The Rules of Gifting
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- čas přidán 22. 05. 2024
- Fundamentals of a successful gifting philosophy & a dozen tricks.
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Amazing advice thanks!!
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Make me feel loved van, even if you don’t love me , send me your merch 😇
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Yeah, normally I can see it coming, this one I didn't.
Love this video!
I immediately added these rules to my notes, and here they are for easy reference:
1. All gifts should contain an element of surprise
2. Respect the gifting Holy Trinity:
1. NICE
2. MADE
3. THOUGHTFUL
3. Made gifts should not be bigger than one's hand.
4. Dating and/or Monogramming a gift gives it extra power
5. Know what flowers your girl likes.
6. Take your time with books.
7. A Postcard COUNTS!
8. TWO DAYS
9. She will tell you.
10. Buy small gifts when you travel.
11. Expensive, not Costly
12. For KIDS: You pick the store, The kid picks the gift.
Gift receiving: Send a thank you note
The point of gift giving: Make people feel loved (even if you don't love them).
💪💪 \*bump\*
Came to the comments hoping a hero had done this. Thank you.
You da man!
Thanks g
Hero
As someone who considers themselves not a good gifter, I appreciate this Van. After watching this, I now feel I have the recipe to be a good one.. and I will be a good one! Much love
Same - immensely useful
Detto.
Agree. I found it helpful for the same reason.
my boyfriend sent me this and said it reminded him of my gifts over the years and i've never felt more honored. this video perfectly sums up my gift giving philosophy in far simpler terms than i've ever been able to come up with when asked by my loved ones!
i would add one last note: without fail, i have found that men love flowers too , and because flowers are such an unexpected gift for men, you can often ask them outright what flowers they like (without being too blatant with your intentions) and they will be happy to even just get to ponder the question. if they don't have favorite flowers you can always just choose something you think would look nice in their home. :)
6:14 'Know which flowers your girl likes' is really good advice. Every person getting the same breed of flower for their partner, is like implicitly saying 'One key unlocks all doors'. Its hurtful, because you haven't found anything that distinguishes them from someone else you've probably dated...Really good advice
About one of the last comments, not to send you gifts. I find it to be a really cool thing in that case to donate to a special charity and write to the person saying “I donated (insert gift type or money amount) to this charity in your name”. Thee are so many financially secure people with financially secure friends who keep giving each other stuff they don’t need or don’t have space for. Something like “I donated art supplies to a local youth program in your name” is a wonderful thing and feels great for both giver and receiver.
Wow, never thought of that. I’m taking notes on that one.
My favorite gift I have ever gotten was when I turned 16, I was given a ceramic cup from my art teacher. He made thousands of them that are all really similar but this one felt really special. I mean it helps that he knew I was a pretty big coffee drinker at the time so he also got me a bag of this really good Peruvian coffee to go with it, but the cup just feels magical in a way.
"Make people feel loved **even if you don't really love them**" lol good one Van.
This was honestly a life changer. More than just about gifting, it was almost a lesson on how to show love. Really cool. Thank you Van.
I don’t want to be on-the-nose but watching this felt like receiving a gift.
Thank you, Van!
You can't always get what you want
I know. He mentioned my birthday march 11 and I felt so special ☺️
Dear Van,
I'm not a gift person.
This changed my life. You've just made a lot of people in my life very happy, sometime in the future.
I'm sorry for being a consumer. I love your art. Good-luck.
Yours truly
This was surprisingly insightful and brought up way more memories of emotional moments when giving or receiving gifts than I could have expected. Thank you 🙏
I love gifting, it's essential for every spirited man and woman to learn. Some of my favorite gifts to give and receive recently have been consumable things that took considerable effort, like hand made chocolates. It's great to have consumable gifts because almost nobody needs more useless crap in their life
Speaking as someone who has a bit of a reputation as a great gifter, I think you pretty much hit it out of the park. Spoken like a true master.
i dont think ive ever seen him so animated and happy in a vlog yet. love this video.
Man, I LOVE this video.
The epiphany you talk about is SO magical. It happens to me once in a blue moon, only with people I love the most, and then the inspiration dries. And I want to really really have that epiphany every time I make a gift, I wanna be the perfect gifter, but it's so rare, that I get frustrated!
Can we talk about the Better than belts ad. This man is a genius, first time in the history of me using youtube I actually watched the ad. Amazing video I love gift giving
Your tip about writing it down is spot on! I keep a running list of gift ideas (on my phone) for the important people in my life and I add to it all year long- then around the holidays or their birthday, I already have 5-8 things on the list to choose from for each person. It makes it sooo easy and I know each gift is thoughful.
No matter the gift, the gift giver used their time to think of me because they felt I was worth it. That is priceless. Great video!
Addendum to number 5, flowers: If your recipient lives with pets ask the flower shop for pet safe choices.
Lillies for example are beautiful but quite toxic to cats.
A couple of years ago my partner and I spent a whole night at the emergency vet clinic (and a few hundred dollars) because one of our cats reacted badly to a flower bouquet she (my partner) received for her birthday. The sender of course didn't know and had no intention to harm, but I must say the association lingers, they keep on sending flowers every year and sadly most of the time we leave them out of the house because we love these animals.
I love flowers, I love gifts and I hate to sound like the safety police, but hey, if it saves anyone a worried night at the vet it pays to say it.
Lovely video, thank you Van!
I got my sister her first phone when she turned 16. She wasn't expecting it and cried when I surprised her. It made me cry seeing her so happy. It took me a a couple months of planning trying to slowly get info about the model and colour she wanted. The notes definitely help. Like Van, my advice is to always keep an ear out and WRITE IT DOWN.
I come back to this video every couple of months
You know, I was watching that episode of Seinfeld where Jerry and Elaine hook up and agree to be friends with benefits, right. In that episode Jerry has to get Elaine a gift for her birthday and he ends up getting her money. Meanwhile, and the reason I bring this up for this video, Krammer comes in with his present--gift wrapped for the surprise. She opens it up and it's the bench she had been hitting at. Krammer had it all down like a real pro: surprise, nice, thoughtful, made.
I am not lying. Whenever I see you speaking, I have a big smile. It just hits differently because you tell it with so much affection and honesty.
I hugely echo your comment about knowing which flowers to get for your significant other (or anyone for that fact). My wife is not a fan of roses whatsoever and to be honest, has a deep love for roadside flowers or wildflowers in general. I told my sister this before my then girlfriend and I got married at the courthouse and my sister surprised her with a bouquet of very simple flowers to have in hand when we said 'I do.' I had a small simple boutonnière made of matching wildflowers myself and she was beyond over the moon. To this day, if I surprise my wife with a bouquet it's always something simple and small like the wildflowers. On the flip side, my favorite flowers are gerbera daisies and that's always what she surprises me with. It's amazing what simple yet thoughtful gestures like nothing someone's favorite something will do to their overall happiness.
The wide angle shot of the flower shop on a computer screen just blew my f*cking mind
I love Van's enthusiasm the way he describes those socks and the flowers.
The Spirited Man Channel is nice, thoughtful and made and a great gift for those that look forward to receiving it each week. This is a great video and something very useful for nearly everyone. Thanks Van!
I have always prided myself as a good gift giver. I love giving gifts and I really try to find the best, most meaningful gift for that person. Anyone can buy something nice and giving it to someone. It will be in that someone's garage sale later. But, the right gift will be in their casket. Thank you for spreading the word on proper gifting.
Your trinity is a great model for thinking through ideas. Constraints are one of the most helpful things for thinking creatively and I think those constrains are great. I think I'll get my dad a engraved, pocket-sized dirty bomb this year.
Van Neistat at his best. Thought provoking philosophy that is elegantly delivered.
I think the best time with gifts for me was when I started to enjoy giving them more then receiving them.
Definitely some really good ideas and thoughts within this for successful gift giving!
The flower gift is a bit oldschool ... men like flowers too ! 💐🌻🌷🌸🌹🌺🌼
This has just got to be one of the best videos you have done. Thankyou! Im sitting here on a fairly miserable autumn day in England and instead of thinking how cold it is, or how few leaves are left, or where has the sun gone - Im thinking of making little gifts for people I love, and not about poor poor me! Brilliant!!
Spot on advice. Best gift I ever received was a Christmas card with my friend and I painted on the front from a photo of when we met with Santa hats on. The gift is worthless to anyone else but the sentimental value it holds with me and the appreciation I have for an artist friend of mine to sit down and paint that for me is immeasurable.
wow that "... even if you don't really love them" at the end totally changed the feel of the whole video!
I've always envied good gift givers. I consider myself an uninspired gift giver...I try, but I my mind just goes blank. "Nice, made, thoughtful" - if only I can remember this. Thanks
I love how it’s obvious that Van had such an impact on Casey and influences how Casey sees and interacts with the world.
Just watching this made me think about all of the extremely simple and meaningful gifts I could give to everyone important in my life. I believe a gift should represent your appreciation for the person you are giving it to.
This was a great one! Always love seeing your kits & customizations.
Thanks for helping us become more spirited Van. Onward and upward!
Great to see you smiling again Van!!
Can we stop & appreciate how quickly, centered a straight that sticker was placed 1:45
Van, your videos are so inspiring. Thank you for continuing to make them.
Great to see you back and well, Van.
This is a video I never knew I needed.
I would consider myself a good gifter. But never knew there was a name for it.
Love the postcard ideas.
One of my greatest joys in life is to suprise someone with a gift.
Thanks for the video
Made my week
Hey Van, thank you for making these videos for us. You clearly spend a lot of time and effort on them and they are really appreciated. It's really nice of you to share your hard-earned knowledge and experience with us.
What an incredibly simple but impactful message.
Thank you.
Van you never fail to teach me something new, Love you man!
Your delivery makes me smile. Thank you for cheering up my day
So much honesty from this man. The delivery of said honesty is very refreshing
Honestly the best gift giving guide I’ve ever heard. I’m glad I found this before the holidays
I come back to this video so much and it holds up so much. Actually so insanely useful.
Just poignant & purposed! Shared! Thank YOU, Van! ❤️❤️❤️
I love this so much!! Gift giving is my love language and you hit this out of the park! 💕
A series of short videos on your kits would be amazing! Thanks for all your amazing videos Van!
Awesome video Van! We were stoked to support the channel over at Better Than Belts. I’d say we’re expensive but not costly :) also a good combo of nice and thoughtful as a gift 🎁
This has got to be one of if not the best video he's ever made.
I think it's because gift giving is a love language. And we all know that feeling of recieving a really good gift. And we all know that feeling of giving a really good gift.
Idk ever since watching it I wanted to be better at giving gifts.
One Christmas I gave a really good gift to my cousin and his fiancee at the time. Now wife. It was cookware. I had visited them before and it came up that they were looking into getting new cookware. So I got them a whole cookware set. And it felt really good. It was really cool giving them a gift they really wanted.
This channel adds real value to my life! Thank you for the gift giving advice!
This is honestly one of the most enjoyable videos I've ever watched on youtube. Thanks, Van.
That very last hint was my favorite. Thanks, Van. 🙏
Couldn’t help but smile watching this. As a not so great gift giver this gives some good insight on how to show people you really love them in with a gift to match
Thank you Van!!! Much love and peace to you and your family
Another inspiring video as per usual. I love your thoughtfulness and the creative ways you inspire us to inspire others. Thank you spirited man.
I feel a vibe from this guy that makes sooo calm, relaxed, and really satisfied
These golden rules are just incredibly precise! Thank you, Van!
Yes, postcards! I love them. Love receiving them. Love gifting them.
This was wonderfully insightful! I’ve saved it in my playlists for referencing in the future! Thanks, Van! ❤️🎁
Just hands, expression, voice and wise words. Combined brilliantly.
I loved this so much. A) spot on. 2) the glee and joy in your face was so heartfelt. Thank you for sharing.
This one is so good. I jotted down notes and I'll take some time this weekend to think about any upcoming gift giving, and then get creative with this list.
This video seems to be more upbeat than last weeks installment, hopefully things have taken a turn for the better.
Seems to be how most peoples lives work. After a major thunderstorm, the sun comes out eventually....you just need to wait it out.
I hate upbeat
just added this to my favorites folder... thanks Van. I need to get started building gifts for Christmas. SO. MANY. IDEAS. Thank you, thank you, thank you.
We as people needed this. Thank you Van
Great video Van. Back to your amazing story telling. Have been trying to tell stories more in my own videos thanks to the influence of your videos. I love the gift rule triangle. Great idea.
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I love your vibe. Its so organic and oringinal
I really think this is one of the best videos you've done to date. Really great perspective
These videos are a gift - thank you!!
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Exceptionally good! Good advice, wonderful delivery and style. Thank you for doing the thinking
Van... Thank you. This touched my heart.
I’ve been on CZcams for years and years and have learned so much from different channels, but this is such a perfect video. One that I will refer to for the rest of my days. Thank you.
As someone who considers themselves a big time gift giver, you just helped me level up. Thanks Van!
Also.. I am so happy you started this channel. Your videos are wonderfully made but more important your view on the world is inspiring.
Finding your Channel today was a great Christmas gift
love how practical this video is. the points are so general yet so impactful (at least they seem like they would be to me, havent tried them yet) on such a basic and frequent act. all presented in an amazing atmosphere coupled with great examples. 10/10 this is what i like to think the internet was made for.
Thanks Van, you are the modern poet/philosopher. Such truth and delivered with great humility. Incidentally, I brought and gave away one of your sweatshirts to a mate, he loves it, and it makes me smile every time I see him wear it. So good gifts give a return and keep giving.
I would just like to say, I love you content. It always provides great detail, insight, and wisdom. Feels like I’m receiving cheat codes to life from gift giving, to parenting, and going about everyday life.
Thank you Van
My giving love language is gifts. Ppl always ask me how I do it, and I haven’t been able to really explain it other than “you have to pay attention.” This video is a better and more full explanation of it.
Love the engraving idea… I feel like I typically lean into “nice and thoughtful” and struggle with the “made” route… engraving things is kinda perfect for that.
My people are about to feel so loved. Thank you for this!
Great video, great to see you up and lively after the last video. This is a good gift for us, nice made and thoughtful
Instant sub. Your videos are probably the highest quality on CZcams. Their ability to suck you in with simple, clean, and beautiful production... The way the occasional sounds have a rhythm with your voice and the way you allow us to mentally drift and daydream with you... The organization is fantastic. I haven't even mentioned your perfect gift-giving guide and how helpful it is. I wonder how many great moments people will share because they watched your video and knew which gift to give and HOW. You really focus on the how and I love that. Thanks dude.
This was awesome. I shall add it to a list to watch again later. Thank you Sir.
This was such a positive way to spend a 15 minute break from cleaning my shop. Thank you I enjoy sharing and gifting and this lesson taught me little thing with big meanings that I’ve been overlooking. Looking forward to using some of these suggestion with attitude of surprising friends and loved ones. Thank you Van!
I love Van’s smile while he’s talking about flowers
I just discovered you recently via Instagram and now your videos. Rarely do I say this, I LOVE THEM! The topics, scream from my soul, the presentation, the editing, your attitude. Keep doing this and the way you do it! Best regards from Luxembourg.
Your videos are a treasure trove of wisdom and ideas. I’m gonna come back to this video everytime I find myself struggling to think of a perfect gift for someone.
I have to thank you Van. I don’t think much about this yesterday, but in the night this seeped in properly, and now for the first time in my life I’m looking forward to buying Christmas gifts
I do this too with all my stuff and it makes me so happy to see that someone else does it too