Hey, it's God's fault. If he had not told Abraham to sacrifice his son, only to have and angel explain that it was just a test at the last second, none of us would be "circ'd up"...
@@queen_meat I agree, but his idea of what gentle parenting is throws me off. Gentle parenting promotes understanding and communication, it doesn't mean you don't discipline your kid/let them get away with everything. He should educate himself more on what it means to gentle parent and why when done right it's a better method than slapping kids around.
A guy not letting his girlfriend have guy friends is a huge red flag, but here I think it's countered by the green flag of talking it out and taking it on a case-by-case basis. I like this guy.
Baby girl can refer to really any person! We have our girly baby girls, we have non-binary baby girls, we have male baby girls! Most of the time it refers to “nerdy” guys. “Feminine” guys. It is just a term of the endearment for anyone :))
I love how the most horrible people who say the most out of pocket things are always the most surprised when they get buttoned, like you can see the confusion, the hurt on their face as they ask "why'd you reject me?? I only said I kill babies and eat their bones, why would you hit the button faster than humanly possible??"
So, I'm a parent. Not a gentle parent, but I don't hit or yell at my kids. But that doesn't mean giving in to your kids demands and tolerating disrespect. Discipline can also mean taking things away, giving them things to do that they aren't normally responsible for, or having to earn things back. Discipline doesn't always mean hitting.
And gentle parenting doesn't mean you don't discipline your kids. I feel like not enough people are really interested in learning about gentle parenting and what it truly means and methods. The immediate thought is "oh you just spoil your kids". Not saying this is your way of thinking, just something I noticed. Toni Phantom (they/them) and Pleasant Peasant Media (Gwenna) are really awesome mothers who talk about gentle parenting and share real life experiences with their kids while also respecting their privacy if you wanna learn more.
Make sure you don't punish them with household tasks- that can make them still feel like a negative thing and a chore when they grow up and have to do those things!
I interpreted Tristan's comments as both "she's too lenient" and "I don't know what I can and can't do here". Kids can be raised too leniently, so they don't follow rules and they don't listen to others. And he, as the boyfriend, might not have been sure what he could do. Can he put the kid in time-out? Can he take away privileges (ie screen time)? It's a weird line to walk. I don't think the implication was that he wanted to hit the kid, though.
Exactly. I think the boundaries of his responsibilities for the GF's child weren't discussed in the relationship. She just dumped the kid on him since he was "free childcare" while she worked or whatever. Meanwhile he was working as well and trying to do his job. I feel like the child WAS spoiled and didn't listen to him or take him seriously as he wasn't the parent. Basically a "you have no authority over me" kinda mentality. Or just the GF wouldn't let him discipline the child because she didn't either. Even though the child may have needed some form of correction. Idk just my thoughts on relationships I've observed where a lazy single parent is dating someone who doesn't have children.
Imagine being there and the woman your talking to says “I don’t believe in physical discipline” and you respond with “I would beat my kids” then wonder why she rejected you
Ikr 😭 he literally implied he would physically harm her children and then wondered why she didn't wanna be involved with him?? She would have to be the worst mother ever to ignore that. That's not even a red flag, it's just a straight up confession of being an abusive person
I had an ex bf and I knew that he was going to be my ex the moment that he defended his friend physically assaulting her 3 year old in front of us. The situation; Child was well behaved but a bit wound up as she had company over in her small apartment, when the child asked her very nicely to read a story to him what she did was scream at the child in anger and drag the child off by the arm to his room where she beat him on the bottom so hard much harder than I would ever feel comfortable hitting a consenting adult. My ex completely supported and defended her behavior and that was when I knew that we would not have any future together. I wish I would have reported what I saw to CPS but I did not, I was only 19.
@@ThimbleFox350 Oh gosh that’s horrible, and some people would still call that “discipline.” It’s sick. That’s straight up abuse and nothing could excuse it. What is a 3 year old gonna learn from that? Don’t ask mommy questions? Don’t talk in public? Genuinely so disturbing.
I also really respect tristen for not wanting to date a girl with kids because the trauma kids with single parents (not just mothers PARENTS) go through being introduced to the dates and partners just to see them broken up is terrible. I know not all single parents introduce their kids to their partners but I still think it would be hard for all parties even the ex partner after building a relationship with this child just to never see them again
Same. They both handled that well, he wasn't disrespectful about her having a kid and she was incredibly gentle and understanding when talking to him about his experience and boundaries.
Facts. My mom had 5 different partners throughout my life she introduced us(my sister and I)to. Only 2 of them I cared for( one died when we were young, the other cheated and him and my mom were already growing apart due to his alcoholism). The other 3 were toxic, abusive, and manipulative(my sperm donor included). Her last one made me want to unalive myself and contributed to me finally developing bulimia to deal with the stress.
My cousin is in a relatonship with a woman who has two kids. She introduced them to us at new year and they love me immensely. I don't wanna know how the kids will feel when my cousin and her break up. The younger of the two really likes my cousin too which is probably worse...
As someone who was a kid in that situation, i can confirm this. I wouldn’t say it traumatized me, necessarily, but i can 100% understand how it could traumatize someone. It hurt a lot when we had to go (we were staying with him at his house), it felt like all the progress made by finding them (he had kids too) was ruined in an instant. A little bit venty but i’m being honest
14:39 I wanna defend homeboy here, I had a neighbor I was friends with works from home while his partner worked out of home and he ended up being a babysitter more than a boyfriend, his girlfriend didn’t even let him put her kid in timeout, either because gentle parenting or because she didn’t want him disciplining her son. But at some point you have to understand that your child care provider, whether it’s a partner, paid stranger, or family has a right to discipline the child, now always ALWAYS make it clear discipline ≠ hitting
Yea, that was one thing I was wondering, was this ex a "gentle-parent" or a gentle parent, the difference being someone who doesn't vs does discipline their kid, the one that doesn't is only using the "gentle-parent" title to cover for why their child is a brat, and in which case he may have meant he does believe in discipline but not hitting the child and wasn't sure whether he had the right to discipline a child not his but a partner's. Alternatively he may have been a parent who does believe in discipling being hitting in which case, thank god he was buzzed.
Honestly, regardless of race, a shaved head with a "rats tail" is just... giving Angelicas doll from the rugrats... I think miley cyrus has the same hair rn 😂
for coopers mom; babygirl is what we call people who are precious and loveable, and a little silly goofy. it's just a silly little way to say "wow, he's so funny and precious" (and other things like that)
for cooper’s mum: babygirl is the most prestigious title you can give to a person, period. it means you raised a wonderful son who also has a really cool dog!
That would happen to me at school. The teacher would say something that made me get lost in my mind and Im come back to reality not knowing how much time had passed but I had no idea what they were now talking about so Id be lost.
I just stumbled upon this channel and have a missing piece in life. As a cosplayer, lover of What We Do In The Shadows, and someone who appreciates comedic commentary, this video offers everything I need and more. Thank you for existing, sir.
Cooper: Goes on a whole rant about how if unfair for her to not want a guy that is uncut Cooper a minute later: "its okay to have preferences" *I just find that so funny
@@Cheerleader644860 the post said they wanted this guy at their funeral. I said that they were the kid he was referencing. I made a joke- not commenting on the one liner from him I using it to make a joke here. 🤷🏻♀️ I’m also from the south in the US. I hear this all the time in Walmart. Not even shocking. 🤷🏻♀️
@@shruubbs I feel like it does say a lot if they don't flinch, but it definitely doesn't mean anything if they do and they're jumpy. If a dog doesn't flinch when someone raises a hand at them they're definitely being treated well because they don't understand that that could even mean getting hit, but ya some dogs just be jumpy so it doesn't work in reverse if ya feel.
Learning that Cooper listens to Hozier was like when you're reading a book and all the plot threads are starting to connect. Of course he does, yes, that makes perfect sense. We need a Tier List (tipsy or not) of Hozier songs.
For cooper's mother, baby girl essentially means a sweet ol' boy, the nice type, the precious type. It is mostly used for people who look like the "bad boy" at first glance but are actually very soft. A cutie if you will.
18:42 verbatim this is my motto!!! It’s so wild to hear someone else talk about used cars like this, I love it!! I’ve never had a car payment and I’ve been driving for almost 20 years 😊
I love that when he raises his hand and pretends like he's about to hit his dog he defends himself so adamantly but really the dog's reaction is all the defense he needs He didn't even flinch you can tell he wouldn't hit him XD
Stretching is also a good way to show your dog (i think even cat) that they can relax and that the situation isn't as dangerous as they might think. Helpful for anxious animals.
The misconception that gentle parenting makes kids spoiled is not only false but is more of a testament to parents who misunderstand gentle/responsive to mean allowing their kids to do whatever they want. In truth, gentle parenting is referring to a style of parenting where you treat your child with respect all the time, even when providing structure that they may not like. An example of this: if a child is complaining about going to bed, “I understand that you don’t want to settle down and go to bed, but you need to be in bed. Would you like me to read to you or sit with you for a bit as you fall asleep?” The options will vary as this is just one example. For perspective, a parent following parenting as we’ve seen might say “that’s too bad, go to bed” or something along those lines even if not as aggressive. The second example fails to show respect (would you accept being spoken to that way? Or want your kid to tolerate it when they’re older?), doesn’t validate the child in any way (this makes them feel unseen and as if their own feelings and desires don’t matter, not good for the self esteem), and it’s just not effective due to the aforementioned reasons. As someone who’s been a nanny for over 10 years and has seen and what happens when real gentle parenting takes place Tristan’s comment gives “I have 1 experience with gentle parenting and therefore I decided it makes kids spoiled.” Doubt he did any research to see if his prior partner was practicing proper gentle parenting before coming to that conclusion. Really infuriating because the opposite of gentle parenting is what we’ve seen for too long which is parents thinking they are authoritarians in their children’s lives from minor to great degrees. This kind of parenting leads to just as many issues as the “I just let my kid do whatever” parenting. Neither are helpful and real gentle parenting can honestly raise a better human race. Really wish people would do their research before they throw out uneducated opinions like that.
cooper is so relieving to watch when u have adhd, cause usually i cant focus on a youtube video and i gotta like pause and take breaks multiple times in order to finish it, but cooper just goes on so many tangents that im always stimulated and i never lose focus lmao LUV U BBYGIRL
i dont have adhd but Im extremely prone to tangents, love when he dos that it makes me feel normal like, "oh other people do that in convo too?" commentary YTers are usually so straight forward
Reading everyone explain babygirl to Cooper’s mom is almost as entertaining as watching Cooper’s emotional rollercoaster around the morality of judging others. 😂
bro i love your videos and id rather watch them rather than the original videos (the button in this case) itself, it feels like a conversation you truly have mastered your craft
I don’t think I was ever able to sit trough a 45 min video until this one and fr I just discovered this channel not too long ago and it’s so good I love your videos
I love the part where you (briefly) mention the Bible and feel the need to palette cleanse by chanting "gay marriage" and "trans rights". As a queer person and former christian, this just really amuses me~
Cooper. COOPER!! I randomly came across your videos today, this is my second one watching. Let me tell you, you have made me laugh louder and harder than any other channel has managed to accomplish in a very long time. You are awesome, please keep it up LOL!!!
Okay I'm paused at 15 min in so i could be wrong, but i don't think that tristan thinking the kid is spoiled by his partner's "gentle parenting" necessarily means he thinks corporal punishment or authoritarian parenting is okay. There's definitely uninformed people who think "gentle parenting" means no parenting at all and they can produce spoiled rude kids. That said, if he DOES mean he thinks the kid should have been spanked and parented in an authoritarian style, I would also pass on him. I do like the hair and nails though, idk what those other girls are on about.
Was scrolling through to see if anyone else said it. Yes, there’s so many people who do “gentle parenting” wrong and give no consequences for anything, then end up with kids that have no sense of personal responsibility. Those kids then go around other people or go to school and do whatever they want because there are never consequences for them. I really doubt he was implying “beating” children, but if he was, then obviously, drop that man!
I agree. I also felt like he was talking more about him not being able to give consequences at all. I have read a lot of stories where a step-parent figure isn't allowed to discipline the kids at all because they're not the bio parent. If he was merely a boyfriend and is spending most of the day with this child, its completely possible that the girlfriend didn't allow him to parent at all and that probably got frustrating.
I saw it as the mom never showing her son right from wrong, showing him consequences, or saying no. There are plenty of way to teach and discipline a child without abusing them. But idk ig many people think it’s either abuse or spoiling the child rotten
I’m so glad someone else pointed this out, extremes exist on either side, and the way he explained it sounds very much like the way-too-soft gentle parenting that does absolutely NOTHING to teach a child.
I also paused and scrolled to see if anyone mentioned this. His statement, to me, came across more like being frustrated at the lack of consequences for the child's actions. And I agree, his sense of style is dope. I don't even have anything to add; it's like you read my mind 😁
I am new to this channel and for 3 days I have been watching your videos! I can't get enough! I've never heard someone say someone is being "a little toot in a half" before. Too funny. I love the videos!
For Cooper's mum: calling someone (especially men) babygirl is just a way of calling them cute. Like calling him a sweetheart or a cutie pie, but more joking in tone :)
I think what Tristan meant was that he wasn't allowed to discipline, a lot of parents don't like it when their current partner starts acting like a parent to their kids.
@@bluebreenah, the term gentle in parenting isn't about violence or not, it's the way you talk to them and teach them. It's meant to give them critical thinking skills and autonomy in making good choices when done right. Keyword though is "right" because a lot of people say they're gentle parents when what they mean is that they're a doormat and let their kids rule the house. And it very much sounds like Tristan was describing the latter, and he wasn't cool with that.
I’m new here and I love you bro!!! You are so goofy in such a good way. You remind me of myself when I get all excited and start talking too fast and stumbling over my words - or forgetting them - and just rolling with it all while smiling. Anyway. I’m happy to have found your channel. I look forward to your fun commentary. 🤘🏼
The first ever video I got to watch from your channel is this one and today and I do not regret clicking on this video at all and just wanted to let you know you made my day so much better. Just thought I’d let you know.😂 thanks for the funny video
I 1000% get where Great Value Drake is coming from when it comes to disciplining children who aren't yours-it can be a very tricky thing. "Discipline" doesn't always equal corporal punishment, it can be something as simple as verbally correcting a child, putting them in "time-out," taking away certain privileges, etc. So, I'm almost certain what he was getting at is that-being that he was at home with his exes child all day long-he was apprehensive about what his role was as an authority figure. If the child is acting out and being unruly, is it within his right to use his better judgment on how to correct the child, or does he just let the child run all over him because he's not the child's father? It's a tough spot to be in, for all parties involved.
I think that it’s really cool that you like Percy Jackson!! Recently I got into the books and hopefully I’ll be getting the rest for my birthday (it’s in two days!!) so it’s cool to know that one of my favorite CZcamsrs also likes it! On Halloween I actually went as the girl version of Nico Di Angelo (he’s my favorite character). Just something I found cool and wanted to share!!
Two things. 1) You are absolutely correct about Ross and Rachel and 2) The only thing more tragic than no one finding love on the button is Cooper getting cut off mid explaining his background
This is a message to coopers mother (explaining the phrase baby girl) 8:31 So basically 'baby girl' is fandom slang a male fictional character or celebrity of whom one is extremely fond especially a "bad boy" type reinterpreted as adorable,quirky or secretly soft hearted. Obviously theres alternate meanings so thats only one of the meanings hope this helped!
This episode had a suspiciously large amount of normal people, it's so uncomfy for me to see people on this show actually capable of carrying conversation and having genuine discussions. It felt wrong
as a woman who loves fantasy and is still incredibly mad i wasn't born as an elf as is my birthright, IF YOU HAVE A SWORD. IF YOU ARE A MAN WITH A SWORD. SHOW ME. THATS MARRIAGE MATERIAL
My boyfriend is a weapons nerd and a Star Wars boy and I have witnessed lightsaber fights between his friends, and also I ask him for advice about cool swords. I can confirm, marriage material, show me your cool swords 😂
I have never been more seen and understood when I heard Cooper talking about new cars. Thank you. The number of people who don't like that I like and prefer used cars is astounding.
For Tristan's case, gentle parenting can often go too gentle. My boyfriends neighbors are gentle parents and they kinda let go of their kids in general. They don't teach them to be calm at certain points or to use inside voices or to not try to peek over the fence into others backyards etc. Those kids are screaming and rioting all they and they never say ANYTHING. Only when one gets hurt they come in and do they lecture them about their behaviour and safety? No. They go "oh my baby come to mommy lemme kiss your booboo". One could kill the other and they wouldn't lecture or anything they would go "oh baby were you scared? Are you okay? It's okay mommy is here!" Like don't yell at your kids but damn step up and give them a stern talk at some points Edit: "that's just neglect" I know that, but that's what the parents call gentle parenting. Their excuse is they need to see how the world works for themselves and learn how to deal with it alone. These kids are 3 and 5 btw!
I know what you mean, I know a kid like that. His mom’s always making excuses for him, but it only serves to mold him into a little monster. It’s because they have low expectations of their kids accompanied by still giving lots of praise. High expectations + high praise is the best way to raise kids- and psychology will back me up on that lol.
This is exactly what I thought too. I feel like an elaboration on the discipline differences was warranted. Cause a lot of people who think gentle parenting think of ppl who don't discipline their child at all rather than true gentle parenting
Juuuuuust for the record, there is often a discrepancy between people with kids and their new partners (not brand new, whoever they are moving forward in their life with, you know, moving in with or marrying or whatever) as far as discipline goes. A lot of people with kids don’t think their partner should discipline their child ~at all~, no matter what, even if it’s telling them not to jump on a bed or sending them to their room for something. I don’t know if that was Tristan’s issue, but it was definitely mine in a past relationship, so I get feeling awkward about maybe wanting to tell the kid to be quiet when he’s working or send the kid to their room or something, and maybe his ex didn’t like that. 🤷🏻
And I was also thinking there’s a difference between gentle parenting with discipline (like being stern or having rules/boundaries) and gentle parenting that leads to a spoiled child ya know? It also almost seemed like the relationship may have been a “well you work from home so you have time to watch my kid” kinda deal which could have put a strain on the discipline thing too.
@@mandymagnolia1966 Yeah a lot of ppl miusunderstand what "gentle parenting" means and he couldve meant no rules or consequences irresponsible let-your-kid-do-whatever-they-want type situation. I have a feeling maybe he didnt mean that w the word "discipline" but ppl use that word many different ways so im not gonna assume what he meant one way or the other.
@@idonotresidehere.5709 Right? The way he was talking about discipline, her being a gentle parent, and the kid being spoiled kinda made me think it was more “my kid’s an angel” or a pushover/give my kid whatever they want kinda parent 🤔
@@mandymagnolia1966 Yeah maybe, but its also possible that he meant exactly what cooper thought he did. No reason "gentle" should mean irresponsible but tbf those were her words he was just responding to, so its not unlikely that those wouldnt be the ones he would normally use.
I liked Tristan a lot. He's self assured, and nice to look at. Since he works at home, it's not fair for him to be expected to be a free babysitter. He should be allowed to have some form of discipline if she works away from the home.
He does remind me of my ex though (if he was Aquarius I would freak out) software engineer, charming , dresses well and keeps up with his looks, and was a huge gaslighter who wanted to poly lifestyle knowing I didn’t …but he seemed like Tristan before i knew all of that. Just saying presentation is always true and I was just sensing the similarities the whole time. Hope he’s not like him but def gave me the vibes!
yes he should be allowed to discipline … in a manner that’s in line with the parent’s wishes. gentle parents don’t NOT discipline, they choose to not do it physically- speaking of, physical discipline is known & proven to cause trauma and negative effects in children. talking to them like adults is shown to have longer behavioral impacts & allows children to UNDERSTAND their mistakes rather than just being afraid of their parent. no person should be “allowed” to hit a child. especially not one that isn’t their own.
@@ghostsontrains7629 ehh to be honest w u i’ve found that most ppl who aren’t trauma informed will think gentle parented children are difficult/misbehaving when in reality they require more patience than the person is willing to provide . to me calling a child “spoiled” is very very rarely actually accurate- as adults it’s easy for us to look at a child and judge their behavior but they are just acting out of self preservation + whatever values they’ve learned in life. children aren’t capable of fully encapsulating the gentle parenting effect (ie communication) until they’re older because children are just not capable of the same level or depth of communication that we are. that doesn’t mean they’re bad, or spoiled, or that the parent is doing smth wrong.
honestly a 45 min cooper video witb random side tracks is literally so amazing bc it feels more like hes talking with us not at us yk? also the random rants are literally how my brain be braining so thanks cooper for being so bbg
Cooper is the most accepting judgmental person i have ever seen
I love your user name
Thank you, it's not just a user name it's a life style
I love your lifestyle
@@fetus_soupThat’s the best lifestyle
Hey, it's God's fault. If he had not told Abraham to sacrifice his son, only to have and angel explain that it was just a test at the last second, none of us would be "circ'd up"...
“He’s a 10/10 but he wants to slap his girlfriends kids” is probably the most realistic version of that joke I’ve heard 😂
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Honestly discipline could even mean taking a phone away. I don’t like jumping to conclusions on real people
First guy however HELL no. Hahaha
@@queen_meat or even just giving the kid a stern talking to and putting them in timeout.
@@queen_meatyeah, back of the neck bush boy Reed had everyone expecting the worst of Tristan after confessing to being a child beater
@@queen_meat I agree, but his idea of what gentle parenting is throws me off. Gentle parenting promotes understanding and communication, it doesn't mean you don't discipline your kid/let them get away with everything. He should educate himself more on what it means to gentle parent and why when done right it's a better method than slapping kids around.
Shout out to the girl at the beginning who straight up said whooping children is abuse, you're on the track to being a fantastic mom 😎
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Than she needs someone that had their p cut
A guy not letting his girlfriend have guy friends is a huge red flag, but here I think it's countered by the green flag of talking it out and taking it on a case-by-case basis. I like this guy.
Some of those guy friends are playing the the long game hoping they have a chance
@@jzwalz51robin45 Only if they're creeps
@@MizukiUkitake
true, but one must be able to know which ones are indeed creeps
But is it also a red flag if a woman doesn't want her man to have too many female friends, or is that different?
@@dalienashen same
For Cooper's mom. Baby girl refers to a man who is comfortable in his masculinity, adorable and quirky. It's basically a term of endearment.
thank u
Baby girl can refer to really any person! We have our girly baby girls, we have non-binary baby girls, we have male baby girls! Most of the time it refers to “nerdy” guys. “Feminine” guys. It is just a term of the endearment for anyone :))
I thought it was another term for gay lmao 👁👄👁
@@whiteout711 it CAN be lol
he's a precious and soft boi
I love how the most horrible people who say the most out of pocket things are always the most surprised when they get buttoned, like you can see the confusion, the hurt on their face as they ask "why'd you reject me?? I only said I kill babies and eat their bones, why would you hit the button faster than humanly possible??"
"Well it doesn't have to be their _bones_ specifically- look I dunno why you feel the need to judge me over that 😠"
Fr like if your gonna kill a baby or have an abortion yea I am going to click the button.
i love this comment
If you're asking me (cause idk who you were asking) no I made mine on picrew when I was bored and sleep deprived at like 1 in the morning
Habit reference?
So, I'm a parent. Not a gentle parent, but I don't hit or yell at my kids. But that doesn't mean giving in to your kids demands and tolerating disrespect. Discipline can also mean taking things away, giving them things to do that they aren't normally responsible for, or having to earn things back. Discipline doesn't always mean hitting.
Rightbidk y ppl think this is funny too. And what you described is in fact gentle parenting.
And gentle parenting doesn't mean you don't discipline your kids. I feel like not enough people are really interested in learning about gentle parenting and what it truly means and methods. The immediate thought is "oh you just spoil your kids". Not saying this is your way of thinking, just something I noticed. Toni Phantom (they/them) and Pleasant Peasant Media (Gwenna) are really awesome mothers who talk about gentle parenting and share real life experiences with their kids while also respecting their privacy if you wanna learn more.
Make sure you don't punish them with household tasks- that can make them still feel like a negative thing and a chore when they grow up and have to do those things!
@Shettykettyofbettys-kz9cg i think it’s normal parenting
@Shettykettyofbettys-kz9cgno it's normal parenting 💀 bffr
I interpreted Tristan's comments as both "she's too lenient" and "I don't know what I can and can't do here". Kids can be raised too leniently, so they don't follow rules and they don't listen to others. And he, as the boyfriend, might not have been sure what he could do. Can he put the kid in time-out? Can he take away privileges (ie screen time)? It's a weird line to walk. I don't think the implication was that he wanted to hit the kid, though.
Exactly. I think the boundaries of his responsibilities for the GF's child weren't discussed in the relationship. She just dumped the kid on him since he was "free childcare" while she worked or whatever. Meanwhile he was working as well and trying to do his job. I feel like the child WAS spoiled and didn't listen to him or take him seriously as he wasn't the parent. Basically a "you have no authority over me" kinda mentality. Or just the GF wouldn't let him discipline the child because she didn't either. Even though the child may have needed some form of correction. Idk just my thoughts on relationships I've observed where a lazy single parent is dating someone who doesn't have children.
Imagine being there and the woman your talking to says “I don’t believe in physical discipline” and you respond with “I would beat my kids” then wonder why she rejected you
Him repeatedly asking why had me rolling 😂
Ikr 😭 he literally implied he would physically harm her children and then wondered why she didn't wanna be involved with him?? She would have to be the worst mother ever to ignore that. That's not even a red flag, it's just a straight up confession of being an abusive person
I had an ex bf and I knew that he was going to be my ex the moment that he defended his friend physically assaulting her 3 year old in front of us. The situation; Child was well behaved but a bit wound up as she had company over in her small apartment, when the child asked her very nicely to read a story to him what she did was scream at the child in anger and drag the child off by the arm to his room where she beat him on the bottom so hard much harder than I would ever feel comfortable hitting a consenting adult. My ex completely supported and defended her behavior and that was when I knew that we would not have any future together. I wish I would have reported what I saw to CPS but I did not, I was only 19.
@@ThimbleFox350gosh :( I mean cps would most likely still end up terribly for the baby but jesus :(
@@ThimbleFox350 Oh gosh that’s horrible, and some people would still call that “discipline.” It’s sick. That’s straight up abuse and nothing could excuse it. What is a 3 year old gonna learn from that? Don’t ask mommy questions? Don’t talk in public? Genuinely so disturbing.
The button really is just a series about Cooper judging people at this point
and we eat that shi up
Stan Cooper judging ppl
The button is me doing my best Wendy Williams impression 😭😭
“clap if he should suffer”
That’s a weird way of spelling Cody Ko!!
jk i ❤ u cooper
@@FilmCooperBAHAHA
hey babygirl/weirdo😏👀👀👀
I also really respect tristen for not wanting to date a girl with kids because the trauma kids with single parents (not just mothers PARENTS) go through being introduced to the dates and partners just to see them broken up is terrible. I know not all single parents introduce their kids to their partners but I still think it would be hard for all parties even the ex partner after building a relationship with this child just to never see them again
Same. They both handled that well, he wasn't disrespectful about her having a kid and she was incredibly gentle and understanding when talking to him about his experience and boundaries.
Facts. My mom had 5 different partners throughout my life she introduced us(my sister and I)to. Only 2 of them I cared for( one died when we were young, the other cheated and him and my mom were already growing apart due to his alcoholism). The other 3 were toxic, abusive, and manipulative(my sperm donor included). Her last one made me want to unalive myself and contributed to me finally developing bulimia to deal with the stress.
My cousin is in a relatonship with a woman who has two kids. She introduced them to us at new year and they love me immensely. I don't wanna know how the kids will feel when my cousin and her break up. The younger of the two really likes my cousin too which is probably worse...
As someone who was a kid in that situation, i can confirm this. I wouldn’t say it traumatized me, necessarily, but i can 100% understand how it could traumatize someone. It hurt a lot when we had to go (we were staying with him at his house), it felt like all the progress made by finding them (he had kids too) was ruined in an instant. A little bit venty but i’m being honest
14:39 I wanna defend homeboy here, I had a neighbor I was friends with works from home while his partner worked out of home and he ended up being a babysitter more than a boyfriend, his girlfriend didn’t even let him put her kid in timeout, either because gentle parenting or because she didn’t want him disciplining her son. But at some point you have to understand that your child care provider, whether it’s a partner, paid stranger, or family has a right to discipline the child, now always ALWAYS make it clear discipline ≠ hitting
Yea, that was one thing I was wondering, was this ex a "gentle-parent" or a gentle parent, the difference being someone who doesn't vs does discipline their kid, the one that doesn't is only using the "gentle-parent" title to cover for why their child is a brat, and in which case he may have meant he does believe in discipline but not hitting the child and wasn't sure whether he had the right to discipline a child not his but a partner's. Alternatively he may have been a parent who does believe in discipling being hitting in which case, thank god he was buzzed.
as a black person you have every right to roast tf out of that guys hair lmaooo
Exactly, what is with them overgrown naps on the back of his head lol, he could have at least braided it or something
I just want to know what the vision was…. 😭
That’s called a Dallas booty or some shit 😭😭
Honestly, regardless of race, a shaved head with a "rats tail" is just... giving Angelicas doll from the rugrats... I think miley cyrus has the same hair rn 😂
The line up was so clean and then he fucks it up with that fluff in the back ..
You can tell Cooper has never laid a hand on Gustav....my man didn't even FLINCH lol. Proud of the healthy relationship you have with your pupper.
He really just looked defiantly chill 😂 Like "I would love to see you try!"
Pupper indeed
Was looking for this comment lol
@@Oliviaandtrina Gustav would wook Cooper's ass
how did cooper manage to find the lowest quality photo of Hozier I’ve ever seen 💀
watching his rant about not buying a new car, while having bought one, is so real. i made a terrible decision & everyone needs this lecture
This young man is so self aware you can hear his internal monologue in between his commentary and I’m subscribing
for coopers mom; babygirl is what we call people who are precious and loveable, and a little silly goofy. it's just a silly little way to say "wow, he's so funny and precious" (and other things like that)
this is very accurate
u cant forget u also have to be hot to be babygirl. Not objectively hot obviously, but im not abt to call someone whose ugly as hell imo babygirl
@@deadseaz_baby girl is basically the less cringe, 2023 version of "Smol cinnamon roll ;^;"
little silly goofy? 💀💀💀
😂Thanks everyone!
for cooper’s mum: babygirl is the most prestigious title you can give to a person, period. it means you raised a wonderful son who also has a really cool dog!
Period😌✨
I ruined 666 likes
@@Strawberry--Luvgood!
youre not british
@@akaidkskwjfkskjddj7405youre not babygirl 😞
I literally double took and smiled when the second guy came up. He was so attractive. This show is wild. 😂
Learning that Cooper listened to Hozier made me so indescribably happy. I love it when people love and appreciate the same things that I do!
I love how this man goes off topic a lot, basically doing side quests with his mind and I love it so much because that's how my brain works too lmao
NO BC SAME LOL ITS SO ENTERTAINING TO SEE SOME1 ELSE PRETTY MUCH MIRROR ME ITS SO COOL
I didn't even notice he did that or that it wasn't commonplace because I do the same thing 😭
with my adhd that’s how i am all the time haha
That would happen to me at school. The teacher would say something that made me get lost in my mind and Im come back to reality not knowing how much time had passed but I had no idea what they were now talking about so Id be lost.
@@em84cSAME LMAO 😭,are we twins or something?
“Drag queens should be able to drag queen” and “GAY RIGHTS GAY RIGHTS GAY RIGHTS” is iconic
Thx for the likes
I just stumbled upon this channel and have a missing piece in life. As a cosplayer, lover of What We Do In The Shadows, and someone who appreciates comedic commentary, this video offers everything I need and more. Thank you for existing, sir.
Cooper: Goes on a whole rant about how if unfair for her to not want a guy that is uncut
Cooper a minute later: "its okay to have preferences"
*I just find that so funny
“I don’t care whose kid it is - go over there, grab a tire iron and just start swingin” killed me. I’m dead. And I want this guy at my funeral.
Idk y tho
And the mortician gotta be that guy from this Wired or Vice videos where he reads questions on Quora and Yahoo
Plot twist- you’re the kid and died via tire iron 😂
@@07SapphireLights I still don't understand y it's funny
@@Cheerleader644860 the post said they wanted this guy at their funeral. I said that they were the kid he was referencing. I made a joke- not commenting on the one liner from him I using it to make a joke here. 🤷🏻♀️
I’m also from the south in the US. I hear this all the time in Walmart. Not even shocking. 🤷🏻♀️
The fact Gus didn't flinch AT ALL, just proves how much he loves his dog. If literally ANYONE raises a hand, I instantly jump twelve miles.
Are you okay? Are you loved
real
Fr tho 😭😭😭😭😭
That's not saying much though my dog flinches if I pick something up too quickly and he's never been smacked. He's just jumpy for no reason
@@shruubbs I feel like it does say a lot if they don't flinch, but it definitely doesn't mean anything if they do and they're jumpy. If a dog doesn't flinch when someone raises a hand at them they're definitely being treated well because they don't understand that that could even mean getting hit, but ya some dogs just be jumpy so it doesn't work in reverse if ya feel.
as a european the circumcision thing is so weird to me 😭
Learning that Cooper listens to Hozier was like when you're reading a book and all the plot threads are starting to connect. Of course he does, yes, that makes perfect sense. We need a Tier List (tipsy or not) of Hozier songs.
I second this pls
YESSSSSS PLS
YESSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS
Cooper is the physical representation of bisexuality.
@@crethan219 and hozier is the gayest straight man I've ever heard
For cooper's mother, baby girl essentially means a sweet ol' boy, the nice type, the precious type. It is mostly used for people who look like the "bad boy" at first glance but are actually very soft. A cutie if you will.
😂Thanks!
"A cutie if you will." Lol the way you word things is wonderful
Cuties club
31:40 as a woman named Kacey, this was more supportive than anything I’ve ever heard🙏
Idk how he didn’t say he looked like dj kaled. Like if the second guy looked like drake this guy is kaled.😅
18:42 verbatim this is my motto!!! It’s so wild to hear someone else talk about used cars like this, I love it!! I’ve never had a car payment and I’ve been driving for almost 20 years 😊
I love that when he raises his hand and pretends like he's about to hit his dog he defends himself so adamantly but really the dog's reaction is all the defense he needs
He didn't even flinch you can tell he wouldn't hit him XD
Pfp from?
@@sanjanam520 no idea I got it off of pinterest XD
Stretching is also a good way to show your dog (i think even cat) that they can relax and that the situation isn't as dangerous as they might think. Helpful for anxious animals.
never stop using XD it makes me unironically happy to see
@@oxytociniv404 I'll never stop hehe
glad it made you happy XD
I would actually love to watch a video of Cooper showing us all what each painting is and why he likes them.
Yes please!
Yeeeessss
Big YES!
yessssssssssssss
@Film Cooper please do a video on this!! 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
The misconception that gentle parenting makes kids spoiled is not only false but is more of a testament to parents who misunderstand gentle/responsive to mean allowing their kids to do whatever they want. In truth, gentle parenting is referring to a style of parenting where you treat your child with respect all the time, even when providing structure that they may not like. An example of this: if a child is complaining about going to bed, “I understand that you don’t want to settle down and go to bed, but you need to be in bed. Would you like me to read to you or sit with you for a bit as you fall asleep?” The options will vary as this is just one example. For perspective, a parent following parenting as we’ve seen might say “that’s too bad, go to bed” or something along those lines even if not as aggressive. The second example fails to show respect (would you accept being spoken to that way? Or want your kid to tolerate it when they’re older?), doesn’t validate the child in any way (this makes them feel unseen and as if their own feelings and desires don’t matter, not good for the self esteem), and it’s just not effective due to the aforementioned reasons. As someone who’s been a nanny for over 10 years and has seen and what happens when real gentle parenting takes place Tristan’s comment gives “I have 1 experience with gentle parenting and therefore I decided it makes kids spoiled.” Doubt he did any research to see if his prior partner was practicing proper gentle parenting before coming to that conclusion. Really infuriating because the opposite of gentle parenting is what we’ve seen for too long which is parents thinking they are authoritarians in their children’s lives from minor to great degrees. This kind of parenting leads to just as many issues as the “I just let my kid do whatever” parenting. Neither are helpful and real gentle parenting can honestly raise a better human race. Really wish people would do their research before they throw out uneducated opinions like that.
As someone who just took the SAT, Cooper calling himself "circed-up" is just what I needed today
cooper is so relieving to watch when u have adhd, cause usually i cant focus on a youtube video and i gotta like pause and take breaks multiple times in order to finish it, but cooper just goes on so many tangents that im always stimulated and i never lose focus lmao LUV U BBYGIRL
real
exactly, he matches my own adhd energy so i actually stay focused dskjlqs
i dont have adhd but Im extremely prone to tangents, love when he dos that it makes me feel normal like, "oh other people do that in convo too?" commentary YTers are usually so straight forward
REALLLLL OMFG
YOU GET ME
Reading everyone explain babygirl to Cooper’s mom is almost as entertaining as watching Cooper’s emotional rollercoaster around the morality of judging others. 😂
11:42 for miss cooper , that’s the definition of babygirl
The fact the dog didn’t flinch when he raised his hand shows that he has actually never treated his dog like that, that is adorable 😿
Seeing cooper yell “RUNNN‼️” and then INSTANTLY regretting it and frantically explaining why he cant yell is so fucking funny😭
Tbh… I automatically assumed, because of his fancy and classy pictures in the back, that he lived in a mansion in England 😂
Done been bamboozled
I started laughing out loud while I was working it jumpscared me so hard 💀
bro i love your videos and id rather watch them rather than the original videos (the button in this case) itself, it feels like a conversation you truly have mastered your craft
cooper the what we do in the shadows reference was impeccable i love you
"Are you circumcized?" The button was so outta pocket for that-
the fact that your dog didnt flinch when you pretended to hit him speaks a thousand words.
how
it reflects how much his dog trusts him, therefore confirming he does not, in fact, abuse his dog@@kailee_c
@@kailee_cit means that the dog isn’t afraid of him
Yes, so good!
Means he doesn’t hit his dog
I don’t think I was ever able to sit trough a 45 min video until this one and fr I just discovered this channel not too long ago and it’s so good I love your videos
5:01 i love how the dog didnt even flinched, it shows how the dog trust and was never hit or exposed to any harm by the owner even behind cameras
Well I would hope not
"An uncut gem" is quite a beautiful way to refer to whether or not someone has been circ'ed. Every video, Cooper manages to surprise me. Kudos dude 👏
I love the part where you (briefly) mention the Bible and feel the need to palette cleanse by chanting "gay marriage" and "trans rights". As a queer person and former christian, this just really amuses me~
This was sucha mood aha
"drag queens should be able to drag queen" amen
Cool pfp🌮😊
That squiggly line there got me all 👀👀👀👀
Cooper. COOPER!! I randomly came across your videos today, this is my second one watching. Let me tell you, you have made me laugh louder and harder than any other channel has managed to accomplish in a very long time. You are awesome, please keep it up LOL!!!
I just found cooper and I already love his humour and haven’t stopped laughing keep up the good work bbg
That 'uterus' dance had me cracking up EVERY.SINGLE.TIME
Okay I'm paused at 15 min in so i could be wrong, but i don't think that tristan thinking the kid is spoiled by his partner's "gentle parenting" necessarily means he thinks corporal punishment or authoritarian parenting is okay. There's definitely uninformed people who think "gentle parenting" means no parenting at all and they can produce spoiled rude kids. That said, if he DOES mean he thinks the kid should have been spanked and parented in an authoritarian style, I would also pass on him. I do like the hair and nails though, idk what those other girls are on about.
Was scrolling through to see if anyone else said it. Yes, there’s so many people who do “gentle parenting” wrong and give no consequences for anything, then end up with kids that have no sense of personal responsibility. Those kids then go around other people or go to school and do whatever they want because there are never consequences for them. I really doubt he was implying “beating” children, but if he was, then obviously, drop that man!
I agree. I also felt like he was talking more about him not being able to give consequences at all. I have read a lot of stories where a step-parent figure isn't allowed to discipline the kids at all because they're not the bio parent. If he was merely a boyfriend and is spending most of the day with this child, its completely possible that the girlfriend didn't allow him to parent at all and that probably got frustrating.
I saw it as the mom never showing her son right from wrong, showing him consequences, or saying no. There are plenty of way to teach and discipline a child without abusing them. But idk ig many people think it’s either abuse or spoiling the child rotten
I’m so glad someone else pointed this out, extremes exist on either side, and the way he explained it sounds very much like the way-too-soft gentle parenting that does absolutely NOTHING to teach a child.
I also paused and scrolled to see if anyone mentioned this. His statement, to me, came across more like being frustrated at the lack of consequences for the child's actions. And I agree, his sense of style is dope. I don't even have anything to add; it's like you read my mind 😁
My one thing about him calling the women fake is that a lot of women switch to a “fake” or nicer demeanor as a way to protect themselves…
Very true esp if it was just the 2 of them on this date
I am new to this channel and for 3 days I have been watching your videos! I can't get enough! I've never heard someone say someone is being "a little toot in a half" before. Too funny. I love the videos!
For Cooper's mum: calling someone (especially men) babygirl is just a way of calling them cute. Like calling him a sweetheart or a cutie pie, but more joking in tone :)
I think what Tristan meant was that he wasn't allowed to discipline, a lot of parents don't like it when their current partner starts acting like a parent to their kids.
It's just that "gentle" is the keyword here that gave the impression that he would beat a kid.
@@bluebreenah, the term gentle in parenting isn't about violence or not, it's the way you talk to them and teach them. It's meant to give them critical thinking skills and autonomy in making good choices when done right. Keyword though is "right" because a lot of people say they're gentle parents when what they mean is that they're a doormat and let their kids rule the house. And it very much sounds like Tristan was describing the latter, and he wasn't cool with that.
I want to quote him. “I beat kids, not mine.”
I’m new here and I love you bro!!! You are so goofy in such a good way. You remind me of myself when I get all excited and start talking too fast and stumbling over my words - or forgetting them - and just rolling with it all while smiling. Anyway. I’m happy to have found your channel. I look forward to your fun commentary. 🤘🏼
why have i not discovered coopers channel earlier ??! i have never been this entertained by youtube content hes so real i love it
to cooper's mom: We say cooper's a baby girl because cooper's actually three babies in a trench coat! And the leader is a girl! I hope this helps!
And all the babies are irrationally adorable. Just the cutest of babies.
it all makes sense how he can be both 6'2" (when they're all stacked up) and a short king (when they're not) 😂
I'm ftm and you're basically my transition goals tbh, and the only person I would gladly have call me babygirl
Literally same
Sorry thing to educate myself further. Does ftm mean female transitioned to male or female transitioned from male.
@@Garm_HoundFemale to Male
@@fadedfiction2733thank you
@@Garm_Hound of course!
I love this man so much. This video is like watching myself give commentary on a show because I never stfu
You are genuinely one of the funniest people on CZcams 😂 don’t stop being you
god i love this man so much he literally makes my day
FR!!
@ForgiveZharion u could buy them but i wish u luck!! i'll sub :))
Your account is giving stalker and it's concerning. It's not normal to be that obsessive and scary lol
Same, I light up whenever he posts, he really makes my day
@@Squirtlesam frr!!
“Uncut gems” had me on the floor 😂
I hope copper finds the nicest of all the nice girls he seems like a angel.
Did he say he was straight?
@@notwerkinginthishouse8634im pretty sure he's bi or stright, he's talked about being interested in women before
@@notwerkinginthishouse8634it doesn’t really matter but he’s very passionate about women 🤷🏾♀️ love him either way whatever his type is
@@positivesiennergyyeah he’s straight): I’ll get over it though, I still love him
“There’s nothing harder than that… except for… me?”
this video is just 45 minutes of cooper simping for the tristan and casey
The Drake comment aged well..
Cooper's rant about new cars comes at a time when I'm literally shopping for a new car. I feel attacked 😂
Is it MERCEDES-BENZ?
Lol don't let Cooper see this comment, and good luck in the car search! Hopefully you find a good one that doesn't deplete your whole bank account :)
I have never seen such an accurate depiction of my ADHD in Cooper's tangents this entire video before 💀
This is hilarious and your production is amazing 🤩 hope you’re enjoying your new place🎉😂
The first ever video I got to watch from your channel is this one and today and I do not regret clicking on this video at all and just wanted to let you know you made my day so much better. Just thought I’d let you know.😂 thanks for the funny video
When I watch cooper it always feels like FaceTiming a good friend to gossip about others
I 1000% get where Great Value Drake is coming from when it comes to disciplining children who aren't yours-it can be a very tricky thing. "Discipline" doesn't always equal corporal punishment, it can be something as simple as verbally correcting a child, putting them in "time-out," taking away certain privileges, etc.
So, I'm almost certain what he was getting at is that-being that he was at home with his exes child all day long-he was apprehensive about what his role was as an authority figure. If the child is acting out and being unruly, is it within his right to use his better judgment on how to correct the child, or does he just let the child run all over him because he's not the child's father? It's a tough spot to be in, for all parties involved.
I think that it’s really cool that you like Percy Jackson!! Recently I got into the books and hopefully I’ll be getting the rest for my birthday (it’s in two days!!) so it’s cool to know that one of my favorite CZcamsrs also likes it! On Halloween I actually went as the girl version of Nico Di Angelo (he’s my favorite character). Just something I found cool and wanted to share!!
The "but that's me" has infected my mind thanks to Cooper
Honestly one of the funniest series to watch is Cooper reacting to the button, never gets old
Two things. 1) You are absolutely correct about Ross and Rachel and 2) The only thing more tragic than no one finding love on the button is Cooper getting cut off mid explaining his background
When cooper raised a hand to Gustav and puppy didnt even flinch, that's so wholesome you know he treats him well 🥹
Normally I can’t watch a whole video but cooper can make me laugh and I can actually watch the whole thing with my adhd
This is a message to coopers mother (explaining the phrase baby girl) 8:31
So basically 'baby girl' is fandom slang a male fictional character or celebrity of whom one is extremely fond especially a "bad boy" type reinterpreted as adorable,quirky or secretly soft hearted.
Obviously theres alternate meanings so thats only one of the meanings hope this helped!
replying so more people see this great explanation
@@heylol_. thank you.
😂Yes! This helps! Thank you!
@@bethneidecker7882 your welcome
Replying so more people see this
This episode had a suspiciously large amount of normal people, it's so uncomfy for me to see people on this show actually capable of carrying conversation and having genuine discussions. It felt wrong
“Uncut gems out there” was WILD 😆😭
I am loving your style with the paintings, would love to see a house tour please 😊
as a woman who loves fantasy and is still incredibly mad i wasn't born as an elf as is my birthright, IF YOU HAVE A SWORD. IF YOU ARE A MAN WITH A SWORD. SHOW ME. THATS MARRIAGE MATERIAL
My boyfriend is a weapons nerd and a Star Wars boy and I have witnessed lightsaber fights between his friends, and also I ask him for advice about cool swords. I can confirm, marriage material, show me your cool swords 😂
YES.
THANK YOU. i have always told men that i don't want jewelry, i want a sword ,,,, an axe will also do.
Yes! Agreed 🤟🏼
I WANT A SWORD! GOD DAMMIT I WANT SO BADLY
I have never been more seen and understood when I heard Cooper talking about new cars. Thank you. The number of people who don't like that I like and prefer used cars is astounding.
One of the best Lazlo impressions I’ve ever heard.
9:12 I love how cooper is just lowkey simping for drake dupe over here 😭
For Tristan's case, gentle parenting can often go too gentle. My boyfriends neighbors are gentle parents and they kinda let go of their kids in general. They don't teach them to be calm at certain points or to use inside voices or to not try to peek over the fence into others backyards etc. Those kids are screaming and rioting all they and they never say ANYTHING. Only when one gets hurt they come in and do they lecture them about their behaviour and safety? No. They go "oh my baby come to mommy lemme kiss your booboo". One could kill the other and they wouldn't lecture or anything they would go "oh baby were you scared? Are you okay? It's okay mommy is here!" Like don't yell at your kids but damn step up and give them a stern talk at some points
Edit: "that's just neglect" I know that, but that's what the parents call gentle parenting. Their excuse is they need to see how the world works for themselves and learn how to deal with it alone. These kids are 3 and 5 btw!
@butterflymafia I agree, but I often see this type of parent call themselves "gentle parents"
@@cosmicwitchclarithyeah that’s kinda what I think he was getting at. Those people give gentle parents a bad name
Okay Karen.
I know what you mean, I know a kid like that. His mom’s always making excuses for him, but it only serves to mold him into a little monster.
It’s because they have low expectations of their kids accompanied by still giving lots of praise. High expectations + high praise is the best way to raise kids- and psychology will back me up on that lol.
This is exactly what I thought too. I feel like an elaboration on the discipline differences was warranted. Cause a lot of people who think gentle parenting think of ppl who don't discipline their child at all rather than true gentle parenting
Most of the things Cooper says is such a green flag. He has golden retriever boyfriend energy and I love it so much
You are so chaotic and I’m here for it
I love how he's so afraid of being canceled he has to make sure people don't take what he says the wrong way
Juuuuuust for the record, there is often a discrepancy between people with kids and their new partners (not brand new, whoever they are moving forward in their life with, you know, moving in with or marrying or whatever) as far as discipline goes. A lot of people with kids don’t think their partner should discipline their child ~at all~, no matter what, even if it’s telling them not to jump on a bed or sending them to their room for something. I don’t know if that was Tristan’s issue, but it was definitely mine in a past relationship, so I get feeling awkward about maybe wanting to tell the kid to be quiet when he’s working or send the kid to their room or something, and maybe his ex didn’t like that. 🤷🏻
And I was also thinking there’s a difference between gentle parenting with discipline (like being stern or having rules/boundaries) and gentle parenting that leads to a spoiled child ya know? It also almost seemed like the relationship may have been a “well you work from home so you have time to watch my kid” kinda deal which could have put a strain on the discipline thing too.
@@mandymagnolia1966 Yeah a lot of ppl miusunderstand what "gentle parenting" means and he couldve meant no rules or consequences irresponsible let-your-kid-do-whatever-they-want type situation. I have a feeling maybe he didnt mean that w the word "discipline" but ppl use that word many different ways so im not gonna assume what he meant one way or the other.
@@idonotresidehere.5709 Right? The way he was talking about discipline, her being a gentle parent, and the kid being spoiled kinda made me think it was more “my kid’s an angel” or a pushover/give my kid whatever they want kinda parent 🤔
@@mandymagnolia1966 Yeah maybe, but its also possible that he meant exactly what cooper thought he did. No reason "gentle" should mean irresponsible but tbf those were her words he was just responding to, so its not unlikely that those wouldnt be the ones he would normally use.
@@mandymagnolia1966 authoritative parenting vs permissive parenting is the actual psychology term for the two!!
"You are Kenough, you dont have to whallop your kids" was an iconic line tho lmaooo 🤣😭💀
31:30 Lazlo Cravensworth, what we do in the shadows. That was a really good impression!
why are your impressions spot on
Losing it at the "uncut gems" segment😂
i had to pause the video to catch my breath 🤣
I liked Tristan a lot. He's self assured, and nice to look at. Since he works at home, it's not fair for him to be expected to be a free babysitter. He should be allowed to have some form of discipline if she works away from the home.
The fact that he said NOTHING about hitting kids and just didn’t know how to discipline someone’s child, he wasn’t bad
He does remind me of my ex though (if he was Aquarius I would freak out) software engineer, charming , dresses well and keeps up with his looks, and was a huge gaslighter who wanted to poly lifestyle knowing I didn’t …but he seemed like Tristan before i knew all of that. Just saying presentation is always true and I was just sensing the similarities the whole time. Hope he’s not like him but def gave me the vibes!
yes he should be allowed to discipline … in a manner that’s in line with the parent’s wishes. gentle parents don’t NOT discipline, they choose to not do it physically- speaking of, physical discipline is known & proven to cause trauma and negative effects in children. talking to them like adults is shown to have longer behavioral impacts & allows children to UNDERSTAND their mistakes rather than just being afraid of their parent.
no person should be “allowed” to hit a child. especially not one that isn’t their own.
@gabeminson right but i feel like (from the way he said the kid was spoiled) she wasnt a gentle parent she wasnt disciplining
@@ghostsontrains7629 ehh to be honest w u i’ve found that most ppl who aren’t trauma informed will think gentle parented children are difficult/misbehaving when in reality they require more patience than the person is willing to provide . to me calling a child “spoiled” is very very rarely actually accurate- as adults it’s easy for us to look at a child and judge their behavior but they are just acting out of self preservation + whatever values they’ve learned in life. children aren’t capable of fully encapsulating the gentle parenting effect (ie communication) until they’re older because children are just not capable of the same level or depth of communication that we are. that doesn’t mean they’re bad, or spoiled, or that the parent is doing smth wrong.
The button is if Omegle made a dating show
coopers button content is my favorite
honestly a 45 min cooper video witb random side tracks is literally so amazing bc it feels more like hes talking with us not at us yk? also the random rants are literally how my brain be braining so thanks cooper for being so bbg