How Much of Your Fiancée's Body Are You Allowed to See? Sheikh Ibn Uthaymeen
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@@Wakobear. May Allah bless you and give you success too. Ameen
Jazakaallhukair
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The beauty and logic of Islam is unparalleled to anything I have ever seen or heard in my entire life.
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Well said ya Ahki.. well said
Indeed dear bro
Masha’Allah
your comment gave me goosebumps brother because that is facts
This is proof against the enemies of Islam who claim that Muslims oppress women, while this kind of knowledge refutes their baseless claims and humiliates their hatred towards Islam.
All praise to Allah.
Conditions for looking at your potential spouse:
1) The man has a firm intention for marrying her.
2) He thinks his proposal will most likely be accepted.
3) He doesn’t look at her with desire.
4) They aren’t in seclusion.
but what if im 50/50 and dont know if they would accept
Being 50/50 is just like you are not sure of it. You should be sure that her parents will accept. For example going to her parents and introducing yourself to them and who you are to her.@@DingleTribe
The deen is beautiful.
The fourth should be her guardian, not just another random person (her friends, male's family member, or total strangers). Because then if someone who has no business with her looks at her, she's basically showing her awrah to them. Correct me if I'm wrong, Allahu a'lam
@MrDeerbomb No, it can be his mother, his female relatives.
May Allah grant us righteous spouses.
امين!
Ameen
Ameen
Aameen...
May Allah protect us from all type of fitan and from those woman who causes fitna...
Ameen 🤲
May Allah give our spouses good husbands.
May Allah allow our children to get married in the best of manners and put Barak in their marriage… Ameen…
Ameen.
right now me I'm looking for a woman to marry it's difficult for me
Ameen
Aameen
So islam is not that strict how nonbelievers talk about it 😊 it is actually an easy religion for everyone
Very important to know. BarakaAllahu feek
wa feek
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Jazakumullahu khairan
بارك الله فيكم ❤️
Very clarifying.. . good explanation.
Thank you for the information ❤
بارك الله فيك,
جزاك الله خيرا
Wa iyyakum.
Subahanallah
SubhanAllah ! Our religion is so beautiful
After marriage look her all day lol
ان شاء الله hahah
Hahaha....yes yes
😁
May our spouses be beautiful and may her beauty be approved by Allah.
@@qadimonotheisttheasian24 ameen
Assalamualaikum. Reading through the comments I was astonished at some undermining the shaykh, his knowledge and understanding, rahimahullahu taala.
Marriage in Islam is not a lottery!!!!
You don't get married to random beings!
You're allowed to develop an understanding of your future spouse, minus the desire part. Which is why khalwah isn't allowed. In presence of someone responsible and mature fiancees can get to know each other. Try to figure out if the other will be a good partner, a good friend, a good parent. And once they're a bit satisfied with the other's personality and character then the man may see the woman so that he isn't surprised by physical flaw(in his eyes).
Most marriages of so-called religious people fail because they don't understand the shariah, are overly harsh (haram-gun). And once they get married they understand that there's more to marital life than just salah and qira'ah.
May Allah taala open ours chests to understanding his commands and may he shower his mercy upon the shaykh
Your are wrong there are pious men who have seen their wives on their wedding night.(i can name tauha bin jaleel from top of head right now)
And their are tons of studies of love marriages of 1 or 2 years failing when they start to live together and these couple were talking on phone and meeting all the time but test is when you start live together then you get to see real colors of a person. i I am stating this in evidence to the fact mere talking will not lead you anywhere especially when you consider the limited talk you could have even in the most liberal opinion in islam.
Thus talking to someone will not lead you someone and this thinking comes from west. Read in how much time our sahabs scholars, married it didn't take more than a month. This is why it is said make nikah so easy that zina becomes difficult
how can it be easy when you have to buy clothes to first meet each other and they there is background check for one month .
@@IzzoferRuste Meeting your spouse or knowing about them isn't a *western* thing. There are so many narrations of sahabah knowing their potential spouses beforehand. Prophet peace be upon him even asked a sahabi to see his potential spouse since there's something in the faces of ansari women. There are literally fatawas of ulama of the salaf regarding meeting your potential spouses in presence of a wali.
Meeting your potential spouse in presence of a her wali helps you both understand each other and develeop an understanding. On the other hand a lot of arranged marriages fall apart because parents chose someone who is appropriate to them, and not their off springs which results in disputes etc and eventually they part ways.
And this thing doesn't take time if the families know each other due to being in the same neighborhood etc. They just meet once with her covered and her wali and then proceed if they *click*
@@CalltoIslam in west there is a pre conceived notion about marriage which is that marriage is not done immediately after you find a partner rather there is dating first aka knowing each other & that is why zina is seen easier since marriage takes 4 or 5 months for arrangements, meetings etc Atleast (it can go upto a year) in some muslim families also
OFCOURSE you can meet your spouse in presence of wali but those shouldn't be more than a few meetings, and there are strong marriages of vast number of religious ulama who haven't seen their spouse before marriage .
Edit: and the last part you wrote is the reason i commented you said most of the marriages of so called religious people fail because they dont understand sharia you said this because some dont see their spouse before marriage but as i said it is false
Allaah u Akbar
ألله أكبر!
The answer is there!
Nowadays the four conditions are impossible to fulfill for at least around 97% of men so seeing her with her mahram with normal clothes and speeches.
ألحمد لله أللهم ادخلهم في الجنة فردوس آمين يا ربي
It is never impossible, have the intention to do things the halal way. Ask and obey Allah and he will make the right path easy for you.
@@JunaidNizami-ky2ve proper intentions is ok, but you will get scammed if you agree bfr seeing her, that's the problem he meant.
@@Iconic-football2616 He said the four conditions are impossible for at least 97% of men, not that you will get scammed if you agree before seeing her. You are allowed to see her and if you are not inclined towards her physically you can cut off the marriage in a manner that still respects her. Following the conditions is following the right path, and the right path has never been made impossible. Trust Allah and he will guide you.
Na'am.May Allah have mercy upon Shaykh
Subhanallah
Alhamdulillah
La ilaha illal la
Allahu Akbar
Mashallah Tabarakallah. Jazakallahu Khair
Alhamdulillah ala nimatil islam
Allahumme bareek
الله يبارك فيك
We lost a ocean of knowledg, may allah have mercy upon sheikh ibn Uthaymeen
الله
Allahu Akbar
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Thought the title was Finance😭
Could anyone please share a saying from Imam Ahmad (rahimahullaah) which says something like this: you should see the ones whom you're gonna marry before knowing their deen.
I don't know about what Imam Ahmad has said. Although I know that the Prophet commanded men that they should see the woman they are going to marry.
There’s actually a saying of imam Ahmed regarding that which you mentioned above, to look for the beauty first and the deen second so if her deen is not perfect you reject her rather than to reject a person with good deen because of their looks.
@@ahhmedd very well said
Imaam Ahmad rahimahuAllah said:
If a man proposes to a woman, let him ask about her beauty first. If it is praiseworthy, let him ask about her religion, if that is praiseworthy, let him marry. If it isn't praiseworthy, his rejection will be on accounts of religion. Don't let him ask about religion first, as if it is praiseworthy he will ask about beauty and if that isn't praiseworthy then he will reject her, and his rejection will be due t beauty not religion.
Sharh Muntaha al-Iraadaat (2/621): Imaam al Bahootil
@@mujaahed amazing. The wisdom of Imam Ahmad is maa shaa Allah
Please can I've french Captions too I'll like to share it if ALLAH S-W-T wills to someone? This is very important
2:51 facts
Assalamualikum PLEASE remove ''IMPERMISSIBLE'' and write ''NOT PERMISSIBLE'' as some may do mistake in reading.
No. Go learn how to read.
@@BlacFireSan😂😂
@@BlacFireSanbrother I think you could have said that in a slightly politer way
@@ibrahimnawaz6058 I agree. I apologise.
@@BlacFireSan ❤️
Can someone tell more about point 3
Looking without desire, because as my knowledge, it will be difficult for a young man to have no desire.
Or maybe I understood something incorrect and the shaykh mentioned something else
By my knowledge I think he means do not daydream or think too far about the woman just a basic overview and Allahu aalam
Assalamu'alaikum ua rahmatullahi ua barakatuh
What the Shaykh meant by that is that the suitor is not allowed to look at the woman in a lustful manner during the meeting, there is absolutely nothing wrong with marrying for the purpose of guarding one's private parts and protect oneself from zinah, in fact this is a command from Allah and supported by the words of the Prophet pbuh who said that satisfying one's desires with one's spouse is an act of charity, but of course one should also have the intention of marrying the woman for other reasons which Allah commanded, for example to increase the number of the muslim ummah by having offspring
Assalamu'alaikum
Assalamu'alaikum ua rahmatullahi ua barakatuh
What the Shaykh meant by that is that the suitor is not allowed to look at the woman in a lustful manner during the meeting, there is absolutely nothing wrong with marrying for the purpose of guarding one's private parts and protect oneself from zinah, in fact this is a command from Allah and supported by the words of the Prophet pbuh who said that satisfying one's desires with one's spouse is an act of charity, but of course one should also have the intention of marrying the woman for other reasons which Allah commanded, for example to increase the number of the muslim ummah by having offspring
Assalamu'alaikum
Not fiancee but potential spouse
Quick question, the Shaykh says that is permissible for the one who wants to propose to a woman to look at her face, neck, hands, hair, and feet. How would this apply if the woman is a Hijabi? Your answers are greatly appreciated, Jazak’Allahu Khairan!
As salamu alaykum,
The Sheikh is assuming in the question that the woman would be a Hijaabi, which is why this applies to those who do wear the correct hijaab.
And Allah knows best
@@subulassalam6067 So how is a man supposed to see her hair/neck if she is a hijabi brother? That’s my question.
@@subulassalam6067 I agree akhi but if she follows the hijaab then how can we see her hair wouldn't it be sinful to see her hair? Correct me if I'm wrong and do explain us what did the Shaykh mean actually... May Allah bless you
In an authentic hadith, a man who said he wanted to marry a woman, meaning he wanted to marry her, the Prophet ﷺ said to this man, ‘Have you seen her?’ The man replied, ‘No’. The Prophet ﷺ said, ‘Go and then see her’.
The Prophet ﷺ said,
‘When one of you proposes to a woman, then if it is possible for him to look at that which will induce him to marry her, then let him do so.’ [Narrated by Abu Dawud (2082) and Imam Ahmad (14626) and declared hasan by Shaykh Albani in Irwaa Al-Ghaleel (1791)]
@@Ok-zy4om she's allowed to uncover these things if the 4 conditions mentioned are fulfilled
One question how will you look at their hair if they wear hijab and she is only allowed to show it when married ? Pls answer so that I may benefit from this jazakallah khairan
The vast MAJORITY of the true Salaf-as-Saaliheen scholars would utterly disagree with this shaykh's fatawa in this video.
It is far less dangerous to follow the majority of the scholars of today and ESPECIALLY the majority of the scholars of the Golden generations.
May Allaah keep us on the siraat al mustaqeem until and including our final breath.
@@daniaalkahn7325
You have no proof that most scholars would disagree with him.
You can have a meeting with the women with a guardian and/or niqab.
Hair is not the only thing
Think!
@@intranext1359 There is plenty of proof. The revealing the hair, neck, and feet is primarily the view of the Hanbali school of thought. The vast majority agree that it's limited to the hands and face:
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Don't overthink.
"If the religion were based on opinion, it would be more important to wipe the under part of the shoe than the upper but I have seen the Messenger of Allah ﷺ wiping over the upper part of his shoes." [Sunan Abi Dawood 162]
When a potential spouse is coming to see her, it is permissible for a woman to expose those parts of her body the sheikh mentioned if the 4 conditions are fulfilled
But neck?
Is it authentic...if it is , then we hear and we obey... ALLAH'S WISDOM is infinitely greater than what our tiny brains can comprehend
I understood but when we can't apply perfume, can't wear nice clothes, can't talk to himthen why do we show our hair neck to him which we don't show to any namehram at that time also he is namehram just face, hand feet should be enough .and As per that rasool peace be upon him said in Hadith did you see her face that doesn't mean I have show my complete hair neck there is no guarantee that person will marry in India , Bangladesh, Pakistan people come with friends, cousin brothers ,father uncle to see girl that also no serious intention to get marry .And untill marriage even after confirmation man go for other party they numbered girl 1,2,3,4.so For keep our modesty showing face is enough.They can send female members to see.otherwise that hurt alot.like someone humiliated.
Assalamu aleikum sister Its a choice to reveal yourself or not, you dont have to do it. but the man looking for a spouse can request to see his potential spouse and its correct, just as she is able to see her potential spouse, but she can choose to reject it or not. She can see his body shape, face and hair and basically make up her mind if she fancies him or not, the deen also gives that same right to men without forcing her into it. The question is can he take a risk and marry a women he hasn’t seen? Yes but its a risk and something i dont rekommend as the prophet sallalahu alleyhi wassalam said if the man is capable to look at what will invite him to marry her then he should and in another hadith he sallalahu alleyhi wassalam said to to a man that wanted to get married “have you looked at her?” “go look at her”. But my advice to the sisters is to not show anything in the first meeting (with your guardian present) but after a couple meetings ,if you find him suitable then you should take the leap and let him take a look at you (one look is enough) im not saying you stay in the meeting dressed like that. Show how you look like, go dress properly then come back and continue the meeting and in sha Allãh Allah will dispel the doubts and confusion and Allah knows best.
Jazakallah khair for answering but I find shakth Nasiruddin albani speech more accurate as I find it recently.@@AdamAliAden
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Interesting he mentioned feet, that's something guys shy away from looking at, incase they're perceived as odd, even when it might be important/attractive to them.
Feet are very important. Thats why women should cover them when doing salah. Its a erogene zone.
Or to see if they have deficiencies in their limbs. Which might make him lose the attraction.
@@kyokushinfightfullmma VERY important, its a big part of attraction for a man if a girl has attractive toes, Ibn Taymiyyah and some others hit it right on when they said the WHOLE of a woman awrah, from head down to her toes. I can't see how other notable scholars think differently when its very clear cut
@@jax9574 whatt since when did ppl like toes
@@RealAkiyama Its the most common non conventional liking
But if you don't talk to them how will you find out if you like their personalities or not? Whether your values match or not? Should we just text instead?
to get to know her, you can do what we call "muqabala" in arabic. Basically you meet her with one of her maharims, and you talk to her nicely about subject that matters related to marriage, no flirting.
@@amine5761 yeah but didn't the he say it's not allowed and you can't possibly get to know someone in one meeting. Not to mention I doubt they will feel comfortable to open up in front of family. Texting or emailing is better.
@@sash8099 When did Sheikh Utheymin (rahimahullah) said that doing muqabala is haram ?
And who said that it is only limited to one ?
You said "in front of family", it seems like you didn't understand what a muqabala is.
As I said, a muqabala is when you meet the sister with the presence of one of her maharims, that's a muqabala.
Basically how it works :
2 persons (a brother and a sister) want to marry, so they start talking to each other via muqabala, so they ask questions to each other, about marriage, children, their projects, their family, their deen, their conditions etc...
Then, each of them go home and start thinking... like do they feel that the person they spoke with is a reliable person from what they heard ? Did they feel attracted ? And many other questions.
They also do salat istakhara to ask Allah to send them signs about it...
And as I said, it is not limited to one meeting, you can do as many muqabalas as necessary.
If the two liked each other, and they want to continue the process, then the kuthba takes place. Kuthba is what you mentioned, when the two families meet each other.
Else, If the sister found (during muqabala) one or many element(s) about the brother that she didn't like, she asks her maharim to contact the brother to say to him that she don't want to proceed. Same thing applies for the brother.
And sorry, but that's not you who decides what is better or not, it's Allah and his prophet aleyhi salat wa salam.
Rasulullah said the women are the biggest fitna for men, and that no man shall be isolated with a woman, that's the golden rule to prevent ourselves from the fitna.
@@sash8099 it's a personal experience. we think that texting and calling will let us know more about the person. but it's the other way around. It is complete chaos in the end and causes a lot of problems and issues. because at first there's all excitement and fun. trust me no one asks about serious things. everyone is overtaken by desires. and then slowly it decreases until the only thing left is arguments and boredom. So don't go for that. the best way is that you can ask one's family about him or her. because who knows the person better than their own family members. Everyone shows their good side on the phone and text. you should know how he or she is in reality and what ppl close to her say about her. there are a lot of other ways.
Brother stop u can only talk if she is with one of her family members to get to know her
If it will cause him to want to marry then it creates desire
What if the third person while chatting via texts ,is the Father of the girl or her brother??
What if her Father has allowed her to exchange views in matters of either deen,outlook of his expectations in family duties,basic interests in things or goals in life??
Having a View of the girl appearence can change his decision but having a view into her thoughts can completely alter his decision.Because Appearences are Deciving.Not every thing that looks pleasant is Good.
I know several incidents when a guy marries a girl yet they end up divorcing because they fail to develop an understanding even in the most basic of things.
Instigation of Desire is only when they chat alone at the phone.
a lot of times you know someone really when you get married.
you mean, like a group chat?? you, her and her father/brother?? Allaahu a'lam
There should be enough meetings before the marriage happens to also discuss this.
Now they are in a group chat together even if it is with a mahram this would mean they also now have each others numbers, this means one can potentially private message the other now and start their own separate private conversation.
Akhi barakAllahu feek the things you have brought forth are conditions. And I am not aware of anything that stipulates that these effect the Ruling the Shaykh RahimahuAllah gave. the scholars have mentioned that conditions must have evidence in the Quran and Sunnah, just like everything else in Islam.
Actually there is no concept of Fiancee in Islam because marriage in islam is the easiest way to become a couple there is no point of fiancee
If I never get married?
Sad
U should it's sunnah of every prophet
@@kisntforkhalidit’s not sad to not get married. Many prophets and scholars hasn’t got married
@@aboutislam62-nl7cn it's sunnah to marry..u should be sad .
@@aboutislam62-nl7cnExamples?
@@kisntforkhalid
Marriage is not suitable for everyone
Some men/women are born with extremely undesirable looks so they couldnt get married.
Is it possible to look at her hair ? Are you sure ?
Yes, brother, most Saudis are like this. You come and meet her guardian and talk a little with him, then he must offer to you to take a look at her (this is if he accepts you. It is natural for him to compliment you and not want to embarrass you. You should know that he refuses from his facial expressions and words or from his failure to offer to meet her). She comes to the same room or the living room. You go to her and meet her with her guardian or mother. You can talk to her a little and ask her some questions, of course, without her hijab. Then you leave them after her father says to you (We are honored by you, but the choice is the girl’s and I will return a call to you as soon as possible). If he speaks to you and says No, it may be good for you. If he agrees, you go and takes istikharah and speaks to her father again to set a date for the marriage (engagement) and brings the sheikh with you.
@OnlyTrueGod. I see but isn't hair haram?
@@copernicus6420 This is a permission from the Prophet, according to the hadith. Especially for us Arabs, the full hijab covers even the face. The view has four conditions, as mentioned by the Sheikh
@@copernicus6420 The hadith says: “Whatever invites you to marry her.” And scholars like this sheikh said even the hair, so take it from them and do not worry. This is a fatwa
2nd condition :
He thinks his proposal most likely to be accepted.
How can this come into the condition ? Because we didn't see the fiancee before and we don't know how she looks or characteristics. Before thinking that " our " proposal most likely to be accepted , we men have to look if we can marry her or not. If the man know her then this is okay to deal. If I'm mistaken , correct me
You are mistaken because this man would never speak of what he does not know
@@smileys8745 that's might be true. I learned a lot from him. But could you please then correct me then ? How could be this condition applied ?
@ yaseen Malik . We don’t get married to a total strangers, that you never know. %99 get married in their own circles.and you can tell if she will accept or not.
@@AA-jq6cv I'm coming from southern India. And the marriages here are most to strangers.
@@AA-jq6cv it's quite wrong. There are millions of Marriages within strangers. I could say that most of muslims are like that. And in Islam we shouldn't have any contact with the girl before marriage. We cannot know how she looks , the way she behaves because Allah ordered us to lower our gaze.
i thought a woman’s neck is her awrah
It is even her hairs but it's permissible in this case
Bothers stick to the Ulemmas!!!
May Allah give you good
We would stick to QURAN AND SUNNAH only...and we respect the scholars who follow QURAN AND SUNNAH
I dont understand one thing we can see her hair, before marriage but can't talk to her on the phone etc with a guardian knowing it. isn't this contradicting
Khulwa (non muhram male and female alone together) is haram in islam
Its about the necessity of looking before mariage. Looking at her feet and face etc is only allowed at the moment the mentioned conditions are fulfilled.
no disrespect to the sheikh but he doesn't give any evidence to support his fatwa
It is not a requirement for an alim to provide evidence when giving fatawa. This is a principle well established amongst the scholars, and they base it upon the fact that the sahabah would be asked for fatwa and would often answer without giving evidence, and the rest of the salaf followed this too.
النبي ﷺ أمر الخاطب أن ينظر، قال: إذا خطب أحدكم امرأة فإن استطاع أن ينظر إلى ما يدعوه إلى نكاحها فليفعل، فإن ذلك أقرب إلى أن يؤدم بينكما فالنظر إلى المخطوبة لا بأس به، من غير خلوة.
وجاءه رجل ذكر له أن زواج امرأة، أي أراد الزواج بها، أو عقد عليها، فقال: أنظرت إليها؟ قال: لا، قال: اذهب، فانظر إليها رواه مسلم في الصحيح
@@subulassalam6067but the sahaba knew the prophet so makes sense that they wouldn't need to. Doesn't make sense for modern day scholars to do the same.
@SetASpark It doesn't matter that they knew the prophet ﷺ. They would give fatawa after the death of the prophet ﷺ regarding issues that they themselves differed regarding and they wouldn't always mention the evidence to the laymen.
Likewise if you look at the fatawa of the tabi'in and the generations after them, they would often leave out mention of the evidence.
This is because the layman is not required to know the evidence, in fact he does not have the full capacity to understand the evidence or know whether it's authentic or not, it's sufficient for him to follow the opinion of a trusted scholar.
@@subulassalam6067 the sahaba are evidence akhi based on the words of RasoolAllah