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- In this episode of “Our America,” Lisa Ling looks at the country's epidemic of teen pregnancy and how one community is responding. This is a story of teenage dreams-of eye-opening efforts underway to stop children from having children-and of teenage freedom lost too soon to the vicious cycle of teen pregnancy. (Original air date: June 26, 2012)
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Teen Mom Nation | Our America with Lisa Ling | Full Episode | OWN
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Too many of these teenage girls have "boyfriends" in their 20s. LEAVE LITTLE GIRLS ALONE.
I couldn’t imagine being 30 messing with a 16 year old boy. I don’t see how men/predators can do it. It grosses me out to the core.
The girls dumb too though 🤷🏽♀️
I went to school with a 16 year old girl whose boyfriend was 28 married and had 1 child. It was sick
@@coreyjeanne9342 I'm in Toronto. It is very illegal here but no one said anything and her mentality was that if he were happy at home he wouldnt be looking for anyone else. She was nuts.
Totally agree. It's wrong!
I would love to see a documentary on the teenage boys perspective. Why they don’t feel responsible and walk away. Why aren’t they held accountable?
This
Likely bc they've had no real father figure. No one is rearing them. Whose going to hold them there and say 'you've gotta be accountable.'. It's a generational issue often.
I'm not a church person but Memphis in this video is on the correct path, imo.
**teen mom now 45
Yes !
I can’t believe there still isn’t a male contraception pill or something. The girls hold all the cards.
Because the single mom isn't held accountable! How many kind of birth control they have and they still get pregnant just to live off the system.
I’m 22 and everyone wants me to have a baby. I just broke the generational curse of teen pregnancy. I’m just happy to beat the statistics and honestly just not ready
I am happy for you and good for you, become the woman you want to be❤️
andrea dombe Thank you so much 😇
Good for you!
Like I tell my kids take your time get your life together and enjoy your teens and twenties
YESSSSSS!!!!
These girls are 14 and their boyfriends are 20? That is what’s wrong.
also the girls are dumb
The girls stupid too🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️
Nazia Jahan right
Kids are dumb, these girls are kids.
They think they’re grown
To the teen dad taking care of his children and his girl and his girl’s sister and her baby! You are a good dad!
Yes and even when times are hard keep going! You guys are doing awesome!
Until he split! I guess he got tired of having responsibilities.
I think it's great that the dad is taking care of his responsibilities. I was 27 and married, my ex-husband didn't even contribute!
It’s sad that he even had to be congratulated for this. Mothers do all the work and I haven’t seen one comment about them being strong mothers. Which they are. Why is it so rare for men to step up to plate 😒 this should be common play.
@Cyber Rant Nation bc they don't have strong male role models to teach them how to be good men. I think that's one of the reasons a two parent household is so important.
Why don’t the boys have to spend the night with fake babies as well? They both need the revelation. Also, I think a more effective approach would be paring youth with an actual teen mom to help them get a real experience!
Yesss!!!! I was thinking the same thing!!! And have the girls AND boys do the class! Have them " grocery" shop and buy baby clothes. THAT would be even more effective!
@Olga Williams....the boys should have to do it, too. Girls don't get pregnant by themselves! Start making them BOTH accountable for their actions!
Stacey Stroh they do when my kids went to school.
They do in our high school, but they didn't have this program when I was stupid and making decisions that led me to getting knocked up by a sociopath at 19. :)
Because the reality is that the boys can bounce. However, if the narrative changed and they did require the boys to do this exercise it may change the outcome in the future.
Ok why aren't the parents of these teen girls pressing charges for these older men getting them pregnant? Plus filing child support
@Minnie Mouse For the teenage boy his parents will have to pay and for the criminal still file against him the mother can get government assistance and she can get his social security benefits as well back pay
@maimai So very sad, but true
maimai these are not men but boys mentality
Sometimes they are drug dealers that the mom/dad can get money or drugs from
Andrea Ledet the Latino family structure doesn’t do it like that. Family is family
"We weren't trying to get pregnant, it just happened".
If you aren't PREVENTING, you are literally TRYING people! 👌🏻
I’ve had to say that very statement to too many of the young girls I’ve seen as patients. 😔
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If your prevention fails, you aren't trying. I know so many babys born despite the pill.
Just dont judge bevor you know all facts. And even then, just don't judge you have never lived a single day of anyone elses life.
meinenNamen sagichnet can you read?
@@maezin1386 no not at all. I am answering by guessing what could have been said.
The baby is going to be there when you need them? Girl... that baby isn’t there to serve you. Rude awakening ahead.
No surprise how very misguided her words were.
She’s a kid what did you expect her too say?
@@2l2q36 Even as a teen, myself and most people I've encountered would never have claimed that a baby is "there when you need them"🤨. I disagree that her comment was a normal or expected teenager comment about parenting. She is definetely emotionally immature for her age.
Cay K actually, sometimes babies give people joy, and happiness, even when everyone else is against you. I don’t think she meant it like the baby was gonna be there for her.
@@ambercooper4676 She didn't say bring joy, she literally said that the baby will be "there for HER". That's not even close to the same thing. She expects the baby to fill voids and be her emotional support, did you even watch the video and listen to how many how girls made similar comments? So many come from broken homes, so the thought of the baby as "someone that will love me forever" is all too common. Butt anyone who is a parent knows that while babies bring joy, they take a LOT out of you and bring responsibilities that these girls cant even fathom yet. A screaming infant isn't "there for you", especoally at 3 am when you haven't slept in days, you are there for the screaming infant. While babies do bring love and joy, having a baby shouldn't be about what the baby can give you, thats a recipe for disaster.
I’m in my 30s AND married, with degrees and an established career. I still don’t feel ready for children. Watching this gave me anxiety! 😳😳😳
same
Then you’re never gonna be ready. After 20 it’s not about age but maturity and selflessness that makes one ready to be a mom, not the other attributes! 🤷🏻♀️😏
Angie Doe: lol, maturity won’t pay the hospital bills. You need the finances and stable relationship to raise a child. If you don’t have both you’re screwed in my opinion
@@angiedoe597 not having children doesnt make a person selfish. What kind of stupidity is that?
@@jessa4596 stupidity is spinning what I said to automatically mean that those who don’t have kids are selfish. So if I’d have said that mothers are nice people, it automatically meant that everyone else isn’t nice or are even bad people? 🤔 I just listed the precondition to be ready to be a mom. Maturity and selflessness. Didn’t say one word about others. 🙄
Soooo have a child doesn't make you fat? These children's parents really let these kids down.
I've seen so many teen moms say that same thing. How is having a child better than a few pounds?
The irony is she still got fat
Lol getting fat is the least of their problems. Having babies is expensive and takes a lot out of you. Rewarding yes but not super easy.
rzum81 she said initially she didn’t want to go on birth control because it makes you fat hence the irony
I know . 🤦♀️
Interesting how the girls without the resources keep the baby but the girl with all the resources at their disposal gives it away.
That’s because they are smart enough to know that their child deserves a better life.
I always wondered that as well .
I wonder why the girls who obviously see they can not give this child half of what they can even give themselves at the moment.
Choose to take on this huge responsibility and financial responsibility as well .
Especially when even their own parents can't make ends meet and can't help .
It's like why do that to yourself Especially when the father doesn't stick around .
I guess they feel they just have to stick with it
I think it’s neglect. A lot of the deprived kids feel like the baby will give them the love and attention that they crave and didn’t get because their parents worked so much and could watch over them. The issue is a baby is needy and needs love and attention from the parent not the other way around.
Already I see the focus being on these young girls who have experienced trauma instead of on the older MEN grooming them, impregnating them, and abandoning them. So sick of this narrative.
The majority of teen pregnancies are fathered by men over 20. There's a whole other issue there we're not looking at.
whewwww yes! shoutout to the guy focusing on the boys in an effort to avoid teen pregnancy! too many programs focus on the teen moms as if they conceived miraculously + without a boy or even worse MAN in the picture. we need more hims.
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Yep. Because child support cases ( unpaid) leads to all kinds of incarcerations.
YES that part made me sooo happy to see.
Do what other developed nations do: teach them about protection, give them free contraception and teach them what healthy relationships look like. Don't just say 'don't do it'.
Silke Absolutely.
Religion is the reason
Mel Yep. Gotta love that fundamentalism.
@@Mel-oe3dw
I think it does matter, it still happens and forbid the young get stoned to death for family dishonor.
I agree
I love Lisa Ling’s reporting. She’s the best!
JP K So empathetic and kind❤️❤️
Same!
What worried me was Latonya when she said they are there when you need them. Babies love you but they need you more than you need them. They aren’t able to give so young. I feel sorry for her and other girls who think a baby will fill the void they need for love or companionship.
rzum81 Clearly speaking to her childhood! Sounds like her Mother and Father are emotionally and physically absent! I hope she doesn’t get pregnant again..
Mo Butter she did
I think that’s why a lot of women have babies when they aren’t ready their lonely.
Babies don’t always love you. Sometimes those babies grow up to hate you
I think they intentionally edited it that way... it doesn’t sound like she actually said that. And by the end of that episode when she’s given birth she seems much more level headed.
That young man who is working and taking care of his family is amazing. I hope he is still a stand up guy!
Yea that’s HIS responsibility. It does take two..
All of the young women who are going to school/working and taking care of their children are amazing
Having a first baby at 14 might be a genuine mistake. But it's difficult for me to understand getting pregnant right away with the second child.
There's a misconception that you can't get pregnant for a certain amount of time after giving birth. I can't imagine not just being pregnant that young, but having yet another kid when you weren't even ready for the first one!
The point is: They did not LEARN the first time!
@@sarcasticallyrearrangedThank you! It never cross my mind that misconception can be one factor. Eye opener for sure.
They didn’t learn the first time
pure idiocy.
If he’s not going to use a condom and care about your safety, call off the relationship!!! Period👌🏼👌🏼🤷🏽♀️
Tom Slak The problem is you can say that all day long and you’re not wrong, but it doesn’t mean they’re not sneaking around still doing it. You gotta be realistic and get these kids access to protection.
Yes and this takes some communication really
No if YOU AS A WOMAN aren’t going to care about your own body then keep your legs closed to these dudes. Boys can’t get pregnant. It is up to the girls to protect themselves. They make female condoms and bc. No excuses ladies. Your body, uterus and health belongs to you. This is why all these girls getting pregnant, y’all teaching them to trust men who only want a damn nut. Start educating these girls on SELF protection 🤦🏼♀️
They're not thinking about responsibility. They're thinking with their hormones only.
Or else you'll miss that period.
My mom was a teen mom. I broke the cycle. I’m in my 40’s and still haven’t had a child.
Pastor Floyd is doing the work that needs to be done! Speaking to young men about their sexual choices and consequences is a wonderful step towards preventing teen pregnancies! BRAVO
We need a “where are they now!”
Its here!! Check the upload
Bruh. I’m 27 and due with my first in two weeks. Married and established and I’m still scared shitless. I can’t imagine going through this as a kid. 😳
Jevonte Hodge gosh thank you :) how sweet!
Jevonte Hodge: who cares lol. Why so mean? Ewww...
You will never be ready for kids! Ask any parent and they will tell you the same thing. I had my first at 23 and second at 26. P.s. baby wipe warmers are a waste of money. Lol
@Jevonte Hodge ..that's not what I meant. I'm saying no matter how much you prepare for a baby (example: taking parenting classes, getting the nursery perfect, reading books) you will NEVER be ready. I am sure you are not a parent..
I do see a common thread with this. It doesn’t matter if you’re in your teens or twenties or thirties. Established in life or not established. Whatever situation you’re in nobody is really 100% ready to take care of another life.
I’m 24 with a degree, married and pregnant with my first planned baby and I still feel too young 😅
I’m 22 and married! So excited for you guys!!
You are but you are blessed may GOD 😁on you and your new family..
No you're not too young you're the right age because the risks are much lower and you'll have enough energy to chase after the baby when he/she becomes a toddler have all your kids well before you hit 40
Go on girl !!!!! Bless you and your family
Girl, you or on track, enjoy every min they grow fast..
16 and two babies????😱😱😱😱😱
Kaykay. J I had a classmate in my junior year of high school (1990), she was 17 had twin boys, but also had a 4 year old daughter! I was shocked!
Laurie Holy moly, in my high school year (2020) I also knew a girl who was 17 with a 4 years old 😢
I can't even imagine, I was a typical teenager loved sleeping in during the holidays, loved staying up late, I couldn't even imagine being responsible for someone else.
I had my daughter at 19, I never slept in late, I've been working since about 14, I graduated highschool, but I wanted children young. My husband and I were ready, I have zero regrets, being a mother is the best thing I have ever done and when I finish homeschooling her I'm going to become a birthing doula. We will be home owners in the next couple months, and currently live on our own. Never once have we been dependant on our parents. There are so many of us young mom's who PLANNED our children and are good mother's despite what society tells us🤷🏻♀️
@@corablah9809At 18 we are adults and can marry and have children. No one looks down on a young MARRIED mother of age.
Leticia Jamison not true at all just go on tik tok and look at the comments. People bash any young mother married or not.
So glad my mother pounded the idea of getting an education and living my life to the fullest before having a baby into my head from when I was a child and through out my adolescence. I'm 29 years old, married and STILL don't feel ready for the responsibility of a baby.
Same here!
You will never feel ready!
this needs to be shown in all the middle schools and high schools of america
Sophie is incredibly intelligent. I respect that she tried raise her baby but understood that she couldn’t be what the parents could be for him.
She ain't that intelligent if she got pregnant at 16
@@oyinireland1561 oyin annoying
@@zinazina6367 9
It was the right decision for her and her baby
oyin ireland controversial but you are right. There’s long term, short term and emergency contraception. If she was affected by long term contraception she could have at least used the morning after pill which is most effective within 12hrs after the act but is efficacious 72 hrs after. She made smart choices after doing a stupid thing.
All these littles girls lives ruined over boys who gave them a little affection, two pumps and a quiver, and not even a high school education.
They've learnt the hard way 🤷🏽♀️🤷🏽♀️
“two pumps and a quiver” 🤣
Having a baby young doesn’t ruin your life, it changes your life’s path
Teens shouldn’t be dating
Love Muffin: I agree
My daughter did the doll in high school. Had it a week. She was a miserable tired mess lol
Every high school child should have a doll for 1 week and be told if they fail then another 2 weeks for a bit more of reality
We did similar but with an egg, I accidentally broke my egg within 24 hours. I was so embarrassed but not too surprised .
I dont think giving them dolls will prevent pregnancy. Giving them condoms will
Your profile pic ❣️❣️❣️
@meinenNamen sagichnet exactly! the dolls are a scare tactic. We need free contraception!
dont help to have MTV shows like Teen Mom lowkey glorifying it
That's true. They idolize those on tv. 🙄
Very true
Not low-key, High-key!
@@joycenyangweso9377 0
It only glorifies it if you already wanted to do it. I saw teen mom when I was a teenager and only wanted to avoid having children more. Maybe some teens are naive enough to think getting pregnant will make them famous. There's prob someone delusional enough to believe that lol
You know you're a mumbly teenager when they have to give you subtitles.
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😂😂😂
At least he’s shouldering the responsibility
I grew up with both parents and none of them were home 24/7. We were often alone and had chores around the house. And neither of us is pregnant at the age 27 and 30. Education system is to blame, I would say. They teach kids here about contraception, STD's, just the not-so-nice parts of pregnancy at teenager age. And I literally don't know a single teenage mother. Saying "don't do it" is laughable.
Same both parents at home I’m a black woman 30 yrs old and don’t have a child.
Same here. I’m 28, both parents at home. My sisters and I are in our mid to late 20’s and none of us have kids. We are black women and all of us are in school and working. Our parents made sure to speak to us about focusing on school.
The education system is influenced by the politics of the area though. Here in the south the schools have to have a signed permission slip from the parents to talk about contraception and the like. That's part of the problem - parents sticking their heads in the sand saying we believe in abstinence and the school shouldn't tell them because it's not God's way, etc... It needs to be taught regardless of religion. I feel it is a parent's job to reinforce the family beliefs at home but that all kids should have the correct information provided to them by a reliable source, not their peers.
"We can't even take care of fake babies" and "zombie tired " this girl is cracking me up😂
Right 😂😂 I laughed too
It’s like MTV‘a Teen Mom without all the therapy and money
And drama
I had the robot baby in high school while on the soccer team and I was ZOMBIE TIRED for my games and practice. I’m 25 years old now and still not ready for that kind of crying yet 🥴
You do not get the hormones with a robot. Don't rush it but with a real (wished for) baby you might feel different
@@meinennamensagichnetomg yes ! The hormones you get after birth is horrible . Makes you feel even more exhausted and just an overall mess
Wow this man is taking care of his gf, their two sons, his gf’s sister, and a child that Isn’t even his. Props to him ! I know that couldn’t have been easily and was very draining to him.
The white teen mom's situation is nothing like the brown and black teen moms. Growing up upper middle class and poverty makes a huge difference.
Because she gave the baby away im sure it would be harder if she kept it
Very interesting
Poor people still have the option or abortion and adoption.
So idk why alot of them don't take the route and just keep the baby especially when all the odds are against them
With good support, these girls can achieve their goals. My cousin was 14 when she became a teen mother. She didn’t allow that to stop her from becoming a pharmacist. Her baby graduated from grad school and is doing great. A coworker had her only child at 14 and is a healthcare executive with her PhD and recently graduated with her JD. It might be harder but not impossible. See yourself leading your baby by example.
A handful of cases here and there. Those who have resources and help. Either way.......14 years old?? Not physically nor mentally healthy!!
Those are the exceptions not the rule. Most teen moms won't see that success. And others don't want to inconvenience their lives to allow that, and they don't necessarily have to.
@@jellybeans9283 Actually, recent stats (2018) have found that most teenage mothers have caught up to their peers in terms of career and education by the age of 30. Their children tend to experience long term side-effects from growing up in a stressful situation however.
If you're someone who grew up in poverty, you'll be more likely to remain in poverty regardless of how old you are when you have children (being a teen mom of course makes this more likely), but if you grew up in a financially stable household and you have good social support (ie. a village to help raise your child) you'll probably be fine.
in my opinion, the teen mothers who do end up succumbing to mental health issues like anxiety, depression and drug addiction are the ones with bad parents who kicked them out on to the street instead of supporting them so that they could finish high school and go to college.
@@Ilikefrogs.. YES X1000. I wish this comment could be pinned. Having a child regardless of age does not hinder success, education, or financial stability whatsoever. I had a few friends who got pregnant in high school. The one who had supportive parents owns her home and is a nurse. The one who had parents kick her out and also they lived in poverty.. well unfortunately it's living paycheck to paycheck driving around a hoopty for her. I think it's a case by case basis for every person
Perhaps society's strong negative judgement towards teen moms has something to do with so many not succeeding financially. Self fulfilling prophecy folks! Instead of attacking a sexually mature woman (girl) over her "mistake" of getting pregnant it would be nice for an extended village to surround her and her new sweet little human with support and love!!!!
It would have been nice to get an update on these ladies.
living in poverty likely with more kids.
teen dads doing every thing for there young family are the best!
To all teen moms (and responsible teen dads) watching this video: Do NOT allow the put downs and bad predictions influence YOUR outcome in YOUR life. Instead, use that negativity to light that fire in you to prove it all wrong. Even if at times you feel as though your life is over--trust me, it's not. RISE ABOVE. Your child(ren) is/are your motivation to improve your situation in life. Be constantly resourceful. Make a plan. Adjust your plan frequently and as needed. Keep fighting and moving forward. Yes, your education and dreams may be harder now to accomplish, but you can still obtain what you want in life while being as good a parent as you can be. I wish someone had had ONE good comment or word of encouragement for me--but as this documentary illustrates--the vast majority of influential adults around a teen parent will only offer prejudiced and negative commentary. I was a teen mom at age 15 and at age 18. I lived through abject poverty even bouncing from homeless shelter to homeless shelter for a year in my early 20's. I never lost hope I would one day be able to go to med school to be a doctor which was a lifelong dream. In any way I could, I was always working toward it whether getting a GED, taking college night classes after work, working 2 jobs and selling Avon on the weekends--- anything I had to do to always be responsible for my children's livelihood and the attainment of my goals. It took me until I turned 42 to graduate from residency as a physician. Not one of my 3 children ever became parents in their teens. In their 30's and late 20's now without children. All of them responsible, productive citizens. And I now earn a very comfortable living and it gives me great joy to help them in any way possible. You can do it-- don't let anyone or anything tell you differently. They harder life pushes you down, the harder you push back! Sending you all prayers and love.
💓 thank you 🙏🏼
Thank you for this beautiful comment. Wish I could like it 1000 times.
Thank you for sharing you testimony. I wholeheartedly agree with you, as I too , was a teen mom at 17. I graduated high school pregnant and went straight to college. Yes, it’s hard (er), but like you said, my children are my motivation. I’m now a mother of 2 (with the same father, we are now married) and earning my masters degree at one of the best universities in the country. And I have lived experience that aids in my abilities to grasp concepts and be of service to others. I commend you for continuing to follow your dreams❤️❤️❤️ it’s not easy but it is possible. Never give up on yourself and your children. To much is given, much is required. God Bless.
Ma’am, I want to thank you for this so much from the bottom of my heart. I’m tearing up just reading this... I had my daughter at 18 and I’m starting college in January (I’m 19 now) God bless you😭❤️
No.1 reason of deterioration of American society is the sexualization of children, especially young girls. Kids are too eager to grow up in every sense because the culture and the media doesn’t shame it, and in fact glamorizes it. 🙁
But if that's true, teen pregnancy rates would be sky rocketing, no? But they aren't. They were higher before and girls were having babies even younger
Girls being married at the age of 13 was normal not that long ago. Even now certain states allow underage marriage with the consent of a parent. Preaching abstinence has been proven to contribute to the downfall of certain aspects of society.
Why are girls sexually maturing at age 8, 9, 10? Too many hormones in meat & milk. Vegan girls start periods around 16. Something to think about. No sexual maturity no sexual urges to fight.
Say it again!!! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Wrong.
My mother was 17 when she had her first.. I was determined to not have a baby young. I’m 29 now and doing good for myself no baby’s and so happy about it
Instead of preaching for abstinence, they should give them condoms and birth control pills. Them they would stop having children when still being teens. Less people depending on the government for social assistance.
Not bc pills, implants. Teens aren't reliable about BC pills. BC pills need taken same time daily, antibiotics can interfere with BC pills, overweight girls have less effectiveness from BC pills! Implants and condoms used together= nearly 100% prevention
Government officials get more government assistance than anyone. One government official pay is way more than 100,000 welfare recipients. Btw, welfare was started for poor white folks
In Australia, we don't preach abstinence in schools. We educate teenagers about their options.
Copper coil all the way
The boys are so lucky... they literally can run away and still finish high-school.
And still get to live their lives like nothing happened
God bless that man for having frank conversations with those young men!! Wish parents and the church would do this with both the gals and guys more.
My friend's child just had a baby. He is 14, It's a "village" helping to raise the baby ❤ thank goodness for family
Sophie is so mature... really impressed with how she's handled adopting out her son.
I agree with you 100%
I would love to know how everyone in this documentary is doing now.
Bless that teacher for caring for the babies to allow the mommy’s to do their work.
My mom had me when she was 18. She told me over and over again, you do not want to be a teen mom, it’s hard. Even tho my dad was around, it was still hard because he went off to college. So she was raising me mostly by herself. She got her GED and married my dad and they’re still married, but that is so rare.
I’m 28, married, and have a good job and honestly I’m scared to have a child. I don’t feel ready! So I know these teen moms are scared!!
You can do everything right and still be a single parent. Single parenthood is difficult no matter what age you are.
Good point.
Right i was married to my kids dad. I never thought id end up a single mom.
Yep 100% I’m going to be a single parent never thought that would happen. I’m 26 he’s 30 we were in a long term relationship and yet I’m going to be a single parent. It can happen to anyone at any age.
Brianna said “I really did not want to get pregnant again.”
YES! Yes you did because you did not make a point to get on birth control which meant you were trying to get pregnant and you got pregnant!
That’s how people take responsibility for themselves
I'm multiracial and there are many white women who admitted to having abortions and/or taking Plan B in my family. Black and Latinx people tend to be Evangelical (or Catholic) and abortion is a big "No" in those communities. Additionally, those religious views preach abstinence which isn't realistic. So they don't even broach the topic of contraception.
Plan B isn't abortion, and it's a great option on the market today. Just don't make it your go-to method of birth control - it is truly as the name implies, a 'Plan B.'
@@SurrealisticSlumbers I agree that Plan B is an option. However, many young women who live in religious conservative households aren't even aware of it.
I’m a black atheist it’s rare I think us blacks and browns need to leave Christianity behind. It was just create to keep black people under control during slavery anyway
@@lyramarks622 I agree. I am agnostic, but am leaning more and more towards atheism.
@Al Person I guess you missed Ephesians 6:5, 1 Timothy 6:1, Titus2:9, 1 Peter 2:18, and Colossians 3:22. Yes, the slave masters used the Bible to justify and keep slaves. How do you not know this? Additionally, Atheism is not a Eurocentric concept. While the first concept was recorded in Greece in the 5th century, Atheists simply reject all deities. How exactly is that Eurocentric? In fact, most Atheists live in China (about 200 million). I guess cherry picking from the Bible and being deliberately obtuse is still rampant in Christian churches, but ok. 🙄
😆😆 Latonya said " i can still do everything I wanna do. Who's gonna stop me?" Ummmmm do you know how much of ur time caring for a baby takes up if u do it properly?? Good luck sis, ur gonna need it. Wish u all the best
Abstinence only doesn’t work. Health care is terrible and inequitable. Poverty is rampant and makes you vulnerable to all sorts of hardships. There I answered your question.
Those girls chose poverty
Abstinence doesn’t work? Are you kidding?
Jevonte Hodge You obviously know nothing about the cycle of poverty. These teenagers did not choose to be brought up in poverty, surrounded by systematic and societal ills. As much as Americans like to think people can do it on their own, those people are the exception to the rule. People in poverty need help to climb the rungs of a caste system, and they definitely don’t get it from a society like the US that constantly punishes the poor and under privileged. Read any journal articles on the subject. The proof is in the pudding. All societies that help each other (Higher taxes, more government help) have better societal, health and education standards. I live in Canada and we aren’t perfect here but damn, living here is a dream compared to the US.
@Jevonte Hodge, a lot of them were already living in poverty. Taxes for financial support doesn’t do anything. They would have to get jobs anyway.
@Ashley Miller, I agree with you, but don’t act like all Americans think the way the people in these comments do.
I’m 24 and considered too old to have kids in my culture. My partner and I want to wait until I’m at least 28 and he’s at least 31 to have kids. His mom and my mom were both teen parents. We broke the cycle and are going to consciously and responsibly educate our kids when they are entering those teenage years about being safe and how to use birth control and condoms to prevent pregnancy and STD’s. There are so many resources available now to prevent pregnancy. We should not take those for granted.
Which culture is that?
I have the perfect solution. Have these teens in at-risk schools do community service at a day care. Ive been a preschool teacher for 4 years and it really put me off from having kids.
Once they realize all the work that goes into taking care of a baby and then when they realize it gets even more difficult when they turn 2. They will really think twice.
Plus itll be great to have extra helpers in the classroom, especially since teens have more energy to run around with and bond with the kids.
I was a teenage dad. Had to do whatever it took to provide for my daughter.
She's the best thing that could ever have happened in my life.
I don’t understand how you can not learn from your first teen pregnancy, and end up having two kids by 16 👀
Where’s the follow up? I’d love to see where these girls are right now.
8 yrs later!
As a mum of nearly 10 year old daughter this is one of my biggest fears! I hope I prepare her right and give her the right information.
Scared of an abortion but not afraid of carrying a baby 9 months then pushing a volleyball out of your body & raising the baby forever! I would've been livid had my daughter become pregnant AFTER it was too late for an abortion.
Right 🤦🏽♀️not thinking straight
Kat Ferguson that and they didn’t want to take birth control because they didn’t want to get fat but what did they think baby weight was gonna do to them?
AmandaWithLov3 she dumb
I think you need to respect her choice and she is paying for the consequences !
Isn't it her body her choice?
Octavio crying over the breakup … it’s sad how these are just basically kids raising kids.
"i didin't go on birth control cause it makes you fat" And pregnancy doesn't?!?!?!?
I’m 30 and the idea of bringing a child into this hopeless world right now feels almost like abuse.
I believe it's wrong having too many children cuz you end up harming them not giving them the attention and affection they need .
I was a young mum 19 and I had 2 girls unfortunately their father was abusive to me. he got 6 years for GBH and false imprisonment. I still have PTSD from this 20 years later but I grew up quickly moved away and raised two caring, independent young women. I was also a blind mum and am proud of raising good people. I now have 3 grandchildren and my daughter is also a young mum with 1 year old twins and a 2 year old and no she isn’t a scrounger and will return to work as soon as they attend nursery. Their father also works hard full time and they are an amazing little family. I’m glad I had my girls when I did before my sight deteriorated and other health conditions presented. Please don’t judge young parents as many do an amazing job and work extremely hard.
This is what generational poverty looks like..low skilled women and children.. Please! Talk to your daughters! They are the ones who end up with the child!
NO! Talk to your CHILDREN boys become fathers too!
You should talk to your sons and daughters, I was 18 and married when I had my first child.. now I am 28 with 3 children.. I have a master in econometrics and I have my own compony. My mom was a teen mom to and well she went to university to in the Netherlands and my grandma who was a teen mom to, was a doctor. Having children at a young age doesn't always mean that people are dumb, poor or what ever.
Cherilyn Johanna You are speaking from a vantage point of comfort. The Netherlands..really? Free childcare, universal healthcare.. This is an American conversation..there’s no support there! Having a child at 18 is hard with money, imagine it without. However, I’m glad it worked out for you!
@@mobutter2879 in the Netherlands health care is not for free from the age of 18 every person that is able to pay for it pays money every month to use health care I pay 273 euro every month so that if I need a doctor I can go to visit on. Allot of people from the Netherlands dont have money to pay that money every month and dont have free health care without that payment every month you pay for everything yourself. So well that's not true. The only diffrence is that if you get sick and need cancer treatment or heart surgery you dont get a bill from 200.000 euro's because you payed every month like the rest of the Netherlands so as a country we take responsibilty to pay every month so that those who need medical help get that help without having to pay more then that 273 euro's a month.
Cherilyn Johanna You’re still ahead of the game! 273 euros a month..is a dream!
I thank God my kids decided to wait. These grown behind men getting these girls pregnant, would be underneath some dirt. These girls have no clue what serious life decisions they have made. I had to grow up fast when I had to help raise my siblings when my mom became addicted to crack. So grateful my kids have grown up and are living their lives before bringing a life into this world. Lord knows I’m not trying to raise a baby right now😩...I’m burnout.
I was 19 and married when I had my oldest and my youngest followed 2.5 years later. They are now both teenagers and its tough. I was a single mom long before my divorce. I couldn't imagine being any younger. I was 11 when my sister was born. That was amazing birth control lol
I'm proud of these girls for taking care of their kids. They are doing well.
Why the HELL didn’t the mom of the two girls get her younger daughter on birth control. The instant she knew the older daughter was pregnant not once, but twice, it should have been done. 9/10 times I blame the parents. She’s a kind woman and I feel for her, but what a massive mistake.
Pastor Floyd is really doing God's work. Preaching abstinence does not work. Teens need guidance that is realistic. Focusing on boys and men is very admirable too. It always falls on the backs of girls/women.
The netherlands also has a medical approach where children must go to an appointment once they reach a certain age; at that appointment they are congratulated and informed about what puberty is and how it will change their bodies and feelings.
I think this young girl made a great decision. I have never heard any one talk about the mental health part of being a to young parent. The frontal lobe has not developed. I would love to also put the spot light on the BOYS and giving them the responsibility also.
THIS^^
I am 36 years old and just ad my first planned baby. I’m married and we both have good jobs however I still worry if I can give everything to my child as she needs. Everything it’s so expensive and it’s hard to raise a baby. I cannot imagine what these girls are going through alone. It’s so sad I wish them all to have a good life and their babies too unfortunately that’s not reality
Parents need to reflect how we parent.. educate your kids and pay attention so they don’t have to go somewhere and fill that void
And this is why I had the talk with my teenage daughter early on and continue to have it and made it clear I will not be angry if she needs to be on BC. And my son who just turned 12 will also be taught and reminded about contraception and the consequences that can come from not using it.
I had my son at age 19. His father bailed immediately. I was nearly homeless several times during my pregnancy and far from my family home. I was so afraid. It was very difficult. Now, I am 26 years old. My son is 6 years old and absolutely beautiful. His father is now attempting introduction. I’ve done this alone for so long I’m wondering if I should even allow it. Being a teen young mom is hard. Please use protection!!! Be careful!!! Be responsible!!!
Allow it but with restrictions. Nothing personal but you know some dad have issues. So just take it slowly.
Shout to Jesus Christ and that’s what I’m doing. Unfortunately there is a lot more details I haven’t explained
I can't comprehend not knowing where my daughter is at all times at the age of 14!!!!$
Well, sometimes teenagers lie about there whereabouts. There’s no way to know where your child is 100% of the time unless you are with them 100% of the time.
Where is the accountability of the parents? Who lets their child decide about birth control. Why is no one making the boys accountable? No one makes a baby by themselves. A boy or man can just decide to bail on their baby but the mother has to always be there...
The US is really a third world country. In third world countries teenage girls are forced to marry. If given a choice these girls would have preferred to study. But in the US, with all the freedom, these girls get pregnant. And the vicious cycle will repeat itself in the next generation.
Absolutely!
Valid analogy
Which countries did u mention it ?!
Yes. Teenage pregnancy makes a wealthy country third world, even though there are literally countries with girls who hardly even know what a pad or tampon is. Great logic. 🙄
Amadeo and the 2 sisters, Im really impressed. Love to them all
When the mom referred to her grandchild as a problem I was really hoping she didn’t adopt him . Glad she chose open adoption with that couple
I love Sophie's decision. Its also selfless of the adoptive parents. 👏 👏 👏 all around. ♡
I was 25 when I had my first child. Now I’m 26 pregnant with my second and as much as I love my child sometimes I wonder to myself who let me become a mom? 😂
😂😂🤣
my mother had 5 kids by 24 and was a single teenage parent. she whipped into us to be careful. as a result neither me nor my brothers have children. i'm 27, married and have a stable job in education. as much as i would love kids, me and my husband just aren't ready. we're waiting. i've currently got a contraceptive implant and we still use condoms to be extra safe. we've agreed that in 3 years we will have another serious talk about children and if we're not ready then, then we won't have kids for another year or so.
Some of these teen girls: I didn't want to get on birth control because it makes you fat...
Reality: They get pregnant and become obese.
Sound judgment🤦♀️
My mom went off the pill to 'get skinny' for her friend's wedding... Here I am, and she was not happy in a maternity dress as maid of honor.
They dumb
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They aren't the sharpest tools in the shed
Even so, what about a condom? No excuse
"I can't wait to see my baby. That's the person that's going to love and be there the most for me."
Ya, no, honey. ^You^ are the person that has to love HIM and be there for HIM. And no, you DON'T get to do WHAT you want, WHEN you want.
Somebody needs to grow up.
Cuz I'm the Mom exactly!!!
These girls can go back to school AND go to college... where there’s a will there’s a way if you really want to... there are programs out there for you to help you ...Don’t give up ... having kids isn’t easy... get your GED atleast... young people have kids and make it all the time you just have to put in the work!... and stay prayed up🙌
Yes!! I was pregnant at 20.. not as young as these girls but we were so immature and not ready. I am now a school psychologist and I have a 13 year old daughter and a 7 year old son. My husband and I got married and yes, we beat the odds!
I started college with a 9 month old. Took 6 years but I got it done! It’s about choosing priorities. The time is gonna pass one way or another.
@@Ruby-ev9ym I'm so proud of you two!
BooBoo Grayson aw thank you!
@@Ruby-ev9ym you're welcome!!!❤
Its not just teen boys. Plenty of grown boys in their 30s and up that are deadbeats
I literally feel anger and upset for these girls at the same time. Things happen to people but babies having babies is a lot. Some people make it work but others have real difficulties. I really wish them all well with their futures though.
The boyfriends are seriously PREDATORS! Growing up, I knew far too many teen moms “dating” older men
Married, foster mom to 5 beautiful children, 2 sibling groups. The challenges we face, I would never have imagined. Nothing can prepare you for parenthood. Every child is different. Thankfully these teens had healthy children.
I got pregnant at 23/24 while I was a full time student and married. Having a toddler still my days are busy. Idk how these young girls do it, especially without help.
I love that the teacher helps her with the baby