Mere bilkul bhi friends nahi hai. Aur mera bhi yahi maan na hai ki akela pan hi acha hai. Dimaag shaant rehta hai. Mera best friend mera chota bhai hai. Mere husband aur mummy se bhi meri bahot banti hai. Mera bahot majak banaya jata hai ki mere koi friends nahi hai. But i am ok with it. Kabhi kabhi lagta hai ki mai bhi friends banau par bante hi nahi. Akeli rahungi to ache se apne kaam aur ghar pe concentrate karungi. Meditate karungi
Bless you 🙏🏼 i support and relate with your way of life 🙏🏼 But do have a special group usse bhi growth hoti hai find a purpose usko apne jaise logon ke saath manifest karo
Wah Sir.. Kya baat. I had this opinion for many years now that friendship is overrated and had a lot of arguments with lazy escapists. Besides, it robs you of your Self respect, Emotions, Dignity, Time and Money. Glad to hear this for the first time from anyone else besides me. There has to be some value addition in companionship. Period.
Very true Sir, i have experienced that old friendships also lose their charm, when economic disparity grew. The poor friend has to surrender his self respect/ego to retain the friendship.
@@SangoLifeSutras sir aap ki opinion we kafi log agree nhi krte Hain ...I shared your videos with my friends they say u give your opinion not other points of view
Any relationship that adds value to your life and pulls you out of darkness, needs to be nurtured. You call it by any name, doesn't matter. Don't over rate anything to regret later. Be graceful enough to see the things as it is without being judgemental. Important thing is to flourish yourself by flourishing others without any expectations or rewards.
joke, after coming out of darkness and using the friendship as a healing factor. The person who is now healed start trating his healer frined like a piece of trash
Hats off to u for discovering the true reality that exists in society which no one cares to say. Very unconventional. I helped my friend for years when he didn't have any support. I gave him so much of my time for years, sometimes sacrificing my work. And 1 year after he got into IIM-Indore he began to avoid calls, no reply.. I was so shocked & betrayed.. what u said is absolutely right.. friendship can break in no time.. friend can change and ditch anytime.. many more such experiences have happened.
I agree completely. While it's good to socialize occasionally but over spending the limited currency of time hanging out with friends is a sheer waste. Unless those friends are part of your mastermind where all of you together meet up to work on productive goals, aimless socializing will only lead to long term lasting regrets.
Yes Sir very true. Aapki baatein wahi samajh sakta hai jisne dosti khoya hai. That pain of losing your friendship you carry life long. Bas dost ne bol diya dosti khatam aur chala gaya. My mom used to advice me the same thing but I just used to argue saying aapke sachhe dost nai koi aapko kya maalum dosti kya hoti hai. I was such a fool. I have lost my friendship and have not shared it with my mom. Bas akeli reh gayi main and I know this will pinch me for a very long time. Hope time heals this.
Never had many friends to begin with, though not with this thought in mind, I used to regret not having many friends, but this video gives a fresh perspective and I feel MUCH better about the decision :D
I have had deep friendships who have supported advised appreciated and understood me. Even though i had a great family my frienships gave been as important and have given me a lot of joy.
That's an exception, not the rule. Glad you could find and nurture such relations with good people around you, all the best wishes to you for the future.
Omg…Sir ji, You put my thoughts in to words. Especially in this age of social media, everyone wants to show off how happy they are with their big friends circle! If there is no benefit then there is no friendship…… And I also call my spouse my best friend! Thanks for such a thought provoking video!
These days nobody likes obligations in relationship, so dosti is an escape for them. Nobody believes in sacrifice and responsibilities, especially the new generation. Dosti is highly overrated. You are absolutely right Amitji.
Bingo! I thought I was the odd one out. Always felt if I could be available with all my energy to family, that was enough for me. Thank you for making this video.
Networking is not to be confused with Friendship . In fact any relationship is worth it only as long as it can do some value additoon to Story of Life .
I think friends are important because we are living in a society and we are social elements.. Dusra ye ki hum friends say kuch aise baatein share kr sakte hain jo bhai ya parents say share nhi kr sakte..
@@N7_YES tujhe kaise ptaa koi apne budhaape tkk zinda rahega, waise bhi dost toh kahin bhi bnn jaate hain. Park, office, metro, stadium daily jao toh dheere dheere dosti ho jaati hai. Dost bnaana bahut aasan hai, 3-4 din milo bike par ghumo, momos khaao fir ho gyi dosti Dosti ek tarah se myth hai jisko Bollywood movies ne agenda ke taur par highlight kiya hua hai. Bhai apni personal life achchi rakh, sab bdhiya rahega.
Thanks for sharing 🙏 I agree to your point, friends can easily get parted even if you're in a friendship for years. It can be ended in a 5 min call. Now, I look back at that friendship, it's good for my growth before and after in both cases. Sometimes, it's good get parted ways 💯
Every individual is different, with diff opinions. We cannot expect everyone to understand us, our feelings, our thinking. Not even if someone is family. And we cannot choose family. They are given to us on birth. Friends on the other hand, we can choose, one who understands us, our thinking etc. So, i believe while it can happen that your family doesn't understands you or where u coming from, you friend might understand. And you need someone who understands why u doing wat you doing. And yes, i do have frnds, with whom I talk in all seriousness, without gaali galoch. :)
100 percent correct , I have experienced it's a waste of time. Friends are just competitors & misguiders, they are good to have fun but moment it's time for some benefit he will start taking revenge on some past incident 😂🤣 he will make sure you don't prosper
Well said . People with limited vocabulary and understanding use the term friend for work colleagues , partners . Men propose friendship to women -and mean something different. Parents claim to be friends of their children . Element of interest , trust , well wishing or sharing hobbies can be in any relationship - but word friend is not to be used like that .
Friends are someone in whom one can confide in certain situations to seek solutions in crisis, most of the time frankness and unbiased outlook is not expected in relations. It is true that friendship is overrated but a true friend is a pressure vent of a pressure cooker like situation.
This is not healthy if you are dependent need or need friend as pressure cooker to release frustration, means you need meditation ,as you are weak person
@@rdj127 Its a commonsense which you are missing. Test yourself by asking a loan of 1 Lakh from your best friend , then you will see the true color of your friend..
@@scdrive6967 please read my comment i told same thing to be independent , don't you understand English , i told same thing that if you are dependent on Freind you are weak and will be exploited
Added a fresh perspective to this relationship, particularly when you say that mostly people whose core relationship are not strong, they seek for such relationship more. When a teenager is sad due to such relationship failure, his parents are to blame !
👌very understand I understand it after many years experiences in young age hum friends me bahot time spend karte hai aur apne aur apne relationship me invest karna bhul jate hai aaj ke youth ke liye aur sab ke liye samaj ne layak video hai. Aap hamare Guru hai sir🙏.
SIR , I COMPLETELY DISAGREE WITH YOU AND HERE ARE SOME COUNTER POINTS - 1) Dost kaam he wahi aate hai jaha gharwale kaam na aa paye ya karwa paye. 2) DOSTI duniya me esa rishta hai jo by birth nahi milta aap apne maa baap bhai behen nhi choose kr sakte but dost chun skate ho. 3) jab khud ka bhai BALI ho toh SUGRIV ko bhi SHRI RAM jaise Mitra ki zaroorat padti hai.. 4) even RAM ji ke kya blood relative they hanuman ji jinhone end tak sath diya ? 5) karna and duryodhan , krishna and sudama ? kya ye sab bhi films se aye hai apke according? sath me daru peene wale bas ? 6) apne bataya jab siblings na ho toh wife should be your friend lekin uptill his marrige wo kya karega ye bhi batao ? 7)apne khud ke bhai behen to maa baap ki property khane ko mare jaate hai. dost apke baap ki poperty khane nhi aate apke ghar .... 8) ek time ke baad parents bhi duniya se chale jaynge ..bhai behen apas me pasand khudko karte nhi dost he apke same age group ka hota hai jo end tak atleast kaam aajata jata hai.... sir logo khud bhi ache dost kisi ke bante nhi hai na mil paate h sahi dost logo ko isley mindset negative ho jata hai dosti ko leke dosti ek sensitive relation hai jo kabhi bhi toot sakta hai isleye usme investment lag jata hai naturally . aur hum comparison between FAMILY VS DOST karne ki zaroorat nhi h ....sabka role hamari life me alag alag hota hai ....
Very good message especially in these times where phones etc have increased the connectivity and children are always in touch with their so called dosts. I wish every parents bonds with their child so well that dost will always be second priority than family.
Truer words have not been spoken, thank you guruji. I've experienced the same realization after my close childhood friend snapped ties in an instant over a relatively trivial matter. It was like a gut punch which caught me by surprise but taught a very valuable lesson.
First half of the video made complete sense. The second half just drifted away, Sirji 🙏 I am one of those unfortunate souls who has no one in the whole world except a daughter. Only if and when she gets married, I will have a family. Friends are my whole world.
After getting ditched by my sister-like best friend , I stopped trusting friends . And yes in my group only I did not use to use abusive words and did not eat non veg ,didn't try smoking /drinking/any kind of intoxication because I have some principles . And these small things must not matter to them, but it mattered to them a lot I was literally outcasted, but I never till date compromised with my principles. Sir can you imagine I was being hated in my group for my immense admiration for indian army(like seriously!!) ,they were total anti nationals i was living with. I m happy I left those pythons. I believe even if you have one friend, that person should be of high character like krishn and sudama, nhi to bs emotional attachment se bacho varna use karke nikal jate h log.
Yes, when I was watching this video, a part of my mind was screaming what about Shree Krishna and Sudhamaji? But I think friendships like those are mainly formed these days only when the two friends are either childhood friends or are studying/working in entirely different fields. It seldom happens that two or more people who are studying/working together, get friends, who believe in having healthy competition. Nahi toh baaki sabko toh competition hota hi hai andar andar, jab time aata hai tab koi saath khada nahi rehta parents, siblings and Shri Bhagwan ke alawa
Too good.... every one ultimately grows out their friends as they are just a phase...but family is very important Clinging onto friends means you are not maturing...
Sahi baat hai sir me 21 ka tha meri dost ne achanak mujhe ghost kar dia like me kon hu usse pata hi nahi, usne ignore kia baat bandh ho gaya mujhe sirf regret hua and me itna ghusa hua tha dosti me ki I am 24 and abtk usse ubhar nahi paya. Thank you sir for this video.
Hi I am saying this because I was 24 once. I was not too deep into friendship because my father was always getting transferred. So basically I hv only few friends. I would expect you to be in college or maybe a fresh graduate. Don't be disheartened if you lose out friends. You will enter into a job where you will meet the widest variety of people. And abhi 24 tak na kya hota hai ki we don't hv to make friends with a person we don't like. No compulsion. But aage jaake life mai you will be forced to make friends with people you don't like. And sometimes you hv no option, like it's a necessity life is only complicated from 24 because this is exactly when you are completely on your own. No teachers no lecturers no guidance. Tumhe apna hi dimag lagake aage badhna hai. So don't try too hard to make friends, agar Mann ek jaisa ho toh aap dost ban hi jaoge without effort. But agar aapko effort lagana pad raha hai toh pls don't pursue such kind of friendships. Unko nibhaane mai toh physical mental or moral strength lagta hai. Abhi mai office baccho aur apne family ke saath itni busy hu ki agar mujhe ek insaan ke sath extra effort lagane pade toh it takes a toll on me. Agar wo easily ho jaye aur hum dono hi uss friendship se kuch pata rahe hai toh acchi baat hai but going forward in life ek friendship ko nibhaane ke liye effort lage toh wo nahi kar payenge. My advise to you (though I m just an unknown internet person) is to focus on family, your job prospects. Be in touch with your classmates but aise ghus mat jao jaise wo aapki Puri duniya ho. Ye log abhi Jo ek dusre ki dosti mai ghuse pade hai wo log ek 5-10 saal mai aapke hi jaise honge. So don't feel like you're missing out on something. You're not :)
Sir, what you said is 100% correct. I am like that only as you said . I treat my sister, brother and cousins as my friends. Outside, I have very limited friends. So that I can concentrate on my family And on myself. I am very happy.
Sir being and astrologer you should know that some people can never benefit from family ( fallen planet in 2nd house ). For them, only way to move forward is through friends. So friends can become our second family. Friends are the family we chose. However its also true that many people make friends just to party, go out, show off etc. but some times its not possible to separate good from bad side of friendship. Either u have to take both or or leave both.
I agree 100% what you said about friendship. I have always believed in this theory about friendship.. This is first time I have heard someone say it out loud.
This makes perfect sense to me. I have always thought that friendship is over rated and without "daru" there is no friendship. The only point I think is in Love marriages first we are become friends then take next step.
Right sir, first family is important. After that father monther, son, daughter, father in law, monther in law , bhai bahen, enko time auir emotions dena he. Bahar balo ko important deke ghar me jhagda karte he. Auir ese lok life me age jake bahut akela pan feel karte he. Duty place me jinke sath hum kam kar rahehe bo friend nehi he. We have to focus three things 1. Family 2. Close relative 3 . Mentor or well wishers Hum jo job field me he humko free time bahut kam milta he. Ase quality time ko chichorapan me naa bitayee. Dosti yaroi e sab bakwas he Dosti 2 minutes nehii tikti agar humare economic down fall or kuch crisis ho jaye to. Risto ko ahmiyat dijia. Quality time spend kijia. Unki sukh dukh me jitna ho sake sath dijiaa. Mere comment kesa laga comment box me likhiye Sunil nayak Sambalpur, odisha se
Right 100 ℅ It is wastage of time Choose friends cautiously who adds value to ur life Those who insult u and make fun of u Or humiliate u and make wrong propaganda, about u just create a hype and say ye dosti he and halka, fulka entertainment he are actually not friends but opportunists Stay away from such people very strictly Be loud on mouth to call them openly that u dont like this behaviour of theirs in the name of friendship
Omg sir... Dimag ka bada confusion clear kar dia... Ek age mein akey even I was feeling this n was constantly thinking ki problem kya hai... Achey friends ban kyu nahi rahey.. N I understand now I was over expecting kyu ki fundaa hi galat tha... Even we start our good will
Sir this video risky ho sakta hai apke subscribers jaa sakte hai toh bhi apne society ke bhale ke liye sahi baat ko public ke samne rakha bhale hee kadva sach kyu na ho. Thank alot sir.
Never put too much trust in friends, learn how to use enemies Be wary of friends-they will betray you more quickly, for they are easily aroused to envy. They also become spoiled and tyrannical. But hire a former enemy and he will be more loyal than a friend, because he has more to prove. In fact, you have more to fear from friends than from enemies. If you have no enemies, find a way to make them.
Namaste Amit ji. Mei halhi mei aapko follow karna shuru kiya CZcams pe. Achha lagta hei aapki content kyu ki practical hei and apply karsakte hei aapse sunke. Aapka khandan vachan muze bohot pasand hei. Ye jo aap ne friendship ka video dala hei kash muze ye video kuch das saal pehele milihoti. Mei bohot khush hoon ki muze aapke zariye ye margadarshan milraha hei ye video dwara. Mei man hi man aapko ab meri guru manliya hoon. Friendship ko utana maine kabhi value nahi diya par kuch rishton ko mei ne sahi se nibhaya bhi nahi. Aaj jaise aapne ek chata laga ke bola ho ya ungali pakad ke sahi raah dikha ho kuch ayesi bhavanaye mere andar aarahe hei ye video dekhane ke baad. I need to work on the relationships which are more valuable because vo abhi bhi mere paas hei bavajood meri ravayya uske taraf theek na ho. I will try and correct them first. Thank you and Respect.. Namashkar.
Great explanation sir............I think we should treat our friends like good individual. Yes we can aspects help from them but should rely on our relatives first.. I also thinks in the same way.
Ye 70s ki filmo ki baat hai,aajkal Aisa nahi dikhate. Dost apni jagah hai,sab jaante hai ki jealousy apni jagah hai,àpko recognise karna hai ki matlab ke dost to nahi hai,aap saas sasur ko dost banane ki baat kar rahe ho wo to sirf tension dete hai
My god.. I always use to think this way.. But I was the odd one out.. I have always priorities family over friends.. Well said uncle.. Hope it gives some guidance to next gen...
I think we need to know who a true friend is and not use this word casually for anyone or everyone. And it should be looked in isolation and not be compared with family. Both are imp in their own respect. My friend has been instrumental in turning my life around and so has been my family in supporting me in throughout.
I also feel the same. My friends r my blood relations, My father ,my brothers ,my sister.i never believe so much on outsiders,they r needed for socialization only. Your words r true
AS few takes-1-one is known by company one keeps-2-You always need a shoulder to weep-3-One can dissolve toxic relations in friendship not in relations like battle vs war-4-Everything changes moment to moment & the same is in relations/friends
The very fact that one is known by the company kept implies company is transient and can be made/unmade by you or the other arbitrarily. And it's not true - a man must NOT seek a shoulder to cry on but strive to be independent in his thoughts, actions and emotions to the maximum extent possible. That doesn't mean that one ends up mistreating others or does harm unto them. But understanding the boundaries of your emotions, time and efforts with respect to others is key to ensuring minimal disappointment and bitterness in life.
Yes Sir what you said is very true friends just use and throw you and also while keeping friendship they see us as somewhat inferior there are only less than 5 friends who are genuine in nature that's the harsh reality.
I really thought that i was cold hearted to think like this and many things you usually say, but its just practical. I am even hesitant to share it to my friends, out of fear that they may not even see it and will judge me for being cold hearted.
Your views may be true in today's world True friend who stands besides you and helps you when you're down or not doing well in life. Value the person rather than valuing the person because of his money or net worth
Agree with the video But friendship is not limited by age We would be fortunate if one could give mature people who had guide with their experience of life to younger generation That is friendship also
Mere bilkul bhi friends nahi hai. Aur mera bhi yahi maan na hai ki akela pan hi acha hai. Dimaag shaant rehta hai. Mera best friend mera chota bhai hai. Mere husband aur mummy se bhi meri bahot banti hai. Mera bahot majak banaya jata hai ki mere koi friends nahi hai. But i am ok with it. Kabhi kabhi lagta hai ki mai bhi friends banau par bante hi nahi. Akeli rahungi to ache se apne kaam aur ghar pe concentrate karungi. Meditate karungi
Bless you 🙏🏼 i support and relate with your way of life 🙏🏼
But do have a special group usse bhi growth hoti hai find a purpose usko apne jaise logon ke saath manifest karo
Wah Sir.. Kya baat. I had this opinion for many years now that friendship is overrated and had a lot of arguments with lazy escapists. Besides, it robs you of your Self respect, Emotions, Dignity, Time and Money. Glad to hear this for the first time from anyone else besides me. There has to be some value addition in companionship. Period.
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Very true Sir, i have experienced that old friendships also lose their charm, when economic disparity grew.
The poor friend has to surrender his self respect/ego to retain the friendship.
Rich friend has to surrender his time n goals. Not worth for either of them
@@SangoLifeSutras sir aap ki opinion we kafi log agree nhi krte Hain ...I shared your videos with my friends they say u give your opinion not other points of view
Any relationship that adds value to your life and pulls you out of darkness, needs to be nurtured. You call it by any name, doesn't matter. Don't over rate anything to regret later. Be graceful enough to see the things as it is without being judgemental. Important thing is to flourish yourself by flourishing others without any expectations or rewards.
Totally agree!!!!
joke, after coming out of darkness and using the friendship as a healing factor. The person who is now healed start trating his healer frined like a piece of trash
@@GarudAtmafacts!!
Hats off to u for discovering the true reality that exists in society which no one cares to say. Very unconventional. I helped my friend for years when he didn't have any support. I gave him so much of my time for years, sometimes sacrificing my work. And 1 year after he got into IIM-Indore he began to avoid calls, no reply.. I was so shocked & betrayed.. what u said is absolutely right.. friendship can break in no time.. friend can change and ditch anytime.. many more such experiences have happened.
same, I agree
I agree completely. While it's good to socialize occasionally but over spending the limited currency of time hanging out with friends is a sheer waste. Unless those friends are part of your mastermind where all of you together meet up to work on productive goals, aimless socializing will only lead to long term lasting regrets.
Well said! You summed it up accurately. 👍👍👍
Yes Sir very true. Aapki baatein wahi samajh sakta hai jisne dosti khoya hai. That pain of losing your friendship you carry life long. Bas dost ne bol diya dosti khatam aur chala gaya. My mom used to advice me the same thing but I just used to argue saying aapke sachhe dost nai koi aapko kya maalum dosti kya hoti hai. I was such a fool. I have lost my friendship and have not shared it with my mom. Bas akeli reh gayi main and I know this will pinch me for a very long time. Hope time heals this.
totally agree, my father used to tell me to stop wasting time and money in friendship, these are not worth.
There are two ways to learn reality one is bitter experience other is bitter advice.
I am choosing the later one. Thanks Sir once again.
Whatever you said that is absolutely true,which I experienced in my life.no one can manage friendship with empty pockets
Right
Never had many friends to begin with, though not with this thought in mind, I used to regret not having many friends, but this video gives a fresh perspective and I feel MUCH better about the decision :D
I also used to regret about lack of friends, now I am satisfied that I have good relation with my family instead of friends.
I have had deep friendships who have supported advised appreciated and understood me. Even though i had a great family my frienships gave been as important and have given me a lot of joy.
That's an exception, not the rule.
Glad you could find and nurture such relations with good people around you, all the best wishes to you for the future.
@@TheCycloneTrooperHe is a lier 😂 don't believe him
Omg…Sir ji, You put my thoughts in to words. Especially in this age of social media, everyone wants to show off how happy they are with their big friends circle! If there is no benefit then there is no friendship…… And I also call my spouse my best friend! Thanks for such a thought provoking video!
These days nobody likes obligations in relationship, so dosti is an escape for them. Nobody believes in sacrifice and responsibilities, especially the new generation. Dosti is highly overrated. You are absolutely right Amitji.
Largely correct but friendship has less expectations than relationships and there are less formalities between friends.
Very true …people don’t want to maintain blood relation but they are investing more time and money on friendship.🙏
Bingo! I thought I was the odd one out. Always felt if I could be available with all my energy to family, that was enough for me. Thank you for making this video.
Networking is not to be confused with Friendship . In fact any relationship is worth it only as long as it can do some value additoon to Story of Life .
100% agree sir. Friends will forget us once they are more successful than us.
I wasted many years due to friendship.
I think friends are important because we are living in a society and we are social elements..
Dusra ye ki hum friends say kuch aise baatein share kr sakte hain jo bhai ya parents say share nhi kr sakte..
bhai toh bhai yaa apni behan se share krlo, friendship can break anytime, its a wastage of time and money.
@@amitrana3302 To bhai aap friends mt rkho budhape mein kiskay pass jaogay.. Children to aapko bhav dengay nhi..
@@N7_YES tujhe kaise ptaa koi apne budhaape tkk zinda rahega, waise bhi dost toh kahin bhi bnn jaate hain. Park, office, metro, stadium daily jao toh dheere dheere dosti ho jaati hai. Dost bnaana bahut aasan hai, 3-4 din milo bike par ghumo, momos khaao fir ho gyi dosti
Dosti ek tarah se myth hai jisko Bollywood movies ne agenda ke taur par highlight kiya hua hai.
Bhai apni personal life achchi rakh, sab bdhiya rahega.
Thanks for sharing 🙏
I agree to your point, friends can easily get parted even if you're in a friendship for years. It can be ended in a 5 min call. Now, I look back at that friendship, it's good for my growth before and after in both cases. Sometimes, it's good get parted ways 💯
Every individual is different, with diff opinions. We cannot expect everyone to understand us, our feelings, our thinking. Not even if someone is family. And we cannot choose family. They are given to us on birth. Friends on the other hand, we can choose, one who understands us, our thinking etc. So, i believe while it can happen that your family doesn't understands you or where u coming from, you friend might understand. And you need someone who understands why u doing wat you doing. And yes, i do have frnds, with whom I talk in all seriousness, without gaali galoch. :)
Poor Man have NO FRIENDS
100 percent correct , I have experienced it's a waste of time. Friends are just competitors & misguiders, they are good to have fun but moment it's time for some benefit he will start taking revenge on some past incident 😂🤣 he will make sure you don't prosper
Well said . People with limited vocabulary and understanding use the term friend for work colleagues , partners . Men propose friendship to women -and mean something different. Parents claim to be friends of their children . Element of interest , trust , well wishing or sharing hobbies can be in any relationship - but word friend is not to be used like that .
Friends are someone in whom one can confide in certain situations to seek solutions in crisis, most of the time frankness and unbiased outlook is not expected in relations. It is true that friendship is overrated but a true friend is a pressure vent of a pressure cooker like situation.
Poor Man have NO FRIENDS
He should have added these points also.
It's a very subjective matter.
This is not healthy if you are dependent need or need friend as pressure cooker to release frustration, means you need meditation ,as you are weak person
@@rdj127 Its a commonsense which you are missing. Test yourself by asking a loan of 1 Lakh from your best friend , then you will see the true color of your friend..
@@scdrive6967 please read my comment i told same thing to be independent , don't you understand English , i told same thing that if you are dependent on Freind you are weak and will be exploited
Added a fresh perspective to this relationship, particularly when you say that mostly people whose core relationship are not strong, they seek for such relationship more. When a teenager is sad due to such relationship failure, his parents are to blame !
Completely agree 👍🏿
I am lucky to have a few good friends "shubhchintak" and wonderful family and relatives ❤️
👌very understand I understand it after many years experiences in young age hum friends me bahot time spend karte hai aur apne aur apne relationship me invest karna bhul jate hai aaj ke youth ke liye aur sab ke liye samaj ne layak video hai. Aap hamare Guru hai sir🙏.
Poor Man have NO FRIENDS..
SIR , I COMPLETELY DISAGREE WITH YOU AND HERE ARE SOME COUNTER POINTS -
1) Dost kaam he wahi aate hai jaha gharwale kaam na aa paye ya karwa paye.
2) DOSTI duniya me esa rishta hai jo by birth nahi milta aap apne maa baap bhai behen nhi choose kr sakte but dost chun skate ho.
3) jab khud ka bhai BALI ho toh SUGRIV ko bhi SHRI RAM jaise Mitra ki zaroorat padti hai..
4) even RAM ji ke kya blood relative they hanuman ji jinhone end tak sath diya ?
5) karna and duryodhan , krishna and sudama ? kya ye sab bhi films se aye hai apke according? sath me daru peene wale bas ?
6) apne bataya jab siblings na ho toh wife should be your friend lekin uptill his marrige wo kya karega ye bhi batao ?
7)apne khud ke bhai behen to maa baap ki property khane ko mare jaate hai. dost apke baap ki poperty khane nhi aate apke ghar ....
8) ek time ke baad parents bhi duniya se chale jaynge ..bhai behen apas me pasand khudko karte nhi
dost he apke same age group ka hota hai jo end tak atleast kaam aajata jata hai....
sir logo khud bhi ache dost kisi ke bante nhi hai na mil paate h sahi dost logo ko isley mindset negative ho jata hai dosti ko leke
dosti ek sensitive relation hai jo kabhi bhi toot sakta hai isleye usme investment lag jata hai naturally .
aur hum comparison between FAMILY VS DOST karne ki zaroorat nhi h ....sabka role hamari life me alag alag hota hai ....
Good points. ❤
Kitni age hai apki
It is realy TRUE but now a days there is a compition between siblings also
Great perspective - although there is one thing - we don't choose our family - but friends we can choose
Very good message especially in these times where phones etc have increased the connectivity and children are always in touch with their so called dosts. I wish every parents bonds with their child so well that dost will always be second priority than family.
Realistic perspective
Truer words have not been spoken, thank you guruji.
I've experienced the same realization after my close childhood friend snapped ties in an instant over a relatively trivial matter.
It was like a gut punch which caught me by surprise but taught a very valuable lesson.
You are absolutely right! 100 percent agree with you.I have learnt this lesson the hard way……no more emotional investment in friends from now on….
First half of the video made complete sense. The second half just drifted away, Sirji 🙏
I am one of those unfortunate souls who has no one in the whole world except a daughter. Only if and when she gets married, I will have a family.
Friends are my whole world.
@@ghzltnsr20 What a noble thought! Thank you so much. Yes, she's my family, my everything ❤
अपने बिलकुल मेरा ही अनुभव बता दिया।100% agreed
You are right Sir,
Blood is always thicker than water
Apke thoughts ekdum sahi h sir. Rishte jaldi nhi tute, pr dosti tut skti h.
After getting ditched by my sister-like best friend , I stopped trusting friends .
And yes in my group only I did not use to use abusive words and did not eat non veg ,didn't try smoking /drinking/any kind of intoxication because I have some principles . And these small things must not matter to them, but it mattered to them a lot I was literally outcasted, but I never till date compromised with my principles.
Sir can you imagine I was being hated in my group for my immense admiration for indian army(like seriously!!) ,they were total anti nationals i was living with. I m happy I left those pythons.
I believe even if you have one friend, that person should be of high character like krishn and sudama, nhi to bs emotional attachment se bacho varna use karke nikal jate h log.
Yes, when I was watching this video, a part of my mind was screaming what about Shree Krishna and Sudhamaji? But I think friendships like those are mainly formed these days only when the two friends are either childhood friends or are studying/working in entirely different fields. It seldom happens that two or more people who are studying/working together, get friends, who believe in having healthy competition. Nahi toh baaki sabko toh competition hota hi hai andar andar, jab time aata hai tab koi saath khada nahi rehta parents, siblings and Shri Bhagwan ke alawa
Too good.... every one ultimately grows out their friends as they are just a phase...but family is very important
Clinging onto friends means you are not maturing...
So called friendships end up being a case of the blind leading the blind.
Sahi baat hai sir me 21 ka tha meri dost ne achanak mujhe ghost kar dia like me kon hu usse pata hi nahi, usne ignore kia baat bandh ho gaya mujhe sirf regret hua and me itna ghusa hua tha dosti me ki I am 24 and abtk usse ubhar nahi paya. Thank you sir for this video.
Hi I am saying this because I was 24 once. I was not too deep into friendship because my father was always getting transferred. So basically I hv only few friends.
I would expect you to be in college or maybe a fresh graduate. Don't be disheartened if you lose out friends. You will enter into a job where you will meet the widest variety of people. And abhi 24 tak na kya hota hai ki we don't hv to make friends with a person we don't like. No compulsion. But aage jaake life mai you will be forced to make friends with people you don't like. And sometimes you hv no option, like it's a necessity life is only complicated from 24 because this is exactly when you are completely on your own. No teachers no lecturers no guidance. Tumhe apna hi dimag lagake aage badhna hai. So don't try too hard to make friends, agar Mann ek jaisa ho toh aap dost ban hi jaoge without effort. But agar aapko effort lagana pad raha hai toh pls don't pursue such kind of friendships. Unko nibhaane mai toh physical mental or moral strength lagta hai. Abhi mai office baccho aur apne family ke saath itni busy hu ki agar mujhe ek insaan ke sath extra effort lagane pade toh it takes a toll on me. Agar wo easily ho jaye aur hum dono hi uss friendship se kuch pata rahe hai toh acchi baat hai but going forward in life ek friendship ko nibhaane ke liye effort lage toh wo nahi kar payenge.
My advise to you (though I m just an unknown internet person) is to focus on family, your job prospects. Be in touch with your classmates but aise ghus mat jao jaise wo aapki Puri duniya ho.
Ye log abhi Jo ek dusre ki dosti mai ghuse pade hai wo log ek 5-10 saal mai aapke hi jaise honge. So don't feel like you're missing out on something. You're not :)
Sir, everytime you speak you rescue me out of the darkest place, which I got trapped inside my mind ...
Love from Australia...
Sir, what you said is 100% correct.
I am like that only as you said .
I treat my sister, brother and cousins as my friends.
Outside, I have very limited friends.
So that I can concentrate on my family
And on myself.
I am very happy.
Agree 100% ❤️
Especially when I broke friendship of 18 years last month ,due to a petty fight 😂
Same with bro.
Sir being and astrologer you should know that some people can never benefit from family ( fallen planet in 2nd house ). For them, only way to move forward is through friends. So friends can become our second family. Friends are the family we chose. However its also true that many people make friends just to party, go out, show off etc. but some times its not possible to separate good from bad side of friendship. Either u have to take both or or leave both.
I agree 100% what you said about friendship. I have always believed in this theory about friendship.. This is first time I have heard someone say it out loud.
When it comes to the crunch it is only family that comes to your support.
so true he told loved you sir very nicely explained concept
100% True and I was searching for this exact discussion since ages. Kodus to you..
Sirji aapne zindagi Har Ka formula solve kr liya h and we r lucky that u r sharing these valuable points with us! 😊
I agree completely 🙏i knew this a bit but totally experienced in times of corona n now your video.
This makes perfect sense to me. I have always thought that friendship is over rated and without "daru" there is no friendship.
The only point I think is in Love marriages first we are become friends then take next step.
Brilliant...Original content and analysis. Very pragmatic . SANGO Sir, appreciate your efforts to so clearly analyse so many social aspects
I do agree with your point...if possible try to have 1-2 quality friends....lekin baat ye hai hamare blood relation wale riste utne open nahi hain ..
Duggal sahab bilkul sahi kah rahe 👍🏻✅
Right sir, first family is important. After that father monther, son, daughter, father in law, monther in law , bhai bahen, enko time auir emotions dena he. Bahar balo ko important deke ghar me jhagda karte he. Auir ese lok life me age jake bahut akela pan feel karte he. Duty place me jinke sath hum kam kar rahehe bo friend nehi he. We have to focus three things 1. Family 2. Close relative 3 . Mentor or well wishers
Hum jo job field me he humko free time bahut kam milta he. Ase quality time ko chichorapan me naa bitayee. Dosti yaroi e sab bakwas he
Dosti 2 minutes nehii tikti agar humare economic down fall or kuch crisis ho jaye to. Risto ko ahmiyat dijia. Quality time spend kijia. Unki sukh dukh me jitna ho sake sath dijiaa. Mere comment kesa laga comment box me likhiye
Sunil nayak
Sambalpur, odisha se
100 % agree with you Amit ji. 🤔 Best video ever on this topic. 👍 Thanks for making video. 🙏
Right 100 ℅
It is wastage of time
Choose friends cautiously who adds value to ur life
Those who insult u and make fun of u Or humiliate u and make wrong propaganda, about u just create a hype and say ye dosti he and halka, fulka entertainment he are actually not friends but opportunists
Stay away from such people very strictly
Be loud on mouth to call them openly that u dont like this behaviour of theirs in the name of friendship
watching after 2 years but still connect to it.... i watch your videos and got many topic cleared...
Omg sir... Dimag ka bada confusion clear kar dia... Ek age mein akey even I was feeling this n was constantly thinking ki problem kya hai... Achey friends ban kyu nahi rahey.. N I understand now I was over expecting kyu ki fundaa hi galat tha... Even we start our good will
I am completely agree with you sir friends ka kaam sirf tumhare looks aur financial condition ko leke mazak udate hai
आप बहुत हिम्मत से सही बात करते हैं,
आपको धन्यवाद
Completely relatable....Ur true relations stand by in every hard tym n emotional insaan...
Sir this video risky ho sakta hai apke subscribers jaa sakte hai toh bhi apne society ke bhale ke liye sahi baat ko public ke samne rakha bhale hee kadva sach kyu na ho. Thank alot sir.
Hawa ka kaam hai chalna
diye ka kaam hai jalna.
Woh apna kaam karti hai
Mein apna kaam karta hoon
Aaj ki generation ki mostly dosti ise he he,hmari time ki nhi
Yes sir., Completely agree, Value added true video.
Never put too much trust in friends, learn how to use enemies
Be wary of friends-they will betray you more quickly, for they are easily aroused to envy. They also become spoiled and tyrannical. But hire a former enemy and he will be more loyal than a friend, because he has more to prove. In fact, you have more to fear from friends than from enemies. If you have no enemies, find a way to make them.
Sir your last line was good 👌👌👌
I need to make some 😅😅
Correct absolutely, the overarching message is clear
Awesome Guru,You are Robinhood for Vulnerable children and like you say not normal family background people 🙏,Thank you for an eye opener 💝
Namaste Amit ji. Mei halhi mei aapko follow karna shuru kiya CZcams pe. Achha lagta hei aapki content kyu ki practical hei and apply karsakte hei aapse sunke. Aapka khandan vachan muze bohot pasand hei.
Ye jo aap ne friendship ka video dala hei kash muze ye video kuch das saal pehele milihoti.
Mei bohot khush hoon ki muze aapke zariye ye margadarshan milraha hei ye video dwara.
Mei man hi man aapko ab meri guru manliya hoon.
Friendship ko utana maine kabhi value nahi diya par kuch rishton ko mei ne sahi se nibhaya bhi nahi. Aaj jaise aapne ek chata laga ke bola ho ya ungali pakad ke sahi raah dikha ho kuch ayesi bhavanaye mere andar aarahe hei ye video dekhane ke baad.
I need to work on the relationships which are more valuable because vo abhi bhi mere paas hei bavajood meri ravayya uske taraf theek na ho. I will try and correct them first. Thank you and Respect.. Namashkar.
Amazing Sir! Kitana achha content Diya hai aapne. Hats off to you 🙏🙏
Great explanation sir............I think we should treat our friends like good individual. Yes we can aspects help from them but should rely on our relatives first.. I also thinks in the same way.
Ye 70s ki filmo ki baat hai,aajkal Aisa nahi dikhate. Dost apni jagah hai,sab jaante hai ki jealousy apni jagah hai,àpko recognise karna hai ki matlab ke dost to nahi hai,aap saas sasur ko dost banane ki baat kar rahe ho wo to sirf tension dete hai
Ye mature log 20 + wale karte hai , jo teen age hai woh bahut timepass karte hai dosonke sath especially on instagram
My god.. I always use to think this way.. But I was the odd one out.. I have always priorities family over friends.. Well said uncle.. Hope it gives some guidance to next gen...
Very true. To thine own self, be true.
You are absolutely right sir
I think we need to know who a true friend is and not use this word casually for anyone or everyone. And it should be looked in isolation and not be compared with family. Both are imp in their own respect. My friend has been instrumental in turning my life around and so has been my family in supporting me in throughout.
Correct sir...very true....we get carried away by our emotional gush....baat bilkul pate ki hai...iss perspective se kabhi itna gehra nahi socha
100% agree 👍 👏 💯
I also feel the same.
My friends r my blood relations,
My father ,my brothers ,my sister.i never believe so much on outsiders,they r needed for socialization only.
Your words r true
Your each and every word is 1000% correct and practical. FRIENDSHIP is a scam. THAT'S IT !
Thank you sir soo soo soo much friendship ko lekar mere confusion clear karne k liye.....
AS few takes-1-one is known by company one keeps-2-You always need a shoulder to weep-3-One can dissolve toxic relations in friendship not in relations like battle vs war-4-Everything changes moment to moment & the same is in relations/friends
The very fact that one is known by the company kept implies company is transient and can be made/unmade by you or the other arbitrarily.
And it's not true - a man must NOT seek a shoulder to cry on but strive to be independent in his thoughts, actions and emotions to the maximum extent possible.
That doesn't mean that one ends up mistreating others or does harm unto them. But understanding the boundaries of your emotions, time and efforts with respect to others is key to ensuring minimal disappointment and bitterness in life.
Yes Sir what you said is very true friends just use and throw you and also while keeping friendship they see us as somewhat inferior there are only less than 5 friends who are genuine in nature that's the harsh reality.
I really thought that i was cold hearted to think like this and many things you usually say, but its just practical. I am even hesitant to share it to my friends, out of fear that they may not even see it and will judge me for being cold hearted.
I fully agree with you Amitji. I am of the same opinion, great work keep making such videos. Thanku
You are absolutely right, its really overrated. We should not invest too much in this.
I 100% agree with you
Aapse bhi to sbka bina dosti kiye ek pyari sa rishta🙏 bn gya he
Your views may be true in today's world
True friend who stands besides you and helps you when you're down or not doing well in life.
Value the person rather than valuing the person because of his money or net worth
Sir, aapne iss video me saari baatein bilkul theek batayi hain....🙏
very deep understanding is required to completely get your this idea.
I agree sir,friendship-romance are highly overrated due to bollywood.It has destroyed valuable time of our youngsters.
Superb ! So we'll explained I definitely agree 💯
Agree with the video
But friendship is not limited by age
We would be fortunate if one could give mature people who had guide with their experience of life to younger generation
That is friendship also
Sir, can you give me practical tips on how to talk to teenagers about friendship? And how to make them focus more on career instead of friendship.
Great sir kya bolu ab par ek dam sahi kaha... 👍🏼🙏🏼
You are great sir... finally I've found someone who i can connect with..and now i know I'm not the odd one out 😃