This is an issue which plagues many men in young relationships. I have many friends who are constantly in and out of little fights which leave them more irritated than they should be, and I personally never understood it. I learned to never allow an argument ensue with someone I am with willingly; and as a man you must provide nothing to argue over. Most importantly be with someone high quality enough to know where their feelings stem from. Always choose the higher road, arguments don't exist unless you allow them to.

    • @decespugliatorenucleare3780
      @decespugliatorenucleare3780 Před 3 lety +1

      >you must provide nothing to argue over
      Yeah - like earning money for them or solving their career problems for them. Basically: keeping them as children. Forever in a sandbox.

    • @charlesforrest5942
      @charlesforrest5942 Před 3 lety

      Women don't want their problems solved. They just want to talk about them and twist you up into knots. Then the problem is solved accordingly to her.

  • @maatonne
    @maatonne Před 4 lety +38

    I never lose tho lol, they just get mad and shut up because they have no real argument. And I don´t date so.

    • @BrayoFitnessTrainer
      @BrayoFitnessTrainer Před 4 lety +4

      Yup, dating is for women. To me, dating is foreign language at this point.

    • @weesebowski8651
      @weesebowski8651 Před 4 lety +2

      I’m not gonna lie, I enjoy my dark side when it’s appropriate. 💯

    • @saifshaikh3191
      @saifshaikh3191 Před 3 lety

      @@tommmmo1981 Happy for you man

    • @FAIRYGIRL911
      @FAIRYGIRL911 Před rokem

      "and I don't date" lmao thank god

    • @maatonne
      @maatonne Před rokem

      @@FAIRYGIRL911 Woman moment

  • @darrylthompson7509
    @darrylthompson7509 Před 4 lety +17

    #1 reason she already made up her mind before you say anything. 😐

  • @edsanchez6173
    @edsanchez6173 Před 4 lety +8

    Thank you, AG. Love the topic here, great video. It should be evident that, to most Men, arguing about mundane trivialities is one of the most tedious and counterproductive activities to engage in. I’m afraid the truth is that, for many Women, they will strike up an argument simply to get at what you feel about something. It’s no surprise that Men do not typically conduct their lives through emotional displays but rather through the considered expression of thoughts derived from mastered traumas. This can be frustrating to Women because they indeed can engage in displays generated from surface emotions (the chaos AG alludes to). Upon reflection they often arrive at more measured conclusions. Entertaining the irrationality of these surface emotions is just as risky as attempting to ignore them like some passing storm - you may well end up battered, bruised and soaked to the bone in the maelstrom of her chaos. Here is where you have to show leadership and be the lighthouse to her ship, searching the ocean for safety from the stormy seas and the security of solid land. You want to be the light she sees in the distance and trusts that way lies a place she can count on in a storm.
    Taking the flirting example AG illustrated, this does not have to be an argument. She is expecting you will deny it and she already has the rest of the argument scripted in her head because she has likely had it before (she even has tangential scenes ready to substitute for any direction the argument might take). Anecdotally, I had this conversation one time in my life, the accusation was launched - I replied matter-of-factly that this is a place I had been to before and WE got a better table and were about to experience better service because I smiled and flirted with the server so that I could sit there with her, as privately as possible - and now that it was just the two of us, I asked her what she thought caused such a reaction to such a trivial thing and was it something she was feeling insecure with me about. What I told her was the truth, which is key, it was not a denial, which blocked the planned argument, and the action she objected to was done, not for her, but for the two of us to enjoy ourselves and she could feel free to tell me anything. Now if she was simply looking to argue or if there was something else she wanted to vent about, likely she would have persisted and that would have given me pause as to the long term viability of our pairing. The point here being that every Man should learn about holding their frame because a partner will be looking to him for leadership and stability, not engaging in hysterics and entertaining chaos. She has enough chaos, she needs you to be the Lighthouse.
    Looking forward to your next.

  • @dogunboundhounds9649
    @dogunboundhounds9649 Před 4 lety +58

    This sounds dumb, I don't have a girlfriend now.

  • @sabstraight
    @sabstraight Před 4 lety +12

    Another masterpiece!

  • @trident4013
    @trident4013 Před 4 lety +6

    All of this sounds like from David Deida, the way of superior man. Great stuff.

  • @freedomfightre
    @freedomfightre Před 3 lety

    Excellent information. I'm looking forward to utilizing this in my personal repertoire.

  • @maxoliver2665
    @maxoliver2665 Před 4 lety +5

    Always love your content! 99% on point. Keep up the work

  • @jondavidtheauthor6318
    @jondavidtheauthor6318 Před 4 lety +5

    You can be 100% factually correct and yet it won't go anywhere.
    I would rephrase your opening statement. "You will lose" No. "You won't win." That's for sure. Women never want to be wrong even when they freaking KNOW they're wrong.

  • @gkoricic
    @gkoricic Před 4 lety +1

    Just wanted to say thak you for your work. Not taking sides but describing the whole reality of a situation. This is really as close to truth and reality as words can describe. Bravo!

  • @rekarious7996
    @rekarious7996 Před 4 lety

    Very insightful. Thanks!

  • @carlosinchile
    @carlosinchile Před 4 lety +17

    You were flirting with that waitress!
    Yes, yes I was . Bye

  • @Dud30ify
    @Dud30ify Před 4 lety +6

    Oh boy, now I understand my girlfriend

  • @unnitocases4174
    @unnitocases4174 Před 7 měsíci

    dude... so many good points here. Thanks for the info!

  • @seedood
    @seedood Před 4 lety

    Fantastic video. Thanks!

  • @nocrtname
    @nocrtname Před 4 lety +5

    Example 1: mom turns her back and walks away from the kid who was climbing a chair. Dad gets up from across the room to spot the kid, but doesn’t get there in time. Kid falls. Wife screams at dad because it’s Dad’s fault for not moving faster.
    Example 2: husband informs wife to not plug in the new appliance because it’s a us appliance and not rated for 220v. Wife plugs it in some time later and calls husband when it doesn’t work. Husband informs her the motor has burned out because it’s not rated for 220v. Wife flies off the handle and blames husband for not telling her. When informed he did, indeed, tell her, she says it’s still his fault because he only told her once.

  • @_1z_
    @_1z_ Před 4 lety +17

    i have never really came across that kind of women who comments where or what im looking at, tbh most of the girls i have interacted with never pick fights

    • @marcusgarvey630
      @marcusgarvey630 Před 4 lety +1

      I have lol

    • @jainee4507
      @jainee4507 Před 4 lety +3

      You're most likely a high quality male then.

    • @_1z_
      @_1z_ Před 4 lety +2

      @@jainee4507 i dont know about that bro but when girls like me they like me alot but theres only very few

    • @zuboy4272
      @zuboy4272 Před 4 lety +1

      @@_1z_ You are the massiah , don't lie !

    • @bayoubomber7
      @bayoubomber7 Před 4 lety +3

      @@_1z_ God forbid there's actually women with enough quality to them to not want to waste time (or look bad) by constantly causing troubles with a guy they like.

  • @TuMekeTimmeh
    @TuMekeTimmeh Před 4 lety

    wow, one of your best recent videos. thanks, Alex, really useful advice

  • @UbeRNooB24
    @UbeRNooB24 Před 4 lety

    This helped me a lot to understand. Thanks for posting!

  • @2headedtasman200
    @2headedtasman200 Před 4 lety +5

    Your pretty spot on. This is a fact that every boy learns from his father at a young age. Sometimes you just cant win.

  • @mattbabb.
    @mattbabb. Před 4 lety +33

    Go quote JBP (more or less) - “You don’t want to beat your partner in an argument. Because if you win, they lose. And then you’re married to a loser. And who wants that?? You have to find a way to both win”

    • @SisypheanSeas13
      @SisypheanSeas13 Před 4 lety

      Great quote

    • @robinhood5467
      @robinhood5467 Před 4 lety +1

      Jordan Peterson*

    • @perkelix
      @perkelix Před 4 lety +4

      Which also implies that letting her win makes you a loser. Once that has happened, the relationship is doomed, yet most women are too proud to admit that. They just magically lose interest in the guy a while after and cannot quite put their finger on how it happened.

  • @vidfan1973
    @vidfan1973 Před rokem +1

    Walking away is the ultimate weapon against toxic behavior.

  • @DrunkenHeadshot
    @DrunkenHeadshot Před 3 lety +1

    Wish I would've known all this stuff 10 years ago. Thanks for all of the videos man, it's helped very much.

  • @bobthemonk4105
    @bobthemonk4105 Před 4 lety +4

    Last time I argue with a women was with my ex wife, that was the 21 Decembre 2007, just before I ask for a divorce. Been living free and happy since then. Monk level IV is the only way to live in serenity.

  • @tjololot3761
    @tjololot3761 Před 3 lety +3

    Wow.....impressive advice I've never heard before. I'm a 45 year old man having a happy marriage with a high quality woman for almost 20 years.....yet this perspective about argue handling with a woman has never been presented to me in the past. I always thought that with pure logic and reason you find the way out but it didn't work a lot of times.......and this is why! Thanks Alexander...appreciate your point of view...

  • @AnonymousAccount514
    @AnonymousAccount514 Před 3 lety

    I so needed to hear this

  • @p1chler
    @p1chler Před 4 lety +1

    This is gold!

  • @maverickh9
    @maverickh9 Před 4 lety +4

    What's funny is that a lot of people would consider this gaslighting.

    • @Englishsea24
      @Englishsea24 Před 4 lety +1

      Women would mostly because they see any kind of quarrel as a contradiction of them, or a personal attack on their feelings. They're just stupid and immature like that

  • @albertodeulofeu5277
    @albertodeulofeu5277 Před 3 lety +4

    I learned this the hard way. It’s the most infuriating thing ever if you’re a logical and reasonable person. They definitely get more upset the more valid points you bring up.

  • @javieraguirre9135
    @javieraguirre9135 Před 3 lety

    Love this, thank you!

  • @Payseur
    @Payseur Před 2 lety

    Glad to have found this channel.

  • @simonang1510
    @simonang1510 Před 4 lety +3

    "Is something making you insecure?" 😂 I can see how this could easily backfire

  • @jimjohnson394
    @jimjohnson394 Před 4 lety +7

    This is why I don’t argue online with sjws anymore. Even if it is a guy they ignore facts and think emotions mean something. Instead, make logical points when things are peaceful and let them see that when they are willing to listen

  • @goodvibesonly9578
    @goodvibesonly9578 Před 4 lety +1

    3 Months ago when I started watching your videos I hat problems with understanding your videos. Because of the subtitles and my focus to listen carefully I have improved. I don’t need the subtitles anymore. Thanks for your videos. I have improved my English and learned a lot about woman.

  • @gordiannaught
    @gordiannaught Před 3 měsíci

    I love the analogy. It puts things into a concise perspective. I can imagine as you’re talking about ships and islands.

  • @tentimetex
    @tentimetex Před 4 lety +3

    This is why it is very difficult for men and women to work side by side at companies.

  • @kuntogdi3580
    @kuntogdi3580 Před 4 lety +5

    "it's the way you see the facts, what it means to you" 😑

  • @blackstallion7927
    @blackstallion7927 Před 4 lety

    No one is talking about this right here! You are helping me out here!

  • @AlohaMichaelDaly
    @AlohaMichaelDaly Před 2 lety

    one of your best Alexander

  • @bayoubomber7
    @bayoubomber7 Před 4 lety +3

    Shawn T. Smith's Tactical Guide to Women addresses this topic rather well. The first step is prevention: find a girl who has good conflict management skills. She's mature enough to articulate how she's feeling in a calming matter (at least the majority of the time) and is also forgiving when you own up to your mistakes, should ab apology actually be warranted. Saying sorry when you shouldn't be is a sign of weakness, so never default to an apology, but dont let it stop you from expressing empathy. At the same time, she's also mature about owning up to her mistakes, especially if you bring them to her attention. Men shouldn't tolerate anything less than that. Contrary to popular belief, some women are capable of good conflict resolution, some naturally, some struggle but are teachable into this habit, the rest are trash that should be thrown away immediately.

  • @oneplus3882
    @oneplus3882 Před 4 lety +17

    Just tell them: no, that is not true and ignore her afterwards. Don't start explaining anything. She will cool down eventually.

  • @mrsherwood2599
    @mrsherwood2599 Před rokem +1

    Yes, we call this "amused mastery".

  • @TheTAEclub
    @TheTAEclub Před 4 lety +1

    More of this format!

  • @deanomarino31
    @deanomarino31 Před 4 lety +11

    As the joke goes ...
    I was married to Mrs Right.
    I learnt that her 1st name was always.
    And by definition my 1st name was never.
    It's both a joke and also reality.

    • @carnivorebear7716
      @carnivorebear7716 Před 4 lety

      Truth is comedy

    • @brettcameratraveler
      @brettcameratraveler Před 4 lety +1

      It's a common joke but it doesn't have to be a reality. Women dont want you to always be wrong. She might be fighting and upset if you LET her always be "right". Anyone that jokes about their wife as always having to be right, while socially acceptable, is actually revealing that the feminine/masculine dynamic of their relationship has been long out of healthy balance.

    • @deanomarino31
      @deanomarino31 Před 4 lety +1

      @@brettcameratraveler
      I agree it's not healthy.
      That's why the joke has "WAS married" Not IS married.
      That's part of the joke too

    • @brettcameratraveler
      @brettcameratraveler Před 4 lety +1

      @@deanomarino31 From my experience I've actually heard it told mostly about their current marriage - and in a matter of fact way about what being married to a women is frustrating but never the less normal. That needs to change culturally with insights like this video.

  • @ericangelo32
    @ericangelo32 Před 4 lety +7

    Girlfriend: you were flirting with that waitress
    Me: I want to break up walks away

  • @servicestuffs2549
    @servicestuffs2549 Před 2 lety

    I’d love for you to make a video about yourself and how you got to this level of understanding. Thanks for the content!

  • @covidfartfog8076
    @covidfartfog8076 Před 2 lety

    Brilliant episode

  • @3OBTPA
    @3OBTPA Před 4 lety +8

    "You were looking at that other woman. You want to sleep with her."
    The correct response should be, "No, but that's not a bad suggestion."

  • @sergeantsonso3490
    @sergeantsonso3490 Před 4 lety +9

    what you're describing is daddy issues. this is a relationship type to stray away from at. all. costs.

  • @Santana_Art
    @Santana_Art Před 4 lety

    Great video!

  • @FJDH11
    @FJDH11 Před 4 lety +2

    You are absolutely brilliant in your analysis of women, and everything you've said hit a mark in my relationship, I wish I watched your video earlier, now you will get a new patreon subscriber as well.