I'VE LOST MY PERSONAL STYLE
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- čas přidán 7. 07. 2024
- I had to be honest with you guys, and it feels really good to finally talk about this! There have been a few things that contributed to me losing track of my personal style which I talk about in detail in this video. And I also talk about my plan to find my personal style again!
This is episode 1 of "Finding My Personal Style again" series #FMPSA
You can find the whole series here: • SERIES: Finding My Per...
In this new series, I am diving deep into what's wrong with my current wardrobe and what I love about style/fashion on ME and no one else. I make intentional, well-thought-out plans and declutter my wardrobe to reduce the overall ANXIETY that I face with my current wardrobe.
I can't wait to see what I learn about my personal style and take you along on this journey with me! And most of all, I hope you learn something too ❤️
xx Emily
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Hola Emily, I love the way you opened up your heart to all of us, in the sense that it makes you feel strong and brave enough to ACT. I need that energy and courage to change things in my own life, specially at work, and it made me think about that spirit of being true and genuine to yourself. And make the first step towards your real «you».
Gracias! Kisses and hugs from Valencia
Ugh YES!!! 🙌 I wish I could like this 1 million times! 👏🏽♥️♥️♥️♥️💯 being true to yourself is the most important thing for living a happy and fulfilling life ♥️ ⭐️ xxx
Pinning this comment because it’s such a powerful message ♥️🙏🏽
@@EmilyElizabethMay In life I always think that the best reflections or advices arise in the least expected moments ... and this has arrived in one that needed it
@@EmilyElizabethMay I cannot thank you enough... I am empowered and decided to start acting, the first steps to rediscover myself in many ways...
Besos y abrazos
I agree flor and emily i went through that funk . It took time to get out . Just be kind to yourself. Thankyou for your videos it whats lifts me 🤩
I’ve heard every person change his taste and mindset around 7, 8 years, one time more than another. When your personal life is changing so much like yours, it’s so normal, too. Thanks for sharing your story 🤗
Thanks for your honesty. I am a 55, mother of 2 twenty year olds, am a full time care giver, work 2 part time jobs and am a full time online reseller. And I recently lost 50 pounds. FYI, your personal style keeps evolving your entire life! During times of transition, I discard, donate, sell items I am not in love with, keeping only the staples. If I can't decide, I pack it away and revisit those items later. I also only put current seasonal items in my main wardrobe. Lastly, I document in list form items I never want to retire, even if I am not currently wearing them, so I won't be tempted to re-purchase them later, forgetting I already own them. Hope this helps give you some ideas from a veteran clothes hoarder!
I can relate. In 66 years my style has changed many times. You mentioned moving. That can really affect what you want to wear out and about. Our lives are all so complex and there are so many things we dress for. I will look forward to seeing what you come up with. I am sure it will be amazing.
It was not a lie, it was right at that time. The fact that you are progressing in your journey doesn’t mean that you were dishonest. Life changes, and our mindset evolves and adapts to a new reality, it’s very healthy and exciting! Enjoy the ride! 🤗
I am here for this! Thanks for your transparency. I just want to see your creativity and push back against fast-fashion. Excited for this next chapter!
🥰🥰🥰 thank you Roxy! This made me smile. Can’t wait to share more 😌 xx
I’m with you on this too many clothes for me too. Would love your guidance thank you ❤️❤️❤️❤️😍
Looking forward to sharing the rest with you ♥️♥️♥️
Unbelievable integrity, honesty and leadership. No need for an apology!
🥰🙏🏽 thank you!
I admire your honesty Emily. I too am guilty of a massive wardrobe. I find it difficult to let go of much loved items.
So looking forward to your series to give me ideas and courage to let go and move forward to finding my own personal style.
Thank you Kim 🥰♥️🙏🏽 I can’t wait to share more, I hope you enjoy the series
Me too!
I love how wholesome and authentic you are. I have gone through a similar struggle, I had a distinct sense of personal style through my 20s, until my body changed a lot and I didn't know how to deal with that other than cover it up. I felt very frumpy and not myself. My wardrobe, albeit a lot smaller, has also been confused the past few years; experimenting with other styles and colour palettes inspired by YT and Pinterest. Only recently I've gotten back in touch with myself and my wardrobe is starting to look more curated. I'm excited for this series, it's refreshing to see content creators share their own style journey instead of presenting a blueprint that is supposed to apply to everyone.
Hi Emily 🌷, don’t be anxious about these changes my dear. It’s life, and many more will come. Enjoy the ride. I’m 67 and starting a new chapter in life, so it really never ends, lol. Love your videos, you inspire me!
I think your awareness of the whole fast fashion/slow fashion issue is the important thing - we can't become minimalists overnight. I totally understand the anxiety you feel as I get depressed when I open my socks and undies drawer. As an older person who has seen many trends come and go, I admire you for your classic style, and you should be proud of the way you show us that we can all bring that style into our own wardrobes, no matter what age we are. Don't be too hard on yourself- most of us can relate to your anxiety about having too many clothes and wanting to make mindful and ethical purchases, whilst still being able to make use of what we have. You are doing the best you can!
😌🙏💜 thank you Robin. You are right, the fast fashion/slow fashion issue is the most important thing. Thank you for your kind works. xx
@@EmilyElizabethMay 😊🙏
Your honesty is so appreciated! Especially with so many haul videos out there. It's not sustainable to buy and wear that many clothes. Adopting minimalist mindset is a journey, we are human and can relapse here and there, but knowing that we need to work on our self and reassess is so important. Very much looking forward to your series in finding your style again and the "minimalist" journey. Best!
Hi Emily! In 2019 I was in exactly the same position as you’re today. I realized everything that I owned was to please other people not myself. And I was sick of feeling myself miserable outside of my house wearing those clothes.
I breathed, packed all my clothes without thinking too much, only feeling, took to a second hand shop, sold everything and started a new journey.
I 📌 on Pinterest everything I saw that really brought me joy. And surprisingly, it was so easy and simple. Most of them was blazer, jeans, t-shirts or blouses.
I bought everything that I needed (just a couple of pieces) brand new bc I knew that I was taking the best decision for myself at that moment.
It’s been 2 years almost and I really have never looked back regretting, even one second. I don’t miss any piece and it REALLY reduced my anxiety.
Last year for Christmas I bought a couple of silk blouses in a second hand shop and today these are my favorite piece of clothing. More conscious of my choices. More me.
I hope it helps you.
It’s ok to feel this way, it’s human, it’s important for us as human, as women to keep our image faithful to who we are.
Love from Brazil 🇧🇷
Thank you so much. Looking forward to it.
Emily, your attitude and style make you one of my favourite CZcamsrs. Whilst you’re perhaps not feeling it at the moment your outfit ideas have impacted on my style which I’ve had great fun rediscovering over the last 12 months, less Mum uniform, more outfits that make me smile and think I look good when I look in the mirror ☺️ Spread kindness to yourself as you are to others 😘
😻 Thank you so much Victoria. This makes my heart so warm!!! 😌💜 I am so glad you are feeling so much better about your style when you look in the mirror!
Sometimes I do doubt myself and wonder if I am really helping people. So thank you for letting me know. It is both reassuring and motivating! Lots of love to you. xx
While watching this video I kept thinking how much you care about your chanel and subscribers and your honesty speaks highly of you.
Your honesty is refreshing. I have dabbled in different style personas trying to find what makes me feel most like myself. I’m getting better, but I have the clothes of numerous personas living in my closet still!
Thank you love ♥️ that’s awesome, I think it’s good to dabble so you can learn
Woops clicked enter too soon!!
😁 i am the same with the persons thing! However I do like having a few different ways of expressing my mood through my outfits, but there are still those odd things that I know I’m never going to wear out again. Like my silk slip skirt, it’s beautiful, I love it, but I just don’t wear it and don’t really plan to again. But I’ve held onto it for so long. So I really wanna tackle those items and try work out my personal style right now so I make less shopping mistakes in the future ♥️
Thank you for being genuine, we love you for this!! No guilt, we ALL goof up and you are a breath of fresh air as you share our truth. 💗💗💗💗💗
Hi Emily, I totally understand your struggle. I like your channel, it always inspires me with good ideas by styling with my existing wardrobe rather than buying new stuff. I like your consciously shopping ideas. Capsule wardrobe is a great concept, but I don’t think it would work for me. So don’t be too harsh on urself!!❤️
It’s sounds like you are growing. Try wearing what you love for the week. I have found that my job shapes my style. You have gone through so many selves and you just need to focus where and who you are now. I just went through this. I am 55 years old and struggled with letting go of old selves. I would suggest that you store what you don’t want to wear now. See who you are in a year. Thanks for sharing. We are all going through this too it’s good to know we are not alone.
Thank you Sheila! This is so reassuring to hear. I agree, I just want to focus on where and who I am now. And storing items away is a great idea! I have some spare tubs, just need to find the room 😝 😌🙏 Thank you for watching. I hope you enjoy the rest of the series xx
Really appreciate you sharing this! I’ve been through that before, especially the last few years transitioning from being a student to working in marketing full time.
The over accumulating happens to the best of us - the best thing you can do is make a plan that helps you be more intentional.
FYI, I think you look amazing in everything you wear so. 🤷♀️
Totally agree with you! An intentional plan was the first thing I did after filming this video 🥰♥️ thank you for sharing, I can see that this has happened to a lot of people over their lives.
And thank you for your kind words 🥰♥️🙏🏽 xxx
Hi Emily, let's take a step back and as you say "spread kindness". I didn't hear you say I robbed a bank or destroyed local property. A bit of prospective. Everybody goes through stages and life is about discoveries. We are always evolving. Thank you for sharing and if this confession has helped you, great. We still love the channel, keep on rocking. 😘💃
Thanks for sharing your truth!
I went from over 400 clothes to about 100 a bit over two years ago. It was hard, but I am still happy about it. I did this huge declutter of only keeping what I love, that fits and that suits my personality. Now I use a seasonal closet and store the rest. And when I buy something new, it's one in, one out! Gone is the stress about my wardrobe and style. I love shopping my own closet each season.
Good luck on your style journey! I am looking forward to follow it.
Oh wow!! This is amazing. Yes, it's all about reducing that stress about our wardrobes. I'm sure it's had a profound affect on your life, even being such a simple thing. Thank you for sharing. I hope you enjoy watching the rest of the series! xx 😌🙏💜
Thank you for your honesty and I cannot wait to follow along with you on this journey! I love seeing realistic declutters, from people who aren't going to instantly refill that space again every few weeks.
Thank you for you honesty. I too have been feeling lately that watching all these shopping hauls in general is not helpful, it just adds to consumerism and anxiety to people who cant afford it! I would rather watch how to style different pieces etc.. You're awesome! Stay real and take care 😘
Hi from New Zealand, Ditto for me. New career, new location , new age. Was thinking the same about needing to find my “new” style now my big corporate career is winding down a little. I’ve also found it’s got harder to try and weave in sustainable fashion - it’s a lot to consider so looking forward to the series.
Yes! You are in such a similar situation!! I hope the series can help you too 😌🙏💜
Oh hun, i'm so sorry... I can relate so much with what you have said! I'm currently 38 years old. I've been a piano teacher/performer (so lots of preppy clothes and night dresses), worked at a herbalist shop (boho style required :D ), and now i'm changing to psychology! Now... I came to realize what i liked in the majority of those styles and tried to pinpoint the things that were common in all of them, and then i cleaned my closet. I was pleasently surprised that now i love all my clothes, i dont try to acomodate to others. But i still dressing for occasions (for exº: i go to work in confortable but classic shoes/with heel -preppy style-, i like layering necklaces and long dresses- boho style- but with less paterns and classic cuts, etc. ). I also try to be inspired by other styles, without trying to copy them or to be so outward focused (by constantly seeing others styles and ideas). Just be you!!
Yes!!! You get it. You've been through it too. You said two things that really stood out to me... 1: don't try to accommodate to others! Love! and 2: try to be inspired by other styles without try to copy them. The latter I speak about in one of the other episodes. It's so important 😌🙏💜
@@EmilyElizabethMay You can do it!! Hugs from Portugal
Emily, you have had so many changes in your life. Moving is a major stressor in life, so are career changes. These and everything else all would contribute to anxiety and a general sense of confusion. Yet you have successfully moved, continue to make wonderful videos for us and you are going forward with plans and commitments for future goals in your life. Do not be hard on yourself at all! Looking forward to what’s coming!
This is exactly what I've come to realize about my own lifetime's worth of clothes, how it's accumulated over the years from all the different jobs. I am now sifting through finding out who i am now and letting go of the things that don't feel right anymore. It's not an easy process and you have to give it time, these things can't be hurried. I'm excited to see your process and I know it will help me with mine x
Hi Emily, Well done. If you don’t already watch ‘A small wardrobe’, Patricia is so stylish on around 30 items of clothing and she really knows her personal style.
Can’t wait to see the outcome, thanks for sharing this. Also as we get older our styles change, but I am 56 lol 🇺🇸🙏💛
Thank you Pam! Can’t wait to share more! Yes I’ve definitely seen how my style has been changing as I get older 😌 that’s why I want to be more intentional with my style, so I can grow with it and not let it get left behind 🧡 xxx
I can’t wait to watch the rest of this series! Trying to rediscover my personal style as well since moving from a cold to a warm climate, leaving an office job for WFH and updating my color palette from darker to lighter neutrals.
I am so glad you are so open. You really have inspired me to find clothes I am comfortable in and clothes that represents me rather than coping someone's style. I hope you discover your personal style and hope I could learn something through your journey.
Your honesty was really beautiful and so refreshing! I'm really looking forward to this series!
This hit home so much!
I recently started my ‘re discovering my personal style’ and my issues were the same ones you have mentioned here. I couldn’t have explained better myself!
It’s been a ride but I am so glad I decided to minimize my wardrobe and find a timeless style that works for me! Anywhere I go because is my own personal one!
I am excited to watch your journey and maybe learn some tips with you in the process !
New sub 💕
Personal style is a decades long journey. Dramatic declarations after a year in one mode that all is lost are probably a testament to youth. It's a long and winding road, enjoy the adventure, change is a part of it.
Super real honesty is not what we use see often on CZcams, even among so-called minimalists or influencers. It is much appreciated. I think you can keep the items you like :)
Reaching mid thirties ans looking back over a decade, my personal style definitely changed. Some of me even got younger lastly while my work wardrobe for office is another story 😉 I also have too many items and closets (really need to reduce what I have for moving out/marriage!) Looking forward to your upcoming series! 🙂
Love this ! You are a genuine and honest and I love your channel. I am getting ready to start a new chapter in my life with many very significant changes so I’m looking forward to following this along with you. I am 55 years young and feel even younger!... all the same, styles and desires obviously change for all of us for various reasons throughout our lives. ❤️❤️❤️.
You will find your personal style again. I think big life changes do that.
I am loving your videos because I totally lost any sense of style since having a baby and still breastfeeding a toddler and was hanging onto an enormous amount of clothes that I used to wear in my 20s and early 30s. Thanks to you and your channel I finally have the inspiration to let a lot of these clothes go and excited to find my new style in a slow fashion way. Thank you xx
I found your channel recently and I'm hooked. You're THE creator I've been looking for! 😊 You're honest and relatable. You don't tell me I need a biker jacket or blazer or whatnot to look stylish 😅 I also lost my personal style - I'm a mum now, I work from home, I live far away from the city and most of the times I don't need anything fancy. But I also don't want to be living in my sweatshirt all the time😂
Love from Poland! ❤️
It's normal to feel confused about style every now and then, specially when we want to make the right choices for ourselves. It can be overwhelming. I'm working on my personal style too. I am 55, so as a middle aged, style loving, and creative woman that doesn't feel nor look 55, it can be confusing, but I'm having fun researching CZcams, and finding inspiring videos like yours. I love your style ☺️
Don‘t worry, looking forward to the upcoming episodes! 💕
Wonderful video!! Good job!! Its such a normal process to have your style and views change as we live and learn and change. I had so many dramatic careers changes over last 50+ years and the wadrobe had to adapt accordingly. But it is also fun, to find new style, new lines, new ways to express your current lifestyle. You are so creative do not put any pressure on yourself. Have fun!!
As your life and style change your wardrobe will follow. I think that's pretty normal. Mine tends to grow and contact in cycles. Sometimes I'm a true minimalist with a capsule, and other times I need/want additions and will have a mini haul.
Do what works best for you in the moment! Don't get tied up in a numbers game. That part of minimalism isn't healthy, I think. Best to you in your project. Looking forward to the new series.
Being yourself is very important and very powerful , anything else comes to the next.
So so true. It affects many parts of your life if you are not truly being yourself. I’m looking forward to feeling more me 😌😌♥️
Good on you Emily. Half the battle is admitting to it. I moved from a rural setting to a major city almost two years ago and have struggled to find my personal style as my life is so different now. I look forward to seeing your journey/process. 💜💙💚
Thank you lovely! ♥️♥️ yes I totally think if we’re not intentional about it and don’t spend some time working on it we can definitely feel lost with our style after we move locations. I totally feel you ♥️
@@EmilyElizabethMay 😉😄
Don’t be too hard on yourself. Fashion and style are supposed to be fun as well as reflect who you are. If you’re lucky and living your best life, that definition evolves a bit every day. I always find little nuggets in your videos. Thanks for keeping it real!
Yes! I completely agree, fashion and style are meant to be fun and that's exactly what I wanna get myself back to. Thank you for saying that. I am glad you find little nuggets in my videos 😆😊 That is exactly what I want. I don't want people to come here to try to copy my style or steal my style, but to be inspired by my ideas so that they can create their own unique authentic style for themselves 🙏💜xx
Loved your message and honesty. You go, girl! It must be such a challenge to downsize when you keep getting free stuff from collabs - and you need an income, so it’s a constant balancing act. I really, really respect that you are so honest and authentic. ❤️
It’s ok for your sense of style to ebb and flow! I’m excited to see you figure out what works for you now. My favorite looks were your colorful capsule with the red leather jacket; you wear color very well.
being honest with so may viewers across the globe takes enormous amount of courage!! undoubtedly you are a very brave lady dear😍😍😍 respect to u emily!!! 😊✌
to be honest, this new series will be relatable to my lifestyle as i am yet to discover my personal style. exicted for these episodes!! 👌🙌
Love your honesty. All the best with this journey, happy to be along for it.
Greetings from Canada🇨🇦
Thanks for sharing this darl, it resonated with me so much. Made me feel not so alone! Thank you for opening up about this and the anxiety it can bring daily life.
Definitely can relate to your predicament. Love your blogs - keep them coming.
Congrats for being so honest, feel the same about my wardrobe, will get some inspiration from you!!💗🌺
Well done for showing vulnerability and taking us along on your journey that way! Finding your own, sustainable style can be really hard and I'm learning myself that it's an iterative process of learning and discovery. Enjoy it and drop the guilt, you're doing so much through your channel to help us reduce our consumption. Thank you!
So true about finding your sustainable style. I have almost finished filming the series and I am already feeling SO much clearer and happier about the direction of my style. Fashion has always been so fun for me and an exciting way to express myself, I just want to keep that fun in my life but do it mindfully, ethically and intentionally 😌🙏💜 thank you for watching. I hope you enjoy the series xx
Wow. Never expected this. Thanks for being honest. Can't wait to see the series!! Good luck 👍
Thank you Diana ♥️ I hope you enjoy the series, can’t wait to share more xx
It's ok!! It will work out. Everyone collects TOO much stuff...if we live long enough.
🥰😌 very true! Thank you Barbara ♥️
I think a lot of us have been upended this past year- I am trying to figure out my style as the world begins to reopen where I live. I have worn a v-neck sweater and leggings for 14 months. Looking forward to your new series!
Yes!!! So true!! This past year has definitely added to this confusion as well. Thank you lovely, I hope you enjoy the series ♥️♥️♥️
I remember about 3/4 years ago I learnt so much about ethical and sustainable fashion and there was SOO much information out there, it overwhelmed me and I lost my personal style too! I have had 2 more children since then and I've felt more lost than ever. The best you can do is be yourself and in that you'll find your style again! I'm looking forward to following along on your journey with this x
Oh this is so helpful! I can see how learning about the ethical & sustainable fashion industry can contribute to it as well!!
You’re so right! Being yourself is so important, that’s exactly what I want from this... to just not be afraid to be myself. I’ve also just realised that sharing my style on CZcams sometimes makes me feel intimidated by potential negative comments, and I really want to stop being afraid of that ♥️ thank you for this comment, it got me thinking a lot. Gosh, I love how much I learn from you guys ♥️🙏🏽🙌 xxx
I can’t believe it! I’m in the same situation. It will be very useful for me. Thank you for being honest and thank you in advance for your help 😍😘
Emily you are being very hard on yourself. It is very difficult to go against the grain of a consumer culture. And making the kind of changes that you are trying to make takes more time than you are allowing yourself. Don’t forget the pandemic has added to our changing life styles. I’m 68 years old and the clothing that worked for me even four years ago has very little use now. My goodness! Even going to a wedding now is so complicated! Venues range from semi formal to outdoor garden to camping weekends! LOL! Go easy on yourself! All is well.
I can relate to this 100%. Thanks for the video.
Don’t be too hard on yourself, that’s a ton of changes! When I lost 35 lbs. two years ago and needed new clothes (I altered what I could, but two sizes is a lot), I completely changed my style. I was getting close to 60, and was suddenly just sick of trying to fit in by wearing the California Boho style. I didn’t think it suited me anymore, so I went back to the simple, classic style of my 20-40s, updated as needed. I’m so much happier with my style and wardrobe now. Ironically, that Boho style is now becoming popular in other countries, but it looks very aging-hippie in my age range. I’m not old enough to have been an original hippie, but this style made me look as if I was ten years older.
Funny this cropped up, today. I was watching one of your videos last week and my mind went immediately to this, "She sure has tons of clothing for the ideas of simplicity and style she promotes." It is an issue/trap we all fall into one time or another and I appreciate your honesty and apology. Growth comes with growing pains. Bless you on your new journey to your personal style.
Oh wow! Yes, you noticed exactly what I did. Thank you for letting me know 😌 Thank you for watching lovely xx
U are so creative with your outfits. U have an innate sense of style, even when you're thrifting! U will find your way back to your style for this time in your life.🙃
🙏🏽🙏🏽 thank you so much lovely 🥰♥️
Looking forward to this💜
You are an inspiration! Keep up the good work! Hugs from Sweden
Good for you to realise your conflict & share it. Keep up your good work. 🙂
Emily!! First of all, thank you for being so honest and open about this, you are clearly quite emotional about this and I hope you're not giving yourself too hard a time about it. Everything you said is so relatable!! I thought I'd got to quite a good space in my wardrobe but sometimes I feel so confused and uninspired. Don't get me wrong, I have A LOT of work still to do, I still shop, as mindfully as I can, but for example I thrifted a dress last weekend for £5, which I now am doubting massively, I think it's a fantasy self dress :( Anyway, I can completely relate and especially with life as it is, the pandemic, working from home, not going out, blah blah blah, it's really hard. I am so excited for this series!! Thank you again for your transparency and taking the time to address this and involve us along the way. Keep a smile on that beautiful face xxx
I’m looking forward to seeing your journey. I have no idea what my style is anymore, and COVID has not helped!
Love it! Your honest style and is why I subscribed :)
Can’t wait! I’m in same quandary. Lockdown really changed my style - it devolved into athleusure all the time!
So true!!! Lockdown really has had a huge impact as well!! Thank you for watching and I hope you enjoy the series 💜x
Hi Emily, thank you very much for this honest and very relatable video. I’ve been feeling the same way but didn’t understand why. I have a closet full of office clothes that I can’t get rid of (bc we will eventually return to work) but I’ve been working from home for over a year, so I only reach for my old casual wear/sweats/leggings. Which isn’t in line with my personal style. However, because I’ve also been trying to have a low consumption lifestyle, I haven’t wanted to buy new casual loungewear. So I’m very excited to see your journey! I recommend Alyssa Beltempo on CZcams for finding your style and inspiration with working with your current wardrobe. Good luck!
Can’t wait for the next episode!
I understand💕 people close to me also been saying that i have too much clothes, i like every item i'v got tho 😅😅 thank you for the youre honesty 💗💗💗 and
If you like and wear everything and it doesn’t cause you any anxiety then i think it’s totally fine to have lots of things! You can have a lot of fun with a big wardrobe too ♥️ sadly for me it’s been causing too much stress. Thanks for watching lovely and I hope you enjoy the series 🧡🥰😙 much love to you
Thanks for being so honest!
Of course 😌 Thank you for watching
I don't have a large wardrobe by any means, however, I am guilty of holding onto certain pieces from different "eras" (kinda like T. Swift haha). I think there are certain things from each era that has their place :) Can't wait to watch the series! It's going to be great
this was so beautiful thank you 💛
I was, and am, so bored during the pandemic that I developed an online shopping addiction. I have to cut my enormous wardrobe down to size. When it cools down here in California, which won’t be until November, I’m going to tackle it. I’m going to really analyze my bad purchases, and keep notes, so I don’t repeat the same mistakes.
I learnt something a long time ago from my brother. As I was constantly moving cities like every year. He said have just enough clothes to fit in one suitcase so it’s easier to move. At the time, my shoes alone took up a whole suitcase on their own and maybe I could squeeze some in boxes that weren’t full. Bear in mind that I live in a county with 4 distinct seasons and winter jackets take a lot of room in suitcases but I saw the wisdom in his advice and it really helped me keep my wardrobe small with only items I actually wear. Having a small wardrobe has enabled me to adapt easily when my life style changed as I could easily swap for clothes that fit my current lifestyle and I didn’t always have to buy that much since my wardrobe was already small. My actual wardrobe is big but the clothes in it are only a handful 😂.I tend to have a capsule wardrobe every season of 12 to 14 items not counting jackets or shoes and some items can be borrowed from other seasons. I don’t necessary count or is strict with the number but 4 sweaters for the winter is plenty I found as I have cardigans too that could go with my t-shirts and sleeveless tops from the summer. So am not buying any more sweaters until I let one go.I also had to learn not to be emotionally attached to my clothing. I see a lot of ppl do this and I was the same. Still had my prom dress in my closet or several evening gowns I had worn only once but I learnt it is more rewarding to give it to someone else and let it have a life outside of my closet as I am not wearing it. I used to go out and buy a dress for every wedding. I stopped doing that I wear my work clothes to weddings . I work in an office so I’ve got dress pants and skirts which I could bear with a fancy top. Or a full suit which I wear to work with a lacy cami works for weddings as well. I look forward to you documenting your journey. It will definitely be eye opening. Mine was.
Please don’t beat yourself up about this. I am a 66 year old whose style has changed over the years. Also my body shape changed so that means changing or adapting style. I have hung onto clothes and also sold or given them to charity over the years . It’s perfectly normal. I also have clothes that represent different aspects of my life so there is no way I could reduce the number down to even 50! I do what others here have suggested - pack away out of season clothes and formal stuff I don’t wear often. I’ve recently retired so have quite a lot of formal work clothes but I’m experimenting in restyling how I can adapt them to a different lifestyle. If any don’t fit in, I’ll pass them on. I’m so glad I didn’t de clutter some items over the years as I find new ways to wear them. I don’t believe we have ‘one style’ but our personalities and lives mean we have different styles that suit occasions and moods.
Thank you Vilma, this is so helpful 😌 I definitely wont be focussing on having a certain number of clothes, not at all. Just making sure everything I own really reflects me and my style and no one else. It's been tricky trying to be myself here on the channel but also trying to show a variety of different styles different people like, but I've realised that the most important thing is to just be my authentic self and that will help inspire people with their own styles. I totally agree about the "one style" thing. I've always felt as though I like different styles and I dress for my mood. So I have kept that in mind when going through the series 💜 Thank you again for watching, and I hope you enjoy the rest xxx
One of the first videos I ever saw of you was wearing your grandma and grandpas clothes. You had this fresh authentic style. I encourage you to watch it again. If you ask me that person is you.
Paula, you are bang on! 💜 I know this video well, it was one of the first videos where I showed my appreciation for vintage fashion and I was so excited about it!!! And then sadly I lost several subscribers from releasing that video. I know that's not the important thing, but at the time I thought "wow, I've just shown part of my authentic self and people don't like it."
I look back on this now and I'm like "EMILY, you idiot! The most important thing is to be yourself and the right people will stay and the wrong people will go. And thats OKAY."
So yes, you are so right. Mixing vintage in with modern pieces is 100% me and always has been, and I lost my way a little bit in my mid 20s when I was chasing trends.
I hope to speak about this all towards the end of the series in a little video about what I have learnt. Your comment really got me thinking and made this so much more clear in my mind. So for that, thank you so much 💜 xxx
I agree completely I loved that video, too!!! as I’m 47 and have some older items which I love to mix in with more modern clothes and I loved those videos. I know that numbers can be stressful as I’m starting my nutrition business and social media can also be a thorn in our side ! one of my friends once said ‘comparison is the thief of joy’ - try not to look at the numbers and more the quality of people you are attracting!
Style is not something you've found once und have for the rest of your live, it's a process. You don't have to feel bad about it. If your clothes don't make you happy anymore, just get rid of them (responsibly) and enjoy discovering the new you. I have big wardrobe and don't even have an "excuse" to need it for my job. I'm trying to be more mindfull, and you are a big inspiration, but I'll never be a minimalist in this area, it's just too much fun, fashion and style are my way to express my creativity.
Awesome! Good for you!
Thank you Susy! 😌🙏💜 x
this is interesting. Maybe you can keep 2 separate clothing collections. One that's just you, your favorites. The other collection can be things you received from colabs, etc...For me, I would really need to keep the real me separate while having all the other sort of work related things and varieties to show your viewers in another area. I can totally understand how you can feel scattered in this line of work.
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What you can do is: keep only the clothes that fit your own style and for your general videos on style, trends and fashion you can show pictures of other people to show what you are talking about (from Pinterest, Instagram, etc..) It will actually help your viewers to understand how to keep your own style, tweek the trends to your advantage, use what you have in your closet and buy with intention!!!!
I enjoy having a larger wardrobe because I match style to mood as well as situations. I have a personal style of at least 5 or 6 personas for want of a better name. Minimalist in my house is yes but not in my personal expression
I appreciate this 100%. I think it’s so nice being able to express myself with my clothes. I don’t want this to change. But I just knew that the amount of things I have/the lack of storage I have was affecting my anxiety and mental clarity. I hope I can reduce it and find what I love again, and also still be able to express myself creatively 😌😌♥️ As for you, if it doesn’t give you any anxiety then absolutely keep and treasure your things 😻 I think that’s so nice to be able to wear items you’ve had for years and years and mix old with new ♥️ xxx
Age is not really an issue, everything is a matter of energy and spirit
Thanks for sharing.
♥️🙏🏽 thank you for watching xx
I love this and what is coming... i bought things second hand, better fabrics, things that i liked and thought i would love... girl was i wrong, for the 3 time i have things that make me feel and look like 💩..🤣 now i have to declutter and waisted money again too🤦♀️
I feel you! It can be really tricky! But sometimes we have to make mistakes to learn what we love. So as long as you are learning from it you are making progress lovely 🥰♥️ xxx
Maybe this is your style. In the book I Don't Have A Thing to Wear there is a concept called 'mood dresser' which I think describes me well. Maybe you are a Mood Dresser as well, so you need to keep most of your stuff, just organise them neatly.
That does sound like my style! I always dress to my mood. I will hold onto a lot of my things, but I can't have everything I have now, we don't have the room to store it and that adds to my anxiety. xx
You’re a sweetheart
Hy Emily
This Problem is the problem of millions of women😂
Marie Kondo method Could be the answer
I like your Fashion Taste very much , Thank you !!!
I also like the pictures of your Country, the landscape
I m looking forward every time
Stay healthy
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Check out Christina Mychas’ channel! She went through the same thing and has shared her journey and it’s so helpful!
Oh really!!? Thank you gorge! I cant wait to watch!
I think Covid has helped many of us rethink our lifestyles and gravitate towards authenticity!
Por Favor !!! No Exageres ★★★★★ ♥♥♥♥♥
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