Richard Gilmore realizes they failed rory
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- čas přidán 3. 02. 2021
- it just leave me heartbroken all of this scenes combinated - didn't mean to say that they failed at all but he does realizes what he did and it broke me so much
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the reason rory can’t take criticism is because everyone in her family treats her like she’s a god, and they always defend her actions no matter what
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She had a 'friend' instead of a mom who didn't prepare her for the savage world outside of Star's Hollow. Life is cruel.
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Omg that is so right .And what makes her so special? Richard, Emily, Lorelai, and Luke all act like Rory is the golden child who is bound for unbelievable things.
Rory has plenty of flaws and it's odd that no one else sees them.
she’s always been compared to her mother so by society’s standards next to her mother she’s amazing but in the real world she’s not the amazing smart perfect girl she’s always been told she is and she doesn’t know how to deal with it
Ngl Rory kinda showed what almost every gifted child goes through. They get praised as a child for their intelligence but then they grow up and either burnout or end up being average. I’m not saying average is a bad it’s just to them it’s a bad thing.
lol true. Ig I have straight 9s and a Cambridge offer but I have the social skills of a lobotomised walrus
literally happening to me right now.
And gifted children become amazing at following directions and being obedient, then in the real world they need to be creative and independent and they don’t know how to function. Rory was amazing at studying and following rules, but I can understand why she didn’t have the gaul for journalism. You have to challenge and compete and that aren’t the skills you get from a 4.2 GPA at a school where you aren’t even allowed to choose your own clothes.
I don’t know .. I never went through that. I was „diagnosed“ highly gifted at a time I really Struggled in Highschool (being bullied by the other kids , in trouble with one particular teacher ). I understood many years later that I was bullied because I was different - and that I wasn’t ready to succeed socially at all in Highschool.
I M still not fully succeeding socially in my mid 30s to be honest but doing much better. Uni allowed me to spread my wings and my early professional life too. I was able to put theoretical talents to use and feel I did. I sometimes wonder if I should have gone into research and try to change the world with my „gifts“.. but am quite happy in a Consulting industry. I earn a nice salary and feel I can use my brains in my job. That s not too bad .. I like my work.
I don’t feel I ever burned out or was average. Also not that average is bad but when your brains are wired a little differently you typically have social disadvantages.. you better reap some benefits intellectually else that S really not a fair deal !! So I don’t know where you get that idea from .. I think people ought to be careful with such dramatic statements too .. teens and young adults that are highly gifted tend to be insecure internally and struggle with being non conforming .. so such damning statements can do serious damage to people you don’t Even know. Why would you want to do that ?
Please don’t do things like that just for the sake of saying something „deep“.. you Never know who is affected by something you quickly say on the internet and then move on with your life ..
literally this, & parents question what happened to us after raising us to unreasonably high standards.
Tbh this was the most satisfying scene. She was so spoiled. She completely undid everything Lorelai worked so hard for
Richard's reaction when he sees how Rory is flourishing by being praised on stage at the end, shows incredible acting talent on his part. You can literally see the moment he realizes where things went wrong.
I haven't watched this episode but oddly super curious lol, can you explain what it is that he sees in Rory at this moment where he realizes things went wrong?
@@byalephbetcomics it's not as such the episode itself but the context (I’m used to study film and media so always look deeper into things)
Rory spends the entire episode upset and thinking she’s no good because she’s been told that she is top tier (not as such but in her head she’s being told she’s a failure and will surmount to nothing). Richard obviously does what he can but he’s not really hands on in the sense someone needs comfort.
That night at the charity event after she’s been moping all day, he walks in on her happy as anything and in her element because she’s been showered with praise and seems to have forgotten to be sad because all attention and praise is on her.
So Richard sees first hand she can’t handle criticism but only praise with in life you need to be able to balance both
@@XMizzTuraX ah well said! I knew this about Rory but in those words and from your observance of her feeling the praise on stage, which I TOTALY didn't think anything of, makes her character all more apparent! Thank you for the explanation ^^
@@XMizzTuraX That's really interesting. I always took it as he realised their coddling approach e.g. never criticising her for leaving Yale or making her go back had led to her (in his mind) wasting her talents by immersing herself in their superficial rich events world. So, yes, they had failed her, but in a different way.
@@byalephbetcomics to me, I think in this scene Richard saw how much Rory is like Emily, who live for organizing events (nothing wrong with that). You can see Emily clapping so proudly and Richard is so disappointed because I guess he never really wanted Rory to be like Emily because he sees the superficiality in Emily’s world and Richard was always more down to earth and wanted Rory to be more like him rather than Emily.
It’s funny because Rory was the one who was supposed to succeed but she didn’t when Lorelai excelled without a super fancy education and Emily and Richard never noticed it’s kinda sad
Lorelai succeeded because she never gave up and because she had a reason to fight: Rory. Lorelai had so much humility that she even worked as a maid just to raise her daughter when she could have easily stayed with her wealthy parents. Its a very interesting parallel when you think about it: Loleai was a hotel maid at one point and yet her highness Rory (in the last season) felt she was too good to even answer questions at a job interview because she thought they should have given her the job right away.
Rory doesn’t have any motivation other than the endless praise that she would get from everyone. When she stopped receiving that praise, any motivation to humble herself and work harder was gone. I think it’s actually very realistic to show that having a fancy degree means nothing if you’re not willing to work hard and take constructive criticism. Rory thinks she’s better than everyone and got accustomed to receiving instant gratification instead of working her way up. She preferred to be homeless, broke, and unemployed in the last season than to actually put effort in a job interview.
I always thought lorelai is successful person from the start of the series. She started from maid to hotel's manager to having her own inn. She has daughter who enrolled to yale, while she is a high school dropout. Although she is somewhat hard headed and childish, I found decisions made by her were thoroughly thought
When Lorelei was 16 to her 20s, Emily and Richard thought they failed her, or at least that Lorelei failed herself. When Rory was 16, she seemed to have pretty much everything going for her. It’s funny how Lorelei ended up with a more successful future than Miss Rory did despite their different circumstances at that age. I see this happen in real life. Overachievers in early life can get drained and peak at that time.
Well Richard always said that Lorelai was bright and exceptional.
🤯 your right she is kayak
She's the exact definition of "peaked in highschool"
Trueeee
that's what i was thinking. "peaked in high school" is usually used to describe people who were popular in high school and did not maintain this attention after. but rory's case is even worse cause her peak was used working towards a peak that never came.
She did well in college yeah?
Unfortunately honestly I look up to Lorelai more than Rory 😐🙁
@@sodagoth CAN U PLS EXPLAIN WHAT RICHARDS FACE WAS THINKING AT THE END IF THE VID. I don’t know if he was proud of Rory or upset IDK
It’s heartbreaking that Richard Gilmore’s actor is gone now, I really respect his role in the series 🥺
He was an extraodrinary actor. This scene is such a beautiful example.
Powerful performance 🎭💔
I also remember him as Richie Rich's dad, Richard Rich.
@@reikun86 Dude, I know him from the Lost Boys, no wonder he looked so familiar to me.
After rewatching the show countless times I also like to compare Paris and Rory. Paris always worked hard and never let her guard down. She always seemed to overprepare but guess what she ended up successful while Rory didn't prepare much at all. Doesn't matter that Rory got into Harvard and Paris didn't.
Paris said she needed Rory to be her competition and motivate her, but Paris actually pushed Rory a lot as well. I think that once Rory and Paris separated ways, Rory didn't have that person to push her to work hard anymore. Everyone else just says "you'll get it you're amazing" but Paris is the one who tells her the truth - you have to apply for many different jobs and companies, have backup plans, and even back in Chilton when she told her you need extracurriculars.
Anyway I love Paris she's a great friend to Rory towards the end.
Paris was the anti-Rory. She had none of the adoration, all the same smarts if not more, and she kicked a$$. :-)
Paris is always right
Damn
@@LeoDomitrix defo not more she just studied like crazy, everyone would have that grades if they studied that much
@@lilly7346 especially with Valedictorian
Rory’s character really shows the importance of teaching kids a growth mindset. If you raise your kids giving them rewards for getting A’s without even studying, constantly calling them naturally smart, talented, and perfect, they’ll crumble whenever they face criticism or something doesn’t come easily to them. Instead, reward your kids for effort. Praise them for being hard workers and dedicated people through the things they decide to do, and teach them that when they fail or face adversity it’s not an excuse to stop working hard. Even if something doesn’t come easily, they still have the power to succeed at it. That way, their ego and self confidence don’t shatter as soon as someone puts them down. Because Mitchum was, in some ways, right. He said, “if she’s really got it, she’ll bounce back.” He was testing her to see if she’d keep going when facing adversity. But she didn’t. Because she’d never been taught to deal with something that didn’t come easily to her.
I agree with you but Rory DID work hard nad wasn't being handed rewards without studying, she had to work hard when she started Chilton, and even at Yale when she realized she couldnt' do all the courses.
Maggie, thank you for sharing your comment. It made feel better. I am studying and (also strugling) for a test for almost 2 years. I see it's not only about the result, it's my effort that should be valued.
@@gabrielaacuna4036 Yes! It shows incredible persistence and hard work on your part to continue studying for a test for two years. Give yourself some credit for that, you’ve kept moving forward even when it felt like a struggle. You’ll go far with your effort and positive attitude! Good luck to you!
@@spinacetta89 I completely agree. Rory worked really hard for where she ended up. She studied ten times hard when she got to Chilton and her grades even slipped at one point in her English class. Rory worked even harder to pull through and make her grades A’s.
this is me. I was always naturally good at everything and people think that so too. but when they praise me by saying "you are naturally talented" ,I now realise, I was stopping putting effort for the things that I think I cannot do naturally. so I was maybe good at many things but never put the effort to get these abilities to the next level. And also, until the college, I didn't need to work hard to get good grades. I got into one of the good colleges in my country, but after I started ı failed many of my classes again and again. for the first time in my life I really needed to work/study, make an effort to get something I want. and I actually didn't even know how to do that.
and I was also criticized by a few people in my first year at there. I still don't thing they were right about the things that they criticized about me, but again since I haven't had any major conflict with people before, it broke me down.
But finally after all these things, I now know I need to make an effort to get the things I want. I should really want it, and work for it. It shouldn't just handed to me.
I am still working on it, but I am happy and proud of myself for realising this situation and try to do something to fix it. it is kinda hard to teach yourself to work after being lazy all your life. But I am hopeful :)
(sorry if it was too long, but if there is someone that suffered the same or similar things I did, I want them to know they are not the only person that these things happened, and it is okey to fail or being criticized sometimes, there is always a lesson to learn.)
The look on Richard’s face when Rory starts crying. Like “Oh shit. Emotion.”
Oh shit, spoiler 😭😟
Lmaooo
oh shit, i shouldve used a condom
Your videos are so good
This scene is just fantastic. You can hate the events that happen in Gilmore Girls, you can hate what becomes of Rory, you can hate the actions certain characters take, but you can never say that this show isn’t depicting reality. It’s so real. What is happening to Rory is so damn real. What Richard is feeling is so real. It’s things that all young people have to go through and all older people have to realize and I’m glad that the show chose to tackle these things head on, no matter how unpopular it was!
What chapter is this?
agree, very rarely does tv make characters and life events so realistic
i just started watching this and i love this show, even though it's sometimes so hard to watch for how absolutely real it feels. I'm still in season one, episode 16, couldnt finish and skipped episodes Double Date cause i cant bear to see Lane in THAT kind of pain and Donna Reed coz idk i think i was reall more invested in the story's other plot line. im currently having trouble finishing episode 16 cause the pain and misunderstanding is just sooo hard and painful to watch. idk why im rambling all this i just came here to see people discussing this show cause i still love this show soo much but it's just hard to continue right now, might resume watching it later tho
literally like the realest show
@@heyhi7762 i like gilmore girls but i feel like shameless is the realest show
I feel like Rory flopped because she got everything she wanted from the supporting cast and they all put her on a pedestal. And she had high expectations and thought she would float through life like she did before. I agree they should’ve encouraged her and her intelligence but not inflated her ego. I feel like if that didn’t happen she would know how to stick it out and learn how to work hard to get opportunities.
Yup for sure even when she was obviously in the wrong and was capable of making her own decisions they found a way to blame the ppl around her and then baby her.
@@allegraanegra455 yes, exactly! She became bratty which is understandable but still annoying af
Actually, Rory did work hard. She always studied patiently and everything. Now the problem is, that that hard work used to always pay off... Unfortunately, in real life, sometimes, even when you work hard, you can fail. And that´s something she never learned
@@souky110 I always imagine, what if Rory did went to Harvard.
@@phungyw91 Oooh, same! I feel like it would change a lot
Mitchum is right though. If she got what it takes, she'll bounce back. But she didn't. Rory was so used to being praised by the people around her that one criticism destroyed her
spoken like a true bully...
@@bellalalala3327 I'm not surprised you don't see the problem here...
@@theferryman4916 are you for real? Was he not right? What exactly did Rory do out of her life and the whole journalism thing? She's a spoiled brat that always got what she wanted. You can like her as much as you want but it's the truth.
@@contelookhere7568 yeah I never actually saw any of her true journalism love unless you count the life and death brigade and maybe the story about the sidewalk pavement or something like that but even then it was far less than what I expected to see. Most of the show was of course based on the girls relationships
@@bellalalala3327 I agree with you, but at the same time, I think I'd be lost and destroyed if someone told me I wasn't good at my dream career that I dreamt of since I was a child.
But you're right... the fact that she was praised all the time and that she NEVER heard a "no" in her life played a huge role in her future. She was born bright and gorgeous, she had 3 boyfriends (ok 4) and 2 guys (tristan and marty) completely in love with her + she wasn't rejected by any of them because she was ugly, fat, dumb, or something like that. She only had one "obstacle" (the D she got when she started chilton) as a teenager. She never had to deal with what most teenagers go through (pimples, anxiety, depression -I'm not saying these are exclusively teenage illnesses, ok just to be clear-, low self-esteem or loneliness). She didn't have a bad relationship with her parents, she was raised in a loving and safe town.
I mean, I'd die to be rory tbh even if I don't like her character
“If she’s got what it takes she’ll bounce back.” That exactly. As much as I love Rory, her aspirations were never tested, the road was so well paved for her that she couldn’t bounce back from criticism.
Plus, she came from a small town where she was showered with praise at how awesome she was at every turn.
I don't agree with that notion cos everyone's good at something, why should only one out a million only be allowed to realize their dreams? what about everyone else? no real effort is really put into what an asset we could all be to each other it's just always like "sell yourself sell yourself" but most people don't want to be a commodity they want to be useful in their own way.
Why none of it is built for how humans actually work and what they actually want, it's too like being put in a game only meant for the minority set on Elite level that so few can win, and when the game is rigged to be too hard most people just don't want to play cos the difficulty is unobtainable, humans like a challenge but it can't be too hard or too easy somewhere in the middle to be an obtainable challenge.
Huntsberger is setting people on Elite before they've even gotten passed easy, but ultimately i bet his company has SO many turn overs because he expects everyone to perform at the unobtainable Elite level ultimately setting people up for failure. And that is why he's an ass because he knows he's doing that.
@@FlyingMonkies325 🤷♀️ I kinda see your point but journalism is a tough field with a lot of competition, Rory didn’t seem to have the determination or grit to compete at the top level. Which is fine not everyone is going to be a top journalist. She shouldn’t have taken that one blow and quit it should have either driven her harder to succeed or helped her realize a different more attainable vision of success.
@@Black_pearl_adrift I don't think she really saw it as competing she just wanted to be a good journalist and when you're a good journalist you can be a top journalist cos if you're good then there's no reason to compete. But of course Huntsberger treated her like she wanted to be some kind of top dog when she just wanted to be a popular journalist that wrote good stuff.
Her problem like most people is nobody was teaching her everything she actually needed to know to be able to get there, determination and grit is nothing if you don't know what you're doing or how to get there, knowledge is power above anything else.
Sadly people in business's who already know everything forget all that they know has to be taught and so treat you like you're psychic and should already know lol, so they're expecting you to already perform at that level making people chase after an unobtainable thing when there's all that other stuff they need to know before being able to get there.
Previous gens unfortunately always seem to forget to mention the middle part and perceive things unrealistically, it's like nether thing is connected, well how did they get there then? lol, some know they're doing that though cos if you can't see the full picture then you can't navigate to where you want to go and i think again Huntsberger also knew that.
She got a few dislikes and completely fell apart, with that attitude she should have just stayed in stars hallow
This is off topic but when I watch this show and read all of these comments , It’s really hard to parent. It’s hard to find a balance with love and criticism. It’s hard to gain trust from a young child entering this horrifying world. Raising a being with respect and love but also giving them something to work on without them feeling intoxicated after. Please this is a reminder to thank your parents, You guardians ,your family and the people around you for giving you this life and nurturing you. It’s hard. I hope you know that
The most beautiful thing about this series is the twist that Mitchum was 100% right. And of course he was. He’s a professional.
fr i hate how they ruined rorys character.
Journalism never seemed to fit her character to me. And why spend all that money on an Ivy League education for...journalism...something that finding success in is not easy
@@sailorarwen6101 true like Ik she apparently loved it but they never rlly showed her true passion and she wanted to go to Harvard just for a journalism major
@@xminaa1397 i think an english literature major would suit her more
@@itsmemiaa738 she DID major in English lit
Missed out Emily destroying Shira, iconic.
@@happylamma4643 she didn’t do anything shira didn’t do to rory. shira claimed that rory wasn’t good enough for their family, emily was pointing out that at one point, that was true of shira. she was showing her how hypocritical she’d been.
@@happylamma4643 NO
This video pops up on my fyp everyday since u uploaded 💀
Three things I learned from watching Gilmore Girls: 1. Offer love and support but don't tell a child he/she is perfect and can do no wrong 2. Let your child fight his/her own battles and face consequences 3. Never tell your child there is only one path to success or happiness.
4. Be more of a parent than a friend. Yes be a friend but parent more. It always felt like Lorelie wanted to be her friend more than be a mom.
@@user-ze1ec2ub6z that because she got pregnant so young, she raised a friend and not a daughter
Lorelei LITERALLY confirms it in one episode that she and Rory are best friends first and second being a mom. She even mentions that she doesn’t even like playing “the mom card” on Rory like Ma’am 🙄you are a mom. But mostly maybe cause she doesn’t want to be like Emily.
Rory couldve excelled at any other field, journalism never fit.
I feel like lorelai would've made a great journalist tbh rory should've chosen to be an english teacher or prof since that suits her better
@@kartunland it depends what kind of journalism.. if you do a lot of research, long documentaties,.. or if you go after the news on the daily. Soft news or hard news. Stuff like that
even jess knew it, he said smth to her on the illfated car ride about how he couldnt picture it... she always only did what was asked of her, at the internship, even in high school when she wasnt going to try for the bicentennial speech because she didnt HAVE to do it and she only did bc lorelai pointed that out to her and kinda goaded her into it
She would have made an excellent doctor in my opinion... or a vet or something along those lines
@@cassidyrobbins7895 seriously. She could've been amazing.
I'm glad I found this clip, because it really shows the utter disappointment and guilt on Richard's face. In his heart he knew Lorelei was right all along. #TooLitteTooLate
Right about what
@@bagelfish8916 right that Mitchum critiqued Rory and that they didn’t want her marrying into their family
@@bianca.asmr1 ohhhh
yep and not just that, i think in the big picture he knew that rory had lost her way that he had basically funded her fall from grace
@@bonnyp3774 They also failed Lorelai. This was the first time in a while that Lorelai called for big need in help. She even outlined how much she need Emily and Richard to help her Rory right her ship. To ignore her and do what they thought best was abysmal. I feel a big part in this was Emily's thinking. At least Richard redeemed himself at season 7 end at the Rory's graduation/farewell party.
When I rewatch Rory's college journey up until she drops out you can see the building blocks... it's not just that Mitchum told her she "didn't have it", it was everything that happened leading up to it. She got to college and had multiple hits ot her confidence - that guy she asked out rejecting her, not being able to keep up academically, not really stading out there - at Yale she was just another student. Her homesickness and lack of a love life leading to the whole disatser with her now married ex-boyfriend - then the whole confusing up-and-down relationship with Logan. I think by the time the Huntzbergers told her she was common trash that could never marry into their family - followed quickly by Daddy Huntzberger telling her she could never be a journalist but was more suited to being a secretary... it sent her into a spiral. Everything she thought about herself going into college had been challenged, and now the one last thing she felt certain of was crushed too. I could see how she would just say screw it and walk away in a moment of weakness. I think at that point she didn't even know who she was anymore.
She's the typical White privilege kid that has it all in the beginning that amounts to nothing because she thought she was "Special". There was nothing special about her other than being spoiled and coddled by Rich people surrounding her. When reality finally hits her in the face, she crawled back into the whole. Even got pregnant while crawling back.
But if she had mettle, she wouldn't have placed so much stock in that trashy family and their opinions at all, and what they had to say about her, with respect to marriage or in career. You are who or what you choose to surround yourself with, because you are placing value and time in them. Rory needed to start afresh with a whole new set of values after experiencing burnout and peaking
@@regaliaretailfashionmerch4314 Yeah, but Rory believed she was part of that world. Her grandparents always made her feel welcomed in that world. And it's not like she did anything to be low class. This is one factor of her life she has absolutely no control over and no one really made her confront it until that moment. She had no defenses against what they were dishing out
@@carlycrays2831 she wasn’t rejected because she’s lower class (they’re both high society). She was rejected because she would be a working woman while the huntsburgers expected Logan to marry a woman that would stay at home as all of the high society woman would do. Even Emily did that.
They even said that in the show… surprised you didn’t catch that
This is a very astute way of putting things.
I never watched this show (though my sister did), and this clip makes me want to watch the whole thing.
One thing that always bothered me was when Lorelai would defend Rory by saying, “She’s the sweetest kid in the world! She would never hurt anyone!” I feel like that lead her to be the opposite, especially in relationships. She seems like the person to always do the morally right thing, but then she cheats on every relation she’s ever had, either with them or on them. Her whole family lead her to believe she could go through life with no trials and only the way she wanted to. That truly lead to her downfall.
Also Lorelai was a terrible mother. Rory was never taught how to be mature or handle relationships because she had an absolutely irresponsible and entitled mother who she should have been separated from.
@@KazKindred613 well, I don’t totally agree with that. Yes, Lorelai wasn’t a great influence on Rory with relationships and I don’t think she should have kept her relationships separate from Rory, I don’t think she was entirely entitled. I think she taught Rory the importance of independence and education, even though Rory later in the series turned away from that for a little while. I think she tried as hard as she could to provide the life for her child that she wish she had, though some of the things she implemented were not beneficial, such as never critiquing her or disciplining her the right way. So I don’t think she was a terrible mother who needed her child taken away, but maybe altering some of her parenting methods. But your entitled to your own opinion, this is just mine.
@@lizziecatherine7048 rory being turned into a narcissistic rich girl means that lorelai cared about her too much, which definitely counts as irresponsible
@@TheMarkmcr though Rory has the ability to make her own decisions and had other influences other than Lorelai. Being turned into a narcissist isn’t a direct result of how Lorelai raised her. And I don’t think caring about your kid, especially when you are close to them, is irresponsible. Maybe, as I said in my comment, Lore and her family praising Rory and heightening her ego was, but I don’t think it was ill-intended. I’m not criticizing your opinion, just stating my own, one that I have been curating for the seven years I’ve been a fan 😂
@@lizziecatherine7048 I didn't mean that lorelai should have been an absent parent (although that certainly had a positive effect on paris). The issue is that in the pilot episode, she describes her parenting style as "We always had a democracy in this house. We never did anything unless we both agreed. But now I guess I'm going to have to play the mom card". Sounds to me like she let rory get away with a lot of stuff during her childhood
It took me studying abroad in college to realize how freaking sheltered i had grown up and why i developed so much anxiety. I never got a break from school bc my parents were always pushing ivies onto me. I don’t blame them as much as i use to but in Rory’s case, Lorelai went the extreme route sheltering her daughter in a small town.
To Lorelei's defense
She wanted to protect her daughter from her parents who weren't really good parents
At the beginning they especially Lorelei's mother wasn't great grandparents, Richard was the first to get close to both by realising that he made mistakes.
True bvb butbloreli never sheltered her grandparents did mostly her mom was there yes but her grandparents are the one who funded her school rory yelled Harvard while lorelai just wanted her to he happy but true rory always wanted everything to fit perfectly in her plan but that's not the way life works...
I’m glad you had the opportunity to study abroad (such a privilege) and gained a new perspective! So important to see beyond your own community
It was the same for me, I was in advance led English classes in high school(in my home town) but in college(in Atlanta) I could only get a C. No matter how hard I tried.
You need to travel round the world and see how other people live. It will help you gain perspective.
I love the acting on part of Richard. You can see his face is mixed emotions, but the moment he drops his arms like that, you can read in his body language the frustration and disappointment. It's a ''Oh... I see now'' moment for him.
Richard remains my favourite till this day, even at the start when he seemed to not care as much, his character development really improves throughout and I love how he had a soft heart hidden inside and how he’s always there, through all of it. I know his heart dropped when Rory cried in his arms about failing. He’s so humble but so caring and warm hearted and it’s amazing. Rest in peace, fly high as he has passed away for awhile now. 🕊️
Honestly, most people don't like the turn that Rory took at this point, but it resonates so much with me. As a gifted kid, I was always praised for everything I do from the age of three, and I still am, to the point that I don't know how to react when something goes wrong or I do badly. I was criticized so little as a kid that I never learned how to improve my skills in various factors, and now I don't know how to react when people negatively view the things I do. It's so interesting to see a character deal with this on television, and how much it aligns with my issues.
It is also more interesting since her mom is the opposite, she gain everything she had thanks to her strong personality and capabilities, she refused everything her parents gave her to start over from zero.
Her daughter instead grow up in an healthy environment, happy and with everything she needs, being loved and appreciated, so when the world start to reject her she couldn’t handle it and she didn’t know how to react and what to do.
Really interesting to me🤷🏻♀️
@@gordythecat Exactly. With my gifted program back in middle school, we weren't at all challenged to do better, but rather praised for what we did in the moment. It's a terrible curse for kids who have a chance to do great things. I just hope that, with time, I get out of the bad habits that I'm stuck in.
@@nicnac6104 if you know your problem, itll be easier to fix it. but there comes a point where you cant attribute all your academic failures to the gifted program, thats just denying yourself accountability to protect your ego.
@@kim-it8de Yeah, you're right. Some of the responsibility does fall on me. Now I just have to teach myself to get out of the habits I've fallen into. With time, I'll get there. 👍
@@gordythecat I love this. We are worth it intrinsically.
The main issue I have with Mitchum is he didn’t just criticize Rory. If he criticized her, then that would be pointing out one of her weaknesses so she can improve on it. But instead he chose to completely degrade her. Saying she’s not good enough but then not telling her why she wasn’t good enough, even going as far as to say she’s make a good secretary to someone. Richard was 100% correct in saying Mitchum crushed Rory
the “secretary” part just sounds like sexism tbh
Exactly. People keep downgrading how crushing situation was for Rory. She can take criticism, but this was literally “the” newspaper mogul telling her that she basically wasted her life wanting to be in this career field. He never even looked over how well she could write. From what people say about her writing you could tell that she was an excellent print journalist (if not a little judgy in her reviews lmao)
@@bdubs9040 I agree with everything you said but I also think it's important to note that Mitchum was not a stranger. He was good friends with her grandfather and is the father of her boyfriend, so there is a connection there beyond professionalism. Being talked down like that by someone who you actually know in your personal life, even if you don't like them, is going to sting differently than if it was some random person.
The rest of Logans family had already made sure they knew Rory was not welcome. Mitchum offered the internship as an apology, Rory at first didn't even want to accept it, the whole deal never started on neutral ground. It was not just some random internship and some random boss she never met before.
That is very realistic for that field though. Journalism is very cut throat and sometimes it isn’t something specific you can fix, you’re just wrong for the field. That absolutely would be devastating, but something like that was bound to happen especially when no one ever criticized her and put her on a pedestal for all of the earlier seasons.
@@justforyounow5387 She was running behind him and getting him coffee like an assistant, so he told her she may want to continue doing what she'd shown she was good at.
To me, Rory’s story drives home how important it is to teach kids how to fail. You’re not going to be good at all the things you like, sometimes hard work will not pay off, and it absolutely sucks but it does happen. I don’t believe in “tough love” as the way to raise a kid, but I do believe in making sure they understand the differences between achieving and not.
Esa cara al final del video... Se dio cuenta que debio de apoyarla.
There was never a man more suited to play a character than this! His ability was SO undervalued.
When I rewatch the series it’s pretty clear that Rory is a character who has never really been rejected and has always been given love and praise by people. Everyone in stars hollow loves her, all of the boys she’s ever liked have been enamored with her and with some small exceptions she has always achieved academically. I think being told that she isn’t cut out for a career she wanted was crushing for her.
But tbh most people who pursue their career or a goal have been told by people that they aren’t cut out for what they’ve been striving for. By their families, friends, and bosses etc. Mitchum’s singular opinion (although the opinion of someone highly regarded) shouldn’t have destroyed Rory’s drive and motivation so much. Mitchum was obviously an ass about it but tbh people in position of power and wealth like him are rarely kind or thoughtful of other people’s feelings. It’s obvious by looking at Logan and his family that Mitchum is probably not much kinder to them either. And if you want to excel at any career you have to deal with a lot of people rejecting you/doubting your abilities when you start out. It’s your job to prove them wrong. And with her actions afterwards Rory proved him right.
Laundry room boy didn’t like her. And having boys like you isn’t remotely abnormal for girls, especially pretty girls.
@@AddBowIfGirl I’m not saying it’s abnormal, just pointing out the ways Rory’s character didn’t usually have to face much ‘rejection’ whether it be academically or in her personal life.
nah
Especially a career in journalism. People are harsh af almost all the time coming from all corners. I can kinda get her being down for it being the 1st time it happened but she never got better at her recovery so in turn never really improved
I agree. I mean there is a point in your career where you have been rejected so much that you have to accept you are just not cut out for it or there just isn't the market for it. But after one rejection from an impartial source you can try and improve; or if not then find something else you want to do just as much
Richard and Emily got a taste of their own medicine. They treated dean as if he wasn’t good enough for Rory and when the exact same thing happened to Rory, they can’t take it.
yep and they didnt believe lorelai and turned on her, then suddenly realize she was right after speaking to mitchum and seeing what a waste rory turned out to be under their guidance. they had it coming
Angry Richard is always so satisfying to watch, its like Luke when he's ranting, the level of love and passion he exudes while being furiously defensive of his family is amazing
When Mitchum said she didn’t have what it takes, he didn’t mean that she wasn’t a good writer, he meant that she did not have the emotional stability required for the job. And he was right.
edit: After one year of this comment i come to say… MOMMY IM FAMOUS
That’s one interpretation for sure. Most sensible observers would probably say that Huntsberger ought to have been a lot more diplomatic, especially when dismissing a S.O. of his own son.
Did he articulate that to her, or did he leave it vague so she could form her own interpretation if what that means?
@@KK_183 Why would he bother to articulate? Everyone around her makes her feel special, but he just represents reality. In the real world, no one gives a shit about your feelings. He didn't hurt her, he just said what he felt (and he was right).
Young people don’t show up to a job with everything it takes to succeed. As a mentor, it’s really important to criticize, but in a nurturing way, not in a way that makes the kid feel like she inherently is not good enough. You say, “That thing you did was not good enough, you can do better. Here’re some pointers.” Not “You don’t have what it takes,” which implies that she intrinsically isn’t good enough. Mitchum is a selfish asshole, but apparently that’s forgivable as long as you’re a “businessman” and “successful” (things he was spoonfed by his wealthy family). For every tantrum and unprofessional moment someone like him has, someone down the chain of command is picking up pieces so that every intern or new employee isn’t fleeing a toxic workplace.
@@debasmitachatterjee6455 He would "bother to articulate" for clarity. Keeping things vague doesn't help her realize how she can improve, which doesn't help her in any way. Your biased against Rori, so you don't see the benefit of constructive criticism. This isn't about catering to her feelings, as you imply; rather, it's about helping someone realize where they are lacking and providing the feedback that will help him or her grow.
Also, you say that "in the real world, no one gives a shit about your feelings." Having lived in the real world, I call BS. Obviously, there are people who don't care that they offend, but there are also people who do, so the idea that once kids go out into "the real world" people are completely indifferent to others' feelings is factually untrue.
All that being said, there is a way to constructively criticize, which I'm all for, even if it is uncomfortable for the recipient, because it at the very least provides clarity on how the other person can grow. What Mitchum appeared to do was just criticize, without any advice or feedback for how Rory could improve. That kind of feedback is largely, if not entirely, useless, and it comes from a place of ego and superiority.
I always hated how much they coddled Rory. That guy was right, this is business, and you either have it or you don't. Why is it ok for them to be forward with everyone *but* Rory? If she can't take criticism and dust herself off and bounce back, then she shouldn't be in the business period.
The first time I watched it, I thought he was being mean to Rory. Then as I'm rewatching the series I realize he was right. Rory kinda fell to the wayside as the series went on.
Yeah but people don’t need to be cold hard either because I can break anybody even not a spoiled person I’ve known people that things broken down and they weren’t spoiled in fact it actually breaks more people they’re not spoiled I don’t have everything handed to them
There is no such thing as "having it." Every "it" that someone means when they refer to "having it" is a learned skill, and if someone doesn't "have it," it's because either 1) they haven't been taught or 2) they don't want to learn. Now, someone not wanting to learn what it takes to make it in their field, that's a valid criticism. But if someone hasn't yet acquired the skill, and you're too lazy to teach them, that's on *you* (in this case Mitchum).
Me too
Either having it or you don’t is not true. You can definitely grow to be a good writer and excel in the field.
HER ACTING THO-
"and if she's got what it takes, she'll bounce back" In hindsight, he called out what he saw. He was not wrong. Rory continuously struggled to bounce back when things got tough.
Yes Rory is a writer not a journalist
U can see how much love and pride Richard has for Rory the way he looked at her while on stage giving her thank u speech
I REALLY loved the grandparents!!
I just re-watched this series last year and felt so many emotions, emotions that I don't think I had the first time around. Was really a good show and resonated with me so much in my own life.
A "slight criticism" would be, "You are not behaving aggressively or assertively enough for this business," but that is not what Mitcham said. He said "You don't have it" and "You would make someone a great secretary," after Rory spent years of her life wanting to be a journalist and not knowing where to go next. Her emotional reaction was understandable, because she was blindsided. Her actions afterward were NOT. But Rory did not crumble; she polished up other talents and started working at the DAR, came back in and started running the Yale Daily News. Mitchum was right overall, but he was dealing with a student first, and should have learned to give her constructive criticism.
No, it was not understandable. She was spoiled and raised to think that she was incredibly special. Most people don't steal a boat because of a person's opinion.
Honestly my annoyance with the boat thing was that it would typically be a Class A felony with jail time, and because of her status as a rich WASP at Yale she was able to get it reduced to a misdemeanor with community service, and she still acted like she was so above the other community service doers and it was such a waste of her time. Like, if you weren’t a rich white girl there’s a good chance you’d be in a cell right now.
Rory did crumble though. She dropped out of school, committed felonies, and GAVE UP on journalism. She did all that instead of trying to prove mitchum wrong.
When we catch up to Rory in A Year in the Life, we see that Rory still struggles to be that assertive journalist. We see that she has remained the entitled girl who felt that she was owed things because of how great people say she is. She assumed that Conde Naste would bend over backwards to have her on staff. She felt entitled to the job.
you say she came back to run the Yale Daily News... and while she did do a good job at it, that position, really, was handed to her like so many things: Yale itself, the internship, her boyfriends, the job Lorelei got her that one summer, the Washington DC thing she got because of Paris, the VP position she got bc of Paris, etc. The problem isn’t that she isn’t talented or “doesn’t have “it”” but that she is used to be given things because the people around her always did because she was “special” but she came into the internship hoping Mitchum would see it too, and 🤷🏼♀️ he didn’t. and it crushed her. Lorelei and her grandparents really did smuther her.
that is acting, the last scene when we can see the pain and regret in the eyes of richard.. rest in peace amazing Edward Herrmann
It broke my heart when Rory started crying 😢
😭😭 I remember watching this during my college years and it seemed whenever I was struggling, Rory was as well, so I felt the sadness so much harder. It’s been awhile since I’ve watched the series and I’m sure it wouldn’t be as appealing to me these days, but it sure does bring back some great memories!
they treated her like a god and that’s why she flopped
yeah. even when she made terrible mistakes, everyone would tell her it was okay
@@Melanie-zk4yb literally they’d be like “rory NEVER screws up like this! she’s allowed to make ONE mistake!!!” but she’d fuck up majorly like every single day in the later seasons and no one cared
Yes but this is what season and episode? Please
In reality is the way Rory was treated really any different from how most people treat their kids. Parents want or are suppose to want their kids to have everything better than they did and more often they not end up going overboard. Rory though as an adult , no matter how much praise she got as a kid , was respondiable for her choices, especially the bad ones. I didn't particularly like the way Rory was proteayed in part of Season 6, but understood the direction the producers took with her character. After she reconciled with her mom and went back to Yale, she seemed to get back on track.
En ese último momento Richard comprendió todo el mal que le habían hecho 😢
“I used to think _Gilmore Girls_ was a comedy. Now I realize it’s a tragedy.”
As a gifted child I still have the tendency to avoid things that don't come easy to me. I wanna always excel at everything I do, and real life is so hard for kids who were praised to the sky for their academic achievements.
I relate to this as well
Rorys story really scares me because I relate to her so much. I’ve always excelled academically, would love to go into journalism or some field of writing and am about to put myself in loads of debt for an English degree. Her downfall is daunting and unsettling.
Don’t worry it’s just a show. I bet you’ll be amazing
Study computer science as a back up. You'll be well-rounded and be able to write about tech with an insider's understanding.
Don't worry much about it, sure have a backup but remember it takes so much effort to pull anything off so don't be crushed when you don't wing it in the first few times!
learn from her mistakes. these shows are meant to teach us lessons
You don't have to go into debt. Look into studying in Europe. In many countries it's free.
This reminds me of when my PI (principle investigator) / boss at the research institute I was interning at told me that I would never be a doctor and that I don't have what it takes. Well, it took me about 6 years but I am now a 1st year medical student. If you want it, you can make it happen.
Go you!
Rory never took criticism because everyone treated her like some precious prodigal child
@Magnoliaflower Lorelai criticized her multiple times. they had many fights.
I love how after he finally yells at mitchum, you can see him balling his fist up trying not to swing on him.
I just realized that Rory being apart of the DAR and organizing corny ass events isn’t at all surprising when you consider all the town events Stars Hollow expected her to be apart of. My memory is failing on specifics but one thing that comes to mind is in Season 4 when Taylor gets mad at her for not having time to be the “Ice Cream Queen” at his grand opening. He mentions how she’s always been apart of every other Stars Hollow function and then guilts her for prioritizing getting ready for Yale.
If you pay attention, you’ll notice that Rory has always contorted herself to fit into whatever other people expect of her. She’s overly accommodating (i.e. repeatedly acquiescing to Paris’ demands, pleasing her grandparents 24/7, being a doormat for Logan, etc.) pretty much throughout the entire show. There are a few moments here and there where she stands up for herself but only when she’s been pushed over the edge. And it takes a lot for that to happen.
Seems like the way Rory was raised, resulted in her unconsciously just doing whatever was most likely to get her praise in any given situation. It’s why she’s so aimless and lost in the revival. She’s in her 30s- Finally, no one’s there to tell her what to do. All throughout her teens (and 20s probably) if she received praise it was because she had done something favorable in the eyes of others. Not necessarily because she set a standard for herself and followed through on it.
Yes, she was very studious and hardworking in her academics. But how much of that drive was intrinsic? And how much of it was just a fixation on what she was “supposed” to be? (I mean, didn’t Lorelai put Harvard in Rory’s head when she was 6? This narrative of a kid in the single digits being passionate about an ivy league seems off.)
Those who were labeled as “gifted” or only ever praised for intelligence as children will understand what I’m saying lol. That shit will fuck you up. Your entire identity becomes about being perceived as capable and smart.
Rory was never taught how to validate herself. So, yeahh… at least the writing and character arc makes sense.
it's scary how much the accommodating for others and receiving praise, along with being good academically and almost never being criticized resonates with me. accommodating for others to the point of my own degradation, and then getting praised for it is such a dopamine hit for me. it makes me feel like all my 'sacrifices' are now acknowledged amd appreciated, when in reality they are obviously not.
corny ass events😭😭😭
Oh my gosh, Richard comforting Rory made me bawl my eyes out! My grandfather passed away a few months ago, he was my father figure, and was there for me more than my real dad. Don’t even get me started on the a year in the life!
I am so sorry for your loss. God bless you.
Rory had some great grandparents l cried when Howard
Die he added so much character , very proper he will be missed...😢
0:37 always makes me tear up, i end up sobbing
Let me qout a verry smart induvidual here on yt, "You can be right, but you can be wrong on the tone of your voice". It means that what you say may be right, but if you are so ignorant as to be unable to phrase it in a kind and gentle manner you will only make people ignore you and your points as you seem harsh and crule. THis tends to put people off and thats whatr happend here. He was perhaps right, but his tone might have been wrong.
@@solarydays While I agree that Rory was put on a pedestal, I disagree that Mitch was in the right. He doesn't have to baby someone for his criticism to be constructive. As others have stated, his words and tone were destructive towards Rory. Instead, he could've said "Hey, your strengths are here, but you're weak here. Work on the weakness." not "You don't got what it takes. Get a new career."
@@solarydays If you as a professionall buisness owner are unable or willing to talk in a polite(adult) manner then I seriously wonder how you managed to become sucessfull, because clientell talk to one a other, rumors will spread etc etc. SPECIALLY if you hurt someone with money behind her such as Rory. Im not saying Rori didnt deserve to hear that she wasnt good enough, im saying that a professional GROWN person should be more than able to tell what he/she wants in a polite and professional manner. You can either say "Your horrible, fuck off" or something more along the lines off "You are not quiet at the point there we are comfterble having you work here. You need to improve in the A, b and C areas. If thats not possible you should probably consider a diffrent profession. Good luck out there." Both means you are fired, one is childish and rude, one professional and mature.
Rory should have focused less on the tone and more on the message.
@@TrackerNeil Yes, a lot of people should do that but we rarly do, we tend to hear the tone before the message. And a older, experienced buisness man should KNOW this and therefor adjust his tone when talking to people. They both messed up honestly.
Yeah I always thought he could have said it differently especially because she was Logan’s GF but I think that is just who he is. He is frank and to the point. He doesn’t sugarcoat and some people don’t mind to get this kind of criticism, they even appreciate it but others are more on the sensitive side (I don’t mean this as shade, I am sensitive myself, which is why I always watch my tone when I criticize something/someone) and then you have to watch how you word things. My sister is someone you can be brutally honest with. She doesn’t get offended.
The first scene hit so hard now... 💔 he was an amazing actor
Rory’s grandfather has been crushing people his whole life.
As a gifted child who is now an adult who burned out before her senior year I still cry when I am criticized. I’m working on it but when you are told growing up you are either right or wrong and there is no in between, than being wrong hits so much harder. I feel for Rory, it’s not her fault her family raised her to rely on the attention and approval of others.
I can’t relate, but my sibling is this way. I was always the f up so it doesn’t bother me when bad things happen to me and i am unsurprised. But for them it’s like the end of the world and they can never handle being told they’re wrong. It’s going to present a challenge in the work place but not my problem 🤷🏼♀️
@@blairwaldorf-bass8180 It depends I also have BPD from abuse and neglect growing up which doesn’t help my gifted child syndrome. You should realize by now though that people who crumble when they’re told they aren’t perfect are horrifically insecure and depressed. It just shows differently. Maybe have a tad more compassion.
Shame 🤣🤣🤣 thats what you get when people kiss your ass.
It's a form of disguised warfare consisting of psychological manipulation.
how you know you are gifted? 1Q?
It's exactly what Carol Dweck talks about in her book "Mindset"- a child being constantly praised for their intelligence and not for their efforts and choices, end up entering a Fixed Mindset instead of developing a growth mindset. This fixed mindset results in children who could have been exceptional when they grow up ,end up being average. They don't think that they can improve because to them intelligence is what you are born with since birth and cannot be altered therefore anybody questioning that or criticizing it ends up being a limitation to them.
He was such a good actor
At the end of A Year In The Life, Rory sits down and writes Gilmore Girls so, y'know, there is that.
Aaww. Poor Rory.
Poor little rich girl.
Poor pretty little rich girl that everyone loves.
So sad.
This is the exact reaction all those kids labeled as “gifted” had when they grew up. They were taught they were naturally perfect, and when they didn’t meet that standard, it’s the end of their world
what an amazing actor... his dialect, facial expressions, body language, everything. pure talent.
At first glance I thought this was about Richard Gilmore, the guy who was caught by ash in that one pokemon comic that imagined that happening before palworld
Whenever I got that kind of criticism I would just work harder and prove everyone wrong. The difference is nobody pampered me my whole life.
Richard was the most caring character in this show and deep down he loved Rory, no matter what she studied or did
when i watched this scene for the first time. I bawled my eyes out because it's so real. TV and movies don't do justice to the impact caused by academic or career related failure when 80% of kids and students go through it. The main leads always seem to be doing everything right and getting to all the right places etc
This show hit real deep with the academic side of it and when she hugs Richard! gosh. i cried so much, it made me miss my grandparents :(
When I first watched this I thought "How can she drop out of Yale? How can she give up like this? That is to stupid and she needs to be stronger". But now that I have gone through something similar, I totally get it. The fear of destruction you feel when you realize your life is not going according to plan and everything is so much harder than you expected. The terrible realization that you can fail to make your dreams come true. The feeling of just needing a break from the thing that you believe you are failing and take some time to breathe. And despite what anyone says, I think Rory is still a child. It doesn't matter how old you are, you don't just turn 18 and start college and move away from home and become a full functioning adult. That is the first step into adulthood. So we can't expect her to handle this situation perfectly. I totally get where Rory is coming from, why she is reacting the way she is. Maybe she was spoiled, maybe she wasn't "strong enough", maybe she was coddled or praised too much by her family. Whatever the reason is, she is absolutely right for feeling this way. She doesn't handle it in the best way, she makes mistakes, she hurts people and yes that is wrong. The ideal thing was for her to just suck it up and keep working. But honestly, who can actually do that? It's not as easy as it sounds. In the end, she takes a break, she gets better and bounces back. Good for her.
Thank you for putting the music over this, it is much more emotional that way
What pissed me off is how they didnt even think to believe their own daughter when she told them what the huntsbergers did!
the fact that they dismissed their own DAUGHTER even after Emily is like oh that can't be i loved lorelais reaction they had their chance to stand WITH her and instead they stabbed her in the back
I don't want to be obnoxious, but it's killing me. it's LORELAI. not lorelay, lorelei, loreley. it's LORELAI. It's leviosa not leviosah
Ahhaha true ♥️
Lmfaooo u funny asf💀💀💀😭😭😭😭
Yeah and if you read the description you'll see someone wrote "combinated" instead of "combined". The world is flawed.
😂😂😂 not the Hermione line.
Lorelai is a different spelling variation on Lorelei (mostly used by Americans). The traditional spelling is Lorelei, a name with two theorized etymologies. First, it's the combination of an Old German word “lureln” meaning “murmuring” plus a Celtic word “ley” meaning “rock”.
I love how Richard dose not know what to do but hug Rory it’s so sweet 😊🥲
the amount of hate towards rory is shocking. most ppl in this comment section clearly aren’t true gilmore girl fans
I agree with you. There are some people with valid points but there are also many people who are just insulting the character without much substance.
Honestly, Mitchum’s actor is so good at playing scuzzy characters. Mitchum, Quinn’s dad from Glee.
Omg theyre the same dude!! Can't believe I didn't realize
And the restaurants owner on bunheads
I saw him on Glee recently and I was like wow, typecast much?
i really hope he's the complete opposite in real life lol
He's also in ncis la 3x16. Doesn't end well
i feel so sad to see his face in this final scene. its like he's seeing all his hopes and dreams for her going away as she settles to being a housewife.
Being a housewife is not 'settling'. To have the option to be one is a privilege.
lol guys i meant to say that this was how he was feeling, not that being a housewife is a bad thing. its just not what he wanted or imagined for her future.
I always felt that he felt that way watching her in the ladies club with Emily. Like he felt she was wasting her potential. I even feel like there was an episode where he said something like that to Emily and she was hurt by it, like he didn't think much of her. My issue is that rather than tell her she was great I would have preferred him to say, "look kid. You got a bad critique. It's like. Now what are you going to do with it? Are you going to let it break you or are you going to rise to the challenge?" Building her towards her dreams was never Mitchums responsibility. It was Richard, Christopher, Emily and Lorelais. Part of that building would be to say, "this is part of life but it's what you choose to do with it that defines you, not his critique".
@@aishaz6552 she did a lot of studying and her whole life dream was to become a big journalist. Going from being someone who has big hopes and dreams in life to not doing anything in a professional business is settling. It is amazing to be a housewife obviously but that’s not what you worked for her whole life. Her dreams came crashing down. Everything that she worked for point meant nothing
@@bellajewels What I gathered from the way that he’s watching Rory up there on the stage is not necessarily that she was wasting her potential, but rather that as he watched her, he saw the weak, vulnerable child who “would become a drain” that Mitchum was talking about. He realized that Rory was indeed, sheltered and unable to accept the criticism of the world, so when she was criticized for the first time, she ran away into a small corner of the world where she felt safe and unchallenged, and that place was with him and Emily.
Gilmore Girls was a wonderful show that explained exactly how NOT to raise a child. A bunch of parents who had absolutely no idea how to teach children how not to take care of themselves and constantly needed everyone to take care of them.
You know l cried it's so hard to tell your grandparents you failed ...when you really tried 💔
When you see Grandpa "started to make his hand into a fist" you could see how ANGRY and protective he was of his granddaughter.
I think Rory and her development, or lack thereof, is really interesting. Often I think about the comparison between Paris and Rory. Rory, although hard working, was never criticised; shes the perfect example of a "gifted kid". I think a good example of the treatment she was given is when Rory and Jess got into that car accident, Lorelai refused to accept that Rory was partially responsible. Rory was taught that she could do no wrong, and everything she did and said was perfect. Now, I think there seems to be a narrative in the comments that Rory was a "bad journalist" specifically because of what Mitchum said here. But then we're disregarding her experience within the Chilton newspaper in which on her first assignment she persevered and wrote a brilliant piece on an otherwise utterly boring topic. I don't think she was a bad journalist, I think she never learnt how to be a great journalist. She never improved beyond that level because nobody ever taught her how to improve, because shes Rory so what is there to improve? But then also on Mitchum, I don't think Mitchum was entirely correct here. His "criticism" was highly degrading and condescending, I think he was correct in not coddling Rory, but he should've told her what she could improve on, how, things that are beneficial! Instead he told her she'd be a good receptionist, which comes off misogynistic to be quite honest. But back to the comparison between Paris and Rory, Paris was rich but she didn't have half the emotional support system Rory did. That girl worked for everything she had and she was unapologetically ambitious for the insanely high standards she created for herself. And yet despite her efforts, Paris continuously failed to achieve what she really wanted. She didn't get Valedictorian, she didn't get into Harvard and in "A Year In The Life" we see that she is divorced and unhappy, unable to continue the career she had strived for. Paris to me always seemed like the one who really deserved the opportunities in education Rory got.
I disagree about the Paris part.. because Paris actually turned out to be pretty successful. During her time in Yale she received so many acceptance letters from various colleges such as Harvard, and this was during Yale when they were close to graduating. Meanwhile Rory didn’t receive anything. Also in the “ A year in the life” she may have been divorced and she may not have pursued a career that she “strived” for but she’s successful in her present career, making good money and she seemed pretty happy to me lol
I love your comment, but don't like the part where people criticize Rory. It is not constructive people. Y'all don't consider that she grown so perfectly without a father. I share the same situation with Rory. It is tough not know what is to have a father. As for her identity crisis is something that most of us has or will have in our life. I believe that identity crisis made her better, grow as person and professional. I also think that everyone treats her on special way because Rory has their hearts. She and Lorelai worked for that reputation. Not every person will treat you so well until you earned their trust, respect and friendship. Paris is cool, but I guess she failed with her marriage mostly because she did not develop interpersonal communication skills. She always lacked and still does. But I love and admire her for being Paris💜
I don't dislike Rory's character and I do still think that what Mitchum said wasn't constructive and like I said before was actually quite insulting. I think she's a likeable person and I do agree that they worked for their reputation however there was a clear lack of constructive criticism otherwise she wouldn't have come so unprepared to the interview in A Year In The Life. She also was still seeing Logan whilst he was in a relationship because she still sees herself as his number one. Everybody has faults and I think there is quite a clear level of arrogance that Rory holds. On the side of not having a father, I myself cannot speak from experience and I'm sorry that you can relate to her in that way. However whilst Christopher was never present in the way he should've been - he did still try to be there for Rory and it was always incredibly obvious how much Rory meant to him. She also had an insane amount of people around her who loved and supported her so she was never without a support system. She never became professional ion the way she should have because if she had, she wouldn't have showed up to an interview essentially expecting the job to be handed to her without any sort of preparation whatsoever. She's a pretty complicated person but in the end I do like her, she just has faults and whether those are a result of her own lack of maturity or because the people around her never pushed her to learn and grow from these mistakes (to an extent, I do think Lorelai coddled her but when she slept with Dean when he had a wife Lorelai was straight up with her - but then Rory did the same thing again in A Year In The Life.) I think Paris just deserved as much as Rory got or even more and its seriously a shame she never got those opportunities.
had a moment like this recently with my own grandfather and i am SOBBING watching this omg
😒 I hate when people say Rory can’t handle criticism. Rory’s paternal grandparents pretended she didn’t exist and when they finally entered her life they basically insinuated it would’ve been better if she hadn’t been born. Her father was never there. When he did become rich remember he set up a trust fund for GiGi and set her up for life and treated Rory like an after thought. When Rory first got to Chilton, everyone treated her like trailer trash. The only reason people liked her was because she softened Paris up a little. The only people who coddled Rory was her maternal grandparents (that’s what grandparents do), Luke (he does have that with everyone)
The fact that he grew so much from his relationship with Lorelei and became so much softer with Rory ❤️❤️
And whenever Rory did something obscene, such as party like a spoiled rich girl, or steal a yacht, people would always say: "Oh she's not one of those girls!" when it is incredibly clear that she is.
That's sort of the problem. She totally is, but at the same time, she isn't. She will never be allowed into that world to be able to take full advantage of it, but her grandparents never fully seemed to realize that. Nor did Rory until she went off to school.
the fact that she didn't realize it herself made it true
@@carlycrays2831 she was entirely allowed into that world she just chose not to accept it.
@@Ambereighshe was still friend with the life and death clowns in the revival. Cheating with Logan. They through her a party for being arrested. She was accepted by her rich peers.
She was accepted by the DAR ladies too. She even made friends with one of them that Emily didn’t like. Which was contradicted later by bad writing but this show is full of inconsistencies
I think it was supposed to mirror Emily in the way that Richard's mother didn't approve of Emily when she married Richard.
richard gilmore got a special place in my heart
I am crying
As a post-gifted child, I relate 100% to Rory. And Lord bless my parents, but I will never do to my future kids what they did to me.
She would be a great manager, she is organized, she is a socializer (everyone likes her) and would be great with planning things. Maybe she would be a great manager in a NGO (travelling, managing and doing good) or good business consultant (maybe for social start ups). or add a major in arts or music management.... She could even be a good teacher and share her love for literature with kids...
But she feels she’s too good for those jobs that’s her problem.
@@shayla106 this!!
You have to be assertive to be a manager, she'd crumple under the pressure of having push back/disagreements from her staff. She's the kind of manager that would start crying and shouting when an employee pointed out something wrong or didn't agree with her ideas.
@@zz7073 she showed that she had managing skills at the Yale daily news and the DAR.
I heve finished all seaons it was sooooo good!! def recommend
i love rory's character so much... she is such a true outcome of not always meeting parents expectations, but always trying her best.
The way she forced her grandpa to hear her is just show how much she needed someone to hear her out.
I feel like Rory’s peak in high school is due to the constant praising she receives from people which not only gave her a false outlook in life but also caused her fall under pressure easily and generally feel pressured by the people who constantly praise her to be perfect
If anyone is wondering what the song at the end is, it’s ‘Undertow’ by Steve Buckley, brought me to tears when I heard it
as a kid i could hyper focus on things that interested me. grade school was a breeze, until it wasnt. i was diagnosed with ADHD in ths 90s... that meant a shit ton of pills. those things killed me, everything lost taste, color, vibrancy everything became grey, stayed that way even after losing the pills. doctors ! woohoo. I realize now being almost put on a pedestal for how smart i was, i never put the work in. when all it was became the work over intuition i suffered for my lack of organizational, memory, and discipline skill sets. the adult adhd community has helped me tremdously explain many of my behaviors and improved my mental health.