Our Baby's Name Is Causing Family Drama!
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- Our Baby's Name Is Causing Family Drama!
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Don’t trust your mom. She has threatened to physically harm your daughter. Never trust her.
I would keep that mom away from the kid regardless if she said that. I might hurt the child? That woman is in need of serious help.
The mom even suggesting that she would do that would be a deal breaker. I would never trust that child around her because of her mentioning that. It shows how evil the mom is.
@Ryan De Witt - I agree!
If evil means being manipulative and controlling, it sounds like your mom is being evil to you.
there different type of evil. my friend mom use to lock her in the bathroom for days, beat her, refuse to feed her and if she find out she ate she force her to throw it up and rub her face in it like a dog while screaming at her. lucky in high school the mom got arrested and sent to a mental hostipial when she show up to high school cause she found out we was having a pizza party and start screaming at her. so if the grandmother was like that I'm not even part of the family but I would totally understand why the mother don't want the baby to be name it.
1,000,000% sounds like the nut didn’t fall far from the tree. Mom is definitely a nut
Funny how the mom says the grandma was evil, yet she sounds to be a lot like her!
apple don't fall far
I was just going to say that. Hypocrite saying the baby can't be named after someone because they were manipulative/abusive.
Omg you took the words right out of my mouth ! Lol
Excellent point Alicia!
Right on 💯
Ramsey: sell the mom
This needs more likes 🤣
LMFAO 😆🤣
😂😂 I hope John sees this one day!
What's your annual income
Mom: "Your grandma was named that, and I didn't like her because she was manipulative......and now I am going to try to manipulate you." It's very easy to live out out childhood scars.
my MIL sent my BIL and SIL an 8-page letter about all the awful "Georgia"s she had ever known and telling them they must change their baby's name. They didn't, and Georgia is now 19 years old and beyond lovely.
8 pages? Do you still have it?
8 pages!? That is freaking impressive.
I had a great aunt named Georgia. She wasn't awful.
Was it written front and back? 😂
It's a beautiful name I'm sure the girl is too.
I'm having a baby next week. I think I'll name her "truck driving binoculars" hahaha 😆🤣😁
😂 😂 I was eating chips and I almost cough-chocked 😂
That name has three possible meanings. Does it mean binoculars being driven by a truck, binoculars used for truck driving, or a set of binoculars that drive a truck. It's a case of ambiguous syntax.
LOL!
WOW! I'd wash my hands with them! Threatening harm to my child is definitely the end of the relationship!
Well, maybe put a hold on the relationship. If it needs to be completely stopped temporarily, that's one thing, yet the ultimate goal is always restoration. It might take 20 years, but restoration of the family relationship is always the proper goal. These does mean that there's no threatening or other such things. The mother and sister need help, obviously. Therapy might work, or repentance and submission to the good God of creation, who loves them lavishly, would work even better.
@@kathyh.1720 With narcissists, which the mom sounds like, there’s no way to restore the relationship. It’s extremely rare that a narcissist will change.
No
These parents need BOUNDARIES and serious counseling! This is absolutely out of line, unacceptable, and manipulative! They don’t get a say in this! They are CHOOSING to not have a relationship with this innocent child who they should love unconditionally just because of a name! Also, she said this great-grandmother with this name was manipulative and abusive... so is her family!! To say you couldn’t imagine being around a baby with that name and not hurt it?! I am so speechless. I would never have my baby around them after they even breathed those words- even if the name was changed!
So the mom is acting like the person who she says was evil, got it!
Mom or not..if you threaten to harm my child we are going to have some major problems! Mom sounds evil and manipulative..I’m sure she’s dealing with her own personal trauma but I don’t play about my child that’s a no fly zone ! She would never see my kid unsupervised!
I am still trying to wrap my head around my mother saying she could hurt my baby . It looks like the nut didn’t fall too far from the tree as far as the girls mother goes .
Yea I could see if mom said I'll call her by her middle name but to say that you would hurt her os scary
Make a file with the police that records the threat and ensure she is not ever allowed to get the child should the parents die.
Very sound advice. Not something anyone wants to think about at this wonderous time and for being such a young couple but essential for well being and peace of mind. Make out a will or trust or whatever it takes.
As a gramma, I can’t imagine saying I might hurt my granddaughter because of her name.
Sounds like there's some cycles that need to be broken and the caller has the chance to do just that.
Mom: I don't know how I can be near the child.
Me: That's easy. We are never going to allow you to be. Bye.
Had to rewind after the "hurt the child". This new mamma has a two week old. This bad behavior is not new just a new way of wrapping up same old crazy. Take that wonderful husband and new baby and have your friends be your family. You still have not recovered from birth. Take care
She was able to name several instances of manipulation by her mother without even skipping a beat. It’s hard to cut people out of your life, especially when it’s a close relative, but that has to be the solution here until mom figures out that she is her grandmother reincarnated.
Run from her family run ! These are sick horrid people if a grandma thinks she might " hurt" her grandbaby due to the baby's name
"hurt the child"???? excuse me??
and the grandmother was the evil one?
Yeah, my thoughts exactly..... 😳
If your family members choose to walk away, because they don’t like the name of your child, it’s on them, not on you
She said the part about the threat to their baby and audibly “EXCUSE ME”!
Absolutely not.
Even IF they change the name, I say DO NOT let that woman around your child.
She basically said it wouldn’t be her fault if she hurt the baby just because of her name. That it would be YOUR fault that you named her that!
Wholly f**k!
So the old lady was manipulative and abusive? Like the kind of person that would demand you change a baby’s name or they might harm the child or have to end their relationship with you? The elders in this family aren’t victims, they are bullies.
I'm real big on protecting my newborn child. Keep this woman away. Bless you and your family.
Wow!!! She doesn't know how she couldn't HURT the baby??? I would never ever ever let someone who said that NEAR my baby!
It’s lame the mom tells stories of her mom being manipulative but then goes and does the same stuff on her own kids. She needs to be called out on it.
As a fellow mother. If any one said that to me about my children . That is very toxic and it's ok to sever the relationship. Because how could someone say that about their own grandchild.
Who, in their right mind, would name an innocent child Evil??? That's bizarrel!!
I can't tell if you are kidding or not, but thank you for the laugh!!!!
The way the caller explained it, it really does sound like the baby and the grandmom was named Evil. Lol
KEEP those texts somewhere. Just tuck them away, archive or screenshot. Just in case.
I think changing the name won't solve anything because even if you change Josephine into Ana, she will know her original name (before you changed it) was Josephine, so she will be mean to her anyway. Protect your girl.
Sorry mom. You’re not getting your way this time. Let them name THEIR child whatever THEY want and then get over it.
Ya, I’m confident that everyone myself included would strongly agree on.
what a mess. The name does not define the person. This girls mom needs to go to counselling if she's still that traumatized over a name!! It sounds like her mom is trying to be manipulative, just like the one that she is talking about!!
That was what I was thinking also. She didn't like her mom cause she was mentally abusive and manipulating, but she is the same way. If it's not the baby's name, it would be something else.
I would have loved to hear the "evil" grandma's side of the story...
That mother needs some serious help
You don't need people in you life who steal your joy you can forgive them don't ever take a chance on her ever getting near your child that includes other family members you might trust to watch your baby and that feeling sorry her
When our son was born, over thirty years ago myum was upset because we gave him the same name as someone who had tried to assault her as a young woman. We had never heard of this and had chosen the name just because we liked it. So instead of it being happy news she accused us of doing this on purpose to hurt her. Honestly if you didn't know then you haven't done it on purpose, if you had known and still chose it then I can see that's a bit more confusing. But two people can have the same name and not display the same behaviour.
We had drama over my daughter name or so I though until I heard this call!!! 😱 good luck to this lady.
Sometimes, I wish there was adult adoption. So many adults are estranged from their toxic parents at times when they need the support of a parent-figure most. Just because we are grown, doesn't make being abandoned hurt any less. Either way, she is better off without her mother if she is like that.
Wow. The apple didn't fall far from the tree with the lady's mom.
She said her great grandmother was evil and they named their kid her name, The name was not evil. And she didn't even know that's what her great grandmother's 1st name was.
Make it easy: if a stranger told you they would hurt your kid because they don’t like their name, would you allow the stranger around? That’s your answer.
This is a blessing to keep you mom away from your family. She is controlling and she will never change!!!!
It took me 40 years to set boundaries with my mom.
This is her issue not yours so don’t try to fix her or give into her evil ways. Sound familiar?
It's a good idea for prospective grandparents to know the potential name choices ahead of time--this way at least way at least it wouldn't be a surprise. And never send bad news or discouraging things in a text! Poor new mom ought to have support from her folks!
I’ve had names written down since my little brother came along. That’s so cute that people think their opinion matters. Wait. LOL! I just got to the “Truck Driver Binoculars”. 😂😂😂
This reminds me of my family. My mom passed away and 3 years later I set my wedding day on the same day she passed. A)that’s when the hall we wanted was open but mostly B) I wanted to take a sad day and turn it into a happy one. My mom’s family flipped out - specifically my aunt. They caused so much drama but in the end, it was me and my husbands decision and I’m glad we made it
I mean they aren’t wrong to “flipped out”. You’re not wrong either but just insensitive.
Sorry, but it’s a bit morbid. It’s Ok to have a sad day of the year. You can’t just make it a amazingly good day just cause you got married on that day. That’s weird to me. I have an opinion, my mom has passed as well.
Gramma threatened to hurt her baby? Thank you Dr. John, for the wise words. Nope. Never let your daughter be alone with her. Ever... Live your best life sweet little family -- without Gramma.
The description of the grandmother ( or great grandmother) describes 90 % of all mother-in-laws. When you as a couple name your child it is no other person's business what you name it. Not in-laws, not siblings, no one. Threatening to cut off a relationship is manipulation and control, not love. I would tell the sister and whoever else needs to hear it - 'My husband and I have named our child. The name is staying. If you don't like the name you don't have to. You threatening me over this means you're dangerous and I will not permit dangerous people around my child.'
My middle name is Georgia. I was named after Saint George a Christian warrior & martyr. I’m proud. My first name unfortunately is not special🤷♀️
Oh, girl. Sure it is. My cousin’s name is Penny, but it’s short for Penina. Penina means Pearl.
It's the mom fault for not sitting down with her daughters and telling them her past.
Also the mom should be able to separate two people with the same name.
The mom sounds toxic! 😬
This is probably not mom's first rodeo. If she is demanding you change the baby's name, it is probably not the first demand she has made.
I think she should be happy Mother and sister don't want to be involved. The trash took itself out. Focus on the people in your life who do care about you.
Wow, I am surprised that you turned out as well as you did. If your mom said those things esp about a NEWBORN BABY???? I can only imagine the hells you probably went through as a child...
One of the few individuals that manages to use a paragraph to explain that he is speechless.
She should never have named the baby Cruella. De Ville family politics are nasty.
🤣🤣🤣
Who else wants to see a baby called Truck Driving Binoculars? 🤣
Been down this road with mother-in-law my very experienced advice would be to stay away from this person keep your kids away from this person. And also watch out for sister and any other siblings being alone with your child. Because they can be manipulated very easily into taking your child to see the grandmother. Putting your child in great danger.
I named my child after my grandma ( my moms mom) and she was a handful of a lady, my dad couldn't stand her and he threatened to give her a nickname which I vetoed, and he fussed about it but never did he ever take it to this level. We didnt budge, he got over it the second he saw her sweet face. This woman sounds awful
I’m so sorry Aubrey. Stay strong 💪🏻
I'm surprised John did not point out that the callers mother was showing similar signs to the grandmother that she despises
You're not the only one who's speechless. Holy cow! I guess some things you just can't make up.
That family got a couple extra doses of crazy
Wonder if the little sister is aware that her Mom said she would hurt the baby?
You can stop within the first minute. If mom even remotely suggested she might harm the child, we're done here, have a nice life mom. You have to cut toxic family out of your life, no matter how hard it is.
It is hard to please every one. We have a few names in our family that causes emotional triggers in other family members. That is what nicknames are for. We all have them, we embrace them and love them. The names are terms of endearment.
How is the mom any different from the ‘horrible person’ that got the same name. She’s doing exactly what her mother did to her.
Parents, remember you may like the name, but think about what the child will have to endure growing up.
I kind of agree with you. I probably would have changed it.
Hopefully, the child will be given the understanding that that’s not the only reason her grandma is not in her life. There are far more issues here than just a name and it is good the woman’s true colors were shown so early on so the child can be protected from such negativity.
@@dianecelento4974 I might’ve changed it, but I still wouldn’t allow the grandmother around her. She’s a raging narcissist.
I changed my baby's name after 5 mts. People flipped... OH WELL! My baby, my choice😝
Cool! What led you to do that?
7:00 Sometimes people just liike to manipulate because it makes them feel in control
Truck drivin binoculars ✔️ Definitely on the short list for baby names now. Hahahahahah
"my mom was evil and controlling so don't have kids out of wedlock, don't get divorced and definitely don't name your child after the women that abused me or I will hurt your child and you by cutting you off forever''
That apple still hasn't fallen, she is her mother
Sounds like the mother is now the one being manipulative. Learn from the past and don't repeat it.
The BABY left JOHN Speechless
Ur kid don't need a grandmother like that...its the best thing u could do for ur kid...they(mom and sister) are toxic and manipulative... let them go... ur sister will come around when she realizes it until then stay away from her too..
If you're Elon Musk and you have a baby with Grimes you're almost obligated to pick an outlandish name. Gotta stay on brand.
I'd be inclined to say if it's keeps the peace and you were asked nicely, then choose a different name....but when it's approached like that threatening the child, I would be like "Stay away, because you don't threaten my child"
That cycle needs to be broken
Family should not be manipulative like that! Just out of curiosity, what was the baby's name? Not that it would matter for the subject, I just thought John would ask lol
apple dosent fall far from the tree....mom & grandma, and poor aubrey
I would tell my mom, "If you would have called me and explained to me calmly what happened with your mom and that name, we would have considered it~ but texting me your *demands* and then turning other family members against us? Nope. Not gonna work lady."
Your mother sounds like a narcissist. 😞
Please cut it off. The fact she said she may HURT your child (which she was probably being honest)....absolutely not. Bye bye!
I would report that threat to my child to police
This seemed crazy but is kind of legit to be honest. 2 weeks is easy to change the name.
This guy must be at the basement at Dave's Ramsey solutions.
It’s their own choice about what they name their daughter.
Did I hear that she named her baby evil, whoa, feel sorry for the kid when it gets older. Mum why?
No she didn’t. She named it the same thing as a grandparent mom didn’t like
Mother sounds like a narc. Caller should read “Healing the Daughter of Narcissistic Mothers”
Yes!! She sounds just like MY mom and she’s a certified Narc. Don’t walk, run! Heck, she threatened a baby, never see her again.
John is like WTAF!??? 🤣🤣🤣
Caller's mom and sister are manipulative and the caller is better off without them.
Dr Laura would say .......
My daughters name is VANESSA ROSE MANKINS
so glad Im single
Sounds like the mother is acting like her mother.
3:00 I dont understand texting I just like to talk to people over the phone
We are ignoring how the broken family has her twice divorced, third time married and raised her sister while her father was in Iraq. So she is not over 40 probably 30-35...
Bigger issues going on here
Hmmm I didn’t catch that 🤨
Sounds like the mom inherited whatever sickness the great grandmother had. She was abusive and so is this woman’s mother.
Grandparents even grannies will have hate for a grandchild I know from experience
I hope they are keeping that bday away from those crazy people
Haaaaaaaaate how john interrupts people right in the begging...
1:00 think that is manking too big of a deal
Run. Immigrate to Australia . It’s your only chance...
Their true colors coming out .