Cracking the Codes: Dr. Joy DeGruy "A Trip to the Grocery Store"

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  • čas přidán 19. 09. 2011
  • FILM AVAILABLE HERE: www.world-trust.org
    In this story from Cracking the Codes: The System of Racial Inequity, a film from World Trust, author and educator Dr. Joy DeGruy shares how her sister-in-law uses her white privilege to stand up to systemic inequity.
    Some comments have asked for more info on the concept of "privilege" -- often called the flipside of racism. Here it is:
    "Privilege exists when one group has something of value that is denied to others simply because of the groups they belong to, rather than because of anything they've done or failed to do. Access to privilege doesn't determine one's outcomes, but it is definitely an asset that makes it more likely that whatever talent, ability, and aspirations a person with privilege has will result in something positive for them." ~Peggy McIntosh
    Examples of Privilege: Being able to...
    - assume that most of the people you or your children study in history classes and textbooks will be of the same race, gender, or sexual orientation as you are
    - assume that your failures will not be attributed to your race, or your gender
    - assume that if you work hard and follow the rules, you will get what you deserve
    - succeed without other people being surprised; and without being held to a higher standard
    - go out in public without fear of being harassed or constantly worried about physical safety
    - not have to think about your race, or your gender, or your sexual orientation, or disabilities, on a daily basis...
    For more information on this film project, go to www.world-trust.org
    This documentary is designed for dialogue and comes with a downloadable conversation guide.

Komentáře • 95

  • @natalieclaire7649
    @natalieclaire7649 Před 11 lety +424

    This woman's voice is beautiful and she used it to make a great point.

  • @StephenBoothUK
    @StephenBoothUK Před 10 lety +321

    I've often felt that privilege (and the discrimination it comes from) will only change when the people who benefit from the privilege make the change, when the people who can only lose from changing the status quo make the change.

  • @skiplima2260
    @skiplima2260 Před 9 lety +805

    See, if SHE had said something to that cashier, she would not only have been called an angry black woman stereotype, but keep in mind her claims and complaints would most likely be ignored because she'd be """pulling out the race card""". When people of color such as myself point out racial problems in our society, white people tell us we're pulling the race card. But when white people (or white-passing, in this case) do it for us, they are often listened to, and referred to as noble.
    Which isn't to say Cathleen (Kathleen?) didn't do a good thing! It's just that we must keep in mind what would have happened if it were the speaker who had said something.

  • @MyOwnStolenDream
    @MyOwnStolenDream Před 11 lety +123

    instead of being ashamed you have privilege and others don't, do this

  • @willwork4pizza
    @willwork4pizza Před 11 lety +179

    I love this.
    Whenever I see anything like this happening, I'm going to have to step in.

  • @ashsparks
    @ashsparks Před 11 lety +121

    Bystanders can do this in a variety of situations. Racism, sexism, ageism... We all have a responsibility to hold each other accountable in the face of all of these forms of harassment.

  • @DawnMarieMarchand
    @DawnMarieMarchand Před 11 lety +32

    I'm Canadian Cree First Nation. I remember when I was in Safeway, and my children and I were followed around by the security guard. I had my phone on vibrate and it went off in my purse so I opened the purse. At the checkout counter infront of all those people...he took me aside and asked to look in my purse. He had seen me open it. My children were devastated as we were dragged to the back of the store to security. He found my wallet and my phone...then I returned all the groceries.

  • @LilithProductions
    @LilithProductions Před 11 lety +46

    Joy is so eloquent. Amazing!

  • @jefmar14
    @jefmar14 Před 11 lety +119

    Great video, I wish more people would use their white privilege to expose racial bias! Kathleen is a great woman!!

  • @BlackManRising
    @BlackManRising Před 9 lety +302

    That's quite a story. I would pay good money to see the look on that cashier's face.

  • @KeladryL
    @KeladryL Před 11 lety +178

    I've only recently become aware that white privilege exists and that I've benefited from it, but I wasn't sure what to do if I come across a situation like this. I've worried that I'd be taking authority or autonomy from the person of color, not letting them solve the problem. But now that I've seen this, I know what to do. Thank you so much for this video.

  • @nightofcrimson13
    @nightofcrimson13 Před 11 lety +106

    What a powerful message - and yet it's sad this is still an issue.
    Thank you for uploading this beautiful video.

  • @Keptis742
    @Keptis742 Před 11 lety +139

    As a straight, white, male I strive to be as good a person as this woman's sister in law.

  • @Dylanquinn666
    @Dylanquinn666 Před 11 lety +100

    This is inspiring. If I ever get the opportunity, I'm going to put my white skin and my voice to good use

  • @CarrieTucker
    @CarrieTucker Před 9 lety +580

    Why are we calling her Joy? Isn't it customary to show some respect? Her name is DR. Joy DeGruy.

  • @nopoopallowed
    @nopoopallowed Před 11 lety +78

    Your level of maturity and self-control is something that I hope to one day achieve. I look up to you so much, as a woman. Also, this is a great message... had me in tears.

  • @Teencat
    @Teencat Před 11 lety +61

    Beautiful. This is the way to use privilege. I dream of a day where no one of any cultural group will have to go through this just because of their skin colour.

  • @ngeri06
    @ngeri06 Před 11 lety +24

    It's all about having a sense of awareness. Being aware of your surroundings, aware of the possible mindsets of those that you encounter and being sympathetic to the subjectivity of things. Speaking up rather than remaining silent makes all the difference. I love that your level of awareness has been raised. Kudos and the best of wishes to you!

  • @geligniteandlilies
    @geligniteandlilies Před 11 lety +13

    This makes me want to cry, but I am also loving how she is encouraging people to make changes and step up. She is wonderful and I am sorry this happened to her, but wow how strong she is. I want to be like her.

  • @DarkWillUser
    @DarkWillUser Před 10 lety +48

    Very eye opening and done with grace.

  • @Connie53us
    @Connie53us Před 12 lety +28

    As the grandmother of a half black (African) half white little boy, I am now very much aware of this now and slowly feeling my way. How can I use my white privilege to stand up against bigotry without offending the very people I want to stand up for?

  • @diepiriye
    @diepiriye Před 11 lety +23

    Wow. Thanks for posting this. I've been struggling with this a lot and am frustrated at the lack of courage around, the lack of willingness to discuss, let alone act. I can count the number of times that someone spoke up for me- including a time when a straight friend confronted guys for gay-bashing me. We've got to stand up for one another, otherwise there'll be no one left to stand with and then we'll be alone.

  • @AyashaYumi
    @AyashaYumi Před 11 lety +41

    Very insightful. I wonder how many times this has happened to me without even noticing.

  • @donnagf
    @donnagf Před 11 lety +17

    I am in tears as someone speaks about what unfortunately is nearly a daily experience for me sometimes. When I talk about it few people seem to get what I am talking about. At least with you and your accomplishments someone might hear you because you become privilidged.in another way. I on the other hand am in University trying to get some credentials so that perhaps someone will listen to me an attribute a little validity to my experiences.

  • @Nghilifa
    @Nghilifa Před 9 lety +66

    I'm glad your in-law stepped in and defended you!

  • @makkon06
    @makkon06 Před 11 lety +19

    This is the first time I have ever come across the term White Privilege used in a constructive way. Thank you.

  • @barbaro267
    @barbaro267 Před 11 lety +24

    That's an amazing story :) and Joy tells it so well!

  • @luckywaddles
    @luckywaddles Před 11 lety +6

    Beautiful, truly.

  • @mitsukislife
    @mitsukislife Před 11 lety +6

    Beautiful!

  • @dayshawnalexander5654
    @dayshawnalexander5654 Před 11 lety +26

    I am in love with the way she talks. I wish was my great aunt of something.

  • @ocrapitssij
    @ocrapitssij Před 12 lety +8

    I love this, keep speaking out!

  • @MsFrisco87
    @MsFrisco87 Před 11 lety +4

    This almost makes me cry

  • @Amiii264
    @Amiii264 Před 11 lety +5

    This was really interesting!

  • @myabaxter4756
    @myabaxter4756 Před 10 lety +2

    this is fascinating.

  • @Biderbeck
    @Biderbeck Před 11 lety +2

    thanks for this!

  • @3344TJ
    @3344TJ Před 12 lety +6

    Wonderful friend (sister in law)

  • @moranast
    @moranast Před 9 lety +36

    This is something to make us all think

  • @Minalicious1
    @Minalicious1 Před 11 lety +2

    great video!!!

  • @vikkig230
    @vikkig230 Před 11 lety +4

    So amazing!

  • @dsalazarm
    @dsalazarm Před 11 lety +2

    This is beautiful

  • @pavzky
    @pavzky Před 11 lety +4

    Incredible

  • @halseyvi627
    @halseyvi627 Před 10 lety +20

    I didn't even know racism like this existed anymore? Wow...guess I have a lot to learn.

  • @Matthewgreen7779311
    @Matthewgreen7779311 Před 10 lety +7

    Good story.

  • @MrMystery2123
    @MrMystery2123 Před 11 lety +2

    yes gurl. PREACH.

  • @PrimeStigma
    @PrimeStigma Před 11 lety +2

    Yes!

  • @Poorleeno
    @Poorleeno Před 11 lety +6

    I very much enjoyed this video thank you

  • @Willow_fish
    @Willow_fish Před 11 lety +124

    Even though she "can't know for sure" what would have happened if she spoke up it's pretty clear what would have happened. She would have been the "angry black woman" and she would be dismissed or accused of being irate and oversensitive. Just like I am often cast as the "angry lesbian" or "angry feminist" when I speak up about injustices. When you stereotype a group of people as angry and overly sensitive it becomes much easier to dismiss their concerns. It's a clever trick of oppression, no?

  • @lafemmefatalle
    @lafemmefatalle Před 11 lety +6

    And I endeavor to do so. Thank you for such an eloquent reminder.

  • @JrakeThePerson
    @JrakeThePerson Před 10 lety +3

    Love this.

  • @TheGhost525
    @TheGhost525 Před 11 lety +2

    amazing

  • @sebastianaverymorris3081
    @sebastianaverymorris3081 Před 11 lety +37

    My husband, who is African-American, and I have similar experiences on a fairly regular basis. I will be treated in an entirely different and more favorable manner than he. When Christopher is standing ahead of me in a line, staff will often offer to help me first, or restaurant staff, assuming that we are not together, will offer to seat me rather than him. The such racism, even today, so deeply pervades our society is disgraceful.

  • @theblackparade133
    @theblackparade133 Před 11 lety +3

    woow. this is brilliant

  • @qianasilver9740
    @qianasilver9740 Před 9 lety +22

    That was amazing. Thank you for sharing!

  • @JewelJGtv
    @JewelJGtv Před 12 lety +6

    Loving! This is real courage, that most don't posses .

  • @Classicbo1
    @Classicbo1 Před 11 lety +2

    beautiful

  • @OfficialSpencerD
    @OfficialSpencerD Před 11 lety +4

    AMEN.

  • @xglitterandgreasex
    @xglitterandgreasex Před 11 lety +3

    this nearly brought me to tears. I love this.

  • @chiyotachibana5196
    @chiyotachibana5196 Před 12 lety +6

    I love this story!

  • @Hoodoopapi
    @Hoodoopapi Před 11 lety +2

    This is great

  • @Anatyne
    @Anatyne Před 11 lety +5

    Sometimes I forget I have white privilege, because I would never think of being prejudiced to someone just because of someone's skin colour. I can't believe people are still so close minded. We're all people

  • @stagelovee
    @stagelovee Před 11 lety +7

    It breaks my heart that we live in a world like this. But I am incredibly grateful for people like Joy and her sister who encourage others and speak up against the ignorance and wrong doing of others.

  • @popicelolly
    @popicelolly Před 11 lety +4

    Well said respect

  • @ChatMonsieur
    @ChatMonsieur Před 11 lety +34

    I hope that cashier got fired.

  • @hellowhitepeople
    @hellowhitepeople Před 11 lety +4

    Insightful. Thank you.

  • @XoTWLOHAoX
    @XoTWLOHAoX Před 10 lety +17

    This definitely helped me understand a bit better how to use my privilege in a positive way.

  • @jman4825
    @jman4825 Před 11 lety +2

    ohhh it's so happening

  • @FlixChick
    @FlixChick Před 11 lety +3

    Well!

  • @kenawyd10
    @kenawyd10 Před 12 lety +2

    what an awesome story, thanks for sharing! :D

  • @Herv3
    @Herv3 Před 11 lety +3

    You nailed it.

  • @N_pz
    @N_pz Před 11 lety +6

    AMAZING! Wow, so powerful :)

  • @ThePrincessFK
    @ThePrincessFK Před 10 lety +2

    woww!

  • @ReturnJaguar
    @ReturnJaguar Před 11 lety +9

    Sharing with others at STATE OF THE BLACK PARENT!

  • @billbb46
    @billbb46 Před 12 lety +12

    Brilliant! We can't undo our white privilege but we can find ways of using it to create justice and better understanding! We don't lose privilege by extending it to others.
    Thanks to Joy DeGruy for this terrific story. And to Shakti Butler once again for bringing truth through her films.

  • @OokamiG
    @OokamiG Před 11 lety +3

    also a good thing to note in addition to what the OP said, is that with your white privilege be aware that you have it and that sometimes even white people with good intentions tend to try to put in a voice that overshadows the voices of POC or those without the privilege your possess (male privililge/hetero privilige/etc).

  • @kyleensixtysix
    @kyleensixtysix Před 11 lety +12

    I love this! It's a good and positive video that shows what "whites" can do to help!

  • @hlilor1598
    @hlilor1598 Před 11 lety +2

    I applaud her. That was absolutely great.

  • @FreshHeat
    @FreshHeat Před 11 lety +3

    Dammn that was an awesome story. Favorited.

  • @ThePerfArts
    @ThePerfArts Před 11 lety +9

    Wonderful, I guess that's why there are whites out there who care, that's what you can do

  • @chocolaterockz
    @chocolaterockz Před 11 lety +3

    *Round of applause.*

  • @elyseyost1980
    @elyseyost1980 Před 11 lety

    This is awesomeb

  • @MsJaamaa
    @MsJaamaa Před 10 lety +6

    wow.....

  • @gpats9975
    @gpats9975 Před 11 lety +2

    This is beautiful, I have yet to witness this where I live but I'm doing this every time I see some dumb crap like this happening

  • @NotAfraidofColor
    @NotAfraidofColor Před 11 lety +5

    Wow, just wow. So much not what I see in my reality (life experience) being part of the "privileged." For lack of a better term, facing it really sucks. I am a west coast transplant from the Bay Area to Alabama. Lots of things different out here. I am sure I understand the dynamics, but I also surely don't want to accept it. I am also sorry that some of the few have predisposed bias on more of the many.

  • @CodeDarkBlue
    @CodeDarkBlue Před 9 lety +63

    damn this makes me angry

  • @xowescraven
    @xowescraven Před 10 lety +2

    Clapssssss, claps, claps...

  • @TonyGT37
    @TonyGT37 Před 11 lety +18

    Sad to say but it really helps to have white friends at times lol

  • @jment34
    @jment34 Před 12 lety +13

    I don't like this story.
    Do we need to depend on white or interracial people to stand up for us?
    Black people should be owning their own stores everywhere and secondly using our economic power to decide where we spend our money.
    Finally I would have just waited until the cashier was finished and moved on.

  • @cherisnyder27
    @cherisnyder27 Před 11 lety +2

    this is a sad reality that I wish didn't exist. God forgive me if I have ever made anyone (whatever their race) feel this way. I was in years watching that. what right does ANYONE have to make another human being feel like that? it shouldn't happen. ever.

  • @banandababa
    @banandababa Před 11 lety +3

    *claps* :)

  • @aquaticsparkle
    @aquaticsparkle Před 11 lety +1

    *slow claps*

  • @KungFuMonkeyy
    @KungFuMonkeyy Před 11 lety +6

    dat white privilege.

  • @Sashabug16
    @Sashabug16 Před 11 lety +3

    great video!

  • @maipai101
    @maipai101 Před 12 lety +1

    Yes!

  • @xxweirdwonderxx
    @xxweirdwonderxx Před 11 lety +2

    Yes!!!!