I find this extremely relatable, constanly trying to use the time I have investing it in entretaining activities just not to feel the empty anxiousness that comes out of inactivity. Is like im racing towards leisure to stop thinking or feeling, to deprive myself of just being. Its dufficult to take this habit into action (nowadays finding distractions is as easy as breathing) but Ill try. By the way, Im also reading Dostoyevski, its enlightening
Getting yourself off of distractions is a gradual process; it cannot achieved in one giant leap. As a first step, just become consciously aware of the empty anxiety within you, then overtime you will start to get a sense of how to combat this anxiety. Also, Dostoyevski sure is an author that gets under you skin.
@@joan3338 It is not the strongest species that survives, nor the most intelligent, if not the most receptive to change- Einstein, biologist (660 BC-1900 AD)
Not totally relevant, but a Stoic quote I like regarding contentment: "Do not indulge in dreams of having what you have not, but reckon up the chief of the blessings you do possess, and then thankfully remember how you would crave for them if they were not yours." - Marcus Aurelius
@@faek364 i think it's a way of you remember yourself of never acting with ingratitude with things you possess, you can still fight for better things and a better life.
I always thought that my life was boring and maybe it is. But what I learned is that when I was saying "my life is boring" i was an outside observer of it, meaning "my life is not interesting to watch" but as soon as i became an inside observer, not seeing my life as some movie to be watched, it became quite interesting because then i could "see" my mind, that which an outside observer of your life cannot see, and turns out my mind is quite far from boring😄 (My life might be boring but I'm not bored because my mind is not boring)
Boring is good. It means your house is not on fire or a crazy guy is not chasing you with a knife. Or living with a narcissist that makes your life a living hell.
wishing won't help yourself when you were 18. be happy that you got this insight now! appreciate that at 50, you are this knowledgeable and interested! like another reply by Aya, what would you have changed? there would be no point in wondering what would have happened because it didn't happen. edit: be thankful that your 18-year-old self contributed towards this point. even if you tried to indulge yourself in this guilt and sadness, what would everything else be for? all your work and interest in these things, it would all be for nothing because you wouldn't acknowledge it, but rather the idea of another reality that you cannot reach.
@@maddiacc i don't think his statement isn't supposed to be that deep lol, but yeah u have a great point. Edit: is it isn't or is when you're already using don't?
@@Jordan_Dossou But I don't want to because everyone I am with are extremely immature, my school friends have a brain that is a size of a peanut, and non my family think BIG and work productively like me, I just feel like I am an eagle born in a place of sheep.
We celebrate the same shit every year, watch the same remade movies and listen to the same remade songs, and deal with the same bs at work or school everyday. Yea, life is boring, and only for the awakend.
@Adhila Akbar yeah but if all is purposeless, why is there fun in it. Um, why should life be fun? Whats the problem in life being boring and meaningless. Whats the problem in not having thoughts, or goals. Life is.just a word, everything is just a word. So how can you communicate the truth in words which are just words. This is a nameless world, there is no emotion, experience, silence, life. :W bingo sorry for disturbing you
@@blackman67 boring usually doesn’t feel that good. Fun usually makes you release chemicals that makes you feel good. At the end of the day I think it’s your choice to make of course
@@Yararar yup no matter how hard one tries, can't live a few minutes empty without any stimulation. Our whole human life is based on entertainment, how depressing.
@@blackman67 I think you’re being quite pessimistic and extreme with your thinking. Peace and stillness is the other side of coin, which makes you appreciate fun and excitement, and vice versa. For example, after an exciting day at an amusement park with the big crazy rollercoasters which give you lots of adrenaline, you just want some peace and quiet, and that’s just as lovely. But living with only stillness would eventually grow to be boring.
@@Yararar Ok. We all gonna die anyway, so lets enjoy to the fullest. But what if there is no such environment for feeling happy, and not even an escape from it. Like in lockdown, being stuck at home. The desire for happiness now led to adopt bad habits and routine. Isn't peace something that should remain forever in us? If we are merely chasing it, it never stays with us. After you have enjoyed in the amusement park, after sometime you are again bored. And thus, run after another entertaining thing. This cycle of pleasure and boredom never ends throughout our lives. I'm questioning why is that so. Why on earth can't we escape from this cycle and live a new type of life. All kinda sounds philosophical and ya, theres no hope. Just left with a final conclusion, "human life is suffering, its the continued struggle for survival. Death is the ending of boredom." Being happy forever is impossible as boredom and fear exist. I may live in a wonderful place with all luxuries, but boredom will definitely arrive one day. Huh, this one was more depressing than the previous.
It partially sounds like a Dopamine Detox, it has similar effects. Without stimulation for 24 hours, your dopamine levels heighten at smaller things (or something like that, at least.)
They say (and my experience makes me agree with this) that the dopamine detox is more effective when done consistently over time rather than as a 24 hour thing. Also, you're right about the association, it is interesting how Robin didn't even mention the words "dopamine" and "detox" whilst referring to a very similar concept.
You just put into words how I've been living my life since 16 (i'm 19 now). Reading a good book or watching a good show or drinking some good tea makes me so happy! People call me an optimist and associate me with happy-go-lucky characters and I love every second of it. It's not that I am not stressed, unhappy, overwhelmed, but whenever I can, I choose not to be that way, especially around other people.
I have Tourette's, and it's so weird, because before having it, I couldnt stand sitting still. But now, after a couple years of having it, silence and having a place to just sit and relax is a blessing.
Overstimulation is a hidden stressor I feel like in a lot of people's lives. It's just, other people don't react to it like those with things like I do do.
This is so precious, people don't really realize this but being contented of oneself is the first step of self-love. With contentment, you know your worth and you stop craving at the external things to prove your worth. With contentment, nothing is gonna take away your self-worth. And I could go on and on and on about how important self-love is in building better and lasting relationships with your loved ones and new people. I still struggle with this issue tho, but I can't wait to be free from my cravings of external validations.
I have the humble impression that deep down you may be a bit of a poet as well as a writer. The ancient Greek word for poet is: "poetees". It literally means "maker/creator". In that sense God is a poetees. I think you are content on your own because you -like many intellectual individuals- have created an inner world for yourself which begins to appear richer than the daily life around you. You probably enjoy your solitude because it allows you to observe yourself, your contemplations, your observations, your intellectual journey, your 'vita contemplativa'. Being alone allows one to be with his own self. If your own self is fun, creative, original, then being alone would naturally be quite enjoyable. This is a gift I think. But of course we all have our own infinitely rich separate experiences, funnily infinitely different yet similar...
Same he was in my recommendation couple of days ago and saw the thumbnail and I was like "oh a really cute guy who likes books!" But then I heard his voice and the way he speak like damn... 😲😳
I personally had it the other way around. Subscribed for the wisdom lol went on a watch binge one day and after a while I was like "Damn he kinda cute actually lemme watch another video" LMAO
Well said! I miss the time when I was totally content with being alone. Evening walks at the park, checking books at the bookstores, listening to soft music, that was all I needed. Meditation was the main reason for it, for me, personally. Nowadays, I fail to do meditation regularly and start to have negative perspectives on my alone times. Now is the time to pick up the habit again. : )
Recently discovered your channel. I'm 45, and beginning to notice my own intellectual decline-- it was your videos about 'getting more out of reading' first caught my eye. I've embraced the "boring life for real happiness" since college and I can tell you from decades of experience: simplicity is king. The ability to be alone with yourself, to set aside our craving for distractions, and just quietly BE, is powerful and empowering. My life has become cluttered up in recent years, however, as my psyche has just felt assailed by the general malaise of the world... and I hope you will be pleased to know that your channel is helping me to gently run a comb through all those tangles, and find my way back to that core of simplicity, of taking time for quality and richness of experience, that is dear to my heart and fundamental to my being. Thanks for what you do, and keep up the great work. Stay boring, king.
9:00 - where he was talking about making pancakes and simple things "So do you see the profound benefits of developing a taste for subtlety..." This part especially reminded me of a quote I read in my favorite quote book: 💙 "To find the air and the water exhilarating; to be refreshed by a morning walk or an evening saunter; to be thrilled by the stars at night; to be elated over a bird's nest, or over at wildflower in spring- these are some of the rewards of the simple life." -John Burroughs
I felt this to a certain extent and i never payed attention to it. I took a year off before medical school, i lost all my friends, got depressed and lost interest in all my past hobbies nd was incredibly bored and miserable. So much so that coming down to the end i had even started becoming used to and kind of comfortable in the boredom and solitude. When i started med school, even though i was stressed, i was relieved that i wasnt bored
i just wanna say that you seem to me like a beautiful and wise soul and there's always so much joy in watching you talk about things that are truly worthwhile. thanks for this and all your other videos
Your life isn’t boring. That’s exactly I want to be doing on holidays. It really keeps you grounded and appreciate the simpler things in life. I ran cross country, went to school, and conversed with a small group of friends. I don’t seek thrills in the ostentatious things because soon people will get sick of those or even become less appreciative. It’s so important to keep life simple.
The cause of the hustle culture and short attention span is due to the media. Marketing through social media implemented algorithms that captivate the viewer on the website for a long time. Also fomo. Humans just want to socialize and feel like they belong. People are just wired differently and have different fears and wants
I love that phrase "a taste for subtlety." I've recently found your channel and it really resonates with me. I've definitely a fan of the simple and peaceful things of life, but I've been more "agitated" with college in full swing. Making more time to just be in silence or appreciate simple things, not telling myself I should be doing something more superficially exciting, is really groundbreaking.
You. I don't really watch your videos regularly. But when I do, you really help me a lot. Like it's just relieving to see someone with thoughts I really admire talking to me.
Wow.. i’ve watched several ted talks, online gurus on their take on life, loneliness and how to deal with it..suprisingly what you said is far more relatable and simple, thank you very much.. we all need to hear this.. you make boring life sounds so cool !! Thanks robin, a lot 🤗
Just wanted to say this really struck a chord with me, I very much find peace in solitude while enjoying my Sundays with friends. I hope you are just as content a year later :-)
Honestly, I really needed this video right now and I'm grateful for coming across it. You make some wonderful points and have a good outlook. I've been struggling with finding joy in anything I do for... a while now. And the response when I voice this to loved ones is to keep looking for that one thing that will make me happy. But maybe I ought to try the opposite, and learn to be content with doing nothing. Thanks :)
I have watched a fair amount of your videos and this is probably one of the best. It is very relatable to me and my problems with the madness of modern life. Thank you.
I really wish I could have a real conversation with you. This channel makes me think about many things, a real one to one conversation would be so enriching
I love this! I don't really know how to describe it but it's like i've never found someone who expressed my inner doubt and thoughts like "why do people think having a calm routine is bad?" I don't know, your channel is like all the conversations I've always wanted to have but had no one to talk to.
Because a routine is a routine. Its monotonous. Its always the same. You would have to enjoy the little things so that it can become something special and fun, and that just sounds .... yeah, boring....
esto es precioso, realmente eres un joya, Robin siempre me sentí mal por abrumarme con tantos estímulos, así es como cerré mis redes sociales, la gente lo encuentra extraño... siento que ahora llevo una vida mas tranquila y feliz tus videos son comida para el alma y el pensamiento gracias por compartirlo! thanks for sharing!
It showed up in my recommendations at the right time. I've been struggling to put the phone down and to simply enjoy the sounds of reality, the beauty of my surroundings (the walls of my house because: pandemic). In the last few days I've been having strong headaches and my eyes aren't in a good condition too. By taking your videos's advices, I'm trying to spend some time alone, just me, a pen and a notebook. It's not even close to a long, quality time in solitude, but I'm slowly getting some result out of it. I've been writing again (in portuguese, don't worry, because as you can see my English is not fluent level yet lol) and it is the same as saving myself. Thanks for all of your videos, Waldun. I really appreciate how passionate you are about exchanging thoughts with others and growing together. (Also, I want a boo too 😔✊🏻✊🏻)
”Very little is needed to make a happy life; it is all within yourself, in your way of thinking.” (Marcus Aurelius) I am glad I found your channel. Congratulations on the ideas you promote! I highly recommend an interesting documentary that I have seen recently called "Room to Breathe". Hope you enjoy it!
I feel the same way as you do, and I’ve been feeling this way since I was 15 years old. Everyone mistakes it for melancholia and I’m frequently labelled as loner and called names and told that I’m wasting my youth! For the longest time I felt that there’s something wrong with me until recently where I learned that it’s just my nature
I enjoyed this so much. It reminds me a lot of the work done by a professor of mine who focuses a lot on the topic of isolation and how it can be beneficial to our minds. I think its really important to explore an alternative to the constant influx of media we face, even if it's only for a little while. Thanks for sharing this, it inspires me to open up about my own thoughts and reflections.
I agree! It's great to spend time alone and in quiet to just enjoy the small things in life. I have friends that feel off if they aren't doing something like work or going out to events ect. But I think its pleasurable to just be alone with your thoughts and just enjoy learning about yourself. Then, you aren't as concerned with showing people what you're doing for validation or proof of your own success because you understand that people's approval doesn't matter. Also when you stop doing things to impress people or for public opinion you can start to just cherish what you do as precious memories with the people you love.
In terms of activities we're very similar. I start with intense outdoor exercise (running) because it's the only thing that wakes me up. I do it mainly for concentration. It allows me to give the maximum with thinking activities. Then for every hour I spend doing something with my brain, I walk for 15-30 minutes. I don't relax with TV or social media. I have to go outside and move! I think I need to have as little external stimulation as possible during a break. Also, by walking around not forcing myself to think about anything in particular, I usually think distractedly about things and that's usually when I get some really good ideas (about all kinds of things). To me this is like giving the subconscious time to work, and letting the thoughts rise out of the subconscious into the conscious brain, where I can actually grab them. Though my objective when walking is really just to have a break, and feel disconnected from everything (whilst not looking at a phone, of course!). Then I discovered the bonus of ideas seeping their way into those breaks!
Why these videos doesn't have more views? You're awesome man!. The thing about sitting in a room alone with nothing it's one of the things I do whenever I'm agitated with so many things to do, never thought It was a cool way to clear my mind and also be more 'content' I guess. What you said In your video is more than an advice, thank you!. I'll suscribe right it away, you deserve more suscribers. Greeting from Argentina
finally someone who explained exactly what i feel. wouldn't call myself an introvert or a boring person, quiet contradictory. i just like to enjoy moments of solitude and nothingness and be aware of my being, not trying to fill those little moments with something completely irrelevant. Also Dostoyevsky is an amazing autor, would recommend you Notes from the Underground
Well, I have been in Solitude mode all my life, not a chosen one but thrust upon me probably and lately I have been going all gaga about how I am incomplete or any experience is incomplete with this or that - being all materialistic. I had been bored to death today(CZcams/INSTA). Actually I forced myself to watch this video only because I find your voice attractive. And boom the words you spoke here is making me thinking!!!! From past many years all I did was to just fill my time with social media and blame some or the other thing to be the reason why I am at this stupid place I am at right now. I knew all of these things already but you changed my perspective towards this issue. The doing nothing at all sounds sooooo good and peaceful.......my heart feels alive already. Smiles.
It's because of the reward chemicals in our brains, I think social media and the internet can overstimulate our brains and make us addicted which inevitably puts us into withdrawals.
Yes: I'm trying to get used not to fall into temptation and just get bored. It's incredible how much even the most daunting activity seems exciting after just five minutes of boredom, and it truly relaxes your brain and gives you time to think.
I'm not quite certain if this relates (because of my poor knowledge of the fact, but it might be insightful to someone who knows more of this), but Sartre, I believe had this sort of idea about reaching the truth of things in this world, by merely describing how they impress themselves upon the subject. In that way, even drinking a hot cup of tea, or listening to Jazz etc. could be very profound experiences. Each and every phenomenon's truth would lie in your description of them. ...And that state of focusing on each phenomenon in such detailed manner reminded me of the sense of content you are describing. In that state, every little things feels more...real, and more...impressing upon you. As if you are truly present within each and every surrounding happenings.
This is a very interesting topic. You're there. Nice and educational. Happiness is base from what gives you contentment. I mean you can be the richest man or woman in the world but if there's no contentment, you would always find something to be soar at and plainly ask for more, bringing no true bliss in life. Love the video and the content of it. Keep it up brother nice.
I agree so much with this! For me I have two places of contentment. The first place is to be outside, but doing nothing, either by the sea or walking in the woods just to close my eyes and breathe and simply exist. The second place is doing artwork or drawing, I feel content when I'm letting my imagination and ideas pour out into something tangible. There's a theory actually that by spending a day doing nothing, no screens, no books, no games, no meeting with friends is really good for your mental health. It follows the idea that for the most part, we are overloaded with endorphins because we're always doing something or interacting with things. The overload of stimuli leads to an increase in apathy and depression because there's simply so much that it doesn't impact you anymore. Taking a break allows our brains to recover from the overstimulation and we can then feel more happy and fulfilled by the things we enjoy.
I just found this video and made me feel so great. Cause my whole life I've been chasing that void actually. Chasing to feel something like happiness or as you say contentment. But do I really need to chase things to be really happy? I don't think so anymore. I will definitely be trying to find out more about myself and other peoples' thoughts from books. I don't want to feel bored anymore. I don't even want to hear boring anymore. It's crazy but I hope I can be really appreciated for indulging the time by myself.
Its a good reminder that to have a pause in life and to soak in your true nature, because sometimes throughout the day we identify with all the stress and anger and daily things without taking a moment to process what exactly we’re doing or how we feel. And once it all soaks in, you feel more present and harmonious with connecting with the space and yourself
Where can i find people like you around me. All i am surrounded by are the types you described early in the video. This things happened to me this week. I went to visit my friends after a long time of self analysis. Turns out they still wanna party, buy stuff to be content. It hit me that these things no longer make me happy I find em useless and of no importance. Then a thought came when and what changed in me. How can i enjoy with my friends because now our topic of interest are poles apart.it was a weird experience. Thank you for explaining.
This video reminded me of 2 quotes: "All of humanity's problems stem from man's inability to sit quietly in a room alone." ― Blaise Pascal & "Millions long for immortality who don't know what to do with themselves on a rainy Sunday afternoon."-Susan Ertz
"The best of life is life lived quietly, where nothing happens but our calm journey through the day, where change is imperceptible and the precious life is everything." John McGahern.
OK! Gonna try this! I'm 20 years old and currently have no motivation for life,everything seems boring and I feel very lazy and unmotivated to do anything. I can't see a clear picture of where I'm heading. Hope this exercise helps me in some way.
I read this quote once about an olympic gold medalist. It went something like "Excellence is really mundane, people imagine what my life is like and most of it was my routine of practice in the pool". Cheers Robin.
Contentment can be achieved regardless of your financial situation. A man can be living in harsh conditions with his family yet be the happiest man alive. Becoming that is a goal of mine. Contentment is the complete disinterest in materialism, and what life has to offer. As if you’re ready to die tomorrow, and you’d be happy, you’d be full of life! You’ve got “enough” of life. To not want anymore than you need. That is a beautiful state to be in. In Arabic its called “zohood” I beautiful word that puts that all in one meaning.
i agree. nice natural approach to explain dopamine detox. life is beautiful. theres a fine line between sadness because of the comparison between diffrent lifestyles and my 'boring' lifestyle according to modern sociatial standarts. and happiness and a sense of advantage over the majority. but life is boring and sad without a purpose . specifically an objective purpose that determines the purpose of the individual person according to their strenghts and interests
Hey I dont know if you're ever gonna read this, I'm really late to this but thank you. Thank you for all that you do, I dont think I can ever be as knowledgeable as you but the least I can do is try. Much love, I know you said you would shy away(social anxiety) if I ever got to meet you, but damn, I can only hope Ps: when you said "no girlfriends coming over to caress you" I lost it😂
I find this extremely relatable, constanly trying to use the time I have investing it in entretaining activities just not to feel the empty anxiousness that comes out of inactivity. Is like im racing towards leisure to stop thinking or feeling, to deprive myself of just being. Its dufficult to take this habit into action (nowadays finding distractions is as easy as breathing) but Ill try.
By the way, Im also reading Dostoyevski, its enlightening
Getting yourself off of distractions is a gradual process; it cannot achieved in one giant leap. As a first step, just become consciously aware of the empty anxiety within you, then overtime you will start to get a sense of how to combat this anxiety.
Also, Dostoyevski sure is an author that gets under you skin.
my thoughts EXACTLY. i relate to this guys story, his habits, his life path, and we are similar age. it’s WILD
@@johnster02 me too...lol
It is incredible to have someone put that feeling into words.
hey there! How's life now? It's been 4 years; hoping for the best
Einstein himself said "The monotony and solitude of a quite life stimulates the creative mind"
He also said "Don't believe shit I say on the internet."
Still, you have a point though.
@@joan3338 can't even stick to your point
@@joan3338 It is not the strongest species that survives, nor the most intelligent, if not the most receptive to change- Einstein, biologist (660 BC-1900 AD)
I envy that state.
Hmm I think we have e many geniuses not all work the same as Einstein most need stimuli to their liking ..
Not totally relevant, but a Stoic quote I like regarding contentment:
"Do not indulge in dreams of having what you have not, but reckon up the chief of the blessings you do possess, and then thankfully remember how you would crave for them if they were not yours." - Marcus Aurelius
Wow! Thanks for sharing it with us💕
Yes thanks
he was a king he had everything, you might not have much, you don't have the luxury to say that. Go out and fight for things idiot :)
@@faek364 i think it's a way of you remember yourself of never acting with ingratitude with things you possess, you can still fight for better things and a better life.
@@faek364 shut up
I always thought that my life was boring and maybe it is. But what I learned is that when I was saying "my life is boring" i was an outside observer of it, meaning "my life is not interesting to watch" but as soon as i became an inside observer, not seeing my life as some movie to be watched, it became quite interesting because then i could "see" my mind, that which an outside observer of your life cannot see, and turns out my mind is quite far from boring😄
(My life might be boring but I'm not bored because my mind is not boring)
Yeah. If you think about it, most fictional characters have "boring" lifes but because it's noy ours we think it's amazing
your mind is not boring so your life is not boring. I really like this dude!
ორდინალური ცხოვრება ასწორებს!
@@user-gv5te8es2o ნაკლები თავის ტკივილია😌
Boring is good. It means your house is not on fire or a crazy guy is not chasing you with a knife. Or living with a narcissist that makes your life a living hell.
found this channel today and I feel like every video you're saying everything that's been on my mind for the past year. Thanks.
Same
my thoughts EXACTLY. i relate to this guys story, his habits, his life path, and we are similar age. it’s WILD
Its crazy how there are always people with similar mentalities as us
Me too
I am 50 and wish I had your insight when I was 18.
What would you have done if that was true? What would have changed!
wishing won't help yourself when you were 18. be happy that you got this insight now! appreciate that at 50, you are this knowledgeable and interested! like another reply by Aya, what would you have changed? there would be no point in wondering what would have happened because it didn't happen.
edit: be thankful that your 18-year-old self contributed towards this point. even if you tried to indulge yourself in this guilt and sadness, what would everything else be for? all your work and interest in these things, it would all be for nothing because you wouldn't acknowledge it, but rather the idea of another reality that you cannot reach.
@@maddiacc i don't think his statement isn't supposed to be that deep lol, but yeah u have a great point.
Edit: is it isn't or is when you're already using don't?
I am 15 and I wish I had the knowledge of someone who is 50
@@Jordan_Dossou
But I don't want to because everyone I am with are extremely immature, my school friends have a brain that is a size of a peanut, and non my family think BIG and work productively like me, I just feel like I am an eagle born in a place of sheep.
We celebrate the same shit every year, watch the same remade movies and listen to the same remade songs, and deal with the same bs at work or school everyday. Yea, life is boring, and only for the awakend.
@Adhila Akbar yeah but if all is purposeless, why is there fun in it. Um, why should life be fun? Whats the problem in life being boring and meaningless. Whats the problem in not having thoughts, or goals. Life is.just a word, everything is just a word. So how can you communicate the truth in words which are just words. This is a nameless world, there is no emotion, experience, silence, life. :W bingo sorry for disturbing you
@@blackman67 boring usually doesn’t feel that good. Fun usually makes you release chemicals that makes you feel good. At the end of the day I think it’s your choice to make of course
@@Yararar yup no matter how hard one tries, can't live a few minutes empty without any stimulation. Our whole human life is based on entertainment, how depressing.
@@blackman67 I think you’re being quite pessimistic and extreme with your thinking. Peace and stillness is the other side of coin, which makes you appreciate fun and excitement, and vice versa. For example, after an exciting day at an amusement park with the big crazy rollercoasters which give you lots of adrenaline, you just want some peace and quiet, and that’s just as lovely. But living with only stillness would eventually grow to be boring.
@@Yararar Ok. We all gonna die anyway, so lets enjoy to the fullest. But what if there is no such environment for feeling happy, and not even an escape from it. Like in lockdown, being stuck at home. The desire for happiness now led to adopt bad habits and routine. Isn't peace something that should remain forever in us? If we are merely chasing it, it never stays with us. After you have enjoyed in the amusement park, after sometime you are again bored. And thus, run after another entertaining thing. This cycle of pleasure and boredom never ends throughout our lives. I'm questioning why is that so. Why on earth can't we escape from this cycle and live a new type of life. All kinda sounds philosophical and ya, theres no hope. Just left with a final conclusion, "human life is suffering, its the continued struggle for survival. Death is the ending of boredom." Being happy forever is impossible as boredom and fear exist. I may live in a wonderful place with all luxuries, but boredom will definitely arrive one day. Huh, this one was more depressing than the previous.
It partially sounds like a Dopamine Detox, it has similar effects. Without stimulation for 24 hours, your dopamine levels heighten at smaller things (or something like that, at least.)
They say (and my experience makes me agree with this) that the dopamine detox is more effective when done consistently over time rather than as a 24 hour thing.
Also, you're right about the association, it is interesting how Robin didn't even mention the words "dopamine" and "detox" whilst referring to a very similar concept.
You just put into words how I've been living my life since 16 (i'm 19 now). Reading a good book or watching a good show or drinking some good tea makes me so happy! People call me an optimist and associate me with happy-go-lucky characters and I love every second of it. It's not that I am not stressed, unhappy, overwhelmed, but whenever I can, I choose not to be that way, especially around other people.
bro same, not even funny how i relate to everything you wrote
My relatives and friends always ask me don't you bored? I don't know exactly how to reply to that.
@@aayu4321 same here...its just astonishing for me to discover that a lot of ppl live the life same as me
Robin, you're the type of person this world needs more of!!
No jump cuts. How? This is so refreshing! Can't believe you blessed us with all this knowledge without having to add any jump cuts. Unbelievable.
I have Tourette's, and it's so weird, because before having it, I couldnt stand sitting still. But now, after a couple years of having it, silence and having a place to just sit and relax is a blessing.
Overstimulation is a hidden stressor I feel like in a lot of people's lives. It's just, other people don't react to it like those with things like I do do.
This is so precious, people don't really realize this but being contented of oneself is the first step of self-love. With contentment, you know your worth and you stop craving at the external things to prove your worth. With contentment, nothing is gonna take away your self-worth. And I could go on and on and on about how important self-love is in building better and lasting relationships with your loved ones and new people. I still struggle with this issue tho, but I can't wait to be free from my cravings of external validations.
I have the humble impression that deep down you may be a bit of a poet as well as a writer. The ancient Greek word for poet is: "poetees". It literally means "maker/creator". In that sense God is a poetees. I think you are content on your own because you -like many intellectual individuals- have created an inner world for yourself which begins to appear richer than the daily life around you. You probably enjoy your solitude because it allows you to observe yourself, your contemplations, your observations, your intellectual journey, your 'vita contemplativa'. Being alone allows one to be with his own self. If your own self is fun, creative, original, then being alone would naturally be quite enjoyable. This is a gift I think. But of course we all have our own infinitely rich separate experiences, funnily infinitely different yet similar...
ngl i subscribed because he was cute but damn he's smart too. I'm too gay for existence.
Same he was in my recommendation couple of days ago and saw the thumbnail and I was like "oh a really cute guy who likes books!" But then I heard his voice and the way he speak like damn... 😲😳
I see gon 👁
lmaaao and he is actually decent, unlike most self help channels he actually says things of value
I personally had it the other way around. Subscribed for the wisdom lol went on a watch binge one day and after a while I was like "Damn he kinda cute actually lemme watch another video" LMAO
I hate being gay and hate gay people but I relate lmao
Well said! I miss the time when I was totally content with being alone. Evening walks at the park, checking books at the bookstores, listening to soft music, that was all I needed. Meditation was the main reason for it, for me, personally. Nowadays, I fail to do meditation regularly and start to have negative perspectives on my alone times. Now is the time to pick up the habit again. : )
Recently discovered your channel. I'm 45, and beginning to notice my own intellectual decline-- it was your videos about 'getting more out of reading' first caught my eye. I've embraced the "boring life for real happiness" since college and I can tell you from decades of experience: simplicity is king. The ability to be alone with yourself, to set aside our craving for distractions, and just quietly BE, is powerful and empowering. My life has become cluttered up in recent years, however, as my psyche has just felt assailed by the general malaise of the world... and I hope you will be pleased to know that your channel is helping me to gently run a comb through all those tangles, and find my way back to that core of simplicity, of taking time for quality and richness of experience, that is dear to my heart and fundamental to my being. Thanks for what you do, and keep up the great work. Stay boring, king.
9:00 - where he was talking about making pancakes and simple things
"So do you see the profound benefits of developing a taste for subtlety..."
This part especially reminded me of a quote I read in my favorite quote book:
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"To find the air and the water exhilarating; to be refreshed by a morning walk or an evening saunter; to be thrilled by the stars at night; to be elated over a bird's nest, or over at wildflower in spring- these are some of the rewards of the simple life." -John Burroughs
I felt this to a certain extent and i never payed attention to it. I took a year off before medical school, i lost all my friends, got depressed and lost interest in all my past hobbies nd was incredibly bored and miserable. So much so that coming down to the end i had even started becoming used to and kind of comfortable in the boredom and solitude. When i started med school, even though i was stressed, i was relieved that i wasnt bored
very relatable and interesting perspective on happiness and contentment. keep up the content :)
Thanks Raj!
2:15 he chuckles at “lame personality” insult lol
This young man is always hitting it where it hurts, such a sharp-eyed thoughtful one, and those questions, in particular, I get too.
i just wanna say that you seem to me like a beautiful and wise soul and there's always so much joy in watching you talk about things that are truly worthwhile. thanks for this and all your other videos
This is more relevant now than ever.
Your life isn’t boring. That’s exactly I want to be doing on holidays. It really keeps you grounded and appreciate the simpler things in life. I ran cross country, went to school, and conversed with a small group of friends. I don’t seek thrills in the ostentatious things because soon people will get sick of those or even become less appreciative. It’s so important to keep life simple.
The cause of the hustle culture and short attention span is due to the media. Marketing through social media implemented algorithms that captivate the viewer on the website for a long time. Also fomo. Humans just want to socialize and feel like they belong. People are just wired differently and have different fears and wants
Happy to stumble across your channel, a fresh perspective for this era of existence
Thank you so much Robin! You've helped me more than you will ever know. Keep up the good stuff.
Greetings from Chile.
I love that phrase "a taste for subtlety." I've recently found your channel and it really resonates with me. I've definitely a fan of the simple and peaceful things of life, but I've been more "agitated" with college in full swing. Making more time to just be in silence or appreciate simple things, not telling myself I should be doing something more superficially exciting, is really groundbreaking.
You’re such a wise guy at such a young age! You’re videos are awesome! Thanks for the advise and wisdom that you provide for us!
You. I don't really watch your videos regularly. But when I do, you really help me a lot. Like it's just relieving to see someone with thoughts I really admire talking to me.
Wow.. i’ve watched several ted talks, online gurus on their take on life, loneliness and how to deal with it..suprisingly what you said is far more relatable and simple, thank you very much.. we all need to hear this.. you make boring life sounds so cool !! Thanks robin, a lot 🤗
Just wanted to say this really struck a chord with me, I very much find peace in solitude while enjoying my Sundays with friends. I hope you are just as content a year later :-)
Honestly, I really needed this video right now and I'm grateful for coming across it. You make some wonderful points and have a good outlook. I've been struggling with finding joy in anything I do for... a while now. And the response when I voice this to loved ones is to keep looking for that one thing that will make me happy. But maybe I ought to try the opposite, and learn to be content with doing nothing.
Thanks :)
I really needed to hear this today. Thanks for sharing your philosophy
I have watched a fair amount of your videos and this is probably one of the best. It is very relatable to me and my problems with the madness of modern life. Thank you.
I really wish I could have a real conversation with you. This channel makes me think about many things, a real one to one conversation would be so enriching
I found this channel a couple weeks ago and every video I watch makes me have an existential crisis but in the best way possible
I love this! I don't really know how to describe it but it's like i've never found someone who expressed my inner doubt and thoughts like "why do people think having a calm routine is bad?"
I don't know, your channel is like all the conversations I've always wanted to have but had no one to talk to.
Because a routine is a routine. Its monotonous. Its always the same. You would have to enjoy the little things so that it can become something special and fun, and that just sounds .... yeah, boring....
esto es precioso, realmente eres un joya, Robin
siempre me sentí mal por abrumarme con tantos estímulos, así es como cerré mis redes sociales, la gente lo encuentra extraño...
siento que ahora llevo una vida mas tranquila y feliz
tus videos son comida para el alma y el pensamiento
gracias por compartirlo!
thanks for sharing!
It showed up in my recommendations at the right time. I've been struggling to put the phone down and to simply enjoy the sounds of reality, the beauty of my surroundings (the walls of my house because: pandemic). In the last few days I've been having strong headaches and my eyes aren't in a good condition too. By taking your videos's advices, I'm trying to spend some time alone, just me, a pen and a notebook. It's not even close to a long, quality time in solitude, but I'm slowly getting some result out of it. I've been writing again (in portuguese, don't worry, because as you can see my English is not fluent level yet lol) and it is the same as saving myself.
Thanks for all of your videos, Waldun. I really appreciate how passionate you are about exchanging thoughts with others and growing together.
(Also, I want a boo too 😔✊🏻✊🏻)
”Very little is needed to make a happy life; it is all within yourself, in your way of thinking.” (Marcus Aurelius)
I am glad I found your channel. Congratulations on the ideas you promote! I highly recommend an interesting documentary that I have seen recently called "Room to Breathe". Hope you enjoy it!
I feel the same way as you do, and I’ve been feeling this way since I was 15 years old. Everyone mistakes it for melancholia and I’m frequently labelled as loner and called names and told that I’m wasting my youth! For the longest time I felt that there’s something wrong with me until recently where I learned that it’s just my nature
This is very refreshing, thanks so much.
I used to be able to feel this way 10 years ago, but adulthood filled in all the noises in mind, thanks for reminding me how that feels like
I enjoyed this so much. It reminds me a lot of the work done by a professor of mine who focuses a lot on the topic of isolation and how it can be beneficial to our minds. I think its really important to explore an alternative to the constant influx of media we face, even if it's only for a little while. Thanks for sharing this, it inspires me to open up about my own thoughts and reflections.
when youre happy with nothing, you can be happy with everything
I agree! It's great to spend time alone and in quiet to just enjoy the small things in life. I have friends that feel off if they aren't doing something like work or going out to events ect. But I think its pleasurable to just be alone with your thoughts and just enjoy learning about yourself. Then, you aren't as concerned with showing people what you're doing for validation or proof of your own success because you understand that people's approval doesn't matter. Also when you stop doing things to impress people or for public opinion you can start to just cherish what you do as precious memories with the people you love.
I totally related to everything you said in this video. And thank you for your videos, they really help me!
In terms of activities we're very similar. I start with intense outdoor exercise (running) because it's the only thing that wakes me up. I do it mainly for concentration. It allows me to give the maximum with thinking activities. Then for every hour I spend doing something with my brain, I walk for 15-30 minutes. I don't relax with TV or social media. I have to go outside and move! I think I need to have as little external stimulation as possible during a break. Also, by walking around not forcing myself to think about anything in particular, I usually think distractedly about things and that's usually when I get some really good ideas (about all kinds of things). To me this is like giving the subconscious time to work, and letting the thoughts rise out of the subconscious into the conscious brain, where I can actually grab them. Though my objective when walking is really just to have a break, and feel disconnected from everything (whilst not looking at a phone, of course!). Then I discovered the bonus of ideas seeping their way into those breaks!
Why these videos doesn't have more views? You're awesome man!. The thing about sitting in a room alone with nothing it's one of the things I do whenever I'm agitated with so many things to do, never thought It was a cool way to clear my mind and also be more 'content' I guess. What you said In your video is more than an advice, thank you!. I'll suscribe right it away, you deserve more suscribers.
Greeting from Argentina
This is so brilliant for all ages. 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽😊👍🏽
This reminds me of the quote,
"I'm no longer trying to find happiness, I just appreciate where I am and happiness finds me."
Your channel is saving me from going insane, thank you so much!
Wow, I thought that I was alone in that kind of lifestyle, keep up the good work!
*thought
I can hear you all day, finally someone I could relate too!😄
You are such an inspiration, this guy is awesome
You saying people tell you, you are lame but i think you are the most interesting person I have encountered in a long while
I really like the concepts of your videos...thanks for helping brother
finally someone who explained exactly what i feel. wouldn't call myself an introvert or a boring person, quiet contradictory. i just like to enjoy moments of solitude and nothingness and be aware of my being, not trying to fill those little moments with something completely irrelevant. Also Dostoyevsky is an amazing autor, would recommend you Notes from the Underground
Love this. Very powerful
It's such a life-changing video.
I really wanna hug you right now.
Well, I have been in Solitude mode all my life, not a chosen one but thrust upon me probably and lately I have been going all gaga about how I am incomplete or any experience is incomplete with this or that - being all materialistic. I had been bored to death today(CZcams/INSTA). Actually I forced myself to watch this video only because I find your voice attractive. And boom the words you spoke here is making me thinking!!!! From past many years all I did was to just fill my time with social media and blame some or the other thing to be the reason why I am at this stupid place I am at right now. I knew all of these things already but you changed my perspective towards this issue. The doing nothing at all sounds sooooo good and peaceful.......my heart feels alive already. Smiles.
It's because of the reward chemicals in our brains, I think social media and the internet can overstimulate our brains and make us addicted which inevitably puts us into withdrawals.
@@spring7643 So true. I learnt about this after I started learning about how our brain functions
Dude, I'm pretty sure that's called meditation.
wow, your content always help me, really thank you
Your "Достоевский" was good
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I like to live a very simple life, no clubs etc and I am just fine
You don't know but you have saved my life sir . Thank you so much.
YEAAAH this came in the exact time i needed it!
love ur works
keep being authentic 😍
Dostoevsky's one of my favourite authors, the way he builds up his narratives is so smart and his books are always really entertaining.
Just watching you and your videos, is a contentment for us, subscribers ❤️
The guitar and slightly messy bookshelf in the background is a boost to my serotonin somehow lol
Yes: I'm trying to get used not to fall into temptation and just get bored. It's incredible how much even the most daunting activity seems exciting after just five minutes of boredom, and it truly relaxes your brain and gives you time to think.
We often live distracted lives
Hi! Love your stuff.
🙏🙏 Well spoken. Thank you.
I'm not quite certain if this relates (because of my poor knowledge of the fact, but it might be insightful to someone who knows more of this), but Sartre, I believe had this sort of idea about reaching the truth of things in this world, by merely describing how they impress themselves upon the subject.
In that way, even drinking a hot cup of tea, or listening to Jazz etc. could be very profound experiences. Each and every phenomenon's truth would lie in your description of them.
...And that state of focusing on each phenomenon in such detailed manner reminded me of the sense of content you are describing. In that state, every little things feels more...real, and more...impressing upon you. As if you are truly present within each and every surrounding happenings.
This is a very interesting topic. You're there. Nice and educational. Happiness is base from what gives you contentment. I mean you can be the richest man or woman in the world but if there's no contentment, you would always find something to be soar at and plainly ask for more, bringing no true bliss in life. Love the video and the content of it. Keep it up brother nice.
“Life swings like a pendulum backward and forward between pain and boredom.”
― Arthur Schopenhauer
I agree so much with this! For me I have two places of contentment. The first place is to be outside, but doing nothing, either by the sea or walking in the woods just to close my eyes and breathe and simply exist. The second place is doing artwork or drawing, I feel content when I'm letting my imagination and ideas pour out into something tangible.
There's a theory actually that by spending a day doing nothing, no screens, no books, no games, no meeting with friends is really good for your mental health. It follows the idea that for the most part, we are overloaded with endorphins because we're always doing something or interacting with things. The overload of stimuli leads to an increase in apathy and depression because there's simply so much that it doesn't impact you anymore. Taking a break allows our brains to recover from the overstimulation and we can then feel more happy and fulfilled by the things we enjoy.
i love this. thank you Rob (:
xxx from Portugal
8:44 this was very accurate, thank you.
I emitted a sigh of satisfaction! Correct pronounciation is appreciated.
I just found this video and made me feel so great. Cause my whole life I've been chasing that void actually. Chasing to feel something like happiness or as you say contentment. But do I really need to chase things to be really happy? I don't think so anymore. I will definitely be trying to find out more about myself and other peoples' thoughts from books. I don't want to feel bored anymore. I don't even want to hear boring anymore. It's crazy but I hope I can be really appreciated for indulging the time by myself.
You are THE man, Waldun. THE man.
Hello spiritual twin ❤️
Its a good reminder that to have a pause in life and to soak in your true nature, because sometimes throughout the day we identify with all the stress and anger and daily things without taking a moment to process what exactly we’re doing or how we feel. And once it all soaks in, you feel more present and harmonious with connecting with the space and yourself
Where can i find people like you around me. All i am surrounded by are the types you described early in the video. This things happened to me this week. I went to visit my friends after a long time of self analysis. Turns out they still wanna party, buy stuff to be content. It hit me that these things no longer make me happy I find em useless and of no importance. Then a thought came when and what changed in me. How can i enjoy with my friends because now our topic of interest are poles apart.it was a weird experience. Thank you for explaining.
This video reminded me of 2 quotes: "All of humanity's problems stem from man's inability to sit quietly in a room alone." ― Blaise Pascal & "Millions long for immortality who don't know what to do with themselves on a rainy Sunday afternoon."-Susan Ertz
Gosh, this is so relatable!
Wooooow!!!! This is an awesome video. I always seek peace. Inner peace. It’s really hard. I should try what you suggest.
You have such an inspiring persona!
"The best of life is life lived quietly, where nothing happens but our calm journey through the day, where change is imperceptible and the precious life is everything." John McGahern.
OK! Gonna try this! I'm 20 years old and currently have no motivation for life,everything seems boring and I feel very lazy and unmotivated to do anything. I can't see a clear picture of where I'm heading. Hope this exercise helps me in some way.
I read this quote once about an olympic gold medalist. It went something like "Excellence is really mundane, people imagine what my life is like and most of it was my routine of practice in the pool". Cheers Robin.
I really need a deep thinking about this topic because it seems to be peaceful for me
Contentment can be achieved regardless of your financial situation. A man can be living in harsh conditions with his family yet be the happiest man alive. Becoming that is a goal of mine. Contentment is the complete disinterest in materialism, and what life has to offer. As if you’re ready to die tomorrow, and you’d be happy, you’d be full of life! You’ve got “enough” of life. To not want anymore than you need. That is a beautiful state to be in. In Arabic its called “zohood” I beautiful word that puts that all in one meaning.
i agree. nice natural approach to explain dopamine detox. life is beautiful. theres a fine line between sadness because of the comparison between diffrent lifestyles and my 'boring' lifestyle according to modern sociatial standarts. and happiness and a sense of advantage over the majority. but life is boring and sad without a purpose . specifically an objective purpose that determines the purpose of the individual person according to their strenghts and interests
It’s basically meditation, I just downloaded the mind illuminated on audible and I’m going to learn more about it
I really love this different perspective of life
Hey I dont know if you're ever gonna read this, I'm really late to this but thank you. Thank you for all that you do, I dont think I can ever be as knowledgeable as you but the least I can do is try. Much love, I know you said you would shy away(social anxiety) if I ever got to meet you, but damn, I can only hope
Ps: when you said "no girlfriends coming over to caress you" I lost it😂
same, i can only hope that i get to meet this epic person.
p.s: that part got me too lol
I feel the same way, he's definitely one of the most admirable people I've ever happened upon and I'm very glad I found his videos
@@dkhosh7380 same 😊
@@dkhosh7380 same